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Michele L. Sullivan: Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness
Mišel L. Salivan (Michele L. Sullivan): Traženje pomoći je snaga, a ne slabost
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Svi mi prolazimo kroz izazove - neke možete da vidite, većinu ne možete, kaže Mišel L. Salivan. U razgovoru o perspektivi, Salivan deli sa nama priče ispunjene duhovitošću i mudrošću, i podseća nas da smo svi mi deo međusobnih sistema podrške. "Jedina koža u kojoj možete da živite je vaša", kaže. "Saosećajno, hrabro i s razumevanjem možemo da hodamo zajedno, rame uz rame."
Michele L. Sullivan - Social innovator
Michele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing. Full bio
Michele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing. Full bio
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00:12
We all have milestones in life
that we remember so vividly.
that we remember so vividly.
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Svi imamo prekretnice u životu
kojih se jasno sećamo.
kojih se jasno sećamo.
00:17
The first one for me
was when I was entering kindergarten.
was when I was entering kindergarten.
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Prva koje se sećam
je kad sam krenula u vrtić.
je kad sam krenula u vrtić.
00:20
My big brother was in school,
and by golly, it was my time.
and by golly, it was my time.
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Moj stariji brat je išao u školu
i, sto mu muka, ja sam bila na redu.
i, sto mu muka, ja sam bila na redu.
00:25
And I went trottin' down that hallway.
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Kasala sam niz hodnik.
00:27
I was so excited, I almost wet myself.
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Toliko sam bila uzbuđena,
da sam se skoro upiškila.
da sam se skoro upiškila.
00:30
And I go to the door,
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I došla sam do vrata,
00:32
and there was the teacher
with a warm welcome,
with a warm welcome,
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a tu je bila vaspitačica
sa toplom dobrodošlicom
sa toplom dobrodošlicom
00:34
and she took me into the classroom,
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i uvela me je u učionicu,
00:36
showed me my little cubbyhole --
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pokazala mi moj ormarić -
00:38
we all remember those
little cubbyholes, don't we --
little cubbyholes, don't we --
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svi se sećamo ormarića, zar ne -
00:41
and we put our stuff in there.
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odložili smo stvari u njega.
00:43
And then she said, "Go over to the circle
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A onda je rekla: "Pođi do kruga
00:45
and play with the kids
until class starts."
until class starts."
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i igraj se sa decom dok čas počne."
00:48
So I went over there
and plopped down like I owned the place,
and plopped down like I owned the place,
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Pa sam krenula tamo
i bacila sam se kao da vladam tim mestom,
i bacila sam se kao da vladam tim mestom,
00:51
and I'm playing,
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igrala sam se
00:53
and all of a sudden, the boy next to me,
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i iznenada, dečak pored mene,
00:55
he was wearing a white shirt
with blue shorts.
with blue shorts.
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nosio je belu majicu i plavi šorts.
00:58
I remember it like it was yesterday.
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Sećam se kao da je juče bilo.
01:00
Suddenly he stopped playing and he said,
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Iznenada je prestao da se igra i upitao:
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"Why are you so short?"
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"Zašto si tako niska?"
A ja sam nastavila da se igram,
nisam mislila da se meni obraća.
nisam mislila da se meni obraća.
01:05
And I just kept playing.
I didn't think he was talking to me.
I didn't think he was talking to me.
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01:08
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:09
And in a louder voice, he said,
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Glasnije je upitao:
01:11
"Hey, why are you so short?"
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"Hej, zašto si tako niska?"
01:14
So I looked up and I said,
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Uspravila sam pogled i rekla:
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"What are you talking about?
Let's just play. We're happy.
Let's just play. We're happy.
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"O čemu pričaš?
Samo se igrajmo. Srećni smo.
Samo se igrajmo. Srećni smo.
01:19
I've been waiting for this."
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Čekala sam ovo."
01:21
And so we played,
and about a minute later,
and about a minute later,
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Pa smo se igrali i, oko minut kasnije,
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the girl next to him,
in a white shirt and a pink skirt,
in a white shirt and a pink skirt,
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devojčica pored njega,
u beloj majici i rozoj suknji,
u beloj majici i rozoj suknji,
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stood up, put her hands on her hips,
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ustala je, stavila ruke na kukove
01:29
and said, "Yeah,
why do you look so different?"
why do you look so different?"
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i rekla: "Da, zašto izgledaš
toliko drugačije?"
toliko drugačije?"
01:33
And I went, "What are you talking about?
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A ja ću na to: "O čemu pričaš?
01:36
I don't look different. I'm not short.
Again, let's just play."
Again, let's just play."
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Ne izgledam različito. Nisam niska.
Opet, hajde da se igramo."
Opet, hajde da se igramo."
01:40
About this time, I looked
all around the circle I was in,
all around the circle I was in,
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Tog momenta sam pogledala
širom kruga u kom sam bila,
širom kruga u kom sam bila,
01:44
and all the kids had stopped playing
and they were all looking at me.
and they were all looking at me.
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sva deca su prestala da se igraju
i svi su gledali u mene.
i svi su gledali u mene.
01:48
And I'm thinking --
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A ja sam mislila -
01:49
in today's language,
it would be "OMG" or "WTF."
it would be "OMG" or "WTF."
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današnjim jezikom rečeno "brt" ili "jbt".
01:53
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:57
What just happened?
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Šta se upravo desilo?
02:00
So all the confidence
that I went in with that morning
that I went in with that morning
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Dakle, sve samopouzdanje
s kojim sam tog jutra ušla
s kojim sam tog jutra ušla
02:03
was withering away as the morning went on
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je venulo kako je jutro proticalo,
02:07
and the questions kept coming.
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a pitanja su se nastavila.
02:09
And at the end of the morning,
before I went home,
before I went home,
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A po završetku jutra,
pre nego što sam krenula kući,
pre nego što sam krenula kući,
02:12
the teacher had us in a circle,
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vaspitačica nas je poređala u krug,
02:14
and I actually found myself
outside of the circle.
outside of the circle.
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a ja sam se zapravo zatekla van kruga.
Nisam mogla nikoga da gledam.
02:16
I couldn't look at anybody.
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02:18
I could not understand what just happened.
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Nisam mogla da razumem
šta se upravo desilo.
šta se upravo desilo.
02:22
And over the next few years,
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A tokom narednih nekoliko godina,
02:23
I hated to go out in public.
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mrzela sam da izlazim u javnost.
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I felt every stare, every giggle,
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Osećala sam svaki pogled, svako kikotanje,
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every pointed finger,
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svaki uperen prst,
02:30
not the finger,
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ne srednji prst,
02:32
but every pointed finger,
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već svaki uperen prst
02:34
and I hated it.
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i mrzela sam to.
02:35
I would hide behind my parents' legs
like nobody could see me.
like nobody could see me.
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Skrivala bih se iza nogu mojih roditelja
da me niko ne bi video.
da me niko ne bi video.
02:39
And as a child,
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A kao dete,
02:40
you can't understand
another child's curiosity,
another child's curiosity,
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ne možete da razumete
radoznalost drugog deteta,
radoznalost drugog deteta,
02:43
nor an adult's ignorance.
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niti neznanje odrasle osobe.
02:46
It became very apparent to me
that the real world was not built
that the real world was not built
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Postalo mi je očigledno
da stvaran svet nije izgrađen
da stvaran svet nije izgrađen
02:51
for someone of my size,
both literally or figuratively.
both literally or figuratively.
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za nekoga moje veličine,
bukvalno i figurativno.
bukvalno i figurativno.
02:56
And so I have no anonymity,
as you can probably tell,
as you can probably tell,
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Stoga nemam anonimnost,
kao što verovatno vidite,
kao što verovatno vidite,
03:01
and while you can see my size,
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i dok vidite moju veličinu,
03:03
we all go through many challenges
through our lifetime.
through our lifetime.
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svi prolazimo kroz mnoge izazove
tokom našeg života.
tokom našeg života.
03:07
And some you can see, like mine.
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A neke možete da vidite, poput mog.
03:10
Most you can't.
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Većinu ne možete.
03:11
You can't tell if someone's dealing
with a mental illness,
with a mental illness,
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Ne možete videti da li se neko nosi
sa mentalnom bolešću
sa mentalnom bolešću
03:16
or they're struggling
with their gender identity,
with their gender identity,
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ili se bori sa rodnim identitetom,
03:19
they're caring for an aging parent,
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da li brine za ostarelog roditelja,
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they're having financial difficulty.
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da li ima finansijske poteškoće.
03:23
You can't see that kind of stuff.
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Ne vidite te stvari.
03:26
So while you can see
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Pa, dok možete da vidite
03:28
one of my challenges is my size,
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da je jedan od mojih izazova moja visina,
03:31
seeing does not mean you understand
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to što vidite, ne znači da razumete
03:33
what it's truly to be me on a daily basis,
or what I go through.
or what I go through.
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kako je to uistinu biti ja svakodnevno
ili kroz šta prolazim.
ili kroz šta prolazim.
03:38
And so I'm here to debunk a myth.
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Stoga sam ovde da opovrgnem mit.
03:40
I do not believe you can
walk in someone else's shoes,
walk in someone else's shoes,
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Ne verujem da možete
da budete u tuđoj koži
da budete u tuđoj koži
03:45
and because of that, we must adopt
a new way of giving of ourselves.
a new way of giving of ourselves.
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i zbog toga moramo da usvojimo
novi vid pomaganja.
novi vid pomaganja.
03:49
Simply stated, I will never know
what it's like to be you
what it's like to be you
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Prosto rečeno, nikada neću znati
kako je to biti vi,
kako je to biti vi,
03:53
and you will never know
what it's like to be me.
what it's like to be me.
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a vi nikada nećete znati kako je biti ja.
Ne mogu da se suočim s vašim strahovima
ili da jurim vaše snove,
ili da jurim vaše snove,
03:56
I cannot face your fears
or chase your dreams,
or chase your dreams,
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03:59
and you can't do that for me,
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a vi to ne možete da uradite za mene,
04:01
but we can be supportive of each other.
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ali možemo da podržavamo jedni druge.
04:04
Instead of trying to walk
in each other's shoes,
in each other's shoes,
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Umesto da pokušavamo
da uđemo u tuđu kožu,
da uđemo u tuđu kožu,
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we must adopt a new way
of giving of ourselves.
of giving of ourselves.
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moramo da usvojimo novi vid pomaganja.
04:11
I learned at an early age
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U ranom uzrastu sam naučila
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that I did have to do some things
different than most people,
different than most people,
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da moram da radim neke stvari
drugačije od većine ljudi,
drugačije od većine ljudi,
04:17
but I also learned there were things
I was on equal footing with,
I was on equal footing with,
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ali sam takođe naučila da postoje stvari
gde sam na ravnoj nozi s drugima
gde sam na ravnoj nozi s drugima
04:20
and one of those was the classroom.
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a jedna od njih je bila učionica.
04:22
Heh, heh, heh. I was equal.
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Eh, eh, eh. Bila sam jednaka.
04:25
As a matter of fact,
I excelled in the classroom.
I excelled in the classroom.
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Zapravo, blistala sam u učionici.
04:28
This was vitally important,
I discovered as I grew older
I discovered as I grew older
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Ovo je bilo od vitalnog značaja,
otkrila sam kako sam starila
otkrila sam kako sam starila
04:32
and realized I wasn't going to be able
to do a physical job.
to do a physical job.
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i shvatila sam da neću moći
da se bavim fizičkim radom.
da se bavim fizičkim radom.
04:35
I needed an education.
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Bilo mi je potrebno obrazovanje.
04:38
So I went on and got a university degree,
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Pa sam se upisala
na univerzitet i diplomirala,
na univerzitet i diplomirala,
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but I felt to be one step ahead
of everyone for employment,
of everyone for employment,
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ali sam osećala da bih bila
korak ispred svih pri zapošljavanju
korak ispred svih pri zapošljavanju
04:45
I needed to have
an advanced university degree,
an advanced university degree,
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da moram da imam
fakultetsku specijalizaciju,
fakultetsku specijalizaciju,
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so I went ahead and got that.
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pa sam i to stekla.
04:49
Now I'm ready for my interview.
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Sad sam spremna za razgovor za posao.
04:51
Remember your first interview?
What am I going to wear?
What am I going to wear?
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Sećate li se svog prvog razgovora?
Šta da obučem?
Šta da obučem?
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What questions?
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Koja pitanja?
04:55
And don't forget that firm handshake.
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I ne zaboravite taj čvrsti stisak.
04:58
I was right there with you.
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Potpuno sam vas razumela.
04:59
So 24 hours before my interview,
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Pa, 24 sata pre razgovora za posao,
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a friend of mine
who I've known all my life
who I've known all my life
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moja prijateljica, koju znam čitav život,
05:04
called and said, "Michele,
the building you're going in has steps."
the building you're going in has steps."
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me je nazvala i rekla: "Mišel,
zgrada u koju ideš, ima stepenice."
zgrada u koju ideš, ima stepenice."
Znala je da ne mogu
da se penjem uza stepenice.
da se penjem uza stepenice.
05:08
And she knew I couldn't climb steps.
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05:10
So suddenly, my focus changed.
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Pa se iznenada moja pažnja preusmerila.
05:12
In my shoes, I was worried
about how am I going to get there?
about how am I going to get there?
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U mojoj koži, bila sam zabrinuta
kako da stignem tamo?
kako da stignem tamo?
05:17
So I went early and found a loading dock
and got in and had a great interview.
and got in and had a great interview.
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Pa sam otišla ranije i našla magacin
i ušla unutra i imala sjajan intervju.
i ušla unutra i imala sjajan intervju.
05:22
They had no idea what I went through
for the day and that's OK.
for the day and that's OK.
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Pojma nisu imali kroz šta sam prošla
tog dana, i to je u redu.
tog dana, i to je u redu.
05:26
You're probably thinking my greatest
challenge that day was the interview,
challenge that day was the interview,
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Verovatno mislite da je moj najveći
izazov tog dana bio razgovor
izazov tog dana bio razgovor
05:30
or getting in the building.
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ili stizanje u zgradu.
05:31
In reality, my biggest challenge that day
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U stvarnosti, moj najveći izazov tog dana
05:34
was getting through the loading dock
without getting run over.
without getting run over.
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je bio prolazak kroz magacin,
a da me ne pregaze.
a da me ne pregaze.
05:38
I am very vulnerable
in certain situations:
in certain situations:
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Veoma sam ranjiva u određenim situacijama:
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airports, hallways, parking lots,
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aerodromi, hodnici, parkinzi,
05:46
loading docks.
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magacini.
05:48
And so I have to be very careful.
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Te moram da budem veoma pažljiva.
05:50
I have to anticipate and be flexible
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Moram da predviđam i da budem fleksibilna
05:53
and move as quickly as I can sometimes.
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i da se ponekad krećem što brže mogu.
05:56
So I got the job,
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Dakle, dobila sam posao
05:58
and in my current role
I travel quite a bit.
I travel quite a bit.
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i moja trenutna uloga
zahteva da putujem poprilično.
zahteva da putujem poprilično.
06:01
And travel is a challenge
for all of us these days.
for all of us these days.
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A putovanje je ovih dana
izazov za sve nas.
izazov za sve nas.
06:05
And so you probably get to the airport,
run through security, get to the gate.
run through security, get to the gate.
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Vi verovatno stignete na aerodrom, prođete
kroz obezbeđenje, stignete do izlaza.
kroz obezbeđenje, stignete do izlaza.
06:09
Did I get my aisle seat or my window seat?
Did I get my upgrade?
Did I get my upgrade?
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Da li sam dobila mesto do prolaza
ili prozora? Da li sam u prvoj klasi?
ili prozora? Da li sam u prvoj klasi?
06:14
Me, first of all,
I don't run through anything.
I don't run through anything.
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Ja, pre svega, ja ne jurim nikuda.
06:16
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
06:17
And I especially don't run through the TSA
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A naročito ne jurim kroz TBA
06:19
because I get to experience
the personal patdown.
the personal patdown.
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jer meni sleduje iskustvo
ličnog pretraživanja.
ličnog pretraživanja.
06:23
I won't comment on that.
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Neću to da komentarišem.
06:25
And then I make my way to the gate,
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A onda se proguram do kapije
06:27
and with my gift of gab
that my parents said I was born with,
that my parents said I was born with,
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i uz pomoć brbljivosti,
moji roditelji kažu da sam rođena s tim,
moji roditelji kažu da sam rođena s tim,
06:31
I talk to the gate agent, and then I say,
"By the way, my scooter weighs this much,
"By the way, my scooter weighs this much,
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razgovaram s agentom na kapiji i kažem:
"Usput, moj skuter je težak toliko,
"Usput, moj skuter je težak toliko,
06:35
I have a dry cell battery,
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imam akumulator na suvo punjenje
06:37
and I can drive it down
to the door of the plane."
to the door of the plane."
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i mogu da se odvezem do vrata aviona."
06:40
Also, the day before, I had called
the city where I'm traveling to
the city where I'm traveling to
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Takođe, dan ranije sam morala
da nazovem grad u koji putujem
da nazovem grad u koji putujem
06:44
to find out where I could rent a scooter
in case mine gets broken on the way.
in case mine gets broken on the way.
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kako bih otkrila gde mogu da iznajmim
skuter, ako se moj usput pokvari.
skuter, ako se moj usput pokvari.
06:49
So in my shoes,
it's a little bit different.
it's a little bit different.
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Dakle, u mojoj koži je malčice drugačije.
06:52
When I get onto the plane,
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Kad se ukrcam na avion,
06:53
I use my gift of gab to ask the lady
to put my bag up, and they graciously do.
to put my bag up, and they graciously do.
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svojim darom brbljanja zamolim damu
da mi podigne torbu, i one to rado čine.
da mi podigne torbu, i one to rado čine.
Trudim se da ne jedem i ne pijem u avionu
06:58
I try not to eat or drink on a plane
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07:00
because I don't want to have to
get up and walk on the plane,
get up and walk on the plane,
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jer ne želim da ustajem i hodam u avionu,
ali priroda ima sopstveni raspored
07:03
but nature has its own schedule,
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07:05
and not long ago,
it knocked and I answered.
it knocked and I answered.
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i ne tako davno
je pokucala, a ja sam se javila.
je pokucala, a ja sam se javila.
07:07
So I walked up to the front of the plane
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Dakle, odšetala sam do pročelja aviona
07:10
and gabbed with the flight attendant,
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i brbljala sa stjuardesom
07:12
and said, "Can you watch the door?
I can't reach the lock."
I can't reach the lock."
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i zamolila: "Možeš li da pripaziš vrata?
Ne mogu da dohvatim ključ."
Ne mogu da dohvatim ključ."
07:16
So I'm in there doing my business,
and the door flies open.
and the door flies open.
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Tako, unutra sam, obavljam svoj posao,
a vrata se širom otvaraju.
a vrata se širom otvaraju.
07:20
And there's a gentleman there
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I tu stoji gospodin
07:22
with a look of horror on his face.
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s izrazom užasavanja na licu.
07:25
I'm sure I had the same look.
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Sigurno sam i ja imala isti.
07:27
As I came out, I noticed
that he was sitting right across from me,
that he was sitting right across from me,
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Kako sam izlazila, primetila sam
da sedi tačno preko puta mene
da sedi tačno preko puta mene
07:33
and he's in total, complete embarrassment.
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i potpuno, kompletno ga je sramota.
07:37
So I walk up to him and I quietly go,
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Pa mu prilazim i tiho kažem:
07:39
"Are you going to remember this
as much as I am?"
as much as I am?"
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"Hoćeš li da pamtiš ovo koliko i ja?"
07:42
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:48
And he goes, "I think so."
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A on će: "Verujem da hoću."
07:50
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:51
Now, while he's probably
not talking about it publicly, I am.
not talking about it publicly, I am.
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Sad, dok on verovatno
ne govori javno o tome, ja govorim.
ne govori javno o tome, ja govorim.
07:55
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:56
But we talked for the rest of the flight,
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Međutim, razgovarali smo ostatak leta
07:59
and we got to know each other,
our families, sports, work,
our families, sports, work,
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i upoznali smo se,
naše porodice, sport, posao
naše porodice, sport, posao
08:03
and when we landed, he said,
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i kad smo sleteli, rekao je:
"Mišel, primetio sam
da ti je neko podigao torbu.
da ti je neko podigao torbu.
08:05
"Michele, I noticed
someone put your bag up.
someone put your bag up.
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08:07
Can I get that for you?"
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Mogu li da ti je spustim?"
08:08
And I said, "Of course, thank you."
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A ja sam rekla: "Naravno, hvala ti."
08:11
And we wished each other well,
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I poželeli smo jedno drugom sreću,
08:13
and the most important thing that day
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a najvažnije tog dana
08:15
was that he was not going to leave
with that embarrassment,
with that embarrassment,
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je da on nije otišao sa posramljenošću,
08:19
that experience of embarrassment.
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tim iskustvom sramote.
08:21
He won't forget it, and neither will I,
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Neće to zaboraviti, a neću ni ja,
08:24
but I think he will remember more
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ali mislim da će se više sećati
08:26
our chat and our different perspectives.
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našeg razgovora
i naših različitih perspektiva.
i naših različitih perspektiva.
08:30
When you travel internationally,
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Kada putujete u inostranstvo,
08:32
it can be even more challenging
in certain ways.
in certain ways.
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na neki način može da bude
još veći izazov.
još veći izazov.
08:34
A few years ago, I was in Zanzibar,
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Pre nekoliko godina sam bila u Zanzibaru
08:37
and I come wheeling in,
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i došla sam u kolicima,
08:39
and think about that.
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zamislite to.
08:41
Short, white, blond woman in a chair.
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Niska, bela, plavuša u kolicima.
08:45
That doesn't probably happen every day.
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To se verovatno ne dešava svaki dan.
08:49
So I go up, and with my gift of gab,
I start to talk to the agent.
I start to talk to the agent.
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Pa sam ustala i darom za brbljanje
sam počela da razgovaram s agentom.
sam počela da razgovaram s agentom.
08:52
So friendly, and I ask
about their culture and so forth,
about their culture and so forth,
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Prijateljski, i pitala sam
o njihovoj kulturi i tako dalje,
o njihovoj kulturi i tako dalje,
08:56
and I notice there wasn't a jet bridge.
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i primetila sam da nema avio-mosta.
08:59
So I had to kind of say,
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Pa sam morala da kažem nešto kao:
"Ne samo da ćeš morati
da podigneš moja kolica,
da podigneš moja kolica,
09:01
"Not only do you have to lift my chair,
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09:03
I could use some help
getting up the steps."
getting up the steps."
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trebala bi mi pomoć
pri penjanju stepenicama."
pri penjanju stepenicama."
09:05
So we got to spend about an hour together
while we waited for the flight,
while we waited for the flight,
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Pa smo proveli oko sat vremena
zajedno, čekajući let
zajedno, čekajući let
09:09
and it was the most magnificent hour.
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i to je bio najčarobniji sat.
09:11
Our perspective changed
for both of us that day.
for both of us that day.
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Perspektive nas oboje
su se promenile tog dana.
su se promenile tog dana.
09:15
And once I got on the flight,
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I kad sam se ukrcala na let,
09:16
he patted me on the back
and wished me well,
and wished me well,
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potapšao me je po leđima
i poželeo mi sreću,
i poželeo mi sreću,
09:19
and I thanked him so much.
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a ja sam mu od srca zahvalila.
09:21
And again, I think he's going
to remember that experience more
to remember that experience more
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I, opet, smatram da će se
tog iskustva pre setiti
tog iskustva pre setiti
09:26
than when I first came in,
and there was a bit of hesitation.
and there was a bit of hesitation.
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nego kad sam prvi put ušla,
i osećalo se oklevanje.
i osećalo se oklevanje.
09:31
And as you notice, I get a lot of help.
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I, kao što primećujete,
stalno dobijam pomoć.
stalno dobijam pomoć.
09:33
I would not be where I am today
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Ne bih bila tu gde sam danas
09:35
if it was not for my family,
my friends, my colleagues
my friends, my colleagues
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da nije bilo moje porodice,
mojih prijatelja, mojih kolega
mojih prijatelja, mojih kolega
09:40
and the many strangers
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i mnogih stranaca
09:41
that help me every single day of my life.
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koji su mi pomagali
svakog dana mog života.
svakog dana mog života.
09:46
And it's important
that we all have a support system.
that we all have a support system.
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I važno je da svi mi imamo sistem podrške.
09:49
Asking for help is a strength,
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Traženje pomoći je snaga,
09:52
not a weakness.
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a ne slabost.
09:53
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
10:00
We all need help throughout our lifetime,
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Svima nam je potrebna pomoć u životu,
10:03
but it is just as important
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ali je podjednako važno
10:06
that we are part
of other people's support systems.
of other people's support systems.
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da budemo deo
sistema podrške drugih ljudi.
sistema podrške drugih ljudi.
10:09
We must adopt that way of giving back.
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Moramo da usvojimo uzvraćanje.
10:12
We all obviously have a role to play
in our own successes,
in our own successes,
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Svi mi očigledno imamo ulogu
u sopstvenom uspehu,
u sopstvenom uspehu,
10:17
but think about the role we have to play
in other people's successes,
in other people's successes,
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ali razmislite o našoj ulozi
u tuđem uspehu,
u tuđem uspehu,
10:21
just like people do for me
every single day.
every single day.
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baš kao što meni ljudi pomažu
svakog dana.
svakog dana.
10:26
It's vitally important
that we help each other,
that we help each other,
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Izuzetno je važno
da pomažemo jedni drugima
da pomažemo jedni drugima
10:29
because society is increasingly
placing people in silos
placing people in silos
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jer društvo sve češće
ljude smešta u kategorije
ljude smešta u kategorije
10:36
based on biases and ideologies.
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zasnovane na predrasudama i ideologijama.
10:39
And we must look past the surface
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Te mi moramo da gledamo mimo površnosti
10:43
and be confronted with the truth
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i da se suočimo sa istinom
10:45
that none of us are what you can see.
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da niko od nas nije ono što vidite.
10:48
There's more to us than that,
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Svi mi smo mnogo više od toga
10:50
and we're all dealing with things
that you cannot see.
that you cannot see.
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i svi se mi borimo sa stvarima
koje ne možete da vidite.
koje ne možete da vidite.
10:55
So living a life free of judgment
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Zato život oslobođen osuđivanja
10:58
allows all of us to share
those experiences together
those experiences together
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omogućava nam da delimo
zajedno ova iskustva
zajedno ova iskustva
11:02
and have a totally different perspective,
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i da imamo potpuno drugačiju perspektivu,
11:05
just like the couple of people
I mentioned earlier in my stories.
I mentioned earlier in my stories.
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baš kao nekoliko ljudi iz mojih priča,
koje sam ranije pomenula.
koje sam ranije pomenula.
11:11
So remember, the only shoes
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Zato upamtite, jedina koža
11:13
you truly can walk in are your own.
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u kojoj zaista možete da živite je vaša.
11:16
I cannot walk in yours.
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Ne mogu da živim u vašoj.
11:19
I know you can't walk in my size 1s --
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Znam da vi ne možete stati u moju -
11:22
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
11:23
but you can try.
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ali možete da pokušate.
11:26
But we can do something better than that.
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No možemo nešto bolje od toga.
11:28
With compassion,
courage and understanding,
courage and understanding,
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Uz saosećanje, hrabrost i razumevanje,
11:32
we can walk side by side
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možemo da hodamo rame uz rame
11:35
and support one another,
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i da podržavamo jedni druge,
11:37
and think about how society can change
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i pomislite kako bi se društvo promenilo,
11:40
if we all do that
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kad bismo svi tako radili,
11:41
instead of judging
on only what you can see.
on only what you can see.
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umesto osuda zasnovanih
samo na onom što vidite.
samo na onom što vidite.
11:45
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
11:47
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
11:52
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Michele L. Sullivan - Social innovatorMichele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing.
Why you should listen
Michele L. Sullivan has held various globally influential leadership positions at Caterpillar during her 29-year career. She currently is Caterpillar's Director of Corporate Social Innovation and President of the Caterpillar Foundation, the philanthropic arm of Caterpillar Inc.
Throughout Sullivan's career, she has dramatically grown the reach, influence and impact of each role. Her time with the Caterpillar Foundation is no different. She has taken the Caterpillar Foundation from a transactional Foundation into a global and strategic Foundation. She has moved the Foundation from Corporate Social Responsibility into Corporate Social Innovation. This strategy places the human need first, not as an afterthought of profit. Sullivan is well known for her global expertise and sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing.
Sullivan strongly believes monumental and sustainable change in our largest global challenges can only happen through partnerships and collaboration between public, private and non-profit entities. This strategy resulted in the Caterpillar Foundation's transformation into one of the most influential corporate foundations and, ultimately, the launch of the Foundation's collaborative impact platform, Together.Stronger.
Determination and resilience have been present throughout Sullivan;s life. She endured many years of orthopedic surgeries and other challenges. She provided leadership starting in the Little Prairie Chapter of Little People of America as a teenager. She was named by Inside Philanthropy as one of the 50 most powerful women in philanthropy and she served as a US delegate to the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women. She is a member of the ONE board of directors and chairs the Greater Peoria Local Initiatives Support Corporation (LISC) Advisory Board. She earned her MBA from Bradley University, and she is the first woman to be President of the Caterpillar Foundation.
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