Christina Wallace: How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps
克莉絲汀娜華勒斯: 手指別再滑個不停:如何在約會軟體上找到對的人
A self-described "human Venn diagram," Christina Wallace has crafted a career at the intersection of business, the arts and technology. Full bio
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my freshman year of college,
在大學一年級的時候,
in case you can't see my wrinkle.
老實說,那是 2001年。
I'm six-feet tall,
我有 180 公分高,
basketball team averaged five-foot-eight,
籃球隊的平均身高才 170 公分,
scene and went online.
校園約會,轉而上網。
was pretty close to the plot
back and forth for weeks,
往返上,信還要寫很長,
you'd realize you have no chemistry
我發現我們不來電,
has changed a lot in the last 17 years,
網路約會已經改變了很多,
and professional circles.
math and theater nerd,
超預期的數學和戲劇怪胎,
I tend to take a step back,
我傾向會先退一步,
to figure out why, and to fix it.
來找出原因並解決它。
I took myself on a relationship off-site.
我給自己的感情關係放了個假,
in Maine for a week,
去緬因州露營了一週,
of mediocre relationships.
I knew what I wanted in a partner.
我想要什麼樣的伴侶。
a sense of purpose.
有同理心,且知道目標。
身高 180 公分以上、
不超過十二個地鐵站。
prioritized those things,
把那些項目排在優先,
looked great on paper
書面上看來都這麼棒,
in the spring of 2016,
through some classic business tools.
商業工具來改革這個過程。
the gamification of swipe-based apps.
螢幕的軟體,那好像玩遊戲一樣。
a writing sample.
我想要一份撰寫範本。
夢想類型的所有觀念,
that would qualify a lead.
and with good grammar;
something in my profile,
簡介中的某些內容,
a copy-and-paste situation;
複製貼上的內容,
of my 210 inbound messages,
收到的 210 則訊息中,
as quickly as possible,
I couldn't see online.
那些我在意的點。
with someone to tell if you click.
就能知道彼此是否合得來。
一杯飲料、一個小時。
dinner with this person?
而非 「他是我的真命天子嗎?」
three hours across the table
緊接著有其他行程——
a conference call with China --
和中國有視訊會議——無所謂,
you schedule a first date.
就來安排第一次約會。
you downshift into entertainer mode
就切換到低速的娛樂模式檔,
for your next networking event.
you can squeeze up to three in one evening
你可以在一個晚上約三場。
and pick out one great outfit a week.
選好衣服一次即可。
to see how they responded
對方會有什麼反應。
would dig my moxie, and I was right.
我的大膽,結果的確如此。
only 15 replied to my message,
只有 15 個人回了我的訊息,
和我安排了第零次約會。
was with a set designer.
是也喜歡瑜伽的場景設計師。
with peanut butter,
看起來挺有希望的。
我知道不會有戲唱了,
it wasn't going to be a thing
也讓我鬆了一口氣。
spending dinner with him.
about going to my next zero date.
第零次約會感到有點緊張。
on the Brooklyn Heights Promenade
在布魯克林高地步道見面,
to watch the sunset,
我的公寓只有兩個街區。
from my apartment.
I have a podcast,
我有一個播客節目,
we can talk about our podcasts.
我們閒聊我們的播客節目。
and asked even better questions.
and his eyes twinkled when he laughed
our zero date became a first date.
dryer and two house plants together.
和兩盆室內盆栽。
you're going to end up with house plants.
也會有室內盆栽。
doesn't have to suck.
and don't treat it like a resume review.
也不要把它當作檢閱履歷。
and qualify leads
蒐集合格人選的來源,
as possible with the zero date.
現實中的第零次約會。
不是滑動手機螢幕,
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Christina Wallace - Entrepreneur, podcaster, storytellerA self-described "human Venn diagram," Christina Wallace has crafted a career at the intersection of business, the arts and technology.
Why you should listen
Christina Wallace is currently the VP of Growth at Bionic, co-host of The Limit Does Not Exist podcast and co-author of upcoming business book New-to-Big, which will be published by Currency (Penguin Random House) in Spring 2019.
Wallace previously founded fashion company Quincy and ed-tech startup BridgeUp: STEM inside the American Museum of Natural History, and she opened the New York office for Startup Institute. Mashable named her one of "44 Female Founders to Know" and Refinery29 declared her one of the "Most Powerful Women in NYC Tech."
In her free time, Wallace sings in a community choir, climbs mountains, runs half (and some full) marathons and volunteers for progressive political causes. She lives with her fiancé and their two houseplants in Brooklyn, New York.
Watch Wallace's TEDxSanAntonio 2016 talk here.
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