Darieth Chisolm: How revenge porn turns lives upside down
Darieth Chisolm: Come il revenge porn stravolge la vita
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
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before I was set to deliver a talk
prima di tenere un discorso
a una telecamera.
the so-called expert there,
e life e business coach.
and life and business coach.
al mio cellulare per vedere l'ora
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
dal mio ex-marito.
from my ex-husband.
who told me to go to this website,
che mi ha detto di andare su un sito,
tutte queste foto di te nuda.
all of these photos of you naked.
sono ovunque su questo sito.
are all over this website.
Non riuscivo a respirare.
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
dall'imbarazzo, dalla vergogna.
months of pain and depression
di dolore e depressione,
stalker ex-boyfriend
un manipolatore e uno stalker,
ciò che aveva detto:
mentre dormivo,
while I was asleep,
aveva continuato ad inviarmi
he had been sending me
una sporca sgualdrina poco di buono.
some sleazy, low-life slut.
minacciato di morte,
in my head and stab me in my heart,
in testa e pugnalato al cuore
quella relazione asfissiante.
the controlling relationship.
this was happening to me.
accadendo a me.
come chiamare tutto ciò.
cyberstalking o cyberbullismo.
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
"violenza domestica digitale".
a relationship gone bad,
da una relazione finita male,
respinto, non accetta di essere lasciato,
can't handle rejection,
le mani addosso fisicamente
put their hands on you,
cellulari e computer.
cell phones and laptops.
contenuti, tutto postato online,
content -- all posted online,
we all live our lives online.
tutti noi viviamo le nostre vite online
creiamo delle relazioni,
we make new relationships,
one Facebook like at a time.
un like dopo l'altro.
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
stata colpita da revenge porn.
that number looks like one in 10.
il numero si abbassa a una su 10,
in this audience as potential victims.
qui presenti potenziali vittime.
what's even more alarming?
più preoccupante?
per proteggere adeguatamente le vittime
to adequately protect victims
in discussione:
della senatrice Kamala Harris.
by Senator Kamala Harris.
un crimine.
prima dell'approvazione.
nel frattempo?
una qualche legge contro il revenge porn
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
we're talking $500 fines.
parliamo di multe da $500.
finite male
from damaged relationships
and depression.
sta crescendo esponenzialmente.
who spent 11 months in court,
che ha passato 11 mesi di processo,
migliaia di dollari in spese legali,
e cyber abuso,
and cyberabuse,
società web
internet company
e problemi giurisdizionali
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
sono state online per mesi.
were on display for months.
was exposed for the world to see,
fosse mostrato al mondo intero
che il contenuto venga rimosso?
for the content to be removed?
a private company
in una compagnia privata
e far chiudere il sito.
to shut the website down.
materiali e contenuti digitali.
digital material and content.
i proprietari di copyright e gli utenti.
both copyright owners and consumers.
foto di nudo ne possiedono i diritti
own the rights to those selfies,
di rimuovere il contenuto.
to have the content removed.
che dobbiamo affrontare
third-party internet companies.
che non rispettano le regole.
consenzienti
a nude photo or a naked pic,
di condividerla
e molestava a distanza,
from another country,
essere aiutata qui.
to get help here.
isn't the internet international?
internet non è internazionale?
una qualche politica in atto
some sort of policy in place
a prescendire da confini o restrizioni?
regardless to borders or restrictions?
I had to keep fighting.
dovevo lottare ancora.
al mio cellulare e al mio portatile
of both my cell phone and my laptop
e all'Ambasciata Giamaicana
and the Jamaican Embassy
tutte le prove.
all of the evidence.
with the all-male investigative team.
le mie parti intime
completamente composta da uomini.
additional hoop to jump through.
umiliante supplizio.
actually arrested him.
l'hanno arrestato davvero.
under their malicious communications act,
al loro Malicious Communication Act
pagare migliaia di dollari di multe
thousands of dollars in fines
sta facendo la storia:
is making history --
legato a questo nuovo crimine.
under this new crime.
tutte queste sfide.
all of these hoops.
sono a rischio.
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
una tutela chiara e forte;
online siano obbligate a rispondere;
and responsiveness from online companies;
legate a post, condivisioni e messaggi;
for posting, sharing and texting;
alle vittime.
money or resources to wage war,
soldi o risorse per combattere una guerra,
mal etichettate e distrutte?
mislabeled and broken?
e rompere il silenzio.
di tutto ciò.
della vergogna:
that's holding you hostage.
che ti tiene ostaggio.
è la perdita dell'autostima.
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
I freed myself from shame.
mi sono liberata dalla vergogna
from the fear of judgment
mi avrebbe giudicata di più:
would judge me the most --
che io conosca.
person that I know.
the wrong woman to mess with."
contro la donna sbagliata."
di usare i miei social,
to use my platform
this one simple question:
quest'unica semplice domanda:
che stavo affrontando,
that I was challenged with,
pensare a tutte le possibilità.
about all kinds of possibilities.
dico la mia verità
un nuovo capitolo della mia vita.
a new chapter in my life.
sociale globale,
un futuro documentario
an upcoming documentary
someone who is, know this:
qualcuno che lo è, sappi questo:
you have to take care of yourself,
devi prenderti cura di te stessa
per continuare la tua vita.
for what's next for your life.
of self-discovery
di scoperta di se stessi
sicurezza e convinzione.
confidence and conviction.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activistDarieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach.
Why you should listen
Darieth Chisolm works with corporate professionals, coaches, authors, speakers and visionaries to develop visibility and multimedia strategies that build brand, influence and income. She leverages her life coaching skills to help victims and survivors of assault and abuse release the shame, live with confidence and find their everyday courage.
Chisolm is also a revenge porn victim turned activist, filmmaker and founder of 50 Shades of Silence, a global movement giving voice and dignity to victims of cyber harassment and abuse. The project aims to advocate for stricter laws and tougher enforcement for cyber sexual crimes; encourage the accountability and responsiveness among online companies; promote social responsibility for texting, posting and sharing online; and restore dignity and respect to victims and survivors. It includes an upcoming feature-length documentary, a website with resources and services, and motivational and empowerment training materials to help victims.
Chisolm is currently the host of CBS's Eye on Health and PBS's Emmy-winning iQ: smartparent. Her YouTube channel and online video podcast series, Hustle & Heart TV, was a top 10 finalist for the 2015 Podcast Awards for Best Video Podcast and was ranked number one on iTunes for more than two months with subscribers and viewers in multiple countries.
Chisolm is also the author of Hustle! Why Now is the Time to Unleash your Passions, a collection of powerful and motivating stories to help readers unlock and unleash their passions and learn how to hustle in business while loving life in the process. She is also a contributing writer for Inspiring Lives and Woman of More magazines.
Chisolm received the 2018 Woman of Influence Award from the Pittsburgh Business Times and has been named Top 10 Trailblazers in Communications by Walker’s Legacy and nominated as Entrepreneur of the Year with Style Week in Pittsburgh. She has received two proclamations from the City of Pittsburgh, two proclamations from Allegheny County and a special recognition from the Senate of Pennsylvania for making an outstanding difference and profound impact in Pittsburgh.
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