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Tracee Ellis Ross: A woman's fury holds lifetimes of wisdom
崔西·埃里斯·羅斯: 一位女性的憤怒承載幾輩人的智慧反思
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全球女性的經歷再也不能被忽視了，女演員和活動家崔西·羅斯說道。在這一場坦率、無畏的談話中，她向男女雙方發出了走向更美好未來的邀請。
Tracee Ellis Ross - Actress, performance artist, motivational speaker
Tracee Ellis Ross is the star of the ABC comedy series “Black-ish” and an influential voice in the modern conversation around equality, respect, beauty and feeling empowered in your skin. Full bio
Tracee Ellis Ross is the star of the ABC comedy series “Black-ish” and an influential voice in the modern conversation around equality, respect, beauty and feeling empowered in your skin. Full bio
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00:13
So, I have a friend.
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那麼，我有一個朋友。
00:15
She's an actress, she's in her 60s.
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她是一位演員，六十多歲。
她很活潑，
00:18
She's super bright,
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00:20
badass,
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是個倔脾氣，
00:22
emotionally intelligent.
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在情感方面很有智慧。
而在聖誕節的幾天前，她在郵局。
00:24
And a couple of days before Christmas,
she was at the post office.
she was at the post office.
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00:28
It was really crowded,
as it is around the holidays,
as it is around the holidays,
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那裡很擁擠，因為正是假日時節，
而她正在填寫一些表格，
00:31
and she was filling out some forms
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全神貫注。
00:33
and she was really focused.
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不知從哪裡冒出來一個人，
將她挪開了──
將她挪開了──
00:35
And out of nowhere,
someone moved her out of the way --
someone moved her out of the way --
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00:40
just physically put their hands on her
and moved her out of the way.
and moved her out of the way.
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真的把手放在她身上，將她移開了。
00:45
He apparently needed something
that she was blocking,
that she was blocking,
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他顯然需要一些被她擋住的東西，
所以他移動了她。
00:48
so he moved her.
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00:50
Maybe he had said something to her,
maybe he didn't, she didn't hear it ...
maybe he didn't, she didn't hear it ...
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或許他對她說了一些話，
或許他沒有，她沒有聽到……
或許他沒有，她沒有聽到……
不管怎麼說，她正全神貫注，
填寫她的表格。
填寫她的表格。
00:54
Either way, she was focused,
she was filling out the form.
she was filling out the form.
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突然有隻手在她身上，
00:57
And the next thing you know,
there were hands on her,
there were hands on her,
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而她被挪開了。
00:59
and she was being moved out of the way.
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01:01
He then got what he was reaching for,
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他隨即拿到了他想拿的東西，
01:05
whatever she was blocking,
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她擋住的那個東西，
隨即繼續他的快樂之路。
01:06
and went on his merry way.
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01:09
She said that she was shocked at first --
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她說，一開始她感到震驚──
是啊。
01:12
yeah.
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然後她感受到一種憤怒，
連她自己都無法解釋：
連她自己都無法解釋：
01:14
And then a fury rose up in her
that she could not explain:
that she could not explain:
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不是煩惱，
01:17
not annoyance,
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01:19
not frustration,
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不是失望，
而她用的詞是「憤怒」。
01:21
but "fury" was the word that she used.
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她接著說：
01:24
And she went on to say,
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01:26
"I mean, I wanted to get physical.
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「我的意思是，我想要肢體攻擊他。
01:30
I don't know -- I was furious.
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我不知道──我很氣憤。
而我不知道為什麼。
01:34
And I don't know why.
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我是說，他沒有打我。
01:36
I mean, he didn't hit me.
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他沒有傷害我，
01:38
He didn't hurt me,
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他沒有冒犯我。
01:39
he didn't violate me.
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他移動了我，
01:41
He moved me,
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01:43
and I wanted to hurt him,
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而我想打他，
或者至少，
01:46
or at the very least,
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追著他跑然後對著
他的臉大喊大叫。」
他的臉大喊大叫。」
01:47
run after him and yell in his face."
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01:50
So later, I was left pondering this fury,
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所以之後，我在思考這個憤怒，
01:55
and looking for an explanation as to why,
even in her telling of it,
even in her telling of it,
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並且嘗試著解釋為什麼，
即使在她的講述中，
即使在她的講述中，
我也感受到憤怒，
02:00
I felt fury, too,
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為什麼這是我最近經常聽到的
一個詞和一種感覺？
一個詞和一種感覺？
02:01
and why this was a word and a feeling
that I was hearing a lot about lately.
that I was hearing a lot about lately.
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02:07
I feel like this is the point in the room
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我感覺在這一刻的房間裡，
所有的男人都感到有一點不舒服。
02:09
where all the men are getting
a little bit uncomfortable.
a little bit uncomfortable.
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（笑聲）
02:12
(Laughter)
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沒關係。
02:13
It's OK.
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忍耐一下。
02:15
Stay with me.
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02:17
This fury is something
that I have been chomping on
that I have been chomping on
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這種憤怒是自
上次美國總統大選以來
上次美國總統大選以來
我一直在嘮叨的事情。
02:21
since the last US presidential election.
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02:25
And it seems that many women have.
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而且似乎很多女性都有。
02:28
This fury was not my friend's alone.
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並非只我的朋友一個人有這種憤怒。
02:31
Her fury was ignited
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她的憤怒是被幾代以来
男性在未經同意的情況下
擅自操弄女性的身體
擅自操弄女性的身體
02:34
by lifetimes of men
helping themselves to women's bodies
helping themselves to women's bodies
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02:38
without consent.
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而點燃的。
02:41
There's a culture of men
helping themselves to women,
helping themselves to women,
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有一種男性擅自操弄女性的文化，
而在這個例子裡，
02:44
and in this case,
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以一種看似無害的方式，
02:45
in a seemingly innocuous way,
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一個女人的身體被當做一個鹽瓶：
02:47
where a woman's body is like a saltshaker:
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「讓一下，這樣我就可以
拿到薯條了」──
拿到薯條了」──
02:49
"Get out of the way
so I can get to the fries" --
so I can get to the fries" --
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（笑聲）
02:52
(Laughter)
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02:54
to the most egregious,
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到另一個極端、
暴力
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violent
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和可怕的情況。
02:58
and horrific situations.
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03:01
I imagine that some of you
are wondering what the connection is
are wondering what the connection is
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我想你們中的一些人或許想知道
在無害和可怕之間的聯繫，
03:04
between the innocuous and the horrific,
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它們兩個看起來完全相反，
處在光譜的兩頭。
處在光譜的兩頭。
03:07
two things that seem to be
on opposite ends of the spectrum.
on opposite ends of the spectrum.
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03:12
Well, the common thread is the spectrum.
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那麼，共同的聯繫便是那個光譜。
03:18
The innocuous makes space
for the horrific.
for the horrific.
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無害的舉動為更可怕的
舉動提供了空間。
舉動提供了空間。
03:24
And women have to live
with the effects of both
with the effects of both
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而女人必須同時忍受這兩方面的影響
03:29
and everything in between.
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以及在二者之間的一切。
03:33
Fellas,
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朋友們，
能否想像一下，你正在看手機，
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can you imagine you're just on your phone,
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03:38
and someone walks up to you
and just takes it out of your hand?
and just takes it out of your hand?
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然後有個人向你走來，
直接從你手上把它拿走了？
直接從你手上把它拿走了？
而他們說，「行了，老兄，
我不知道你為何這麼不高興，
我不知道你為何這麼不高興，
03:41
And they're like, "OK dude,
I don't know why you're getting so upset,
I don't know why you're getting so upset,
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我想打個電話，
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I want to make a phone call.
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一旦打完以後我會立即還給你。
03:46
I'm going to give it back to you
as soon as I'm done.
as soon as I'm done.
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隨你。」
03:49
Whatever."
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03:51
And then imagine if someone takes
that cell phone out of your hands --
that cell phone out of your hands --
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然後想像一下
如果有人從你手中拿走手機，
如果有人從你手中拿走手機，
我不知道──每天一次，
03:55
I don't know -- once a day,
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每天兩次，
03:58
twice a day,
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隨便幾次。
03:59
random times.
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04:01
And the explanation is,
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而他們給出的解釋是，
「是啊，嗯，我是說，
你的手機殼很獨特。」
你的手機殼很獨特。」
04:02
"Yeah, well, I mean,
you got a fancy case,"
you got a fancy case,"
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或者「你不應該
從口袋裡把它拿出來」，
從口袋裡把它拿出來」，
04:06
or "You shouldn't have
taken it out of your pocket,"
taken it out of your pocket,"
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或者「對。是的。
04:10
or "Yep. Yeah.
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事情就是那樣子的。」
04:12
That's just the way it is."
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04:14
But somehow, no one ever talks about
the person who took the cell phone.
the person who took the cell phone.
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但不知何故，從來沒有人
談論過把手機拿走的人。
談論過把手機拿走的人。
04:21
Overly simplified, I get it,
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我明白，這是過度簡化，
但你們知道我在講什麼。
04:23
but you see where I'm going.
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04:27
Men are so used to helping
themselves, that it's like ...
themselves, that it's like ...
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男人太過習慣於「自便」，
就好像……
04:31
they can't help themselves.
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他們控制不住自己似的。
04:34
And not because men
are fundamentally less moral,
are fundamentally less moral,
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而這並不是因為男人天生更不道德，
而是因為，這是絕大多數
男人的一個盲點。
男人的一個盲點。
04:38
but because this is a very big
blind spot for most men.
blind spot for most men.
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04:46
When someone helps themselves to a woman,
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當一個人擅自決定對女人
動手動腳時，
04:49
it not only triggers
discomfort and distress,
discomfort and distress,
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它不僅會引發不適和痛苦，
04:54
but the unspoken experiences
of our mothers' lives,
of our mothers' lives,
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還會帶出那些沒有說出口的經歷。
是我們母親的生活，姐妹的生活，
04:59
sisters' lives
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以及我們之前幾代的女人所經歷的。
05:01
and generations of women before us.
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05:05
That's lifetimes of women dealing with men
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幾代以來的女人，在她們的一生中
都在與自以為比我們
更了解自己的男人打交道，
更了解自己的男人打交道，
05:10
who assume they know better for us
than we know for ourselves,
than we know for ourselves,
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05:15
being the property of husbands,
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作為丈夫的財產，
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landowners,
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地主的財產，
並且由老白人來告訴我們
身上器官的天命；
身上器官的天命；
05:20
and having old, white men tell us
the fate of our lady parts;
the fate of our lady parts;
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05:26
lifetimes of having our bodies used
for love and objects of desire,
for love and objects of desire,
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幾代人以來，我們的身體
被當作愛和欲望的物件，
被當作愛和欲望的物件，
而非我們自己
能夠選擇如何使用的身體。
能夠選擇如何使用的身體。
05:31
instead of bodies that we get to wield
and use as we choose;
and use as we choose;
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05:39
lifetimes of knowing that whether
we play by their rules or not,
we play by their rules or not,
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幾代女人的一生中，
我們知道不管我們
是否遵守他們的規則，
是否遵守他們的規則，
我們都仍然需要忍受騷擾、
05:42
we still have to tolerate harassment,
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侵犯，
05:46
assault
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甚至更糟；
05:47
and even worse;
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05:49
lifetimes of our bodies being used
as property that can be hit and hurt,
as property that can be hit and hurt,
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幾輩子以來我們的身體被當做
能被擊打和傷害的財產，
05:55
manipulated and moved
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被操縱和移動，
05:58
and like objects that are not
deserving of respect;
deserving of respect;
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就像不值得尊重的物件一樣；
06:03
lifetimes of not being able to express
the anger of our bodies.
the anger of our bodies.
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幾輩子以來，
我們無法表達出我們身體的氣憤。
06:12
It's no wonder we feel this fury.
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難怪我們會感到這種憤怒。
06:17
And if you add in the history of race --
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而如果你加上種族的歷史──
06:21
which is a whole other talk --
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這是另一個完整的話題──
06:24
it gets exponentially more complicated.
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事情的複雜性會指數性增長。
06:30
When women get manhandled,
we start to rationalize,
we start to rationalize,
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當女人被男人擺佈時，
我們會理性分析，
我們會理性分析，
嘗試著找出到底發生了什麼──
06:33
try to figure out the ways that it was --
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「或許是我們的錯。」
06:35
"It was probably our fault.
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「你知道嗎？他可能說過什麼，
不過我沒有聽見。」
不過我沒有聽見。」
06:36
You know what? He probably said
something, and I didn't hear him.
something, and I didn't hear him.
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「我只是反應過度了。」
06:41
I'm just overreacting.
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「我完全就是反應過度了。」
06:42
I'm totally overreacting."
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不。
06:43
No.
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06:45
No.
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不。
06:47
No.
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不。
06:49
No, no, no, no, no.
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不，不，不，不，不。
06:52
Women have been trained
to think that we are overreacting
to think that we are overreacting
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女性一直在被訓練著
去認為自己是反應過激，大驚小怪，
去認為自己是反應過激，大驚小怪，
或者我們太過敏感，毫不講理。
06:57
or that we're being too sensitive
or unreasonable.
or unreasonable.
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我們試圖找出毫無意義之事的意義，
07:01
We try to make sense of nonsense,
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而我們吞嚥下這些憤怒的感受。
07:03
and we swallow the furious feelings.
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我們嘗試著將它們放進
我們腦海中的隱藏空間，
我們腦海中的隱藏空間，
07:05
We try to put them into
some hidden place in our minds,
some hidden place in our minds,
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但它們並沒有離開。
07:08
but they don't go away.
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07:11
That fury sits deep inside
as we practice our smiles --
as we practice our smiles --
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那憤怒藏在內心深處，
當我們練習微笑的時候──
當我們練習微笑的時候──
（笑聲）「是的，當然」──
07:16
(Giggling) "Yes, of course" --
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並試著變得討人喜歡；
07:19
and try to be pleasant.
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07:20
"I know --" (Giggling)
"Yes, yes, of course,"
"Yes, yes, of course,"
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「我知道──」（笑聲）
「是的，是的，當然。」
「是的，是的，當然。」
因為很明顯，女人不應該生氣。
07:24
because apparently, women
aren't supposed to get angry.
aren't supposed to get angry.
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07:29
That fury that my friend felt
holds centuries
holds centuries
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我的朋友感受到的那憤怒，
包含了幾個世紀以來的
包含了幾個世紀以來的
07:35
of never being able to directly address
or express our indignation,
or express our indignation,
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無法直接說出或表達我們的憤慨，
07:43
our frustration
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我們的不滿，
07:44
and our rage.
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和我們的憤怒。
07:48
When someone thinks
they can help themselves to our bodies,
they can help themselves to our bodies,
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當某個人認為他們可以
隨自己的意思擺弄我們的身體時，
隨自己的意思擺弄我們的身體時，
這不僅點燃了我們現在的怒火，
07:51
it not only ignites the current fury,
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but it lights up the past.
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也點燃了過去。
07:59
What seems like a benign moment
at the post office
at the post office
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在郵局看似無害的一刻，
08:03
is actually an anger grenade.
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實際上是一顆憤怒的手榴彈。
08:07
Well,
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好吧，
08:08
kaboom!
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砰！
08:12
Today, the global collection
of women's experiences
of women's experiences
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今天，全球女性的經歷
再也不能被忽視了。
08:16
can no longer be ignored.
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08:19
Time's up on thinking
that we're overreacting
that we're overreacting
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認為我們反應過度
或「事情就是這樣」的
或「事情就是這樣」的
時代已經結束了。
08:21
or "This is just the way it is."
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08:24
Time's up on women being held responsible
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女性要為男性的不良行為負責的時代
已經結束了。
08:28
for men's bad behavior.
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改變男性的壞行為是男人的責任。
08:31
It is men's responsibility
to change men's bad behavior.
to change men's bad behavior.
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08:38
(Applause)
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08:46
Our culture is shifting,
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我們的文化在改變，
08:48
and it's time.
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而這就是時候。
08:52
So my fellow women
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所以，我的女性夥伴們，
08:54
and our gentle men,
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和我們的男士們，
08:58
as we are here together
within this particular window
within this particular window
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當我們在這個
特殊的窗口中聚在一起，
特殊的窗口中聚在一起，
在這一大規模的女性平等運動中，
09:02
of this large-scale movement
towards women's equality,
towards women's equality,
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09:08
and as we envision a future
that does not yet exist,
that does not yet exist,
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以及當我們展望一個
尚不存在的未來時，
尚不存在的未來時，
我們都收到不同的邀請函。
09:12
we both have different invitations.
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09:15
Men,
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男士們，
09:18
I call you in as allies,
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我請求你們加入成為盟友，
09:23
as we work together towards change.
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讓我們共同努力實現變革。
09:27
May you be accountable
and self-reflective,
and self-reflective,
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願你有責任感並會自我反省，
09:33
compassionate and open.
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富有同情心，並心胸開闊。
09:38
May you ask how you can support a woman
and be of service to change.
and be of service to change.
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希望你可以問問
如何才能支持一個女人，
如何才能支持一個女人，
並且願意為改變而幫助，
09:44
And may you get help if you need it.
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如果你需要幫助，
希望你能夠得到幫助。
希望你能夠得到幫助。
09:48
And women,
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而女士們，
09:51
I encourage you
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我鼓勵你們
09:54
to acknowledge your fury.
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承認你們的憤怒。
09:57
Give it language.
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用語言表達它。
10:00
Share it in safe places of identification
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在安全的地方，用安全的方法
將它分享出來。
10:03
and in safe ways.
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10:07
Your fury is not something
to be afraid of.
to be afraid of.
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你的憤怒並不是什麼
值得害怕的東西。
值得害怕的東西。
10:11
It holds lifetimes of wisdom.
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它承載了幾輩人的智慧反思。
10:15
Let it breathe
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讓它自由呼吸，
10:19
and listen.
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並且用心聽著。
10:21
Thank you.
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謝謝。
10:22
(Applause)
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10:29
Thank you.
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謝謝。
10:30
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Tracee Ellis Ross - Actress, performance artist, motivational speakerTracee Ellis Ross is the star of the ABC comedy series “Black-ish” and an influential voice in the modern conversation around equality, respect, beauty and feeling empowered in your skin.
Why you should listen
Tracee Ellis Ross, a global influencer with a cross-cultural and joyful point of view, is a co-founding signatory of the Time's Up movement. In November 2017, she gave a powerful speech that went viral about dismantling expectations and claiming your own life at Glamour's Women of the Year Summit.
When Ross was Emmy-nominated for her work on Black-ish in 2016, it made her the first black woman in 30 years to garner a nomination in the category and only one in five all-time. She's the recipient of multiple NAACP Image awards and nominations for her work. You also may spot her as the host of many award shows, including Black Girls Rock! and the 2017 American Music Awards, where her heart, humor and style are on full blast.
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