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Caroline Paul: To raise brave girls, encourage adventure
Caroline Paul: Za vzgojo pogumnih deklic, spodbujajte avanturo
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Pogumna dekleta rolkajo, plezajo po drevesih, se plazijo, padajo, podrgnejo kolena in se takoj poberejo - in zrastejo v pogumne ženske. Spoznajte kako zanetiti malo produktivnega tveganja in vzgojiti samozavestna dekleta z zgodbami in nasveti ki jih pripoveduje gasilka, jadralna padalka in vsesplošna avanturistka Caroline Paul.
Caroline Paul - Author
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
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00:12
When I was a kid, I was obsessed
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
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Ko sem bila otrok, sem bila obsedena
z Guinnessovo knjigo rekordov,
z Guinnessovo knjigo rekordov,
00:17
and I really wanted
to set a world record myself.
to set a world record myself.
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in resnično sem tudi sama
želela postaviti rekord.
želela postaviti rekord.
00:20
But there was just one small problem:
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Obstajal je samo en majhen problem:
00:23
I had absolutely no talent.
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imela nisem absolutno nobenega talenta.
00:26
So I decided to set
a world record in something
a world record in something
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Zato sem se odločila
postaviti rekord v nečem,
postaviti rekord v nečem,
00:29
that demanded absolutely no skill at all.
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kar ni zahtevalo popolnoma nobene veščine.
00:33
I decided to set a world record
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Odločila sem se, da postavim rekord
00:36
in crawling.
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v plazenju.
00:39
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:42
Now, the record at the time
was 12 and a half miles,
was 12 and a half miles,
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Takrat je rekord znašal 20km,
00:47
and for some reason,
this seemed totally manageable.
this seemed totally manageable.
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in to se mi je zdelo čisto izvedljivo.
00:51
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
Rekrutirala sem prijateljico Anne
00:54
I recruited my friend Anne,
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00:56
and together we decided,
we didn't even need to train.
we didn't even need to train.
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in skupaj sva se odločili,
da nama niti ni treba trenirati.
da nama niti ni treba trenirati.
00:59
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:03
And on the day of our record attempt,
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Na dan najinega poskusa
01:04
we put furniture pads
on the outside of our good luck jeans
on the outside of our good luck jeans
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podiranja rekorda sva na svoje
srečne kavbojke nalepili filc
srečne kavbojke nalepili filc
01:08
and we set off,
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in se odpravili,
01:10
and right away, we were in trouble,
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in že takoj so se pojavile težave,
01:13
because the denim was against our skin
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ker se je denim drgnil on najino kožo
01:15
and it began to chafe,
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in se začel cefrati,
01:17
and soon our knees were being chewed up.
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in najina kolena so bila kmalu oguljena.
01:20
Hours in,
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Po nekaj urah
01:23
it began to rain.
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je začelo deževati.
01:25
Then, Anne dropped out.
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Potem je Anne odstopila.
01:29
Then, it got dark.
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Potem je postalo temno.
01:32
Now, by now, my knees
were bleeding through my jeans,
were bleeding through my jeans,
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Torej, sedaj so moja kolena
krvavela skozi moje kavbojke,
krvavela skozi moje kavbojke,
01:35
and I was hallucinating from the cold
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in imela sem privide zaradi hladu
01:37
and the pain and the monotony.
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in bolečine in monotonije.
01:40
And to give you an idea
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
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In če vam poizkusim pričarati
občutek trpljenja, ki sem ga prestajala,
občutek trpljenja, ki sem ga prestajala,
01:45
the first lap around
the high school track took 10 minutes.
the high school track took 10 minutes.
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prvi krog okoli šolske proge
sem naredila v desetih minutah.
sem naredila v desetih minutah.
01:49
The last lap took almost 30.
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Za zadnjega sem potrebovala
skoraj pol ure.
skoraj pol ure.
01:54
After 12 hours of crawling,
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Po dvanajstih urah plazenja,
01:58
I stopped,
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sem se ustavila,
01:59
and I had gone eight and a half miles.
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in preplazila sem 13,5 km.
02:03
So I was short of
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
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Torej nisem uspela podreti
20 km dolgega rekorda.
20 km dolgega rekorda.
02:07
Now, for many years, I thought
this was a story of abject failure,
this was a story of abject failure,
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Veliko let sem mislila, da je to
zgodba o popolnem polomu,
zgodba o popolnem polomu,
02:12
but today I see it differently,
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ampak danes na to gledam drugače,
02:14
because when I was
attempting the world record,
attempting the world record,
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ker ko sem poizkušala
postaviti svetovni rekord,
postaviti svetovni rekord,
02:17
I was doing three things.
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sem delala tri stvari,
02:19
I was getting outside my comfort zone,
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podajala sem se izven
svoje cone udobja,
svoje cone udobja,
02:21
I was calling upon my resilience,
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uporabila sem svojo trmo,
02:23
and I was finding confidence in myself
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in našla sem zaupanje vase
02:26
and my own decisions.
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in svoje odločitve.
02:28
I didn't know it then,
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Takrat tega nisem vedela,
02:29
but those are not
the attributes of failure.
the attributes of failure.
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ampak to niso lastnosti neuspeha.
02:33
Those are the attributes of bravery.
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To so lastnosti poguma.
02:37
Now, in 1989, at the age of 26,
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Leta 1989, pri starosti 26 let,
02:39
I became a San Francisco firefighter,
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sem postala gasilka v San Franciscu,
02:42
and I was the 15th woman
in a department of 1,500 men.
in a department of 1,500 men.
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in bila sem petnajsta ženska
v oddelku s 1500 moškimi.
v oddelku s 1500 moškimi.
02:47
(Applause)
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(Aplavz)
02:53
And as you can imagine, when I arrived
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Lahko si predstavljate, ko sem prišla,
02:55
there were many doubts
about whether we could do the job.
about whether we could do the job.
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jih je veliko dvomilo, da bom
lahko opravljala službo.
lahko opravljala službo.
02:57
So even though I was a 5'10",
150-pound collegiate rower,
150-pound collegiate rower,
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Čeprav sem bila 178 cm visoka,
70 kilogramov težka akademska veslačica,
70 kilogramov težka akademska veslačica,
03:03
and someone who could endure
12 hours of searing knee pain --
12 hours of searing knee pain --
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in nekdo, ki lahko prenese
12 ur neznosne bolečine v kolenih -
12 ur neznosne bolečine v kolenih -
03:07
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:09
I knew I still had to prove
my strength and fitness.
my strength and fitness.
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sem vedela, da moram svojo moč
in pripravljenost še dokazati.
in pripravljenost še dokazati.
03:12
So one day a call came in for a fire,
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Nekega dne smo dobili klic za požar,
03:14
and sure enough,
when my engine group pulled up,
when my engine group pulled up,
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in seveda, ko je naš avto prispel,
03:16
there was black smoke billowing
from a building off an alleyway.
from a building off an alleyway.
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se je iz hiše v ulici že valil črn dim.
03:20
And I was with a big guy named Skip,
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Delala sem z velikim možakom
po imenu Skip,
po imenu Skip,
03:22
and he was on the nozzle,
and I was right behind,
and I was right behind,
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on je bil na ročki, jaz pa takoj za njim,
03:25
and it was a typical sort of fire.
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in bil je tipičen požar.
03:27
It was smoky, it was hot,
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Bilo je polno dima, bilo je vroče,
03:30
and all of a sudden,
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in kar naenkrat
03:32
there was an explosion,
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je prišlo do eksplozije.
03:34
and Skip and I were blown backwards,
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Mene in Skipa je odneslo nazaj,
03:36
my mask was knocked sideways,
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mojo masko je izbilo na stran,
03:38
and there was this moment of confusion.
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obstala sva v trenutku zmedenosti.
03:40
And then I picked myself up,
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In potem sem se pobrala,
03:44
I groped for the nozzle,
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zagrabila ročko,
03:46
and I did what a firefighter
was supposed to do:
was supposed to do:
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in naredila, kar bi
moral narediti vsak gasilec:
moral narediti vsak gasilec:
03:48
I lunged forward,
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Pognala sem se naprej,
03:50
opened up the water
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odprla vodo
03:51
and I tackled the fire myself.
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in se sama borila z ognjem.
03:54
The explosion had been caused
by a water heater,
by a water heater,
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Eksplozijo je povzročil grelnik vode,
tako da nihče ni bil poškodovan,
in konec koncev ni bilo, ne vem kaj,
in konec koncev ni bilo, ne vem kaj,
03:57
so nobody was hurt,
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
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03:59
but later Skip came up to me and said,
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ampak kasneje je Skip
prišel do mene in rekel:
prišel do mene in rekel:
04:03
"Nice job, Caroline,"
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"Dobro opravljeno, Caroline,"
04:04
in this surprised sort of voice.
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s tem presenečenim glasom.
04:07
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:09
And I was confused, because
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
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Bila sem zmedena, ker požar
ni bil fizično zahteven,
ni bil fizično zahteven,
04:13
so why was he looking at me
with something like astonishment?
with something like astonishment?
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zakaj me je potem gledal tako presenečeno?
04:18
And then it became clear:
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In potem mi je postalo jasno:
04:20
Skip, who was by the way a really nice guy
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Skip, ki je bil mimogrede res super fant,
04:23
and an excellent firefighter,
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in odličen gasilec,
04:25
not only thought
that women could not be strong,
that women could not be strong,
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ne samo, da je mislil, da
ženske ne morejo biti močne,
ženske ne morejo biti močne,
04:28
he thought that they
could not be brave either.
could not be brave either.
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mislil je tudi, da ne morejo biti pogumne.
04:32
And he wasn't the only one.
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In ni bil edini.
04:35
Friends, acquaintances and strangers,
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Prijatelji, znanci in tujci,
04:37
men and women throughout my career
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moški in ženske skozi celotno mojo kariero
04:39
ask me over and over,
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so me venomer spraševali:
04:41
"Caroline, all that fire, all that danger,
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"Caroline, ves ta ogenj, vsa ta nevarnost,
04:45
aren't you scared?"
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se nič ne bojiš?"
Odkrito povedano, nikoli nisem slišala,
da bi kdo to vprašal moškega gasilca.
da bi kdo to vprašal moškega gasilca.
04:47
Honestly, I never heard
a male firefighter asked this.
a male firefighter asked this.
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04:50
And I became curious.
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In postala sem zvedava.
04:53
Why wasn't bravery expected of women?
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Zakaj se od žensk ne pričakuje poguma?
04:57
Now, the answer began to come
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No, odgovor se je pojavil,
04:59
when a friend of mine lamented to me
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ko mi je prijateljica zaupala,
05:01
that her young daughter
was a big scaredy-cat,
was a big scaredy-cat,
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da je njena hčerka ena velika boječka,
05:03
and so I began to notice,
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in tako sem začela opažati,
05:05
and yes, the daughter was anxious,
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in da, njena hči je bila prestrašena,
05:08
but more than that,
the parents were anxious.
the parents were anxious.
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vendar še huje,
njena starša sta bila prestrašena.
njena starša sta bila prestrašena.
05:12
Most of what they said to her
when she was outside began with,
when she was outside began with,
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Večina izrečenega, ko je bila zunaj,
se je začelo z:
se je začelo z:
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"Be careful," "Watch out," or "No."
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"Bodi previdna", "Pazi" ali "Ne."
05:20
Now, my friends were not bad parents.
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Moja prijatelja nista bila slaba starša.
05:23
They were just doing what most parents do,
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Delala sta samo tisto,
kar počne večina staršev,
kar počne večina staršev,
05:26
which is cautioning their daughters
much more than they caution their sons.
much more than they caution their sons.
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veliko večkrat opozarjajo svojo hčerke,
kot opozarjajo svoje sinove.
kot opozarjajo svoje sinove.
05:31
There was a study involving
a playground fire pole, ironically,
a playground fire pole, ironically,
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Narejena je bila študija, ki je, ironično,
vključevala gasilski drog na igrišču,
vključevala gasilski drog na igrišču,
05:36
in which researchers saw that little girls
were very likely to be warned
were very likely to be warned
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v kateri so raziskovalci ugotovili, da
bodo deklice zelo verjetno opozorjene
bodo deklice zelo verjetno opozorjene
05:40
by both their moms and dads
about the fire pole's risk,
about the fire pole's risk,
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s strani tako mam kot očetov
na nevarnosti uporabe droga,
na nevarnosti uporabe droga,
05:44
and if the little girls
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
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in če so si deklice vseeno želele
igrati na gasilskem drogu,
igrati na gasilskem drogu,
05:47
a parent was very likely to assist her.
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je bilo zelo verjetno,
da ji bo starš pri tem pomagal.
da ji bo starš pri tem pomagal.
05:51
But the little boys?
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Kaj pa fantki?
05:53
They were encouraged
to play on the fire pole
to play on the fire pole
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Spodbujali so jih, naj se igrajo na drogu,
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despite any trepidations
that they might have,
that they might have,
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kljub strahu, ki so ga morda imeli,
05:58
and often the parents offered
guidance on how to use it on their own.
guidance on how to use it on their own.
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in pogosto so starši ponudili nasvet,
kako naj ga samostojno uporabljajo.
kako naj ga samostojno uporabljajo.
06:05
So what message does this send
to both boys and girls?
to both boys and girls?
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Kakšno sporočilo to pošilja
fantom in dekletom?
fantom in dekletom?
06:09
Well, that girls are fragile
and more in need of help,
and more in need of help,
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No, da so dekleta krhka
in bolj potrebujejo pomoč,
in bolj potrebujejo pomoč,
06:13
and that boys can and should
master difficult tasks by themselves.
master difficult tasks by themselves.
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in da fantje lahko in morajo obvladovati
težke naloge brez pomoči.
težke naloge brez pomoči.
06:18
It says that girls should be fearful
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Sporoča, da naj bodo dekleta boječa
06:21
and boys should be gutsy.
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in naj bodo fantje pogumni.
06:25
Now, the irony is that at this young age,
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Ironija je, da so pri tej starosti
06:27
girls and boys are actually
very alike physically.
very alike physically.
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deklice in fantje fizično precej podobni.
06:30
In fact, girls are often
stronger until puberty,
stronger until puberty,
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Pravzaprav, deklice so pogosto
močnejše do pubertete,
močnejše do pubertete,
06:32
and more mature.
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in bolj zrele.
06:34
And yet we adults act
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In vendar se mi odrasli vedemo,
06:36
as if girls are more fragile
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kot da so deklice bolj krhke
06:38
and more in need of help,
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in bolj potrebne pomoči,
06:40
and they can't handle as much.
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in niso tako sposobne.
06:43
This is the message
that we absorb as kids,
that we absorb as kids,
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To je sporočilo, ki smo ga
dobili kot otroci,
dobili kot otroci,
06:45
and this is the message
that fully permeates as we grow up.
that fully permeates as we grow up.
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in to je sporočilo, ki nas
popolnoma prežema, ko odraščamo.
popolnoma prežema, ko odraščamo.
06:49
We women believe it, men believe it,
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Me ženske mu verjamemo,
moški mu verjamejo,
moški mu verjamejo,
06:51
and guess what?
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in veste kaj?
06:53
As we become parents,
we pass it on to our children,
we pass it on to our children,
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Ko postanemo starši,
ga prenesemo na naše otroke,
ga prenesemo na naše otroke,
06:56
and so it goes.
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in tako gre naprej.
06:58
Well, so now I had my answer.
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Tako, sedaj sem imela svoj odgovor.
07:01
This is why women, even firewomen,
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Zaradi tega se od žensk, tudi gasilk,
07:03
were expected to be scared.
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pričakuje, da jih bo strah.
07:05
This is why women often are scared.
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Zaradi tega ženske tudi pogosto je strah.
07:09
Now, I know some of you
won't believe me when I tell you this,
won't believe me when I tell you this,
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Vem, da mi nekateri ne boste verjeli,
ko vam bom to povedala,
ko vam bom to povedala,
07:13
but I am not against fear.
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ampak jaz ne nasprotujem strahu.
07:16
I know it's an important emotion,
and it's there to keep us safe.
and it's there to keep us safe.
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Vem, da je pomembno čustvo,
in skrbi, da smo varni.
in skrbi, da smo varni.
07:20
But the problem is
when fear is the primary reaction
when fear is the primary reaction
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Problem nastane, ko strah postane
primarni odziv,
primarni odziv,
07:23
that we teach and encourage in girls
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ki ga učimo in spodbujamo pri dekletih,
07:25
whenever they face something
outside their comfort zone.
outside their comfort zone.
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ko se soočijo z nečim izven
njihove cone udobja.
njihove cone udobja.
07:29
So I was a paraglider pilot
for many years --
for many years --
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Veliko let sem bila jadralna padalka -
07:33
(Applause)
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(Aplavz)
07:35
and a paraglider is a parachute-like wing,
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in jadralno padalo je samo vrsta padala
07:38
and it does fly very well,
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in leti zelo dobro,
07:41
but to many people I realize
it looks just like a bedsheet
it looks just like a bedsheet
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ampak zavedam se, da se
marsikomu zdi kot kakšna rjuha
marsikomu zdi kot kakšna rjuha
07:44
with strings attached.
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s pritrjenimi vrvicami.
07:46
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:47
And I spent a lot of time on mountaintops
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Veliko časa sem preživela na vrhovih gora,
07:50
inflating this bedsheet,
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napihovala to rjuho,
07:51
running off and flying.
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se pognala po klancu in letela.
07:54
And I know what you're thinking.
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In vem, kaj si mislite.
07:56
You're like, Caroline,
a little fear would make sense here.
a little fear would make sense here.
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Mislite, Caroline,
malo strahu ti ne bi škodilo.
malo strahu ti ne bi škodilo.
08:00
And you're right, it does.
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In prav imate, res mi ne bi.
08:02
I assure you, I did feel fear.
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Zagotavljam vam, občutila sem strah.
08:05
But on that mountaintop,
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Ampak na tem vrhu gore,
08:06
waiting for the wind
to come in just right,
to come in just right,
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čakajoča na ravno pravi veter,
08:08
I felt so many other things, too:
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sem občutila tudi veliko drugega:
08:10
exhilaration, confidence.
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navdušenje, samozavest.
08:14
I knew I was a good pilot.
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Vedela sem, da sem dobra pilotka.
08:15
I knew the conditions were good,
or I wouldn't be there.
or I wouldn't be there.
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Vedela sem, da so pogoji dobri,
drugače ne bi bila tam.
drugače ne bi bila tam.
08:18
I knew how great it was going to be
a thousand feet in the air.
a thousand feet in the air.
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Vedela sem, kako super bo leteti
stotine metrov nad tlemi.
stotine metrov nad tlemi.
08:22
So yes, fear was there,
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Ja, strah je bil prisoten,
08:25
but I would take a good hard look at it,
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vendar sem ga dobro pogledala,
08:27
assess just how relevant it was
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ocenila, koliko je dejansko pomemben
08:29
and then put it where it belonged,
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in ga potem pospravila kamor sodi,
08:32
which was more often than not
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ki je bil večkrat kot ne
08:33
behind my exhilaration, my anticipation
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za mojim navdušenjem, mojim pričakovanjem
08:37
and my confidence.
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in mojo samozavestjo.
08:39
So I'm not against fear.
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Torej, nimam nič proti strahu.
08:41
I'm just pro-bravery.
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Jaz sem samo za pogum.
08:46
Now, I'm not saying
your girls must be firefighters
your girls must be firefighters
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Ne pravim, da bi vaše deklice
morale postati gasilke,
morale postati gasilke,
08:49
or that they should be paragliders,
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ali da bi morale postati jadralne padalke,
08:52
but I am saying that we are raising
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
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pravim, da naše deklice vzgajamo,
da bodo pohlevne, celo nebogljene,
da bodo pohlevne, celo nebogljene,
08:57
and it begins when we caution them
against physical risk.
against physical risk.
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in začne se, ko jih opozarjamo
o fizičnem tveganju.
o fizičnem tveganju.
09:01
The fear we learn
and the experiences we don't
and the experiences we don't
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Strah, ki se ga naučimo,
in izkušnje, ki se jih ne,
in izkušnje, ki se jih ne,
09:03
stay with us as we become women
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ostanejo z nami, ko postanemo ženske
09:05
and morphs into all those things
that we face and try to shed:
that we face and try to shed:
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in se prelevi v vse te stvari, s katerimi
se soočamo in se jih poizkušamo otresti:
se soočamo in se jih poizkušamo otresti:
09:10
our hesitation in speaking out,
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naše oklevanje pri izražanju mnenja,
09:12
our deference so that we can be liked
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naše priklanjanje, da bi nas imeli radi
09:15
and our lack of confidence
in our own decisions.
in our own decisions.
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in naše pomanjkanje samozavesti
pri sprejemanju odločitev.
pri sprejemanju odločitev.
09:18
So how do we become brave?
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Kako torej postanemo pogumne?
09:22
Well, here's the good news.
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Imam dobro novico.
09:24
Bravery is learned,
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Poguma se lahko naučimo,
09:26
and like anything learned,
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in kot vsako naučeno stvar,
09:27
it just needs to be practiced.
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ga je potrebno vaditi.
09:30
So first,
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Najprej,
09:31
we have to take a deep breath
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moramo globoko zajeti zrak
09:33
and encourage our girls
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in spodbujati naša dekleta,
09:35
to skateboard, climb trees
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naj rolkajo, plezajo po drevesih
09:38
and clamber around
on that playground fire pole.
on that playground fire pole.
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se zvirajo po tistem
gasilskem drogu na igrišču.
gasilskem drogu na igrišču.
09:41
This is what my own mother did.
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To je počela moja mama.
09:43
She didn't know it then,
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Takrat tega ni vedela,
09:45
but researchers have a name for this.
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ampak raziskovalci imajo ime za to.
09:47
They call it risky play,
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Temu pravijo tvegana igra,
09:49
and studies show that risky play
is really important for kids, all kids,
is really important for kids, all kids,
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in študije kažejo, da je tvegana igra
zelo pomembna za otroke, vse otroke,
zelo pomembna za otroke, vse otroke,
09:54
because it teaches hazard assessment,
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ker uči ocenjevanje nevarnosti,
09:57
it teaches delayed gratification,
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uči zakasnjeno nagrajevanje,
09:59
it teaches resilience,
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uči vztrajnost,
10:01
it teaches confidence.
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uči samozavest.
10:03
In other words,
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Z drugimi besedami,
10:04
when kids get outside
and practice bravery,
and practice bravery,
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ko gredo otroci ven in vadijo pogum,
10:07
they learn valuable life lessons.
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se naučijo pomembne življenjske nauke.
10:12
Second, we have to stop
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
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Drugič, zavestno moramo prenehati
opozarjati naše deklice.
opozarjati naše deklice.
10:17
So notice next time you say,
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Pazite, ko naslednjič rečete:
10:19
"Watch out, you're going to get hurt,"
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"Pazi, poškodovala se boš,"
10:21
or, "Don't do that, it's dangerous."
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ali: "Ne počni tega, nevarno je."
10:24
And remember that often
what you're really telling her
what you're really telling her
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In zapomnite si,
da ji pogosto s tem govorite,
da ji pogosto s tem govorite,
10:28
is that she shouldn't be pushing herself,
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da se ne bi smela boriti,
10:30
that she's really not good enough,
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da pravzaprav ni dovolj dobra,
10:32
that she should be afraid.
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da bi jo moralo biti strah.
10:36
Third,
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Tretjič,
10:38
we women have to start
practicing bravery, too.
practicing bravery, too.
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tudi me ženske moramo začeti vaditi pogum.
10:41
We cannot teach our girls
until we teach ourselves.
until we teach ourselves.
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Ne moremo naučiti svojih deklet,
dokler ne naučimo sebe.
dokler ne naučimo sebe.
10:45
So here's another thing:
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Zato je tu še ena stvar:
10:47
fear and exhilaration
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strah in navdušenje
10:51
feel very similar --
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občutimo zelo podobno -
10:53
the shaky hands,
the heightened heart rate,
the heightened heart rate,
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tresoče roke, povišan utrip srca,
10:56
the nervous tension,
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živčna napetost,
10:57
and I'm betting that for many of you
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in upam staviti, da je veliko od vas
10:59
the last time you thought
you were scared out of your wits,
you were scared out of your wits,
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nazadnje, ko ste mislile,
da se boste zgrudile od strahu,
da se boste zgrudile od strahu,
11:02
you may have been feeling
mostly exhilaration,
mostly exhilaration,
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večinoma čutilo vznemirjenje,
11:05
and now you've missed an opportunity.
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in sedaj ste zamudile priložnost.
11:07
So practice.
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Torej vadite.
11:09
And while girls should be getting
outside to learn to be gutsy,
outside to learn to be gutsy,
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In medtem ko naj bi šle
punce ven in se učile poguma,
punce ven in se učile poguma,
11:12
I get that adults don't want
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
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mi je jasno, da odrasli nočejo voziti
hoverbordov in plezati po drevesih,
hoverbordov in plezati po drevesih,
11:18
so we all should be practicing
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zato bi morali mi vsi vaditi
11:22
at home, in the office
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doma, v pisarni
11:24
and even right here getting up the guts
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in celo prav tukaj, zbrati pogum
11:26
to talk to someone that you really admire.
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in ogovoriti nekoga, ki ga res občudujete.
11:30
Finally, when your girl is, let's say,
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In končno, ko je vaše dekle recimo
11:34
on her bike on the top of the steep hill
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na kolesu na vrhu strmega klanca,
11:36
that she insists
she's too scared to go down,
she's too scared to go down,
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kjer vztraja, da jo je preveč strah,
da bi se spustila,
da bi se spustila,
11:39
guide her to access her bravery.
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ji pomagajte, da bo našla svoj pogum.
11:42
Ultimately, maybe that hill
really is too steep,
really is too steep,
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Na koncu je klanec
mogoče res preveč strm,
mogoče res preveč strm,
11:47
but she'll come to that conclusion
through courage, not fear.
through courage, not fear.
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ampak do tega spoznanja bo prišla
skozi pogum in ne strah.
skozi pogum in ne strah.
11:51
Because this is not
about the steep hill in front of her.
about the steep hill in front of her.
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Ker ne gre za strm klanec pred njo.
11:55
This is about the life ahead of her
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Gre za življenje pred njo
11:58
and that she has the tools
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in da ima orodja,
12:00
to handle and assess
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da ga obvlada in oceni vsa tveganja,
12:02
all the dangers
that we cannot protect her from,
that we cannot protect her from,
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pred katerimi je ne moremo obvarovati,
12:05
all the challenges that we won't
be there to guide her through,
be there to guide her through,
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vse izzive, pri katerih ji
ne bomo mogli pomagati,
ne bomo mogli pomagati,
12:10
everything that our girls here
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vse, kar dekleta tu
12:12
and around the world
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in okoli sveta
12:14
face in their future.
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doživijo v prihodnosti.
12:18
So by the way,
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Še mimogrede,
12:20
the world record for crawling today --
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današnji svetovni rekord v plazenju -
12:23
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
12:25
is 35.18 miles,
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je 56,6 km,
12:30
and I would really love
to see a girl go break that.
to see a girl go break that.
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in res bi bila vesela,
če bi ga dekle podrlo.
če bi ga dekle podrlo.
12:34
(Applause)
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(Aplavz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Caroline Paul - AuthorBrimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women.
Why you should listen
Before launching her career as a writer, Caroline Paul embarked on a long list of unlikely adventures, ranging from flying experimental planes to whitewater rafting unexplored rivers in Borneo and Australia.
Paul was one of the first women to work for the San Francisco Fire Department -- a job that inspired her first work of nonfiction, Fighting Fire. Her latest book, The Gutsy Girl, uses stories from her own life as a gutsy woman to inspire girls to break the rules, take risks and accept seemingly insurmountable challenges.
Caroline Paul | Speaker | TED.com