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Alec Soth and Stacey Baker: This is what enduring love looks like
Alec Soth in Stacey Baker: Tako izgleda trajna ljubezen
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Stacey Baker je od vedno bila obsedena s tem, kako se pari spoznajo. Ko je prosila fotografa Aleca Sotha, naj ji pomaga raziskati to temo, sta se znašla sredi največjega dogodka hitrih zmenkov na svetu, ki se odvija v Las Vegasu na Valentinovo. Spoznala sta tudi največjo skupnost upokojencev v Nevadi, kjer je Soth fotografiral portrete parov. Med tema dvema ekstremoma, sta razkrila čudovito povezovalno nit, kako se življenje parov razvije od prvega zmenka do skupnega življenja. (Ta govor je bil podan na TED2015 dogodku, ki je bil organiziran od Pop-Up Magazine: popupmagazine.com ali @popupmag na Twitterju.).
Stacey Baker - Photo editor
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
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00:13
Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
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Alec Soth: Pred 10 leti me je poklicala
ženska iz Texasa,
ženska iz Texasa,
00:16
Stacey Baker,
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Stacey Baker.
00:18
and she'd seen some of my photographs
in an art exhibition
in an art exhibition
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Videla je nekatere moje fotografije
v umetniški galeriji
v umetniški galeriji
00:22
and was wondering if she could commission
me to take a portrait of her parents.
me to take a portrait of her parents.
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in se je spraševala, če bi lahko
naredil portret njenih staršev.
naredil portret njenih staršev.
00:27
Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey,
and I thought this was some sort of
and I thought this was some sort of
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Takrat nisem še poznal Stacey
in sem mislil da je neke vrste
in sem mislil da je neke vrste
00:31
wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich,
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premožni naftni tajkun
ter da bom postal bogat.
ter da bom postal bogat.
00:35
but it was only later that I found out
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Šele pozneje sem izvedel,
00:37
she'd actually taken out a loan
to make this happen.
to make this happen.
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da si je sposodila denar,
da je to omogočila.
da je to omogočila.
00:41
I took the picture of her parents,
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Fotografiral sem njene starše,
00:43
but I was actually more excited
about photographing Stacey.
about photographing Stacey.
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vendar me je fotografiranje Stacey
bolj navduševalo.
bolj navduševalo.
00:47
The picture I made that day
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Fotografija, ki sem jo posnel
00:48
ended up becoming
one of my best-known portraits.
one of my best-known portraits.
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tistega dne, je postala ena izmed mojih
najbolj znanih portretov.
najbolj znanih portretov.
00:53
At the time I made this picture,
Stacey was working as an attorney
Stacey was working as an attorney
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V obdobju ko sem naredil to fotografijo,
je Stacey kot odvetnica delala
je Stacey kot odvetnica delala
00:57
for the State of Texas.
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za zvezno državo Texas.
00:58
Not long after, she left her job
to study photography in Maine,
to study photography in Maine,
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Kmalu za tem je dala odpoved
zato da bi študirala fotografijo v Mainu.
zato da bi študirala fotografijo v Mainu.
01:03
and while she was there,
she ended up meeting
she ended up meeting
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Medtem ko je bila tam je spoznala
01:05
the director of photography
at the New York Times Magazine
at the New York Times Magazine
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direktorja fotografije pri
New York Times Magazinu.
New York Times Magazinu.
01:08
and was actually offered a job.
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Ponudil ji je delovno mesto.
01:12
Stacey Baker: In the years since,
Alec and I have done
Alec and I have done
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Stacey Baker: Od takrat
sva skupaj z Alecom naredila
sva skupaj z Alecom naredila
01:14
a number of magazine projects together,
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nekaj projektov za revijo
01:17
and we've become friends.
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in sva postala prijatelja.
01:19
A few months ago, I started talking
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
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Nekaj mesecev nazaj, sem začela
Alecu govoriti o temi, ki me je zanimala.
Alecu govoriti o temi, ki me je zanimala.
01:23
I've always been obsessed
with how couples meet.
with how couples meet.
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Od zmeraj me je zanimalo
kako se pari spoznajo.
kako se pari spoznajo.
01:27
I asked Alec how he
and his wife Rachel met,
and his wife Rachel met,
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Vprašala sem Aleca
kako sta se z ženo spoznala.
kako sta se z ženo spoznala.
01:30
and he told me the story
of a high school football game
of a high school football game
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Povedal mi je zgodbo
o srednješolski nogometni tekmi,
o srednješolski nogometni tekmi,
01:33
where she was 16 and he was 15,
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ko je bila ona stara 16 let, on pa 15.
01:36
and he asked her out.
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Povabil jo je na zmenek.
01:38
He liked her purple hair.
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Všeč so mu bili njeni vijolični lasje.
01:40
She said yes, and that was it.
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Ona je rekla da, in to je bilo to.
01:43
I then asked Alec if he'd be interested
in doing a photography project
in doing a photography project
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Nato sem vprašala Aleca
če bi ga zanimalo izpeljati
če bi ga zanimalo izpeljati
01:47
exploring this question.
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fotografski projekt na to temo.
01:49
AS: And I was interested in the question,
but I was actually much more interested
but I was actually much more interested
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AS: Zanimalo me je to vprašanje,
vendar me je veliko bolj zanimal
vendar me je veliko bolj zanimal
01:53
in Stacey's motivation for asking it,
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Staceyjin razlog za to vprašanje.
01:56
particularly since I'd never known
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
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Predvsem zato, ker nisem nikoli
vedel, da bi Stacey kdaj imela fanta.
vedel, da bi Stacey kdaj imela fanta.
02:00
So as part of this project,
I thought it'd be interesting
I thought it'd be interesting
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Pomislil sem, da bi bilo zanimivo,
če bi v sklopu projekta
če bi v sklopu projekta
02:03
if she tried to meet someone.
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poskusila spoznati nekoga.
02:05
So my idea was to have Stacey here
go speed dating
go speed dating
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Moja zamisel je bila, da
bi se Stacey udeležila hitrih zmenkov
bi se Stacey udeležila hitrih zmenkov
02:10
in Las Vegas on Valentine's Day.
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v Las Vegasu, na Valentinovo.
02:14
(Laughter) (Applause) (Music)
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(Smeh) (Aplavz) (Glasba)
02:20
SB: We ended up at what was advertised
as the world's largest speed dating event.
as the world's largest speed dating event.
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SB: Prišli smo na kar je bilo oglaševano,
kot največji dogodek hitrih zmenkov.
kot največji dogodek hitrih zmenkov.
02:25
I had 19 dates
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Imela sem 19 zmenkov
02:27
and each date lasted three minutes.
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in vsak zmenek je trajal tri minute.
02:30
Participants were given a list of ice-
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
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Udeleženci so dobili seznam vprašanj
s katerimi začeti in nadaljevati pogovor
s katerimi začeti in nadaljevati pogovor
02:34
things like, "If you could be any kind
of animal, what would you be?"
of animal, what would you be?"
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na primer: "Če bi lahko bil katerakoli
žival, katera žival bi bil?"
žival, katera žival bi bil?"
02:38
That sort of thing.
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Take vrste vprašanj.
02:40
My first date was Colin.
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Moj prvi zmenek je bil Colin.
02:42
He's from England,
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Prihaja iz Anglije in nekoč se je
02:44
and he once married a woman he met
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
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poročil z žensko, ki jo je spoznal potem,
ko je objavil oglas za kozoroga.
ko je objavil oglas za kozoroga.
02:49
Alec and I saw him
at the end of the evening,
at the end of the evening,
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Z Alecom sva ga videla
proti koncu večera
proti koncu večera
02:52
and he said he'd kissed a woman in line
at one of the concession stands.
at one of the concession stands.
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in rekel nama je, da je poljubil žensko,
ki je stala v vrsti pred blagajno.
ki je stala v vrsti pred blagajno.
02:57
Zack and Chris came
to the date-a-thon together.
to the date-a-thon together.
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Zack in Chris sta prišla
na hitri zmenek skupaj.
na hitri zmenek skupaj.
03:02
This is Carl.
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To je Carl.
03:05
I asked Carl, "What's the first thing
you notice about a woman?"
you notice about a woman?"
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Vprašala sem ga: "Katera je
prva stvar, ki jo opaziš na ženski?"
prva stvar, ki jo opaziš na ženski?"
03:10
He said, "Tits."
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On je rekel: "Joške."
03:12
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:17
Matthew is attracted to women
with muscular calves.
with muscular calves.
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Matthewa privlačijo ženske
z mišičastimi goleni.
z mišičastimi goleni.
03:20
We talked about running. He does
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
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Pogovarjala sva se o teku. On dela
triatlone, jaz tečem polovične maratone.
triatlone, jaz tečem polovične maratone.
03:24
Alec actually liked his eyes and asked
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
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Alecu so bile njegove oči všeč in vprašal
me je če mi je bil privlačen, a ni mi bil.
me je če mi je bil privlačen, a ni mi bil.
03:29
and I don't think he was
attracted to me either.
attracted to me either.
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Mislim da mu tudi jaz
nisem bila privlačna.
nisem bila privlačna.
03:33
Austin and Mike came together.
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Austin in Mike sta prišla skupaj.
03:36
Mike asked me a hypothetical question.
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Mike mi je postavil hipotetično vprašanje.
03:39
He said, "You're in an elevator
running late for a meeting.
running late for a meeting.
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Rekel je: "Si v dvigalu
in se ti mudi na sestanek.
in se ti mudi na sestanek.
03:43
Someone makes a dash for the elevator.
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Nekdo pridrvi do dvigala.
03:46
Do you hold it open for them?"
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Pridržiš odprta vrata?"
03:49
And I said I would not.
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Odgovorila sem mu, da ne bi.
03:51
(Laughter)
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(smejanje)
03:55
Cliff said the first thing he notices
about a woman is her teeth,
about a woman is her teeth,
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Cliff je rekel, da prvo kar opazi
pri ženski, so njeni zobje.
pri ženski, so njeni zobje.
03:59
and we complimented each other's teeth.
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Drug drugemu sva pohvalila zobe.
04:02
Because he's an open mouth sleeper,
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Rekel je spi z odprtimi usti
04:05
he says he has to floss more
to help prevent gum disease,
to help prevent gum disease,
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in si mora zobe znitkati pogosteje,
zato da bi preprečil bolezni dlesni.
zato da bi preprečil bolezni dlesni.
04:09
and so I asked him how often he flosses,
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Vprašala sem ga
kako pogosto si jih znitka.
kako pogosto si jih znitka.
04:11
and he said, "Every other day."
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Odgovril je: "Vsak drugi dan."
04:14
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:17
Now, as someone who flosses twice a day,
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Kot nekdo, ki si znitka zobe
dvakrat na dan,
dvakrat na dan,
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I wasn't really sure that
that was flossing more
that was flossing more
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nisem bila prepričana,
da je to zelo pogosto
da je to zelo pogosto
04:22
but I don't think I said that out loud.
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ampak mislim, da tega nisem rekla naglas.
04:24
Bill is an auditor,
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Bill je revizor
04:27
and we talked the entire three minutes
about auditing. (Laughter)
about auditing. (Laughter)
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in vse tri minute sva
govorila o reviziji. (Smeh)
govorila o reviziji. (Smeh)
04:34
The first thing Spencer notices
about a woman is her complexion.
about a woman is her complexion.
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Prvo kar Spencer opazi na ženski
je njena polt.
je njena polt.
04:38
He feels a lot of women
wear too much makeup,
wear too much makeup,
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Misli, da veliko žensk nosi
preveč make- upa ter da bi ga
preveč make- upa ter da bi ga
04:41
and that they should only wear enough
to accentuate the features that they have.
to accentuate the features that they have.
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ženske morale nositi samo toliko, da
jim poudari tiste značilnosti, ki imajo.
jim poudari tiste značilnosti, ki imajo.
04:45
I told him I didn't wear any makeup at all
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Rekla sem mu,
da ne uporabljam make-upa,
da ne uporabljam make-upa,
04:47
and he seemed to think
that that was a good thing.
that that was a good thing.
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in zdelo se je, da mu je to všeč.
04:51
Craig told me he didn't think
I was willing to be vulnerable.
I was willing to be vulnerable.
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Craig je rekel, da se po njegovem mnenju
ne zdim pripravljena biti ranljiva.
ne zdim pripravljena biti ranljiva.
04:55
He was also frustrated when I couldn't
remember my most embarrassing moment.
remember my most embarrassing moment.
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Bil je nejevoljen, ko se nisem spomnila
svojega najbolj nerodnega trenutka.
svojega najbolj nerodnega trenutka.
05:00
He thought I was lying, but I wasn't.
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Mislil je, da lažem, a nisem.
05:02
I didn't think he liked me at all,
but at the end of the night,
but at the end of the night,
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Mislim, da mu nisem bila všeč,
ampak na koncu večera,
ampak na koncu večera,
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he came back to me and he gave me
a box of chocolates.
a box of chocolates.
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je prišel do mene in mi podaril
škatlo s čokoladnimi bonboni.
škatlo s čokoladnimi bonboni.
05:09
William was really difficult to talk to.
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Z Williamom se je bilo težko pogovarjati.
05:12
I think he was drunk.
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Mislim, da je bil pijan.
05:14
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
05:17
Actor Chris McKenna
was the MC of the event.
was the MC of the event.
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Igralec Chris McKeena
je bil predstavnik dogodka.
je bil predstavnik dogodka.
05:20
He used to be on
"The Young and the Restless."
"The Young and the Restless."
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Igral je v soap operi
"The Young and the Restless"
"The Young and the Restless"
05:23
I didn't actually go on a date with him.
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Osebno nisem imela zmenka z njim.
05:26
Alec said he saw several women
give their phone numbers to him.
give their phone numbers to him.
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Alec je rekel, da je videl precej žensk,
ki so mu dale telefonsko številko.
ki so mu dale telefonsko številko.
05:30
Needless to say, I didn't fall in love.
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Odveč je povedati, da se nisem zaljubila.
05:35
I didn't feel a particular connection with
any of the men that I went on dates with,
any of the men that I went on dates with,
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Nisem občutila posebne povezave z nobenim
izmed moških, s katerim sem imela zmenek
izmed moških, s katerim sem imela zmenek
05:39
and I didn't feel like they felt
a particular connection with me either.
a particular connection with me either.
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in mislim, da niti oni niso občutili
posebne povezave z mano.
posebne povezave z mano.
05:45
AS: Now, the most beautiful thing to me --
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AS: To kar mi je kot fotografu --
05:48
(Laughter) -- as a photographer
is the quality of vulnerability.
is the quality of vulnerability.
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(Smeh) -- najbolj všeč je ranljivost.
05:53
The physical exterior reveals a crack
in which you can get a glimpse
in which you can get a glimpse
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Naša zunanjost razkriva razpoko,
skozi katero lahko dobiš vpogled
skozi katero lahko dobiš vpogled
05:57
at a more fragile interior.
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v krhkejšo notranjost.
06:00
At this date-a-thon event,
I saw so many examples of that,
I saw so many examples of that,
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Na dogodku hitrih zmenkov
sem videl veliko takih primerov,
sem videl veliko takih primerov,
06:03
but as I watched Stacey's dates
and talked to her about them,
and talked to her about them,
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ampak, šele ko sem opazoval Staceyine
zmenke in sem se z njo o njih pogovarjal,
zmenke in sem se z njo o njih pogovarjal,
06:08
I realized how different
photographic love is from real love.
photographic love is from real love.
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sem ugotovil kako se fotografska ljubezen
razlikuje od prave ljubezni.
razlikuje od prave ljubezni.
06:14
What is real love? How does it work?
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Kaj je prava ljubezen? Kako deluje?
06:18
In order to work on this question
and to figure out how someone goes
and to figure out how someone goes
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Zato, da bi našla odgovor na to vprašanje
in da bi razumela kako se nekdo odloči
in da bi razumela kako se nekdo odloči
06:22
from meeting on a date
to having a life together,
to having a life together,
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na podlagi zmenka, da bo preživel
življenje z nekom drugim,
življenje z nekom drugim,
06:27
Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin,
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sva s Stacey šla v Sun City Summerlin.
06:29
which is the largest
retirement community in Las Vegas.
retirement community in Las Vegas.
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To je največja skupnost
upokojencev v Las Vegasu.
upokojencev v Las Vegasu.
06:35
Our contact there was George,
who runs the community's photography club.
who runs the community's photography club.
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Tu sva imela stik z Georgom,
ki vodi fotografski klub te skupnosti.
ki vodi fotografski klub te skupnosti.
06:39
He arranged for us to meet other couples
in their makeshift photo studio.
in their makeshift photo studio.
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Organiziral nam je srečanja z drugimi pari
v njihovem začasnem fotografskem studiu.
v njihovem začasnem fotografskem studiu.
06:44
SB: After 45 years of marriage,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
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SB: Po 45 letih poroke, je Anastasijin mož
umrl dve leti nazaj.
umrl dve leti nazaj.
06:49
so we asked if she had
an old wedding picture.
an old wedding picture.
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Vprašali smo jo ali ima
kako staro poročno sliko.
kako staro poročno sliko.
06:52
She met her husband
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
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Moža je spoznala kot 15-letna natakarica
06:56
at a small barbecue place in Michigan.
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v mali restavraciji v Michiganu.
06:58
He was 30.
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On je imel 30 let.
07:00
She'd lied about her age.
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Ona se je zlagala glede njene starosti.
07:02
He was the first person she'd dated.
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On je bil prvi moški s katerim je
hodila na zmenke.
hodila na zmenke.
07:05
Dean had been named photographer of
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
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Dean je bil imenovan fotograf leta
v Las Vegasu dve leti zapored.
v Las Vegasu dve leti zapored.
07:09
and this caught Alec's attention,
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To je pritegnilo Alecovo pozornost.
07:11
as did the fact
that he met his wife, Judy,
that he met his wife, Judy,
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Pritegnilo ga je tudi dejstvo, da
je spoznal ženo Judy
je spoznal ženo Judy
07:14
at the same age when Alec met Rachel.
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pri isti starosti, kot je
Alec spoznal Rachel.
Alec spoznal Rachel.
07:17
Dean admitted that he likes
to look at beautiful women,
to look at beautiful women,
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Dean je priznal, da rad gleda lepe ženske,
07:20
but he's never questioned
his decision to marry Judy.
his decision to marry Judy.
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ampak ni nikoli podvomil v
poroko z Judy.
poroko z Judy.
07:24
AS: George met Josephine
at a parish dance.
at a parish dance.
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AS: George je spoznal Josephine
na vaškem plesu.
na vaškem plesu.
07:27
He was 18, she was 15.
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On je imel 18 let, ona pa 15.
07:29
Like a lot of the couples we met,
they weren't especially philosophical
they weren't especially philosophical
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Kot veliko parov, ki sva jih spoznala,
nista veliko filozofirala
nista veliko filozofirala
07:33
about their early choices.
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o njunih zgodnjih izbirah.
07:35
George said something
that really stuck with me.
that really stuck with me.
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George je rekel nekaj,
kar se me je dotaknilo.
kar se me je dotaknilo.
07:38
He said, "When you get that feeling,
you just go with it."
you just go with it."
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Rekel je, "Ko dobiš tisti občutek,
sprejmi ga."
sprejmi ga."
07:46
Bob and Trudy met on a blind date
when she was still in high school.
when she was still in high school.
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Bob in Trudy sta se spoznala na zmenku
na slepo, ko je bila še srednješolka.
na slepo, ko je bila še srednješolka.
07:49
They said they weren't particularly
attracted to each other
attracted to each other
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Rekla sta, da si nista bila
posebej privlačna,
posebej privlačna,
07:52
when the first met.
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ko sta se prvič srečala.
07:53
Nevertheless, they were
married soon after.
married soon after.
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Kljub temu, sta se kmalu
zatem poročila.
zatem poročila.
07:57
SB: The story that stayed with me the most
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SB: Zgodba, ki se me je najbolj dotaknila,
07:59
was that of George, the photography club
president, and his wife, Mary.
president, and his wife, Mary.
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je bila Georgova, predsednika
fotografskega kluba, in njegove žene Mary.
fotografskega kluba, in njegove žene Mary.
08:04
This was George and Mary's
second marriage.
second marriage.
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To je bil njun drugi zakon.
08:07
They met at a country-western club
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
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Spoznala sta se v podeželskem klubu
Sahara, v Louisvillu, v Kentuckyiju.
Sahara, v Louisvillu, v Kentuckyiju.
08:12
He was there alone drinking
and she was with friends.
and she was with friends.
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On je pil sam,
ona pa je bila s prijatelji.
ona pa je bila s prijatelji.
08:16
When they started dating,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
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Ko sta začela hoditi, je državi
dolgoval 9.000 dolarjev davkov.
dolgoval 9.000 dolarjev davkov.
08:21
and she offered to help him
get out of debt,
get out of debt,
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Ona je ponudila njeno pomoč
pri izplačilu dolga.
pri izplačilu dolga.
08:24
so for the next year, he turned
his paychecks over to Mary,
his paychecks over to Mary,
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V naslednjih letih, je svojo plačo
predajal Mary,
predajal Mary,
08:28
and she got him out of debt.
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in ona ga je rešila dolga.
08:30
George was actually an alcoholic
when they married, and Mary knew it.
when they married, and Mary knew it.
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George je bil alkoholik, ko sta se
poročila in Mary je to vedela.
poročila in Mary je to vedela.
08:35
At some point in their marriage,
he says he consumed
he says he consumed
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V določenem trenutku njunega zakona,
je imel navado spiti
je imel navado spiti
08:38
54 beers in one day.
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54 piv na dan.
08:41
Another time, when he was drunk,
he threatened to kill Mary
he threatened to kill Mary
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Spet drugič, ko je bil pijan,
je zagrozil, da bo ubil Mary
je zagrozil, da bo ubil Mary
08:44
and her two kids,
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in njuna otroka,
08:45
but they escaped and a SWAT team
was called to the house.
was called to the house.
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vendar jim je uspelo zbežati in posebna
policijska enota je prišla na njun dom.
policijska enota je prišla na njun dom.
08:50
Amazingly, Mary took him back,
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Presenetljivo je Mary moža sprejela nazaj
08:52
and eventually things got better.
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in sčasoma so se stvari obrnile na bolje.
08:54
George has been involved
in Alcoholics Anonymous
in Alcoholics Anonymous
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George se je vključil v društvo
anonimnih alkoholikov
anonimnih alkoholikov
08:57
and hasn't had a drink in 36 years.
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in ni pil alkohola že 36 let.
09:00
(Music)
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(Glasba)
09:01
At the end of the day,
after we left Sun City,
after we left Sun City,
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Na koncu dneva, ko sva zapustila Sun City,
09:04
I told Alec that I didn't actually think
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sem Alecu rekla, da si nisem pričakovala,
09:06
that the stories of how these couples met
were all that interesting.
were all that interesting.
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da bodo zgodbe o tem, kako so
se pari srečali, tako zanimive.
se pari srečali, tako zanimive.
09:10
What was more interesting
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Kar je bilo še bolj zanimivo,
09:12
was how they managed to stay together.
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je bilo to, kako jim je uspelo
ostati skupaj.
ostati skupaj.
09:16
AS: They all had this beautiful
quality of endurance,
quality of endurance,
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AS: Vsi so bili čudovito vzdržljivi,
09:20
but that was true of the singles, too.
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a to je veljalo tudi za samske.
09:23
The world is hard,
and the singles were out there
and the singles were out there
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Življenje je težko in samski
09:26
trying to connect with other people,
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se poskušajo povezovati z drugimi ljudmi,
09:29
and the couples
were holding onto each other
were holding onto each other
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medtem ko pari držijo skupaj
09:31
after all these decades.
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po dolgih desetletjih.
09:35
My favorite pictures on this trip
were of Joe and Roseanne.
were of Joe and Roseanne.
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Moja najljubša fotografija tega potovanja
je bila slika Joe-a in Roseanne.
je bila slika Joe-a in Roseanne.
09:39
Now, by the time we met Joe and Roseanne,
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Ko sva ju spoznala,
09:41
we'd gotten in the habit of asking couples
if they had an old wedding photograph.
if they had an old wedding photograph.
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sva se že navadila, da vsak par vprašava
ali imata kako staro poročno fotografijo.
ali imata kako staro poročno fotografijo.
09:46
In their case, they simultaneously
pulled out of their wallets
pulled out of their wallets
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V njihovem primeru, sta oba istočasno
vzela iz denarnice
vzela iz denarnice
09:51
the exact same photograph.
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dve enaki fotografiji.
09:56
What's more beautiful,
I thought to myself,
I thought to myself,
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Kaj je lepše,sem pomislil,
09:59
this image of a young couple
who has just fallen in love
who has just fallen in love
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ta slika mladega para,
ki se je ravnokar zaljubil,
ki se je ravnokar zaljubil,
10:03
or the idea of these two people
holding onto this image for decades?
holding onto this image for decades?
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ali ideja, da se dva
držita te slike za desetletja?
držita te slike za desetletja?
10:10
Thank you.
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Hvala.
10:12
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKERS
Stacey Baker - Photo editorStacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine.
Why you should listen
Stacey Baker is a photo editor at The New York Times Magazine. She assigns and produces photography for the weekly publication on topics as varied as sports, politics, religion and pop culture. She works with an array of photographers from all over the world, including photojournalists and portrait, fine-art and conceptual photographers. These include Alec Soth, Damon Winter, Lars Tunbjork, Stephanie Sinclair, Nadav Kander and Katy Grannan. She is a former director of photography at More Magazine.
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Alec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America.
Why you should listen
Alec Soth is a photographer born and based in Minnesota. He has published several books, including Sleeping by the Mississippi, Niagara and Broken Manual. The New York Times once wrote that Soth has made a "photographic career out of finding chemistry with strangers." His editorial work routinely appears in The New York Times Magazine, he is a member of the Magnum photo agency, and his work was featured in the Whitney Biennial in 2004.
In 2008, Soth started his own experimental publishing company, Little Brown Mushroom, that explores the possibilities of combining images and text. After publishing seven issues of his own newspaper, Soth compiled this work into his latest monograph, Songbook.
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