TEDWomen 2016
Michele L. Sullivan: Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness
米歇尔 L. 苏利文: 寻求帮助是一种优势，不是弱点。
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我们都会经历一些挑战 ——一些你能看到，大多数你看不到，米歇尔·苏利文如是说。在一个关于视角的演讲中，苏利文讲述了一些充满智慧的故事，提醒我们所有人都是每个人的支持系统中的一员。“你只能完全理解你自己的感受，”她说，“拥有同情心，勇气和理解，我们可以肩并肩一起走。”
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00:12
We all have milestones in life
that we remember so vividly.
that we remember so vividly.
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我们的生命中都有难以忘怀的
具有里程碑意义的时刻。
具有里程碑意义的时刻。
我的第一个里程碑是
刚进幼儿园的时候。
刚进幼儿园的时候。
00:17
The first one for me
was when I was entering kindergarten.
was when I was entering kindergarten.
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我的哥哥在学校里，
我的天，那就是我的时代。
我的天，那就是我的时代。
00:20
My big brother was in school,
and by golly, it was my time.
and by golly, it was my time.
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00:25
And I went trottin' down that hallway.
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我在走廊里一路小跑，
激动得差点尿裤子。
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I was so excited, I almost wet myself.
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00:30
And I go to the door,
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然后我到了门口，
有个老师站在那里热情地欢迎我，
00:32
and there was the teacher
with a warm welcome,
with a warm welcome,
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她带我去了教室，
00:34
and she took me into the classroom,
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带我看了我的小储藏柜 ——
00:36
showed me my little cubbyhole --
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大家都记得那些小储藏柜吧 ——
00:38
we all remember those
little cubbyholes, don't we --
little cubbyholes, don't we --
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然后我们把自己的东西放在那里。
00:41
and we put our stuff in there.
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00:43
And then she said, "Go over to the circle
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接着她说，“在上课前，
去那边跟其他小朋友一起玩吧。”
00:45
and play with the kids
until class starts."
until class starts."
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00:48
So I went over there
and plopped down like I owned the place,
and plopped down like I owned the place,
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于是我走过去，一屁股坐下来，
就像这是我的地盘一样，
就像这是我的地盘一样，
我正在专心地玩，
00:51
and I'm playing,
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突然，一个坐在旁边的小男孩，
00:53
and all of a sudden, the boy next to me,
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他穿了白色的T恤和蓝色的短裤，
00:55
he was wearing a white shirt
with blue shorts.
with blue shorts.
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我记得非常清楚。
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I remember it like it was yesterday.
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01:00
Suddenly he stopped playing and he said,
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他突然停下了，然后说，
“你为什么这么矮？”
01:03
"Why are you so short?"
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01:05
And I just kept playing.
I didn't think he was talking to me.
I didn't think he was talking to me.
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我仍然自顾自地玩，
没觉得他在跟我说话。
没觉得他在跟我说话。
（笑声）
01:08
(Laughter)
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然后他抬高了声音，
01:09
And in a louder voice, he said,
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“喂，你为什么这么矮？”
01:11
"Hey, why are you so short?"
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01:14
So I looked up and I said,
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我抬头看着他说，
"你在说什么啊接着玩吧。多好玩啊。
01:16
"What are you talking about?
Let's just play. We're happy.
Let's just play. We're happy.
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01:19
I've been waiting for this."
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我一直很期待呐。“
01:21
And so we played,
and about a minute later,
and about a minute later,
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于是我们就接着玩，
过了大概一分钟，
过了大概一分钟，
一个坐在他旁边的女孩，
穿了一件白色的T恤和粉色的裙子，
穿了一件白色的T恤和粉色的裙子，
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the girl next to him,
in a white shirt and a pink skirt,
in a white shirt and a pink skirt,
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站了起来，掐着腰说，
01:27
stood up, put her hands on her hips,
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“对啊，你为什么看起来这么不一样？”
01:29
and said, "Yeah,
why do you look so different?"
why do you look so different?"
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01:33
And I went, "What are you talking about?
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然后我说，“你在说什么啊？
我没有哪里不一样啊，
也不矮啊。接着玩吧。”
也不矮啊。接着玩吧。”
01:36
I don't look different. I'm not short.
Again, let's just play."
Again, let's just play."
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01:40
About this time, I looked
all around the circle I was in,
all around the circle I was in,
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差不多这个时候，
我看了看我在的这个圈子，
我看了看我在的这个圈子，
所有的小朋友都停下了，
不约而同地看着我。
不约而同地看着我。
01:44
and all the kids had stopped playing
and they were all looking at me.
and they were all looking at me.
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01:48
And I'm thinking --
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我在想 ——
用现在的话来说应该是
“我的天”或者“他X的搞什么。”
“我的天”或者“他X的搞什么。”
01:49
in today's language,
it would be "OMG" or "WTF."
it would be "OMG" or "WTF."
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（笑声）
01:53
(Laughter)
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01:57
What just happened?
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刚刚发生了什么？
02:00
So all the confidence
that I went in with that morning
that I went in with that morning
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结果我早上进门前拥有的所有自信，
随着时间的流逝，在各种各样的问题中
02:03
was withering away as the morning went on
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渐渐消失殆尽了。
02:07
and the questions kept coming.
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02:09
And at the end of the morning,
before I went home,
before I went home,
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临近中午，在我回家前，
老师让我们围成一个圈，
02:12
the teacher had us in a circle,
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然后我发现自己在圈外。
02:14
and I actually found myself
outside of the circle.
outside of the circle.
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我没办法看任何一个人。
02:16
I couldn't look at anybody.
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我没法理解刚刚发生了什么。
02:18
I could not understand what just happened.
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02:22
And over the next few years,
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在接下来的几年，
我痛恨去公共场合。
02:23
I hated to go out in public.
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我能感受到每个眼神，每个笑声，
02:26
I felt every stare, every giggle,
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每个指指点点的行为，
02:29
every pointed finger,
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不是手指，
02:30
not the finger,
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是每次的指指点点，
02:32
but every pointed finger,
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我痛恨它们。
02:34
and I hated it.
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我会藏在爸妈的身后，
这样好像就没有人能看到我。
这样好像就没有人能看到我。
02:35
I would hide behind my parents' legs
like nobody could see me.
like nobody could see me.
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02:39
And as a child,
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在孩童时期，
你没办法理解另一个孩子的好奇心，
02:40
you can't understand
another child's curiosity,
another child's curiosity,
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或者是一个成年人的不理睬。
02:43
nor an adult's ignorance.
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02:46
It became very apparent to me
that the real world was not built
that the real world was not built
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我很快就发现这个世界
并不适合我这种体型的人，
并不适合我这种体型的人，
不管是字面上的还是比喻上的。
02:51
for someone of my size,
both literally or figuratively.
both literally or figuratively.
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02:56
And so I have no anonymity,
as you can probably tell,
as you can probably tell,
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我也根本不能隐藏于人群中，
你们可能也看得出来。
你们可能也看得出来。
像你们看到的我的体型，
03:01
and while you can see my size,
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我们在一生中都会
经历各种各样的挑战。
经历各种各样的挑战。
03:03
we all go through many challenges
through our lifetime.
through our lifetime.
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有些是能被看到的，像我这种情况。
03:07
And some you can see, like mine.
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大多数是看不到的。
03:10
Most you can't.
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你没办法知道一个人
是不是在对抗着精神疾病，
是不是在对抗着精神疾病，
03:11
You can't tell if someone's dealing
with a mental illness,
with a mental illness,
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03:16
or they're struggling
with their gender identity,
with their gender identity,
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或者在性取向中挣扎，
在照料一对老去的父母，
03:19
they're caring for an aging parent,
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亦或是有经济困难。
03:21
they're having financial difficulty.
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你看不到这些东西。
03:23
You can't see that kind of stuff.
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03:26
So while you can see
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所以很明显，
我的挑战之一是我的体型，
03:28
one of my challenges is my size,
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但看见并不代表你能理解
03:31
seeing does not mean you understand
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如果你是我会是个什么感受，
或者我经历了什么。
或者我经历了什么。
03:33
what it's truly to be me on a daily basis,
or what I go through.
or what I go through.
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03:38
And so I'm here to debunk a myth.
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所以我要揭露一个秘密。
我不相信你能完完全全
感受到另一个人的感受，
感受到另一个人的感受，
03:40
I do not believe you can
walk in someone else's shoes,
walk in someone else's shoes,
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03:45
and because of that, we must adopt
a new way of giving of ourselves.
a new way of giving of ourselves.
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正因为这一点，我们必须
采纳一种新的付出的方式。
采纳一种新的付出的方式。
简单来说，我永远都不知道
成为你是什么感觉，
成为你是什么感觉，
03:49
Simply stated, I will never know
what it's like to be you
what it's like to be you
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你也永远不会知道
成为我是什么感觉。
成为我是什么感觉。
03:53
and you will never know
what it's like to be me.
what it's like to be me.
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我没办法面对
你的恐惧或者追逐你的梦想，
你的恐惧或者追逐你的梦想，
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I cannot face your fears
or chase your dreams,
or chase your dreams,
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你也不能为我做这些，
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and you can't do that for me,
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但我们可以互相支持。
04:01
but we can be supportive of each other.
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04:04
Instead of trying to walk
in each other's shoes,
in each other's shoes,
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不只是试着理解另一个人的感受，
取而代之的，我们应该
接受一种全新的付出方式。
接受一种全新的付出方式。
04:07
we must adopt a new way
of giving of ourselves.
of giving of ourselves.
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04:11
I learned at an early age
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我从很小的时候就学到
我不需要做跟大多数人
不一样的事情，
不一样的事情，
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that I did have to do some things
different than most people,
different than most people,
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我还学到有很多事情是公平的，
04:17
but I also learned there were things
I was on equal footing with,
I was on equal footing with,
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其中之一就是教室。
04:20
and one of those was the classroom.
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哈哈哈，我是平等的。
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Heh, heh, heh. I was equal.
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04:25
As a matter of fact,
I excelled in the classroom.
I excelled in the classroom.
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实际上，我在学校是尖子生。
这个非常的重要，
在慢慢长大的过程中我发现
在慢慢长大的过程中我发现
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This was vitally important,
I discovered as I grew older
I discovered as I grew older
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并意识到我没办法做体力活，
04:32
and realized I wasn't going to be able
to do a physical job.
to do a physical job.
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我需要教育。
04:35
I needed an education.
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04:38
So I went on and got a university degree,
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所以我接着学习，拿到了大学文凭，
但为了找工作，
我必须要显得比其他人更有优势，
我必须要显得比其他人更有优势，
04:41
but I felt to be one step ahead
of everyone for employment,
of everyone for employment,
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我需要一个高等学历，
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I needed to have
an advanced university degree,
an advanced university degree,
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所以我又拿到了那个。
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so I went ahead and got that.
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现在我为面试做好了准备。
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Now I'm ready for my interview.
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记得你的第一次面试么？ 我要穿什么？
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Remember your first interview?
What am I going to wear?
What am I going to wear?
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会提什么问题？
04:54
What questions?
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别忘了那个适度的握手。
04:55
And don't forget that firm handshake.
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04:58
I was right there with you.
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我跟你们一模一样。
面试前的24个小时，
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So 24 hours before my interview,
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我的一个发小
05:01
a friend of mine
who I've known all my life
who I've known all my life
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打给我说，“米歇尔，
你要面试的楼有台阶。”
你要面试的楼有台阶。”
05:04
called and said, "Michele,
the building you're going in has steps."
the building you're going in has steps."
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她知道我爬不了台阶。
05:08
And she knew I couldn't climb steps.
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于是乎，我的关注重心突然改变了。
05:10
So suddenly, my focus changed.
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05:12
In my shoes, I was worried
about how am I going to get there?
about how am I going to get there?
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在我脑子里，我开始担心
我要怎么到那个地方？
我要怎么到那个地方？
05:17
So I went early and found a loading dock
and got in and had a great interview.
and got in and had a great interview.
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所以我早早地去了，找了一个装车的升降台，
然后进去体验了一个很棒的面试。
然后进去体验了一个很棒的面试。
他们并不知道我那天
经历了什么，但没有关系。
经历了什么，但没有关系。
05:22
They had no idea what I went through
for the day and that's OK.
for the day and that's OK.
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05:26
You're probably thinking my greatest
challenge that day was the interview,
challenge that day was the interview,
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你可能在想我那天
最大的挑战是面试，
最大的挑战是面试，
或者是进入那个楼。
05:30
or getting in the building.
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实际上，我那天最大的挑战是
05:31
In reality, my biggest challenge that day
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从装车升降台上安稳下来不摔跤。
05:34
was getting through the loading dock
without getting run over.
without getting run over.
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05:38
I am very vulnerable
in certain situations:
in certain situations:
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我在一些情况下非常的脆弱：
05:42
airports, hallways, parking lots,
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机场，走廊，停车场，
升降台。
05:46
loading docks.
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05:48
And so I have to be very careful.
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所以我必须非常小心。
我必须有意识而且要很灵活，
05:50
I have to anticipate and be flexible
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有时我动作还要非常快。
05:53
and move as quickly as I can sometimes.
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05:56
So I got the job,
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然后我拿到了那份工作，
在我的职位上我时常要出差。
05:58
and in my current role
I travel quite a bit.
I travel quite a bit.
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出门旅行现在对每个人都是挑战。
06:01
And travel is a challenge
for all of us these days.
for all of us these days.
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06:05
And so you probably get to the airport,
run through security, get to the gate.
run through security, get to the gate.
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你得先跑到机场，
跑过安检，再跑进登机口。
跑过安检，再跑进登机口。
我有没有拿到我的过道座位
或者靠窗座位？他们帮我升舱了么？
或者靠窗座位？他们帮我升舱了么？
06:09
Did I get my aisle seat or my window seat?
Did I get my upgrade?
Did I get my upgrade?
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06:14
Me, first of all,
I don't run through anything.
I don't run through anything.
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对于我来说，第一，我不跑。
（笑声）
06:16
(Laughter)
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我尤其不跑过安检
06:17
And I especially don't run through the TSA
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因为我得经历个人的全身搜查。
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because I get to experience
the personal patdown.
the personal patdown.
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06:23
I won't comment on that.
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我就不评论了。
然后我到了登机口，
06:25
And then I make my way to the gate,
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用我爸妈的话说，
我有扯废话的天赋，
我有扯废话的天赋，
06:27
and with my gift of gab
that my parents said I was born with,
that my parents said I was born with,
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我跟登机口人员说话，
告诉他们，“我的小车大概这么重，
告诉他们，“我的小车大概这么重，
06:31
I talk to the gate agent, and then I say,
"By the way, my scooter weighs this much,
"By the way, my scooter weighs this much,
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06:35
I have a dry cell battery,
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有一个电池在里面，
我可以自己开到飞机舱门口。”
06:37
and I can drive it down
to the door of the plane."
to the door of the plane."
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06:40
Also, the day before, I had called
the city where I'm traveling to
the city where I'm traveling to
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而且，提前一天，
我得打给我的目的地城市，
我得打给我的目的地城市，
06:44
to find out where I could rent a scooter
in case mine gets broken on the way.
in case mine gets broken on the way.
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找到一个我可以租移动小车的地方，
以防我的小车在半路坏掉。
以防我的小车在半路坏掉。
06:49
So in my shoes,
it's a little bit different.
it's a little bit different.
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所以我的情况有点不同。
06:52
When I get onto the plane,
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当我到了飞机上，
我又利用谈话的天赋让空姐帮我把
包放在上面的行李架，她们都很友好地帮了我。
包放在上面的行李架，她们都很友好地帮了我。
06:53
I use my gift of gab to ask the lady
to put my bag up, and they graciously do.
to put my bag up, and they graciously do.
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06:58
I try not to eat or drink on a plane
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我在飞机上尽量不吃不喝，
因为我不想在飞机上站起来和走动，
07:00
because I don't want to have to
get up and walk on the plane,
get up and walk on the plane,
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但是大自然有它的规律，
07:03
but nature has its own schedule,
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于是不久前，这个规律应验了。
07:05
and not long ago,
it knocked and I answered.
it knocked and I answered.
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我走到飞机的前面，
07:07
So I walked up to the front of the plane
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跟一位空乘人员聊天，
07:10
and gabbed with the flight attendant,
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然后说，“你可以帮我
开一下厕所门吗？我够不着锁。"
开一下厕所门吗？我够不着锁。"
07:12
and said, "Can you watch the door?
I can't reach the lock."
I can't reach the lock."
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07:16
So I'm in there doing my business,
and the door flies open.
and the door flies open.
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我在上厕所的时候，
门突然“唰”的开了。
门突然“唰”的开了。
一个绅士站在那里
07:20
And there's a gentleman there
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07:22
with a look of horror on his face.
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惊恐地看着我。
我确定我也是那个表情。
07:25
I'm sure I had the same look.
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07:27
As I came out, I noticed
that he was sitting right across from me,
that he was sitting right across from me,
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我出来以后发现他坐在我对面，
07:33
and he's in total, complete embarrassment.
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满脸的尴尬。
07:37
So I walk up to him and I quietly go,
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所以我走向他然后轻轻地说，
”你会比我对这件事记忆更深刻么？“
07:39
"Are you going to remember this
as much as I am?"
as much as I am?"
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（笑声）
07:42
(Laughter)
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07:48
And he goes, "I think so."
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然后他说，“我觉得会。”
（笑声）
07:50
(Laughter)
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但现在他可能不会
公开讲这件事，但我会。
公开讲这件事，但我会。
07:51
Now, while he's probably
not talking about it publicly, I am.
not talking about it publicly, I am.
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（笑声）
07:55
(Laughter)
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但我们在下面整个航行中都在聊天，
07:56
But we talked for the rest of the flight,
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我们了解了对方的
家庭，运动，工作，
家庭，运动，工作，
07:59
and we got to know each other,
our families, sports, work,
our families, sports, work,
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08:03
and when we landed, he said,
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当我们落地的时候，他说，
“米歇尔，我发现有人
把你的包放上去了。
把你的包放上去了。
08:05
"Michele, I noticed
someone put your bag up.
someone put your bag up.
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我可以帮你拿下来么？”
08:07
Can I get that for you?"
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我说，“当然，谢谢。”
08:08
And I said, "Of course, thank you."
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08:11
And we wished each other well,
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然后我们互相道别，祝福。
那天最重要的是
08:13
and the most important thing that day
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他不会在尴尬的感觉中，
08:15
was that he was not going to leave
with that embarrassment,
with that embarrassment,
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或者尴尬的体验中离开。
08:19
that experience of embarrassment.
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他不会忘记，我也不会，
08:21
He won't forget it, and neither will I,
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但我认为他记住的更多的是
08:24
but I think he will remember more
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我们的聊天内容和我们不一样的观点。
08:26
our chat and our different perspectives.
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08:30
When you travel internationally,
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当你坐国际航班的时候，
会有更多的挑战。
08:32
it can be even more challenging
in certain ways.
in certain ways.
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08:34
A few years ago, I was in Zanzibar,
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几年前，我在桑几巴尔岛
（非洲坦桑尼亚东北部）
（非洲坦桑尼亚东北部）
坐着我的小车，
08:37
and I come wheeling in,
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你们想想看，
08:39
and think about that.
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08:41
Short, white, blond woman in a chair.
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一个矮小的，白皮肤，黄头发的
女人坐在一个小椅子上。
女人坐在一个小椅子上。
并不太常见。
08:45
That doesn't probably happen every day.
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08:49
So I go up, and with my gift of gab,
I start to talk to the agent.
I start to talk to the agent.
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所以我上前，再次用我的
谈话天赋，跟工作人员聊天。
谈话天赋，跟工作人员聊天。
我很友好地询问他们的文化什么的，
08:52
So friendly, and I ask
about their culture and so forth,
about their culture and so forth,
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然后我发现那里没有
从候机舱通往飞机的通道。
从候机舱通往飞机的通道。
08:56
and I notice there wasn't a jet bridge.
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所以我得说，
08:59
So I had to kind of say,
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09:01
"Not only do you have to lift my chair,
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“你不仅得帮我抬座椅，
还需要帮我上机舱的台阶。”
09:03
I could use some help
getting up the steps."
getting up the steps."
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09:05
So we got to spend about an hour together
while we waited for the flight,
while we waited for the flight,
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所以我们在等待飞机的时候
花了大概一小时的时间，
花了大概一小时的时间，
那是非常非常棒的一小时。
09:09
and it was the most magnificent hour.
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我们两个人的观点都发生了改变。
09:11
Our perspective changed
for both of us that day.
for both of us that day.
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当我上了飞机，
09:15
And once I got on the flight,
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他拍拍我的背然后送上最好的祝愿，
09:16
he patted me on the back
and wished me well,
and wished me well,
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我表示了感谢。
09:19
and I thanked him so much.
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09:21
And again, I think he's going
to remember that experience more
to remember that experience more
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再一次，我觉得他对这次经历的记忆
会比我刚进来的时候多，
会比我刚进来的时候多，
那时候内心多少还有犹豫。
09:26
than when I first came in,
and there was a bit of hesitation.
and there was a bit of hesitation.
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09:31
And as you notice, I get a lot of help.
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你们可能发现了，
我得到很多帮助。
我得到很多帮助。
如果没有我的家人，朋友，我的同事，
09:33
I would not be where I am today
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还有很多很多的陌生人
09:35
if it was not for my family,
my friends, my colleagues
my friends, my colleagues
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09:40
and the many strangers
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每天都帮助我，
我今天不可能在这里。
09:41
that help me every single day of my life.
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09:46
And it's important
that we all have a support system.
that we all have a support system.
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我们能拥有互相帮助的
意愿是很重要的。
意愿是很重要的。
寻求帮助是一种勇气，
09:49
Asking for help is a strength,
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不是弱点。
09:52
not a weakness.
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（鼓掌）
09:53
(Applause)
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10:00
We all need help throughout our lifetime,
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我们在一生中都需要帮助，
但我们帮助别人
10:03
but it is just as important
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也是一件同等重要的事。
10:06
that we are part
of other people's support systems.
of other people's support systems.
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我们必须接纳报答的方式。
10:09
We must adopt that way of giving back.
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很明显，我们在自己的人生中
都扮演着很重要的角色，
都扮演着很重要的角色，
10:12
We all obviously have a role to play
in our own successes,
in our own successes,
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10:17
but think about the role we have to play
in other people's successes,
in other people's successes,
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但想想我们在别人的人生中的角色，
就像大家每天为我做的事。
10:21
just like people do for me
every single day.
every single day.
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10:26
It's vitally important
that we help each other,
that we help each other,
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互相帮助至关重要，
因为社会在一天天地孤立每个人，
10:29
because society is increasingly
placing people in silos
placing people in silos
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10:36
based on biases and ideologies.
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只是根据对事物的偏见和愚蠢的看法。
10:39
And we must look past the surface
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我们必须看透表面，
10:43
and be confronted with the truth
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接受一个事实，
那就是，没有人是你看到的样子。
10:45
that none of us are what you can see.
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每个人都有更多面，
10:48
There's more to us than that,
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而且我们在纠结你看不到的事情。
10:50
and we're all dealing with things
that you cannot see.
that you cannot see.
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10:55
So living a life free of judgment
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所以愿你我过一个
不去评价他人的人生，
不去评价他人的人生，
10:58
allows all of us to share
those experiences together
those experiences together
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能让我们一起分享自己的经历，
然后以不同的眼光去看待这个世界，
11:02
and have a totally different perspective,
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就像我在之前的故事里提到的那些人。
11:05
just like the couple of people
I mentioned earlier in my stories.
I mentioned earlier in my stories.
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11:11
So remember, the only shoes
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所以记住，你能完全理解的
只有你自己。
11:13
you truly can walk in are your own.
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11:16
I cannot walk in yours.
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我没办法穿着你的鞋行走。
我也知道你穿不了我1码的鞋 ——
11:19
I know you can't walk in my size 1s --
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11:22
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
但你可以试试看。
11:23
but you can try.
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11:26
But we can do something better than that.
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但我们可以做些更好的事。
11:28
With compassion,
courage and understanding,
courage and understanding,
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带着同情心，勇气和理解，
我们可以肩并肩向前走，
11:32
we can walk side by side
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互相支持，
11:35
and support one another,
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想想社会会发生什么样的改变，
11:37
and think about how society can change
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如果我们都做到这些，
11:40
if we all do that
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11:41
instead of judging
on only what you can see.
on only what you can see.
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而不是根据你看到的去评判别人。
11:45
Thank you.
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谢谢。
11:47
(Applause)
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（掌声）
谢谢。
11:52
Thank you.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Michele L. Sullivan - Social innovatorMichele L. Sullivan is known for her sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing.
Why you should listen
Michele L. Sullivan has held various globally influential leadership positions at Caterpillar during her 29-year career. She currently is Caterpillar's Director of Corporate Social Innovation and President of the Caterpillar Foundation, the philanthropic arm of Caterpillar Inc.
Throughout Sullivan's career, she has dramatically grown the reach, influence and impact of each role. Her time with the Caterpillar Foundation is no different. She has taken the Caterpillar Foundation from a transactional Foundation into a global and strategic Foundation. She has moved the Foundation from Corporate Social Responsibility into Corporate Social Innovation. This strategy places the human need first, not as an afterthought of profit. Sullivan is well known for her global expertise and sustainable and collaborative approach to philanthropic investing.
Sullivan strongly believes monumental and sustainable change in our largest global challenges can only happen through partnerships and collaboration between public, private and non-profit entities. This strategy resulted in the Caterpillar Foundation's transformation into one of the most influential corporate foundations and, ultimately, the launch of the Foundation's collaborative impact platform, Together.Stronger.
Determination and resilience have been present throughout Sullivan;s life. She endured many years of orthopedic surgeries and other challenges. She provided leadership starting in the Little Prairie Chapter of Little People of America as a teenager. She was named by Inside Philanthropy as one of the 50 most powerful women in philanthropy and she served as a US delegate to the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women. She is a member of the ONE board of directors and chairs the Greater Peoria Local Initiatives Support Corporation (LISC) Advisory Board. She earned her MBA from Bradley University, and she is the first woman to be President of the Caterpillar Foundation.
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