Priya Parker: 3 steps to turn everyday get-togethers into transformative gatherings
Priya Parker teaches people to gather better at home, at work, at school and in our communities. Full bio
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and stepfather's home --
to my father and stepmother's home
to explain how I ended up
in Charlottesville or Istanbul
to connect meaningfully,
beautiful electricity in those rooms.
gatherings like all of you --
or a back-to-school picnic --
conflict groups
somebody's birthday party
between people,
focus on getting the things right --
between people largely to chance.
our everyday gatherings
by human connection,
dozens of brave and unusual hosts --
a Cirque du Soleil choreographer,
what creates meaningful
some of what I learned today
we skip too quickly to form.
and repetitive gatherings,
more meaningful everyday gatherings
disputable purpose.
was dreading her baby shower.
on the baby" games
to address her fears
remember that guy? --
to invent a gathering based on that.
six women gathered.
she was terrified --
she already carries --
and help her in labor as well.
for each quality into a necklace
in the delivery room.
family vows, and spoke them aloud,
their marriage central
from each of their family lines
including men, for a dinner party.
a favorite memory from their childhood
this is a lot for a baby shower,
or it's a little intimate.
should be specific to you.
more meaningful everyday gatherings
or religion at the dinner table.
it preserves harmony,
of meaning, which is heat,
to cultivate good controversy
is as threatened by unhealthy peace
with an architecture firm,
to continue to be an architecture firm
the hot new thing, a design firm,
the construction of spaces.
disagreement in the room,
was actually speaking up publicly.
all the architects came back,
in one corner to represent architecture,
with counterarguments,
the best possible argument
was blocking their progress.
physically choose a side
to actually show where they stood,
tense Thanksgiving dinner?
and asking for stories instead.
related to the underlying conflict.
from their life and experience
has ever heard,
everyday gatherings,
invitations coming with a set of rules.
intersectional society,
unlike our own,
to connect meaningfully.
for a specific purpose.
assumptions of phone etiquette:
of just strangers,
everybody to just listen
in the room --
to be mothers talk about when they gather,
you have to take a shot.
change and harmonize our behavior.
by becoming a chameleon.
and through conflict work
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Priya Parker - Conflict mediator, authorPriya Parker teaches people to gather better at home, at work, at school and in our communities.
Why you should listen
Priya Parker is helping us take a deeper look at how anyone can create collective meaning in modern life, one gathering at a time. A group conflict mediator, she's spent 15 years helping leaders and communities have complicated conversations during times of heat and transition. Frustrated by dull and disappointing gatherings, Parker set out to rewrite the rule book for creating transformative group experiences.
Parker interviewed more than 100 gatherers and wove together their wisdom and her own experiences in her acclaimed book The Art of Gathering. She has worked on racial dialogues on American campuses and peace-building projects in India, Africa and the Arab world.
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