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Lindsay Amer: Why kids need to learn about gender and sexuality
琳賽·艾莫: 為什麼孩子需要了解性別和性向？
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琳賽·艾莫是《酷兒孩子網路劇》（Queer Kid Stuff）的創作人，這是一個教育性影集，透過歌曲和比喻來解說關於性別和性向的複雜想法。艾莫給孩子和他們的家人一個字彙來表達自己，希望能讓孩子長大後更有同理心，並在這個做自己會有危險的世界中，散播「接受」的訊息。艾莫說：「我希望孩子長大後能做他們自己，對自己是什麼人、能夠成為什麼人感到驕傲。」
Lindsay Amer - Digital creator
Lindsay "Lindz" Amer creates LGBTQ+ and social justice media for kids and families. Full bio
Lindsay "Lindz" Amer creates LGBTQ+ and social justice media for kids and families. Full bio
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00:12
Alright, let's get this kicked off.
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好，咱們開始吧。
00:15
(Music)
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（音樂）
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(Singing) It's OK to be gay.
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（唱歌）身為同性戀沒有關係，
00:20
We are different in many ways.
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我們在許多方面都有所不同。
不論你是男孩、女孩，
或兩者之間，都無所謂，
或兩者之間，都無所謂，
00:24
Doesn't matter if you're a boy,
girl or somewhere in between,
girl or somewhere in between,
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we all are part of one big family.
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我們都是大家庭的一份子。
00:34
Gay means "happy."
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Gay（同性戀）也代表「快樂」。
00:37
Queer Kid Stuff.
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《酷兒孩子網路劇》。
00:41
You are enough
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在《酷兒孩子網路劇》，
00:43
here at Queer Kid Stuff.
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你很夠格了。
00:46
(Applause)
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（掌聲）
00:53
Opening a performance with lyrics
like "It's OK to be gay"
like "It's OK to be gay"
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在一間滿是成人的房間中表演，
以「身為同性戀沒有關係」的
歌詞開場是一回事；
歌詞開場是一回事；
00:56
for a roomful of adults is one thing,
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but it's entirely different
for a roomful of kindergartners.
for a roomful of kindergartners.
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但在滿是幼稚園小朋友的房間中
又完全是另一回事了。
又完全是另一回事了。
你們剛剛聽到的是我的
《酷兒孩子網路劇》的主題曲，
《酷兒孩子網路劇》的主題曲，
01:03
What you've just heard is the theme song
for my web series "Queer Kid Stuff,"
for my web series "Queer Kid Stuff,"
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這個網路劇是我針對各年齡層
製作的 LGBTQ+ 及社會正義影片。
製作的 LGBTQ+ 及社會正義影片。
01:07
where I make LGBTQ+
and social justice videos for all ages.
and social justice videos for all ages.
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01:12
And when I say all ages,
I mean literal babies
I mean literal babies
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我說的各年齡層，真的是從嬰兒
一直到曾曾祖母。
01:16
to your great-great-grandma.
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Now, I know what you're thinking:
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我知道你們在想什麼：
01:22
"Whoa, they're talking
about gay stuff with kids."
about gay stuff with kids."
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「哇，他們在跟孩子
談同性戀的題材。」
談同性戀的題材。」
但，跟孩子談同性戀的
題材其實很重要。
題材其實很重要。
01:25
But talking to kids about gay stuff
is actually crucial.
is actually crucial.
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01:29
The American Academy
of Pediatrics has found
of Pediatrics has found
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美國兒科學會發現，
孩子在四歲時就會清楚了解
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that children have a solid understanding
of their gender identity
of their gender identity
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自己的性別認同。
01:35
by the age of four.
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This is when children
are developing their sense of self.
are developing their sense of self.
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這個時期就是孩子
發展出自我感的時期。
發展出自我感的時期。
他們會觀察周遭的世界，
01:41
They're observing the world around them,
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吸收那些資訊，
01:43
absorbing that information
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01:44
and internalizing it.
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並將之內化。
01:46
Now, most parents want their children
to become kind, empathetic,
to become kind, empathetic,
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大部分的父母都希望
自己的孩子長大成人後
自己的孩子長大成人後
能變得仁慈、有同理心、自信，
01:50
self-confident adults,
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而接觸多樣性對其社會發展
01:52
and exposure to diversity
is an important part
is an important part
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和情緒發展而言十分重要。
01:55
of that social and emotional development.
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And -- gender nonconforming kids
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而且非常規性別的
孩子、變性的孩子，
孩子、變性的孩子，
02:01
and trans kids and kids with trans
and nonbinary and queer parents
and nonbinary and queer parents
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以及父母是變性、
非二元、酷兒的孩子
非二元、酷兒的孩子
比比皆是。
02:07
are everywhere.
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02:12
In the series, my stuffed bear cohost
and I talk about the LGBT community,
and I talk about the LGBT community,
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在劇中，我的填充熊搭擋
和我會談論 LGBT 族群、
和我會談論 LGBT 族群、
LGBT 行動主義、性別以及代名詞、
02:17
activism, gender and pronouns,
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同意和身體自愛。
02:19
consent and body positivity.
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我們透過歌曲來處理這些主題，
02:21
We tackle these topics through songs,
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就像你們剛才聽到的那首歌，
02:24
not unlike the one you just heard,
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有簡單的定義和比喻。
02:26
simple definitions and metaphors.
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我們處理這些想法的方式，
可借用我的一位老教授的說法，
可借用我的一位老教授的說法，
02:28
We approach these ideas, to steal a phrase
from an old professor of mine,
from an old professor of mine,
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來自《門把之下》——
02:32
from "under the doorknob" --
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降到學步兒童的身高，
02:35
getting down to toddler height
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透過他們小小的眼睛，
向上看向廣大的世界，
向上看向廣大的世界，
02:36
and looking up at the great big world
through their tiny little eyes,
through their tiny little eyes,
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taking these seemingly complex ideas
and simplifying them --
and simplifying them --
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簡化這些看似複雜的想法——
不是變通俗，
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not dumbing them down,
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but homing in on the core concept.
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而是瞄準核心概念。
02:50
Gender is about how we feel
and how we express ourselves.
and how we express ourselves.
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性別的重點是我們對自己的
感受和如何表現自己。
感受和如何表現自己。
性向的重點則是愛、性別和家庭，
02:53
Sexuality is about love
and gender and family,
and gender and family,
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而不是性愛。
02:57
not about sex.
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這些都是孩子能夠理解的想法。
02:58
And these are all ideas
children can grasp.
children can grasp.
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在我最早期針對性別
所製做的其中一集裡，
所製做的其中一集裡，
03:01
In one of my earliest
episodes about gender,
episodes about gender,
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我用到了代名詞的想法，
03:03
I used the idea of pronouns
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來強調定義，
並介紹中性的代名詞，
並介紹中性的代名詞，
03:05
to underscore the definition
and introduce gender-neutral pronouns
and introduce gender-neutral pronouns
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如「他們」（英文不分性別）。
03:08
like "they" and "them."
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我鼓勵孩子們去想想
他們自己的代名詞，
他們自己的代名詞，
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I encourage children to think
about their own pronouns
about their own pronouns
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並問問其他人的代名詞。
03:13
and to ask others for theirs.
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03:16
In later episodes,
I build on this foundation
I build on this foundation
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後來的幾集就是
繼續發展這個基礎，
繼續發展這個基礎，
並介紹很炫的字詞，
像是「非二元」及「變性」。
像是「非二元」及「變性」。
03:19
and introduce big fancy words
like "nonbinary" and "transgender."
like "nonbinary" and "transgender."
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03:24
I get emails from viewers in their 20s
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有些二十多歲的觀眾寫信給我，
他們用我的影片來向他們的
祖父母解釋非二元性別。
祖父母解釋非二元性別。
03:26
who use my videos to explain
nonbinary gender to their grandparents.
nonbinary gender to their grandparents.
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03:32
But, I get one comment
over and over again:
over and over again:
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但，我總是不斷得到這種意見：
03:38
"Let kids be kids."
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「讓孩子當孩子吧。」
03:42
Well, that's a nice sentiment and all,
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那個觀點很好，
但前提是它指的是所有的孩子。
03:44
but only if it actually includes all kids.
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03:51
Just a few weeks ago,
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就在幾個星期之前，
03:53
a 15-year-old in Huntsville, Alabama
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阿拉巴馬州亨茨維爾的十五歲孩子
因為身為同性戀
被霸凌而輕生自殺。
被霸凌而輕生自殺。
03:56
died by suicide after being
bullied for being gay.
bullied for being gay.
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04:00
In 2018, it was a seven-year-old
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2018 年，同樣的事發生在
科羅拉多州丹佛的七歲孩子身上。
04:05
in Denver, Colorado.
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There have been and will be many more.
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有很多這樣的孩子，
將來還會有更多。
將來還會有更多。
04:12
Lesbian, gay and bisexual teens
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女、男同性戀及雙性戀的
青少年自殺的機率
青少年自殺的機率
04:14
are more than three times
more likely to attempt suicide
more likely to attempt suicide
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比同儕的異性戀青少年
04:17
than their heterosexual peers,
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要高三倍以上，
04:19
and transgender teens
are almost six times more likely.
are almost six times more likely.
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而變性的青少年自殺率
幾乎要高達六倍。
幾乎要高達六倍。
04:25
According to one study,
roughly one third of homeless youth
roughly one third of homeless youth
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根據一項研究，無家可歸的
青年當中，大約有三分之一
青年當中，大約有三分之一
是女、男同性戀、
雙性戀或性別存疑，
雙性戀或性別存疑，
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identify as lesbian, gay,
bisexual or questioning,
bisexual or questioning,
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大約 4% 是變性人，
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and about four percent of homeless youth
identify as transgender,
identify as transgender,
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相較之下，被調查的對象中
一般青年人口只佔 1%。
一般青年人口只佔 1%。
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compared with one percent
of the general youth population surveyed.
of the general youth population surveyed.
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According to the Human Rights Campaign,
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根據人權戰線（組織）的資料，
2013 年起，
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there have been 128 killings
of trans people
of trans people
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在 32 州的 87 個城市中，
共有 128 名變性人遭殺害。
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in 87 cities across 32 states
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since 2013.
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那些還只是有被舉報的案例。
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And those are the only the reported cases.
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And 80 percent of those killings
were of trans women of color.
were of trans women of color.
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那些殺人案中，有八成受害者
是有色人種的變性女子。
是有色人種的變性女子。
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The queer situation is bleak,
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酷兒的情況很淒涼，
05:10
to say the least.
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甚至更糟。
05:12
The YouTube comments on my videos
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在 YouTube 上大家針對
我的影片留言的意見
我的影片留言的意見
05:14
are not much better.
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也好不到哪裡去。
05:17
I'm used to the harassment.
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我很習慣被騷擾了。
05:19
I get messages daily
telling me I'm a pedophile
telling me I'm a pedophile
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每天我都會收到
罵我戀童癖的訊息，
罵我戀童癖的訊息，
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and that I should kill myself
in a number of increasingly creative ways.
in a number of increasingly creative ways.
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說我應該自殺，還幫我
想了很多有創意的死法。
想了很多有創意的死法。
05:26
I once had to put the word "truck"
on my block list
on my block list
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我還曾經把「卡車」一詞
放到我的阻擋清單中，
放到我的阻擋清單中，
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because someone wanted me
to get run over by a truck.
to get run over by a truck.
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因為有人希望我被卡車撞死。
05:32
"Shower" and "oven" are in there, too,
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「淋浴」和「烤箱」
也都上了名單，
也都上了名單，
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for the less creative and more disturbing
Holocaust reference.
Holocaust reference.
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在比較沒創意、比較擾人的
大屠殺訊息中會出現這些詞。
大屠殺訊息中會出現這些詞。
05:39
When neo-Nazis marched in Charlottesville,
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當新納粹主義者行經夏律第鎮，
並不意外，我得知
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I was unsurprised to learn
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that the creator of a violent Reddit meme
about one of my episodes
about one of my episodes
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從著我的網路劇而來的暴力
Reddit（網站）迷因的創作者
Reddit（網站）迷因的創作者
05:48
was in the tiki torch crowd.
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也在拿著夏威夷
提基火把的群眾裡面。
提基火把的群眾裡面。
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This barrage of negativity
is what we're up against:
is what we're up against:
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這種負面的猛烈攻擊，
就是我們要對抗的：
就是我們要對抗的：
05:55
the crushing statistics, the violence,
the mental health risks,
the mental health risks,
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壓倒性的統計數字、
暴力、心理健康風險、
暴力、心理健康風險、
我出櫃時我父母出於好意
給我的不理想回應，
給我的不理想回應，
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the well-meaning but flawed response
my parents gave me when I came out,
my parents gave me when I came out,
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他們說，不希望
我過比較辛苦的人生。
我過比較辛苦的人生。
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that they didn't want me
to have a harder life.
to have a harder life.
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06:07
That's what we're up against.
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那些就是我們在對抗的。
06:10
But in the face of all that,
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但，在面對這一切時，
06:13
I choose joy.
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我選擇喜悅。
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I choose rainbows
and unicorns and glitter,
and unicorns and glitter,
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我選擇彩虹、獨角獸、閃閃發光，
我和兒時的泰迪填充熊一起
唱出「身為同性戀沒有關係」。
唱出「身為同性戀沒有關係」。
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and I sing that it's OK to be gay
with my childhood stuffed teddy bear.
with my childhood stuffed teddy bear.
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我為孩子做酷兒媒體，
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I make queer media for kids
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because I wish I had this
when I was their age.
when I was their age.
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因為我多希望自己
在那個年紀時有這些東西。
在那個年紀時有這些東西。
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I make it so others don't have
to struggle through what I did,
to struggle through what I did,
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我製作這些，讓其他人不用
再經歷我所經歷過的掙扎，
再經歷我所經歷過的掙扎，
我當年不了解我的性別認同，
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not understanding my identity
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because I didn't have any exposure
to who I could be.
to who I could be.
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因為我不知道我能夠
成為什麼樣的人。
成為什麼樣的人。
06:41
I teach and spread this message
through joy and positivity
through joy and positivity
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我選擇教導、散播這個訊息的
方式，是透過喜悅和正面態度，
方式，是透過喜悅和正面態度，
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instead of framing it around
the hardships of queer life.
the hardships of queer life.
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而不是把話題一直繞著
酷兒生活有多苦打轉。
酷兒生活有多苦打轉。
06:48
I want kids to grow up and into themselves
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我希望孩子長大後能做他們自己，
06:51
with pride for who they are
and who they can be,
and who they can be,
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對自己是什麼人、
能夠成為什麼人感到驕傲。
能夠成為什麼人感到驕傲。
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no matter who they love or what they wear
or what pronouns they use.
or what pronouns they use.
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不論他們愛誰、穿什麼
或使用什麼代名詞。
或使用什麼代名詞。
06:58
And I want them to love others
for their differences,
for their differences,
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我希望人們能因
別人的差異而愛他們，
別人的差異而愛他們，
07:02
not in spite of them.
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而不是儘管有差異仍然愛他們。
07:05
I think fostering this pride and empathy
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我認為培養這種自尊心和同理心
07:08
will make the world a kinder
and more equal place
and more equal place
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能夠讓世界變得更仁慈、更平等，
07:13
and combat the bigotry and hate
that festers in our world.
that festers in our world.
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並對抗那些讓世界
惡化的盲從和仇恨。
惡化的盲從和仇恨。
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So, talk to a kid about gender.
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所以，和孩子談談性別，
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Talk to a kid about sexuality.
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和孩子談談性向，
教導他們同意。
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Teach them about consent.
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告訴他們，男孩穿洋裝、
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Tell them it is OK
for boys to wear dresses
for boys to wear dresses
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女孩大聲說話，都沒有關係。
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and for girls to speak up.
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Let's spread radical queer joy.
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讓我們來散播基本的酷兒喜悅。
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Thank you.
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謝謝。
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Lindsay Amer - Digital creatorLindsay "Lindz" Amer creates LGBTQ+ and social justice media for kids and families.
Why you should listen
Lindz Amer writes, produces and cohosts Queer Kid Stuff, an original LGBTQ+ educational webseries for ages three and up. They also perform QKS music and stories at schools, museums, libraries and local LGBTQ+ community centers and are embarking on a six-city tour for the 2019-2020 school year. They recently executive produced a pride campaign to #SpreadQueerJoy in honor of the 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, which culminated in a celebratory music video.
Amer is the founder and CEO of Queer Kid Studios, a multimedia production company based in Portland, Maine, making queer-focused, intersectional all-ages media. The Huffington Post calls Queer Kid Stuff a "groundbreaking YouTube educational resource." Teen Vogue praised their episode on consent during the height of #MeToo, saying it "shows exactly why there's no excuse not to grasp consent. Even toddlers can understand it." And @shondarhimes tweeted she's "so here for this!" Amer is currently developing a children’s podcast focusing on social justice, and a narrative web series spin-off of QKS. They are also writing a picture book, and a full-length screenplay about a nonbinary kid!
Amer is a Creative Resident at SPACE on Ryder Farm, a TED Resident and were named a Rising Star by GLAAD, a Queero by them.us, were a Webby Honoree, and have received grants from the Made in NYC Women's Media Fund, the Awesome Project and VidCon's Emerging Creator program.
Lindsay Amer | Speaker | TED.com