The Way We Work
Dan Clay: Why you should bring your whole self to work
丹克雷: 為什麼要把完整的自己帶去工作？
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丹克雷擔心在工作場所會因為自己「太同性戀」而被輕視，所以他在展現自己的個性方面很低調。但後來他的另一個自我「凱莉變裝蕭」在網路上爆紅。想知道接著發生了什麼事，請觀賞影片。
Dan Clay - Writer, consultant
By day, Dan Clay is a partner in at a brand and innovation consultancy. His more well-known persona is Carrie Dragshaw. Full bio
By day, Dan Clay is a partner in at a brand and innovation consultancy. His more well-known persona is Carrie Dragshaw. Full bio
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A leader is steady, firm,
decisive, unwavering.
decisive, unwavering.
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領導人要沉著、
堅定、果決、不動搖。
堅定、果決、不動搖。
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Never let 'em see you sweat,
always have an answer.
always have an answer.
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千萬不能讓別人看見你冒冷汗，
永遠都要有答案。
永遠都要有答案。
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[The Way We Work]
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〔我們工作的方式〕
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My name is Dan, I'm a partner
at a global creative consultancy.
at a global creative consultancy.
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我叫做丹，我是一間全球創意
顧問諮詢公司的合夥人。
顧問諮詢公司的合夥人。
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But there's another side to me:
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但我還有另一面：
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Carrie Dragshaw,
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凱莉變裝蕭，
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the character I created on Instagram.
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我在 Instagram 上
創造出來的角色。
創造出來的角色。
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As I thought about my double life,
I couldn't help but wonder ...
I couldn't help but wonder ...
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想到我的雙重身分時，
我就無法不納悶……
我就無法不納悶……
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When your true self
is a little nontraditional,
is a little nontraditional,
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如果你的真實自我
和傳統有一點點不同，
和傳統有一點點不同，
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how much of it can you really
bring to the office?
bring to the office?
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你能把多少的真實自我
帶到辦公室中？
帶到辦公室中？
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For some of us is authenticity off-limits?
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對某些人來說，真實性是禁區？
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For the first 10 years of my career,
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在我職涯的前十年，
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I thought there was
one way to be a leader:
one way to be a leader:
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我以為要成為領導人
只有一種方式：
只有一種方式：
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decisive and serious.
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要果決且嚴肅。
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But that's not me.
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但我不是這樣的人。
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So I'd put on basically
office drag to fit the role:
office drag to fit the role:
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所以，我穿上了辦公室變裝，
來配合這個角色：
來配合這個角色：
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I'd talk in a deeper voice,
try to hold in my hand motions.
try to hold in my hand motions.
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我會用比較低沉的聲音說話，
試著控制我的手部動作。
試著控制我的手部動作。
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I'm someone who gets
really excited about things,
really excited about things,
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我是那種會對事物很興奮的人，
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so I'd temper that.
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我得要在這方面多克制。
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I had this little voice
in my head, telling me,
in my head, telling me,
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我腦中有個小聲音在跟我說：
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"You're too gay,
too feminine, too flamboyant."
too feminine, too flamboyant."
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「你太同性戀了，
太娘了，太浮誇了。」
太娘了，太浮誇了。」
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I had one well-intentioned
adviser who said,
adviser who said,
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我有一位顧問，出自善意這麼說：
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"Everyone knows you're gay.
And that's great.
And that's great.
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「大家都知道你是同性戀。那很好。
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But you don't need to beat them
over the head with it."
over the head with it."
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但你不需要一直
向他們強調這一點。」
向他們強調這一點。」
01:10
Cut to: me in a tutu, for Halloween 2016.
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切換到：2016 年萬聖節，
這是我穿著短裙。
這是我穿著短裙。
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I dressed up as my favorite
TV show character, Carrie Bradshaw,
TV show character, Carrie Bradshaw,
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我打扮成我最喜歡的
電視節目角色凱莉布雷蕭，
電視節目角色凱莉布雷蕭，
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thinking my friends
would get a kick out of it.
would get a kick out of it.
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心想我的朋友會很喜歡。
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And then, things got crazy.
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接著，一切失控了。
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The post went viral,
and at first it was pure fun.
and at first it was pure fun.
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這篇貼文被瘋傳，
一開始只是單純好玩。
一開始只是單純好玩。
01:26
I started getting these incredible
messages from people
messages from people
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我開始收到大家
傳來的訊息，棒極了，
傳來的訊息，棒極了，
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about how happy it made them,
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我讓他們很高興，
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how it encouraged them
to be their authentic selves.
to be their authentic selves.
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鼓舞了他們，去做真實的自己。
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And I started to think,
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我開始想，
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maybe this is the time to tell that
little voice in my head to just shut up
little voice in my head to just shut up
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也許該是叫我腦中的
小聲音閉嘴的時候了，
小聲音閉嘴的時候了，
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and let myself be me.
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讓我做自己吧。
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But then things got a little too big.
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但，接著，事情鬧得有點大。
01:44
Carrie Dragshaw was everywhere --
In the "New York Post", "US Weekly" --
In the "New York Post", "US Weekly" --
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到處都是凱莉變裝蕭——
《紐約郵報》、《US 週刊》——
《紐約郵報》、《US 週刊》——
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and I got terrified:
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我嚇壞了：
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"What would my bosses think?
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「我的老闆們會怎麼想？
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Would my coworkers
still respect me as a leader?
still respect me as a leader?
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我的同事還會把我
當領導人來尊重嗎？
當領導人來尊重嗎？
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What would my clients think?"
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我的客戶會怎麼想？」
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I thought I was going to have to
get a different job.
get a different job.
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我以為我得要開始找新工作了。
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But then, something happened,
something small.
something small.
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但，接著，發生了
一件事，一件小事。
一件事，一件小事。
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I got a text from my boss,
it wasn't long, it just said,
it wasn't long, it just said,
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我老闆傳了一則訊息給我，
訊息不長，寫著：
訊息不長，寫著：
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"Wow, Cosmo!"
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「哇，上柯夢波丹了！」
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With a link to an article
that had just gone up about me.
that had just gone up about me.
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並附上一個連結，
連到一篇關於我的新文章。
連到一篇關於我的新文章。
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And it let me put that little,
scared voice away
scared voice away
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這讓我把那害怕的小聲音收了起來，
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and just be excited
about this whole new world,
about this whole new world,
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單純地對這個全新的
世界感到興奮，
世界感到興奮，
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rather than freaked out.
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而不是被嚇壞。
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That's the power of one person,
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那就是一個人的力量，
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sometimes all it takes is one ally
to make you feel comfortable.
to make you feel comfortable.
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有時候，只要有一個盟友，
就能讓你感到舒服。
就能讓你感到舒服。
02:22
And my coworkers
started acting differently.
started acting differently.
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我同事的行為開始改變。
02:24
They became more open,
more playful with me,
more playful with me,
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他們對我的方式變得
比較開放，比較會開玩笑，
比較開放，比較會開玩笑，
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it was as if knowing this other side of me
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好像知道了我的另一面之後，
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gave them permission
to be more of themselves as well.
to be more of themselves as well.
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讓他們也可以更去做自己。
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I thought that openness and vulnerability
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我以為開放和脆弱
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would actually decrease
my standing with my team.
my standing with my team.
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會降低我在我的團隊中的地位。
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But it's done the opposite.
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但結果卻相反。
02:39
Two years in,
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兩年過去了，
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I never could have imagined that this
part of me would not just be embraced,
part of me would not just be embraced,
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我當初怎麼也料想不到，
我的這個部分不僅會被擁抱，
我的這個部分不僅會被擁抱，
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but could actually help my career.
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還對我的職涯有益。
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Now, I'm lucky.
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我很幸運。
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I work in New York City,
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我在紐約市工作，
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in an office where creativity is valued
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在我們的辦公室裡，
大家很重視創意，
大家很重視創意，
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and I was already pretty established
in my career when all of this started.
in my career when all of this started.
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在這一切開始之前，我的職涯
其實就已經有不錯的基礎。
其實就已經有不錯的基礎。
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Maybe that's you, maybe it isn't.
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也許你也是這樣，也許不是。
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But all of this has taught me so much
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但我從這一切學了好多，
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about just the importance
of bringing your whole self to work.
of bringing your whole self to work.
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學到要把完整的自己帶到工作上。
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And it's really challenged
my own misperceptions
my own misperceptions
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這件事真的挑戰了我的誤解，
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about what it takes to be successful.
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我誤解了成功需要的要件。
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There's no one kind of way to be a leader.
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並不是一定要用
某種方式才能當領導人。
某種方式才能當領導人。
03:12
It's about finding your strengths
and finding ways to amplify them.
and finding ways to amplify them.
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重點是找到你的長處，
想辦法放大這些長處。
想辦法放大這些長處。
03:16
Before, if a meeting was hard,
I'd put on my perfect leader mask.
I'd put on my perfect leader mask.
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以前，遇到難搞的會議時，
我會戴上我的完美領導人面具。
我會戴上我的完美領導人面具。
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Now, I can say,
"Gosh, that was frustrating."
"Gosh, that was frustrating."
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現在，我能說：「老天，
那真讓人洩氣。」
那真讓人洩氣。」
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We can talk about challenges
and struggles in an open way,
and struggles in an open way,
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我們可以用開放的方式
來討論挑戰與困難，
來討論挑戰與困難，
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rather than everybody pretending
that they're fine until it's too late.
that they're fine until it's too late.
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不用每個人都假裝自己
沒事，直到為時已晚。
沒事，直到為時已晚。
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Concealing an identity takes work.
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隱藏身分需要下功夫。
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Think of all the wasted energy
spent pretending,
spent pretending,
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想想我們浪費了多少精力在假裝，
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wishing you were someone different.
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在希望成為另一個人。
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What's most interesting to me, though,
is that in this big study of covering,
is that in this big study of covering,
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不過，對我來說，最有趣的是，
在這項關於掩飾的研究中，
在這項關於掩飾的研究中，
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93 percent of those
who say they're doing it
who say they're doing it
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說自己有在掩飾的人當中，有93%
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also believe their organization
values inclusion.
values inclusion.
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同時也相信他們的組織
很重視包容。
很重視包容。
03:50
So clearly, our workplaces
and all of our strange inner voices
and all of our strange inner voices
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所以，很顯然，我們的工作場所
和我們奇怪的內在聲音
和我們奇怪的內在聲音
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have a long way to go on acceptance.
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還要走很長的路才能有所共識。
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There's a big difference
between adapting and disguising.
between adapting and disguising.
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適應和偽裝有很大的不同。
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And I think I learned that a little late.
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我想我太晚才學到這一課了。
04:04
Personally, I'm taking all of this
as a call to be the ally
as a call to be the ally
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我個人會把這一切當作是使命，
教我也要扮演別人的盟友，
教我也要扮演別人的盟友，
就像我老闆為我做的，
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who, like my boss did for me,
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讓大家知道，我們可以開放做自己。
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lets people know that it's OK to open up.
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04:12
If you're gay, or proud
of your ethnic background,
of your ethnic background,
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如果你是同性戀，
或為你的人種背景感到驕傲，
或為你的人種背景感到驕傲，
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or have a disability
or are deeply religious,
or are deeply religious,
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或有身心障礙、有很深的宗教信仰，
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see what it's like
being your full self at work.
being your full self at work.
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試試看把完整的自己
帶去工作會是怎樣的狀況。
帶去工作會是怎樣的狀況。
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You might be pleasantly surprised.
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你可能會得到很棒的驚喜。
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Dan Clay - Writer, consultantBy day, Dan Clay is a partner in at a brand and innovation consultancy. His more well-known persona is Carrie Dragshaw.
Why you should listen
Dan Clay is a partner in strategy and innovation for Lippincott, an NYC-based consultancy. His expertise focuses on the strategic growth spaces that emerge from changing customer needs, expectations, fears and desires. In addition to advising financial services, health care and retail clients, Clay is a leading voice in Lippincott's intellectual capital and has authored several reports on how to build emotional bonds with the customer of the future. He graduated with an MBA from Wharton at the University of Pennsylvania and received his undergraduate degree in philosophy at Northwestern University.
Clay's more well-known persona is Carrie Dragshaw. What started as a simple Halloween costume turned into a viral fairy tale. Clay recreates classic Sex and the City looks and accompanies them with original "couldn't help but wonder" monologues. He's been featured in Cosmopolitan, L.A. Times, Us Weekly, the New York Post, BuzzFeed, Man Repeller, Huffington Post, Out, Refinery29, InStyle and more. Carrie Dragshaw has one simple mission: to create a little corner of the internet that is only positivity and love.
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