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Lidia Yuknavitch: The beauty of being a misfit
Lidia Yuknavitch: La bellesa de ser un inadaptat
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A aquells que els hi sembla que no pertanyen: hi ha bellesa en ser un inadaptat. L'autora Lidia Yuknavitch comparteix el seu propi viatge rebel en una íntima recol·lecció de històries sobre pèrdues, vergonya i el lent procés d'autoacceptació.
"Fins i tot al moment del teu fracàs, ets bonic," diu ella. " Encara no ho saps, però tens l'abilitat de reinventar-te a tu mateix sense fi. Aquesta és la teva bellesa."
Lidia Yuknavitch - Author
In her acclaimed novels and memoir, author Lidia Yuknavitch navigates the intersection of tragedy and violence to draw new roadmaps for self-discovery. Full bio
In her acclaimed novels and memoir, author Lidia Yuknavitch navigates the intersection of tragedy and violence to draw new roadmaps for self-discovery. Full bio
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00:12
So I know TED is about a lot
of things that are big,
of things that are big,
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Doncs jo sé que TED va sobre moltes coses
que són grans,
que són grans,
00:16
but I want to talk to you
about something very small.
about something very small.
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però vull parlar-vos
d'una cosa molt petita.
d'una cosa molt petita.
00:20
So small, it's a single word.
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Tan petita que és una sola paraula.
00:23
The word is "misfit."
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La paraula és "inadaptat".
00:25
It's one of my favorite words,
because it's so literal.
because it's so literal.
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És una de les meves paraules preferides,
perquè és literal.
perquè és literal.
00:29
I mean, it's a person
who sort of missed fitting in.
who sort of missed fitting in.
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És a dir, és una persona
que no s'ha pogut adaptar.
que no s'ha pogut adaptar.
00:33
Or a person who fits in badly.
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O una persona que s'adapta malament.
00:36
Or this: "a person who is poorly adapted
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O això: "una persona s'adapta malament
00:39
to new situations and environments."
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a noves situacions o entorns."
00:43
I'm a card-carrying misfit.
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Jo em sento identificada com a inadaptada.
00:46
And I'm here for the other
misfits in the room,
misfits in the room,
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I estic aquí
per altres inadaptats a la sala,
per altres inadaptats a la sala,
00:49
because I'm never the only one.
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perquè no en sóc l'única.
00:51
I'm going to tell you a misfit story.
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Us explicaré una història d'inadaptació
00:55
Somewhere in my early 30s,
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En algun moment dels meus 30 anys,
00:57
the dream of becoming a writer
came right to my doorstep.
came right to my doorstep.
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el somni d'esdevenir escriptora
va picar a la meva porta.
va picar a la meva porta.
01:02
Actually, it came to my mailbox
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De fet, va arribar a la bústia
01:03
in the form of a letter that said
I'd won a giant literary prize
I'd won a giant literary prize
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en forma de carta que deia
que havia guanyat un gran premi literari
que havia guanyat un gran premi literari
01:07
for a short story I had written.
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per una història curta que havia escrit.
01:10
The short story was about my life
as a competitive swimmer
as a competitive swimmer
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La història curta era sobre la meva vida
com a nadadora competitiva
com a nadadora competitiva
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and about my crappy home life,
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i sobre la meva vida familiar dolenta,
01:17
and a little bit about how grief
and loss can make you insane.
and loss can make you insane.
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i una mica sobre com la pena
i la pèrdua et poden tornar boig.
i la pèrdua et poden tornar boig.
01:23
The prize was a trip to New York City
to meet big-time editors and agents
to meet big-time editors and agents
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El premi era un viatge a Nova York per
conèixer editors i representants de renom
conèixer editors i representants de renom
01:28
and other authors.
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i altres autors.
01:30
So kind of it was the wannabe
writer's dream, right?
writer's dream, right?
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El somni de tot aspirant
a escriptor, no?
a escriptor, no?
01:34
You know what I did the day
the letter came to my house?
the letter came to my house?
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Sabeu què vaig fer el dia
que va arribar la carta a casa?
que va arribar la carta a casa?
01:38
Because I'm me,
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Com que sóc jo,
01:39
I put the letter on my kitchen table,
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vaig posar la carta a la taula
de la cuina,
de la cuina,
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I poured myself a giant glass of vodka
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em vaig posar un got de vodka
01:45
with ice and lime,
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amb gel i llima,
01:48
and I sat there in my underwear
for an entire day,
for an entire day,
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i vaig seure allà en roba interior
durant tot un dia sencer,
durant tot un dia sencer,
01:52
just staring at the letter.
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mirant fixament a la carta.
01:56
I was thinking about all the ways
I'd already screwed my life up.
I'd already screwed my life up.
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Pensant sobre totes les maneres
en què ja havia fastiguejat la meva vida.
en què ja havia fastiguejat la meva vida.
01:59
Who the hell was I to go to New York City
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Qui dimonis era jo per anar a Nova York
02:02
and pretend to be a writer?
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i fer veure que era una escriptora?
02:05
Who was I?
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Qui era jo?
02:07
I'll tell you.
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Us ho explicaré.
02:08
I was a misfit.
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Era una inadaptada.
02:10
Like legions of other children,
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Com molts altres nens,
02:13
I came from an abusive household
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venia d'una familia abusiva
02:16
that I narrowly escaped with my life.
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i per poc vaig acabar amb la meva vida.
02:19
I already had two epically
failed marriages underneath my belt.
failed marriages underneath my belt.
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Ja m'havia casat dues vegades
sense èxit.
sense èxit.
02:24
I'd flunked out of college
not once but twice
not once but twice
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Vaig sortir de l'univeristat sense títol
no un cop, sinó dos
no un cop, sinó dos
02:27
and maybe even a third time
that I'm not going to tell you about.
that I'm not going to tell you about.
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i potser fins i tot un tercer cop
que no us explicaré.
que no us explicaré.
02:30
(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
02:32
And I'd done an episode
of rehab for drug use.
of rehab for drug use.
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I havia fet rehabilitació per
consum de drogues.
consum de drogues.
02:36
And I'd had two lovely
staycations in jail.
staycations in jail.
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i havia tingut dues maravelloses
vancances a la presó.
vancances a la presó.
02:42
So I'm on the right stage.
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Vaig per bon camí.
02:45
(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
02:48
But the real reason,
I think, I was a misfit,
I think, I was a misfit,
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Però la veritable raó,
crec, per la qual era una inadaptada
crec, per la qual era una inadaptada
02:52
is that my daughter died
the day she was born,
the day she was born,
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era que la meva filla va morir
el dia que va néixer,
el dia que va néixer,
02:55
and I hadn't figured out
how to live with that story yet.
how to live with that story yet.
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i encara no havia entès
com viure amb aquesta història.
com viure amb aquesta història.
03:00
After my daughter died
I also spent a long time homeless,
I also spent a long time homeless,
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Després que la meva filla morís,
durant molt de temps no tenia casa
durant molt de temps no tenia casa
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living under an overpass
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i vivia sota un pont
03:07
in a kind of profound state
of zombie grief and loss
of zombie grief and loss
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en una mena d'estat zombi
de pena i pèrdua
de pena i pèrdua
03:11
that some of us encounter along the way.
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que alguns de nosaltres ens hem trobat
pel camí.
pel camí.
03:14
Maybe all of us, if you live long enough.
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Potser tots nosaltres, si vivim
suficients anys.
suficients anys.
03:18
You know, homeless people
are some of our most heroic misfits,
are some of our most heroic misfits,
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Ja sabeu, els pobres són uns dels
nostres inadaptats més heroics,
nostres inadaptats més heroics,
03:22
because they start out as us.
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perquè comencen com nosaltres.
03:26
So you see, I'd missed fitting in
to just about every category out there:
to just about every category out there:
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Doncs com veieu, no m'adaptava
a cap categoria d'aquestes:
a cap categoria d'aquestes:
03:32
daughter, wife, mother, scholar.
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filla, esposa, mare, alumna.
03:37
And the dream of being a writer
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I el somni de ser escriptora
03:39
was really kind of like a small,
sad stone in my throat.
sad stone in my throat.
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era com una pedra petita
i trista al meu coll.
i trista al meu coll.
03:46
It was pretty much in spite of myself
that I got on that plane
that I got on that plane
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Era per culpa meva
el fet de que pujés a l'avió
el fet de que pujés a l'avió
03:50
and flew to New York City,
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i volés cap a Nova York,
03:52
where the writers are.
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on estan els escriptors.
03:55
Fellow misfits, I can almost
see your heads glowing.
see your heads glowing.
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Amics inadaptats, quasi puc veure
els vostres caps il·luminant-se.
els vostres caps il·luminant-se.
03:58
I can pick you out of a room.
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Us puc identificar en una sala.
04:00
At first, you would've loved it.
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Al principi, us hagués agradat.
04:03
You got to choose the three
famous writers you wanted to meet,
famous writers you wanted to meet,
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Pots escollir tres escriptor famosos
que us agradaria conèixer,
que us agradaria conèixer,
04:06
and these guys went
and found them for you.
and found them for you.
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i aquests nois hi van
i els troben per a tu.
i els troben per a tu.
04:08
You got set up at the Gramercy Park Hotel,
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T'instal·les a l'hotel Gramercy Park,
04:11
where you got to drink Scotch
late in the night
late in the night
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on beus whisky
tard, a la nit.
tard, a la nit.
04:14
with cool, smart, swank people.
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amb gent guai, llesta i presumida.
04:16
And you got to pretend you were cool
and smart and swank, too.
and smart and swank, too.
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I fas veure també que ets guai
i llest i presumit.
i llest i presumit.
04:21
And you got to meet a bunch
of editors and authors and agents
of editors and authors and agents
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I conèixes un grup d'editors
i autors i representants
i autors i representants
04:24
at very, very fancy lunches and dinners.
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a dinars i sopars molt, molt sofisticats.
04:29
Ask me how fancy.
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Demaneu-me com són
de sofisticats.
de sofisticats.
04:31
Audience: How fancy?
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Audiència: com, de sofisticats?
04:34
Lidia Yuknavitch: I'm making a confession:
I stole three linen napkins --
I stole three linen napkins --
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Lidia Yuknavitch: confessaré que
vaig robar tres tovallons...
vaig robar tres tovallons...
04:38
(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
04:40
from three different restaurants.
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de tres restaurants diferents.
04:42
And I shoved a menu down my pants.
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I em vaig ficar un menú als pantalons
04:44
(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
04:46
I just wanted some keepsakes
so that when I got home,
so that when I got home,
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Només volia alguns records
perquè quan tornés a casa
perquè quan tornés a casa
04:50
I could believe it had really
happened to me.
happened to me.
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pogués creure que relament
això m'havia passat.
això m'havia passat.
04:53
You know?
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Sabeu?
04:55
The three writers I wanted to meet
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Tres escriptors que volia conèixer
04:57
were Carole Maso, Lynne Tillman
and Peggy Phelan.
and Peggy Phelan.
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eren Carole Maso, Lynne Tillman
i Peggy Phelan.
i Peggy Phelan.
05:00
These were not famous,
best-selling authors,
best-selling authors,
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Aquests no eren famosos,
autors exitosos,
autors exitosos,
05:03
but to me, they were women-writer titans.
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però per a mi, eren heroïnes.
05:07
Carole Maso wrote the book
that later became my art bible.
that later became my art bible.
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Carole Maso va escriure el llibre
que més tard va ser la meva Bíblia d'art.
que més tard va ser la meva Bíblia d'art.
05:12
Lynne Tillman gave me
permission to believe
permission to believe
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Lynne Tillman va donar-me
permís per creure
permís per creure
05:14
that there was a chance
my stories could be part of the world.
my stories could be part of the world.
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que era possible que
les meves històries fóssin part del món.
les meves històries fóssin part del món.
05:18
And Peggy Phelan reminded me
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I Peggy Phelan em va recordar
05:20
that maybe my brains
could be more important than my boobs.
could be more important than my boobs.
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que el meu cervell
podia ser més important que els meus pits.
podia ser més important que els meus pits.
05:27
They weren't mainstream women writers,
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No eren escriptores convencionals,
05:30
but they were cutting a path
through the mainstream
through the mainstream
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però s'estaven fent camí
al món
al món
05:34
with their body stories,
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amb les seves històries.
05:36
I like to think, kind of the way
water cut the Grand Canyon.
water cut the Grand Canyon.
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M'agrada pensar, d'una manera similar a
la de l'aigua quan passa pel Gran Canyó.
la de l'aigua quan passa pel Gran Canyó.
05:41
It nearly killed me with joy
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Quasi em mata d'alegria
05:43
to hang out with these three
over-50-year-old women writers.
over-50-year-old women writers.
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passar l'estona amb aquestes 3
escriptores de més de 50 anys.
escriptores de més de 50 anys.
05:46
And the reason it nearly
killed me with joy
killed me with joy
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I la raó per la qual quasi
em mata d'alegria
em mata d'alegria
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is that I'd never known a joy like that.
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és que mai havia sentit
una alegria així.
una alegria així.
05:52
I'd never been in a room like that.
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Mai havia estat en una habitació
així
així
05:54
My mother never went to college.
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la mare mai va anar a l'universitat,
05:56
And my creative career to that point
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la meva carrera creativa en aquell moment
05:59
was a sort of small, sad, stillborn thing.
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era una cosa
petita, trista, morta.
petita, trista, morta.
06:05
So kind of in those first nights
in New York I wanted to die there.
in New York I wanted to die there.
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Aquelles primeres nits
a Nova York volia morir allà.
a Nova York volia morir allà.
06:08
I was just like, "Kill me now.
I'm good. This is beautiful."
I'm good. This is beautiful."
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I pensava: "Ja puc morir.
Sóc bona. Això és bonic."
Sóc bona. Això és bonic."
06:13
Some of you in the room
will understand what happened next.
will understand what happened next.
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Alguns de vosaltres a la sala
entendreu el que va passar després.
entendreu el que va passar després.
06:16
First, they took me to the offices
of Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
of Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
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Primer, em van portar a les oficines
de Farrar, Straus i Giroux.
de Farrar, Straus i Giroux.
06:21
Farrar, Straus and Giroux
was like my mega-dream press.
was like my mega-dream press.
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Farrar, Struaus i Giroux
era el meu somni a la premsa.
era el meu somni a la premsa.
06:25
I mean, T.S. Eliot and Flannery O'Connor
were published there.
were published there.
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Vull dir, T.S Eliot i Flannery O'Connor
estaven publicats allà.
estaven publicats allà.
06:29
The main editor guy sat me down
and talked to me for a long time,
and talked to me for a long time,
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L'editor principal em va fer seure
i vam parlar durant una llarga estona
i vam parlar durant una llarga estona
06:33
trying to convince me I had a book in me
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intentant convèncer-me que tenia un
llibre a dins
llibre a dins
06:36
about my life as a swimmer.
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sobre la meva vida com a nadadora.
06:38
You know, like a memoir.
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Una autobiografia.
06:40
The whole time he was talking to me,
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Tot l'estona que va estar parlant amb mi,
06:42
I sat there smiling and nodding
like a numb idiot,
like a numb idiot,
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estava asseguda somrient i assentint
com una idiota adormida,
com una idiota adormida,
06:47
with my arms crossed over my chest,
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creuada de braços,
06:49
while nothing, nothing, nothing
came out of my throat.
came out of my throat.
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mentre res, res de res
sortia del meu coll.
sortia del meu coll.
06:55
So in the end, he patted me
on the shoulder
on the shoulder
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I al final, em va donar un copet
a l'espatlla
a l'espatlla
06:59
like a swim coach might.
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com un entrenador de natació.
07:01
And he wished me luck
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I em va desitjar sort
07:03
and he gave me some free books
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i em va donar alguns llibres gratuïts
07:05
and he showed me out the door.
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i em va portar fins a fora la porta.
07:09
Next, they took me
to the offices of W.W. Norton,
to the offices of W.W. Norton,
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Després, em van portar
cap a les oficines de W.W. Norton,
cap a les oficines de W.W. Norton,
07:12
where I was pretty sure
I'd be escorted from the building
I'd be escorted from the building
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on estava bastant segura
que m'escortarien de l'edifici
que m'escortarien de l'edifici
07:15
just for wearing Doc Martens.
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només per portar posat Doc Martens.
07:18
But that didn't happen.
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Però això no va passar.
07:20
Being at the Norton offices
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Estar a les oficines Norton
07:22
felt like reaching up into the night sky
and touching the moon
and touching the moon
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va ser com arribar dalt del cel de nit
i tocar la lluna
i tocar la lluna
07:27
while the stars stitched your name
across the cosmos.
across the cosmos.
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mentres estrelles cosint el teu nom
al llarg del cosmos.
al llarg del cosmos.
07:31
I mean, that's how big
a deal it was to me.
a deal it was to me.
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Vull dir, això és com de gran
va ser per mi.
va ser per mi.
07:33
You get it?
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Ho enteneu?
07:35
Their lead editor, Carol Houck Smith,
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El seva principal editora, Carol Houck Smith,
07:38
leaned over right in my face
with these beady, bright, fierce eyes
with these beady, bright, fierce eyes
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es va apropar a la meva cara
amb aquells ulls petits, brillants i ferotges
amb aquells ulls petits, brillants i ferotges
07:42
and said, "Well, send me
something then, immediately!"
something then, immediately!"
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i em va dir, "Envia'm algo doncs,
immediatament!"
immediatament!"
07:46
See, now most people,
especially TED people,
especially TED people,
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Veieu, ara la majoria de persones,
especialment de TED,
especialment de TED,
07:48
would have run to the mailbox, right?
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haurien corregut cap a la bústia, veritat?
07:51
It took me over a decade to even imagine
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Vaig trigar una dècada a imaginar-me
07:54
putting something in an envelope
and licking a stamp.
and licking a stamp.
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posar algo en un sobre
i enganxar-hi un segell.
i enganxar-hi un segell.
08:00
On the last night,
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A l'última nit,
08:02
I gave a big reading
at the National Poetry Club.
at the National Poetry Club.
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Vaig fer una gran lectura
al Club Nacional de Poesia.
al Club Nacional de Poesia.
08:06
And at the end of the reading,
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I al final de la lectura,
08:08
Katharine Kidde of Kidde,
Hoyt & Picard Literary Agency,
Hoyt & Picard Literary Agency,
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Katharine Kidde of Kidde,
Hoyt & Picard Literary Agency,
Hoyt & Picard Literary Agency,
08:12
walked straight up to me and shook my hand
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va caminar de dret cap a mi i em va donar
la mà
la mà
08:15
and offered me representation,
like, on the spot.
like, on the spot.
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i em va oferir representació
al lloc.
al lloc.
08:20
I stood there and I kind of went deaf.
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em vaig estar dreta i em vaig tornar
com sorda.
com sorda.
08:23
Has this ever happened to you?
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Us ha passat mai això?
08:25
And I almost started crying
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I quasi vaig començar a plorar
08:27
because all the people in the room
were dressed so beautifully,
were dressed so beautifully,
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perquè totes les persones a la sala
anaven vestides tant bellament,
anaven vestides tant bellament,
08:31
and all that came out of my mouth was:
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i tot el que va sortir de la meva boca va ser:
08:34
"I don't know. I have to think about it."
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"No ho sé, m'ho he de pensar."
08:38
And she said, "OK, then," and walked away.
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I ella va dir, "D'acord, doncs," i va marxar.
08:44
All those open hands out to me,
that small, sad stone in my throat ...
that small, sad stone in my throat ...
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Totes aquelles mans obertes cap a mi,
aquella petita i trista pedra al meu coll...
aquella petita i trista pedra al meu coll...
08:51
You see, I'm trying to tell you something
about people like me.
about people like me.
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Veieu, estic intentant explicar-vos una
cosa sobre gent com jo.
cosa sobre gent com jo.
08:55
Misfit people -- we don't always know
how to hope or say yes
how to hope or say yes
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Gent inadaptada -- no sempre sabem com
tenir esperança o dir que sí
tenir esperança o dir que sí
08:59
or choose the big thing,
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o triar la cosa gran,
09:01
even when it's right in front of us.
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fins i tot quan està just davant nostre.
09:03
It's a shame we carry.
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És una pena que portem.
09:04
It's the shame of wanting something good.
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És la pena de voler alguna cosa bona.
09:06
It's the shame of feeling something good.
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És la pena de sentir algo bo.
09:08
It's the shame of not really believing
we deserve to be in the room
we deserve to be in the room
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És la pena de no creure ben bé
que mereixem estar a la sala
que mereixem estar a la sala
09:13
with the people we admire.
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amb la gent que admirem
09:16
If I could, I'd go back
and I'd coach myself.
and I'd coach myself.
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Si pogués, tornaria enrere
i m'entrenaria.
i m'entrenaria.
09:19
I'd be exactly like those
over-50-year-old women who helped me.
over-50-year-old women who helped me.
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Seria exactament com aquelles
done de més de 50 anys que em van ajudar.
done de més de 50 anys que em van ajudar.
09:23
I'd teach myself how to want things,
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M'ensenyaria com voler les coses,
09:25
how to stand up, how to ask for them.
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com aixercar-me, com demanar-les.
09:28
I'd say, "You! Yeah, you!
You belong in the room, too."
You belong in the room, too."
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Diria, "Tu! Sí, tu!
Pertanys a la sala, també."
Pertanys a la sala, també."
09:32
The radiance falls on all of us,
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La pinta radiant cau en tots nosaltres,
09:34
and we are nothing without each other.
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i no som res l'un sense l'atre.
09:39
Instead, I flew back to Oregon,
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En el seu lloc, vaig tornar cap a Oregon,
09:42
and as I watched the evergreens
and rain come back into view,
and rain come back into view,
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i mentre mirava les fulles perennes
i la pluja tornava a la vista,
i la pluja tornava a la vista,
09:48
I just drank many tiny bottles
of airplane "feel sorry for yourself."
of airplane "feel sorry for yourself."
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Vaig beure'm tantes ampolles petites
que deiem "senteix llàstima per tu mateix"
que deiem "senteix llàstima per tu mateix"
09:53
I thought about how, if I was a writer,
I was some kind of misfit writer.
I was some kind of misfit writer.
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Pensava sobre com, si fós una escriptora,
era com una mena d'escriptora inadaptada.
era com una mena d'escriptora inadaptada.
09:59
What I'm saying is,
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El que estic dient és,
10:00
I flew back to Oregon without a book deal,
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vaig tornar a Oregon sense un
repartiment de llibre,
repartiment de llibre,
10:02
without an agent,
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sense representant,
10:03
and with only a headful
and heart-ful of memories
and heart-ful of memories
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i només anb un cap i un cor ple de records
10:06
of having sat so near
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d'aver d'assentar-me tan aprop
10:09
the beautiful writers.
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dels escriptors bonics.
10:12
Memory was the only prize
I allowed myself.
I allowed myself.
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La memòria va ser l'únic premi
que em vaig permetre.
que em vaig permetre.
10:17
And yet, at home in the dark,
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I encara, a casa a les foques,
10:21
back in my underwear,
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amb roba interior,
10:23
I could still hear their voices.
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encara podiar escoltar les seves veus.
10:26
They said, "Don't listen to anyone
who tries to get you to shut up
who tries to get you to shut up
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Deien, "No escoltis a ningú que intenti
fer-te callar
fer-te callar
10:30
or change your story."
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o canviar la teva història."
10:32
They said, "Give voice to the story
only you know how to tell."
only you know how to tell."
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Deien, "Dóna veu a la història
que només tu saps explicar."
que només tu saps explicar."
10:36
They said, "Sometimes telling the story
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Deien, "A vegades explicar la història
10:39
is the thing that saves your life."
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és el que et salva la vida."
10:43
Now I am, as you can see,
the woman over 50.
the woman over 50.
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Ara sóc, com podeu veure,
la dona de més de 50 anys.
la dona de més de 50 anys.
10:48
And I'm a writer.
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I sóc escriptora.
10:50
And I'm a mother.
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Sóc mare.
10:52
And I became a teacher.
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I em vaig convertir en mestra.
10:54
Guess who my favorite students are.
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Endevineu qui són els meus alumnes preferits.
10:58
Although it didn't happen the day
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Tot i que no va passar el dia
11:00
that dream letter came through my mailbox,
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que la somiada carta va arribar a la bústia,
11:02
I did write a memoir,
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sí que vaig escriure una memòria,
11:04
called "The Chronology of Water."
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anomenada "La cronologia de l'aigua."
11:06
In it are the stories of how many times
I've had to reinvent a self
I've had to reinvent a self
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A dins hi ha les històries sobre quantes
vegades m'he hagut de reinventar
vegades m'he hagut de reinventar
11:11
from the ruins of my choices,
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des de les runes de les meves eleccions,
11:14
the stories of how my seeming failures
were really just weird-ass portals
were really just weird-ass portals
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les històries sobre com els meus fracassos
eren només portals extranys
eren només portals extranys
11:20
to something beautiful.
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fins algo bonic.
11:22
All I had to do
was give voice to the story.
was give voice to the story.
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Tot el que vaig haver de fer
va ser donar veu a la història.
va ser donar veu a la història.
11:27
There's a myth in most cultures
about following your dreams.
about following your dreams.
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Hi ha un mite a la majoria de cultures
sobre perseguir el teus somnis.
sobre perseguir el teus somnis.
11:32
It's called the hero's journey.
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S'anomena el camí d'un heroi.
11:35
But I prefer a different myth,
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Però prefereixo un mite diferent,
11:37
that's slightly to the side of that
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que és lleugerament cap a la banda,
11:39
or underneath it.
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o per sota d'això.
11:41
It's called the misfit's myth.
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És el mite dels inadaptats.
11:43
And it goes like this:
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I diu així:
11:45
even at the moment of your failure,
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fins i tot al moment del teu fracàs,
11:47
right then, you are beautiful.
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ets bonic.
11:51
You don't know it yet,
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Encara no saps,
11:52
but you have the ability
to reinvent yourself
to reinvent yourself
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però tens l'abilitat de
reinventar-te
reinventar-te
11:55
endlessly.
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sense fi.
11:57
That's your beauty.
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Aquesta és la teva bellesa.
11:59
You can be a drunk,
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Pots ser un borratxo,
12:01
you can be a survivor of abuse,
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supervivent d'abús,
12:03
you can be an ex-con,
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un ex convicte,
12:05
you can be a homeless person,
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un rodamón,
12:06
you can lose all your money
or your job or your husband
or your job or your husband
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pots perdre tot els teus diners
o la teva feina o el teu home
o la teva feina o el teu home
12:09
or your wife, or the worst thing of all,
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o la teva dona, però el pitjor de tot,
12:12
a child.
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un fill.
12:13
You can even lose your marbles.
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Pots perdre fins i tot els teus marbres.
12:15
You can be standing dead center
in the middle of your failure
in the middle of your failure
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Pots estar dreta en un centre mort
al mig del teu fracàs
al mig del teu fracàs
12:20
and still, I'm only here to tell you,
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i encara, jo seré l'única allà per dir-te
12:22
you are so beautiful.
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que ets tant bonic.
12:25
Your story deserves to be heard,
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La teva història es mereix ser escoltada,
12:27
because you, you rare
and phenomenal misfit,
and phenomenal misfit,
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perquè tu, tu extrany
i fenomenal inadaptat,
i fenomenal inadaptat,
12:31
you new species,
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tu nova espècie,
12:34
are the only one in the room
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ets l'únic a la sala
12:36
who can tell the story
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que pot explicar la història
12:38
the way only you would.
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de l'única manera que tu ho faries.
12:41
And I'd be listening.
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I jo estaré escoltant.
12:44
Thank you.
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Gràcies.
12:46
(Applause)
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(Aplaudiments)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Lidia Yuknavitch - AuthorIn her acclaimed novels and memoir, author Lidia Yuknavitch navigates the intersection of tragedy and violence to draw new roadmaps for self-discovery.
Why you should listen
Writer Lidia Yuknavitch discovered her calling after an interrupted journey as a would-be Olympic swimmer. Her prose erases the boundaries between memoir and fiction, explodes gender binaries and focuses on the visceral minutiae of the body.
She was inspired by Ken Kesey (with whom she collaborated on a collective novel project at Oregon University); her latest book, The Small Backs of Children, stands as a fictional counterpoint to her memoir The Chronology of Water, which has garnered her a cult following for its honesty and intensity.
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