ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sofia Jawed-Wessel - Sex researcher
Sofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education.

Why you should listen

Dr. Sofia Jawed-Wessel teaches and generates new knowledge in the area of public health through scientific studies. Her research has focused on understanding and improving the sexual health of women and couples as they transition into parenthood by documenting sexual behaviors, sexual function, relationship adjustment and overall sexual changes during pregnancy and after childbirth. Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education to undergraduate students as well as in the local Omaha, Nebraska community. She teaches graduate level courses such as Research Methods, Health Behavior Theory, and Leadership and Advocacy. Jawed-Wessel also fights for women's rights and reproductive justice. She has provided expert testimony for the Nebraska Unicameral, the Nebraska School Board of Education and the Omaha Public School Board of Education. She has successfully argued in favor of comprehensive sex education in Omaha Public Schools and fought against restrictive anti-choice legislation in Nebraska.

Jawed-Wessel is an Assistant Professor in the School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation at the University of Nebraska at Omaha (UNO) and the Associate Director of the Midlands Sexual Health Research Collaborative. She also holds a joint appointment with the Women and Gender Studies program at UNO and a courtesy appointment in the College of Public Health at the University of Nebraska Medical Center. Jawed-Wessel holds both a Master of Science in Public Health (MPH) degree and a Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) degree in Health Behavior from the School of Public Health at Indiana University Bloomington. 


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Sofia Jawed-Wessel: The lies we tell pregnant women

索菲亞·賈維德-維斯爾: 我們告訴孕婦的謊言

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「當我們告訴女性在懷孕期間不值得為性行爲冒險,我們實際是告訴她們她的性愉悅是不重要的……實際上她是無關緊要的。」性研究學者索菲亞·賈維德-維斯爾這樣說。 在這個大開眼界的演講裏,索菲亞帶我們深入了解對懷孕和愉悅的認識,以及女性、性和權利體系的關係。
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00:12
We're going to share分享
a lot of secrets秘密 today今天, you and I,
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今天你們和我將分享很多秘密。
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and in doing so, I hope希望 that we can lift電梯
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這麼做的目的是,
00:18
some of the shame恥辱
many許多 of us feel about sex性別.
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我希望可以消除一些
我們對性的羞恥感。
00:22
How many許多 here have ever been
catcalledcatcalled by a stranger陌生人?
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在座各位,有多少人
曾被陌生人吹口哨?
00:28
Lots of women婦女.
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很多女士。
00:30
For me, the time I remember記得 best最好
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對我來說,我記得最清楚的是,
00:33
is when that stranger陌生人
was a student學生 of mine.
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那個陌生人是我的一個學生。
00:37
He came來了 up to me after class that night
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那晚下課後,他來找我,
00:40
and his words confirmed確認
what I already已經 knew知道:
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他的話證實了我已知道的,
00:43
"I am so sorry, professor教授.
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「非常抱歉,教授。
00:45
If I had known已知 it was you,
I would never have said those things."
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如果早知道是您,
我怎麼也不會說那些話。 」
00:49
(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
00:51
I wasn't a person to him
until直到 I was his professor教授.
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對他來說,如果我不是他的教授,
他就沒把我是一個人。
00:56
This concept概念, called objectification客觀,
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這就是所謂「人格物化」的概念,
00:59
is the foundation基礎 of sexism性別歧視,
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這是性別歧視的基礎。
01:01
and we see it reinforced加強
through通過 every一切 aspect方面 of our lives生活.
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我們在生活的各個層面,
看到它不斷的被強化,
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We see it in the government政府
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我們可從政府部門
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that refuses拒絕 to punish懲治 men男人
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拒絕懲罰那些
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for raping強姦 women婦女.
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強姦婦女的男人看到。
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We see it in advertisements廣告.
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我們在廣告裡看到。
01:17
How many許多 of you have seen看到 an advertisement廣告
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有多少人曾經看過廣告中
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that uses使用 a woman's女人的 breast乳房
to sell an entirely完全 unrelated無關 product產品?
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用女性的胸部
來推廣毫不相干的產品?
01:26
Or movie電影 after movie電影 after movie電影
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還有,一部接一部的電影裡,
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that portrays刻畫 women婦女
as only love interests利益?
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女性被刻畫成只是愛情目標?
01:34
These examples例子 might威力 seem似乎
inconsequential無關緊要 and harmless無害,
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這些例子看似無關緊要,無傷大雅,
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but they're insidious陰險,
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但實際上他們的殺傷力很大,
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slowly慢慢地 building建造 into a culture文化
that refuses拒絕 to see women婦女 as people.
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慢慢滲入成一種
無視女性為人的文化。
01:43
We see this in the school學校
that sends發送 home a 10-year-old-歲 girl女孩
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我們看見學校把 10 歲的
女學生打發回家,
01:48
because her clothes衣服 were
a distraction娛樂 to boys男孩 trying to learn學習,
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因為她的衣著讓男生分心,
不能專心讀書,
01:51
or the government政府 that refuses拒絕
to punish懲治 men男人 for raping強姦 women婦女
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還有那些政府拒絕懲罰
強姦女性的男人,
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over and over,
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一次又一次,
01:58
or the woman女人 who is killed殺害
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還有女性被殺
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because she asked a man to stop
grinding磨碎 on her on the dance舞蹈 floor地板.
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就是因為在舞池,
她要求某位男人不要毛手毛腳。
02:07
Media媒體 plays播放 a large role角色 in perpetuating延續
the objectification客觀 of women婦女.
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對女性的物化,
媒體發揮著重要的作用。
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Let's consider考慮
the classic經典 romantic浪漫 comedy喜劇.
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讓我們設想
在一個經典浪漫喜劇中,
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We're typically一般 introduced介紹
to two kinds of women婦女 in these movies電影,
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在這些電影裡,總有兩種女性,
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two kinds of desirable合意 women婦女, anyway無論如何.
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兩種讓人想要追求的女生。
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The first is the sexy性感的 bombshell重磅炸彈.
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第一種是非常性感的女生。
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This is the unbelievably令人難以置信 gorgeous華麗 woman女人
with the perfect完善 body身體.
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非常美麗的女人,完美的身體曲線。
02:29
Our leading領導 man
has no trouble麻煩 identifying識別 her
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我們的男主角能夠
毫不費力的注意到她,
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and even less trouble麻煩 having sex性別 with her.
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並甚至很輕易就能和她發生關係。
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The second第二 is our leading領導 lady淑女,
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第二個是我們的女主角,
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the beautiful美麗 but demure拘謹 woman女人
our leading領導 man falls下降 in love with
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美麗端莊的女生,
最後被男主角愛上,
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despite儘管 not noticing注意到 her at first
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雖然一開始可能並沒有注意到她,
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or not liking喜歡 her if he did.
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或是就算注意到她,
也沒有立刻喜歡她。
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The first is the slut懶婦.
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第一個女生是蕩婦。
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She is to be consumed消費 and forgotten忘記了.
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她在被利用後,就被遺忘了。
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She is much too available可得到.
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她太隨手可得。
02:51
The second第二 is desirable合意 but modest謙虛,
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第二個女生吸引人但是低調,
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and therefore因此 worthy值得
of our leading領導 man's男人的 future未來 babies嬰兒.
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因此值得成為男主角
未來子女的母親。
02:58
Marriage婚姻 material材料.
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結婚的材料。
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We're actually其實 told
that women婦女 have two roles角色,
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我們實際上被告知,
女性有兩個角色,
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but these two roles角色 have a difficult time
existing現有 within the same相同 woman女人.
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但是這兩種角色
很難並存於同一個女人。
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On the rare罕見 occasion場合
that I share分享 with a new acquaintance熟人
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在罕見的情況下,
我會和剛認識的人
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that I study研究 sex性別,
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分享我是做性研究的。
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if they don't end結束
the conversation會話 right then,
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如果這時他們不馬上中止谈话,
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they're usually平時 pretty漂亮 intrigued好奇.
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他們通常都會很好奇。
03:19
"Oh. Tell me more."
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「哦,說來聽聽。」
03:21
So I do.
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於是我就說了。
03:24
"I'm really interested有興趣
in studying研究 the sexual有性 behaviors行為
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「我對懷孕中和產後夫妻的
​​性行為的研究,
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of pregnant and postpartum產後 couples情侶."
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非常感興趣。」
03:28
At this point I get
a different不同 kind of response響應.
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這時我會得到不同的回應。
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(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
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"Oh. Huh.
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「哦,哼。
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Do pregnant people even have sex性別?
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孕婦可以有性行為嗎?
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Have you thought
about studying研究 sexual有性 desire慾望
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你有沒有想過研究性慾,
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or orgasms性高潮?
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或性高潮?
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That would be interesting有趣, and sexy性感的."
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那應該會更有意思,並且性感。 」
03:50
Tell me. What are the first words
that come to mind心神
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請告訴我,當你們想到孕婦的時候,
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when you picture圖片 a pregnant woman女人?
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進入你們腦海的第一個字是什麼?
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I asked this question
in a survey調查 of over 500 adults成年人,
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這個問題,我在一個調查中
訪問了超過 500 個成年人,
03:58
and most responded回應 with "belly肚皮" or "round回合"
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最多的回答是「肚子」或「圓形」,
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and "cute可愛."
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還有 「可愛」。
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This didn't surprise me too much.
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這並沒有讓我很吃驚。
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What else其他 do we label標籤 as cute可愛?
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還有什麼我們通常用可愛來形容?
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Babies嬰兒. Puppies小狗. Kittens小貓.
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嬰兒、小狗、小貓。
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The elderly老年. Right?
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還有年長者。是嗎?
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(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
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When we label標籤 an adult成人 as cute可愛, though雖然,
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當我們把成年人用可愛來形容時,
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we take away a lot of their intelligence情報,
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我們剝奪了他們的智慧,
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their complexity複雜.
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以及他們複雜性。
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We reduce減少 them to childlike孩子似的 qualities氣質.
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我們把他們降到了小孩子的水準。
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I also asked heterosexual異性 men男人
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我也訪問過異性戀的男生,
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to imagine想像 a woman女人 that they're
partnered合作 with is pregnant,
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讓他們假想他們的另一半正在懷孕,
04:32
and then asked women婦女
to imagine想像 that they are pregnant,
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然後問女生假想自己懷孕,
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and then tell me
the first words that come to mind心神
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然後告訴我
當他們想像在做性行為時,
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when they imagine想像 having sex性別.
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首先想到的第一個字詞。
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Most of the responses回复 were negative.
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大多數的反應都是負面的。
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"Gross."
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「噁心」
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"Awkward尷尬."
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「尷尬」
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"Not sexy性感的." "Odd."
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「不性感」「奇怪」
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"Uncomfortable不舒服."
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「不舒服」
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"How?"
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「怎麽做?」
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(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
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"Not worth價值 the trouble麻煩."
"Not worth價值 the risk風險."
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「這麼麻煩不值得」
「不值得冒險」
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That last one really stuck卡住 with me.
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最後的一個詞讓我想了很久。
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We might威力 think that because we divorce離婚
pregnant women婦女 and moms媽媽 from sexuality性慾,
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我們可能認為因為
我們把孕婦、母親和性分開,
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we are removing去除 the constraints限制
of sexual有性 objectification客觀.
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我們就去除了性物化的約束。
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They experience經驗 less sexism性別歧視. Right?
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她們經歷一些性別歧視。是嗎?
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Not exactly究竟.
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並不盡然。
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What happens發生 instead代替
is a different不同 kind of objectification客觀.
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其實結果是另外一種形式的物化,
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In my efforts努力 to explain說明 this to others其他,
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在我努力向別人解釋這個的時候,
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one conversation會話
led to the Venus金星 of WillendorfWillendorf,
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其中的一次談話就轉到
維倫多爾夫的維納斯,
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a Paleolithic舊石器時代的 figurine塑像 scholars學者 assumed假定
was a goddess女神 of love and beauty美女,
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這個舊石器時代的小雕像,
學者們認為是愛和美麗的女神。
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hence於是 the name名稱 Venus金星.
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因此命名她為維納斯。
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This theory理論 was later後來 revised修訂, though雖然,
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這個理論之後又被更正過,
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when scholars學者 noted注意
the sculptor's雕塑家的 obvious明顯 focus焦點
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當學者們注意到雕刻家的重心
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on the figurine's雕像的 reproductive生殖 features特徵:
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明顯的放在雕像的生殖特徵上:
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large breasts乳房,
considered考慮 ideal理想 for nursing看護;
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豐滿的胸部
被認為是理想的哺育工具,
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a round回合, possibly或者 pregnant belly肚皮;
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豐滿,可能已懷孕的腹部;
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the remnants殘餘 of red dye染料,
alluding暗指 to menstruation經期 or birth分娩.
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紅赭染料的殘留,暗示月經或生育。
05:52
They also assumed假定 that she was
meant意味著 to be held保持 or placed放置 lying說謊 down
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學者們也假設她是應該被抬著,
或是平放著的,
05:56
because her tiny feet
don't allow允許 her to be freestanding獨立式的.
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因為她的小腳是不允許她能站著的。
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She also had no face面對.
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她也沒有臉。
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For this reason原因, it was assumed假定
that she was a representation表示 of fertility生育能力
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因為如此,她被認為是繁衍的象徵。
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and not a portrait肖像 of a person.
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並不是一個人的塑像。
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She was an object目的.
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她是一個物品。
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In the history歷史 of her interpretation解釋,
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貫穿在對她的解讀的歷史裡,
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she went from object目的
of ideal理想 beauty美女 and love
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她從一個理想的美和愛的物件,
06:16
to object目的 of reproduction再生產.
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變成繁衍的物品。
06:19
I think this transition過渡 speaks說話 more
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我認為這種轉變,
與其說是雕像的實際目的,
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about the scholars學者
who have interpreted解讀 her purpose目的
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不如說是,
它告訴了我們
那些研究她的學者的想法。
06:25
than the actual實際 purpose目的
of the figurine塑像 herself她自己.
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When a woman女人 becomes pregnant,
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當一個女人懷孕了,
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she leaves樹葉 the realm領域
of men's男裝 sexual有性 desire慾望
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她不再是男性性需求的對象,
06:36
and slides幻燈片 into her reproductive生殖
and child-rearing撫養孩子 role角色.
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隨後進入了生育和養育孩子的角色。
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In doing so, she also becomes
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這樣之後,她又成為了
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the property屬性 of the community社區,
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社區的共同財產。
06:45
considered考慮 very important重要
but only because she's pregnant. Right?
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被認為非常重要,
但只是因為她懷孕的緣故。是不是?
06:50
I've taken採取 to calling調用 this
the WillendorfWillendorf effect影響,
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我把這個稱為「維倫多夫效應」。
06:52
and once一旦 again we see it reinforced加強
in many許多 aspects方面 of her life.
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再一次我們看見它在
女性生活的許多方面被强化。
06:57
Has anyone任何人 here
ever been visibly明顯地 pregnant?
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這裡有人曾經很明顯的懷孕嗎?
06:59
(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
07:00
Yeah. Lots of you, right?
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是啊,很多,對嗎?
07:02
So how many許多 of you ever had a stranger陌生人
touch觸摸 your belly肚皮 during pregnancy懷孕,
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有多少人在你懷孕時
曾被陌生人碰過你的腹部?
07:06
maybe without even asking
your permission允許 first?
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有時可能根本沒有
事先徵求你的同意?
07:09
Or told what you can and cannot不能 eat
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或者有些人既不是醫生,
也不是你的私人看護,
07:12
by somebody who is not your doctor醫生,
your medical care關心 provider提供商?
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卻來告訴你可以或不可以吃什麼?
07:16
Or asked private私人的 questions問題
about your birth分娩 plan計劃?
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或者問你關於你準備
怎麽生小孩的一些私密問題?
07:20
And then told why
those choices選擇 are all wrong錯誤?
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然後再告訴你為什麼
那些選擇都是錯誤的。
07:23
Yeah, me too.
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是啊,我也經歷過。
07:24
Or had a server服務器 refuse垃圾
to bring帶來 you a glass玻璃 of wine紅酒?
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或者侍應生拒絕給你拿一杯酒?
07:29
This one might威力 give you pause暫停,
I know, but stay with me.
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這個可能會讓你停頓一下,
我知道,但是先別急。
07:31
This is a huge巨大 secret秘密.
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這是一個大秘密。
07:33
It is actually其實 safe安全 to drink
in moderation適度 during pregnancy懷孕.
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其實在懷孕期間
適度的飲酒是安全的。
07:38
Many許多 of us don't know this
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許多人不知道這個,
07:40
because doctors醫生 don't trust相信
pregnant women婦女 with this secret秘密 --
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是因為醫生信不過
把這個秘密告訴孕婦。
07:43
(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
07:49
especially特別 if she's less educated博學
or a woman女人 of color顏色.
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特別是那些受教育少的
或是非白種人。
07:53
What this tells告訴 us is,
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這就告訴我們,
07:55
this WillendorfWillendorf effect影響,
it's also classistclassist and racist種族主義者.
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這個維倫多夫效應也是有
階級歧視和種族歧視的。
07:59
It's present當下 when
the government政府 reminds提醒 women婦女
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它現形於當政府用
每一個新的反墮胎法案
08:05
with every一切 new anti-choice反選 bill法案
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來提醒女性
08:08
that the contents內容 of her uterus子宮
are not her own擁有,
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她們子宮裡的東西不是她自己的,
08:11
or when an ob-gyn婦產科 says,
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或者當婦產科醫生說:
08:13
"While it's safe安全
to have sex性別 during pregnancy懷孕,
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「在懷孕期間的性行為是安全的,
08:15
sometimes有時 you never know.
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但有時候很難說。
08:16
Better safe安全 than sorry, right?"
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還是以防萬一不要冒險,對不對?」
08:19
She's denied否認 basic基本 privacy隱私
and bodily身體 autonomy自治
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在「做一個好媽媽的」 的僞裝下,
08:23
under the guise偽裝 of "be a good mother母親."
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她被否認了基本的隱私和身體自主,
08:26
We don't trust相信 her
to make her own擁有 decisions決定.
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我們信不過她能給自己做決定。
08:29
She's cute可愛, remember記得?
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她很可愛,記得嗎?
08:33
When we tell women婦女
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讓我們告訴女性
08:36
that sexual有性 pleasure樂趣 -- excuse藉口 me.
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性愉悅──抱歉。
08:39
When we tell women婦女 that sex性別
isn't worth價值 the risk風險 during pregnancy懷孕,
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當我們告訴女性
懷孕期間不值得冒險有性行為,
08:43
what we're telling告訴 her is that
her sexual有性 pleasure樂趣 doesn't matter.
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其實我們告訴她的是
她的性愉悅並不重要。
08:48
So what we are telling告訴 her
is that she in fact事實 doesn't matter,
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因此我們想說的是她其實並不重要,
08:51
even though雖然 the needs需求 of her fetus胎兒
are not at odds可能性 with her own擁有 needs需求.
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即使她胎兒的需求
和她的需求並不相悖。
08:57
So medical providers供應商,
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所以醫護人員們,
08:59
such這樣 as the American美國 College學院
of Obstetricians產科醫生 and Gynecologists婦科醫生
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像美國婦產科醫學學會,
09:02
have the opportunity機會 to educate教育
about the safety安全 of sex性別 during pregnancy懷孕.
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有機會進行關於
孕期性行爲安全的教育。
09:07
So what do the experts專家 say?
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所以專家是怎樣說的?
09:09
ACOGACOG actually其實 has
no public上市 official官方 statement聲明
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美國婦產科醫學學會實際上沒有
09:12
about the safety安全 of sex性別 during pregnancy懷孕.
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關於懷孕期間
性行爲安全的公開聲明。
09:16
Guidance指導 from the Mayo梅奧 Clinic診所
is generally通常 positive
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馬約診所的引導方針
一般上是正面的,
09:19
but presented呈現 with a caveat警告:
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但也提出了警示:
09:21
"Although雖然 most women婦女 can safely安然
have sex性別 throughout始終 pregnancy懷孕,
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「雖然大多數的女性
在懷孕期間的性行為是安全的,
09:24
sometimes有時 it's best最好 to be cautious謹慎."
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有時最好還是要小心。 」
09:26
Some women婦女 don't want
to have sex性別 during pregnancy懷孕,
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有些孕婦在懷孕期間
根本不想有性行為,
09:30
and that's OK.
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這沒關係。
09:31
Some women婦女 do want
to have sex性別 during pregnancy懷孕,
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有些孕婦想要有性行為
09:33
and that's OK, too.
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一樣也沒有關係。
09:35
What needs需求 to stop
is society社會 telling告訴 women婦女
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我們需要做的是社會不要再教導女性
09:38
what they can and cannot不能 do
with their bodies身體.
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對自己的身體什麼可以做,
什麼不可以做。
09:41
(Applause掌聲)
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(掌聲)
09:48
Pregnant women婦女 are not faceless不露面,
identity-less身份少 vessels船隻 of reproduction再生產
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懷孕的女性不是沒有臉、
沒有人格的繁衍工具。
09:52
who can't stand on their own擁有 two feet.
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也不是不能用自己的雙腳站起來。
09:56
But the truth真相 is, the real真實 secret秘密 is,
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真相是,真正的秘密是,
09:58
we tell all women婦女 that
their sexual有性 pleasure樂趣 doesn't matter.
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我們告訴所有的女性
他們的性愉悅是無關緊要的。
10:02
We refuse垃圾 to even acknowledge確認
that women婦女 who have sex性別 with women婦女
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我們拒絕甚至承認
女性和女性有性行為,
10:06
or women婦女 who don't
want children孩子 even exist存在.
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或者有些女性不想要小孩,
這些的存在。
10:08
"Oh, it's just a phase ...
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「哦,這只是一個階段……
10:10
she just needs需求 the right man
to come along沿."
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她只是還沒找到一個合適的人。 」
10:14
Every一切 time a woman女人 has sex性別
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每一次當女性有性行為,
10:16
simply只是 because it feels感覺 good,
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只是因為自己感覺好,
10:18
it is revolutionary革命的.
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那就是一次革命。
10:20
She is revolutionary革命的.
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她就是革命者。
10:22
She is pushing推動 back
against反對 society's社會 insistence堅持
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她敢於和社會的堅持抗爭,
10:25
that she exist存在 simply只是 for men's男裝 pleasure樂趣
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對抗那些認為她的存在只是取悅男性
10:27
or for reproduction再生產.
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或繁衍的工具。
10:30
A woman女人 who prioritizes優先排序
her sexual有性 needs需求 is scary害怕,
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一個女人視自己的性需求
為優先是很可怕的,
10:34
because a woman女人 who prioritizes優先排序
her sexual有性 needs需求 prioritizes優先排序 herself她自己.
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因為當她把自己的性需求放首位,
就是把自己放首位。
10:39
(Applause掌聲)
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(掌聲)
10:43
That is a woman女人 demanding嚴格
that she be treated治療 as an equal等於.
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這是一個要求被平等對待的女性。
10:47
That is a woman女人 who insists堅持
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這是一個堅持
10:49
that you make room房間 for her
at the table of power功率,
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在權力的平臺上,
你要給她位置的女性。
10:52
and that is the most terrifying可怕的 of all
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最可怕的是,
10:54
because we can't make room房間 for her
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我們不可能給她位置,
10:57
without some of us giving up
the extra額外 space空間 we hold保持.
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如果現有的一些人
不願意讓出多的位置。
11:02
(Applause掌聲)
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(掌聲)
11:08
I have one last secret秘密 for you.
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我有最後一個秘密分享給你們。
11:10
I am the mother母親 of two boys男孩
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我是兩個男孩的母親,
11:12
and we could use your help.
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我們需要得到你們的幫助。
11:15
Even though雖然 my boys男孩 hear me say regularly經常
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雖然我的兒子經常聽我說,
11:20
that it's important重要 for men男人
to recognize認識 women婦女 as equals等於
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把女性視爲平等對男性很重要
11:23
and they see their father父親 modeling造型 this,
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他們看到他們的父親也在這麽做,
11:26
we need what happens發生 in the world世界
to reinforce加強 what happens發生 in our home.
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我們需要在外面發生的
影響到我們的家。
11:30
This is not a men's男裝 problem問題
or a women's女士的 problem問題.
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這不是男人或者女人的問題。
11:33
This is everyone's大家的 problem問題,
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這是每一個人的問題,
11:35
and we all play a role角色
in dismantling拆解 systems系統 of inequality不等式.
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我們在瓦解這個不平等的體系裡
都起著一些的作用。
11:40
For starters首發, we have got
to stop telling告訴 women婦女
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首先,我們不要再教導女性
怎樣對待自己的身體
11:43
what they can and cannot不能 do
with their bodies身體.
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什麼可以做,什麼不可以做。
11:45
(Applause掌聲)
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(掌聲)
11:50
This includes包括 not treating治療 pregnant women婦女
like community社區 property屬性.
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這包括不要再把孕婦
當成是社群的財產。
11:54
If you don't know her,
don't even ask to touch觸摸 her belly肚皮.
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如果你不認識她,
就不要去碰她的肚子。
11:57
You wouldn't不會 anybody任何人 else其他.
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你不會對其他人這樣。
11:59
Don't tell her
what she can and cannot不能 eat.
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不要教導她,什麼她能吃或不能吃。
12:01
Don't ask her private私人的 details細節
about her medical decisions決定.
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不要問她一些醫療的私密的細節,
12:04
This also includes包括 understanding理解
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這也包括
12:06
that even if you are
personally親自 against反對 abortion流產,
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就算你個人反對墮胎,
12:09
you can still fight鬥爭
for a woman's女人的 right to choose選擇.
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你還是可以為女性的選擇權去抗爭。
12:12
When it comes to women's女士的 equality平等,
the two need not oppose反對 one another另一個.
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當談到女性平等時,
兩性之間是不需要對立的。
12:16
If you're somebody who has sex性別 with women婦女,
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如果你要和女人發生性行爲,
12:19
prioritize優先 her pleasure樂趣.
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把她的愉悅放首位。
12:20
If you don't know how, ask.
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如果你不知道怎麽做,儘管問。
12:24
If you have children孩子 --
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如果你有孩子──
12:25
(Laughter笑聲)
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(笑聲)
12:27
have conversations對話 about sex性別
as early as possible可能,
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儘早和他們開始關於性的交談,
12:31
because kids孩子 don't look up s-e-x性別
in the dictionary字典 anymore.
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因爲孩子不會再去用字典
來查「性」這個字了。
12:35
They look it up on the internet互聯網.
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他們會上網去查。
12:38
And when you're having
those conversations對話 about sex性別,
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當你們有關於性的談話時,
12:41
don't center中央 them on reproduction再生產 only.
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不要只局限在繁衍的意義上。
12:43
People have sex性別 for many許多 reasons原因,
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人因爲多種原因發生性行爲,
12:45
some because they want a baby寶寶,
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有些因爲他們想要小孩,
12:47
but most of us have sex性別
because it feels感覺 good.
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但大多數人是因爲感覺很好。
12:50
Admit承認 it.
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承認吧。
12:52
And regardless而不管 of whether是否
you have children孩子 or not,
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不管你有沒有小孩,
12:55
support支持 comprehensive全面 sex性別 education教育
that doesn't shame恥辱 our teenagers青少年.
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支持全面的性教育,
讓我們的青少年不會覺得羞愧。
12:59
(Applause掌聲)
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(掌聲)
13:08
Nothing positive comes from shaming羞辱 teens青少年
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讓青少年為他們的
性欲望和性行爲感到羞愧,
13:10
for their sexual有性 desires慾望, behaviors行為,
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是沒有任何正面影響的,
13:14
other than positive STDSTD
and pregnancy懷孕 tests測試.
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只會產生性病測試的陽性,
和懷孕測試的陽性結果。
13:18
Every一切 single day,
we are all given特定 the opportunity機會
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每一天,我們都有機會
13:21
to disrupt破壞 patterns模式 of inequality不等式.
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打破這個不平等的狀況。
13:24
I think we can all agree同意
that it's worth價值 the trouble麻煩 to do so.
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我想我們大家都贊同
這是不管怎麼麻煩都值得的。
13:29
Thank you.
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謝謝。
13:30
(Applause掌聲)
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(掌聲)
Translated by iris wu
Reviewed by Melody Tang

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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sofia Jawed-Wessel - Sex researcher
Sofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education.

Why you should listen

Dr. Sofia Jawed-Wessel teaches and generates new knowledge in the area of public health through scientific studies. Her research has focused on understanding and improving the sexual health of women and couples as they transition into parenthood by documenting sexual behaviors, sexual function, relationship adjustment and overall sexual changes during pregnancy and after childbirth. Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education to undergraduate students as well as in the local Omaha, Nebraska community. She teaches graduate level courses such as Research Methods, Health Behavior Theory, and Leadership and Advocacy. Jawed-Wessel also fights for women's rights and reproductive justice. She has provided expert testimony for the Nebraska Unicameral, the Nebraska School Board of Education and the Omaha Public School Board of Education. She has successfully argued in favor of comprehensive sex education in Omaha Public Schools and fought against restrictive anti-choice legislation in Nebraska.

Jawed-Wessel is an Assistant Professor in the School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation at the University of Nebraska at Omaha (UNO) and the Associate Director of the Midlands Sexual Health Research Collaborative. She also holds a joint appointment with the Women and Gender Studies program at UNO and a courtesy appointment in the College of Public Health at the University of Nebraska Medical Center. Jawed-Wessel holds both a Master of Science in Public Health (MPH) degree and a Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) degree in Health Behavior from the School of Public Health at Indiana University Bloomington. 


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