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Eldra Jackson: How I unlearned dangerous lessons about masculinity
Eldra Jackson: Jinsi ya kuvunja mzunguko wa uwanaume wa sumu
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Kwenye mazungumzo yenye nguvu, mkalimu Eldra Jackson III anatushirikisha jinsi alivyotelekeza mafunzo hatarishi kuhusu uwanaume kupitia Duara la Ndani, shirika linaloongoza tiba ya kikundi kwa wanaume waliokizuizini. Sasa anasaidia wengine kupona kwa kujenga taswira mpya ya kinachomaanisha kua mwanaume kamili na mzima. "Changamoto ni kutokomeza huu mzunguko wa ujinga wa hisia na mawazokundi," anasema.
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Eldra Jackson III works daily to connect to his most authentic self -- and his calling is to support others in doing the same. Full bio
Eldra Jackson III works daily to connect to his most authentic self -- and his calling is to support others in doing the same. Full bio
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00:14
Big boys don't cry.
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Wavulana wakubwa hawalii.
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Suck it up.
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Imezee.
00:19
Shut up and rub some dirt on it.
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Kaa kimya na ufutie vumbi juu yake.
00:22
Stop crying before I give you
something to cry about.
something to cry about.
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Acha kulia kabla sijakupa
kitu cha kulilia.
kitu cha kulilia.
00:26
These are just a few of the phrases
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Hizi ni baadhi tu ya vishazi
00:28
that contribute
to a disease in our society,
to a disease in our society,
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vinavyochangia kwenye
ugonjwa ndani ya jamii yetu,
ugonjwa ndani ya jamii yetu,
00:31
and more specifically, in our men.
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na hasa zaidi, kwa wanaume wetu.
00:34
It's a disease that has come
to be known as "toxic masculinity."
to be known as "toxic masculinity."
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Ni ugonjwa uliokuja
kujulikana kama "sumu ya uwanaume."
kujulikana kama "sumu ya uwanaume."
00:40
It's one I suffered a chronic case of,
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Ni moja niliyoteseka kwa kesi sugu,
00:42
so much so that I spent 24 years
of a life sentence in prison
of a life sentence in prison
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kiasi kwamba nilitumia miaka 24
ya kifungo cha maisha gerezani
ya kifungo cha maisha gerezani
00:47
for kidnapping, robbery,
and attempted murder.
and attempted murder.
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kwa utekaji nyara, wizi,
na jaribio la mauaji.
na jaribio la mauaji.
00:52
Yet I'm here to tell you today
that there's a solution for this epidemic.
that there's a solution for this epidemic.
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Bado nipo hapa kuwaambia leo
kuwa kuna suluhisho la hili janga.
kuwa kuna suluhisho la hili janga.
00:57
I know for a fact the solution works,
because I was a part of human trials.
because I was a part of human trials.
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Najua suluhisho linafanya kazi kwa sababu
nilikua kwenye majaribio ya binadamu.
nilikua kwenye majaribio ya binadamu.
01:03
The solution is a mixture of elements.
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Suluhisho ni mchanganyiko wa mambo.
01:06
It begins with the willingness
to look at your belief system
to look at your belief system
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Inaanza na nia ya
kuangalia mfumo wa imani yako
kuangalia mfumo wa imani yako
01:10
and how out of alignment it is
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na jinsi imetoka nje ya mpangilio
01:12
and how your actions
negatively impact not just yourself,
negatively impact not just yourself,
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na jinsi matendo yako
yana athari za hasi sio tu kwako,
yana athari za hasi sio tu kwako,
01:15
but the people around you.
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na pia watu wanaokuzunguka.
01:18
The next ingredient is the willingness
to be vulnerable with people
to be vulnerable with people
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Sehemu inayofuata ni nia ya
kukabiliwa na watu
kukabiliwa na watu
01:23
who would not just support you,
but hold you accountable.
but hold you accountable.
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ambao hawatakusaidia tu,
bali watakufanya uwajibike.
bali watakufanya uwajibike.
01:28
But before I tell you about this,
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Ila kabla sijakuambia kuhusu hili,
01:30
I need to let you know
that in order to share this,
that in order to share this,
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Ninahitaji kukujulisha
kua ili niwashirikishe hili,
kua ili niwashirikishe hili,
01:34
I have to bare my soul in full.
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ninatakiwa kufunua roho yangu kikamilifu.
01:38
And as I stand here,
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Na ninaposimama hapa,
01:40
with so many eyes fixed on me,
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na macho mengi yakiniangalia,
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I feel raw and naked.
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najisikia mbichi na mtupu.
01:48
When this feeling is present,
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Pale hisia hii inapokuwepo,
01:49
I'm confident that the next phase
of healing is on the horizon,
of healing is on the horizon,
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ninajiamini kua hatua ijayo
ya uponyaji inawadia,
ya uponyaji inawadia,
01:55
and that allows me
to share my story in full.
to share my story in full.
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na inaniruhusu
kushirikisha hadithi kikamilifu.
kushirikisha hadithi kikamilifu.
01:59
For all appearances' sake,
I was born into the ideal family dynamic:
I was born into the ideal family dynamic:
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Kwa ajili ya muonekano wote,
nilizaliwa kwenye familia ya hali bora:
nilizaliwa kwenye familia ya hali bora:
02:04
mother, father, sister, brother.
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mama, baba, dada, kaka.
02:07
Bertha, Eldra Jr., Taydama and Eldra III.
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Bertha, Eldra mdogo, Taydama na
Eldra wa tatu.
Eldra wa tatu.
02:12
That's me.
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Huyo ni mimi.
02:14
My father was a Vietnam veteran
who earned a Purple Heart
who earned a Purple Heart
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Baba yangu alikua mwanajeshi wa Vietnam
mwenye Moyo wa Zambarau
mwenye Moyo wa Zambarau
02:18
and made it home to find love,
marry, and begin his own brood.
marry, and begin his own brood.
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na kurudi nyumbani kupata upendo,
kuoa, na kuanzisha kizazi chake.
kuoa, na kuanzisha kizazi chake.
02:23
So how did I wind up serving life
in the California prison system?
in the California prison system?
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Sasa niliishiaje kutumikia maisha
kwenye gereza la California?
kwenye gereza la California?
02:28
Keeping secrets,
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Kutunza siri,
02:30
believing the mantra
that big boys don't cry,
that big boys don't cry,
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kuamini mantra
kua wavulana wakubwa hawalii,
kua wavulana wakubwa hawalii,
02:34
not knowing how to display any emotion
confidently other than anger,
confidently other than anger,
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kutokujua jinsi ya kuonyesha hisia yoyote
kwa ujasiri zaidi ya hasira,
kwa ujasiri zaidi ya hasira,
02:41
participating in athletics
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kushiriki kwenye riadha
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and learning that the greater
the performance on the field,
the performance on the field,
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na kujifunza kua ukubwa wa
utendaji uwanjani,
utendaji uwanjani,
02:45
the less the need to worry
about the rules off it.
about the rules off it.
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udogo wa hitaji la kua na wasiwasi
juu ya kanuni zake.
juu ya kanuni zake.
02:48
It's hard to pin down
any one specific ingredient
any one specific ingredient
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Ni ngumu kuwekea msumari
sehemu moja maalumu
sehemu moja maalumu
02:51
of the many symptoms that ailed me.
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ya dalili nyingi zilizoniuguza.
Nikikua kama kijana mweusi wa kiume
Sacramento, California miaka ya 1980.
Sacramento, California miaka ya 1980.
02:55
Growing up as a young black male
in Sacramento, California in the 1980s,
in Sacramento, California in the 1980s,
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02:59
there were two groups
I identified as having respect:
I identified as having respect:
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kulikua na makundi mawili
niliyoyatambua kua na heshima:
niliyoyatambua kua na heshima:
03:03
athletes and gangsters.
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wanamichezo na majambazi.
03:07
I excelled in sports,
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Nilishinda kwenye michezo,
03:10
that is until a friend and I chose to take
his mom's car for a joyride and wreck it.
his mom's car for a joyride and wreck it.
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mpaka rafiki yangu alipouchukua gari la
mama yake na kuliendesha na kuliharibu.
mama yake na kuliendesha na kuliharibu.
03:16
With my parents having to split
the cost of a totaled vehicle,
the cost of a totaled vehicle,
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Na wazazi wangu wakigawanya
gharama za gari lililoharibika,
gharama za gari lililoharibika,
03:20
I was relegated to a summer
of household chores and no sports.
of household chores and no sports.
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nilitelekezwa kwenye likizo
ya kazi za nyumbani na bila michezo.
ya kazi za nyumbani na bila michezo.
03:26
No sports meant no respect.
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Bila michezo ilimaanisha bila heshima.
03:30
No respect equaled no power.
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Bila heshima ni sawa na bila nguvu.
03:34
Power was vital to feed my illness.
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Nguvu ilikua muhimu kulisha ugonjwa wangu.
03:38
It was at that point the decision
to transition from athlete to gangster
to transition from athlete to gangster
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Ilikua kwenye hatua hiyo uamuzi wa
kubadilika kutoka mwanamichezo kuwa jambazi
kubadilika kutoka mwanamichezo kuwa jambazi
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was made and done so easily.
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ulifanywa na kukamilika kirahisi sana.
03:48
Early life experiences had set the stage
for me to be well-suited
for me to be well-suited
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Uzoefu wa maisha wa mapema uliweka jukwaa
kwa mimi kufaa sana
kwa mimi kufaa sana
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to objectify others,
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kushusha hadhi za wengine,
03:57
act in a socially detached manner,
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kuwa na tabia inayojitenga kijamii,
03:59
and above all else, seek to be viewed
as in a position of power.
as in a position of power.
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na zaidi ya yote, kutafuta kuonekana
kwenye sehemu ya nguvu.
kwenye sehemu ya nguvu.
04:05
A sense of power
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Hisia ya nguvu
04:07
(Sighs)
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(Akiguna)
04:11
equaled strength in my environment,
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nguvu sawa kwenye mazingira yangu,
04:13
but more importantly,
it did so in my mind.
it did so in my mind.
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muhimu zaidi, ilifanya hivyo
kweye akili yangu.
kweye akili yangu.
04:16
My mind dictated my choices.
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Akili yangu iliamuru maamuzi yangu.
04:20
My subsequent choices put me
on the fast track to prison life.
on the fast track to prison life.
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Maamuzi ya baadae yaliniweka
kwenye njia ya haraka ya maisha gerezani.
kwenye njia ya haraka ya maisha gerezani.
04:25
And even once in prison,
I continued my history
I continued my history
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Na hata nilivyokuwa gerezani,
niliendelea na historia yangu
niliendelea na historia yangu
04:28
of running over the rights of others,
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ya kuponda haki za wengine,
04:32
even knowing that that
was the place that I would die.
was the place that I would die.
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hata kujua kua hiyo ni sehemu
ambayo ningeweza kufa.
ambayo ningeweza kufa.
04:35
Once again, I wound up
in solitary confinement
in solitary confinement
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Mara nyingine, nikaishia
kwenye kifungo cha upweke
kwenye kifungo cha upweke
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for stabbing another prisoner
nearly 30 times.
nearly 30 times.
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kwa kumchoma mfungwa mwingine
karibia mara 30.
karibia mara 30.
04:44
I'd gotten to a place where I didn't care
how I lived or if I died.
how I lived or if I died.
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Nilifikia sehemu ambapo sikujali
jinsi nilivyoishi au kama ningekufa.
jinsi nilivyoishi au kama ningekufa.
04:49
But then, things changed.
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Lakini, vitu vikabadilika.
04:52
One of the best things
that happened in my life to that point
that happened in my life to that point
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Moja ya vitu bora vilivyotokea
kwa hatua hiyo ya maisha yangu
kwa hatua hiyo ya maisha yangu
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was being sent to New Folsom Prison.
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ilikuwa kupelekwa kwenye gereza la
New Folsom.
New Folsom.
04:57
Once there, I was approached
to join a group called Inside Circle.
to join a group called Inside Circle.
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Nilipokua pale, nilifatwa kujiunga
kikundi kiitwacho Duara la Ndani.
kikundi kiitwacho Duara la Ndani.
05:03
Initially, I was hesitant to join a group
referred to around the yard
referred to around the yard
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Mwanzoni nilisita kujiunga na kundi
linalojulikana maeneno ya uga
linalojulikana maeneno ya uga
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as "hug-a-thug."
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kama "mkumbatie-mhuni."
05:09
(Laughter)
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(Kicheko)
05:12
Initially, yeah, that was a little much,
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Mwanzoni, kweli, ilikuwa imezidi kidogo,
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but eventually, I overcame my hesitancy.
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lakini hatimaye, nikashinda usitaji wangu.
05:20
As it turned out, the circle was
the vision of a man named Patrick Nolan,
the vision of a man named Patrick Nolan,
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Kama ilivyoonekana, duara lilikuwa
ndoto ya mtu mmoja aitwae Patrick Nolan,
ndoto ya mtu mmoja aitwae Patrick Nolan,
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who was also serving life
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ambae pia alikuwa anatumikia maisha
05:28
and who had grown sick and tired
of being sick and tired
of being sick and tired
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na ambae alikuwa amechoshwa
na kuchoka
na kuchoka
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of watching us kill one another
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kutuona sisi tukiuana wenyewe
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over skin color,
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juu ya rangi ya ngozi,
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rag color,
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rangi ya tambara,
05:40
being from Northern
or Southern California,
or Southern California,
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kutokea Kaskazini au
Kusini mwa California,
Kusini mwa California,
05:44
or just plain breathing
in the wrong direction on a windy day.
in the wrong direction on a windy day.
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au tu kuhema kwa wazi kwenye
muelekeo mbaya siku yenye upepo.
muelekeo mbaya siku yenye upepo.
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Circle time is men sitting with men
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Muda wa duara ni wanaume kukaa na wanaume
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and cutting through the bullshit,
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na kukata kati kwenye upuuzi,
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challenging structural ways of thinking.
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kushindanisha njia za mifumo ya kufikiri.
05:58
I think the way that I think
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Ninafikiri jinsi ninavyofikiri
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and I act the way that I act
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na ninatenda jinsi ninavyotenda
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because I hadn't questioned that.
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kwa sababu sijajiuliza hilo.
06:06
Like, who said I should see a woman
walking down the street,
walking down the street,
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Kama, nani kasema ninapomuona mwanamke
akitembea mtaani,
akitembea mtaani,
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turn around and check out her backside?
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nigeuke na kuangalia makalio yake?
06:13
Where did that come from?
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Hiyo imetokea wapi?
06:15
If I don't question that,
I'll just go along with the crowd.
I'll just go along with the crowd.
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Kama nisipouliza hilo,
nitafuata tu mkumbo.
nitafuata tu mkumbo.
06:21
The locker-room talk.
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Misemo ya chumba
cha kubadilisha.
cha kubadilisha.
06:23
In circle, we sit
and we question these things.
and we question these things.
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Kwenye duara, tunakaa
na kuuliza haya mambo.
na kuuliza haya mambo.
06:26
Why do I think the way that I think?
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Kwanini ninafikiri jinsi ninavyofikiri?
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Why do I act the way that I act?
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Kwanini ninatenda jinsi ninavyotenda?
06:31
Because when I get down to it,
I'm not thinking,
I'm not thinking,
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Kwa sababu ninapoangalia kwa umakini,
sifikirii,
sifikirii,
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I'm not being an individual,
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siwi kama mtu binafsi,
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I'm not taking responsibility for who I am
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sichukui wajibu wa mimi ni nani
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and what it is I put into this world.
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na ni nini ninachoweka kwenye hii dunia.
06:42
It was in a circle session
that my life took a turn.
that my life took a turn.
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Ilikua kwenye kipindi cha duara
ambapo maisha yangu yaligeuka.
ambapo maisha yangu yaligeuka.
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I remember being asked who I was,
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Nakumbuka kuulizwa mimi ni nani,
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and I didn't have an answer,
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na sikuwa najibu,
06:49
at least not one that felt honest
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angalau hata moja lililokuwa kweli
06:51
in a room full of men
who were seeking truth.
who were seeking truth.
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kwenye chumba kilichojaa wanaume
waliokuwa wakitafuta ukweli.
waliokuwa wakitafuta ukweli.
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It would have been easy to say,
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Ingekua rahisi kusema,
06:56
"I'm a Blood,"
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"Mimi ni Mwanakundi,"
06:58
or, "My name is Vegas,"
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au, "Jina langu ni Vegas,"
07:01
or any number of facades
I had manufactured to hide behind.
I had manufactured to hide behind.
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au idadi yeyote ya ngao
nilizotengeneza kujifichia.
nilizotengeneza kujifichia.
07:05
It was in that moment and in that venue
that the jig was up.
that the jig was up.
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Ilikua kwenye huo muda na hiyo sehemu
ambapo ngoma ilipoisha.
ambapo ngoma ilipoisha.
07:11
I realized that as sharp
as I believed I was,
as I believed I was,
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Niligundua kuwa kadri nilivyoamini
nilikua mkali,
nilikua mkali,
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I didn't even know who I was
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nilikua hata sijui nilikua nani
07:15
or why I acted the way that I acted.
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au kwanini nilitenda jinsi nilivyotenda.
07:21
I couldn't stand in a room full of men
who were seeking to serve and support
who were seeking to serve and support
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Sikuweza kusimama kwenye chumba kilichojaa
wanaume waliotaka kuhudumia na kusaidia
wanaume waliotaka kuhudumia na kusaidia
07:25
and present an authentic me.
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na kuwasilisha mimi niliye halisi.
07:29
It was in that moment
that I graduated to a place within
that I graduated to a place within
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Ilikuwa kwenye huo mda
nilipohitimu kwenye sehemu ya ndani
nilipohitimu kwenye sehemu ya ndani
07:33
that was ready for transformation.
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ambayo ilikua tayari kwa mabadiliko.
07:36
For decades,
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Kwa miongo,
07:38
I kept being the victim of molestation
at the hands of a babysitter a secret.
at the hands of a babysitter a secret.
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niliweka kuwa muathirika wa ubakaji
kwenye mikono ya yaya kama siri.
kwenye mikono ya yaya kama siri.
07:43
I submitted to this under the threat
of my younger sister being harmed.
of my younger sister being harmed.
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Nilitii kwa hili chini ya tishio la
mdogo wangu wa kike kuumizwa.
mdogo wangu wa kike kuumizwa.
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I was seven, she was three.
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Nilikua na miaka saba, alikua na mitatu.
07:50
I believed it was my responsibility
to keep her safe.
to keep her safe.
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Ninaamini ilikua wajibu wangu
kumweka salama.
kumweka salama.
07:56
It was in that instant
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Ilikuwa papo hapo
07:58
that the seeds were sown
for a long career of hurting others,
for a long career of hurting others,
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kuwa mbegu zilipopandwa kwa
kazi ndefu ya kuumiza wengine
kazi ndefu ya kuumiza wengine
08:03
be it physical, mental or emotional.
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iwe kimwili, kiakili au kihisia.
08:07
I developed, in that instant,
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Nilitengeneza kwa mara moja,
08:11
at seven years old,
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katika miaka saba,
08:13
the belief that going forward in life,
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imani ya kuendelea mbele na maisha,
08:15
if a situation presented itself
where someone was going to get hurt,
where someone was going to get hurt,
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kama hali ilijiwasilisha yenyewe
ambapo mtu angeenda kuumia,
ambapo mtu angeenda kuumia,
08:19
I would be the one doing the hurting.
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ingekua ni mimi wa kuumiza.
08:22
I also formulated the belief
that loving put me in harm's way.
that loving put me in harm's way.
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Niliunda pia imani kuwa
kupenda kuliniweka kwenye njia ya madhara.
kupenda kuliniweka kwenye njia ya madhara.
08:27
I also learned that caring
about another person made me weak.
about another person made me weak.
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Nilijifunza pia kujali kuhusu
mtu mwingine kulinifanya niwe dhaifu.
mtu mwingine kulinifanya niwe dhaifu.
08:33
So not caring, that must equal strength.
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Hivyo kutokujali, lazima iwe sawa
na nguvu.
na nguvu.
08:38
The greatest way to mask
a shaky sense of self
a shaky sense of self
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Njia kuu ya kufunika
hisia binafsi zisizo imara
hisia binafsi zisizo imara
08:40
is to hide behind a false air of respect.
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ni kuwa nyuma ya hewa ya uongo
ya heshima.
ya heshima.
08:44
Sitting in circle
resembles sitting in a fire.
resembles sitting in a fire.
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Kukaa kwenye duara
kunafanana na kukaa kwenye moto.
kunafanana na kukaa kwenye moto.
08:47
It is a crucible that can and does break.
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Ni chombo ambacho kinaweza na kinavunjika.
08:52
It broke my old sense of self,
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Ilivunja hisia zangu binafsi za zamani,
08:55
diseased value system
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mfumo wa thamani wenye ugonjwa
08:58
and way of looking at others.
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na namna ya kuangalia wengine.
09:02
My old stale modes of thinking
were invited into the open
were invited into the open
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Njia zangu za kizamani na zilizokauka za kufikiri
zilikaribishwa kwenye uwazi
zilikaribishwa kwenye uwazi
09:06
to see if this
is who I wanted to be in life.
is who I wanted to be in life.
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kuona kama hivi ndivyo
nilivyotaka kuwa maishani.
nilivyotaka kuwa maishani.
09:10
I was accompanied by skilled facilitators
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Nilifuatana na wawezeshaji wenye ujuzi
09:12
on a journey into the depths of myself
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kwenye safari ya kina cha mimi mwenyewe
09:15
to find those wounded parts
that not only festered
that not only festered
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kutafuta hizo sehemu zilizojeruhiwa
ambazo hazikuweka tu jipu
ambazo hazikuweka tu jipu
09:20
but seeped out to create
unsafe space for others.
unsafe space for others.
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ila pia zilitiririka nje kuumba
sehemu isiyo salama kwa wengine.
sehemu isiyo salama kwa wengine.
09:25
At times, it resembled an exorcism,
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Mara nyingine, ilifanana kama zinguo,
09:29
and in essence, it was.
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na kimsingi, ilikuwa hivyo.
09:30
There was an extraction
of old, diseased ways of thinking,
of old, diseased ways of thinking,
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Kulikua na utoaji wa njia za
zamani, zenye ugonjwa wa kufikiri,
zamani, zenye ugonjwa wa kufikiri,
09:35
being and reacting
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kuwa na kuguswa
09:38
and an infusion of purpose.
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na upenyezaji wa madhumuni.
09:40
Sitting in those circles saved my life.
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Kuwa kwenye duara kuliokoa maisha yangu.
09:44
I stand here today as a testament
to the fact of the power of the work.
to the fact of the power of the work.
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Nasimama hapa leo kama ushahidi
wa ukweli wa nguvu ya hiyo kazi.
wa ukweli wa nguvu ya hiyo kazi.
09:53
I was paroled in June 2014,
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Nilitoka gerezani kwa masharti Juni 2014,
09:56
following my third hearing before a panel
of former law-enforcement officials
of former law-enforcement officials
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kufuatia usikilizaji kesi wa tatu na jopo
la maafisa wa utekelezaji sheria wa zamani
la maafisa wa utekelezaji sheria wa zamani
10:00
who were tasked with determining
my current threat level to society.
my current threat level to society.
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ambao walikua na kazi ya kuamua
kiwango changu cha tishio kwenye jamii.
kiwango changu cha tishio kwenye jamii.
10:05
I stand here today for the first time
since I was 14 years old
since I was 14 years old
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Nasimama hapa leo kwa mara ya kwanza
tangu nilivyokuwa miaka 14
tangu nilivyokuwa miaka 14
10:10
not under any form of state supervision.
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nikiwa sipo chini ya namna yoyote ya
usimamizi wa nchi
usimamizi wa nchi
10:13
I'm married to a tremendous
woman named Holly,
woman named Holly,
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Nimemuoa mwanamke mkubwa
aitwae Holly,
aitwae Holly,
10:15
and together, we are raising two sons
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na kwa pamoja, tunalea wavulana wawili
10:17
who I encourage to experience
emotions in a safe way.
emotions in a safe way.
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ambao ninawahamasisha kupata uzoefu wa
hisia kwa njia salama.
hisia kwa njia salama.
10:24
I let them hold me when I cry.
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Ninawaruhusu wanishike ninapolia.
10:26
They get to witness me
not have all the answers.
not have all the answers.
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Wanapata kunishuhudia mimi
nisipokua na majibu yote.
nisipokua na majibu yote.
10:30
My desire is for them to understand
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Nina tamani kwa wao kuelewa
10:32
that being a man is not
some machismo caricature,
some machismo caricature,
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kuwa kua mwanaume sio
namna ya ugumu wa kibonzo.
namna ya ugumu wa kibonzo.
10:36
and that characteristics
usually defined as weaknesses
usually defined as weaknesses
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na kua tabia mara nyingi
zinazofafanuliwa kama udhaifu
zinazofafanuliwa kama udhaifu
10:41
are parts of the whole healthy man.
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ni sehemu za mwanaume mzima mwenye afya.
10:44
So today, I continue to work
not just on myself,
not just on myself,
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Hivyo leo, naendelea kufanya kazi
sio tu kwangu mwenyewe,
sio tu kwangu mwenyewe,
10:47
but in support of young males
in my community.
in my community.
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ila kwenye kusaidia vijana wa kiume
kwenye jamii yangu.
kwenye jamii yangu.
10:51
The challenge is to eradicate this cycle
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Changamoto ni kutokomeza huu mzunguko
10:56
of emotional illiteracy and groupthink
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wa ujinga wa hisia na wazokundi
10:59
that allows our males to continue
to victimize others as well as themselves.
to victimize others as well as themselves.
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unaoruhusu vijana wetu kuendelea
kuathiri wengine pamoja na wenyewe.
kuathiri wengine pamoja na wenyewe.
11:05
As a result of this,
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Matokeo ya haya,
11:07
they develop new ways
of how they want to show up in the world
of how they want to show up in the world
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wanaendeleza njia mpya za jinsi
wanataka kutokea kwenye dunia
wanataka kutokea kwenye dunia
11:11
and how they expect this world
to show up on their behalf.
to show up on their behalf.
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na jinsi wanategemea hii dunia
kutokea kwa niaba yao.
kutokea kwa niaba yao.
11:15
Thank you.
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Asanteni.
11:16
(Applause)
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(Makofi)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Eldra Jackson III - EducatorEldra Jackson III works daily to connect to his most authentic self -- and his calling is to support others in doing the same.
Why you should listen
Eldra Jackson III is a spiritual warrior who lives a passion of "saving lives one circle at a time." After living most of his life devoid of emotions and coming face-to-face with the reality of dying behind bars, he came to a point of self-inquiry, seeking answers as to how his life had spiraled into a mass of destruction set upon self and others. From this point, the space was made to save his life.
Today, Jackson works to bring his spiritual medicine into the world while simultaneously guiding others to tap into their own internal salve and help identify wounds. Through his intensive awareness work, he is on a mission to show the world what's possible as each person does their own internal examination to begin the path towards emotional and psychic health. Learn more about him in the documentary The Work.
Eldra Jackson III | Speaker | TED.com