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Sarah Gray: How my son's short life made a lasting difference
Sara Grej (Sarah Gray): Kako je kratak život mog sina napravio dugoročni rezultat
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Nakon što je Tomasu, nerođenom sinu Sare Grej, utvrđena dijagnoza anencefalije, smrtonosne bolesti, ona je odlučila da porodičnu tragediju preobrazi u izuzetan poklon i da donira njegove organe za naučna istraživanja. U ovoj pohvali životu i otkrićima, ona otkriva svoje putovanje na kom je tražila smisao u gubitku i širi poruku nade drugim porodicama koje su u žalosti.
Sarah Gray - Researchers' dream donator
Sarah Gray found meaning in tragic loss by donating the organs of her newborn son to advance scientific research. Full bio
Sarah Gray found meaning in tragic loss by donating the organs of her newborn son to advance scientific research. Full bio
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00:13
I was three months pregnant with twins
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Bila sam tri meseca trudna s blizancima
00:16
when my husband Ross and I
went to my second sonogram.
went to my second sonogram.
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kad smo moj suprug Ros i ja
otišli na moj drugi ultrazvuk.
otišli na moj drugi ultrazvuk.
00:21
I was 35 years old at the time,
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Imala sam 35 godina tada,
00:23
and I knew that that meant
we had a higher risk
we had a higher risk
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i znala sam da zbog toga
postoji veći rizik
postoji veći rizik
00:26
of having a child with a birth defect.
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da dobijemo dete sa urođenim manama.
00:29
So, Ross and I researched
the standard birth defects,
the standard birth defects,
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Ros i ja smo proučili
standardne anomalije
standardne anomalije
00:32
and we felt reasonably prepared.
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i mislili smo da smo prilično spremni.
00:35
Well, nothing would have prepared us
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Ništa nije moglo da nas pripremi
00:37
for the bizarre diagnosis
that we were about to face.
that we were about to face.
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za bizarnu dijagnozu
s kojom ćemo se suočiti.
s kojom ćemo se suočiti.
00:42
The doctor explained
that one of our twins, Thomas,
that one of our twins, Thomas,
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Lekar nam je objasnio
da jedan od blizanaca, Tomas,
da jedan od blizanaca, Tomas,
00:45
had a fatal birth defect
called anencephaly.
called anencephaly.
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ima smrtonosnu anomaliju
koja se zove anencefalija.
koja se zove anencefalija.
00:49
This means that his brain
was not formed correctly
was not formed correctly
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To znači da mu mozak
nije bio pravilno formiran
nije bio pravilno formiran
00:52
because part of his skull was missing.
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jer mu je nedostajao deo lobanje.
00:55
Babies with this diagnosis
typically die in utero
typically die in utero
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Bebe s ovom dijagnozom
obično umiru u materici
obično umiru u materici
00:59
or within a few minutes, hours
or days of being born.
or days of being born.
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ili kroz nekoliko minuta,
sati ili dana po rođenju.
sati ili dana po rođenju.
01:05
But the other twin, Callum,
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Međutim, drugi blizanac, Kalum,
01:08
appeared to be healthy,
as far as the doctor could tell,
as far as the doctor could tell,
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činio se zdrav,
koliko je lekar mogao da kaže,
koliko je lekar mogao da kaže,
01:12
and these twins were identical,
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a ovi blizanci su bili identični,
01:16
genetically identical.
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genetski identični.
01:20
So after a lot of questions about
how this could have possibly happened,
how this could have possibly happened,
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Posle mnogo pitanja
o tome kako se to moglo desiti,
o tome kako se to moglo desiti,
01:24
a selective reduction was mentioned,
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pominjala se i selektivna redukcija,
01:27
and while this procedure
was not impossible,
was not impossible,
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ali, iako ta procedura nije bila nemoguća,
01:30
it posed some unique risks
for the healthy twin and for me,
for the healthy twin and for me,
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nosila je naročite rizike
za zdravog blizanca i za mene,
za zdravog blizanca i za mene,
01:35
so we decided to carry
the pregnancy to term.
the pregnancy to term.
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pa smo odlučili
da iznesem trudnoću do kraja.
da iznesem trudnoću do kraja.
01:39
So there I was, three months pregnant,
with two trimesters ahead of me,
with two trimesters ahead of me,
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I tako, tri meseca trudna,
s dva tromesečja preda mnom,
s dva tromesečja preda mnom,
01:43
and I had to find a way to manage
my blood pressure and my stress.
my blood pressure and my stress.
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morala sam da nađem način
da kontrolišem krvni pritisak i stres.
da kontrolišem krvni pritisak i stres.
01:49
And it felt like having a roommate
point a loaded gun at you for six months.
point a loaded gun at you for six months.
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To je bilo kao kad bi vaš cimer
šest meseci držao pištolj uperen u vas.
šest meseci držao pištolj uperen u vas.
01:55
But I stared down
the barrel of that gun for so long
the barrel of that gun for so long
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Toliko dugo sam gledala u cev tog pištolja
02:00
that I saw a light
at the end of the tunnel.
at the end of the tunnel.
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da sam ugledala svetlost na kraju tunela.
02:03
While there was nothing we could do
to prevent the tragedy,
to prevent the tragedy,
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Iako ništa nismo mogli da učinimo
kako bismo sprečili tragediju,
kako bismo sprečili tragediju,
02:06
I wanted to find a way
for Thomas's brief life
for Thomas's brief life
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želela sam da nađem način
da Tomasov kratki život
da Tomasov kratki život
02:09
to have some kind of positive impact.
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ostavi nekakav pozitivni trag.
02:11
So I asked my nurse about organ,
eye and tissue donation.
eye and tissue donation.
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Pitala sam medicinsku sestru
za donaciju organa, očiju i tkiva.
za donaciju organa, očiju i tkiva.
02:16
She connected with our local
organ-procurement organization,
organ-procurement organization,
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Spojila me s našom lokalnom organizacijom
za transplantaciju organa,
za transplantaciju organa,
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the Washington Regional
Transplant Community.
Transplant Community.
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Vašingtonskom regionalnom
zajednicom za transplantaciju.
zajednicom za transplantaciju.
02:23
WRTC explained to me
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Tamo su mi objasnili
02:25
that Thomas would probably be too small
at birth to donate for transplant,
at birth to donate for transplant,
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da će Tomas verovatno biti
suviše mali na rođenju
suviše mali na rođenju
da bio donor za transplantaciju,
02:30
and I was shocked:
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i bila sam šokirana:
nisam ni znala
da vas zbog toga mogu odbiti.
da vas zbog toga mogu odbiti.
02:31
I didn't even know
you could be rejected for that.
you could be rejected for that.
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02:33
But they said that he would be
a good candidate to donate for research.
a good candidate to donate for research.
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Ipak, rekli su da bio dobar kandidat
za doniranje u istraživačke svhe.
za doniranje u istraživačke svhe.
02:38
This helped me see Thomas in a new light.
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Uspela sam da ga vidim u novom svetlu.
02:40
As opposed to just a victim of a disease,
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Nije više bio samo žrtva bolesti,
02:43
I started to see him as a possible key
to unlock a medical mystery.
to unlock a medical mystery.
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počela sam da ga posmatram
kao rešenje za neku medicinsku misteriju.
kao rešenje za neku medicinsku misteriju.
02:48
On March 23, 2010,
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Dana 23. marta 2010. godine,
02:51
the twins were born,
and they were both born alive.
and they were both born alive.
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rođeni su blizanci
i obojica su rođeni živi.
i obojica su rođeni živi.
02:55
And just like the doctor said,
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Baš kako je lekar rekao,
02:57
Thomas was missing
the top part of his skull,
the top part of his skull,
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Tomasu je nedostajao gornji deo lobanje,
03:00
but he could nurse,
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ali je mogao da sisa,
03:02
drink from a bottle,
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pije iz flašice,
03:03
cuddle and grab our fingers
like a normal baby,
like a normal baby,
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mazi se i hvata za naše prste
kao normalna beba,
kao normalna beba,
03:07
and he slept in our arms.
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i spavao je na našim rukama.
03:10
After six days, Thomas died in Ross's arms
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Nakon šest dana,
Tomas je umro u Rosovim rukama,
Tomas je umro u Rosovim rukama,
03:13
surrounded by our family.
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okružen našom porodicom.
03:16
We called WRTC, who sent a van to our home
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Pozvali smo Zajednicu za transplantaciju,
poslali su kombi našoj kući i odneli ga
u Nacionalni dečji medicinski centar.
u Nacionalni dečji medicinski centar.
03:21
and brought him to Children's
National Medical Center.
National Medical Center.
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03:24
A few hours later, we got a call to say
that the recovery was a success,
that the recovery was a success,
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Posle nekoliko sati, javili su nam
da je uzimanje bilo uspešno
da je uzimanje bilo uspešno
03:28
and Thomas's donations
would be going to four different places.
would be going to four different places.
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i da će Tomasove donacije otići
na četiri različita mesta.
na četiri različita mesta.
03:32
His cord blood would go
to Duke University.
to Duke University.
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Umbilikalna krv
odlazi na Univerzitet Djuk.
odlazi na Univerzitet Djuk.
03:35
His liver would go to a cell-therapy
company called Cytonet in Durham.
company called Cytonet in Durham.
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Jetra odlazi u Daram, u kompaniju
Sajtonet koja se bavi ćelijskom terapijom.
Sajtonet koja se bavi ćelijskom terapijom.
03:40
His corneas would go
to Schepens Eye Research Institute,
to Schepens Eye Research Institute,
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Njegove rožnjače odlaze
u Institut za istraživanje očiju Skepens,
u Institut za istraživanje očiju Skepens,
03:43
which is part of Harvard Medical School,
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koji je deo Medicinskog fakulteta Harvard,
03:45
and his retinas would go
to the University of Pennsylvania.
to the University of Pennsylvania.
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a njegove mrežnjače odlaze
na Pensilvanijski univerzitet.
na Pensilvanijski univerzitet.
03:50
A few days later, we had a funeral
with our immediate family,
with our immediate family,
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Nakon nekoliko dana, sahranili smo ga
u krugu najbliže porodice,
u krugu najbliže porodice,
03:54
including baby Callum,
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uključujući i bebu Kaluma,
03:56
and we basically
closed this chapter in our lives.
closed this chapter in our lives.
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i u suštini smo zatvorili ovo poglavlje
u našim životima,
u našim životima,
03:59
But I did find myself wondering,
what's happening now?
what's happening now?
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ali sam se pitala šta se sada događa.
04:03
What are the researchers learning?
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Šta istraživači saznaju?
04:05
And was it even worthwhile to donate?
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Da li je uopšte vredelo donirati?
04:09
WRTC invited Ross and I
to a grief retreat,
to a grief retreat,
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Iz Zajednice su pozvali Rosa i mene
na radionicu za suočavanje s tugom,
na radionicu za suočavanje s tugom,
04:12
and we met about
15 other grieving families
15 other grieving families
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gde smo upoznali
nekih 15 drugih porodica u žalosti
nekih 15 drugih porodica u žalosti
04:15
who had donated their loved one's
organs for transplant.
organs for transplant.
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koje su donirale organe svojih najbližih.
04:19
Some of them had even received letters
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Neki od njih su čak dobili pisma
04:21
from the people who received
their loved one's organs,
their loved one's organs,
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od ljudi koji su primili organe
njihovih najbližih,
njihovih najbližih,
04:24
saying thank you.
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u kojima se zahvaljuju.
Saznala sam da su čak mogli da se sretnu
ako obe strane potpišu izjavu o odricanju,
ako obe strane potpišu izjavu o odricanju,
04:27
I learned that they
could even meet each other
could even meet each other
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04:29
if they'd both sign a waiver,
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04:30
almost like an open adoption.
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nešto kao otvoreno usvajanje.
04:32
And I was so excited,
I thought maybe I could write a letter
I thought maybe I could write a letter
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Bila sam uzbuđena, pomislila sam
da možda napišem pismo
da možda napišem pismo
ili da dobijem pismo
i saznam šta se desilo.
i saznam šta se desilo.
04:35
or I could get a letter
and learn about what happened.
and learn about what happened.
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Razočarala sam se kad sam čula
04:38
But I was disappointed to learn
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da je ovo dostupno samo onima
koji doniraju za transplantaciju.
koji doniraju za transplantaciju.
04:39
that this process only exists
for people who donate for transplant.
for people who donate for transplant.
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04:43
So I was jealous.
I had transplant envy, I guess.
I had transplant envy, I guess.
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Bila sam ljubomorna.
Zavidela sam na transplantaciji, izgleda.
Zavidela sam na transplantaciji, izgleda.
04:46
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:48
But over the years that followed,
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Međutim, tokom godina koje su usledile,
04:50
I learned a lot more about donation,
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mnogo sam dodatno naučila o donaciji
04:52
and I even got a job in the field.
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i čak sam dobila i posao u toj oblasti.
04:54
And I came up with an idea.
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Došla sam na jednu ideju.
04:57
I wrote a letter that started out,
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Napisala sam pismo koje je otpočinjalo
sa „Poštovani istraživaču“
sa „Poštovani istraživaču“
04:59
"Dear Researcher."
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05:02
I explained who I was,
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Objasnila sam ko sam
05:04
and I asked if they could tell me
why they requested infant retinas
why they requested infant retinas
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i zamolila ih da mi kažu
zašto su im bile potrebne dečje mrežnjače
zašto su im bile potrebne dečje mrežnjače
05:08
in March of 2010,
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marta 2010. godine
05:10
and I asked if my family
could visit their lab.
could visit their lab.
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i zatražila posetu
moje porodice laboratoriji.
moje porodice laboratoriji.
05:13
I emailed it to the eye bank
that arranged the donation,
that arranged the donation,
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Poslala sam imejl banci očiju
koja je ugovorila donaciju,
koja je ugovorila donaciju,
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the Old Dominion Eye Foundation,
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Očnoj fondaciji Old Dominion,
05:19
and asked if they could
send it to the right person.
send it to the right person.
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i zamolila ih da ga pošalju pravoj osobi.
05:22
They said that they had
never done this before,
never done this before,
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Rekli su mi da to nikad pre nisu radili
05:24
and they couldn't guarantee a response,
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i da ne mogu da garantuju odgovor,
05:26
but they wouldn't be an obstacle,
and they would deliver it.
and they would deliver it.
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ali da oni neće biti prepreka
i da će ga proslediti.
i da će ga proslediti.
05:30
Two days later, I got a response
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Dva dana kasnije, dobila sam odgovor
05:32
from Dr. Arupa Ganguly
of the University of Pennsylvania.
of the University of Pennsylvania.
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od Dr Arupe Ganguli
sa Univerziteta u Pensilvaniji.
sa Univerziteta u Pensilvaniji.
05:36
She thanked me for the donation,
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Zahvalila mi se na donaciji,
05:38
and she explained
that she is studying retinoblastoma,
that she is studying retinoblastoma,
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i objasnila da proučava retinoblastom,
05:41
which is a deadly cancer of the retina
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smrtonosni rak mrežnjače
05:42
that affects children
under the age of five,
under the age of five,
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koji pogađa decu mlađu od pet godina,
05:45
and she said that yes,
we were invited to visit her lab.
we were invited to visit her lab.
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rekla je da smo pozvani
da posetimo njenu laboratoriju.
da posetimo njenu laboratoriju.
05:48
So next we talked on the phone,
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Posle smo razgovarale telefonom
05:50
and one of the first things she said to me
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i jedna od prvih stvari koje mi je rekla
jeste da ne može ni da zamisli
kako se osećamo,
kako se osećamo,
05:52
was that she couldn't possibly
imagine how we felt,
imagine how we felt,
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05:55
and that Thomas had given
the ultimate sacrifice,
the ultimate sacrifice,
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da je Tomas dao najveću moguću žrtvu
05:57
and that she seemed
to feel indebted to us.
to feel indebted to us.
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i da se oseća dužnom prema nama.
06:00
So I said, "Nothing against your study,
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Rekla sam: „Nemam ništa
protiv vašeg istraživanja,
protiv vašeg istraživanja,
06:03
but we didn't actually pick it.
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ali nismo ga mi izabrali.
06:05
We donated to the system,
and the system chose your study.
and the system chose your study.
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Donirali smo sistemu
i sistem je izabrao vaše istraživanje.“
i sistem je izabrao vaše istraživanje.“
06:09
I said, "And second of all,
bad things happen to children every day,
bad things happen to children every day,
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Rekla sam: „Kao drugo,
deci se svakodnevno dešavaju loše stvari,
deci se svakodnevno dešavaju loše stvari,
i da vam nisu trebale ove mrežnjače,
06:14
and if you didn't want these retinas,
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one bi sad verovatno bile
zakopane u zemlji.
zakopane u zemlji.
06:16
they would probably
be buried in the ground right now.
be buried in the ground right now.
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06:18
So to be able to participate in your study
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Mogućnost da učestvujemo
u vašem istraživanju
u vašem istraživanju
06:22
gives Thomas's life
a new layer of meaning.
a new layer of meaning.
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daje Tomasovom životu novo značenje.
06:25
So, never feel guilty
about using this tissue."
about using this tissue."
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Zato nikad nemojte osećati krivicu
što koristite ovo tkivo.
što koristite ovo tkivo.
06:29
Next, she explained to me how rare it was.
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Onda mi je objasnila koliko je to retko.
06:32
She had placed a request
for this tissue six years earlier
for this tissue six years earlier
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Šest godina pre toga
je podnela zahtev za tkivo
je podnela zahtev za tkivo
06:36
with the National Disease
Research Interchange.
Research Interchange.
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Nacionalnoj razmeni
za istraživanja bolesti.
za istraživanja bolesti.
06:39
She got only one sample of tissue
that fit her criteria,
that fit her criteria,
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Dobila je samo jedan uzorak tkiva
koje ispunjava njene zahteve,
koje ispunjava njene zahteve,
06:42
and it was Thomas's.
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a to je bilo Tomasovo.
06:44
Next, we arranged a date for me
to come visit the lab,
to come visit the lab,
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Onda smo ugovorile
datum posete laboratoriji
datum posete laboratoriji
06:48
and we chose March 23, 2015,
which was the twins' fifth birthday.
which was the twins' fifth birthday.
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i izabrale smo 23. mart 2015. godine,
što je bio peti rođendan blizanaca.
što je bio peti rođendan blizanaca.
06:54
After we hung up, I emailed her
some pictures of Thomas and Callum,
some pictures of Thomas and Callum,
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Kad smo završile razgovor,
poslala sam joj Tomasove i Kalumove slike,
poslala sam joj Tomasove i Kalumove slike,
06:58
and a few weeks later,
we received this T-shirt in the mail.
we received this T-shirt in the mail.
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i posle nekoliko nedelja,
ova majica nam je stigla poštom.
ova majica nam je stigla poštom.
07:03
A few months later, Ross, Callum
and I piled in the car
and I piled in the car
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Posle nekoliko meseci,
Ros, Kalum i ja smo seli u kola
Ros, Kalum i ja smo seli u kola
07:05
and we went for a road trip.
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i otišli na put.
07:07
We met Arupa and her staff,
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Upoznali smo Arupu i njene saradnike.
07:10
and Arupa said that when I told her
not to feel guilty, that it was a relief,
not to feel guilty, that it was a relief,
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Arupa je rekla da je osetila olakšanje
kad sam joj poručila
da se ne oseća krivom,
da se ne oseća krivom,
07:14
and that she hadn't seen it
from our perspective.
from our perspective.
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i da ranije to nije posmatrala
iz našeg ugla.
iz našeg ugla.
07:18
She also explained that Thomas
had a secret code name.
had a secret code name.
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Takođe je objasnila
da Tomas ima tajno šifrovano ime.
da Tomas ima tajno šifrovano ime.
07:22
The same way Henrietta Lacks
is called HeLa,
is called HeLa,
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Kao što se Henrijeta Laks zove HeLa,
07:26
Thomas was called RES 360.
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Tomasa su zvali RES 360.
07:29
RES means research,
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RES označava istraživanje,
07:30
and 360 means he was the 360th specimen
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a 360 znači da je bio 360. uzorak
07:34
over the course of about 10 years.
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u periodu od otprilike 10 godina.
07:37
She also shared with us a unique document,
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Takođe nam je pokazala
jedinstven dokument,
jedinstven dokument,
07:41
and it was the shipping label
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a to je bila oznaka isporuke
07:43
that sent his retinas
from DC to Philadelphia.
from DC to Philadelphia.
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u kojoj su njegove mrežnjače poslate
iz Vašingtona u Filadelfiju.
iz Vašingtona u Filadelfiju.
07:48
This shipping label
is like an heirloom to us now.
is like an heirloom to us now.
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Ova oznaka isporuke
nam je sada poput nasledstva.
nam je sada poput nasledstva.
07:52
It's the same way that a military medal
or a wedding certificate might be.
or a wedding certificate might be.
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Slično kao što to mogu biti
vojnička medalja ili venčani list.
vojnička medalja ili venčani list.
07:56
Arupa also explained that she is using
Thomas's retina and his RNA
Thomas's retina and his RNA
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Arupa je takođe objasnila da koristi
Tomasovu mrežnjaču i njegovu RNK
Tomasovu mrežnjaču i njegovu RNK
08:02
to try to inactivate the gene
that causes tumor formation,
that causes tumor formation,
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kako bi pokušala da deaktivira gen
koji uzrokuje formiranje tumora,
koji uzrokuje formiranje tumora,
08:05
and she even showed us some results
that were based on RES 360.
that were based on RES 360.
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i čak nam je pokazala neke rezultate
zasnovane na RES 360.
zasnovane na RES 360.
08:09
Then she took us to the freezer
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Onda nas je odvela do zamrzivača
08:11
and she showed us the two samples
that she still has
that she still has
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i pokazala nam dva uzorka
koja još uvek ima,
koja još uvek ima,
08:15
that are still labeled RES 360.
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a koji još uvek nose oznaku RES 360.
08:17
There's two little ones left.
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Ostala su još dva malena uzorka.
08:19
She said she saved it
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Rekla je da ih je sačuvala
08:21
because she doesn't know
when she might get more.
when she might get more.
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jer ne zna kad bi mogla dobiti još.
08:24
After this, we went to the conference room
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Onda smo otišli u salu za konferencije,
08:26
and we relaxed and we had lunch together,
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opustili smo se i ručali zajedno,
08:29
and the lab staff presented Callum
with a birthday gift.
with a birthday gift.
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a osoblje laboratorije je Kalumu
dalo rođendanski poklon.
dalo rođendanski poklon.
08:34
It was a child's lab kit.
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Dečju laboratorijsku opremu.
08:36
And they also offered him an internship.
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Takođe su mu ponudili stažiranje.
08:38
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
08:42
So in closing, I have two
simple messages today.
simple messages today.
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Da zaključim, danas imam
dve jednostavne poruke.
dve jednostavne poruke.
08:45
One is that most of us probably
don't think about donating to research.
don't think about donating to research.
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Jedna je da većina nas verovatno
ne razmišlja o doniranju za istraživanja.
ne razmišlja o doniranju za istraživanja.
08:49
I know I didn't.
I think I'm a normal person.
I think I'm a normal person.
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Znam da ja nisam.
Mislim da sam normalna osoba.
Mislim da sam normalna osoba.
Ipak, učinila sam to.
08:52
But I did it.
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Bilo je to dobro iskustvo
i preporučujem ga.
i preporučujem ga.
08:53
It was a good experience,
and I recommend it,
and I recommend it,
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To je mojoj porodici donelo mir.
08:55
and it brought my family a lot of peace.
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08:57
And second is if you work
with human tissue
with human tissue
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A druga je da,
ako radite s ljudskim tkivom
ako radite s ljudskim tkivom
09:00
and you wonder about the donor
and about the family,
and about the family,
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i razmišljate o donoru i porodici,
09:03
write them a letter.
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napišite im pismo.
09:04
Tell them you received it,
tell them what you're working on,
tell them what you're working on,
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Recite im da ste ga primili,
recite im na čemu radite
recite im na čemu radite
i pozovite ih u posetu,
09:07
and invite them to visit your lab,
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jer ta poseta može biti veća nagrada vama
09:09
because that visit may be
even more gratifying for you
even more gratifying for you
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09:11
than it is for them.
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nego što je njima.
09:12
And I'd also like to ask you a favor.
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Takođe bih želela da zatražim uslugu.
09:14
If you're ever successful
in arranging one of these visits,
in arranging one of these visits,
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Ako budete uspešni
u ugovaranju ovakvih poseta,
u ugovaranju ovakvih poseta,
09:17
please tell me about it.
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molim vas, obavestite me.
Druga strana moje porodične priče
09:20
The other part of my family's story
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jeste to da smo na kraju posetili
sve četiri ustanove
sve četiri ustanove
09:21
is that we ended up visiting
all four facilities
all four facilities
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09:24
that received Thomas's donations.
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koje su primile Tomasove donacije.
09:26
And we met amazing people
doing inspiring work.
doing inspiring work.
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Upoznali smo divne ljude
koji se bave inspirativnim poslom.
koji se bave inspirativnim poslom.
09:30
The way I see it now
is that Thomas got into Harvard,
is that Thomas got into Harvard,
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Način na koji sada to posmatram
jeste da je Tomas ušao na Harvard,
jeste da je Tomas ušao na Harvard,
09:35
Duke and Penn --
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Djuk i Pen.
09:37
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:40
And he has a job at Cytonet,
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Dobio je posao u Sajtonetu,
09:43
and he has colleagues and he has coworkers
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ima kolege i saradnike
09:45
who are in the top of their fields.
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koji su vrhunski stručnjaci
09:47
And they need him
in order to do their job.
in order to do their job.
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i on im je potreban
da bi uradili svoj posao.
da bi uradili svoj posao.
09:51
And a life that once seemed
brief and insignificant
brief and insignificant
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Život koji se nekad činio
kratak i beznačajan
kratak i beznačajan
09:55
revealed itself to be vital,
everlasting and relevant.
everlasting and relevant.
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pokazao se kao suštinski važan,
večan i značajan.
večan i značajan.
10:02
And I only hope that my life
can be as relevant.
can be as relevant.
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Nadam se da moj život
može postati isto toliko važan.
može postati isto toliko važan.
10:05
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
10:06
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sarah Gray - Researchers' dream donatorSarah Gray found meaning in tragic loss by donating the organs of her newborn son to advance scientific research.
Why you should listen
While struggling to cope with the loss of their infant son Thomas, Sarah Gray and her family met the researchers who received his eye, liver and cord blood donations. This journey garnered national and international media attention and brought profound peace to the Gray family.
Gray is the director of marketing and public affairs for the American Association of Tissue Banks and a member of the AATB Donor Family Guidance Document Committee. She is author of a forthcoming memoir from HarperOne, A Life Everlasting: The Extraordinary Story of One Boy's Gift to Medical Science.
Gray holds a BA in Communications from Marquette University and a Masters in Public Communication from American University, where her capstone topic was nondirected kidney donation. She lives in Washington, DC with her husband Ross and children, Callum and Jocelyn.
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