Deepa Narayan: 7 beliefs that can silence women -- and how to unlearn them
Дипа Нарајан: Седум верувања кои можат да ги замолчат жените и како да се ослободиме од нив
Deepa Narayan is an international advisor on poverty, gender and development with more than 25 years of experience working at the World Bank, the UN and NGOs. Full bio
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видена, а не слушната."
should be seen, not heard."
to silence girls right from childhood,
замолчат девојчиња уште од детството,
a true champion of the female voice,
говорничка, вистински шампион на
сиромаштијата,
in India and the world over.
НВО во Индија и низ светот.
културолошки детектив.
renowned social scientist and author
да ѝ посакаме добредојде на реномираната
Дипа Нарајан.
исполнет со љубов
of every loving parent
and crush their girls.
и ги гушат своите девојчиња.
прилагоди се."
немоќни,
and authority over the world.
моќ и авторитет над светот.
gender equality and women's empowerment.
еднаквост и еманципирање на жените.
in a moving bus in Delhi,
автобус во Делхи во 2012-та,
the roots of abuse.
на насилството.
a very simple question:
прашање:
to be a good woman or a good man today?
добар маж денес?
слушнав,
that young people gave,
луѓе,
and it took over my life.
истражување кое ме преокупира.
to over 600 women, men and children,
мажи и деца,
to make sense of it.
за да му дадам смисла.
women like many of you in this room,
жени како многу од вас тука,
are extremely misleading,
премногу лажни
we have not changed.
to talk about poor people.
луѓе.
the middle and upper classes,
класи,
over and over again
велиме
слободни.
7 навики
anything that's good and moral?
што е добро и морално?
деца,
is to make her body disappear,
е да направиш нејзиното тело да исчезне,
spoke about the body, never."
зборувавме за телото, никогаш".
get sexually molested,
сексуално нападнати
saying that they dislike their bodies.
велат дека не си ги сакаат своите тела.
my mother used to scold me and say,
и ми велеше:
and never answer back.
не одвраќај.
and they withdraw.
се повлекуваат.
who always smiles,
се смее,
и никогаш не е лута,
I don't feel good.'"
чувствувам добро".
than your happiness.
среќа.
to make everyone happy all the time,
ги усреќат сите цело време,
своите соништа,
with a population of over 1.3 billion,
население од над 1.3 милијарди,
more people now acknowledge
have a right to sexual desire.
на сексуална желба.
been allowed to own her body,
сопственото тело,
желба?
солидарност,
that this doesn't happen,
ги вреднува моралните вредности
и семејната дискреција.
at Delhi University, said,
на Универзитетот во Делхи рече:
They're jealous and they backbite."
Љубоморни се и озборуваат."
"We don't have time for gossip."
„Немаме време за озборување."
to demolish a woman who is alone.
жена која е сама.
of a good girl, and she's only 15.
добра девојка, а има само 15 год.
respects elders,
постарите,
and is good to others and fulfills duty."
сите и ги извршува обврските."
is left is also lost.
е исто така изгубена.
have nothing left to say
немаат ништо друго да кажат
What will you eat?" --
Што ќе јадеш?",
call them "boring."
„досадни."
collectively crush women,
ги рушат жените,
on men for her survival,
ги прават зависни од мажите
of male power to continue.
да продолжи.
that we thought were good and moral
дека се добри и морални
злоупотребуваат.
is extremely important.
важна.
to be a good woman and a good man,
добра жена и добар маж,
of every society.
општество.
we need elastic definitions,
требаат еластични дефиниции
cannot happen without men's involvement.
може да се случи без вклученост на мажите.
промената,
coming together, with the support of men,
дојдат заедно, со поддршка на мажите,
for conversation, for change,
за промена
to just listen to each other
заедно само за да се ислушаат
that we have with women,
кои ги имаме со жените,
my daughter sometimes,
ќерка ми:
accha lagta hai varna bura lagta hai".
accha lagta hai varna bura lagta hai".
сторил тоа.]
aur accha nahi bhi lagta hai
не се чувствувам добро.]
tumhare ko lagta hai, right?
unfulfilled stories, desires,
неисполнети приказни, желби,
we think these girls are better off?
претпоставуваме дека им е подобро?
and that's why I couldn't stop,
да престанам,
and no plans to write a book.
и не планирав да пишувам книга.
and I thought, "I'm done,"
мислев завршив.
you well know from Delhi,
to them to be a woman and man
жена или маж.
but like my mother's generation.
генерацијата на мојата мајка.
and another college.
на друг.
сама,
and hides her behavior,
однесување
with what Deepa is saying?
тоа што го вели Депа?
вели:
You say this to me."
Ова ми го викаш мене.
Ние не се прилагодуваме веќе, во ред?
We are not adjusting anymore, OK?
Имајте пријатна вечер. Ви благодарам.
Have a good evening. Thank you.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Deepa Narayan - Social psychologistDeepa Narayan is an international advisor on poverty, gender and development with more than 25 years of experience working at the World Bank, the UN and NGOs.
Why you should listen
Deepa Narayan is a social scientist and author of Chup: Breaking the Silence About India’s Women. Until 2008, she served as Senior Advisor in the vice president's office of the Poverty Reduction Group of the World Bank.
While at the World Bank, Narayan advanced program development and evaluation and conducted two studies that resulted in key policy changes: "The Voices of the Poor," which examined the experiences of 60,000 women and men from 60 countries around the world; and "Moving Out of Poverty: Understanding Freedom, Democracy and Growth from the Bottom Up," which studied people from 15 countries to understand how some people climb out of poverty while others remain stuck. Both studies highlight how policy mindsets and unexamined assumptions about impoverished people distort policy decisions.
Narayan's current interests include shared and sustainable living, reducing inequality, making corporate social responsibility a reality, ethical development and economic policies that create wealth for poor people. She holds a PhD in psychology and anthropology and has authored or coauthored more than 15 books.
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