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Sally Kohn - Political pundit
Sally Kohn searches for common ground among political foes by focusing on the compassion and humanity in everyone.

Why you should listen

Sally Kohn has a powerful vision for a more united United States. She's a columnist and a political commentator for CNN, and she is working on a book about hate that will be published in the spring of 2018. As a former contributor to Fox News, this progressive lesbian sparred with some of the most conservative minds on television and has sifted through hundreds of letters of hate mail a day. But she deeply believes in finding our common humanity, political differences aside. Before we can achieve political correctness, we must first establish emotional correctness — and this will ignite conversations that lead to real change.

Kohn has appeared on Fox, MSNBC and CNN and has written for The Daily Beast, Salon, The Atlantic and TIME Magazine.

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Sally Kohn: Let’s try emotional correctness

Sally Kohn: Pokušajmo biti emocionalno korektni

Filmed: 2013-10-14

Readability: 3.5

2,012,109 views

Vrijeme je da se liberali i konzervativci izdignu iznad svojih političkih razlika i stvarno poslušaju jedni druge, kaže politički učenjak, Sally Kohn. U ovom optimističnom govoru, Kohn dijeli ono što je naučila kao lezbijka - voditeljica na kanalu FOX News. Ne radi se o političkoj korektnosti, već o emocionalnoj korektnosti.

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So when I do my jobposao, people hatemrziti me.

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Kad obavljam svoj posao, ljudi me mrze.

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In factčinjenica, the better I do my jobposao,

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Zapravo, što bolje obavljam svoj posao,

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the more people hatemrziti me.

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ljudi me više mrze.

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And no, I'm not a metermetar maidsvakodnevna,

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Ali ne, ne radim na parkiralištu,

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and I'm not an undertakerpogrebnik.

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niti pokapam ljude.

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I am a progressiveprogresivan lesbianlezbijka talkingkoji govori headglava

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Ja sam progresivna lezbijka koja izvještava

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on FoxLisica NewsVijesti. (ApplausePljesak)

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na televiziji Fox News. (Pljesak)

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So y'allSvi heardčuo that, right? Just to make sure, right?

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Svi ste to čuli, zar ne?
Samo da ponovim, može?

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I am a gayhomoseksualac talkingkoji govori headglava on FoxLisica NewsVijesti.

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Ja sam gay voditeljica na Fox News-u.

00:36

I am going to tell you how I do it

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Ispričat ću vam kako radim taj posao

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and the mostnajviše importantvažno thing I've learnednaučeno.

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i najvažniju stvar koju sam pritom naučila.

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So I go on televisiontelevizija.

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Tako vam ja stanem pred kamere.

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I debatedebata people who literallydoslovce want to obliterateuništiti

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Prepirem se s ljudima
koji doslovno žele uništiti

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everything I believe in, in some casesslučajevi,

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sve u što vjerujem, u nekim slučajevima

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who don't want me and people like me to even existpostojati.

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s onima koji ne žele da ja
i ljudi poput mene uopće postoje.

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It's sortvrsta of like ThanksgivingDan zahvalnosti
with your conservativekonzervativan uncleujak

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To je poput Dana zahvalnosti
sa vašim konzervativnim ujakom

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on steroidssteroidi,

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na steroidima,

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with a liveživjeti televisiontelevizija audiencepublika of millionsmilijuni.

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sa publikom koja se broji u milijunima.

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It's totallypotpuno almostskoro just like that.

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Totalno je skoro tako.

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And that's just on airzrak.

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A to je samo uživo.

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The hatemrziti mailpošta I get is unbelievablenevjerojatan.

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Ne biste vjerovali koliko
pisama mržnje mi pristižu.

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Last weektjedan alonesam, I got 238 pieceskomada of nastygadan emaile

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Samo prošlog tjedna mi je
pristiglo 238 gadnih mailova

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and more hatemrziti tweetsTweets than I can even countračunati.

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a broj tweetova se ne bi dao prebrojati.

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I was calledzvao an idiotidiot, a traitorizdajnik, a scourgepošast,

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Nazvali su me idiotom, izdajicom, kaznom,

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a cuntpička, and an uglyružan man,

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kujom i ružnim muškarcem,

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and that was just in one emaile.

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i to sve samo u jednom e-mailu.

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(LaughterSmijeh)

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(Smijeh)

01:24

So what have I realizedshvatio,

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No do kojeg sam zaključka došla

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beingbiće on the receivingprimanje endkraj of all this uglinessružnoća?

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bivajući izložena svoj toj neljubaznosti?

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Well, my biggestnajveći takeawaytakeaway is that for decadesdesetljeća,

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Pa, moj najveći zaključak
je da se već desetljećima

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we'veimamo been focusedusmjerena on politicalpolitički correctnessispravnost,

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fokusiramo na političku korektnost,

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but what matterspitanja more is emotionalemotivan correctnessispravnost.

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ali ono što je važnije je emocionalna korektnost.

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Let me give you a smallmali exampleprimjer.

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Dat ću vam jedan primjer.

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I don't carebriga if you call me a dykelezba. I really don't.

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Nije me briga zove te li me
lezbom (dyke), zaista nije.

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I carebriga about two things.

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Ono do čega mi je stalo su dvije stvari.

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One, I carebriga that you spellčarolija it right.

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Prvo, da to znate ispravno napisati.

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(LaughterSmijeh) (ApplausePljesak)

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(Smijeh) (Pljesak)

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Just quickbrz refresherPijanka, it's D-Y-K-ED-Y-K-E.

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Brzi podsjetnik, piše se D-Y-K-E.

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You'dDa bi totallypotpuno be surprisediznenađen.

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Ne biste vjerovali.

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And seconddrugi, I don't carebriga about the wordriječ,

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I druga stvar, nije me briga za tu riječ,

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I carebriga about how you use it.

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važno mi je na koji način
je upotrebljavate.

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Are you beingbiće friendlyprijateljski? Are you just beingbiće naivenaivan?

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Jeste li ljubazni? Ili ste samo naivni?

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Or do you really want to hurtpovrijediti me personallylično?

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Ili me zaista želite povrijediti
na osobnoj razini?

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EmotionalEmocionalne correctnessispravnost is the toneton, the feelingosjećaj,

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Emocionalna korektnost jest ton, osjećaj,

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how we say what we say,

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način na koji se izražavamo,

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the respectpoštovanje and compassionsamilost we showpokazati one anotherjoš.

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poštovanje i suosjećanje
jedan prema drugome.

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And what I've realizedshvatio is that politicalpolitički persuasionnagovaranje

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A ono što sam shvatila jest
da politička uvjerljivost

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doesn't beginpočeti with ideasideje or factsčinjenicama or datapodaci.

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ne počinje s idejama ili
činjenicama ili podatcima.

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PoliticalPolitičke persuasionnagovaranje beginspočinje with
beingbiće emotionallyemotivno correctispravan.

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Politička uvjerljivost počinje
s emocionalnom koreknosti.

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So when I first wentotišao to go work at FoxLisica NewsVijesti,

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Tako da kad sam prvi put
došla raditi za televiziju Fox News,

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truepravi confessionispovijest,

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ovo je potpuno istinito,

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I expectedočekuje se there to be marksoznake in the carpettepih

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očekivala sam da će tamo
biti tragovi na tepihu

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from all the knuckle-draggingsvakogglupog.

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od povlačenja ruku po podu.

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That, by the way, in casespis you're payingplaćati attentionpažnja,
is not emotionallyemotivno correctispravan.

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U slučaju da niste pozorno pratili,
to nije emocionalna korektnost.

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But liberalsliberali on my sidestrana,

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Ali liberali na mojoj strani, poslušajte,

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we can be self-righteouspravedna,
we can be condescendingsnishodljiv,

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mi znamo biti pravednici,
znamo gledati ljude s visoka,

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we can be dismissiveodbacuje of anyonebilo tko
who doesn't agreesložiti with us.

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znamo biti odrješiti prema svakome
tko se ne slaže s nama.

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In other wordsriječi, we can be politicallypolitičko right

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Drugim riječima,
politički možemo biti u pravu,

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but emotionallyemotivno wrongpogrešno.

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no emocionalno u krivu.

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And incidentallyslučajno, that meanssredstva that

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I posljedično, to znači da

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people don't like us. Right?

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nas ljudi ne vole. Zar ne?

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Now here'sevo the kickerKicker.

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E ovdje je sad iznenađenje.

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ConservativesKonzervativci are really nicelijepo.

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Konzervativci su zaista dragi.

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I mean, not all of them,

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Mislim, ne svi,

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and not the onesone who sendposlati me hatemrziti mailpošta,

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i ne oni koji mi šalju ružne mailove,

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but you would be surprisediznenađen.

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ali ostali biste iznenađeni.

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SeanSean HannityHannity is one of the sweetestnajslađi guys

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Sean Hannity je jedan
od najsimpatičnijih momaka

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I've ever metsastali.

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kojeg sam ikada upoznala.

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He spendstroši his freebesplatno time

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On u svoje slobodno vrijeme

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tryingtežak to fixpopraviti up his staffosoblje on blindslijep datesdatume.,

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pokusava dogovoriti sudare
na slijepo svojim zaposlenicima,

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and I know that if I ever had a problemproblem,

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i znam da ukoliko bih se
našla u problemima,

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he would do anything he could to help.

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on bi učinio sve što bi
mogao da mi pomogne.

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Now, I think SeanSean HannityHannity is

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Ipak, mislim da je Sean Hannity

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99 percentposto politicallypolitičko wrongpogrešno,

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99 posto politički u krivu,

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but his emotionalemotivan correctnessispravnost
is strikinglyizrazito impressiveimpresivan,

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no njegova emocionalna korektnost je
šokantno zadivljujuća,

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and that's why people listen to him.

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i to je razlog zašto ga ljudi slušaju.

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Because you can't get anyonebilo tko to agreesložiti with you

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Jer ne možete nikog
navesti da se slaže s vama

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if they don't even listen to you first.

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ako vas prvo ne slušaju

03:43

We spendprovesti so much time talkingkoji govori pastprošlost eachsvaki other

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Provodimo toliko mnogo vremena
pričajući jedni pored drugih

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and not enoughdovoljno time talkingkoji govori
throughkroz our disagreementsneslaganja,

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i nedovoljno vremena pričajući
kroz naše nesuglasice,

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and if we can startpočetak to find
compassionsamilost for one anotherjoš,

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i ukoliko uspijemo pronaći
suosjećajnost jedni za druge,

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then we have a shotšut at buildingzgrada commonzajednička groundtlo.

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onda imamo šansu izgraditi zajedničko tlo.

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It actuallyzapravo soundszvukovi really hokeyhokus

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To zapravo zvuči nategnuto,

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to say it standingstajati up here,

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tako reći stojeći ovdje,

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but when you try to put it in practicepraksa,

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ali kada to pokušate sprovesti u djelo,

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it's really powerfulsnažan.

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zaista je moćno.

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So someonenetko who sayskaže they hatemrziti immigrantsimigranata,

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Netko tko kaže da mrzi useljenike,

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I try to imaginezamisliti how scaredprestrašen they mustmora be

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mogu zamisliti kako su uplašeni

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that theirnjihov communityzajednica is changingmijenjanje
from what they'vešto ga do always knownznan.

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kako se njihova zajednica mijenja
od onoga što su uvijek znali.

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Or someonenetko who sayskaže they
don't like teachers'nastavnika unionssindikati,

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Ili netko tko kaže da ne
vole sindikate učitelja,

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I betkladiti se they're really devastatedrazoren to see

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sigurno su razočarani kada vide

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theirnjihov kid'sdječjom schoolškola going into the gutteržlijeb,

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da im djetetova škola propada,

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and they're just looking for someonenetko to blamekrivica.

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i traže nekog koga će okriviti.

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Our challengeizazov is to find the compassionsamilost for othersdrugi

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Naš izazov je naći suosjećanje za druge

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that we want them to have for us.

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koje želimo da osjećaju za nas.

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That is emotionalemotivan correctnessispravnost.

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To je emocionalna korektnost.

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I'm not sayingizreka it's easylako.

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Ne kažem da je to lako.

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An averageprosječan of, like, 5.6 timesputa perpo day

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U prosjeku, pet, šest puta dnevno

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I have to stop myselfsebe from respondingreagirati

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moram se zaustaviti da ne odgovorim

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to all of my hatemrziti mailpošta with a flurrynalet of vilezli profanitiesprofanities.

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na sve te mailove pune
prostota koji mi stižu.

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This wholečitav findingnalaz compassionsamilost

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Cijeli pronalazak suosjećanja

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and commonzajednička groundtlo with your enemiesNeprijatelji thing

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i zajedničkog tla s neprijateljima

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is kindljubazan of like a political-spiritualpolitičko-duhovni practicepraksa for me,

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je političko-duhovna praksa za mene,

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and I ain'tnije the DalaiDalaj LamaLama.

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i nisam Dalai Lama.

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I'm not perfectsavršen, but what I am is optimisticoptimističan,

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Nisam savršena, ali sam otpimistična,

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because I don't just get hatemrziti mailpošta.

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jer ne dobivam samo mailove pune mržnje.

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I get a lot of really nicelijepo lettersslova, lots of them.

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Dobivam puno lijepih pisama, puno njih.

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And one of my all-timesvih vremena favoritesFavoriti beginspočinje,

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I jedno od meni najdražih počinje,

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"I am not a bigvelika fanventilator of your politicalpolitički leaningssklonosti

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"Nisam veliki ljubitelj
tvojih političkih sklonosti

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or your sometimesponekad torturedmučen logiclogika,

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ili ponekad izmučene logike,

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but I'm a bigvelika fanventilator of you as a personosoba."

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ali sam veliki fan tebe kao osobe."

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Now this guy doesn't agreesložiti with me, yetjoš.

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Taj tip se ne slaže samnom, još.

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(LaughterSmijeh)

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(Smijeh)

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But he's listeningslušanje, not because of what I said,

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Ali sluša, ne zbog toga što govorim,

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but because of how I said it,

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već kako to govorim

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and somehownekako, even thoughiako we'veimamo never metsastali,

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i nekako, iako se nikad nismo upoznali,

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we'veimamo managedupravlja to formoblik a connectionveza.

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stvorili smo vezu.

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That's emotionalemotivan correctnessispravnost,

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To je emocionalna korektnost,

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and that's how we startpočetak the conversationsrazgovori

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i tako započinjemo razgovore

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that really leaddovesti to changepromijeniti.

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koji vode prema promjeni.

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Thank you.

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Hvala vam.

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(ApplausePljesak)

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(Pljesak)

Translated by Ivan Stamenkovic
Reviewed by Senzos Osijek

ABOUT THE SPEAKER

Sally Kohn - Political pundit
Sally Kohn searches for common ground among political foes by focusing on the compassion and humanity in everyone.

Why you should listen

Sally Kohn has a powerful vision for a more united United States. She's a columnist and a political commentator for CNN, and she is working on a book about hate that will be published in the spring of 2018. As a former contributor to Fox News, this progressive lesbian sparred with some of the most conservative minds on television and has sifted through hundreds of letters of hate mail a day. But she deeply believes in finding our common humanity, political differences aside. Before we can achieve political correctness, we must first establish emotional correctness — and this will ignite conversations that lead to real change.

Kohn has appeared on Fox, MSNBC and CNN and has written for The Daily Beast, Salon, The Atlantic and TIME Magazine.

More profile about the speaker
Sally Kohn | Speaker | TED.com

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