Deepa Narayan: 7 beliefs that can silence women -- and how to unlearn them
Deepa Narayan: Siete creencias que silencian a las mujeres y cómo desaprenderlas
Deepa Narayan is an international advisor on poverty, gender and development with more than 25 years of experience working at the World Bank, the UN and NGOs. Full bio
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debe ser vista, no escuchada".
should be seen, not heard."
to silence girls right from childhood,
silenciar a las niñas desde la infancia,
y sigue hasta la vejez.
a true champion of the female voice,
de la voz femenina,
y el desarrollo para el Banco Mundial,
in India and the world over.
en India y en todo el mundo.
renowned social scientist and author
escritora y científica social
de una madre o un padre amoroso
of every loving parent
and crush their girls.
y doblegar a sus niñas.
podría soportarlo;
han escuchado la palabra.
para que sean indefensas,
and authority over the world.
poder y autoridad sobre el mundo.
gender equality and women's empowerment.
y el empoderamiento de la mujer.
in a moving bus in Delhi,
en un autobús en marcha en Delhi,
the roots of abuse.
las raíces del abuso.
a very simple question:
una pregunta muy simple:
to be a good woman or a good man today?
una buena mujer o un buen hombre?
that young people gave,
que dieron los jóvenes,
and it took over my life.
de investigación y dominó mi vida.
to over 600 women, men and children,
a más de 600 mujeres, hombres y niños,
to make sense of it.
women like many of you in this room,
y educadas como muchas de esta sala,
are extremely misleading,
son extremadamente engañosos,
we have not changed.
to talk about poor people.
de gente pobre.
the middle and upper classes,
de las clases media y alta,
over and over again
infiero siete hábitos
en buenos y morales.
anything that's good and moral?
algo que es bueno y moral?
is to make her body disappear,
de una niña un fantasma
actuar como si no tuviera cuerpo.
spoke about the body, never."
sobre el cuerpo, nunca".
get sexually molested,
son abusadas sexualmente,
saying that they dislike their bodies.
diga que no les gusta su cuerpo.
my mother used to scold me and say,
mi madre solía regañarme y decir:
and never answer back.
no discutas y nunca respondas.
a asustarse y no intervienen.
and they withdraw.
la garganta y las asfixiara.
con las personas.
who always smiles,
que siempre sonríe,
I don't feel good.'"
no me siento bien'".
than your happiness.
que tu felicidad".
to make everyone happy all the time,
felices a todos todo el tiempo,
de tomar decisiones.
dijo con gran orgullo:
otros quieren que sea".
sus sueños, sus deseos
con una población de más de 1300 millones,
with a population of over 1.3 billion,
more people now acknowledge
más personas reconocen
have a right to sexual desire.
tienen derecho al deseo sexual.
no se le ha permitido poseer su cuerpo,
been allowed to own her body,
that this doesn't happen,
de que esto no suceda,
y el secreto familiar.
de la que fiarme,
at Delhi University, said,
la mujer en la Universidad de Delhi, dijo:
They're jealous and they backbite."
Son celosas y critican".
a grupos de mujeres,
"We don't have time for gossip."
"No tenemos tiempo para chismear".
to demolish a woman who is alone.
a una mujer que está sola.
of a good girl, and she's only 15.
de una buena chica, y solo tiene 15 años.
respects elders,
respeta a los ancianos,
and is good to others and fulfills duty."
y cumple con su deber".
is left is also lost.
que quede también se pierde.
have nothing left to say
ya no queda nada que decir
What will you eat?" --
¿Qué vas a comer?".
call them "boring."
tiene 24 años, las llaman "aburridas".
doblegan a las mujeres,
collectively crush women,
on men for her survival,
de los hombres para su supervivencia,
of male power to continue.
de poder masculino continúe.
that we thought were good and moral
considerábamos buenos y morales
is extremely important.
extremadamente importante.
to be a good woman and a good man,
ser una buena mujer y un buen hombre,
of every society.
we need elastic definitions,
necesitamos definiciones flexibles,
cannot happen without men's involvement.
sin la participación de los hombres.
sean agentes de cambio,
fuertes para propiciar el cambio.
coming together, with the support of men,
se unieran, con el apoyo de los hombres,
for conversation, for change,
para conversar, para cambiar,
en sus propios círculos,
to just listen to each other
que se unieran para escucharse
Con nosotros, Deepa.
that we have with women,
más simples que tenemos con mujeres,
my daughter sometimes,
accha lagta hai varna bura lagta hai".
lagta hai varna bura lagta hai".
beti ko yahi bolunga.
aur accha nahi bhi lagta hai
aur accha nahi bhi lagta hai
tumhare ko lagta hai, right?
jo tumhare ko lagta hai, ¿no?
unfulfilled stories, desires,
de deseos incumplidos,
we think these girls are better off?
uno pensaría que en mejor situación?
and that's why I couldn't stop,
y por eso no pude parar,
and no plans to write a book.
de estudiar ni de escribir un libro.
and I thought, "I'm done,"
y pensé: "Ya terminé".
you well know from Delhi,
de élite conocidas de Delhi,
to them to be a woman and man
para ellos ser mujer y hombre
but like my mother's generation.
sino de la generación de mi madre.
and another college.
y a otra universidad.
and hides her behavior,
una falencia personal.
sino entrenamiento,
with what Deepa is saying?
con lo que dice Deepa?
You say this to me."
Tú me lo dices".
ya no nos adaptamos ¿entiendes?".
We are not adjusting anymore, OK?
Have a good evening. Thank you.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Deepa Narayan - Social psychologistDeepa Narayan is an international advisor on poverty, gender and development with more than 25 years of experience working at the World Bank, the UN and NGOs.
Why you should listen
Deepa Narayan is a social scientist and author of Chup: Breaking the Silence About India’s Women. Until 2008, she served as Senior Advisor in the vice president's office of the Poverty Reduction Group of the World Bank.
While at the World Bank, Narayan advanced program development and evaluation and conducted two studies that resulted in key policy changes: "The Voices of the Poor," which examined the experiences of 60,000 women and men from 60 countries around the world; and "Moving Out of Poverty: Understanding Freedom, Democracy and Growth from the Bottom Up," which studied people from 15 countries to understand how some people climb out of poverty while others remain stuck. Both studies highlight how policy mindsets and unexamined assumptions about impoverished people distort policy decisions.
Narayan's current interests include shared and sustainable living, reducing inequality, making corporate social responsibility a reality, ethical development and economic policies that create wealth for poor people. She holds a PhD in psychology and anthropology and has authored or coauthored more than 15 books.
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