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Mike Kinney: A pro wrestler's guide to confidence
麦克·金尼: 职业摔跤手的信心指南
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前职业摔跤手麦克·金尼认为“你比自己想象得更强大”——你只要找到自身的特点然后发扬光大。多年来，金尼发掘自身特质并创造出一个完美的摔跤人物，牛仔“鳄鱼”麦格劳。在这场有趣睿智的谈话中，他将擂台的智慧运用到日常生活中，向我们分享如何更自信地生活以及如何发挥潜能。
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00:13
Picture it: a big, sweaty, tattooed man
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想象一下，
一个有刺青、满身大汗的壮汉，
一个有刺青、满身大汗的壮汉，
戴着一顶牛仔帽，穿着一条皮裤，
00:16
in a cowboy hat and chaps,
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00:18
is in the ring
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站在擂台上，
赛场上充满了粉丝的欢呼。
00:19
as the arena full of fans cheer him on.
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他们的英雄：
00:21
Their hero:
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00:23
"Cowboy" Gator Magraw.
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“牛仔”——鳄鱼麦格劳。
00:25
Gator bounces off the ropes
and is quickly body-slammed to the mat.
and is quickly body-slammed to the mat.
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盖特从绳子上跳下，
然后快速地摔在垫子上。
然后快速地摔在垫子上。
他狂野的对手一跃而起，
00:29
His wild opponent leaps into the air,
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撞向盖特的肋骨。
00:31
crashing down onto Gator's rib cage.
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00:34
Gator struggles to breathe, wondering:
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盖特挣扎着呼吸，然后想：
00:37
"Is this really what my father
wanted for me?"
wanted for me?"
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“这真的是我父亲想要我做的吗？”
00:39
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
00:41
That wild man in the chaps ...
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那个穿着皮裤的狂野男人……
00:44
was me.
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是我。
00:45
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
00:47
(Applause)
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（掌声）
00:48
(Cheers)
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（欢呼）
出乎意料地，刚刚那个答案，
00:57
And the answer
to the question, surprisingly,
to the question, surprisingly,
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是肯定的。
01:00
is yes.
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（笑声）
01:01
(Laughter)
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01:03
I grew up watching professional wrestling
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我是和我父亲一起看着职业摔跤比赛
长大的。
01:05
with my dad.
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01:07
And like him, I loved everything about it:
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和他一样，我钟爱摔跤的一切：
表现力，运动技巧，
01:09
the showmanship, the athletic skill,
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紧张刺激的比赛气氛。
01:11
the drama.
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我还是小男孩时，就喜欢
在客厅里蹦来蹦去，
在客厅里蹦来蹦去，
01:13
I'd be this little boy, bouncing
all over our living room,
all over our living room,
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假装我是自己最喜欢的摔跤手。
01:16
pretending to be my favorite
wrestlers from TV.
wrestlers from TV.
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01:19
My dad actually reminded me
a little bit of Hulk Hogan,
a little bit of Hulk Hogan,
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我父亲有点儿像浩克霍根
但我是浩克霍根，他是巨人安德烈。
01:22
but I was Hulk Hogan
and he was Andre the Giant.
and he was Andre the Giant.
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我会认真地对他说，
01:24
I'd get all serious on him
and say things like, "Dad ...
and say things like, "Dad ...
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“爸爸，总有一天
我会成为世界重量级冠军。”
我会成为世界重量级冠军。”
01:27
someday I am going to be
world heavyweight champion."
world heavyweight champion."
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01:32
And he would usually smile
and very calmly say,
and very calmly say,
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他通常会微笑然后平静地说，
“好啊，那我退休后
就靠你赚钱养我了。”
就靠你赚钱养我了。”
01:36
"OK, then I guess I can count on you
to be my retirement fund."
to be my retirement fund."
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（笑声）
01:40
(Laughter)
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16岁那年，
01:42
When I was 16,
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在明尼苏达州，家乡小镇上
迎来了一场小型摔跤秀。
迎来了一场小型摔跤秀。
01:43
a small wrestling show came
to my little town in Minnesota.
to my little town in Minnesota.
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我简直不敢相信。
01:46
I couldn't believe it.
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那样的事情在之前从未发生过。
01:47
Nothing like that had ever
come to my town before.
come to my town before.
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表演当天的清晨我就到了竞技场，
01:49
So I got to the arena
early in the morning the day of the show,
early in the morning the day of the show,
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在停车场外等着，
看能否发现一些摔跤手
看能否发现一些摔跤手
01:52
waiting out in the parking lot
to see if I could spot some wrestlers
to see if I could spot some wrestlers
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来停车场停车。
01:56
pulling up in their cars.
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01:58
It wasn't as creepy as it sounds.
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实际上没有听起来的这么怪异。
02:01
But I could definitely tell
who the wrestlers were,
who the wrestlers were,
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但我可以认出谁是摔跤手，
看看他们走路的方式就知道了。
02:03
just the way they walked.
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他们高大自信，气场强大，
02:04
They were tall and confident
and intimidating,
and intimidating,
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穿着背心和花裤子，还戴着腰包。
02:07
with their tank tops
and Zubaz and fanny packs.
and Zubaz and fanny packs.
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02:10
Why wouldn't I want to be them?
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我难道不想成为他们的一员吗？
（笑声）
02:12
(Laughter)
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我想，这些人是谁呢？
02:13
All I could think about
was who are these people,
was who are these people,
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他们是什么样的人？
02:16
and what are they like?
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他们是如何成为摔跤手的？
02:17
How did they become wrestlers?
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所以在表演开始前，
02:20
So before the show started,
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我走进这个小型竞技场——
02:21
I walked into this tiny arena --
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更像是一个体育馆——
02:24
more like a gymnasium --
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我问他们我可以帮忙搭建擂台吗。
02:25
and I asked them if I could help
set up the wrestling ring.
set up the wrestling ring.
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“当然了孩子，没问题。”
02:28
"Sure, kid. No problem."
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02:31
And then I pleaded with them
to show me some wrestling moves.
to show me some wrestling moves.
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然后我请求他们
向我展示一些摔跤动作，
向我展示一些摔跤动作，
“当然了孩子，没问题。”
02:34
"Sure, kid. No problem."
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02:37
Man, they would just punch
and kick me -- hard!
and kick me -- hard!
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他们用拳击打我然后猛踢我，
但我没有抱怨。
02:39
But I never complained.
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那一年每隔几个月，
他们就会到我们小镇住一晚，
他们就会到我们小镇住一晚，
02:41
They would come to my town for one night
every couple of months that year,
every couple of months that year,
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然后第二天就离开了。
02:45
and then -- poof! --
next day, they were gone.
next day, they were gone.
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第二年的时候，
02:47
By the next year,
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他们终于告诉我，
一个真正的摔跤训练营
一个真正的摔跤训练营
02:48
they finally told me about an actual
wrestling training camp
wrestling training camp
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是其中一个摔跤手开的。
02:51
that one of the wrestlers was running,
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我求父母让我报名，
02:53
and I begged my parents to sign me up.
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然后我就白天去读高三，
02:55
Next thing I knew,
I was a high school senior by day
I was a high school senior by day
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晚上在观众面前摔跤。
02:58
and wrestling in front of live
audiences by night.
audiences by night.
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03:01
I had this giant poster of an alligator
hanging on my bedroom wall.
hanging on my bedroom wall.
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我卧室墙壁上贴了一张
短吻鳄的巨型海报，
短吻鳄的巨型海报，
所以当我急着
想出一个摔跤名时，
想出一个摔跤名时，
03:04
So when I needed to come up with
a wrestling name at the last minute
a wrestling name at the last minute
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而“肌体”杰西·范图拉已经被占用了——
03:08
and Jesse "The Body" Ventura
was already taken --
was already taken --
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（笑声）
03:10
(Laughter)
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我选择了“鳄鱼”。
03:11
I went with "Gator."
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我穿着T恤和迷彩裤摔跤
03:12
I also wrestled in a t-shirt
and camouflage pants
and camouflage pants
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因为我的衣橱里只有这些，
03:15
because that's what I had in my closet.
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03:18
I hadn't quite figured out
how to develop my own persona yet,
how to develop my own persona yet,
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我还没想好如何
发展自己的风格，
发展自己的风格，
但我在学习。
03:21
but I was learning.
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我那时有点儿像学徒，
03:22
It was sort of like an apprenticeship.
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但我是一个摔跤手。
03:24
But I was a wrestler.
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我的每场比赛父亲都会来，
03:25
And my dad would come to all my matches
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穿着一件胸前印着
“鳄鱼爸爸”的T恤。
“鳄鱼爸爸”的T恤。
03:27
wearing a t-shirt that said,
"Papa Gator" across the front.
"Papa Gator" across the front.
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（笑声）
03:30
(Laughter)
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他会和他的朋友吹牛，
03:31
And he'd brag to his friends
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说我以后会为他养老。
03:33
about how his son was going to pay
for his retirement someday.
for his retirement someday.
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（笑声）
03:36
(Laughter)
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我本可以的。
03:37
And I would've.
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03:39
Not long after I started wrestling,
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但我开始摔跤后的不久，
父亲意外去世了。
03:41
my dad unexpectedly passed away.
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03:46
And as you can imagine,
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你们可以想象，
我当时还是个青涩少年，
03:48
especially as a teenage boy,
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丧父之痛击垮了我。
03:50
it destroyed me.
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如果你们曾经失去过亲人，
03:54
If you've ever lost someone,
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就会知道那段时间有多难。
03:56
you know what a difficult
time that can be.
time that can be.
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你的大脑无法正常运转，
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Your mind -- it's not working right.
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整件事都是离奇的。
04:01
The whole thing is just so surreal.
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我想回归正常生活，
哪怕只有一秒钟，
哪怕只有一秒钟，
04:05
I wanted to feel normal again,
even if it was for just a second,
even if it was for just a second,
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所以我几乎是立刻重返擂台。
04:08
so I went back to wrestling
almost immediately.
almost immediately.
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04:11
Wrestling belonged to me
and my dad, you know?
and my dad, you know?
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你们知道吗？
摔跤属于我和我父亲。
摔跤属于我和我父亲。
所以我回到那里，
04:15
So there I was,
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坐在更衣室里准备比赛，
04:16
sitting in the locker room,
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而我父亲才去世没几天。
04:18
getting ready for a match within days
of my dad passing away.
of my dad passing away.
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04:22
He was gone.
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他过世了。
04:24
And sitting there alone --
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我一个人坐在那儿，
04:27
it felt like I was hiding.
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好像在逃避什么，
04:29
But it also felt like
I needed to be there.
I needed to be there.
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但我又感觉应该在那儿。
04:33
One of the wrestlers who'd been
on the scene a long time
on the scene a long time
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一个久经赛场的摔跤手
知道了我的遭遇，
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knew what I was going through,
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便来看看我是否还好。
04:37
and he came over to see
how I was holding up.
how I was holding up.
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我说不出话，
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I couldn't get the words out.
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只说“我不知道我在做什么。”
04:41
I just said, "I don't know
what I'm doing."
what I'm doing."
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04:45
And then we just sat there in silence --
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然后我们就静静地坐在那里，
相对无言。
04:47
just ... silence.
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在准备起身去比赛之前，
04:51
Before he got up to get ready
for his own match,
for his own match,
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他给了我一条建议，
04:53
he gave me this piece of advice
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完全改变了我的人生方向：
04:54
that would change the entire
direction of my life.
direction of my life.
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他说最好的摔跤手展现真我。
04:57
He told me the best wrestlers
are just themselves, but "turned up."
are just themselves, but "turned up."
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05:03
He said successful wrestlers
find the traits within themselves
find the traits within themselves
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成功的摔跤手能发掘自身
最强的特质，
05:06
they're the strongest at
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并使他们成为擂台的焦点。
05:07
and make those the focus
of who they become in the ring.
of who they become in the ring.
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05:11
So there I sat --
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我坐在那儿，
一个彷徨的青年，
迷失了自我，
迷失了自我，
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a scared teenager
who didn't know who he was
who didn't know who he was
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忘记了摔跤的意义。
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or why he was even wrestling anymore.
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05:18
I looked around the locker room
at some of the other wrestlers,
at some of the other wrestlers,
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我环顾着更衣室的其它摔跤手，
然后想，
“我看上去像个异类
我怎么做才能像他们一样？”
我怎么做才能像他们一样？”
05:21
and I thought,
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05:22
"I look so different.
How can I ever be like them?"
How can I ever be like them?"
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05:25
And then it hit me.
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然后我突然想到。
05:27
That's the moment I realized
I didn't have to be like them.
I didn't have to be like them.
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那一刻我意识到我没必要成为他们。
05:31
What I did have to do was find out:
What did it mean to be me?
What did it mean to be me?
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我只需要知道
做我自己意味着什么，
做我自己意味着什么，
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What made me unique,
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是什么使我与众不同，
我如何让我的特质成为我的优势。
05:36
and how could I use it to my advantage?
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05:39
I knew I wasn't a chiseled athlete
like some of these guys,
like some of these guys,
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我知道自己不像其他运动员
那样肌肉健硕，
那样肌肉健硕，
但我也不在乎这个。
05:41
but I really didn't care.
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我想到的第一件事是，
05:43
So the first thing I thought was,
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“我如何加强一些简单的事物
比如令我的身体舒适？”
比如令我的身体舒适？”
05:44
"How can I amplify something as simple
as: comfortable with my own body?"
as: comfortable with my own body?"
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05:49
I didn't know.
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我不知道。
05:51
And then I thought:
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然后我想到：
泳裤。
05:53
Speedo.
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（笑声）
05:54
(Laughter)
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05:57
(Applause)
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（掌声）
或者“紧身短裤”，
06:04
Or "trunks,"
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我们在摔跤中这么称呼它们。
06:05
as we call them in wrestling.
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06:07
Yeah, trunks.
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紧身短裤，
我可能是这个大家伙，
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I could be this big guy
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舒服地穿着这一小条紧身短裤
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who was comfortable
wearing these little trunks
wearing these little trunks
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在一群陌生人面前。
06:12
in front of a bunch of strangers.
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所以我放弃了T恤和迷彩裤。
06:14
So I ditched the t-shirt
and camouflage pants,
and camouflage pants,
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于是鳄鱼的新衣橱诞生了。
06:16
and Gator's new wardrobe was born.
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（笑声）
06:18
(Laughter)
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我擅长画卡通画，
06:19
I was also pretty good
at drawing cartoons,
at drawing cartoons,
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我想我能否把这点展现出来。
06:21
so I wondered if I could turn that up.
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06:23
I could design my own wrestling costumes,
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我可以设计自己的摔跤服，
这样每条短裤上
都会有独特的设计和颜色。
都会有独特的设计和颜色。
06:26
so each pair of trunks would have
its own unique design and color,
its own unique design and color,
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每条都不一样——
06:29
all of them completely different --
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同时非常舒适。
06:31
and extremely comfortable, by the way.
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（笑声）
06:33
(Laughter)
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我在学校也很有趣，
06:35
And I was also the funny kid in school,
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信不信由你们。
06:37
believe it or not.
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06:39
So I thought maybe I could turn that up.
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我想也许我可以把这一点展现出来。
06:41
Maybe I could go from the boy
who made his buddies laugh
who made his buddies laugh
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或许我能从一个令人发笑的男孩，
变成能振奋上万人的人。
06:45
to the man who could rally
hundreds or thousands.
hundreds or thousands.
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所以我坚定了这个想法，
06:48
So I committed to the idea
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我没必要令人胆寒，
像某些选手那样。
像某些选手那样。
06:50
that my character wasn't going to be
as scary as some of the others.
as scary as some of the others.
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我以搞笑的方式走入竞技场。
06:53
I'd be hilarious from the moment
I walked into the arena.
I walked into the arena.
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经历了更多的摔跤赛，
我更加了解自己。
我更加了解自己。
06:56
With every wrestling match, I dug deeper.
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06:59
I found out that I could laugh at myself.
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我发现我可以自嘲，
在出场音乐响起时可以载歌载舞，
07:01
So this guy would dance
and sing his entrance music
and sing his entrance music
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一路来到擂台，
07:03
all the way to the ring.
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顺便说一下，那是跳舞。
07:05
That was dancing, by the way.
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（笑声）
07:06
(Laughter)
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我发现我是一个还不错的摔跤手，
07:08
I found out that I was an OK wrestler,
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但更是一个搞笑的人。
07:09
but I was an even better entertainer.
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展现自我使我的粉丝对我印象深刻。
07:11
And turning myself up made me
unforgettable to the fans.
unforgettable to the fans.
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我尝试着去发掘自我——
07:14
I was trying to find
those things about me --
those things about me --
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那些简单的特质，
07:17
the simple things that were special,
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然后问自己，
我可以把它们展现出来吗？
我可以把它们展现出来吗？
07:18
and then ask, "How can I turn them up?"
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07:21
Now, I knew I wanted my character
to be a man's man like my dad was.
to be a man's man like my dad was.
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如今我明白 ，我想成为
像父亲一样的男中豪杰。
像父亲一样的男中豪杰。
我想 ，“要做一个男中豪杰，
比牛仔更重要的是什么？”
比牛仔更重要的是什么？”
07:25
I thought, "What's more
of a man's man than a cowboy?"
of a man's man than a cowboy?"
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07:30
And that's when Gator became
"Cowboy" ... Gator ...
"Cowboy" ... Gator ...
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那是鳄鱼成为“牛仔”的时候。
07:35
Yeah, I needed a last name.
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是的，我需要一个姓。
07:37
I thought about it until my head hurt.
I couldn't come up with anything.
I couldn't come up with anything.
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我想到头疼也想不出结果。
有一天晚上我坐着
看电视，切换着频道，
看电视，切换着频道，
07:41
I'm sitting there watching TV one night,
flipping through the channels,
flipping through the channels,
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看到了一则广告，
关于一个刚刚赢得
年度最佳艺人奖的乡村歌手。
年度最佳艺人奖的乡村歌手。
07:44
and this commercial comes on
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07:45
about a country singer who had just won
an Entertainer of the Year award.
an Entertainer of the Year award.
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蒂姆·麦格罗。
他是一个有着
很棒姓氏的帅气牛仔，
很棒姓氏的帅气牛仔，
07:49
Tim McGraw.
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07:50
He's a cool cowboy with a great last name.
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我喜欢他的歌。
07:52
And I liked his music.
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07:53
It was just all part of my process.
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这是我经历的所有内容。
我不断展现自我，
07:55
But I just kept turning myself up
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直到我成为了牛仔“鳄鱼”麦格劳。
07:57
until I became Cowboy Gator Magraw!
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08:02
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
08:04
(Applause)
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（掌声）
我知道如果我不断展现自我，
08:10
And I knew that if I kept
turning myself up
turning myself up
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不断自我鞭策，
08:13
and pushing myself harder,
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机会自会降临，
08:15
the opportunities would come.
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08:17
And then it finally happened.
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结果确实如此。
08:20
In the middle of the night,
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一天午夜，
我接到一个电话。
08:21
I got a phone call.
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08:24
It was the call I wish
my dad was around to hear.
my dad was around to hear.
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一个我希望父亲能听到的电话。
08:28
The WWE,
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WWE，
世界上最大的摔跤组织，
08:30
the biggest wrestling
organization in the world,
organization in the world,
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邀请我周一晚上出演。
08:32
wanted me to come and be a part
of Monday Night Raw.
of Monday Night Raw.
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是的——我的所有努力终于有所回报。
08:36
Yes -- all of my hard work and miles
on the road were finally paying off.
on the road were finally paying off.
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08:42
I got to walk down the WWE Raw
entrance ramp on live television --
entrance ramp on live television --
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我从 WWE 的入口匝道
走到电视直播的舞台上——
走到电视直播的舞台上——
（笑声）
08:47
(Laughter)
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08:49
dressed up as a fake security guard --
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装扮成一名保安——
（笑声）
08:51
(Laughter)
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护送另一位摔跤手到擂台上。
08:52
to escort another wrestler to the ring.
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（笑声）
08:54
(Laughter)
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08:57
Sure, I was disappointed
I didn't get to wrestle,
I didn't get to wrestle,
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当然 ，我为自己没能登台感到失望，
但是鲜有摔跤手得到 WWE 的邀请，
08:59
but very few wrestlers get
any kind of call from the WWE.
any kind of call from the WWE.
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大概几百人中才有一个。
09:02
Maybe one in a few hundred.
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09:05
And becoming Cowboy Gator Magraw
is what got me there.
is what got me there.
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而我来到 WWE， 就是因为
牛仔“鳄鱼”麦格劳。
牛仔“鳄鱼”麦格劳。
09:08
So instead of walking away that day,
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所以那天我没有选择离开，
而是选择展现自我，
09:11
I decided to turn myself up again
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尽最大的努力
当好一个安保人员。
当好一个安保人员。
09:13
and become the best
security guard I could.
security guard I could.
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09:16
In fact, I did it so well,
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事实上我做到了，
我是那天唯一一个
获得特写镜头的保安。
获得特写镜头的保安。
09:17
I was the only guard to get
a close-up on TV that night.
a close-up on TV that night.
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09:21
That's a big deal, you know?
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那也很了不起了，好吗？
（笑声）
09:23
(Laughter)
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09:26
And I got to sit backstage that entire day
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那一整天我坐在后台，
身边是一些世界顶级摔跤手，
09:28
with some of the most famous
pro wrestlers in the world,
pro wrestlers in the world,
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有的是我童年的偶像，
09:31
some of which were heroes
of mine as a kid.
of mine as a kid.
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我有机会听取他们的建议并学习。
09:33
And I got to listen to them
and learn from them,
and learn from them,
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那天，
09:36
and for that day,
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我和他们打成一片。
09:38
I was accepted as one of them.
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09:41
Maybe my experience
with the WWE wasn't ideal.
with the WWE wasn't ideal.
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也许我的 WWE 经历不是那么美好，
09:44
I mean, I didn't get to wrestle.
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我的意思是我没有登上擂台，
09:46
But it made me work harder,
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但那使我更努力地工作。
09:49
turning myself up louder year after year.
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年复一年，我愈发强大，
09:52
I was becoming the biggest
version of myself in the ring,
version of myself in the ring,
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我在擂台上的表现胜过以往，
09:55
and other people took notice.
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而且其他人注意到了。
09:57
Before I knew it,
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在我意识到之前，
我从明尼苏达每月一次的摔跤，
09:58
I'd gone from wrestling
maybe once a month in Minnesota
maybe once a month in Minnesota
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10:01
to as often as four times a week
all over the United States
all over the United States
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进展到在全美范围内每周四次
10:04
on the independent wrestling circuit.
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在独立摔跤巡回中比赛。
10:06
I was literally living my dream.
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我在实现我的梦想。
10:11
While wrestling over the next few years,
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在经历了几年的摔跤生涯之后，
我肩膀受了很严重的伤。
10:13
I suffered a pretty bad shoulder injury
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那时我和妻子，
10:15
right around the same time
my wife and I found out
my wife and I found out
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正好迎来了我们第一个孩子。
10:17
that we were expecting our first child.
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我知道你们在想什么，
10:19
I know what you're thinking,
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但是这两件事没有关联。
10:20
but believe me when I say
those two events are completely unrelated.
those two events are completely unrelated.
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（笑声）
10:24
(Laughter)
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10:30
But I needed shoulder surgery,
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我需要进行肩部手术，
10:33
and I wanted to be home with my family.
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我想回家和家人待在一起。
10:35
It was my turn to be a dad.
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现在轮到我当父亲了。
10:38
So on July 27, 2007,
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于是2007年7月27日，
10:41
I wrestled my final match,
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我最后一次比赛，
然后退役，
10:43
and walked away
from professional wrestling
from professional wrestling
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开启了人生的下一个篇章。
10:45
to pursue the next chapter of my life.
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10:48
And as time passed,
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随着时光的流逝，
最奇异的事情发生了。
10:49
the strangest thing started to happen.
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10:51
I found out that once someone
has been turned up,
has been turned up,
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我发现人的开关一旦被打开后，
就很难再被关上。
10:54
it's pretty hard to turn them down.
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10:57
I left the ring but Gator stayed with me,
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虽然我离开了擂台，
但是“鳄鱼”与我同在，
但是“鳄鱼”与我同在，
我将自我展现运用到日常生活中去。
10:59
and I use the turned-up version
of myself every day.
of myself every day.
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11:02
My beautiful wife has been with me
through this entire journey.
through this entire journey.
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这个过程中我的娇妻一直陪伴着我，
尽管她不喜欢职业摔跤手，
11:05
And by the way --
she does not like pro wrestling.
she does not like pro wrestling.
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（笑声）
11:09
(Laughter)
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一点也不。
11:10
Like, at all.
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11:12
But she was always my biggest fan.
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但她是我的头号粉丝，
现在也是。
11:14
She still is.
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11:16
She knows there's always going to be
some part of Gator Magraw in here,
some part of Gator Magraw in here,
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她知道鳄鱼麦格劳不会消失，
她希望我们的女儿和双胞胎儿子
也能发现自我，
也能发现自我，
11:20
and she wants our daughter and twin sons
to discover themselves
to discover themselves
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就像我一样，
11:23
the way that I did,
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但是少挨几次泰山压顶
或者钢椅砸头。
或者钢椅砸头。
11:24
but probably with fewer body slams
and steel chair shots to the head.
and steel chair shots to the head.
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你们知道有多少次
她不得不提醒我
她不得不提醒我
11:27
I mean, do you know how many times
she's had to remind me
she's had to remind me
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不要在孩子的足球比赛上
对裁判动粗？
对裁判动粗？
11:30
not to clothesline the referees
at my kid's soccer games?
at my kid's soccer games?
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（笑声）
11:33
(Laughter)
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其实只有过一次，
11:34
I mean, it was just the one time,
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但那是有人对我女儿恶意犯规！
11:35
and my daughter was clearly fouled!
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（笑声）
11:37
(Laughter)
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11:40
As a parent now, I've begun to realize
that my dad wanted something
that my dad wanted something
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如今作为一位父亲，
我逐渐明白我父亲想要的
我逐渐明白我父亲想要的
远不是退休金。
11:43
much more valuable than a retirement fund.
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就像大部分的父母一样，
11:46
Like most parents,
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他只希望我能发挥最大的潜能。
11:47
he just wanted his kids
to reach their fullest potential.
to reach their fullest potential.
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11:50
I'm trying to teach my children
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我想告诉我的孩子们，
展现自我不仅是
成就伟大的秘诀，
成就伟大的秘诀，
11:52
that turning yourself up is just not some
perfect idea of how to be great,
perfect idea of how to be great,
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更是一种生活方式。
11:56
it's a way of living --
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时刻发掘你的特质，
11:57
constantly looking
for what makes you different
for what makes you different
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并发扬光大，让世人看到。
12:00
and how you can amplify it
for the world to see.
for the world to see.
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12:02
And by the way, my kids
don't like wrestling, either.
don't like wrestling, either.
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顺便提一句，我的孩子们
也不喜欢摔跤。
也不喜欢摔跤。
（笑声）
12:05
(Laughter)
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但我觉得没什么问题，
12:06
But that's OK with me,
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因为他们有自己的特质，
12:08
because they each have their own
unique talents that can be turned up
unique talents that can be turned up
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就像我们所有人一样。
12:11
just like the rest of us.
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我的一个儿子热爱电子元件，
12:12
My one son -- he's a whiz at electronics.
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也许帮助他展现自我，
可以成就下一个史蒂夫·乔布斯。
可以成就下一个史蒂夫·乔布斯。
12:15
So maybe helping him turn up
makes him become the next Steve Jobs.
makes him become the next Steve Jobs.
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12:20
My other son and my daughter --
they're great at art,
they're great at art,
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另一个儿子还有我的女儿
他们擅长艺术，
他们擅长艺术，
也许帮助他们提升才能，
12:22
so maybe helping them turn up their gifts
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可以成就下一个毕加索。
12:24
helps them become the next Pablo Picasso.
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12:28
You never know what
you have the ability to do
you have the ability to do
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你永远不知道自己的潜力，
直到你去挖掘。
12:30
until you dig.
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12:32
And don't be afraid
to put yourself out there.
to put yourself out there.
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不要害怕那么做，
看看四周，
12:34
I mean, look around.
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有人说如果你在观众面前感到紧张，
12:36
They say that if you get nervous
in front of an audience,
in front of an audience,
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就想象他们只穿着内衣。
12:38
just imagine them in their underwear.
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但我转念一想，“嘿，
我摔跤的时候穿的更少。”
我摔跤的时候穿的更少。”
12:40
But then I think, "Hey,
I've wrestled in less."
I've wrestled in less."
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（笑声）
12:43
(Laughter)
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（掌声）
12:44
(Applause)
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12:53
Look, the wrestling circus doesn't need
to come to your town
to come to your town
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你看，你不需要等到
摔跤巡回来到你家镇上
摔跤巡回来到你家镇上
就能得到展现真我的机会。
12:56
before you get an invitation
to be the real you --
to be the real you --
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成为一个更强大，更耀眼的自己。
12:58
the bigger, more stunning
version of yourself.
version of yourself.
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13:01
It doesn't even necessarily
come from our parents.
come from our parents.
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它未必来自我们的父母。
13:03
Turning yourself up means looking inward
toward our true selves
toward our true selves
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发掘自我意味着你要找到真我，
然后对自己说，
13:07
and harnessing the voice that says,
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“或许，仅是或许，
13:08
"Maybe, just maybe,
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我比自己想象得更强大。”
13:11
I am more than I thought I was."
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13:13
Thank you.
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谢谢。
（掌声）
13:14
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Mike Kinney - Business development supervisorUPS's Mike Kinney plays a crucial role in helping customers reach their full potential.
Why you should listen
Mike Kinney is a UPS Business Development Supervisor. As an independent professional wrestler and promoter for ten years, starting at the age of 17, Mike Kinney developed a process to create a fictional character for the wrestling world. He discovered more about himself than he bargained for as he translated those lessons into his everyday life after leaving the ring.
Kinney earned his BA in English from Minnesota State University, Mankato and his MBA with the University of Phoenix. He is a veteran of the Army National Guard and began his UPS career in 2007.
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