Glen Henry: What I've learned about parenting as a stay-at-home dad
Glen Henry: Mit tanultam háztartásbeli apukaként a szülőségről?
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my superpowers through fatherhood.
ever worked a job they hated.
ever worked a job they hated?
I don't want you guys to judge me.
is it a safe space?
the job I hated,
a visszapillantó tükröt bámulva,
looking in the rearview mirror,
which friend I could call
barátomat kérhetem meg,
back in the building.
a lot of issues for me,
the same question.
anyone could ask you.
felejteni azt a helyet.
to think about that place again.
40 percent of my income on childcare.
with our second child.
how we were going to fix this whole thing
a great stay-at-home dad."
something like that?"
looks like, coming from a father."
of stay-at-home dads before
apukát láttam korábban.
so get this, I said this --
do all day, anyway?"
csinálnak egész nap?" – kérdeztem.
only a woman full of knowledge can smile
ahogy csak okos nő mosolyoghat.
should be easy for you.
it seems like a no-brainer."
(Nevetés)
for about a week.
looking into the mirror
was banging on the bathroom door --
püfölte a fürdő ajtaját,
crying, tears running down his face.
pedig a bölcsőben sírt.
in the mirror, and I said ...
to call in a bomb threat?
for my children.
about being a stay-at-home parent,
de valójában semmit sem.
were a lot cuter than my manager,
about being a stay-at-home parent --
a háztartásbeli feladatokról,
was feed them,
csak meg kell őket etetnem,
keep them distracted,
milk in a bottle, they'd be fine.
egy üveg tej, és elvannak.
just a little bit of mischief.
where did it --
Child 2: No, you did it!
2. gyerek: Nem, te voltál!
Child 2: No, you did it!
2. gyerek: Nem, te voltál!
about being a stay-at-home parent?
az otthoni teendőkről?
was take them to the park once a week,
once a week, they'd be fine.
then that means they get dirty every day.
és fürdetni kell őket.
they need baths every day,
having two kids under two,
over 20 dirty diapers a day, OK.
that's just more nakedness.
of getting peed on,
even if it's from a baby.
akkor sem, ha kisgyerek teszi.
detergent companies, Omo and Persil.
mosószergyártók felméréséről,
that at two hours a day,
outside time than children.
a szabadban, mint a gyerekek.
és vittem is őket a szabadba.
sem volt eleinte erről,
about being a stay-at-home parent,
that I knew nothing,
you get no sleep.
you get no sleep.
because if you sleep when they do,
as a stay-at-home parent?
legjobb módja,
to teach kids right from wrong
they understood right from wrong,
mi helyes és mi nem.
that would teach them.
my children right from wrong
and make connections
a YouTube csatornámon
are coming from my YouTube channel,
of being a stay-at-home dad.
érő viszontagságokat.
it's just showing that I'm trying.
csak próbálkozom.
for whoever else is doing this.
about being a stay-at-home parent?
szeretetre vágynak,
what love looked like.
diapers on your head
until the kids fall asleep
what's the hardest thing,
about being stay-at-home parents,
was one of those things.
alkalmatlannak érzik magukat,
feeling inadequate,
is cool the first couple of times,
egy barija elsőre oké,
just ain't make herself a wool skirt
csinál inkább magának Mari
you know what I'm saying?
báránycombot?
was the emotional fatigue.
so I'd write songs for other artists.
you become emotionally tired.
lenni érzelmileg kimerítő.
comes from your emotions,
time like to cook,
idő a szabadban, főzéshez.
as a stay-at-home parent.
of mine, he said,
hanging outside the drawers,
dinner ready when I get home, right?"
várjon, mire hazaérek?"
you know what I'm saying?
what you're talking about."
miről beszélsz" – mondtam.
tired from the night before,
dropping this kid off at school,
for an hour with your mom
all day, that's hard."
ami nem könnyű.
for stay-at-home parents.
standing in their shoes.
in someone else's shoes,
from a different perspective.
it feels like baby steps, wobbling.
for the next generation to walk in.
on a certain path, as parents.
is one of the biggest foundations
out of the way, and these thorns,
elhúzzuk az útból,
coming after us.
has a lot more to do with landscaping.
is to show up for class.
as a stay-at-home dad.
from tour one day.
was supposed to pursue the child.
hajtanom kell a gyereket.
makes himself present.
ha egyszerűen csak jelen vagyok,
my friends, is everything.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Glen Henry - Visual storytellerGlen "Beleaf" Henry is a father documenting all the mistakes and joys of parenting.
Why you should listen
Striving to strengthen families before they start, Glen "Beleaf" Henry is giving a tangible look at the often closed off life of black families. Usually sipping toddler tears and hooking his children up to lie detector tests, his antics are hilariously heartwarming and providing value to many people that call the internet their safe space.
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