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Anjali Kumar: My failed mission to find God -- and what I found instead
Anjali Kumar: Misi saya mencari Tuhan yang gagal -- dan apa yang saya temukan
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Anjali Kumar pergi mencari Tuhan, dan pada akhirnya menemukan sesuatu yang sangat berbeda. Dalam sebuah ceramah yang menggembirakan, dan lucu tentang kemanusiaan, dia membawa kita melalui ziarah spiritual untuk menemui cenayang di New York, dukun di Peru, dan "penyembuh" terkenal di Brazil, dan lainnya, membagikan pelajaran yang sangat berarti: apa yang menyatukan kita jauh lebih kuat daripada apa yang memisahkan kita, dan perbedaan kita bukanlah tak teratasi.
Anjali Kumar - General counsel, author, "idea acupuncturist"
Anjali Kumar is a Brooklyn-born, first-generation Indian American author, attorney, advisor, speaker and “idea acupuncturist.” Full bio
Anjali Kumar is a Brooklyn-born, first-generation Indian American author, attorney, advisor, speaker and “idea acupuncturist.” Full bio
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A few years ago,
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Beberapa tahun yang lalu,
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I set out on a mission to find God.
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saya mempunyai misi untuk menemukan Tuhan.
00:17
Now, I'm going to tell you
right up front that I failed,
right up front that I failed,
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Saya akan mengakui
kegagalan saya di hadapan Anda,
kegagalan saya di hadapan Anda,
00:20
which, as a lawyer,
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yaitu, sebagai pengacara,
00:22
is a really hard thing for me to admit.
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merupakan hal yang sulit diakui.
00:25
But on that failed journey,
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Tapi, dalam misi yang gagal tersebut,
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a lot of what I found was enlightening.
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saya menemukan banyak pencerahan.
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And one thing in particular
gave me a lot of hope.
gave me a lot of hope.
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Satu hal spesifik memberikan
harapan yang besar bagi saya.
harapan yang besar bagi saya.
00:34
It has to do with the magnitude
and significance of our differences.
and significance of our differences.
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Hal itu berhubungan dengan betapa besar,
dan pentingnya perbedaan kita.
dan pentingnya perbedaan kita.
00:39
So, I was raised in America
by Indian parents -- culturally Hindu,
by Indian parents -- culturally Hindu,
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Saya dibesarkan di Amerika
oleh keluarga India -- secara adat Hindu,
oleh keluarga India -- secara adat Hindu,
00:43
but practicing a strict and relatively
unknown religion outside of India
unknown religion outside of India
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tapi menjalankan sebuah agama yang ketat,
dan relatif tidak dikenal di luar India,
dan relatif tidak dikenal di luar India,
00:47
called Jainism.
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yang disebut Jainisme.
00:49
To give you an idea
of just how minority that makes me:
of just how minority that makes me:
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Sebagai gambaran
seberapa minoritasnya saya:
seberapa minoritasnya saya:
00:53
people from India represent
roughly one percent of the US population;
roughly one percent of the US population;
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orang dari India di Amerika kira-kira
adalah satu persen dari populasi AS;
adalah satu persen dari populasi AS;
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Hindus, about 0.7 percent;
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orang Hindu, kira-kira 0,7 persen;
01:00
Jains, at most .00046 percent.
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orang Jain, paling banyak 0,00046 persen.
01:07
To put that in context:
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Untuk membandingkannya;
01:09
more people visit the Vermont
Teddy Bear Factory each year
Teddy Bear Factory each year
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lebih banyak yang pergi ke pabrik
Teddy Bear di Vermont tiap tahun
Teddy Bear di Vermont tiap tahun
01:12
than are followers
of the Jain religion in America.
of the Jain religion in America.
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daripada pengikut agama Jain di Amerika.
01:15
To add to my minority mix,
my parents then decided,
my parents then decided,
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Untuk memperparah keminoritasan,
keluarga saya memutuskan,
keluarga saya memutuskan,
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"What a great idea!
Let's send her to Catholic school" --
Let's send her to Catholic school" --
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"Ide yang bagus!
Masukkan dia ke sekolah Katolik" --
Masukkan dia ke sekolah Katolik" --
01:21
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
01:22
where my sister and I
were the only non-white,
were the only non-white,
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di sekolah itu, cuma adik saya, dan saya,
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non-Catholic students
in the entire school.
in the entire school.
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siswa yang tak berkulit putih,
dan bukan Katolik.
dan bukan Katolik.
01:27
At the Infant Jesus of Prague School
in Flossmoor, Illinois --
in Flossmoor, Illinois --
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Di Sekolah Bayi Yesus dari Prague
di Flossmoor, Illinois --
di Flossmoor, Illinois --
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yes, that's really what it was called --
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begitulah sebutannya waktu itu --
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we were taught to believe
that there is a single Supreme Being
that there is a single Supreme Being
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kami diajarkan untuk percaya
bahwa hanya ada satu Makhluk Berkuasa
bahwa hanya ada satu Makhluk Berkuasa
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who is responsible for everything,
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yang bertanggung jawab atas semuanya,
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the whole shebang,
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semua peristiwa,
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from the creation of the Universe
to moral shepherding to eternal life.
to moral shepherding to eternal life.
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dari penciptaan alam semesta hingga
penggembalaan moral, dan kehidupan abadi.
penggembalaan moral, dan kehidupan abadi.
01:46
But at home,
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Tapi di rumah,
01:47
I was being taught something
entirely different.
entirely different.
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saya diajarkan
sesuatu yang sangat berbeda.
sesuatu yang sangat berbeda.
01:50
Followers of the Jain religion
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Pengikut agama Jain
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don't believe in a single Supreme Being
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tidak percaya adanya
satu Makhluk Berkuasa,
satu Makhluk Berkuasa,
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or even a team of Supreme Beings.
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maupun kumpulan Makhluk Berkuasa.
01:56
Instead, we're taught that God manifests
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Namun, kami diajarkan bahwa Tuhan menjelma
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as the perfection of each of us
as individuals,
as individuals,
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sebagai kesempurnaan dari setiap individu,
02:01
and that we're actually
spending our entire lives
spending our entire lives
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dan sebenarnya sepanjang kehidupan,
02:04
striving to remove the bad karmas
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kita berusaha menghapus karma jahat
02:06
that stand in the way of us
becoming our own godlike, perfect selves.
becoming our own godlike, perfect selves.
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yang menghalangi kita menjadi
Tuhan kita sendiri, diri yang sempurna.
Tuhan kita sendiri, diri yang sempurna.
02:11
On top of that, one of the core
principles of Jainism
principles of Jainism
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Bukan hanya itu,
salah satu prinsip Jainisme
salah satu prinsip Jainisme
02:14
is something called "non-absolutism."
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yang disebut "non-absolutis."
02:17
Non-absolutists believe
that no single person
that no single person
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Non-absolutis percaya
bahwa tak satu orang pun
bahwa tak satu orang pun
02:20
can hold ownership or knowledge
of absolute truth,
of absolute truth,
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dapat mempunyai, atau mengetahui
kebenaran yang pasti,
kebenaran yang pasti,
02:24
even when it comes to religious beliefs.
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termasuk pengetahuan tentang agama.
02:28
Good luck testing that concept out
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Semoga para pendeta, dan biarawati
02:30
on the priests and nuns
in your Catholic school.
in your Catholic school.
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di sekolah Katolik
bisa membuktikan konsep itu.
bisa membuktikan konsep itu.
02:32
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
02:33
No wonder I was confused
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Karena itu saya bingung,
02:35
and hyperaware of how different
I was from my peers.
I was from my peers.
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dan sangat menyadari betapa
berbedanya saya dengan teman-teman.
berbedanya saya dengan teman-teman.
02:39
Cut to 20-something years later,
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Singkat cerita, 20 tahun kemudian,
02:41
and I found myself to be
a highly spiritual person,
a highly spiritual person,
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saya menyadari
bahwa diri saya sangat spiritual,
bahwa diri saya sangat spiritual,
02:44
but I was floundering.
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tapi saya kebingungan.
02:46
I was spiritually homeless.
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Secara rohani saya merasa hampa.
02:48
I came to learn that I was a "None,"
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Saya menyadari
bahwa saya adalah seorang "Non,"
bahwa saya adalah seorang "Non,"
02:51
which isn't an acronym
or a clever play on words,
or a clever play on words,
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itu bukanlah sebuah akronim,
atau permainan kata,
atau permainan kata,
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nor is it one of these.
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bukan pula seorang biarawati.
02:57
It's simply the painfully uninspired name
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Itu hanyalah sebutan biasa
03:00
given to everyone
who checks off the box "none"
who checks off the box "none"
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yang diberikan kepada setiap orang
yang mencentang kotak "Non,"
yang mencentang kotak "Non,"
03:04
when Pew Research asks them
about their religious affiliation.
about their religious affiliation.
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ketika peneliti Pew menanyakan
tentang agama mereka.
tentang agama mereka.
03:07
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
03:08
Now, a couple of interesting
things about Nones are:
things about Nones are:
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Beberapa hal menarik
tentang para Non adalah:
tentang para Non adalah:
03:11
there are a lot of us,
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jumlah kami banyak,
03:12
and we skew young.
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dan kami cenderung muda.
03:14
In 2014, there were over 56 million
religiously unaffiliated Nones
religiously unaffiliated Nones
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Pada tahun 2014, lebih dari 56 juta
orang Non yang tak tergabung agama apa pun
orang Non yang tak tergabung agama apa pun
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in the United States.
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di Amerika Serikat.
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And Nones account
for over one-third of adults
for over one-third of adults
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Dan sepertiga dari orang dewasa
merupakan Non
merupakan Non
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between the ages of 18 to 33.
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yang berumur antara 18 hingga 33.
03:30
But the most interesting thing
to me about Nones
to me about Nones
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Tapi hal yang paling menarik
tentang para Non adalah
tentang para Non adalah
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is that we're often spiritual.
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sebagian besar dari kami adalah spiritual.
03:35
In fact, 68 percent of us believe,
with some degree of certainty,
with some degree of certainty,
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Faktanya, 68 persen dari kami percaya,
dengan tingkat keyakinan tertentu,
dengan tingkat keyakinan tertentu,
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that there is a God.
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bahwa Tuhan itu ada.
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We're just not sure who it is.
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Kami hanya belum tahu siapa itu.
03:42
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
03:45
So the first takeaway for me
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Kesimpulan yang saya dapatkan,
03:47
when I realized I was a None
and had found that information out
and had found that information out
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ketika menyadari
bahwa saya adalah Non, dan mendapati
bahwa saya adalah Non, dan mendapati
03:51
was that I wasn't alone.
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bahwa saya tidaklah sendirian.
03:54
I was finally part of a group in America
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Akhirnya saya jadi bagian grup di Amerika
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that had a lot of members,
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yang mempunyai banyak anggota,
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which felt really reassuring.
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yang rasanya menentramkan.
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But then the second,
not-so-reassuring takeaway
not-so-reassuring takeaway
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Tapi kemudian,
kesimpulan yang tidak menentramkan
kesimpulan yang tidak menentramkan
04:02
was that, oh, man, there are a lot of us.
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yaitu, aduh, jumlah kita banyak.
04:04
That can't be good,
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Itu tidak baik,
04:05
because if a lot of highly spiritual
people are currently godless,
people are currently godless,
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karena jika banyak orang yang spiritual,
tetapi tidak mempunyai Tuhan,
tetapi tidak mempunyai Tuhan,
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maybe finding God is not going to be
as easy as I had originally hoped.
as easy as I had originally hoped.
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mungkin menemukan Tuhan
tidaklah semudah yang diharapkan.
tidaklah semudah yang diharapkan.
04:13
So that is when I decided
that on my spiritual journey,
that on my spiritual journey,
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Saat itulah saya memutuskan
bahwa dalam perjalanan spiritual,
bahwa dalam perjalanan spiritual,
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I was going to avoid the obvious places
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saya hendak menghindari tempat yang pasti,
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and skip the big-box religions altogether
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melewatkan semua gereja besar,
04:21
and instead venture out
into the spiritual fringe
into the spiritual fringe
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dan sebagai gantinya
akan menjelajah sisi-sisi spiritual,
akan menjelajah sisi-sisi spiritual,
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of mediums
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seperti cenayang,
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and faith healers
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dan penyembuh iman,
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and godmen.
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dan penyembah dewa.
04:30
But remember, I'm a non-absolutist,
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Tapi ingat, saya seorang non-absolutis,
04:32
which means I was pretty inclined
to keep a fairly open mind,
to keep a fairly open mind,
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yang artinya saya cenderung
untuk tetap berpikiran terbuka,
untuk tetap berpikiran terbuka,
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which turned out to be a good thing,
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yang ternyata
merupakan sesuatu yang bagus,
merupakan sesuatu yang bagus,
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because I went to a witch's potluck dinner
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karena saya pernah makan malam
dengan cenayang
dengan cenayang
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at the LGBT Center in New York City,
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di Lembaga LGBT di kota New York,
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where I befriended two witches;
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dan berteman dengan dua cenayang;
04:47
drank a five-gallon jerrican
full of volcanic water
full of volcanic water
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minum lima galon jerigen
penuh dengan air vulkanik
penuh dengan air vulkanik
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with a shaman in Peru;
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dengan seorang dukun di Peru;
04:54
got a hug from a saint
in the convention center --
in the convention center --
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mendapat pelukan dari santo
di gedung serbaguna --
di gedung serbaguna --
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she smelled really nice --
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aroma tubuhnya wangi --
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(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
04:59
chanted for hours in a smoke-filled,
heat-infused sweat lodge
heat-infused sweat lodge
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menyanyi berjam-jam di pondok
yang panas, dan penuh dengan asap
yang panas, dan penuh dengan asap
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on the beaches of Mexico;
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di pantai Meksiko;
05:05
worked with a tequila-drinking medium
to convene with the dead,
to convene with the dead,
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bekerja dengan cenayang yang minum
tequila untuk bertemu orang mati,
tequila untuk bertemu orang mati,
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who oddly included both
my deceased mother-in-law
my deceased mother-in-law
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yang anehnya, termasuk bertemu
dengan mertua saya yang sudah meninggal,
dengan mertua saya yang sudah meninggal,
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and the deceased manager
of the hip-hop group The Roots.
of the hip-hop group The Roots.
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dan manajer dari grup hip-hop
The Roots yang sudah meninggal.
The Roots yang sudah meninggal.
05:15
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
05:16
Yeah, my mother-in-law told me
she was really happy
she was really happy
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Ibu mertua saya bilang
beliau sangat senang,
beliau sangat senang,
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her son had chosen me for his wife.
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karena putranya memilih
saya sebagai istri.
saya sebagai istri.
05:21
Duh! But --
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Aduh! Tapi --
05:22
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
05:24
Yeah.
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Iya.
05:26
But the manager of The Roots
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Tapi manajer dari The Roots
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said that maybe I should cut back
on all the pasta I was eating.
on all the pasta I was eating.
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berkata bahwa saya harus mengurangi
pasta yang saya makan waktu itu.
pasta yang saya makan waktu itu.
05:31
I think we can all agree
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Saya rasa kita semua setuju,
05:33
that it was lucky for my husband
that it wasn't his dead mother
that it wasn't his dead mother
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untung bukan almarhum
ibu suami saya yang menyarankan
ibu suami saya yang menyarankan
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who suggested I lay off carbs.
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agar saya mengurangi karbo.
05:37
(Laughter)
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(Tertawa)
05:38
I also joined a laughing yoga group
out of South Africa;
out of South Africa;
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Saya juga bergabung dengan
grup yoga tertawa di luar Afrika Selatan;
grup yoga tertawa di luar Afrika Selatan;
05:43
witnessed a woman have
a 45-minute orgasm --
a 45-minute orgasm --
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menyaksikan seorang wanita
yang mengalami orgasme selama 45 menit --
yang mengalami orgasme selama 45 menit --
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I am not making this up --
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ini benar --
05:48
as she tapped into
the energy of the universe --
the energy of the universe --
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sembari dia membuka energi semesta --
05:51
I think I'm going to go back there --
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Mungkin saya akan kembali ke sana --
05:53
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
05:57
called God from a phone booth
in the Nevada desert at Burning Man,
in the Nevada desert at Burning Man,
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memanggil Tuhan dari bilik telepon
di gurun Nevada saat Ritual Pembakaran,
di gurun Nevada saat Ritual Pembakaran,
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wearing a unitard and ski goggles;
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memakai unitard, dan kacamata ski;
06:04
and I had an old Indian guy
lie on top of me,
lie on top of me,
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dan ada seorang pria India
berbaring di atas saya,
berbaring di atas saya,
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and no, he wasn't my husband.
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dia bukan suami saya.
06:10
This was a perfect stranger named Paramji,
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Dia adalah orang tak dikenal
yang bernama Paramji,
yang bernama Paramji,
06:12
and he was chanting into my chakras
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dia membacakan mantera ke cakra saya,
06:14
as he tapped into the energy forces
of the Universe to heal my "yoni,"
of the Universe to heal my "yoni,"
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sembari memanggil kekuatan energi
alam semesta untuk mengobati "yoni" saya
alam semesta untuk mengobati "yoni" saya
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which is a Sanskrit word for "vagina."
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yaitu kata Sanskrit untuk "vagina."
06:22
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
06:23
I was going to have a slide here,
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Saya mau menambah gambar slide,
06:25
but a few people suggested
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tapi beberapa orang berkata,
06:26
that a slide of my yoni
at TED -- even TEDWomen --
at TED -- even TEDWomen --
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bahwa sebuah gambar slide yoni saya
di TED -- meskipun TEDWomen --
di TED -- meskipun TEDWomen --
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not the best idea.
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bukanlah ide yang bagus.
06:32
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
06:34
Very early in my quest,
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Pada awal pencarian,
06:36
I also went to see the Brazilian
faith healer John of God
faith healer John of God
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saya mendatangi penyembuh iman
dari Brazil bernama John of God
dari Brazil bernama John of God
06:39
at his compound down in Brazil.
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di kampnya di Brazil.
06:42
Now, John of God is considered
a full-trance medium,
a full-trance medium,
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John of God bisa dibilang perantara roh,
06:45
which basically means
he can talk to dead people.
he can talk to dead people.
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yang artinya dia bisa berbicara
dengan orang mati.
dengan orang mati.
06:48
But in his case, he claims
to channel a very specific group
to channel a very specific group
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Tapi, dia mengklaim bahwa dirinya
adalah perantara untuk kelompok tertentu,
adalah perantara untuk kelompok tertentu,
06:51
of dead saints and doctors
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yaitu para santo, dan dokter
06:53
in order to heal
whatever's wrong with you.
whatever's wrong with you.
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untuk menyembuhkan apa pun masalah kalian.
06:55
And although John of God does
not have a medical degree
not have a medical degree
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Dan walaupun John of God
tidak mempunyai gelar medis,
tidak mempunyai gelar medis,
06:58
or even a high school diploma,
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atau pun ijazah SMA,
07:01
he actually performs surgery --
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dia benar-benar melakukan operasi --
07:04
the real kind, with a scalpel,
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yang nyata, dengan pisau bedah,
07:06
but no anesthesia.
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tanpa anestesi,
07:08
Yeah, I don't know.
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Entahlah.
07:10
He also offers invisible surgery,
where there is no cutting,
where there is no cutting,
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Dia juga menawarkan operasi tak terlihat,
tanpa pembedahan,
tanpa pembedahan,
07:13
and surrogate surgery,
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dan operasi pengganti,
07:14
where he supposedly can treat somebody
who is thousands of miles away
who is thousands of miles away
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sehingga dia bisa menangani
orang yang berada ribuan mil jauhnya
orang yang berada ribuan mil jauhnya
07:18
by performing a procedure on a loved one.
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lewat perantaraan orang terdekat.
07:21
Now, when you go to visit John of God,
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Jika bertemu John of God,
07:23
there are all kinds
of rules and regulations.
of rules and regulations.
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ada banyak peraturan.
07:25
It's a whole complicated thing,
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Proses yang sangat kompleks,
07:27
but the bottom line is that
you can visit John of God
you can visit John of God
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tapi pada dasarnya
semua orang bisa bertemu John of God,
semua orang bisa bertemu John of God,
07:30
and present him with three things
that you would like fixed,
that you would like fixed,
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dan menunjukkan
tiga hal yang ingin diselesaikan,
tiga hal yang ingin diselesaikan,
07:33
and he will set the dead saints
and doctors to work on your behalf
and doctors to work on your behalf
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lalu dia akan mengirim santo,
dan dokter untuk memecahkan masalah
dan dokter untuk memecahkan masalah
07:37
to get the job done.
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atas nama Anda.
07:38
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
07:39
Now, before you snicker,
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Sebelum tertawa terbahak-bahak,
07:41
consider
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renungkanlah,
07:43
that, at least according to his website,
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bahwa berdasarkan situs webnya,
07:45
over eight million people --
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lebih dari delapan juta orang --
07:47
including Oprah,
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termasuk Oprah,
07:49
the Goddess of Daytime TV --
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Sang Dewi Siang TV --
07:52
have gone to see John of God,
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telah menemui John of God,
07:54
and I was pre-wired to keep an open mind.
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dan saya telah terprogram
untuk berpikiran terbuka.
untuk berpikiran terbuka.
07:58
But to be honest, the whole thing for me
was kind of weird and inconclusive,
was kind of weird and inconclusive,
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Tapi sejujurnya, semua hal itu
sangatlah aneh, dan tidak berarti,
sangatlah aneh, dan tidak berarti,
08:01
and in the end, I flew home,
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pada akhirnya, saya pulang,
08:03
even more confused
than I already started out.
than I already started out.
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menjadi lebih bingung dari sebelumnya.
08:06
But that doesn't mean
I came home empty-handed.
I came home empty-handed.
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Tapi bukan berarti pulang
dengan tangan kosong.
dengan tangan kosong.
08:10
In the weeks leading up
to my trip to Brazil,
to my trip to Brazil,
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Beberapa minggu
sebelum perjalanan ke Brazil,
sebelum perjalanan ke Brazil,
08:13
I mentioned my upcoming plans
to some friends
to some friends
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saya menyampaikan rencana tersebut
kepada beberapa teman,
kepada beberapa teman,
08:15
and to a couple of colleagues at Google,
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dan juga beberapa rekan kerja di Google,
08:17
where I was a lawyer at the time.
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waktu itu saya pengacara di sana.
08:20
And I might have mentioned it
to a couple more people
to a couple more people
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Mungkin saya ceritakan
rencana ini kepada orang lain,
rencana ini kepada orang lain,
08:22
because I'm chatty,
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karena saya suka ngobrol,
08:23
including my neighbor,
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juga dengan tetangga,
08:25
the guy who works at the local
coffee shop I go to each morning,
coffee shop I go to each morning,
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orang yang bekerja di kafe
yang saya kunjungi setiap hari,
yang saya kunjungi setiap hari,
08:29
the checkout lady at Whole Foods
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wanita kasir di Whole Foods,
08:31
and a stranger who sat
next to me on the subway.
next to me on the subway.
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dan orang lain yang duduk
sebelah saya di kereta.
sebelah saya di kereta.
08:34
I told each of them where I was going
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Saya cerita sudah pernah ke mana,
08:36
and why,
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dan kenapa,
08:38
and I offered to carry three wishes
of theirs down to Brazil,
of theirs down to Brazil,
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dan saya menawarkan agar mereka
membawa tiga harapan ke Brazil,
membawa tiga harapan ke Brazil,
08:42
explaining that anyone going
to see John of God
to see John of God
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menjelaskan kepada siapa pun
yang akan bertemu John of God
yang akan bertemu John of God
08:45
could act as a proxy for others
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bisa diwakilkan, jadi tidak semua
08:47
and save them the trip.
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harus ke sana.
08:49
And to my surprise, my in-box overflowed.
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Kemudian kotak pesan saya penuh.
08:53
Friends told friends who told friends,
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Saling bercerita dari mulut ke mulut,
08:55
and those friends
apparently told more friends,
apparently told more friends,
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satu orang menceritakan kepada temannya,
08:58
other strangers
and the guys at their coffee shops,
and the guys at their coffee shops,
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orang lain di kafenya,
09:00
until it seemed that days
before I left for Brazil
before I left for Brazil
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hingga menjelang keberangkatan ke Brazil,
09:02
that there was no one who did not
have my email address.
have my email address.
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tidak ada yang tidak punya email saya.
09:06
And at the time, all I could conclude
was that I had offered too much
was that I had offered too much
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Dan saat itu, saya menyadari
bahwa saya menawarkan terlalu banyak,
bahwa saya menawarkan terlalu banyak,
09:11
to too many.
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sangat terlalu banyak.
09:13
But when I actually reread
those messages a few years later,
those messages a few years later,
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Tapi ketika membaca lagi pesan-pesan itu
beberapa tahun kemudian,
beberapa tahun kemudian,
09:18
I noticed something completely different.
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saya mendapati sesuatu yang berbeda.
09:22
Those emails actually shared
three commonalities,
three commonalities,
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Semua email itu
sebenarnya punya tiga kesamaan,
sebenarnya punya tiga kesamaan,
09:26
the first of which was rather curious.
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yang pertama lumayan menarik.
09:29
Almost everyone sent me meticulous details
about how they could be reached.
about how they could be reached.
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Hampir semua mengirim pesan
tentang cara menghubungi mereka.
tentang cara menghubungi mereka.
09:35
I had told them,
or their friends had told them,
or their friends had told them,
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Saya, atau temannya
telah memberi tahu mereka,
telah memberi tahu mereka,
09:38
that along with the list
of the three things they wanted fixed,
of the three things they wanted fixed,
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bahwa bersama dengan
tiga hal yang ingin diselesaikan,
tiga hal yang ingin diselesaikan,
09:41
I needed their photo, their name
and their date of birth.
and their date of birth.
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saya perlu foto,
nama, dan tanggal lahir mereka.
nama, dan tanggal lahir mereka.
09:45
But they gave me full addresses, with,
like, apartment numbers and zip codes,
like, apartment numbers and zip codes,
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Tapi mereka memberi alamat lengkap,
beserta nomor apartemen, dan kode pos,
beserta nomor apartemen, dan kode pos,
09:49
as if John of God was going
to stop by their house
to stop by their house
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seakan John of God
akan mengunjungi rumah mereka,
akan mengunjungi rumah mereka,
09:52
and see them in person
or send along a package.
or send along a package.
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dan menemui mereka,
atau mengirimkan paket.
atau mengirimkan paket.
09:55
It was as if, in the highly unlikely event
that their wishes were granted
that their wishes were granted
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Seakan, sangat tak memungkinkan
bahwa keinginan mereka bisa dikabulkan
bahwa keinginan mereka bisa dikabulkan
09:59
by John of God,
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oleh John of God,
10:00
they just wanted to make sure
that they weren't delivered
that they weren't delivered
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mereka ingin memastikan
keinginan mereka tidak dikirim
keinginan mereka tidak dikirim
10:03
to the wrong person or the wrong address.
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ke orang, atau alamat yang salah.
10:05
Even if they didn't believe,
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Walaupun mereka tidak percaya,
10:07
they were hedging their bets.
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mereka memasrahkan segalanya.
10:10
The second commonality
was just as curious,
was just as curious,
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Kesamaan kedua yang sama menariknya,
10:14
but far more humbling.
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tapi lebih rendah hati.
10:17
Virtually everyone --
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Hampir semuanya --
10:19
the stranger on the subway,
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orang-orang di kereta,
10:21
the guy at the coffee shop,
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pria di kafe,
10:23
the lawyer down the hall,
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pengacara di lantai bawah,
10:25
the Jew, the atheist,
the Muslim, the devout Catholic --
the Muslim, the devout Catholic --
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orang Yahudi, Atheis,
Muslim, dan Katolik yang taat --
Muslim, dan Katolik yang taat --
10:28
all asked for essentially
the same three things.
the same three things.
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semuanya pada dasarnya
meminta tiga hal yang sama.
meminta tiga hal yang sama.
10:33
OK, there were a couple of outliers,
and yes, a few people asked for cash.
and yes, a few people asked for cash.
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Memang, ada yang tidak,
dan ada beberapa yang meminta uang.
dan ada beberapa yang meminta uang.
10:36
But when I eliminated what were
ultimately a handful of anomalies,
ultimately a handful of anomalies,
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Tapi ketika saya bagi
menjadi beberapa anomali,
menjadi beberapa anomali,
10:41
the similarities were staggering.
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kesamaannya sangat mengejutkan.
10:45
Almost every single person
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Hampir semua orang,
10:48
first asked for good health
for themselves and their families.
for themselves and their families.
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meminta kesehatan untuk keluarga,
juga untuk diri mereka sendiri.
juga untuk diri mereka sendiri.
10:54
Almost universally,
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Hampir secara umum,
10:56
they next asked for happiness
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berikutnya minta kebahagiaan,
10:58
and then love,
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kemudian cinta,
11:01
in that order:
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urutannya seperti ini:
11:03
health, happiness, love.
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kesehatan, kebahagiaan, cinta.
11:07
Sometimes they asked for a specific
health issue to be fixed,
health issue to be fixed,
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Terkadang mereka minta
beberapa masalah kesehatan tertentu
beberapa masalah kesehatan tertentu
11:10
but more often than not, they just
asked for good health in general.
asked for good health in general.
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untuk disembuhkan, tapi sebagian besar
meminta kesehatan secara umum.
meminta kesehatan secara umum.
11:15
When it came to happiness,
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Saat bicara kebahagiaan,
11:17
they each phrased it slightly differently,
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tiap orang mengungkapkannya
secara berbeda,
secara berbeda,
11:20
but they all asked for the same
specific subtype of happiness, too --
specific subtype of happiness, too --
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tapi mereka semua juga minta
jenis kebahagiaan yang sama --
jenis kebahagiaan yang sama --
11:26
the kind of happiness that sinks in
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jenis kebahagiaan yang dalam,
11:28
and sets down roots in your soul;
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dan mengakar di jiwa;
11:32
the kind of happiness
that could sustain us,
that could sustain us,
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jenis kebahagiaan yang bisa menopang kita,
11:35
even if we were to lose
absolutely everything else.
absolutely everything else.
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walaupun seandainya
kita kehilangan semuanya.
kita kehilangan semuanya.
11:40
And for love,
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Untuk masalah cinta,
11:42
they all asked for the kind
of romantic love,
of romantic love,
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mereka semua minta cinta yang romantis,
11:45
the soul mate that we read about
in epic romantic novels,
in epic romantic novels,
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pasangan hidup yang kita baca
di novel romantis,
di novel romantis,
11:50
the kind of love that will stay with us
till the end of our days.
till the end of our days.
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jenis cinta yang akan bertahan
hingga hari-hari terakhir kita.
hingga hari-hari terakhir kita.
11:55
Sorry, that's my husband.
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Maaf, itu suami saya.
12:00
Crap! Now I forgot my place.
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Aduh! Saya jadi lupa.
12:02
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
12:05
(Applause)
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(Tepuk tangan)
12:14
So by and large,
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Secara keseluruhan,
12:16
all of these friends and strangers,
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semua teman, dan orang-orang ini,
12:18
regardless of their background,
race or religion,
race or religion,
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tanpa menghiraukan latar belakang,
ras, atau agama mereka,
ras, atau agama mereka,
12:22
all asked for the same things,
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semua minta hal yang sama,
12:24
and they were the same things
that I really wanted,
that I really wanted,
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dan itu semua sama seperti
yang saya inginkan,
yang saya inginkan,
12:27
the simplified version
of the basic human needs
of the basic human needs
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penyederhanaan
dari kebutuhan pokok manusia
dari kebutuhan pokok manusia
12:30
identified by social scientists
like Abraham Maslow and Manfred Max-Neef.
like Abraham Maslow and Manfred Max-Neef.
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yang dijelaskan oleh pakar sosial seperti
Abraham Maslow, dan Manfred Max-Neef.
Abraham Maslow, dan Manfred Max-Neef.
12:35
No one asked for answers
to the big existential questions
to the big existential questions
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Tak ada yang minta jawaban
dari pertanyaan eksistensi yang besar,
dari pertanyaan eksistensi yang besar,
12:38
or for proof of God or the meaning of life
like I had set out to find.
like I had set out to find.
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atau bukti Tuhan, atau arti hidup
seperti yang ingin saya cari.
seperti yang ingin saya cari.
12:42
They didn't even ask for an end
to war or global hunger.
to war or global hunger.
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Mereka bahkan tak minta agar perang,
atau kelaparan berhenti.
atau kelaparan berhenti.
12:46
Even when they could have asked
for absolutely anything,
for absolutely anything,
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Walaupun saat mereka diberikan
kesempatan untuk meminta apa pun,
kesempatan untuk meminta apa pun,
12:50
they all asked for health,
happiness and love.
happiness and love.
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mereka semua minta kesehatan,
kebahagiaan, dan cinta.
kebahagiaan, dan cinta.
12:55
So now those emails had
a third commonality as well.
a third commonality as well.
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Semua email itu punya kesamaan ketiga.
12:59
Each of them ended in the exact same way.
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Semua diakhiri dengan cara yang sama.
13:03
Instead of thanking me for carting
their wishes all the way to Brazil,
their wishes all the way to Brazil,
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Bukannya berterima kasih kepada saya,
karena membawakan harapan ke Brazil,
karena membawakan harapan ke Brazil,
13:08
everyone said,
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mereka semua bilang,
13:11
"Please don't tell anyone."
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"Jangan beri tahu siapa pun"
13:14
So I decided to tell everyone --
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Jadi, saya ceritakan ke semua orang --
13:16
(Laughter)
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(Penonton tertawa)
13:18
right here on this stage,
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di panggung ini,
13:21
not because I'm untrustworthy,
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bukan karena saya tak bisa dipercaya,
13:23
but because the fact
that we have so much in common
that we have so much in common
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tapi karena kenyataan
bahwa kita punya banyak kesamaan,
bahwa kita punya banyak kesamaan,
13:27
feels especially important for us
all to hear, especially now,
all to hear, especially now,
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rasanya sangat penting untuk diketahui
semua orang, apalagi sekarang,
semua orang, apalagi sekarang,
13:30
when so many of the world's problems
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ketika masalah di dunia ini begitu banyak,
13:32
seem to be because we keep focusing
on the things that make us different,
on the things that make us different,
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mungkin karena kita terus fokus
pada hal yang membuat kita semua berbeda,
pada hal yang membuat kita semua berbeda,
13:36
not on what binds us together.
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bukan pada hal yang menyatukan kita.
13:39
And look -- I am the first to admit
that I am not a statistician,
that I am not a statistician,
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Saya yang pertama mengakui
bahwa saya bukan seorang ahli statistik,
bahwa saya bukan seorang ahli statistik,
13:44
and that the data I presented to you
that I just accumulated in my in-box
that I just accumulated in my in-box
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dan data yang saya tunjukkan
semua berasal dari kotak pesan,
semua berasal dari kotak pesan,
13:48
is more anecdotal than scientific,
more qualitative than quantitative.
more qualitative than quantitative.
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lebih bersifat anekdot bukan spesifik,
lebih kualitatif bukan kuantitatif.
lebih kualitatif bukan kuantitatif.
13:54
It is, as anyone who works
with data would tell you,
with data would tell you,
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Benar seperti yang akan
dikatakan para pengolah data,
dikatakan para pengolah data,
13:57
hardly a statistically significant
or demographically balanced sample.
or demographically balanced sample.
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hampir tidak signifikan secara statistik,
atau sampel demografinya seimbang.
atau sampel demografinya seimbang.
14:01
But nonetheless, I find myself
thinking about those emails
thinking about those emails
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Tapi tetap saja,
saya memikirkan semua email itu,
saya memikirkan semua email itu,
14:05
every time I reflect back
on the bias and prejudice
on the bias and prejudice
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setiap kali saya melihat
bias, dan prasangka
bias, dan prasangka
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that I've faced in my life,
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yang terjadi dalam hidup saya,
14:11
or when there's another hate crime
or a senseless tragedy
or a senseless tragedy
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atau kapan pun terjadi
kejahatan kebencian,
kejahatan kebencian,
14:14
that underscores the disheartening sense
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atau tragedi tanpa sebab,
yang menyebabkan rasa kecewa,
yang menyebabkan rasa kecewa,
14:16
that our differences
might be insurmountable.
might be insurmountable.
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menekankan bahwa perbedaan kita
mungkin tak terkira.
mungkin tak terkira.
14:21
I then remind myself that I have evidence
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Kemudian saya sadar punya bukti,
14:23
that the humbling, unifying commonality
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bahwa kesamaan yang merendahkan hati,
dan menyatukan
dan menyatukan
14:26
of our humanity
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kemanusiaan kita
14:27
is that, even when presented
with the opportunity
with the opportunity
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adalah, walaupun diberikan kesempatan
14:30
to ask for anything at all,
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untuk meminta apa pun,
14:32
most of us want the same things,
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kebanyakan kita ingin hal yang sama,
14:34
and that this is true
no matter who we are,
no matter who we are,
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dan siapa pun diri kita,
14:38
what name we call our god,
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siapa pun Tuhan kita,
14:40
or which religion, if any, we call home.
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atau agama apa pun
yang nyaman bagi kita pribadi.
yang nyaman bagi kita pribadi.
14:45
I then also note
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Kemudian saya amati,
14:46
that apparently some of us
want these things so badly
want these things so badly
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bahwa rupanya beberapa
dari kita sangat menginginkan hal ini,
dari kita sangat menginginkan hal ini,
14:50
that we would email a None,
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sampai-sampai kita mau mengirim email
14:53
a spiritually confused None like me --
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kepada Non, orang yang bingung
akan agamanya seperti saya --
akan agamanya seperti saya --
14:56
some might say otherwise
confused as well --
confused as well --
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yang lain juga merasa
bahwa saya bingung --
bahwa saya bingung --
14:59
and that we would seek out this stranger
and email her our deepest wishes,
and email her our deepest wishes,
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namun kita mau mencari orang ini,
dan mengirimkan keinginan terdalam kita,
dan mengirimkan keinginan terdalam kita,
15:04
just in case there is
the remote possibility
the remote possibility
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kalau-kalau ada kemungkinan,
15:07
that they might be granted
by someone who is not a god,
by someone who is not a god,
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hal ini akan dikabulkan
seseorang yang bukan Tuhan,
seseorang yang bukan Tuhan,
15:11
much less our god,
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apa lagi Tuhan kita,
15:13
someone who is not even
a member of our chosen religion,
a member of our chosen religion,
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seseorang yang bukan anggota
dari agama kita,
dari agama kita,
15:17
someone who, when you
look at him on paper,
look at him on paper,
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seseorang yang tampaknya,
15:20
seems like an unlikely
candidate to deliver.
candidate to deliver.
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bukan orang yang bisa mengabulkan.
15:24
And so now,
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Jadi,
15:26
when I reflect back on my spiritual quest,
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jika berkilas balik
pada perjalanan spiritual saya,
pada perjalanan spiritual saya,
15:31
even though I did not find God,
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walaupun saya tidak menemukan Tuhan,
15:35
I found a home in this:
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saya menemukan kenyamanan di sini:
15:39
even today, in a world
fractured by religious,
fractured by religious,
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walaupun sekarang,
di dunia yang terpecah oleh agama,
di dunia yang terpecah oleh agama,
15:44
ethnic, political, philosophical,
and racial divides,
and racial divides,
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etnik, politik, filosofi, dan ras,
15:49
even with all of our obvious differences,
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walaupun dengan perbedaan kita yang nyata,
15:52
at the end of the day,
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pada akhirnya,
15:54
and the most fundamental level,
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pada tingkat yang paling mendasar,
15:56
we are all the same.
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kita semua itu sama.
15:59
Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
16:00
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anjali Kumar - General counsel, author, "idea acupuncturist"Anjali Kumar is a Brooklyn-born, first-generation Indian American author, attorney, advisor, speaker and “idea acupuncturist.”
Why you should listen
Anjali Kumar is the Chief People Officer and General Counsel at Cheddar, author and "idea acupuncturist." She was formerly the Head of Social Innovation and Founding General Counsel at Warby Parker, a transformative lifestyle brand offering designer eyewear at affordable prices while leading the way for socially conscious businesses. Prior to joining Warby Parker, Kumar was Senior Counsel at Google where she was a commercial and product attorney on areas ranging from Google X to YouTube. She is an Adjunct Professor at Columbia Business School and Fordham University and serves as an advisor to prominent technology companies, luxury fashion brands, consumer products and non-profit organizations including Malala Fund, IDEO.org and organize.org. She serves on the Board of Directors of Happy Money, GloScience Professional, Amplifier Foundation, Edible Schoolyard NY, and GrowNYC and the Guggenheim museum’s Global Innovation Group. Anjali’s first book, Stalking God: My Unorthodox Search for Something to Believe In, comes out January 2018 via Seal Press.
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