Eve Ensler: The profound power of an authentic apology
ئێڤا ئێنسڵەر: هێزێكي کاریگەر بۆ داوای لێبوردنێکی ڕاستەقێنه
Eve Ensler created the ground-breaking "Vagina Monologues," whose success propelled her to found V-Day -- a movement to end violence against women and girls everywhere. Full bio
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we've been calling men out.
داوامان لە پیاوان دەکرد دووربکەونەوە.
we need to do something even harder.
Tony Porter says,
بە پیاوان بڵێین بێنە پێشەوە.
when I was five years old.
باوکم گێچەڵی سێكسی پێکردم.
in the middle of the night.
ساڵیم بەردەوام بوو.
and shame all the time,
نائارامی، تاوانباری و شەرم
to treat me badly,
پێدابوو کە بە خراپی مامەڵەم لەگەڵ بکات،
taught me love was.
ئەمە خۆشەویستییە.
for my father to apologize to me.
باوكم داواى لێبوردنم لێبكات.
scandals of famous men,
پیاوە بەناوبانگەکان.
or physical violence
لاقەی کچانی ئەنجامداوە،
لە قوربانییەکەی کردبێت.
deep apology be like?
began to come through me.
the way to move forward
self-interrogation and time.
I'd like to take you through them.
what, in detail, you did.
بكەیت چیت كردووه.
گێچەڵی سێكسێم پێ كردبیت"
in the middle of the night,
چونكه بەغیلیم پێ دەبردیت
I was jealous of you
لە وردەکارییەکەدایە.
بەیەكەوه دەبەستێتەوه.
actually did occur.
is you have to ask yourself why.
لەخۆت بپرسی بۆ.
لەبەر چی ڕزگاریان بوو.
to sexually abuse his eldest daughter?
كردە سەر كچە بچوكەكەی؟
and smash it against a wall?
the other children.
بووە.
that became "the miracle."
بوو بە پەرجوو.
as the golden boy.
مامەڵەی لەگەڵ كراوە.
و خۆشەویستی نەبوو.
to this impossible ideal,
بێت كە لە ڕاستیدا بوو،
all those feelings underground,
ئەو هەستانە له گوڕ بنێت،
later became Shadowman,
له كۆتایدا بووە پیاوی تارمایی،
his torrent on me.
to open your heart
كه دڵی خۆت بكەیتەوە
as you were abusing her.
هەست دەكات له كاتێكدا گێچەڵت پێدەكرد.
of your abuse on your victim.
دەستدرێژییەكە.
you have caused.
دووچاری کەسەكەت كردووە.
for what you have done
بۆ ئەوەی کردووتە
such a grueling and humbling process?
هە نگاوەدا تێبپەرێت؟
that will set yourself free.
that will set your victim free.
violence on another person
ئازاری كەسێكی تر بدات
from the effects themselves.
ئازار نەچێژێت.
and contaminating spirit,
گوماناوی دەخوڵقێنێت،
throughout your entire life.
نوسيم، شتێكی فێركردم
we have to look through
سەیربكەین
of men's violence
توند و تیژی پیاوان بزانین،
other women have survived.
ملیار كەس ڕزگاریان بووە.
سزا دەبەین.
sometimes is effective,
but it doesn't teach us.
بەڵام فێرمان ناكات.
that may involve punishment,
پرۆسەیەكە كە سزا لە خۆ بگرێت،
something and someone else.
شتیك یان کەسێکی تر.
باوكم بوو.
connected to my father's story.
بەو چیرۆكەوە نەبچڕێت.
wasn't just for my father to be stopped.
تەنها وەستانی باوكم نییە.
the victims that they have harmed,
قوربانییەکان، كه زیانمان پێگەیشتووە،
پەیوەندیمان پێوەبكەن.
and be part of this transformation.
بە بەشێک لەو گوڕانکارییە.
calling men out,
پیاوانەوە بەڕێكرد،
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Eve Ensler - Playwright, activistEve Ensler created the ground-breaking "Vagina Monologues," whose success propelled her to found V-Day -- a movement to end violence against women and girls everywhere.
Why you should listen
Inspired by intimate conversations with friends, Eve Ensler wrote The Vagina Monologues. The play recounts tender, funny, gripping and horrifying stories she gathered from hundreds of women about their bodies, their sexual experiences, and yes, their vaginas. Since its first staging in 1996, it has been translated into more than 45 languages, performed in more than 120 countries and re-created as an HBO film.
The Vagina Monologues' success allowed Ensler to create V-Day, a global activist movement to end violence against women and girls, which has so far raised $85 million to prevent violence and protect abused women. In February 2011, Ensler received the Isabelle Stephenson Tony Award for her philanthropic work. Ensler has also drawn praise for The Good Body, a play that cuts to women's obsession with their appearance, and her film What I Want My Words to Do to You, which portrays a writing group she leads at a correctional facility for women. Today, she continues to find new projects and push the envelope. Her latest play, I Am an Emotional Creature: The Secret Life of Girls Around the World, hit the New York Times bestseller list and just wrapped a workshop production in Johannesburg -- nest stop is Paris and then Berkeley in June 2012.
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