Christina Wallace: How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps
Kristina Volas (Christina Wallace): Kako da prestanete da listate i nađete pravu osobu na aplikacijama za upoznavanje
A self-described "human Venn diagram," Christina Wallace has crafted a career at the intersection of business, the arts and technology. Full bio
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my freshman year of college,
na svojoj prvog godini fakulteta,
in case you can't see my wrinkle.
da ne vidite moju boru.
ja sam visoka 183 cm,
I'm six-feet tall,
odabrani univerzitet
basketball team averaged five-foot-eight,
u proseku visok oko 173cm,
scene and went online.
i prešla na internet.
was pretty close to the plot
je prilično ličilo na zaplet filma
back and forth for weeks,
duge imejlove nedeljama,
you'd realize you have no chemistry
shvatite da nema hemije
mnogo promenilo u poslednjih 17 godina,
has changed a lot in the last 17 years,
ljudi za sastanak
and professional circles.
i profesionalnih krugova.
math and theater nerd,
za matematiku i pozorište
I tend to take a step back,
to figure out why, and to fix it.
da utvrdim zašto i pokušam to da popravim.
I took myself on a relationship off-site.
odlučila sam da se sklonim od sastanaka.
na sedam dana da kampujem,
in Maine for a week,
of mediocre relationships.
prethodnim osrednjim vezama.
I knew what I wanted in a partner.
šta tražim u partneru.
a sense of purpose.
empatiju, osećaj svrhe.
visina 183 cm ili više,
metroom od mene.
prioritized those things,
to postavljala kao prioritet,
za odluku na mreži.
looked great on paper
deluju odlično na papiru
in the spring of 2016,
na mreže u proleće 2016,
through some classic business tools.
pomoću nekih klasičnih alata poslovanja.
the gamification of swipe-based apps.
aplikacija na prevlačenje.
a writing sample.
that would qualify a lead.
koji će odrediti dobre kandidate.
da obavlja tri stvari:
and with good grammar;
i gramatički ispravno;
something in my profile,
a copy-and-paste situation;
o situaciji kopiraj i nalepi;
niski kriterijumi,
of my 210 inbound messages,
da je od 210 dolaznih poruka
as quickly as possible,
da se što pre upoznamo u realnosti,
I couldn't see online.
ono do čega mi je stalo.
pokazuju da vam je potrebno
with someone to tell if you click.
da vidite da li se slažete.
dinner with this person?
three hours across the table
tri sata za stolom sa ovom osobom?"
a conference call with China --
konferencijski poziv sa Kinezima -
you schedule a first date.
you downshift into entertainer mode
for your next networking event.
za neku sledeću zabavu.
you can squeeze up to three in one evening
možete uglaviti do tri sastanka na veče
and pick out one great outfit a week.
garderobu samo jednom nedeljno.
to see how they responded
da vidim kako oni odgovaraju
would dig my moxie, and I was right.
moja hrabrost i bila sam u pravu.
only 15 replied to my message,
samo je 15 odgovorilo na moju poruku
nulti sastanak.
was with a set designer.
bio je sa jednim scenografom.
with peanut butter,
sa puterom od kikirikija,
it wasn't going to be a thing
videla sam da to neće ići
spending dinner with him.
about going to my next zero date.
oko odlaska na sledeći nulti sastanak.
on the Brooklyn Heights Promenade
na šetalištu u Bruklin Hajtsu
to watch the sunset,
i gledamo zalazak sunca,
from my apartment.
dva bloka od mog stana.
I have a podcast,
ja imam podkast,
we can talk about our podcasts.
možemo pričati o našim podkastima.
and asked even better questions.
i postavljao još bolja pitanja.
and his eyes twinkled when he laughed
i oči su mu sijale kad se smejao
our zero date became a first date.
naš nulti sastanak postao je prvi.
dryer and two house plants together.
za pranje i sušenje i dve kućne biljke.
you're going to end up with house plants.
da ćete završiti sa kućnim biljkama.
doesn't have to suck.
ne mora da bude bedak.
and don't treat it like a resume review.
ali ni kao čitanje biografije.
and qualify leads
da pronađete i kvalifikujete kandidate
as possible with the zero date.
što pre, na nulti sastanak.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Christina Wallace - Entrepreneur, podcaster, storytellerA self-described "human Venn diagram," Christina Wallace has crafted a career at the intersection of business, the arts and technology.
Why you should listen
Christina Wallace is currently the VP of Growth at Bionic, co-host of The Limit Does Not Exist podcast and co-author of upcoming business book New-to-Big, which will be published by Currency (Penguin Random House) in Spring 2019.
Wallace previously founded fashion company Quincy and ed-tech startup BridgeUp: STEM inside the American Museum of Natural History, and she opened the New York office for Startup Institute. Mashable named her one of "44 Female Founders to Know" and Refinery29 declared her one of the "Most Powerful Women in NYC Tech."
In her free time, Wallace sings in a community choir, climbs mountains, runs half (and some full) marathons and volunteers for progressive political causes. She lives with her fiancé and their two houseplants in Brooklyn, New York.
Watch Wallace's TEDxSanAntonio 2016 talk here.
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