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Shereen El Feki: A little-told tale of sex and sensuality
Šarin El Feki (Shareen El Feki): Neispričana priča o seksu i strasti
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“Ako zaista hoćete da upoznate narod, zavirite im u spavaću sobu", kaže Šarin El Feki, koja je putovala pet godina Bliskim istokom i razgovarala o seksu. Dok su ti razgovori otkrili rigidne norme i duboku represiju, El Feki je otkrila da je seksualni konzervativizam relativno nova stvar u arapskoj regiji. Ona se pita: da li bi ponovni javni dijalozi doveli do zadovoljnijeg i sigurnijeg seksualnog života?
Shereen El Feki - Arab sexuality expert
Shereen El Feki works and writes on sexuality and social change in the Arab world. Full bio
Shereen El Feki works and writes on sexuality and social change in the Arab world. Full bio
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00:12
So when I was in Morocco,
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Kada sam bila u Maroku
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in Casablanca, not so long ago,
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u Kazablanci, ne tako davno,
00:17
I met a young unmarried mother called Faiza.
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upoznala sam mladu
neudatu majku po imenu Fajza.
neudatu majku po imenu Fajza.
00:22
Faiza showed me photos of her infant son
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Fajza mi je pokazala slike
svog sina koji je još beba
svog sina koji je još beba
00:25
and she told me the story of his conception,
pregnancy, and delivery.
pregnancy, and delivery.
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i ispričala mi kako je
začet, o trudnoći, o porođaju.
začet, o trudnoći, o porođaju.
00:31
It was a remarkable tale,
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Bila je to odlična priča,
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but Faiza saved the best for last.
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ali Fajza je najlepše
sačuvala za kraj.
sačuvala za kraj.
00:37
"You know, I am a virgin," she told me.
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"Znate, ja sam devica",
rekla mi je.
rekla mi je.
00:40
"I have two medical certificates to prove it."
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"Imam dva medicinska
sertifikata da to dokažu".
sertifikata da to dokažu".
00:45
This is the modern Middle East,
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Ovo je moderan Bliski istok,
00:47
where two millennia after the coming of Christ,
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gde posle dva milenijuma
od dolaska Hrista,
od dolaska Hrista,
00:50
virgin births are still a fact of life.
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device koje rađaju
su i dalje činjenica života.
su i dalje činjenica života.
00:54
Faiza's story is just one of hundreds I've heard
over the years, traveling across the Arab region
over the years, traveling across the Arab region
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Ova priča jedna je od sto koje sam čula
dok sam putovala kroz arapski region
dok sam putovala kroz arapski region
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talking to people about sex.
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i pričala sa ljudima o seksu.
01:03
Now, I know this might sound like a dream job,
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Sad, znam da to može
da zvuči kao posao iz snova,
da zvuči kao posao iz snova,
01:06
or possibly a highly dubious occupation,
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ili možda kao vrlo
dubiozno zanimanje,
dubiozno zanimanje,
01:10
but for me, it's something else altogether.
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ali za mene, to je
nešto sasvim drugačije.
nešto sasvim drugačije.
01:13
I'm half Egyptian, and I'm Muslim.
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Ja sam poluegipćanka,
i muslimanka.
i muslimanka.
01:16
But I grew up in Canada, far from my Arab roots.
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Ali sam odrasla u Kanadi,
daleko od mojih arapskih korena.
daleko od mojih arapskih korena.
01:19
Like so many who straddle East and West,
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kao i mnogi koji se
bore sa Istokom i Zapadom,
bore sa Istokom i Zapadom,
01:22
I've been drawn, over the years, to try to better
understand my origins.
understand my origins.
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privuklo me je, tokom godina,
da pokušam da bolje shvatim moje poreklo.
da pokušam da bolje shvatim moje poreklo.
01:27
That I chose to look at sex comes from
my background in HIV/AIDS,
my background in HIV/AIDS,
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To što sam odabrala da proučim
seks dolazi od moje pozadine iz HIV/AIDS,
seks dolazi od moje pozadine iz HIV/AIDS,
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as a writer and a researcher and an activist.
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i kao pisca i
istraživača i aktiviste.
istraživača i aktiviste.
01:35
Sex lies at the heart of an emerging epidemic
in the Middle East and North Africa,
in the Middle East and North Africa,
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Seks je u srcu nastajuće epidemije
u Bliskom istoku i Severnoj Africi,
u Bliskom istoku i Severnoj Africi,
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which is one of only two regions in the world
where HIV/AIDS is still on the rise.
where HIV/AIDS is still on the rise.
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koji je jedan od dva regiona u svetu
gde je HIV/AIDS i dalje u porastu.
gde je HIV/AIDS i dalje u porastu.
01:47
Now sexuality is an incredibly powerful lens
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Seksualnost je neverovatno
moćno sočivo
moćno sočivo
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with which to study any society,
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kojim može da
se proučava bilo koje društvo,
se proučava bilo koje društvo,
01:53
because what happens in our intimate lives
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jer ono što se dešava u
našim intimnim životima
našim intimnim životima
01:55
is reflected by forces on a bigger stage:
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je odraz sila sa veće scene:
01:59
in politics and economics, in religion and tradition,
in gender and generations.
in gender and generations.
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politike, ekonomije, religije
i tradicije, roda i generacije.
i tradicije, roda i generacije.
02:05
As I found, if you really want to know a people,
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Otkrila sam da, ako zaista
želite da upoznate narod,
želite da upoznate narod,
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you start by looking inside their bedrooms.
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krenete tako što im
zavirite u spavaću sobu.
zavirite u spavaću sobu.
02:13
Now to be sure, the Arab world is vast and varied.
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Znajte, arapski svet
je veliki i raznolik.
je veliki i raznolik.
02:17
But running across it are three red lines --
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ali kroz njega protiču
tri crvene linije -
tri crvene linije -
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these are topics you are not supposed
to challenge in word or deed.
to challenge in word or deed.
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ovo su teme koje ne bi trebalo
da ispitujete ni u reči ni u delu.
da ispitujete ni u reči ni u delu.
02:25
The first of these is politics.
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Prva od njih je politika.
02:28
But the Arab Spring has changed all that,
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Ali Arapsko proleće
je promenilo sve to,
je promenilo sve to,
02:30
in uprisings which have blossomed
across the region since 2011.
across the region since 2011.
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u ustancima koji
cvetaju regionom od 2011.
cvetaju regionom od 2011.
02:35
Now while those in power, old and new,
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Dok oni koji vladaju,
bili stari ili novi
bili stari ili novi
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continue to cling to business as usual,
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nastavljaju da se drže
posla kao i obično,
posla kao i obično,
02:41
millions are still pushing back,
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milioni i dalje idu unazad
02:43
and pushing forward to what they hope
will be a better life.
will be a better life.
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i idu ka onome što
se nadaju da će biti bolji život.
se nadaju da će biti bolji život.
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That second red line is religion.
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Druga crvena linija je religija.
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But now religion and politics are connected,
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Ali sada su religija
i politika povezane,
i politika povezane,
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with the rise of such groups as the
Muslim Brotherhood.
Muslim Brotherhood.
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sa rađanjem grupa kao
što su Muslimansko bratstvo.
što su Muslimansko bratstvo.
02:58
And some people, at least, are starting
to ask questions
to ask questions
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Neki ljudi bar počinju
da postavljaju pitanja.
da postavljaju pitanja.
03:01
about the role of Islam in public and private life.
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o ulozi Islama u
javnom i privatnom životu.
javnom i privatnom životu.
03:06
You know, as for that third red line,
that off-limits subject,
that off-limits subject,
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Ova treća linija,
ta tema van domašaja
ta tema van domašaja
03:10
what do you think it might be?
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šta mislite, šta
bi ona mogla da bude?
bi ona mogla da bude?
03:12
Audience: Sex.
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Publika: Seks.
03:13
Shereen El Feki: Louder, I can't hear you.
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Šerin El Feki: Glasnije,
ne čujem vas.
ne čujem vas.
03:14
Audience: Sex.
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Publika: Seks.
03:15
SEF: Again, please don't be shy.
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ŠEF: Ponovo, molim vas
ne stidite se.
ne stidite se.
03:17
Audience: Sex.
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Publika: Seks.
03:18
SEF: Absolutely, that's right, it's sex. (Laughter)
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ŠEF: Apsolutno,
tačno je, to je seks. (Smeh).
tačno je, to je seks. (Smeh).
03:25
Across the Arab region, the only accepted
context for sex is marriage --
context for sex is marriage --
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U arapskoj regiji, jedini prihvaćen
kontekst za seks je brak -
kontekst za seks je brak -
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approved by your parents, sanctioned by religion
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odobren od strane roditelja,
potvrđen religijom
potvrđen religijom
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and registered by the state.
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i registrovan u državi.
03:37
Marriage is your ticket to adulthood.
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Brak je vaša karta
u odraslo doba.
u odraslo doba.
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If you don't tie the knot, you can't
move out of your parents' place,
move out of your parents' place,
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Ako se ne privežete, ne možete
da se odselite iz roditeljske kuće,
da se odselite iz roditeljske kuće,
03:44
and you're not supposed to be having sex,
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i ne bi trebalo da
upražnjavate seks,
upražnjavate seks,
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and you're definitely not supposed
to be having children.
to be having children.
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i definitivno ne bi
trebalo da imate decu.
trebalo da imate decu.
03:49
It's a social citadel; it's an impregnable fortress
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To je društvena citadela;
neosvojiva tvrđava
neosvojiva tvrđava
03:53
which resists any assault, any alternative.
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koja odoleva svakom napadu,
svakoj alternativi.
svakoj alternativi.
03:57
And around the fortress is this vast field of taboo
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A oko tvrđave je široko polje tabua
04:01
against premarital sex, against condoms,
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protiv seksa pre braka,
protiv kondoma,
protiv kondoma,
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against abortion, against homosexuality,
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protiv abortusa,
protiv homoseksualizma,
protiv homoseksualizma,
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you name it.
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šta god poželite.
04:11
Faiza was living proof of this.
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Fajza je živi dokaz.
04:14
Her virginity statement was
not a piece of wishful thinking.
not a piece of wishful thinking.
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Njena izjava o nevinosti
nije samo maštanje.
nije samo maštanje.
04:19
Although the major religions of the region
extoll premarital chastity,
extoll premarital chastity,
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Iako sve veće religije u regionu
veličaju predbračnu čednost,
veličaju predbračnu čednost,
04:24
in a patriarchy, boys will be boys.
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u patrijarhatu,
dečaci ostaju dečaci.
dečaci ostaju dečaci.
04:27
Men have sex before marriage,
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Muškarci upražnjavaju
seks pre braka,
seks pre braka,
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and people more or less turn a blind eye.
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i ljudi se manje više
prave da to ne vide.
prave da to ne vide.
04:33
Not so for women,
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Ali tako nije za žene,
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who are expected to be virgins
on their wedding night --
on their wedding night --
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od kojih se očekuje da budu
device prve bračne noći-
device prve bračne noći-
04:38
that is, to turn up with your hymen intact.
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to jest, da im je netaknut himen.
04:43
This is not a question of individual concern,
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Ovo nije pitanje pojedinca,
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this is a matter of family honor,
and in particular, men's honor.
and in particular, men's honor.
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ovo je pitanje porodične časti,
i posebno časti muškarca.
i posebno časti muškarca.
04:51
And so women and their relatives
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Žene i njihova rodbina
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will go to great lengths to preserve
this tiny piece of anatomy --
this tiny piece of anatomy --
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će činiti svašta da sačuvaju
ovaj mali deo njihove anatomije -
ovaj mali deo njihove anatomije -
04:58
from female genital mutilation,
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od sakaćenja ženskih genitalija,
05:00
to virginity testing, to hymen repair surgery.
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do testa na nevinost,
do operacije himena.
do operacije himena.
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Faiza chose a different route:
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Fajza je odabrala drugačiji put:
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non-vaginal sex.
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nevaginalni seks.
05:10
Only she became pregnant all the same.
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Samo što je ona
svakako ostala trudna.
svakako ostala trudna.
05:12
But Faiza didn't actually realize this,
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Ali Faiza nije ovo shvatala,
05:15
because there's so little
sexuality education in schools,
sexuality education in schools,
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jer ima vrlo malo
seksualnog obrazovanja u školama,
seksualnog obrazovanja u školama,
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and so little communication in the family.
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i jako malo
komunikacije u porodici.
komunikacije u porodici.
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When her condition became hard to hide,
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Kad je postalo teško da
se sakrije njeno stanje,
se sakrije njeno stanje,
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Faiza's mother helped her flee
her father and brothers.
her father and brothers.
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Fajzina majka joj je pomogla
da pobegne od oca i braće.
da pobegne od oca i braće.
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This is because honor killings are a real threat
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Ovo je zato jer su
ubistva iz časti stvarna pretnja
ubistva iz časti stvarna pretnja
05:33
for untold numbers of women in the Arab region.
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za neizreciv broj zena
u arapskom regionu.
u arapskom regionu.
05:37
And so when Faiza eventually fetched up at
a hospital in Casablanca,
a hospital in Casablanca,
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Kada je Faiza konačno
došla u bolnicu u Kazablanki,
došla u bolnicu u Kazablanki,
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the man who offered to help her,
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čovek koji se ponudio
da joj pomogne,
da joj pomogne,
05:44
instead tried to rape her.
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pokušao je da je
siluje umesto toga.
siluje umesto toga.
05:50
Sadly, Faiza is not alone.
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Nažalost, Faiza nije
usamljeni slučaj.
usamljeni slučaj.
05:53
In Egypt, where my research is focused,
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U Egiptu, gde je
fokusirano moje istraživanje,
fokusirano moje istraživanje,
05:55
I have seen plenty of trouble
in and out of the citadel.
in and out of the citadel.
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videla sam mnogo nevolja
unutar i izvan citadele.
unutar i izvan citadele.
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There are legions of young men
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Postoje legije mladih muškaraca
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who can't afford to get married,
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koji ne mogu da
priušte da se venčaju,
priušte da se venčaju,
06:06
because marriage has become
a very expensive proposition.
a very expensive proposition.
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jer je brak postao
mnogo skup poduhvat.
mnogo skup poduhvat.
06:09
They are expected to bear the burden
of costs in married life,
of costs in married life,
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Od njih se očekuje da nose
teret troškova života u braku
teret troškova života u braku
06:13
but they can't find jobs.
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a ne mogu da nađu posao.
06:15
This is one of the major drivers
of the recent uprisings,
of the recent uprisings,
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Ovo je jedan od bitnijih
razloga nedavnih ustanaka,
razloga nedavnih ustanaka,
06:18
and it is one of the reasons for the
rising age of marriage
rising age of marriage
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i jedan od razloga
kasnijeg stupanja u brak
kasnijeg stupanja u brak
06:21
in much of the Arab region.
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u velikom delu arapske regije.
06:24
There are career women who want to get married,
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Ima žena sa karijerom
koje žele da se udaju,
koje žele da se udaju,
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but can't find a husband,
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ali ne mogu da nađu muža,
06:29
because they defy gender expectations,
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jer prkose rodnim očekivanjima,
06:32
or as one young female doctor
in Tunisia put it to me,
in Tunisia put it to me,
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ili kao što mi je objasnila
mlada doktorka iz Tunisa,
mlada doktorka iz Tunisa,
06:36
"The women, they are becoming more and more open.
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"Žene postaju sve
otvorenije i otvorenije
otvorenije i otvorenije
06:38
But the man, he is still at the prehistoric stage."
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A muškarac, on je još
uvek u praistorijskom dobu".
uvek u praistorijskom dobu".
06:44
And then there are men and women who
cross the heterosexual line,
cross the heterosexual line,
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A tu su i muškarci i žene koji
prelaze heteroskesualnu granicu,
prelaze heteroskesualnu granicu,
06:48
who have sex with their own sex,
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koji imaju seks sa
osobama svog pola,
osobama svog pola,
06:50
or who have a different gender identity.
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ili koji imaju
različit rodni identitet.
različit rodni identitet.
06:53
They are on the receiving end of laws
which punish their activities,
which punish their activities,
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Oni od zakona dobijaju
kazne za svoje aktivnosti,
kazne za svoje aktivnosti,
06:57
even their appearance.
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čak i njihovu pojavu.
06:59
And they face a daily struggle with social stigma,
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I suočavaju se sa svakodnevnom
borbom sa društvenom stigmom
borbom sa društvenom stigmom
07:03
with family despair,
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sa očajem porodice
07:05
and with religious fire and brimstone.
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i sa verskom osudom.
07:09
Now, it's not as if it's all rosy
in the marital bed either.
in the marital bed either.
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A nije baš da je sve
blistavo ni u bračnom životu.
blistavo ni u bračnom životu.
07:13
Couples who are looking for greater happiness,
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Parovi koji žele višu sreću,
07:15
greater sexual happiness in their married lives,
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višu seksualnu sreću
u bračnom životu,
u bračnom životu,
07:18
but are at a loss of how to achieve it,
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ali ne znaju
kako to da postignu,
kako to da postignu,
07:20
especially wives, who are afraid
of being seen as bad women
of being seen as bad women
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pogotovo supruge, koje se
boje da izgledaju kao loše žene
boje da izgledaju kao loše žene
07:25
if they show some spark in the bedroom.
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ako pokažu neku iskru u krevetu.
07:28
And then there are those whose marriages
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Ima i onih čiji su brakovi
07:30
are actually a veil for prostitution.
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u stvari veo za prostituciju.
07:33
They have been sold by their families,
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Porodice su ih prodale,
07:35
often to wealthy Arab tourists.
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često bogatim arapskim turistima.
07:38
This is just one face of a booming
sex trade across the Arab region.
sex trade across the Arab region.
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Ovo je samo jedno lice trgovine seksom
u arapskoj regiji koja je u porastu.
u arapskoj regiji koja je u porastu.
07:44
Now raise your hand if any of
this is sounding familiar to you,
this is sounding familiar to you,
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Podignite ruku ako vam se
nešto od ovoga čini poznato,
nešto od ovoga čini poznato,
07:48
from your part of the world.
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u vašem delu sveta.
07:52
Yeah. It's not as if the Arab world
has a monopoly on sexual hangups.
has a monopoly on sexual hangups.
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Da, mema samo arapski svet
monopol nad seksualnim neprilikama.
monopol nad seksualnim neprilikama.
07:58
And although we don't yet have
an Arab Kinsey Report
an Arab Kinsey Report
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I iako još uvek nema
arapskog Kinsijevog izveštaja,
arapskog Kinsijevog izveštaja,
08:01
to tell us exactly what's happening
inside bedrooms across the Arab region,
inside bedrooms across the Arab region,
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da nam kaže šta se tačno dešava
u spavaćim sobama u arapskom regionu,
u spavaćim sobama u arapskom regionu,
08:05
It's pretty clear that
something is not right.
something is not right.
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prilično je očigledno
da nešto nije u redu.
da nešto nije u redu.
08:09
Double standards for men and women,
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Dvostruki standardi za muškarce i žene,
08:12
sex as a source of shame,
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seks kao izvor sramote,
08:15
family control limiting individual choices,
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porodična kontrola koja
ograničava izbor pojedinca,
ograničava izbor pojedinca,
08:19
and a vast gulf between appearance and reality:
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i veliki jaz između pojave i realnosti:
08:23
what people are doing
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onoga što ljudi rade
08:25
and what they're willing to admit to,
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i onoga što su voljni da priznaju,
08:27
and a general reluctance to move
beyond private whispers
beyond private whispers
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i sveopšte ustezanje da se
pomeriš van privatnih šaputanja
pomeriš van privatnih šaputanja
08:31
to a serious and sustained public discussion.
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u ozbiljnu i podržanu
javnu diskusiju.
javnu diskusiju.
08:35
As one doctor in Cairo summed it up for me,
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Kao što mi je sumirao
jedan doktor iz Kaira:
jedan doktor iz Kaira:
08:39
"Here, sex is the opposite of sport.
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"Seks je ovde obrnuto od sporta.
08:42
Football, everybody talks about it,
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Fudbal, o njemu svi govore,
08:44
but hardly anyone plays.
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ali jedva da ga neko igra.
08:46
But sex, everybody is doing it,
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Ali seks, svi ga imaju,
08:48
but nobody wants to talk about it."
(Laughter)
(Laughter)
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ali niko o tome ne želi da priča".
08:52
(Music) (In Arabic)
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(Muzika) (Na arapskom)
09:03
SEF: I want to give you a piece of advice,
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SEF: Daću vam jedan savet,
09:06
which if you follow it,
will make you happy in life.
will make you happy in life.
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ako ga prihvatite,
bićete srećni u životu.
bićete srećni u životu.
09:10
When your husband reaches out to you,
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Kada vas muž dodirne,
09:12
when he seizes a part of your body,
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kad vas uhvati,
09:15
sigh deeply and look at him lustily.
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duboko udahnite i
požudno ga pogledajte.
požudno ga pogledajte.
09:18
When he penetrates you with his penis,
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Kada prodre u vas
svojim penisom,
svojim penisom,
09:21
try to talk flirtatiously and
move yourself in harmony with him.
move yourself in harmony with him.
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probajte da pričate zavodljivo
sa njim, pomerajte se u harmoniji sa njim.
sa njim, pomerajte se u harmoniji sa njim.
09:26
Hot stuff!
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Vrelo!
09:27
And it might sound that these handy hints
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I može da zvuči da su
uslužni nagoveštaji
uslužni nagoveštaji
09:29
come from "The Joy of Sex" or YouPorn.
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iz "Radosti Seksa" ili sa "YouPorn".
09:33
But in fact, they come from
a 10th-century Arabic book
a 10th-century Arabic book
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A u stvari su iz arapske
knjige iz desetog veka
knjige iz desetog veka
09:36
called "The Encyclopedia of Pleasure,"
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koja se zove
"Enciklopedija uživanja",
"Enciklopedija uživanja",
09:39
which covers sex from aphrodisiacs to zoophilia,
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koja pokriva seks od
afrodizijaka do zoofilije,
afrodizijaka do zoofilije,
09:43
and everything in between.
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i sve između.
09:46
The Encyclopedia is just one
in a long line of Arabic erotica,
in a long line of Arabic erotica,
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Enciklopedija je jedna
u dugom nizu arapske erotike,
u dugom nizu arapske erotike,
09:50
much of it written by religious scholars.
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većinu su pisali religiozni naučnici.
09:53
Going right back to the Prophet Muhammad,
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Sve do proroka Muhameda,
09:56
there is a rich tradition in Islam
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postoji bogata tradicija u Islamu
09:58
of talking frankly about sex:
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o otvorenom pričanju o seksu:
10:01
not just its problems, but also its pleasures,
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ne samo o problemima,
već i o uživanju,
već i o uživanju,
10:04
and not just for men, but also for women.
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i ne samo za
muškarce, već za žene.
muškarce, već za žene.
10:08
A thousand years ago, we used to have
whole dictionaries of sex in Arabic.
whole dictionaries of sex in Arabic.
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Pre hiljadu godina postojali su
rečnici seksa na arapskom.
rečnici seksa na arapskom.
10:14
Words to cover every conceivable sexual feature,
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Reči koje pokrivaju
svaku seksualnu odliku
svaku seksualnu odliku
10:18
position and preference, a body of language
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pozu ili ono što je omiljeno,
10:22
that was rich enough to make up the body
of the woman you see on this page.
of the woman you see on this page.
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jezik dovoljno bogat da ocrta telo
žene kao što vidite na ovoj strani.
žene kao što vidite na ovoj strani.
10:29
Today, this history is largely unknown
in the Arab region.
in the Arab region.
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Danas je ova prošlost u velikoj meri
nepoznata u arapskom regionu.
nepoznata u arapskom regionu.
10:32
Even by educated people, who often
feel more comfortable talking about sex
feel more comfortable talking about sex
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Čak i kod obrazovanih ljudi,
kojima je prijatnije da pričaju o seksu
kojima je prijatnije da pričaju o seksu
10:37
in a foreign language than they do
in their own tongue.
in their own tongue.
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na stranom jeziku nego na svom.
10:42
Today's sexual landscape looks
a lot like Europe and America
a lot like Europe and America
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Današnji seksualni pejzaž
dosta liči na Evropu i Ameriku
dosta liči na Evropu i Ameriku
10:46
on the brink of the sexual revolution.
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na ivici seksualne revolucije.
10:48
But while the West has opened on sex,
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Ali dok se Zapad otvarao o seksu,
10:51
what we found is that Arab societies appear
to have been moving in the opposite direction.
to have been moving in the opposite direction.
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saznali smo da su se arapska društva
kretala u suprotnom pravcu.
kretala u suprotnom pravcu.
10:58
In Egypt and many of its neighbors,
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U Egiptu i mnogim susednim zemljama,
11:00
this closing down is part of a wider closing
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ovo zatvaranje je deo šireg zatvaranja
11:03
in political, social and cultural thought.
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u političkom, društvenom
i kulturnom mišljenju.
i kulturnom mišljenju.
11:07
And it is the product of a complex historical process,
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I to je rezutat složenog
istorijskog procesa,
istorijskog procesa,
11:11
one which has gained ground with the rise
of Islamic conservatism
of Islamic conservatism
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koji je zasnovan sa
uzdizanju islamskog konzervativizma
uzdizanju islamskog konzervativizma
11:15
since the late 1970s.
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od kasnih sedamdesetih.
11:18
"Just say no" is what conservatives
around the world
around the world
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"Samo recite ne" je ono što
konzervativci širom sveta
konzervativci širom sveta
11:21
say to any challenge to the sexual status quo.
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kažu na bilo koji izazov na dosadašnje
seksualno stanje.
seksualno stanje.
11:26
In the Arab region, they brand these attempts
as a Western conspiracy
as a Western conspiracy
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U arapskom regionu, oni markiraju
ove pokušaje kao zapadnjačku zaveru
ove pokušaje kao zapadnjačku zaveru
11:30
to undermine traditional Arab
and Islamic values.
and Islamic values.
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da se potkopaju tradicionalne
arapske i islamske vrednosti.
arapske i islamske vrednosti.
11:34
But what's really at stake here
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A ono što je zaista ovde u pitanju
11:36
is one of their most powerful tools of control:
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je jedno od njihovih
najmoćnijih oružja za kontrolu:
najmoćnijih oružja za kontrolu:
11:40
sex wrapped up in religion.
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seks uvijen u religiju.
11:44
But history shows us that
even as recently
even as recently
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Ali nam istorija pokazuje
da je čak i skoro,
da je čak i skoro,
11:48
as our fathers' and grandfathers' day,
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u danima naših očeva i pradeda,
11:51
there have been times of greater pragmatism,
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bilo većeg pragmatizma,
11:53
and tolerance, and a willingness
to consider other interpretations:
to consider other interpretations:
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i tolerancije i volje da
se razmotre druga tumačenja:
se razmotre druga tumačenja:
11:59
be it abortion, or masturbation, or even
the incendiary topic of homosexuality.
the incendiary topic of homosexuality.
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da li je to abortus, ili masturbacija,
ili čak zapaljiva tema homoseksualnosti.
ili čak zapaljiva tema homoseksualnosti.
12:06
It is not black and white,
as conservatives would have us believe.
as conservatives would have us believe.
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Nije crno i belo, kao što bi
konzervativci hteli da verujemo.
konzervativci hteli da verujemo.
12:11
In these, as in so many other matters,
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U ovim, kao i mnogim drugim pitanjima,
12:14
Islam offers us at least 50 shades of gray.
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Islam nudi najmanje 50 nijansi sive.
12:17
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
12:20
Over my travels,
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Na mojim putovanjima,
12:21
I've met men and women
across the Arab region
across the Arab region
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upoznala sam muškarce i
žene u arapskom regionu
žene u arapskom regionu
12:24
who've been exploring that spectrum --
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koji su istraživali taj spektar -
12:27
sexologists who are trying
to help couples
to help couples
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seksolozi koji pokušavaju
da pomognu parovima
da pomognu parovima
12:29
find greater happiness in their marriages,
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da nađu sreću u svojim brakovima,
12:33
innovators who are managing to get
sexuality education into schools,
sexuality education into schools,
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inovatori koji uspevaju da
uvedu seksualno obrazovanje u škole,
uvedu seksualno obrazovanje u škole,
12:39
small groups of men and women,
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male grupe muškaraca i žena
12:41
lesbian, gay, transgendered, transsexual,
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lezbejke, gej muškarci,
transrodni, transeksualci
transrodni, transeksualci
12:44
who are reaching out to their peers
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koji traže sebi slične
12:46
with online initiatives and real-world support.
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preko onlajn inicijativa,
i uz podršku iz stvarnog sveta.
i uz podršku iz stvarnog sveta.
12:50
Women, and increasingly men,
who are starting to speak out
who are starting to speak out
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Žene, i sve češće muškarci,
koji počinju da glasno govore
koji počinju da glasno govore
12:54
and push back against sexual violence
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i potiskuju seksualno nasilje
12:57
on the streets and in the home.
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na ulicama i kod kuće.
13:01
Groups that are trying to help sex workers
protect themselves against HIV
protect themselves against HIV
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Grupe koje pokušavaju da pomognu
seksualnim radnicima da se zaštite od HIVa
seksualnim radnicima da se zaštite od HIVa
13:06
and other occupational hazards,
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i drugih rizika posla
13:08
and NGOs that are helping unwed mothers like Faiza
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i NVO koje pomažu neudatim
majkama kao što je Fajza
majkama kao što je Fajza
13:12
find a place in society, and critically,
stay with their kids.
stay with their kids.
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da nađu mesto u društvu,
i što je važno, ostanu sa svojom decom.
i što je važno, ostanu sa svojom decom.
13:18
Now these efforts are small,
they're often underfunded,
they're often underfunded,
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Ovi napori su mali, često malo plaćeni,
13:22
and they face formidable opposition.
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i suočavaju se sa teškom opozicijom
13:25
But I am optimistic that, in the long run,
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Ali sam ja optimista,
da će se na duže staze
da će se na duže staze
13:28
times are changing, and they and their ideas
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vremena promeniti, i oni i njihove ideje
13:32
will gain ground.
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će biti prihvaćene.
13:34
Social change doesn't happen in the Arab region
through dramatic confrontation,
through dramatic confrontation,
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Društvena promena se u arapskoj regiji
ne dešava kroz dramatični sukob,
ne dešava kroz dramatični sukob,
13:39
beating or indeed baring of breasts,
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tučom ili razgolićivanjem grudi,
13:43
but rather through negotiation.
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već kroz pregovore.
13:45
What we're talking here is not about a
sexual revolution,
sexual revolution,
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Ovde ne pričamo o seksualnoj revoluciji,
13:49
but a sexual evolution,
learning from other parts of the world,
learning from other parts of the world,
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već seksualnoj evoluciji,
učenjem iz drugih delova sveta,
učenjem iz drugih delova sveta,
13:53
adapting to local conditions,
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prilagođavanjem lokalnim uslovima,
13:56
forging our own path,
not following one blazed by another.
not following one blazed by another.
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kovanjem sopstvenog puta,
ne praćenjem drugih.
ne praćenjem drugih.
14:02
That path, I hope, will one day lead us
to the right to control our own bodies,
to the right to control our own bodies,
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Nadam se da će nas jednog dana taj put
dovesti do prava da kontrolišemo naša tela
dovesti do prava da kontrolišemo naša tela
14:08
and to access the information
and services we need
and services we need
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i da dobijemo informacije
i usluge koji nam trebaju
i usluge koji nam trebaju
14:11
to lead satisfying and safe sexual lives.
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da vodimo zadovoljavajuće
i sigurne seksualne živote.
i sigurne seksualne živote.
14:16
The right to express our ideas freely,
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Pravo da slobodno
izrazimo svoje ideje,
izrazimo svoje ideje,
14:18
to marry whom we choose,
to choose our own partners,
to choose our own partners,
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da mi odaberemo za koga se udajemo,
da biramo svoje partnere,
da biramo svoje partnere,
14:23
to be sexually active or not,
to decide whether to have children and when,
to decide whether to have children and when,
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da budemo seksualno aktivni ili ne,
da odlučimo da li želimo
da imamo decu i kada,
da imamo decu i kada,
14:28
all this without violence or force or discrimination.
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sve ovo bez nasilja,
sile ili diskriminacije.
sile ili diskriminacije.
14:34
Now we are very far from this
across the Arab region,
across the Arab region,
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Sad smo mnogo daleko
od ovoga u arapskoj regji,
od ovoga u arapskoj regji,
14:37
and so much needs to change:
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i mnogo toga treba da se promeni:
14:41
law, education, media, the economy,
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pravo, obrazovanje, mediji, ekonomija,
14:44
the list goes on and on,
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lista se nastavlja,
14:47
and it is the work of a generation, at least.
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i ovo je u najmanju ruku
posao jedne generacije.
posao jedne generacije.
14:52
But it begins with a journey that I myself have made,
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Ali počinje putem koji sam sama prešla,
14:55
asking hard questions of received wisdoms
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postavljajući teška pitanja
o dobijenoj mudrosti
o dobijenoj mudrosti
14:58
in sexual life.
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seksualnog života.
15:00
And it is a journey which has
only served to strengthen my faith,
only served to strengthen my faith,
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I to je putovanje koje je jedino poslužilo
da ojača moju veru,
da ojača moju veru,
15:04
and my appreciation of local histories and cultures
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i da cenim lokalnu istoriju i kulture
15:08
by showing me possibilities
where I once only saw absolutes.
where I once only saw absolutes.
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prikazivanjem mogućnosti
gde sam nekad samo videla apsolutnost.
gde sam nekad samo videla apsolutnost.
15:13
Now given the turmoil in many
countries in the Arab region,
countries in the Arab region,
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S obzirom na prevrate
u mnogim arapskim zemljama u regionu,
u mnogim arapskim zemljama u regionu,
15:17
talking about sex,
challenging the taboos,
challenging the taboos,
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razgovaranje o seksu,
ispitivanje tabua,
ispitivanje tabua,
15:20
seeking alternatives might sound like
something of a luxury.
something of a luxury.
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potraga za alternativama
može da zvuči kao nešto luksuzno.
može da zvuči kao nešto luksuzno.
15:25
But at this critical moment in history,
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Ali u ovom kritičnom trenutku u istoriji,
15:28
if we do not anchor freedom and justice,
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ako ne učvrstimo slobodu i pravdu,
15:32
dignity and equality,
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dostojanstvo i jednakost,
15:34
privacy and autonomy in our personal lives,
in our sexual lives,
in our sexual lives,
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privatnost i autonomiju
u našim ličnim i seksualnim životima,
u našim ličnim i seksualnim životima,
15:39
we will find it very hard to achieve in public life.
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vrlo teško ćemo to postići
u javnom životu.
u javnom životu.
15:44
The political and the sexual are intimate bedfellows,
and that is true for us all.
and that is true for us all.
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Politika i seks su partneri u krevetu,
i to je tačno za sve nas,
i to je tačno za sve nas,
15:50
no matter where we live and love.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Shereen El Feki - Arab sexuality expertShereen El Feki works and writes on sexuality and social change in the Arab world.
Why you should listen
Dividing her time between London and Cairo, TED Fellow Shereen El Feki works on issues related to health and social welfare in the Arab region -- including intimate attitudes toward sexual (and political) freedoms, as explored in her new book, Sex and the Citadel.
Half-Egyptian and half-Welsh, El Feki was brought up in Canada. She started her professional life in medical science, with a PhD in molecular immunology from the University of Cambridge, and later worked as healthcare correspondent at The Economist. She also is a former vice chair of the United Nations' Global Commission on HIV and Law. While she has worked in regional media as a presenter with the Al Jazeera Network, and continues to write on social issues in the Arab world, her passion lies in projects that aim to better understand, and surmount, the social challenges facing Arabs, particularly young people.
Read a Q&A with Sheeren El Feki on the TED Fellows site.
Shereen El Feki | Speaker | TED.com