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Sofia Jawed-Wessel: The lies we tell pregnant women
索菲亚·贾韦德-韦塞尔: 我们告诉孕妇的谎言
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“当我们告诉女性，在怀孕期间不值得冒险进行性行为的时候，我们的言下之意是，
她的性快感并不重要……甚至她自己都无关紧要，” 性研究者索菲亚·贾韦德-韦塞尔说道。在这场令人大开眼界的演讲中，贾韦德-韦塞尔深入剖析了我们对怀孕以及快乐的看法，并且揭露了女人、性以及权力系统之间的关系。
Sofia Jawed-Wessel - Sex researcher
Sofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education. Full bio
Sofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education. Full bio
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00:12
We're going to share
a lot of secrets today, you and I,
a lot of secrets today, you and I,
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今天我将跟大家分享许多秘密，
00:15
and in doing so, I hope that we can lift
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在这个过程中，我希望我们可以
稍微消除我们对于“性”的羞耻感。
00:18
some of the shame
many of us feel about sex.
many of us feel about sex.
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00:22
How many here have ever been
catcalled by a stranger?
catcalled by a stranger?
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在座有多少人
被陌生人吹过口哨？
被陌生人吹过口哨？
00:28
Lots of women.
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我看到有很多女士举手了。
00:30
For me, the time I remember best
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令我印象最深的一次，
00:33
is when that stranger
was a student of mine.
was a student of mine.
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对方是我后来的一个学生。
00:37
He came up to me after class that night
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那晚下课后，他来找我，
00:40
and his words confirmed
what I already knew:
what I already knew:
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如我所料，他说：
00:43
"I am so sorry, professor.
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“真的很对不起，教授。
00:45
If I had known it was you,
I would never have said those things."
I would never have said those things."
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如果我知道是您，
我绝对不会那么做的。”
我绝对不会那么做的。”
00:49
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
对他而言，在我成为他的教授之前，
我都不能算是一个人。
我都不能算是一个人。
00:51
I wasn't a person to him
until I was his professor.
until I was his professor.
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00:56
This concept, called objectification,
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这种情况我们称之为“物化”，
00:59
is the foundation of sexism,
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它是性别歧视的基础，
01:01
and we see it reinforced
through every aspect of our lives.
through every aspect of our lives.
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它存在于生活的方方面面，
我们已经司空见惯。
我们已经司空见惯。
01:07
We see it in the government
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它存在于政府中间，
01:09
that refuses to punish men
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政府拒绝惩罚那些
01:13
for raping women.
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强奸女性的男性。
01:15
We see it in advertisements.
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它存在于广告中。
01:17
How many of you have seen an advertisement
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我们曾多少次看到广告中
01:19
that uses a woman's breast
to sell an entirely unrelated product?
to sell an entirely unrelated product?
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利用女性的胸部
去推广一个毫不相关的产品？
去推广一个毫不相关的产品？
01:26
Or movie after movie after movie
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又或者， 在一部接一部的电影中
01:30
that portrays women
as only love interests?
as only love interests?
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把女性描绘成只想着谈恋爱？
01:34
These examples might seem
inconsequential and harmless,
inconsequential and harmless,
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这些例子看起来可能
无足轻重，无伤大雅，
无足轻重，无伤大雅，
01:37
but they're insidious,
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但它们的伤害是隐性的，
01:39
slowly building into a culture
that refuses to see women as people.
that refuses to see women as people.
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慢慢地助长了一种风气：
不把女性当人来看待。
不把女性当人来看待。
01:43
We see this in the school
that sends home a 10-year-old girl
that sends home a 10-year-old girl
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它存在于学校当中，
他们开除了一个10岁的小女孩，
他们开除了一个10岁的小女孩，
因为她的衣服会
让那些想要学习的男孩分心，
让那些想要学习的男孩分心，
01:48
because her clothes were
a distraction to boys trying to learn,
a distraction to boys trying to learn,
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01:51
or the government that refuses
to punish men for raping women
to punish men for raping women
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或者，政府让强奸女性的
男性逍遥法外，
男性逍遥法外，
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over and over,
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一次又一次，
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or the woman who is killed
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又或者，一个女人被杀害，
02:00
because she asked a man to stop
grinding on her on the dance floor.
grinding on her on the dance floor.
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因为她在舞池中
警告一名男子不要动手动脚。
警告一名男子不要动手动脚。
02:07
Media plays a large role in perpetuating
the objectification of women.
the objectification of women.
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媒体在持续物化
女性方面起了很大作用。
女性方面起了很大作用。
02:13
Let's consider
the classic romantic comedy.
the classic romantic comedy.
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让我们回忆一下经典的浪漫喜剧。
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We're typically introduced
to two kinds of women in these movies,
to two kinds of women in these movies,
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这些电影中通常有两种女性，
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two kinds of desirable women, anyway.
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两种女性都很有魅力。
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The first is the sexy bombshell.
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第一种是性感的美女。
有着令人难以置信的完美身材。
02:25
This is the unbelievably gorgeous woman
with the perfect body.
with the perfect body.
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02:29
Our leading man
has no trouble identifying her
has no trouble identifying her
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男主角一眼就能相中她，
02:31
and even less trouble having sex with her.
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并且能毫不费力地与她上床。
02:34
The second is our leading lady,
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第二种是女主角，
02:36
the beautiful but demure woman
our leading man falls in love with
our leading man falls in love with
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美丽而端庄，男主角爱上了她，
02:40
despite not noticing her at first
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尽管可能一开始都没注意到她，
02:42
or not liking her if he did.
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或者注意到了但并不算喜欢。
02:45
The first is the slut.
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第一种女性就是荡妇。
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She is to be consumed and forgotten.
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就是用来消费和遗忘的。
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She is much too available.
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太容易得手。
02:51
The second is desirable but modest,
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第二种女性美丽却又矜持，
02:55
and therefore worthy
of our leading man's future babies.
of our leading man's future babies.
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所以够资格为男主角生一个宝宝。
02:58
Marriage material.
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完美的结婚对象。
03:00
We're actually told
that women have two roles,
that women have two roles,
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我们被教导：女性有两种角色，
03:03
but these two roles have a difficult time
existing within the same woman.
existing within the same woman.
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但在同一位女性身上难以共存。
03:08
On the rare occasion
that I share with a new acquaintance
that I share with a new acquaintance
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极少情况下，我会对陌生人介绍说，
我是研究“性”的，
03:12
that I study sex,
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03:13
if they don't end
the conversation right then,
the conversation right then,
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他们通常会立刻转换话题，
03:16
they're usually pretty intrigued.
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否则的话就会表现得及其感兴趣。
03:19
"Oh. Tell me more."
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“噢。接着说，”
03:21
So I do.
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于是我说了。
03:24
"I'm really interested
in studying the sexual behaviors
in studying the sexual behaviors
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“我对孕妇以及刚生完孩子的
女性与他们的丈夫间的
女性与他们的丈夫间的
性行为很感兴趣。”
03:26
of pregnant and postpartum couples."
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03:28
At this point I get
a different kind of response.
a different kind of response.
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说到这儿，对方的反应就不一样了。
03:32
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
03:34
"Oh. Huh.
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“噢。哇。
03:36
Do pregnant people even have sex?
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怀孕的人也会有性生活吗？
03:40
Have you thought
about studying sexual desire
about studying sexual desire
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你就没想过要研究性欲
或者性高潮吗？
03:44
or orgasms?
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03:45
That would be interesting, and sexy."
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那会有趣和性感得多。”
03:50
Tell me. What are the first words
that come to mind
that come to mind
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告诉我，当你们想到孕妇的时候，
03:52
when you picture a pregnant woman?
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脑海中最先浮现的是哪些词？
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I asked this question
in a survey of over 500 adults,
in a survey of over 500 adults,
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我曾经在一次问卷调查中
问过这个问题，超过500人参与，
问过这个问题，超过500人参与，
多数人回答“大肚子”或者“圆嘟嘟”，
03:58
and most responded with "belly" or "round"
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04:02
and "cute."
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或者“可爱的”。
04:05
This didn't surprise me too much.
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这些并不怎么令我惊奇。
04:06
What else do we label as cute?
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还有什么其他的东西是“可爱的”呢？
04:09
Babies. Puppies. Kittens.
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小宝宝，小狗狗，小猫咪，
04:12
The elderly. Right?
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还有老爷爷、老奶奶。对吧？
04:14
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
04:17
When we label an adult as cute, though,
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然而，当我们给一位
成年人打上“可爱”的标签时，
成年人打上“可爱”的标签时，
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we take away a lot of their intelligence,
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我们忽略了他们的智力水平，
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their complexity.
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和性格的复杂性。
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We reduce them to childlike qualities.
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把他们当小孩看待。
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I also asked heterosexual men
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我也曾要求异性恋男性
想象一下他们的女伴怀孕的样子，
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to imagine a woman that they're
partnered with is pregnant,
partnered with is pregnant,
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and then asked women
to imagine that they are pregnant,
to imagine that they are pregnant,
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接着让女伴们也同样想象一下，
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and then tell me
the first words that come to mind
the first words that come to mind
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然后让他们想象一下自己在做爱，
此时脑海中最先想到是哪些词。
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when they imagine having sex.
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04:40
Most of the responses were negative.
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大多数人的反应是负面的。
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"Gross."
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“很恶心。”
“令人难堪。”
04:45
"Awkward."
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04:47
"Not sexy." "Odd."
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“一点也不性感。”
“十分奇怪。”
“十分奇怪。”
“不舒服。”
04:49
"Uncomfortable."
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04:51
"How?"
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“这怎么做爱？”
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(Laughter)
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（笑声）
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"Not worth the trouble."
"Not worth the risk."
"Not worth the risk."
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“不值得这么麻烦。”
“不值得为此冒险。”
“不值得为此冒险。”
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That last one really stuck with me.
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而最后一条令我难以忘怀。
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We might think that because we divorce
pregnant women and moms from sexuality,
pregnant women and moms from sexuality,
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我们或许会认为，将孕妇和（新）妈妈
从性行为中解放出来，
从性行为中解放出来，
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we are removing the constraints
of sexual objectification.
of sexual objectification.
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就消除了在性方面的物化现象。
05:11
They experience less sexism. Right?
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她们受到的性别歧视
就变少了。对吗？
就变少了。对吗？
05:14
Not exactly.
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并非如此。
05:15
What happens instead
is a different kind of objectification.
is a different kind of objectification.
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实际上发生的是
另一种类型的的物化。
另一种类型的的物化。
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In my efforts to explain this to others,
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我在向别人解释这些时，
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one conversation
led to the Venus of Willendorf,
led to the Venus of Willendorf,
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有一次谈到了“维伦多夫的
维纳斯”（小雕像），
维纳斯”（小雕像），
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a Paleolithic figurine scholars assumed
was a goddess of love and beauty,
was a goddess of love and beauty,
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一位研究旧石器时代小雕像的学者认为，
她是象征爱与美的女神，
她是象征爱与美的女神，
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hence the name Venus.
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于是就称她为“维纳斯”。
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This theory was later revised, though,
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尽管，这种说法后来被修正，
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when scholars noted
the sculptor's obvious focus
the sculptor's obvious focus
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因为学者们注意到
雕刻家想表现的重点在于
雕刻家想表现的重点在于
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on the figurine's reproductive features:
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雕像的生殖特征：
丰满的乳房，对于
哺乳而言是非常理想的；
哺乳而言是非常理想的；
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large breasts,
considered ideal for nursing;
considered ideal for nursing;
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05:45
a round, possibly pregnant belly;
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圆圆的，或许怀孕了的大肚子；
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the remnants of red dye,
alluding to menstruation or birth.
alluding to menstruation or birth.
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残余的红色染料，
暗指月经或者分娩。
暗指月经或者分娩。
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They also assumed that she was
meant to be held or placed lying down
meant to be held or placed lying down
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学者们还认为她的姿势应该是躺倒的，
无论是拿在手里或者是放置起来，
无论是拿在手里或者是放置起来，
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because her tiny feet
don't allow her to be freestanding.
don't allow her to be freestanding.
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因为她的脚很小，不能支撑她站立。
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She also had no face.
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她也没有脸部。
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For this reason, it was assumed
that she was a representation of fertility
that she was a representation of fertility
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因此，她被认为是生育能力的象征，
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and not a portrait of a person.
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而不是某一个人的塑像。
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She was an object.
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她只是一个物品。
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In the history of her interpretation,
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在对她进行研究的过程中，
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she went from object
of ideal beauty and love
of ideal beauty and love
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她从象征美与爱的物品，
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to object of reproduction.
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变成了代表生殖的物品。
06:19
I think this transition speaks more
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这种转变说明了很多问题，
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about the scholars
who have interpreted her purpose
who have interpreted her purpose
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甚至比学者的解释，
06:25
than the actual purpose
of the figurine herself.
of the figurine herself.
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比雕像自身存在的意义还要多。
06:30
When a woman becomes pregnant,
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当一位女性怀孕时，
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she leaves the realm
of men's sexual desire
of men's sexual desire
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她就不再让男人产生性欲，
06:36
and slides into her reproductive
and child-rearing role.
and child-rearing role.
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而变成了一个生养孩子的角色。
06:40
In doing so, she also becomes
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与此同时，她也变成了
06:43
the property of the community,
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社会的资产，
06:45
considered very important
but only because she's pregnant. Right?
but only because she's pregnant. Right?
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被认为非常重要，
但仅仅是因为她怀孕了，对吗？
但仅仅是因为她怀孕了，对吗？
06:50
I've taken to calling this
the Willendorf effect,
the Willendorf effect,
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我把这种现象叫做“维伦多夫效应”，
06:52
and once again we see it reinforced
in many aspects of her life.
in many aspects of her life.
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同样的，我们在生活中
也经常碰到这种情况。
也经常碰到这种情况。
06:57
Has anyone here
ever been visibly pregnant?
ever been visibly pregnant?
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有没有人曾怀孕过？
06:59
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
对。人还不少，对吧？
07:00
Yeah. Lots of you, right?
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07:02
So how many of you ever had a stranger
touch your belly during pregnancy,
touch your belly during pregnancy,
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你们中又有多少人在怀孕期间
被陌生人摸过肚子，
被陌生人摸过肚子，
07:06
maybe without even asking
your permission first?
your permission first?
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甚至都没有征求你的同意？
07:09
Or told what you can and cannot eat
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或者被告知该吃什么，不该吃什么，
而这些人根本就不是你的医生？
07:12
by somebody who is not your doctor,
your medical care provider?
your medical care provider?
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07:16
Or asked private questions
about your birth plan?
about your birth plan?
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或者打听你的生育计划，
问一堆涉及隐私的问题，
问一堆涉及隐私的问题，
07:20
And then told why
those choices are all wrong?
those choices are all wrong?
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然后又告诉你，你的计划都是错的？
07:23
Yeah, me too.
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对，我也遭遇过。
07:24
Or had a server refuse
to bring you a glass of wine?
to bring you a glass of wine?
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或者有没有遇到过
服务员不愿给你上红酒？
服务员不愿给你上红酒？
07:29
This one might give you pause,
I know, but stay with me.
I know, but stay with me.
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这一点可能难以接受，我明白，
但还是请各位跟上我的思路。
但还是请各位跟上我的思路。
07:31
This is a huge secret.
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因为这是一个大秘密。
07:33
It is actually safe to drink
in moderation during pregnancy.
in moderation during pregnancy.
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实际上，怀孕期间
适量饮酒是安全的。
适量饮酒是安全的。
07:38
Many of us don't know this
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我们中很多人并不知道这一点，
07:40
because doctors don't trust
pregnant women with this secret --
pregnant women with this secret --
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因为医生们不敢
把这个秘密告诉孕妇们——
把这个秘密告诉孕妇们——
07:43
(Laughter)
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(笑声）
07:49
especially if she's less educated
or a woman of color.
or a woman of color.
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尤其当孕妇受教育程度较低，
或者是有色人种时。
或者是有色人种时。
07:53
What this tells us is,
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这说明，
07:55
this Willendorf effect,
it's also classist and racist.
it's also classist and racist.
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“维伦多夫效应”还带有
阶级歧视和种族歧视。
阶级歧视和种族歧视。
07:59
It's present when
the government reminds women
the government reminds women
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它表现在：政府用新出台的
反自由堕胎法案
反自由堕胎法案
来提醒女性们，
08:05
with every new anti-choice bill
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08:08
that the contents of her uterus
are not her own,
are not her own,
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她们子宫中的东西
并不属于她们自己；
并不属于她们自己；
08:11
or when an ob-gyn says,
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表现在妇产科医生说，
08:13
"While it's safe
to have sex during pregnancy,
to have sex during pregnancy,
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“尽管在怀孕期间
进行性行为是安全的，
进行性行为是安全的，
08:15
sometimes you never know.
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但谁知道呢。
08:16
Better safe than sorry, right?"
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不怕一万，只怕万一啊，对吧？”
08:19
She's denied basic privacy
and bodily autonomy
and bodily autonomy
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她以“做一个好妈妈”的
名义，被剥夺了
名义，被剥夺了
隐私权和身体自主权。
08:23
under the guise of "be a good mother."
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08:26
We don't trust her
to make her own decisions.
to make her own decisions.
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我们并不放心她自己做出的选择。
08:29
She's cute, remember?
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她很可爱，还记得吗？
08:33
When we tell women
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当我们告诉女性，
08:36
that sexual pleasure -- excuse me.
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性快感——不好意思。
08:39
When we tell women that sex
isn't worth the risk during pregnancy,
isn't worth the risk during pregnancy,
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当我们告诉女性，在怀孕期间，
不值得冒险进行性行为的时候，
不值得冒险进行性行为的时候，
08:43
what we're telling her is that
her sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
her sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
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我们的言下之意是，
她的性快感并不重要。
她的性快感并不重要。
08:48
So what we are telling her
is that she in fact doesn't matter,
is that she in fact doesn't matter,
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进而引申为，她实际上也不重要，
08:51
even though the needs of her fetus
are not at odds with her own needs.
are not at odds with her own needs.
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即使她自己的需求
跟胎儿的需求一致。
跟胎儿的需求一致。
08:57
So medical providers,
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所以医疗服务提供方，
08:59
such as the American College
of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
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例如美国妇产科医师协会，
是可以对孕期性行为的
安全性进行解释的。
安全性进行解释的。
09:02
have the opportunity to educate
about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
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09:07
So what do the experts say?
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那么专家们说了什么呢？
09:09
ACOG actually has
no public official statement
no public official statement
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实际上，美国妇产科医师协会
没有任何公开的官方声明，
没有任何公开的官方声明，
09:12
about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
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说明孕期性行为是安全的。
09:16
Guidance from the Mayo Clinic
is generally positive
is generally positive
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梅奥医院发布的指南
总体上是积极的，
总体上是积极的，
09:19
but presented with a caveat:
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但看起来更像是告诫：
09:21
"Although most women can safely
have sex throughout pregnancy,
have sex throughout pregnancy,
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“尽管大多数女性在怀孕期间
能够安全地进行性行为，
能够安全地进行性行为，
09:24
sometimes it's best to be cautious."
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但最好还是保持谨慎。”
09:26
Some women don't want
to have sex during pregnancy,
to have sex during pregnancy,
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有些女性在孕期不想发生性行为，
09:30
and that's OK.
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这没什么问题。
09:31
Some women do want
to have sex during pregnancy,
to have sex during pregnancy,
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有些女性的确想在孕期发生性行为，
09:33
and that's OK, too.
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这也没什么问题。
09:35
What needs to stop
is society telling women
is society telling women
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问题在于，不应该由社会来告诉女性，
09:38
what they can and cannot do
with their bodies.
with their bodies.
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对于自己的身体，
什么可以做，什么不可以做。
什么可以做，什么不可以做。
（掌声）
09:41
(Applause)
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09:48
Pregnant women are not faceless,
identity-less vessels of reproduction
identity-less vessels of reproduction
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孕妇并不是没有自我，
没有身份的生殖容器，
没有身份的生殖容器，
她们能够自强自力。
09:52
who can't stand on their own two feet.
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09:56
But the truth is, the real secret is,
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然而实际情况却是，
09:58
we tell all women that
their sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
their sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
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我们告诉所有的女性，
她们的性快感无关紧要。
她们的性快感无关紧要。
10:02
We refuse to even acknowledge
that women who have sex with women
that women who have sex with women
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我们甚至拒绝承认女同性恋
10:06
or women who don't
want children even exist.
want children even exist.
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以及不想生孩子的女性的存在。
“啊，只是暂时这样的啦……
10:08
"Oh, it's just a phase ...
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10:10
she just needs the right man
to come along."
to come along."
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她只是还没有
遇到那个对的男人。”
遇到那个对的男人。”
10:14
Every time a woman has sex
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当一名女性发生性行为
10:16
simply because it feels good,
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仅仅是因为那感觉很棒，
10:18
it is revolutionary.
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那就是革命性的。
她就是革命性的。
10:20
She is revolutionary.
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10:22
She is pushing back
against society's insistence
against society's insistence
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她在抗争社会固有观点：
10:25
that she exist simply for men's pleasure
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女人的存在只是为了取悦男人，
或者为了生孩子。
10:27
or for reproduction.
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10:30
A woman who prioritizes
her sexual needs is scary,
her sexual needs is scary,
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一位优先考虑自己
性需求的女性是可怕的，
性需求的女性是可怕的，
10:34
because a woman who prioritizes
her sexual needs prioritizes herself.
her sexual needs prioritizes herself.
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因为她首先考虑的是自己。
10:39
(Applause)
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（掌声）
10:43
That is a woman demanding
that she be treated as an equal.
that she be treated as an equal.
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那是一种要求平等的女性。
10:47
That is a woman who insists
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那是一种要求在权力的游戏中，
10:49
that you make room for her
at the table of power,
at the table of power,
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拥有一席之地的女性，
10:52
and that is the most terrifying of all
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这是最可怕的，
10:54
because we can't make room for her
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因为要给女性一席之地，
就意味着我们中某些人
要放弃自己的地盘。
要放弃自己的地盘。
10:57
without some of us giving up
the extra space we hold.
the extra space we hold.
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11:02
(Applause)
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（掌声）
11:08
I have one last secret for you.
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我还有最后一个秘密要分享。
11:10
I am the mother of two boys
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我是两个男孩的妈妈，
11:12
and we could use your help.
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并且我们真的想得到你们的帮助。
11:15
Even though my boys hear me say regularly
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尽管我的儿子们经常听我说
要平等对待男性和女性很重要，
11:20
that it's important for men
to recognize women as equals
to recognize women as equals
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11:23
and they see their father modeling this,
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他们的爸爸也是这么言传身教的，
11:26
we need what happens in the world
to reinforce what happens in our home.
to reinforce what happens in our home.
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但我们希望外面的世界也是如此，
能跟我们家里的氛围产生呼应。
能跟我们家里的氛围产生呼应。
11:30
This is not a men's problem
or a women's problem.
or a women's problem.
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这不仅仅是男人的问题，
或者女人的问题。
或者女人的问题。
11:33
This is everyone's problem,
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而是关系到每个人，
11:35
and we all play a role
in dismantling systems of inequality.
in dismantling systems of inequality.
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在消灭不平等制度的过程中，
我们都能发挥作用。
我们都能发挥作用。
11:40
For starters, we have got
to stop telling women
to stop telling women
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首先， 我们必须停止告诉女性们
对于自己的身体，
什么可以做，什么不可以做。
什么可以做，什么不可以做。
11:43
what they can and cannot do
with their bodies.
with their bodies.
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（掌声）
11:45
(Applause)
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11:50
This includes not treating pregnant women
like community property.
like community property.
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这包括：不再把孕妇
当成社会资产来对待。
当成社会资产来对待。
11:54
If you don't know her,
don't even ask to touch her belly.
don't even ask to touch her belly.
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如果你不认识她，
就不应该要求摸一下她的肚子。
就不应该要求摸一下她的肚子。
11:57
You wouldn't anybody else.
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对其他人，你是不会这样做的。
11:59
Don't tell her
what she can and cannot eat.
what she can and cannot eat.
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不要告诉她食品宜忌。
12:01
Don't ask her private details
about her medical decisions.
about her medical decisions.
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不要询问关于她医疗的隐私。
12:04
This also includes understanding
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还有一点你要明白，
12:06
that even if you are
personally against abortion,
personally against abortion,
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即使你个人反对堕胎，
12:09
you can still fight
for a woman's right to choose.
for a woman's right to choose.
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你也能为女性争取选择堕胎的权利。
12:12
When it comes to women's equality,
the two need not oppose one another.
the two need not oppose one another.
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说到女性平等，两性之间
没有必要相互对立。
没有必要相互对立。
12:16
If you're somebody who has sex with women,
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如果你与女性做爱，
12:19
prioritize her pleasure.
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优先考虑她的快乐。
12:20
If you don't know how, ask.
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如果不清楚怎么做，就开口问。
12:24
If you have children --
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如果你有孩子——
12:25
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
和他们聊聊关于
性的话题，越早越好，
性的话题，越早越好，
12:27
have conversations about sex
as early as possible,
as early as possible,
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12:31
because kids don't look up s-e-x
in the dictionary anymore.
in the dictionary anymore.
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因为孩子们不会再去
字典中查“性”这个词了。
字典中查“性”这个词了。
12:35
They look it up on the internet.
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他们会上网去找。
12:38
And when you're having
those conversations about sex,
those conversations about sex,
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当你们在进行这些关于性的谈话时，
不要仅仅把它局限在
生育后代这件事上。
生育后代这件事上。
12:41
don't center them on reproduction only.
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12:43
People have sex for many reasons,
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人们会为了很多原因做爱，
12:45
some because they want a baby,
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有些人是想要个孩子，
12:47
but most of us have sex
because it feels good.
because it feels good.
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但大多数人还是为了获得快感。
12:50
Admit it.
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承认吧。
12:52
And regardless of whether
you have children or not,
you have children or not,
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不管你有没有孩子，
12:55
support comprehensive sex education
that doesn't shame our teenagers.
that doesn't shame our teenagers.
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支持全面的性教育，
并不会让青少年感到难堪。
并不会让青少年感到难堪。
12:59
(Applause)
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（掌声）
13:08
Nothing positive comes from shaming teens
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让青少年因为自己的
性欲望和性行为
性欲望和性行为
感到难堪毫无益处 ，
13:10
for their sexual desires, behaviors,
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13:14
other than positive STD
and pregnancy tests.
and pregnancy tests.
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又不是性病检测
呈阳性或怀孕测试。
呈阳性或怀孕测试。
13:18
Every single day,
we are all given the opportunity
we are all given the opportunity
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每一天，我们都有机会
13:21
to disrupt patterns of inequality.
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去改变不平等的现象。
13:24
I think we can all agree
that it's worth the trouble to do so.
that it's worth the trouble to do so.
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我相信无论多困难，
都是值得的。
都是值得的。
谢谢大家。
13:29
Thank you.
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（掌声）
13:30
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sofia Jawed-Wessel - Sex researcherSofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education.
Why you should listen
Dr. Sofia Jawed-Wessel teaches and generates new knowledge in the area of public health through scientific studies. Her research has focused on understanding and improving the sexual health of women and couples as they transition into parenthood by documenting sexual behaviors, sexual function, relationship adjustment and overall sexual changes during pregnancy and after childbirth. Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education to undergraduate students as well as in the local Omaha, Nebraska community. She teaches graduate level courses such as Research Methods, Health Behavior Theory, and Leadership and Advocacy. Jawed-Wessel also fights for women's rights and reproductive justice. She has provided expert testimony for the Nebraska Unicameral, the Nebraska School Board of Education and the Omaha Public School Board of Education. She has successfully argued in favor of comprehensive sex education in Omaha Public Schools and fought against restrictive anti-choice legislation in Nebraska.
Jawed-Wessel is an Assistant Professor in the School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation at the University of Nebraska at Omaha (UNO) and the Associate Director of the Midlands Sexual Health Research Collaborative. She also holds a joint appointment with the Women and Gender Studies program at UNO and a courtesy appointment in the College of Public Health at the University of Nebraska Medical Center. Jawed-Wessel holds both a Master of Science in Public Health (MPH) degree and a Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) degree in Health Behavior from the School of Public Health at Indiana University Bloomington.
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