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Tiffany Kagure Mugo and Siphumeze Khundayi: How to have a healthier, positive relationship to sex
Tiffany Kagure Mugo i Siphumeze Khundayi: Com tindre una relació més sana i positiva amb el sexe
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Des de la por dels cosos femenins fins a la vergonya de qualsevol cosa relacionada amb el mugró, les nostres idees sobre el sexe necessiten una millora, com ens ensenyen les educadores sexuals (i divertides) Tiffany Kagure Mugo i Siphumeze Khundayi. Per a una nova interpretació radical de la positivitat sexual, el duo puja a l'escenari de TED per a recomanar-nos que ens fixem en l'Àfrica per a aprendre la seua saviesa sexual, tant ancestral com moderna, i ens mostren com podem desfer-nos dels conceptes problemàtics sobre el sexe i redefinir el plaer segons el nostre criteri.
Tiffany Kagure Mugo - Curator, blogger, media consultant
The curator of HOLAAfrica, Tiffany Kagure Mugo is a wine bar philosopher who pontificates on all things and is willing to learn about everything else. Full bioSiphumeze Khundayi - Photographer, theatre-maker, performer
Siphumeze Khundayi is founder and artistic director of HOLAAfrica, sparking conversations about sex and sexuality. Full bio
The curator of HOLAAfrica, Tiffany Kagure Mugo is a wine bar philosopher who pontificates on all things and is willing to learn about everything else. Full bioSiphumeze Khundayi - Photographer, theatre-maker, performer
Siphumeze Khundayi is founder and artistic director of HOLAAfrica, sparking conversations about sex and sexuality. Full bio
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Avís per als espectadors.
Contingut no apte per a menors.
Contingut no apte per a menors.
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[This talk contains mature content
Viewer discretion is advised]
Viewer discretion is advised]
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Tiffany Kagure Mugo: Bé.
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Tiffany Kagure Mugo: OK.
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Ja ens hem apuntat,
ja no hi ha volta enrere.
ja no hi ha volta enrere.
00:17
So we've signed up,
there's no turning back now.
there's no turning back now.
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(Rialles)
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(Laughter)
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Siphumeze Khundayi: Hi, guys.
TKM: Hello, everyone.
TKM: Hello, everyone.
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Siphumeze Khundayi: Hola a tots.
TKM: Hola.
TKM: Hola.
00:23
TKM: So, you think you know about sex.
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TKM: Bé, segur que penseu
que sabeu de sexe.
que sabeu de sexe.
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Chances are you don't,
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Però el més probable és que no
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and we are here to tell you
that you don't.
that you don't.
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i som aquí
per dir-vos que no en sabeu.
per dir-vos que no en sabeu.
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SK: We are here to tell you
that no matter where you come from,
that no matter where you come from,
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SK: Som aquí per dir-vos
que no importa d'on vingueu,
que no importa d'on vingueu,
00:34
Abuja to Alabama,
Dubai to downtown London,
Dubai to downtown London,
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d'Abuja, Alabama,
Dubai o del centre de Londres,
Dubai o del centre de Londres,
00:37
sex has and continues to change.
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el sexe ha canviat
i continua canviant.
i continua canviant.
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And we need to understand this
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I això ho hem d'acceptar
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if we're going to keep things
safe and spicy.
safe and spicy.
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si volem mantindre-ho
segur i excitant.
segur i excitant.
00:44
TKM: So now, the act
of rubbing our naked bodies together
of rubbing our naked bodies together
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TKM: L'acte de fregar els nostres cossos
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has undergone a number of changes.
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ha experimentat molts canvis.
00:49
And those changes have been
affected by eons of ideas.
affected by eons of ideas.
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I aquestos canvis s'han vist afectats
per segles d'idees.
per segles d'idees.
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Even you, as an adult,
have some internalized ideas about sex
have some internalized ideas about sex
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Inclús vosaltres, com adults,
teniu idees assimilades sobre el sexe
teniu idees assimilades sobre el sexe
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that you never challenge.
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a les que mai us enfronteu.
00:58
Some good, some bad
and some very, very strange.
and some very, very strange.
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Algunes són bones, altres dolentes
i altres molt, molt estranyes.
i altres molt, molt estranyes.
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
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SK: So when you allow someone
to see you butt naked,
to see you butt naked,
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SK: Quan deixeu que algú
us vegi despullats
us vegi despullats
01:06
do you ever think about
how the ideas that you internally have
how the ideas that you internally have
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penseu en algun moment
com les idees que teniu assimilades
com les idees que teniu assimilades
01:11
will affect whether you will like them
tickling your elbow or kissing your thigh
tickling your elbow or kissing your thigh
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determinaran si us agraden
les pessigolles o els petons a les cuixes
les pessigolles o els petons a les cuixes
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or shouting out the name of a chose deity?
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o cridar el nom d'una determinada deïtat?
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One must do internal
monitoring and evaluation
monitoring and evaluation
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Hem de fer controls
i evaluacions internes
i evaluacions internes
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if we are going to live
our best sexy lives.
our best sexy lives.
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si volem viure
les nostres millors vides sexuals.
les nostres millors vides sexuals.
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TKM: And we're going to tell you
how to have a great sex life, right?
how to have a great sex life, right?
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TKM: I ara us contarem
com tenir una vida sexual genial, d'acord?
com tenir una vida sexual genial, d'acord?
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But the first thing you need to do
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Però el primer que heu de fer
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is let go of the bad ideas
you have about sex.
you have about sex.
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és desfer-vos de les idees dolentes
que teniu sobre el sexe.
que teniu sobre el sexe.
01:32
SK: Think about the things
that we need to change.
that we need to change.
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SK: Penseu en aquelles coses
que hem de canviar.
que hem de canviar.
01:35
TKM: And the things we need to embrace
in all of their shiny newness.
in all of their shiny newness.
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TKM: I en les coses que hem d'incorporar
amb tota la seua excitant novetat.
amb tota la seua excitant novetat.
01:38
So, we're going to take you
on a journey of sex:
on a journey of sex:
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Així que ara us acompanyarem
pel camí del sexe:
pel camí del sexe:
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the bad parts of sex,
historically great sexual practices
historically great sexual practices
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les parts dolentes del sexe,
pràctiques històricament plaents
pràctiques històricament plaents
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and the future of sex.
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i el futur del sexe.
01:48
SK: Now, judging by the cool
seven billion people on this planet,
seven billion people on this planet,
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SK: Tenint en compte que al món viuen
set mil milions de persones,
set mil milions de persones,
els humans fa molt de temps
que fan això del sexe.
que fan això del sexe.
01:53
human beings have been doing
the sex thing for a long time.
the sex thing for a long time.
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And in vast quantities.
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I en grans quantitats.
01:58
But this does not mean
we are actually good at it.
we are actually good at it.
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Però això no significa
que se'ns done bé.
que se'ns done bé.
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From the top of my head -- rape culture.
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La cultura de la violació, per exemple.
02:05
TKM: How tradition and culture
limit ideas of pleasure.
limit ideas of pleasure.
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TKM: Com la tradició i la cultura
limiten les concepcions del plaer.
limiten les concepcions del plaer.
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SK: Or even the idea that the nipple
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SK: O inclús la idea de que al mugró
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deserves the same treatment
that a DJ gives his deck
that a DJ gives his deck
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se l'ha de tractar igual
que un DJ als botons
que un DJ als botons
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when he's trying to turn up the volume.
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quan intenta apujar la veu.
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TKM: Like, that is a personal
pet peeve of mine.
pet peeve of mine.
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TKM: Aquesta és una mania personal.
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SK: We are so scared of sex.
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SK: Tenim molta por del sexe.
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TKM: And we need somebody
to blame for our fear.
to blame for our fear.
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TKM: I necessitem algú a qui culpar.
02:28
Enter women, and our fear
of every part of their anatomy,
of every part of their anatomy,
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Per exemple, les dones i la nostra por
de qualsevol part de la nostra anatomia,
de qualsevol part de la nostra anatomia,
02:32
unless we are the ones
using their sexiness.
using their sexiness.
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excepte quan utilitzem
la nostra sensualitat.
la nostra sensualitat.
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SK: Think about it.
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SK: Penseu-hi.
02:36
You can quite easily go to someone
and say, "My elbow hurts."
and say, "My elbow hurts."
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És fàcil anar i dir a algú:
"em fa mal el colze".
"em fa mal el colze".
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But try going to someone and saying,
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Però intenteu dir en canvi:
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"Excuse me, my vagina
has a strange buzzing feeling,
has a strange buzzing feeling,
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"Perdone, tinc una estranya sensació
vibrant a la vagina,
vibrant a la vagina,
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do you know where I can find
the buzzing-vagina ointment?"
the buzzing-vagina ointment?"
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sap on puc trobar la pomada
per a les vagines vibrants?"
per a les vagines vibrants?"
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And see how well that goes down.
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I observa com acaba la conversa.
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
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TKM: Does not go down well.
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TKM: No acaba bé.
02:53
I once challenged friends
to simply go into supermarkets
to simply go into supermarkets
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Una vegada vaig proposar als meus amics
anar als supermercats
anar als supermercats
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and say to strangers, "Thighs."
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i simplement
dir als desconeguts: "cuixes".
dir als desconeguts: "cuixes".
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No one did it,
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Ningú ho va fer,
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despite the fact that they could have been
talking about chicken or turkey.
talking about chicken or turkey.
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malgrat que podrien haver estat parlant
sobre pollastre o gall d'indi.
sobre pollastre o gall d'indi.
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
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SK: So a number of cultural
and historical notions
and historical notions
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SK: És enorme la quantitat
d'idees històriques i culturals
d'idees històriques i culturals
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have burrowed so deeply within us,
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que han calat
tan profundament en nosaltres
tan profundament en nosaltres
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we don't even notice that it's strange
to freak out when somebody says "nipple"
to freak out when somebody says "nipple"
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que ni ens adonem que és estrany
posar-nos nerviosos en escoltar "mugró"
posar-nos nerviosos en escoltar "mugró"
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as opposed to "left knee."
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i no amb "genoll esquerre".
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We refuse to engage with sex properly.
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Ens neguem a interactuar adequadament
amb el sexe.
amb el sexe.
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And the first step
is admitting that it exists
is admitting that it exists
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I el primer pas és admetre que existeix
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outside of trying to sell us products
like bottled water or coffee.
like bottled water or coffee.
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fora d'intentar vendre'ns productes
com l'aigua embotellada o café.
com l'aigua embotellada o café.
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The unrealistic depictions in movies
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Les representacions irreals
de les pel·lícules
de les pel·lícules
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or that one thing that you saw
on the internet "by mistake."
on the internet "by mistake."
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o això que vas veure a internet
"per error".
"per error".
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TKM: Mhm.
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TKM: Mhm.
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So, now in order to cure
this ailment, again,
this ailment, again,
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Ara, per curar aquesta enfermetat,
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let us just first admit that we have
some messed-up ideas of sex.
some messed-up ideas of sex.
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hem d'admetre que tenim
conceptes confusos del sexe.
conceptes confusos del sexe.
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SK: And breathe in --
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SK: Inspireu...
03:41
(Inhales)
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(Inspira)
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And let it all go.
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I deixeu-los anar.
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Now, it all seems pretty morbid --
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Bé, tot això sembla un poc morbós,
03:49
that culture and society have failed us
in our quest for coitus.
in our quest for coitus.
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que la cultura i la societat
ens hagin fallat en la recerca del coit.
ens hagin fallat en la recerca del coit.
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But this is not the case.
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Però no és el cas.
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There are things
that the past can teach us
that the past can teach us
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Hi ha coses que el passat
ens pot ensenyar
ens pot ensenyar
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to help us upgrade the present.
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per poder millorar el present.
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TKM: So now, if I had a glass of Merlot --
which I really wish I did --
which I really wish I did --
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TKM: Si ara tingués una copa de Merlot
(tant de bo la tingués)
(tant de bo la tingués)
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I would pour the ancestors a drink,
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Serviria una copa als nostres ancestres,
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because there are ways
in which African societies
in which African societies
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perquè hi han maneres
en que les societats africanes
en que les societats africanes
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huddled this sex thing
before the C that shall not be named --
before the C that shall not be named --
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van abraçar el sexe
abans de la C que no anomenarem...
abans de la C que no anomenarem...
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SK: (Whispering) Colonization.
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SK: (Murmurant) Colonització.
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TKM: Came through.
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TKM: va arribar.
04:14
Within African societies, we had spaces,
both social and spiritual,
both social and spiritual,
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A les societats africanes
teníem espais socials i espirituals
teníem espais socials i espirituals
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that helped institutionalize
healthy sexual practices.
healthy sexual practices.
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que ajudaven a institucionalitzar
pràctiques sexuals saludables.
pràctiques sexuals saludables.
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We had sexuality schools
that taught social and erotic cues.
that taught social and erotic cues.
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Teníem escoles de sexualitat per ensenyar
mostres socials i eròtiques.
mostres socials i eròtiques.
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We had spaces where teenagers
could engage, understand
could engage, understand
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I espais on els adolescents
podien involucrar-se,
podien involucrar-se,
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and like, properly know
how to handle sexual urges,
how to handle sexual urges,
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entendre i aprendre
com gestionar els impulsos sexuals,
com gestionar els impulsos sexuals,
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and places where adults could handle
the stresses and strifes of adulting.
the stresses and strifes of adulting.
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i llocs on els adults podien gestionar
l'estrès i els conflictes de fer-se gran.
l'estrès i els conflictes de fer-se gran.
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SK: Ways that didn't include
you hiding your credit card bill
you hiding your credit card bill
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SK: Sense ocultar l'extracte
de la teua targeta de crèdit
de la teua targeta de crèdit
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or deleting that toll-free number
from your phone.
from your phone.
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o esborrar eixe número gratuït
del teu mòbil.
del teu mòbil.
04:45
These spaces of old
were so important for women.
were so important for women.
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Aquests espais d'antany
eren molt importants per a les dones.
eren molt importants per a les dones.
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TKM: There were African sexual practices
that centered women
that centered women
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TKM: Algunes pràctiques sexuals africanes
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and in particular, their pleasure.
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es centraven en el plaer femení.
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SK: And we're going to talk
about one in particular
about one in particular
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SK: I anem a parlar
d'una d'elles en particular
d'una d'elles en particular
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that's named "osunality."
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que s'anomena "osunalitat".
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TKM: Also known as the African erotic.
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TKM: També coneguda
com l'eròtica africana.
com l'eròtica africana.
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Yes, my people,
welcome to the Thunderdome.
welcome to the Thunderdome.
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Sí, senyores i senyors,
benvinguts a l'explosió mental.
benvinguts a l'explosió mental.
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The erotic takes on
different shapes and forms
different shapes and forms
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L'eròtica pren diferents formes
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as you travel the globe.
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depenent de la part del món.
05:09
Now let's take a bow to the "Kama Sutra,"
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És hora de saludar el "Kama Sutra",
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the world's first book on the pleasures
of sensual living.
of sensual living.
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el primer llibre del món
sobre els plaers de la vida sexual.
sobre els plaers de la vida sexual.
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More than just a mere depiction
of contortionist sexual positions,
of contortionist sexual positions,
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Més que una representació
de postures sexuals per a contorsionistes,
de postures sexuals per a contorsionistes,
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it provided a comprehensive guide
on living a good life.
on living a good life.
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proporciona una guia completa
sobre com viure una vida plena.
sobre com viure una vida plena.
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What is particularly interesting for us
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El que més ens interessa
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is that it focused on women
and creating pleasure for women.
and creating pleasure for women.
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és que es centra en les dones
i com donar-los plaer.
i com donar-los plaer.
05:31
TKM: Mhm. Shout-out to the "Kama Sutra,"
but back to the African erotic.
but back to the African erotic.
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TKM: Mhm. Gràcies al "Kama Sutra"
per existir, però tornem a l'Àfrica.
per existir, però tornem a l'Àfrica.
05:36
SK: OK, my bad, bringing it back.
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SK: D'acord, culpa meva, tornem enrere.
05:38
So, Nkiru Nzegwu says that Osun,
who is an orisha of the Yoruba people,
who is an orisha of the Yoruba people,
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Segons Nkiru Nzegwu,
Osun, un orisha dels Yoruba,
Osun, un orisha dels Yoruba,
05:43
typically associated with water,
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normalment associat amb l'aigua,
05:45
purity, fertility, love
and, most importantly, sensuality,
and, most importantly, sensuality,
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puresa, fertilitat, amor i,
el mes important, sensualitat,
el mes important, sensualitat,
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represents a female-centered
life-transforming energy
life-transforming energy
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representa una energia transformadora
de vida centrada en la dona
de vida centrada en la dona
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that courses through and animates life.
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que transcorre per la vida i l'ànima.
05:58
She says that women
who typify the osun force
who typify the osun force
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Diu que les dones
que representen la força d'Osun
que representen la força d'Osun
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brandish their sexuality quite openly
and unselfconsciously.
and unselfconsciously.
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llueixen la seua sexualitat
obertament i inconscient.
obertament i inconscient.
06:06
And she goes on to say ...
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I continua dient...
06:07
TKM: There you go,
you got that line this time.
you got that line this time.
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TKM: Aixina és,
molt ben dit.
molt ben dit.
06:10
"The flow need not result
in conception and birth
in conception and birth
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"El flux no ha de ser necessàriament
per concebir i parir
per concebir i parir
06:13
but doesn't tell the principle of pleasure
at the heart of copulation.
at the heart of copulation.
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però no compta el principi del plaer
al cor de la còpula.
al cor de la còpula.
06:17
This pleasure principle
at the heart of the creative energy
at the heart of the creative energy
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Aquest principi del plaer
al cor de la energia creativa
al cor de la energia creativa
06:20
is metaphorically known as 'osun honey'."
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es coneix metafòricament
com "la mel d'Osun."
com "la mel d'Osun."
06:23
Sorry, I did not want to misquote that.
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Disculpeu, no volia equivocar-me.
06:25
So now, osun honey and osunality
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Aixina que la mel d'Osun i la osunalitat
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re-affirm the normality
of sexual pleasure and the erotic.
of sexual pleasure and the erotic.
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reafirmen la normalitat
del plaer eròtic i la eròtica.
del plaer eròtic i la eròtica.
06:32
Osun, like other female
deities of fertility across Africa,
deities of fertility across Africa,
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Osun, com qualsevol altra deïtat
femenina de la fertilitat africana,
femenina de la fertilitat africana,
06:37
made sure and emphasized
the importance of female sexuality
the importance of female sexuality
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es va assegurar de donar importància
a la sexualitat femenina
a la sexualitat femenina
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without negating male sexuality.
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sense negar la masculina.
06:45
We had the Tonga, the Bemba, the Sande
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Tenim la Tonga, la Bemba, la Sande
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and other similar
sexuality schools of thought
sexuality schools of thought
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i altres escoles de sexualitat similars
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that taught young women
about the power of this inner force.
about the power of this inner force.
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que ensenyen les dones joves
el poder de les seues forces internes.
el poder de les seues forces internes.
06:55
TKM: So within the African continent,
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TKM: Al continent africà, aleshores,
06:56
there's a great deal of talk
about the synergic nature of sex
about the synergic nature of sex
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hi ha molt de debat
sobre la naturalesa sinèrgica del sexe
sobre la naturalesa sinèrgica del sexe
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and how it comes together
as a social good.
as a social good.
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i la seua aliança com a bé social.
07:02
For example, within Rwanda,
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07:05
there is the notion
that the rivers are replenished
that the rivers are replenished
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existeix la creença
de que els rius es replenen
de que els rius es replenen
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by the act of a woman squirting.
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per l'acte de l'ejaculació femenina.
07:10
(Laughter)
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07:12
SK: But modern-day ideas of sex
have become some sort of battle
have become some sort of battle
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SK: Però les idees modernes sobre el sexe
s'han convertit en una batalla
s'han convertit en una batalla
07:16
in which we are all trying
to subvert each other.
to subvert each other.
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en què tots intentem sabotejar-nos.
07:20
TKM: We are pounding the pussy,
using sex as a weapon,
using sex as a weapon,
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TKM: Estem maltractant el cony,
utilitzant el sexe com un arma,
utilitzant el sexe com un arma,
07:25
playing hard to get, conquering --
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esforçant-nos per a aconseguir, conquerir.
07:27
a constant power struggle.
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És una constant lluita de poder.
07:30
SK: And there is always a loser
when it comes to this war.
when it comes to this war.
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SK: I sempre hi han perdedors
a aquesta guerra.
a aquesta guerra.
07:34
TKM: So now the ability to openly brandish
and explore your sexuality and your sex
and explore your sexuality and your sex
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TKM: Lluir i explorar obertament
la vostra sexualitat i el vostre sexe
la vostra sexualitat i el vostre sexe
07:40
without it being a threat to others
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sense ser una amenaça per a la resta
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is at the core of engaging
with healthy sexual practices.
with healthy sexual practices.
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és fonamental per a començar
amb pràctiques sexuals saludables.
amb pràctiques sexuals saludables.
07:46
SK: Now this is where it begins
to get really, really good.
to get really, really good.
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SK: I ara és quan açò
comença a posar-se interessant.
comença a posar-se interessant.
07:51
TKM: So what does it mean
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TKM: Aleshores, què significa
07:53
to reconceptualize sex away from this idea
of the monster hiding in the night?
of the monster hiding in the night?
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reconceptualitzar el sexe i allunyar-lo
de la idea d'un monstre que aguaita?
de la idea d'un monstre que aguaita?
07:58
What is the potential for doing greatness
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Quin és el potencial de fer-ho
08:00
on the kitchen counter, a secluded beach,
the backseat of a car
the backseat of a car
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als fogons de la cuina,
a una platja deserta, al cotxe
a una platja deserta, al cotxe
08:04
or even simply in between the sheets?
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o inclús simplement al llit?
08:06
Now in learning from the past
and sliding into the present,
and sliding into the present,
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Aprenent del passat
i endinsant-nos en el present,
i endinsant-nos en el present,
08:10
a radical theory of sex
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una teoria radical del sexe
08:12
must identify, it must describe,
explain and denounce
explain and denounce
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ha de ser capaç d'identificar,
descriure, explicar i denunciar
descriure, explicar i denunciar
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sexual oppression and erotic injustice.
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l'opressió sexual i la injustícia eròtica.
TKM: I la positivitat sexual
és un dels àmbits
és un dels àmbits
08:20
TKM: And sex positivity
is one of the realms
is one of the realms
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in which the new
can be unpacked and explored.
can be unpacked and explored.
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en el que la novetat
es pot descobrir i explorar.
es pot descobrir i explorar.
08:25
SK: We're asking you
to call upon the osun honey
to call upon the osun honey
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SK: Us estem demanant
que recorreu a la mel d'Osun
que recorreu a la mel d'Osun
08:28
to engage with new ideas
of sex and pleasure
of sex and pleasure
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per a implicar-vos amb noves idees
del sexe i el plaer
del sexe i el plaer
08:32
so that we can start
to build a new identity
to build a new identity
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per a que pugam començar
a crear una nova identitat
a crear una nova identitat
08:35
that feels more like a fitted dress
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que siga més com un vestit a mesura
08:37
and less like a wooden coffin
slowly choking the life out of us.
slowly choking the life out of us.
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i menys com una caixa de fusta
que ens empresona.
que ens empresona.
08:42
Now there are a lot of people
charting their own sexual paths.
charting their own sexual paths.
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Hi ha molta gent ara
traçant el seus camins sexuals
traçant el seus camins sexuals
08:46
But, because as HOLAAfrica --
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però com a HOLAAfrica,
08:48
SK: We do sex and sexuality online --
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SK: Fem sexe i sexualitat en línia.
08:50
TKM: We would be foolhardy
not to mention the digital realm.
not to mention the digital realm.
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TKM: Pecaríem d'insensates
si no mencionàrem l'àmbit digital.
si no mencionàrem l'àmbit digital.
08:54
There are women who are online,
creating incredible conversations,
creating incredible conversations,
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Hi han dones en línia
creant converses increïbles,
creant converses increïbles,
08:59
chatting about the clitoris,
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parlant sobre el clítoris,
09:02
chatting about the reverse cowgirl
and also cunnilingus.
and also cunnilingus.
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sobre la vaquera al revés
i sobre cunnilingus.
i sobre cunnilingus.
09:05
SK: I like the word "cunnilingus."
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SK: M'encanta eixa paraula.
09:07
TKM: I bet you do.
But that's not the point.
But that's not the point.
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TKM: Ja m'imagine.
Però no parlem d'això.
Però no parlem d'això.
09:09
Anyway, these women
are resurrecting the work of ancestors
are resurrecting the work of ancestors
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En qualsevol cas, les dones ressusciten
l'obra dels nostres avantpassats
l'obra dels nostres avantpassats
09:13
to have some incredible conversations
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per a tindre converses increïbles
09:15
that have been previously
buried and sealed.
buried and sealed.
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que havien estat prèviament
prohibides i enterrades.
prohibides i enterrades.
09:18
SK: They are asking the questions
that we are so afraid to ask,
that we are so afraid to ask,
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SK: Fan les preguntes
que a nosaltres ens fa por fer,
que a nosaltres ens fa por fer,
09:23
so that we don't end up
in sticky situations.
in sticky situations.
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per si acabem en situacions incòmodes.
09:25
TKM: That's true.
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TKM: Això és cert.
09:26
And another space that we've been seeing
the charting of a new sexual path
the charting of a new sexual path
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I un altre espai en el que hem vist
com es tracen nous camins sexuals
com es tracen nous camins sexuals
09:30
is by queer women
and their engagement in kink.
and their engagement in kink.
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és en les dones queer
i en la seua implicació en el fetitxisme.
i en la seua implicació en el fetitxisme.
09:35
SK: Now, think "Fifty Shades of Grey"
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SK: Penseu ara
en "Cinquanta ombres d'en Grey"
en "Cinquanta ombres d'en Grey"
09:37
without the creepy rich guy
who does not understand consent.
who does not understand consent.
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sense el ric raret
que no entèn que és el consentiment.
que no entèn que és el consentiment.
09:42
(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
09:43
TKM: So one fascinating subset of kink
is actually rope play.
is actually rope play.
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TKM: Una part fascinant del fetitxisme
és el joc amb cordes.
és el joc amb cordes.
09:48
SK: Shibari, also known as Kinbaku,
is the Japanese art of rope play.
is the Japanese art of rope play.
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SK: Shibari, també dit Kinbaku,
és l'art japonès del joc amb cordes.
és l'art japonès del joc amb cordes.
09:52
Originally used as a means
of restraining captives,
of restraining captives,
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Utilitzat originàriament
per a subjectar presoners,
per a subjectar presoners,
09:57
it became sexualized
and spreading across the globe
and spreading across the globe
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es va sexualitzar
i popularitzar a tot el món
i popularitzar a tot el món
10:00
as a kinky form of restraint
with a respected and erotic aesthetic.
with a respected and erotic aesthetic.
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com un fetitxe per a subjectar
amb una estètica eròtica i respectuosa.
amb una estètica eròtica i respectuosa.
10:05
TKM: And it landed on our shores.
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TKM: I ha arribat al nostre continent.
10:07
Who would have thought that African
queer women would be kinksters?
queer women would be kinksters?
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Qui hauria pensat que les africanes queer
serien fetitxistes?
serien fetitxistes?
10:11
Coming from a history of sexual violence,
slavery and a lack of bodily autonomy.
slavery and a lack of bodily autonomy.
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Venint de la violència sexual,
l'esclavitut i la dependència corporal.
l'esclavitut i la dependència corporal.
10:16
Is it not too soon, you ask.
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No és molt prompte?
Us preguntareu.
Us preguntareu.
10:18
SK: No, it's not,
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SK: No, no ho és,
10:19
and these women have taught us
that despite the dark history
that despite the dark history
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i aquestes dones ens han ensenyat
que malgrat la història obscura
que malgrat la història obscura
10:23
that covers the body of women
from our beautiful continent,
from our beautiful continent,
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que pesa sobre el cos de les dones
del nostre bell continent
del nostre bell continent
10:26
these women are actively
and beautifully constructing
and beautifully constructing
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elles construeixen
de manera activa i bella
de manera activa i bella
10:29
what sex and pleasure means to them.
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el que significa sexe i plaer per a elles.
10:32
TKM: This is not to say that everyone
now needs to rush out and engage in kink.
now needs to rush out and engage in kink.
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TKM: Açò no significa que ara
tots hàgim d'apressar-nos a provar-ho
tots hàgim d'apressar-nos a provar-ho
10:37
But if these queer women
can come out of a history
can come out of a history
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però si aquestes dones
poden deixar enrere la història
de violència, esclavitut, colonització
de violència, esclavitut, colonització
10:40
of, again, sexual violence,
slavery, colonization
slavery, colonization
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10:44
and all manner of traditional,
religious and cultural pitfalls,
religious and cultural pitfalls,
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i totes les dificultats
culturals, tradicionals i religioses,
culturals, tradicionals i religioses,
10:48
to reconceptualize what sex
and pleasure means to them,
and pleasure means to them,
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per a reconceptualitzar
allò que el sexe significa per a elles,
allò que el sexe significa per a elles,
aleshores vosaltres també.
10:52
then you can do it, too.
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10:53
SK: You can do it too, boo-boo.
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SK: Vosaltres també, bu-bu.
10:56
Yes, you can.
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Sí que es pot.
10:57
(Laughter)
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TKM: Es tracta d'agafar les idees
que tenim sobre el sexe, les dolentes,
que tenim sobre el sexe, les dolentes,
10:58
TKM: It is in taking the ideas
that we have about sex -- the bad ones,
that we have about sex -- the bad ones,
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11:02
and head-butting them,
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i estabornir-les,
11:03
holding on to the good ones
and creating new ones
and creating new ones
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mantenint les bones
i creant-ne de noves
i creant-ne de noves
11:06
that we can have an incredible engagement
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que puguen tindre una acollida increïble
11:09
with one of the most prolific
and natural human acts ever.
and natural human acts ever.
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entre un dels actes humans
més naturals i estesos.
més naturals i estesos.
11:13
SK: It's about figuring out
what counts as a system bug.
what counts as a system bug.
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SK: Es tracta de detectar
els errors del sistema.
els errors del sistema.
11:16
TKM: What to term a classic.
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TKM: Què considerem clàssic.
SK: I quines noves característiques
podríem afegir.
podríem afegir.
11:18
SK: And what new features we should add.
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11:20
Human beings are infamous
for their superpower to upgrade.
for their superpower to upgrade.
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Els èssers humans són cèlebres
per el seu superpoder de millorar.
per el seu superpoder de millorar.
11:24
This should count for our sex, too.
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I això també deuria aplicar-se al sexe.
11:27
TKM: Thank you.
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TKM: Gràcies.
11:29
(Applause)
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(Aplaudiment)
ABOUT THE SPEAKERS
Tiffany Kagure Mugo - Curator, blogger, media consultantThe curator of HOLAAfrica, Tiffany Kagure Mugo is a wine bar philosopher who pontificates on all things and is willing to learn about everything else.
Why you should listen
Tiffany Kagure curates and creates knowledge on women and sexuality on the African continent, manages spreadsheets and creates conversations -- all the while trying to figure out how to adult. Founding and running HOLAAfrica helped to bring together her various skills as it demanded all of them, all the time.
A passion for making sure people had the orgasms and conversations that elude them whilst being given the comprehensive healthy knowledge of sexuality that eluded her meant that HOLAAfrica forced her to grow as a blogger, project creator and guru of excel spreadsheets. The need to have conversations about sex and sexuality, seeing what the novel ways this could be done whilst exploring what boundaries could be pushed meant that her life at the helm of HOLAAfrica and her personal consultancy work grew, and life got wild. Sometimes the best life choices come from trying to figure out how to get through your own existence.
Tiffany Kagure Mugo | Speaker | TED.com
Siphumeze Khundayi - Photographer, theatre-maker, performer
Siphumeze Khundayi is founder and artistic director of HOLAAfrica, sparking conversations about sex and sexuality.
Why you should listen
Siphumeze Khundayi has found art to be a great tool for her to explore and express who she is. So she makes art about the experiences of African women and their sexuality. When she is not creating and performing, she is founder and Artistic Director of HOLAAfrica, where she gets to facilitate dialogues and make sure the site is looking pretty while annoying the curator for taking ages to reply to emails. She also dedicates her life to floating through the world having conversations with the universe, struggling through yoga poses, meditating, blowing bubbles and playing Candy Crush.
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