Christina Wallace: How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps
Christina Wallace: Como encontrar a pessoa certa em aplicativos de encontros
A self-described "human Venn diagram," Christina Wallace has crafted a career at the intersection of business, the arts and technology. Full bio
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my freshman year of college,
no primeiro ano da faculdade
in case you can't see my wrinkle.
caso não percebam minha ruga.
I'm six-feet tall,
tenho 1,80 metros de altura
basketball team averaged five-foot-eight,
tinha em média 1,72 metros de altura,
scene and went online.
do campus e fui on-line.
was pretty close to the plot
era como o enredo do filme
back and forth for weeks,
you'd realize you have no chemistry
que não havia química
has changed a lot in the last 17 years,
ter mudado muito nos últimos 17 anos,
de possibilidades de encontros
and professional circles.
pessoal e profissional.
saber sobre mim:
math and theater nerd,
que acabou fazendo um MBA.
I tend to take a step back,
dou um passo para atrás,
to figure out why, and to fix it.
para saber o porquê e corrigi-lo.
I took myself on a relationship off-site.
me permiti um encontro ao ar livre.
em Maine por uma semana,
in Maine for a week,
of mediocre relationships.
dos meus relacionamentos medíocres.
I knew what I wanted in a partner.
a sense of purpose.
um senso de propósito.
1,80 de altura ou mais,
prioritized those things,
looked great on paper
in the spring of 2016,
na primavera de 2016,
through some classic business tools.
de ferramentas básicas de negócio.
the gamification of swipe-based apps.
baseados em escolha rápida.
a writing sample.
that would qualify a lead.
de gostos em comum.
tinha que ter três pontos:
and with good grammar;
e com boa gramática;
something in my profile,
para ver se não foi copiado e colado;
a copy-and-paste situation;
of my 210 inbound messages,
as quickly as possible,
na vida real o mais rápido possível,
I couldn't see online.
não dava para ver on-line.
with someone to tell if you click.
com alguém para saber se há química.
dinner with this person?
three hours across the table
à mesa com esta pessoa?"
que vai sair com as amigas,
a conference call with China --
não interessa, ela não te conhece!
you schedule a first date.
o primeiro encontro.
you downshift into entertainer mode
for your next networking event.
para seu próximo evento.
you can squeeze up to three in one evening
pode marcar três encontros numa tarde
and pick out one great outfit a week.
e uma roupa bacana uma vez na semana.
to see how they responded
de ver como eles respondiam
would dig my moxie, and I was right.
do meu tipo, e estava certa.
only 15 replied to my message,
was with a set designer.
e de bagels com pasta de amendoim,
with peanut butter,
it wasn't going to be a thing
vi que não daria certo
spending dinner with him.
about going to my next zero date.
para o meu segundo encontro.
no passeio público de Brooklyn Heights
on the Brooklyn Heights Promenade
to watch the sunset,
e ver o sol se pôr, e na boa,
from my apartment.
do meu apartamento.
I have a podcast,
eu também tenho um,
we can talk about our podcasts.
podíamos conversar sobre isso.
and asked even better questions.
and his eyes twinkled when he laughed
seus olhos brilhavam quando ria
our zero date became a first date.
encontro zero virou o primeiro encontro.
dryer and two house plants together.
uma lavadora, secadora e duas plantas.
you're going to end up with house plants.
que você terá plantas no fim.
doesn't have to suck.
não precisam ser ruins.
and don't treat it like a resume review.
ou uma revisão de currículo.
and qualify leads
para achar pontos em comum
as possible with the zero date.
com o encontro zero.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Christina Wallace - Entrepreneur, podcaster, storytellerA self-described "human Venn diagram," Christina Wallace has crafted a career at the intersection of business, the arts and technology.
Why you should listen
Christina Wallace is currently the VP of Growth at Bionic, co-host of The Limit Does Not Exist podcast and co-author of upcoming business book New-to-Big, which will be published by Currency (Penguin Random House) in Spring 2019.
Wallace previously founded fashion company Quincy and ed-tech startup BridgeUp: STEM inside the American Museum of Natural History, and she opened the New York office for Startup Institute. Mashable named her one of "44 Female Founders to Know" and Refinery29 declared her one of the "Most Powerful Women in NYC Tech."
In her free time, Wallace sings in a community choir, climbs mountains, runs half (and some full) marathons and volunteers for progressive political causes. She lives with her fiancé and their two houseplants in Brooklyn, New York.
Watch Wallace's TEDxSanAntonio 2016 talk here.
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