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Michele L. Sullivan: Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness
Michele L. Sullivan: Tražiti pomoć je snaga, a ne slabost
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Svi prolazimo kroz izazove - neke možeš vidjeti, većinu ne, kaže Michele L. Sullivan. U govoru o pogledu na stvari, Sullivan dijeli priče ispunjene humorom i mudrošću te nas podsjeća da smo svi mi dio međusobnih sustava podrške. "Jedine cipele u kojima možeš hodati su tvoje," kaže. "Suosjećanjem, hrabrošću i razumijevanjem možemo ići zajedno, jedni pored drugih."
Michele L. Sullivan - Social innovator
Michele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing. Full bio
Michele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing. Full bio
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00:12
We all have milestones in life
that we remember so vividly.
that we remember so vividly.
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Svi mi imamo prekretnice u životu
kojih se jasno sjećamo.
kojih se jasno sjećamo.
00:17
The first one for me
was when I was entering kindergarten.
was when I was entering kindergarten.
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Moja prva se dogodila
kada sam krenula u vrtić.
kada sam krenula u vrtić.
00:20
My big brother was in school,
and by golly, it was my time.
and by golly, it was my time.
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Moj je stariji brat već bio u školi i,
moj Bože, došao je i moj trenutak.
moj Bože, došao je i moj trenutak.
00:25
And I went trottin' down that hallway.
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Kaskala sam tim hodnikom.
00:27
I was so excited, I almost wet myself.
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Bila sam toliko uzbuđena
da sam se skoro pomokrila.
da sam se skoro pomokrila.
00:30
And I go to the door,
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Dođem do vrata
i tamo je bila učiteljica,
toplo me dočekavši,
toplo me dočekavši,
00:32
and there was the teacher
with a warm welcome,
with a warm welcome,
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uvela me u učionicu,
00:34
and she took me into the classroom,
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i pokazala mi moj mali ormarić.
00:36
showed me my little cubbyhole --
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Svi se sjećamo tih malih ormarića, zar ne?
00:38
we all remember those
little cubbyholes, don't we --
little cubbyholes, don't we --
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I tamo smo stavili stvari.
00:41
and we put our stuff in there.
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00:43
And then she said, "Go over to the circle
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Onda je rekla, "Idi do kruga
i igraj se s djecom do početka nastave."
00:45
and play with the kids
until class starts."
until class starts."
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00:48
So I went over there
and plopped down like I owned the place,
and plopped down like I owned the place,
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Otišla sam tamo i sjela
kao da sam najvažnija osoba na svijetu,
kao da sam najvažnija osoba na svijetu,
i igrala sam se
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and I'm playing,
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i odjednom dečko kraj mene,
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and all of a sudden, the boy next to me,
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nosio je bijelu majicu
i plave kratke hlače.
i plave kratke hlače.
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he was wearing a white shirt
with blue shorts.
with blue shorts.
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Sjećam se kao da je bilo jučer.
00:58
I remember it like it was yesterday.
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01:00
Suddenly he stopped playing and he said,
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Najednom se prestao igrati i rekao je,
"Zašto si tako niska?"
01:03
"Why are you so short?"
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01:05
And I just kept playing.
I didn't think he was talking to me.
I didn't think he was talking to me.
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Ja sam se nastavila igrati.
Nisam mislila da govori meni.
Nisam mislila da govori meni.
(Smijeh)
01:08
(Laughter)
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Rekao je glasnije,
01:09
And in a louder voice, he said,
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"Hej, zašto si tako niska?"
01:11
"Hey, why are you so short?"
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01:14
So I looked up and I said,
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Pogledala sam ga i rekla,
"O čemu govoriš? Igrajmo se. Sretni smo.
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"What are you talking about?
Let's just play. We're happy.
Let's just play. We're happy.
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Čekala sam ovo."
01:19
I've been waiting for this."
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01:21
And so we played,
and about a minute later,
and about a minute later,
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I igrali smo se, a minutu kasnije
djevojčica do njega
u bijeloj majici i ružičastoj suknji,
u bijeloj majici i ružičastoj suknji,
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the girl next to him,
in a white shirt and a pink skirt,
in a white shirt and a pink skirt,
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ustala je, stavila ruke na kukove,
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stood up, put her hands on her hips,
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i rekla, "Da, zašto izgledaš
toliko drugačije?"
toliko drugačije?"
01:29
and said, "Yeah,
why do you look so different?"
why do you look so different?"
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01:33
And I went, "What are you talking about?
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Rekoh, "O čemu pričaš?
Ne izgledam drugačije. Nisam niska.
Idemo se samo igrati."
Idemo se samo igrati."
01:36
I don't look different. I'm not short.
Again, let's just play."
Again, let's just play."
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01:40
About this time, I looked
all around the circle I was in,
all around the circle I was in,
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Tada sam bolje pogledala
po krugu i vidjela,
po krugu i vidjela,
da su se sva djeca
prestala igrati i gledala me.
prestala igrati i gledala me.
01:44
and all the kids had stopped playing
and they were all looking at me.
and they were all looking at me.
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01:48
And I'm thinking --
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I mislila sam,
u današnjem bi to jeziku
bilo "OMG" ili "WTF."
bilo "OMG" ili "WTF."
01:49
in today's language,
it would be "OMG" or "WTF."
it would be "OMG" or "WTF."
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(Smijeh)
01:53
(Laughter)
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01:57
What just happened?
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Što se upravo dogodilo?
02:00
So all the confidence
that I went in with that morning
that I went in with that morning
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Svo samopouzdanje
s kojim sam to jutro ušla
s kojim sam to jutro ušla
venulo je kako je jutro odmicalo,
02:03
was withering away as the morning went on
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a pitanja su samo nadolazila.
02:07
and the questions kept coming.
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02:09
And at the end of the morning,
before I went home,
before I went home,
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Na kraju jutra,
prije no što sam otišla kući,
prije no što sam otišla kući,
učiteljica nas je postavila u krug,
02:12
the teacher had us in a circle,
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i našla sam se izvan toga kruga.
02:14
and I actually found myself
outside of the circle.
outside of the circle.
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Nisam nikoga mogla pogledati.
02:16
I couldn't look at anybody.
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Nisam razumjela što se dogodilo.
02:18
I could not understand what just happened.
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02:22
And over the next few years,
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Sljedećih nekoliko godina
mrzila sam izlaziti u javnost.
02:23
I hated to go out in public.
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Osjetila sam svaki pogled, svaki hihot,
02:26
I felt every stare, every giggle,
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svaki upereni prst,
02:29
every pointed finger,
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ne srednji prst,
02:30
not the finger,
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već svaki upereni prst,
02:32
but every pointed finger,
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i mrzila sam to.
02:34
and I hated it.
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Skrivala bih se iza nogu svojih roditelja,
kako me nitko ne bi vidio.
kako me nitko ne bi vidio.
02:35
I would hide behind my parents' legs
like nobody could see me.
like nobody could see me.
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02:39
And as a child,
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Kao dijete,
ne možeš razumjeti
radoznalost drugog djeteta,
radoznalost drugog djeteta,
02:40
you can't understand
another child's curiosity,
another child's curiosity,
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niti neukost odrasle osobe.
02:43
nor an adult's ignorance.
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02:46
It became very apparent to me
that the real world was not built
that the real world was not built
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Postalo mi je jasno
da stvarni svijet nije sagrađen
da stvarni svijet nije sagrađen
za nekoga moje veličine,
i doslovce i figurativno.
i doslovce i figurativno.
02:51
for someone of my size,
both literally or figuratively.
both literally or figuratively.
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02:56
And so I have no anonymity,
as you can probably tell,
as you can probably tell,
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Nisam imala nikakve anonimnosti,
kao što vjerojatno vidite,
kao što vjerojatno vidite,
i dok možete vidjeti moju veličinu,
03:01
and while you can see my size,
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03:03
we all go through many challenges
through our lifetime.
through our lifetime.
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svi prolazimo kroz mnoge izazove
tijekom svojih života.
tijekom svojih života.
Neke možete vidjeti, poput mojih.
03:07
And some you can see, like mine.
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Većinu ne možete.
03:10
Most you can't.
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03:11
You can't tell if someone's dealing
with a mental illness,
with a mental illness,
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Ne vidite kada se netko nosi
s mentalnom bolešću,
s mentalnom bolešću,
ili kada ga muči
vlastiti spolni identitet,
vlastiti spolni identitet,
03:16
or they're struggling
with their gender identity,
with their gender identity,
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kada brine za starijeg roditelja,
03:19
they're caring for an aging parent,
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kada ima financijskih problema.
03:21
they're having financial difficulty.
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Ne možete vidjeti takve stvari.
03:23
You can't see that kind of stuff.
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03:26
So while you can see
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Iako možete vidjeti
da je jedan od mojih izazova
moja veličina,
moja veličina,
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one of my challenges is my size,
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vidjeti ne znači razumjeti
03:31
seeing does not mean you understand
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što znači biti ja,
ili kroz što prolazim svakoga dana.
ili kroz što prolazim svakoga dana.
03:33
what it's truly to be me on a daily basis,
or what I go through.
or what I go through.
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Tu sam kako bih pobila mit.
03:38
And so I'm here to debunk a myth.
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Ne vjerujem da možeš
hodati u tuđim cipelama,
hodati u tuđim cipelama,
03:40
I do not believe you can
walk in someone else's shoes,
walk in someone else's shoes,
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i baš zato moramo usvojiti
nov način davanja sebe.
nov način davanja sebe.
03:45
and because of that, we must adopt
a new way of giving of ourselves.
a new way of giving of ourselves.
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Jednostavno rečeno,
nikada neću znati kako je biti vi
nikada neću znati kako je biti vi
03:49
Simply stated, I will never know
what it's like to be you
what it's like to be you
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i vi nikada nećete znati kako je biti ja.
03:53
and you will never know
what it's like to be me.
what it's like to be me.
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Ne mogu se suočiti s vašim strahovima
ili ganjati vaše snove,
ili ganjati vaše snove,
03:56
I cannot face your fears
or chase your dreams,
or chase your dreams,
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03:59
and you can't do that for me,
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ni vi to ne možete napraviti za mene,
no možemo se međusobno podržavati.
04:01
but we can be supportive of each other.
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04:04
Instead of trying to walk
in each other's shoes,
in each other's shoes,
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Umjesto hodanja u tuđim cipelama,
moramo usvojiti novi način davanja sebe.
04:07
we must adopt a new way
of giving of ourselves.
of giving of ourselves.
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04:11
I learned at an early age
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Već sam u ranoj dobi naučila
da neke stvari moram raditi
drugačije od većine ljudi,
drugačije od većine ljudi,
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that I did have to do some things
different than most people,
different than most people,
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no naučila sam i da smo
u nekim stvarima ravnopravni,
u nekim stvarima ravnopravni,
04:17
but I also learned there were things
I was on equal footing with,
I was on equal footing with,
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kao u učionici.
04:20
and one of those was the classroom.
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Heh, heh, heh. Bila sam jednaka.
04:22
Heh, heh, heh. I was equal.
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04:25
As a matter of fact,
I excelled in the classroom.
I excelled in the classroom.
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Zapravo, bila sam izvrsna na nastavi.
To je bilo od životne važnosti,
otkrila sam to kako sam odrastala
otkrila sam to kako sam odrastala
04:28
This was vitally important,
I discovered as I grew older
I discovered as I grew older
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i shvatila da neću moći
raditi fizički posao.
raditi fizički posao.
04:32
and realized I wasn't going to be able
to do a physical job.
to do a physical job.
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Trebalo mi je obrazovanje.
04:35
I needed an education.
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04:38
So I went on and got a university degree,
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Nastavila sam školovanje i diplomirala,
no mislila sam kako bih trebala
biti korak ispred drugih za posao,
biti korak ispred drugih za posao,
04:41
but I felt to be one step ahead
of everyone for employment,
of everyone for employment,
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trebala sam magistrirati,
04:45
I needed to have
an advanced university degree,
an advanced university degree,
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pa sam to i napravila.
04:48
so I went ahead and got that.
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Sada sam bila spremna za intervju.
04:49
Now I'm ready for my interview.
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Sjećate li se svog prvog intervjua?
Što ću obući?
Što ću obući?
04:51
Remember your first interview?
What am I going to wear?
What am I going to wear?
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Koja pitanja?
04:54
What questions?
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I ne smijem zaboraviti čvrst stisak
kod rukovanja.
kod rukovanja.
04:55
And don't forget that firm handshake.
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04:58
I was right there with you.
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Tako je i meni bilo.
I tako, 24 sata prije intervjua,
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So 24 hours before my interview,
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prijateljica koju znam cijeli život,
05:01
a friend of mine
who I've known all my life
who I've known all my life
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nazvala me i rekla, "Michele,
zgrada u koju ideš ima stepenice."
zgrada u koju ideš ima stepenice."
05:04
called and said, "Michele,
the building you're going in has steps."
the building you're going in has steps."
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A znala je da se ne mogu
penjati stepenicama.
penjati stepenicama.
05:08
And she knew I couldn't climb steps.
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I odjednom se moj fokus promijenio.
05:10
So suddenly, my focus changed.
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U svojim cipelama, zabrinula sam se
kako ću tamo stići.
kako ću tamo stići.
05:12
In my shoes, I was worried
about how am I going to get there?
about how am I going to get there?
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05:17
So I went early and found a loading dock
and got in and had a great interview.
and got in and had a great interview.
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Uranila sam i našla rampu za utovar,
ušla i imala odličan intervju.
ušla i imala odličan intervju.
Nisu znali što sam sve prošla
toga dana, i to je OK.
toga dana, i to je OK.
05:22
They had no idea what I went through
for the day and that's OK.
for the day and that's OK.
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05:26
You're probably thinking my greatest
challenge that day was the interview,
challenge that day was the interview,
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Vjerojatno mislite da je moj najveći
izazov toga dana bio intervju,
izazov toga dana bio intervju,
ili ulazak u zgradu.
05:30
or getting in the building.
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U stvarnosti, moj najveći izazov
toga dana bilo je
toga dana bilo je
05:31
In reality, my biggest challenge that day
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prijeći rampu, bez da me netko pregazi.
05:34
was getting through the loading dock
without getting run over.
without getting run over.
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05:38
I am very vulnerable
in certain situations:
in certain situations:
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Vrlo sam ranjiva u nekim situacijama:
05:42
airports, hallways, parking lots,
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u zračnim lukama, u hodnicima,
na parkiralištima,
na parkiralištima,
rampama za utovar.
05:46
loading docks.
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05:48
And so I have to be very careful.
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Zato moram biti vrlo oprezna.
Moram moći nešto predvidjeti,
biti fleksibilna
biti fleksibilna
05:50
I have to anticipate and be flexible
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i nekada se kretati što brže mogu.
05:53
and move as quickly as I can sometimes.
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05:56
So I got the job,
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Dobila sam posao
i trenutno zbog posla dosta putujem.
05:58
and in my current role
I travel quite a bit.
I travel quite a bit.
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Putovanja su svima ovih dana izazov.
06:01
And travel is a challenge
for all of us these days.
for all of us these days.
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06:05
And so you probably get to the airport,
run through security, get to the gate.
run through security, get to the gate.
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Vi vjerojatno dođete do aerodroma,
prođete osiguranje, dođete do izlaza.
prođete osiguranje, dođete do izlaza.
Imam li mjesto do prolaza ili do prozora?
Jesam li dobila bolji smještaj?
Jesam li dobila bolji smještaj?
06:09
Did I get my aisle seat or my window seat?
Did I get my upgrade?
Did I get my upgrade?
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06:14
Me, first of all,
I don't run through anything.
I don't run through anything.
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Ja, kao prvo, ne prolazim kroz ništa.
(Smijeh)
06:16
(Laughter)
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Pogotovo ne prolazim kroz osiguranje,
06:17
And I especially don't run through the TSA
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već moram tamo proći osobni pregled.
06:19
because I get to experience
the personal patdown.
the personal patdown.
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06:23
I won't comment on that.
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Neću to komentirati.
Onda se uputim prema izlazu
06:25
And then I make my way to the gate,
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i svojim urođenim darom brbljanja,
kako moji roditelji kažu,
kako moji roditelji kažu,
06:27
and with my gift of gab
that my parents said I was born with,
that my parents said I was born with,
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pričam s agentom na izlazu i kažem,
"Usput, moj je skuter težak toliko,
"Usput, moj je skuter težak toliko,
06:31
I talk to the gate agent, and then I say,
"By the way, my scooter weighs this much,
"By the way, my scooter weighs this much,
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imam suhu bateriju,
06:35
I have a dry cell battery,
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i mogu ga voziti do ulaza u avion."
06:37
and I can drive it down
to the door of the plane."
to the door of the plane."
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06:40
Also, the day before, I had called
the city where I'm traveling to
the city where I'm traveling to
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Također, dan ranije nazvala sam
grad u koji putujem,
grad u koji putujem,
kako bih saznala gdje mogu unajmiti skuter
ako se moj putem pokvari.
ako se moj putem pokvari.
06:44
to find out where I could rent a scooter
in case mine gets broken on the way.
in case mine gets broken on the way.
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06:49
So in my shoes,
it's a little bit different.
it's a little bit different.
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Dakle, u mojim je cipelama
malo drukčije.
malo drukčije.
06:52
When I get onto the plane,
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Kad uđem u avion,
iskoristim svoje brbljanje
iskoristim svoje brbljanje
06:53
I use my gift of gab to ask the lady
to put my bag up, and they graciously do.
to put my bag up, and they graciously do.
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kako bih nekog zamolila da mi podigne
torbu i oni to ljubazno učine.
torbu i oni to ljubazno učine.
Pokušavam ne jesti ili piti u avionu,
06:58
I try not to eat or drink on a plane
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jer ne bih htjela
ustajati i hodati avionom,
ustajati i hodati avionom,
07:00
because I don't want to have to
get up and walk on the plane,
get up and walk on the plane,
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no priroda ima svoj vlastiti raspored
07:03
but nature has its own schedule,
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i nedavno je pokucala,
a ja sam morala odgovoriti.
a ja sam morala odgovoriti.
07:05
and not long ago,
it knocked and I answered.
it knocked and I answered.
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Došla sam do prednjeg dijela aviona,
07:07
So I walked up to the front of the plane
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07:10
and gabbed with the flight attendant,
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brbljala sa stjuardesom
07:12
and said, "Can you watch the door?
I can't reach the lock."
I can't reach the lock."
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te pitala, "Možete li paziti na vrata?
Ne mogu dosegnuti bravu."
Ne mogu dosegnuti bravu."
07:16
So I'm in there doing my business,
and the door flies open.
and the door flies open.
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Unutra sam i obavljam svoje,
i vrata se otvore.
i vrata se otvore.
07:20
And there's a gentleman there
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Jedan je gospodin tamo
07:22
with a look of horror on his face.
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s izrazom užasa na licu.
Sigurna sam da sam imala isti pogled.
07:25
I'm sure I had the same look.
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07:27
As I came out, I noticed
that he was sitting right across from me,
that he was sitting right across from me,
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Kad sam izašla, primijetila sam
da sjedi baš preko puta mene,
da sjedi baš preko puta mene,
07:33
and he's in total, complete embarrassment.
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i bilo ga je neizmjerno sram.
07:37
So I walk up to him and I quietly go,
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Stoga sam mu prišla i tiho rekla,
"Hoće li i Vama ovo ostati
u pamćenju kao meni?"
u pamćenju kao meni?"
07:39
"Are you going to remember this
as much as I am?"
as much as I am?"
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(Smijeh)
07:42
(Laughter)
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07:48
And he goes, "I think so."
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I on kaže, "Mislim da hoće."
(Smijeh)
07:50
(Laughter)
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I dok on o tome vjerojatno
ne govori javno, ja govorim.
ne govori javno, ja govorim.
07:51
Now, while he's probably
not talking about it publicly, I am.
not talking about it publicly, I am.
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(Smijeh)
07:55
(Laughter)
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No, pričali smo do kraja leta
07:56
But we talked for the rest of the flight,
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i upoznali smo se,
svoje obitelji, sportove, posao,
svoje obitelji, sportove, posao,
07:59
and we got to know each other,
our families, sports, work,
our families, sports, work,
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i kada smo sletjeli, rekao je,
08:03
and when we landed, he said,
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"Michele, vidio sam
da Vam je netko podigao torbu.
da Vam je netko podigao torbu.
08:05
"Michele, I noticed
someone put your bag up.
someone put your bag up.
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08:07
Can I get that for you?"
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Mogu li Vam je dodati?"
08:08
And I said, "Of course, thank you."
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Rekoh, "Naravno, hvala Vam."
08:11
And we wished each other well,
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Poželjeli smo si sreću
i najvažnija stvar tog dana
08:13
and the most important thing that day
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bila je da neće otići s tim sramom,
08:15
was that he was not going to leave
with that embarrassment,
with that embarrassment,
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tim osjećajem srama.
08:19
that experience of embarrassment.
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Neće to zaboraviti, neću ni ja,
08:21
He won't forget it, and neither will I,
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no mislim da će se više sjećati
08:24
but I think he will remember more
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našeg razgovora i naših
različitih pogleda na stvari.
različitih pogleda na stvari.
08:26
our chat and our different perspectives.
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08:30
When you travel internationally,
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Kad putuješ svijetom,
može biti još izazovnije,
na određene načine.
na određene načine.
08:32
it can be even more challenging
in certain ways.
in certain ways.
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Prije par godina bila sam u Zanzibaru,
08:34
A few years ago, I was in Zanzibar,
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i uvezem se unutra,
08:37
and I come wheeling in,
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sada razmislite o tome.
08:39
and think about that.
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08:41
Short, white, blond woman in a chair.
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Niska, plavokosa bjelkinja u kolicima.
To se vjerojatno ne događa svaki dan.
08:45
That doesn't probably happen every day.
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08:49
So I go up, and with my gift of gab,
I start to talk to the agent.
I start to talk to the agent.
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Priđem i, svojom brbljavošću,
započnem razgovor s agentom.
započnem razgovor s agentom.
Bio je jako srdačan pa upitam
o njihovoj kulturi i slično,
o njihovoj kulturi i slično,
08:52
So friendly, and I ask
about their culture and so forth,
about their culture and so forth,
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08:56
and I notice there wasn't a jet bridge.
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i primijetim da ne postoji most do aviona.
Morala sam mu reći,
08:59
So I had to kind of say,
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"Ne samo da mi morate podići kolica,
09:01
"Not only do you have to lift my chair,
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trebala bi mi pomoć
kod uspinjanja stepenicama."
kod uspinjanja stepenicama."
09:03
I could use some help
getting up the steps."
getting up the steps."
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09:05
So we got to spend about an hour together
while we waited for the flight,
while we waited for the flight,
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Proveli smo oko sat vremena zajedno
dok smo čekali let,
dok smo čekali let,
bio je to stvarno divno proveden sat.
09:09
and it was the most magnificent hour.
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Kod oboje su se pogledi na stvari
promijenili toga dana.
promijenili toga dana.
09:11
Our perspective changed
for both of us that day.
for both of us that day.
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Kada sam dospjela u avion,
09:15
And once I got on the flight,
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potapšao me po leđima
i poželio mi dobro,
i poželio mi dobro,
09:16
he patted me on the back
and wished me well,
and wished me well,
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a ja sam mu se mnogo zahvalila.
09:19
and I thanked him so much.
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I opet, mislim da će se
više sjećati tog iskustva
više sjećati tog iskustva
09:21
And again, I think he's going
to remember that experience more
to remember that experience more
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nego mog prvotnog ulaska,
kad je među nama bilo oklijevanja.
kad je među nama bilo oklijevanja.
09:26
than when I first came in,
and there was a bit of hesitation.
and there was a bit of hesitation.
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09:31
And as you notice, I get a lot of help.
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Kao što primjećujete,
ljudi mi mnogo pomažu.
ljudi mi mnogo pomažu.
Ne bih bila tu gdje jesam danas,
09:33
I would not be where I am today
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da nema moje obitelji,
mojih prijatelja, suradnika
mojih prijatelja, suradnika
09:35
if it was not for my family,
my friends, my colleagues
my friends, my colleagues
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te mnogih neznanaca,
09:40
and the many strangers
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09:41
that help me every single day of my life.
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koji mi pomažu doslovno svakoga dana.
09:46
And it's important
that we all have a support system.
that we all have a support system.
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Jako je važno da svi imamo
svoje sustave podrške.
svoje sustave podrške.
Tražiti pomoć je snaga,
09:49
Asking for help is a strength,
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a ne slabost.
09:52
not a weakness.
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(Pljesak)
09:53
(Applause)
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10:00
We all need help throughout our lifetime,
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Svi trebamo pomoć tijekom svog života,
no jednako je bitno,
10:03
but it is just as important
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da smo dio sustava podrške
drugim ljudima.
drugim ljudima.
10:06
that we are part
of other people's support systems.
of other people's support systems.
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Moramo usvojiti taj način vraćanja.
10:09
We must adopt that way of giving back.
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Svi mi očito imamo ulogu
u svojim vlastitim uspjesima,
u svojim vlastitim uspjesima,
10:12
We all obviously have a role to play
in our own successes,
in our own successes,
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10:17
but think about the role we have to play
in other people's successes,
in other people's successes,
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ali razmislite o ulozi koju imamo
u uspjesima drugih ljudi,
u uspjesima drugih ljudi,
poput ljudi u mom životu
svakoga dana.
svakoga dana.
10:21
just like people do for me
every single day.
every single day.
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10:26
It's vitally important
that we help each other,
that we help each other,
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Nužno je da jedni drugima pomažemo,
jer društvo sve češće razdvaja ljude
10:29
because society is increasingly
placing people in silos
placing people in silos
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10:36
based on biases and ideologies.
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na temelju pristranosti i ideologija.
10:39
And we must look past the surface
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Moramo gledati dalje od površine
10:43
and be confronted with the truth
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i suočiti se s istinom,
da nitko od nas nije samo ono što vidimo.
10:45
that none of us are what you can see.
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Mi smo više od toga,
10:48
There's more to us than that,
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i svi se suočavamo sa stvarima
koje ne možeš vidjeti.
koje ne možeš vidjeti.
10:50
and we're all dealing with things
that you cannot see.
that you cannot see.
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10:55
So living a life free of judgment
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Živjeti bez osuđivanja
svima nam dozvoljava
da zajedno dijelimo ta iskustva
da zajedno dijelimo ta iskustva
10:58
allows all of us to share
those experiences together
those experiences together
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11:02
and have a totally different perspective,
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i da imamo potpuno drukčije poglede,
poput ljudi koje sam spomenula
ranije u svojim pričama.
ranije u svojim pričama.
11:05
just like the couple of people
I mentioned earlier in my stories.
I mentioned earlier in my stories.
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11:11
So remember, the only shoes
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Zapamtite, jedine cipele
u kojima istinski možete biti,
su vaše vlastite.
su vaše vlastite.
11:13
you truly can walk in are your own.
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11:16
I cannot walk in yours.
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Ne mogu hodati u vašima.
11:19
I know you can't walk in my size 1s --
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Znam da ne možete hodati
u onima moje veličine...
u onima moje veličine...
(Smijeh)
11:22
(Laughter)
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ali možete pokušati.
11:23
but you can try.
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11:26
But we can do something better than that.
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No, možemo učiniti nešto bolje od toga.
11:28
With compassion,
courage and understanding,
courage and understanding,
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Suosjećanjem, hrabrošću i razumijevanjem
možemo hodati jedno pored drugog
11:32
we can walk side by side
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i podupirati se,
11:35
and support one another,
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razmisliti koliko se društvo
može promijeniti
može promijeniti
11:37
and think about how society can change
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ako učinimo sve to,
11:40
if we all do that
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umjesto osuđivanja
na temelju onog što vidimo.
na temelju onog što vidimo.
11:41
instead of judging
on only what you can see.
on only what you can see.
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11:45
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
(Pljesak)
11:47
(Applause)
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11:52
Thank you.
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Hvala.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Michele L. Sullivan - Social innovatorMichele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing.
Why you should listen
Michele L. Sullivan has held various globally influential leadership positions at Caterpillar during her 29-year career. She currently is Caterpillar's Director of Corporate Social Innovation and President of the Caterpillar Foundation, the philanthropic arm of Caterpillar Inc.
Throughout Sullivan's career, she has dramatically grown the reach, influence and impact of each role. Her time with the Caterpillar Foundation is no different. She has taken the Caterpillar Foundation from a transactional Foundation into a global and strategic Foundation. She has moved the Foundation from Corporate Social Responsibility into Corporate Social Innovation. This strategy places the human need first, not as an afterthought of profit. Sullivan is well known for her global expertise and sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing.
Sullivan strongly believes monumental and sustainable change in our largest global challenges can only happen through partnerships and collaboration between public, private and non-profit entities. This strategy resulted in the Caterpillar Foundation's transformation into one of the most influential corporate foundations and, ultimately, the launch of the Foundation's collaborative impact platform, Together.Stronger.
Determination and resilience have been present throughout Sullivan;s life. She endured many years of orthopedic surgeries and other challenges. She provided leadership starting in the Little Prairie Chapter of Little People of America as a teenager. She was named by Inside Philanthropy as one of the 50 most powerful women in philanthropy and she served as a US delegate to the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women. She is a member of the ONE board of directors and chairs the Greater Peoria Local Initiatives Support Corporation (LISC) Advisory Board. She earned her MBA from Bradley University, and she is the first woman to be President of the Caterpillar Foundation.
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