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Colin Stokes - Proud dad
The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children.

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Colin Stokes divides his time between parenting and building the brand of Citizen Schools, a non-profit that reimagines the school day for middle school students in low-income communities in eight states. As Managing Director of Brand & Communications, Colin helps people within the organization find the ideas, words and stories that will connect with more and more people. He believes that understanding the human mind is a force that can be used for good and seeks to take advantage of our innate and learned tendencies to bring out the best in each other and our culture.

Before starting a family, Colin was an actor and graphic designer in New York City. He starred in the long-running off-Broadway musical I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change, as well is in several musicals and Shakespeare stagings. But he jokes that he seems to have achieved more renown (and considerably more revenue) for his brief appearances on two Law & Order episodes.

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Colin Stokes: How movies teach manhood

Kolin Stouks (Colin Stokes): Kako filmovi uče muževnosti

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Kad je trogodišnji sin Kolina Stouksa uhvatio pogledom scenu Ratova Zvezda, bio je opsednut. Ali koje poruke je apsorbovao iz klasika naučne fantastike? Stouk traži više filmova koji šalju pozitivnu poruku dečacima: da je saradnja herojski čin i poštovanje žena je muževno kao i poražavanje zlikovca. (Snimljeno na TEDxBeaconStreet)
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The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children. Full bio

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You know, my favoriteомиљени partдео of beingбиће a dadтата
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Znate, moj omiljeni deo očinstva
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is the moviesфилмове I get to watch.
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su filmovi koje mogu da gledam.
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I love sharingдељење my favoriteомиљени moviesфилмове with my kidsклинци,
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Volim da podelim omiljene filmove
sa svojom decom
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and when my daughterћерка was fourчетири,
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i kad mi je ćerka imala četiri godine,
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we got to watch "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz" togetherзаједно.
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gledali smo zajedno "Čarobnjak iz Oza".
00:29
It totallyтотално dominatedдоминира her imaginationмашту for monthsмесеци.
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U potpunosti je vladao
njenom maštom mesecima.
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Her favoriteомиљени characterкарактер was GlindaGlinda, of courseкурс.
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Njen omiljeni lik
je bila Glinda, naravno.
00:36
It gaveдала her a great excuseизговор to wearносити a sparklysjajne dressхаљина
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Dao joj je sjajan izgovor
da nosi svetlucavu haljinu
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and carryносити a wandљtapiж.
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i štapić.
00:39
But you watch that movieфилм enoughдовољно timesпута,
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Znate, ukoliko gledate film
dovoljno puta,
00:42
and you startпочетак to realizeсхватите how unusualнеобично it is.
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počnete shvatati
koliko je neobičan.
00:43
Now we liveживи todayданас, and are raisingподизање our childrenдеца,
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Živimo u današnjici i odgajamo svoju decu,
00:46
in a kindкинд of children's-fantasy-spectacular-industrialza decu-fantazija-spektakularni-industrijski complexкомплекс.
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u nekoj vrsti spektakularnog industrijskog
kompleksa dečije fantazije.
00:52
But "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz" stoodстајао aloneсами.
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Ali "Čarobnjak iz Oza" je stajao sam.
00:54
It did not startпочетак that trendтренд.
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Nije započeo takav trend.
00:56
Forty40 yearsгодине laterкасније was when the trendтренд really caughtухваћен on,
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Četrdeset godina kasnije
se trend zaista prihvatio,
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with, interestinglyзанимљиво, anotherдруги movieфилм
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sa, zanimljivo, drugim filmom
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that featurednastupili su a metalметал guy
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gde jedan metalni lik
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and a furrykrzneni guy
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i krznati lik
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rescuingspasava a girlдевојка by dressingpreliv up as the enemy'sNeprijatelj je guardsgarda.
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spašavali devojku obučeni
kao neprijateljski čuvari.
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Do you know what I'm talkingпричају about? (LaughterSmeh)
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Da li znate o čemu pričam?
(Smeh)
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Yeah.
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Da.
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Now, there's a bigвелики differenceразлика betweenизмеђу these two moviesфилмове,
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Postoji velika razlika
između ova dva filma,
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a coupleпар of really bigвелики differencesРазлике betweenизмеђу "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz"
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nekoliko zaista značajnih razlika
između filma "Čarobnjak iz Oza"
01:20
and all the moviesфилмове we watch todayданас.
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i svih filmova
koje danas gledamo.
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One is there's very little violenceнасиље in "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz."
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Jedna od njih je vrlo malo nasilja
u "Čarobnjaku iz Oza".
01:25
The monkeysмајмуни are ratherприлично aggressiveагресиван, as are the appleјабука treesдрвеће.
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Majmuni su agresivni
koliko i drveće jabuke.
01:30
But I think if "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz" were madeмаде todayданас,
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Ali mislim da je "Čarobnjak iz Oza"
snimljen danas,
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the wizardчаробњак would say, "DorothyDorothy, you are the saviorспаситељ of OzOz
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čarobnjak bi rekao:
"Doroti, ti si spasilac Oza
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that the prophecyproročanstvo foretoldpredskazano.
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koga je pročanstvo predskazalo.
01:40
Use your magicмагија slipperspapuče to defeatпораз
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Upotrebi svoje magične cipele
da poraziš
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the computer-generatedkompjuterska armiesarmije of the WickedZla WitchVeљtica."
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kompjuterski stvorene armije
zle veštice."
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But that's not how it happensсе дешава.
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Ne dešava se to tako.
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AnotherDrugi thing that's really uniqueјединствен about "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz"
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Još jedna stvar koja je zaista jedinstvena kod
"Čarobnjaka iz Oza" jeste ta
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to me is that all of the mostнајвише heroicherojski
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što su svi herojski,
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and wiseмудро and even villainousnajokrutniji charactersкарактера
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mudri, čak i zli likovi
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are femaleзенски пол.
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ženski likovi.
02:00
Now I startedпочела to noticeобјава this
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Ovo sam počeo da zapažam
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when I actuallyзаправо showedпоказао "StarZvezda WarsRatovi" to my daughterћерка,
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kada sam pokazao "Star Wars"
svojo ćerki,
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whichкоја was yearsгодине laterкасније, and the situationситуација was differentразличит.
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što je bilo godinama kasnije
i situacija je bila drugačija.
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At that pointтачка I alsoтакође had a sonсин.
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Tad sam imao već i sina.
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He was only threeтри at the time.
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On je imao samo 3 godine tad.
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He was not invitedпозвани to the screeningсцреенинг. He was too youngмлади for that.
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Nismo mu dozvolili da gleda.
Bio je previše mlad za to.
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But he was the secondдруго childдете,
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Ali on je bio drugo dete
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and the levelниво of supervisionnadzor had plummetedje pala. (LaughterSmeh)
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i nivo nadzora je opao.
(Smeh)
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So he wanderedlutao in,
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Ušetao je unutra
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and it imprintedUtiskivanje on him
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i to je na njega imalo uticaj
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like a mommyMama duckpatka does to its ducklingPace,
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kao što mama-patka
ima na svoje pače
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and I don't think he understandsразуме what's going on,
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i mislim da ne razume
šta se dešava,
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but he is sure soakingmokra in it.
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ali je potpuno
obuzet time.
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And I wonderпитати се what he's soakingmokra in.
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Pitam se čime je
obuzet.
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Is he pickingбирање up on the themesТеме of courageхраброст
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Da li shvata pojmove
hrabrosti,
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and perseveranceистрајност and loyaltylojalnost?
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upornosti i lojalnosti?
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Is he pickingбирање up on the factчињеница that LukeLuk
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Da li shvata da se Luk
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joinsпридружи се an armyвојска to overthrowzbaci the governmentвлада?
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priključuje vojsci
da bi srušio vladu?
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Is he pickingбирање up on the factчињеница that
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Da li zaključuje
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there are only boysдечаци in the universeуниверзум
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da postoje samo
momci u univerzumu,
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exceptосим for AuntTetka BeruBeru, and of courseкурс this princessPrinceza,
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izuzev Tetke Beru i naravno,
ove princeze
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who'sко је really coolхладан, but who kindкинд of waitsčeka around throughкроз mostнајвише of the movieфилм
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koja je zaista kul ali koja nekako
stalno čeka tokom filma
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so that she can awardнаграда the heroјунак with a medalmedalju and a winkMig
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da bi mogla da nagradi
heroja medaljom i namigne mu
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to thank him for savingуштеда the universeуниверзум, whichкоја he does
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da mu se zahvali
što je spasao svemir
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by the magicмагија that he was bornрођен with?
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što on čini magijom sa
kojom je rođen.
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CompareUporedite this to 1939 with "The WizardČarobnjak of OzOz."
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Uporedite ovo sa 1939.
i "Čarobnjakom iz Oza".
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How does DorothyDorothy winпобедити her movieфилм?
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Kako Doroti pobeđuje?
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By makingстварање friendsпријатељи with everybodyсвима
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Tako što se
sprijatelji sa svima
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and beingбиће a leaderлидер.
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i liderstvom.
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That's kindкинд of the worldсвет I'd ratherприлично raiseподићи my kidsклинци in --
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U takvom svetu želim
da odgajam svoju decu -
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OzOz, right? -- and not the worldсвет of dudestipovi fightingборбе,
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Oz, je l' tako? -
a ne svet momaka u tučama,
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whichкоја is where we kindкинд of have to be.
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u kome nekako i
moramo biti.
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Why is there so much ForceSila -- capitalглавни град F, ForceSila --
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Zašto ima toliko nasilja,
sa velikim N kod nasilja,
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in the moviesфилмове we have for our kidsклинци,
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u filmovima za našu decu,
03:42
and so little yellowжуто brickцигла roadпут?
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i tako malo Puteva od žutih cigala?
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There is a lot of great writingписање about the impactутицај
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Postoji mnogo sjajnih
dela o uticaju
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that the boy-violentnasilan momak movieфилм has on girlsдевојке,
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koje imaju filmovi muškog nasilja
na devojke,
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and you should do that readingчитање. It's very good.
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i trebalo bi da ih pročitate.
Veoma su dobre.
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I haven'tније readчитати as much on how boysдечаци are pickingбирање up on this vibevibracije.
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Nisam pročitao kako momci
shvataju ove poruke.
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I know from my ownвластити experienceискуство that
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Znam iz ličnog iskustva da
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PrincessPrinceza LeiaLea did not provideпружити the adequateадекватно contextконтекст
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Princeza Leja nije dala
adekvatan kontekst
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that I could have used in navigatingkretanje kroz the adultодрасла особа worldсвет
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koji bih mogao upotrebiti
u navigaciji sveta odraslih
04:12
that is co-edmeљoviti. (LaughterSmeh)
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koji je mešovit.
(Smeh)
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I think there was a first-kisspoljubac momentтренутак
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Znate, postojao je svojevrstan
momenat prvog poljupca
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when I really expectedочекиван the creditsŠpica to startпочетак rollingваљање
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kad sam zaista očekivao
da će početi špica
04:23
because that's the endкрај of the movieфилм, right?
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jer to je kraj filma, zar ne?
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I finishedготов my questpotraga, I got the girlдевојка.
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Ispunio sam zadatak,
dobio sam devojku.
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Why are you still standingстојећи there?
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Zašto još uvek stojiš tu?
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I don't know what I'm supposedпретпостављено to do.
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Ne znam šta bi
trebalo da radim.
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The moviesфилмове are very, very focusedфокусиран on defeatingпоражавајући the villainzlikovac
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Filmovi su veoma, veoma fokusirani
na pobedu nad zlikovcima
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and gettingдобијања your rewardнаграда, and there's not a lot of roomсоба
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i dobijanje nagrade
i nema mnogo mesta
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for other relationshipsвезе and other journeysputovanja.
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za ostale veze i putovanja.
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It's almostскоро as thoughипак if you're a boyдечко,
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To je otprilike kao da, ako ste dečak,
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you are a dopeyglupi animalживотиња,
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onda ste blentava životinja,
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and if you are a girlдевојка, you should bringдовести your warriorратник costumekostim.
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a ako ste devojčica, morate
nositi svoj ratnički kostim.
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There are plentyдоста of exceptionsIzuzeci,
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Mislim, postoji gomila izuzetaka
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and I will defendбранити the DisneyDisney princessesprinceze in frontфронт of any you.
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i zaštitiću sve Diznijeve princeze
pred bilo kim od vas.
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But they do sendпошаљи a messageпорука to boysдечаци,
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Ali oni šalju poruku i dečacima.
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that they are not, the boysдечаци are not really the targetциљ audienceпублика.
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Dečaci nisu baš ciljna publika.
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They are doing a phenomenalфеноменално jobпосао of teachingУчити girlsдевојке
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Oni čine fenomenalan posao
podučavajući devojčice
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how to defendбранити againstпротив the patriarchyPatrijaršiju,
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kako da se zaštite
protiv patrijarhata,
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but they are not necessarilyнужно showingпоказивање boysдечаци
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ali ne pokazuju nužno i dečacima
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how they're supposedпретпостављено to defendбранити againstпротив the patriarchyPatrijaršiju.
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kako bi oni trebalo da se
zaštite od patrijarhata.
05:14
There's no modelsмодели for them.
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Nema uzora za njih.
05:16
And we alsoтакође have some terrificSjajno womenЖене
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I takođe imamo sjajne žene
05:19
who are writingписање newново storiesприче for our kidsклинци,
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koje pišu nove priče
za našu decu
05:22
and as three-dimensionalтродимензионално and delightfulDivno as HermioneHermiona and KatnissKetnis are,
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I koliko god da su trodimenzionalne
i izvrsne Hermiona i Katnis,
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these are still warрат moviesфилмове.
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ovo su i dalje ratni filmovi.
05:28
And, of courseкурс, the mostнајвише successfulуспјешно studioстудио of all time
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I naravno, najuspešniji studio
svih vremena
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continuesнаставља to crankцранк out classicкласика after classicкласика,
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nastavlja da izbacuje
klasik za klasikom,
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everyсваки singleједно one of them about
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u svakom od njih se radi
05:39
the journeyпутовање of a boyдечко, or a man,
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o putovanju dečaka ili muškarca
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or two menмушкарци who are friendsпријатељи, or a man and his sonсин,
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ili dva muškarca koji su prijatelji
ili muškarca i njegovog sina
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or two menмушкарци who are raisingподизање a little girlдевојка.
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ili dva muškarca koji
odgajaju devojčicu.
05:50
UntilSve do, as manyмноги of you are thinkingразмишљање, this yearгодине,
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Do, kao što i mnogi od vas pomišljaju,
ove godine
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when they finallyконачно cameДошао out with "BraveHrabar."
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kad su se konačno pojavili
sa filmom "Brave".
05:56
I recommendпрепоручите it to all of you. It's on demandпотражња now.
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Preporučujem svima vama.
Ima ga na videu.
06:00
Do you rememberзапамтити what the criticsкритичари said when "BraveHrabar" cameДошао out?
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Sećate se šta su kritičari rekli kad
se "Brave" pojavio?
06:04
"AwAu, I can't believe PixarPixar madeмаде a princessPrinceza movieфилм."
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"Ah, ne mogu da verujem, Piksar
je napravio film o princezi".
06:08
It's very good. Don't let that stop you.
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Veoma je dobar.
Ne dozvolite da vas to zaustavi.
06:10
Now, almostскоро noneниједан of these moviesфилмове passпасс the BechdelBechdel TestTest.
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E sad, skoro nijedan od ovih filmova
nije položio Bekdel test.
06:14
I don't know if you've heardслушао of this.
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Ne znam da li ste čuli.
06:15
It has not yetјош увек caughtухваћен on and caughtухваћен fireватра,
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Još nije upalilo,
06:18
but maybe todayданас we will startпочетак a movementпокрет.
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ali možda danas
pokrenemo pokret.
06:20
AlisonAlison BechdelBechdel is a comicстрип bookкњига artistуметник,
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Alison Bekdel je
ilustrator stripova
06:23
and back in the mid-'мид- '80s, she recordedснимљено this conversationразговор
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i sredinom 80-tih
je snimila razgovor vođen
06:28
she'dона би had with a friendпријатељ about assessingprocena the moviesфилмове that they saw.
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sa jednim prijateljem, o ocenjivanju
filmova koje su videli.
06:32
And it's very simpleједноставно. There's just threeтри questionsпитања you should askпитати:
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Jako je jednostavno.
Samo tri pitanja treba da postavite:
06:35
Is there more than one characterкарактер in the movieфилм
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Da li ima više od jednog
ženskog lika u filmu
06:37
that is femaleзенски пол who has linesлиније?
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koji ima tekst?
06:41
So try to meetсусрет that barбар.
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Dakle, pokušajte da ispunite taj kriterijum.
06:43
And do these womenЖене talk to eachсваки other at any pointтачка in the movieфилм?
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Da li ove žene pričaju
međusobno u filmu?
06:49
And is theirњихова conversationразговор about something other than
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I da li razgovaraju o
nečemu drugom
06:53
the guy that they bothи једно и друго like? (LaughterSmeh)
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osim o momku koji se obema sviđa?
(Smeh)
06:56
Right? Thank you. (ApplauseAplauz)
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Je l' tako?
Hvala vam. (Alpauz)
07:00
Thank you very much.
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Hvala vam puno.
07:02
Two womenЖене who existпостоје and talk to eachсваки other about stuffствари.
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Dve žene koje postoje i pričaju
jedna s drugom o stvarima.
07:10
It does happenдесити се. I've seenвиђено it,
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Dešava se.
Video sam to
07:15
and yetјош увек I very rarelyretko see it in the moviesфилмове
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i do sad sam retko
viđao u filmovima
07:18
that we know and love.
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koje znamo i volimo.
07:19
In factчињеница, this weekНедеља I wentотишао to see
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U stvari, ove nedelje sam
otišao da vidim
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a very high-qualityvisokog kvaliteta movieфилм, "ArgoArgo."
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veoma kvalitetan film, "Argo".
07:25
Right? OscarOscar buzzBaz, doing great at the boxбок officeканцеларија,
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Da? Kandidat za Oskara,
sjajno prolazi na blagajnama,
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a consensusконсензус ideaидеја of what a qualityквалитета HollywoodHollywood filmфилм is.
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pokazatelj šta je kvalitetan
holivudski film.
07:33
It prettyприлично much flunksomane the BechdelBechdel testтест.
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Ali pada na Bekdel testu.
07:35
And I don't think it should, because a lot of the movieфилм,
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Ne mislim da bi trebalo,
jer većina filma,
07:39
I don't know if you've seenвиђено it, but a lot of the movieфилм
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ne znam da li ste gledali,
ali većina filma
07:41
takes placeместо in this embassyambasada where menмушкарци and womenЖене
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se odigrava u ambasadi
gde se muškarci i žene
07:44
are hidingkrije out duringу току the hostageталац crisisкриза.
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skrivaju za vreme talačke krize.
07:47
We'veMoramo got quiteприлично a fewнеколико scenesсцене of the menмушкарци
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Imamo nekoliko scena
sa muškarcima kako
07:49
havingимати deepдубоко, angst-riddenopterećenu anksioznosti conversationsразговоре in this hideoutskrovište,
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imaju duboke,
smirene razgovore u skrovištu
07:53
and the great momentтренутак for one of the actressesglumice is
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i veliki momenat za
jednu od glumica je
07:57
to peekVirenje throughкроз the doorврата and say, "Are you comingдолазе to bedкревет, honeyдушо?"
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da virne kroz vrata i kaže:
"Dolaziš u krevet, dragi?"
08:02
That's HollywoodHollywood for you.
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To vam je Holivud.
08:04
So let's look at the numbersбројеви.
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Dakle, da pogledamo brojke.
08:06
2011, of the 100 mostнајвише popularпопуларно moviesфилмове,
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2011., sto najpopularhijih filmova,
08:10
how manyмноги of them do you think actuallyзаправо have femaleзенски пол protagonistsprotagonisti?
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Šta vi mislite koliko od njih
ima zapravo ženske protagoniste?
08:14
ElevenJedanaest. It's not badлоше.
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Jedanaest.
Nije loše.
08:18
It's not as manyмноги percentпроценат as the numberброј of womenЖене
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Nije veliki procenat
kao što je broj žena
08:21
we'veми смо just electedизабран to CongressKongres, so that's good.
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koje smo upravo izabrali za Kongres,
to je dobro.
08:24
But there is a numberброј that is greaterвеће than this
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Ali postoji broj koji je
veći od ovog,
08:27
that's going to bringдовести this roomсоба down.
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koji će iznenaditi ovu salu.
08:30
Last yearгодине, The NewNovi YorkYork TimesPuta publishedобјављен a studyстудија
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Prošle godine, Njujork Tajms
je objavio studiju
08:34
that the governmentвлада had doneГотово.
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koju je vlada sprovela.
08:35
Here'sEvo what it said.
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Evo šta kaže.
08:37
One out of fiveпет womenЖене in AmericaAmerika
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Jedna od pet žena u Americi kaže
08:41
say that they have been sexuallyсексуално assaultednapao some time in theirњихова life.
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da je bila seksualno zlostavljana
nekad u svom životu.
08:47
Now, I don't think that's the faultkrivica of popularпопуларно entertainmentЗабава.
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Ne mislim da je to krivica
popularne zabave.
08:51
I don't think kids'dece moviesфилмове have anything to do with that.
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Ne mislim da filmovi
za decu imaju išta sa tim.
08:55
I don't even think that
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Čak ni ne mislim da
08:57
musicмузика videosвидеос or pornographypornografija are really directlyдиректно relatedповезан to that,
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muzički spotovi ili pornografija
imaju direktnu vezu sa tim,
09:01
but something is going wrongпогрешно,
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ali nešto ne ide kako treba
09:03
and when I hearчујеш that statisticстатистика,
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i kad čujem tu statistiku,
09:06
one of the things I think of is
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jedna od stvari na koje pomislim je,
09:09
that's a lot of sexualсексуално assailantsnapadača.
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to je mnogo seksualnih siledžija.
09:13
Who are these guys? What are they learningучење?
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Ko su ovi momci?
Šta oni uče?
09:16
What are they failingнеуспех to learnучи?
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Šta ne uspevaju da nauče?
09:18
Are they absorbingupijanje the storyприча that
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Da li oni prihvataju priču
09:20
a maleМушки hero'sheroj je jobпосао is to defeatпораз the villainzlikovac with violenceнасиље
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da je posao muškaraca heroja
da poraze zlikovca nasiljem
09:25
and then collectсакупити the rewardнаграда, whichкоја is a womanжена
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i onda pokupe nagradu,
a to je žena
09:27
who has no friendsпријатељи and doesn't speakговорити?
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koja nema prijatelje
i ne govori?
09:32
Are we soakingmokra up that storyприча?
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Da li mi upijamo tu priču?
09:38
You know,
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Znate,
09:40
as a parentродитељ with the privilegeпривилегија
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kao roditelj sa privilegijom
09:43
of raisingподизање a daughterћерка
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da odgajam ćerku,
09:45
like all of you who are doing the sameисти thing,
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kao i svi vi koji radite istu stvar,
09:48
we find this worldсвет and this statisticстатистика very alarmingzabrinjavajuжe
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smatramo ovakav svet i
ovu statistiku veoma alarmantnom
09:52
and we want to preparePripremite se them.
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i mi želimo da ih pripremimo.
09:53
We have toolsалати at our disposalrashoda like "girlдевојка powerмоћ,"
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Imamo sredstva na raspolaganju
kao što je žensko zajedništvo
09:57
and we hopeнадати се that that will help,
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i nadamo se da će pomoći,
10:00
but I gottaМорам wonderпитати се, is girlдевојка powerмоћ going to protectзаштитити them
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ali zapitao sam se, da li će ih
žensko zajedništvo zaštititi
10:04
if, at the sameисти time, activelyактивно or passivelyпасивно,
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ako u isto vreme, aktivno ili pasivno,
10:06
we are trainingобука our sonssinovi to maintainуспоставити theirњихова boyдечко powerмоћ?
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učimo svoje sinove
da održe svoju momačku moć?
10:11
I mean, I think the NetflixNetflix queueред
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Mislim, smatram da je
lista filmova na Netflixu
10:15
is one way that we can do something very importantважно,
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jedan od načina da
uradimo nešto jako važno.
10:18
and I'm talkingпричају mainlyуглавном to the dadstate here.
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I ovde većinom govorim očevima.
10:21
I think we have got to showсхов our sonssinovi
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Mislim da moramo
pokazati našim sinovima
10:24
a newново definitionдефиниција of manhoodmuškost.
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jednu novu definiciju muževnosti.
10:26
The definitionдефиниција of manhoodmuškost is alreadyвећ turningокретање upsideгоре down.
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Definicija muževnosti
se već izobrazila.
10:30
You've readчитати about how the newново economyекономија
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Čitali ste o tome
kako nova ekonomija
10:32
is changingпромена the rolesулоге of caregiverstaratelj and wageплата earnerzarada.
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menja uloge negovatelja
i onih koji zarađuju pare.
10:36
They're throwingбацање it up in the airваздух.
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Svi smo toga svesni.
10:37
So our sonssinovi are going to have to find some way
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Naši sinovi će morati da
pronađu neki način
10:40
of adaptingAdaptacija to this, some newново relationshipоднос with eachсваки other,
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prilagođavanja ovome, ovim novim
međusobnim odnosima
10:43
and I think we really have to showсхов them, and modelмодел for them,
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i mislim da ih zaista moramo naučiti
i pokazati im,
10:47
how a realправи man
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kako je pravi muškarac
10:51
is someoneнеко who trustsповерења his sistersсестре
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neko ko veruje
svojim sestrama
10:54
and respectsпоштује them, and wants to be on theirњихова teamтим,
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i poštuje ih
i želi da bude u njihovom timu
10:58
and standsстоји up againstпротив the realправи badлоше guys,
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i protivi se pravim lošim momcima,
11:01
who are the menмушкарци who want to abuseзлоупотреба the womenЖене.
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a to su muškarci koji
žele da zlostavljaju žene.
11:05
And I think our jobпосао in the NetflixNetflix queueред
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I mislim da je naš
zadatak na Netflix listi
11:08
is to look out for those moviesфилмове that passпасс the BechdelBechdel TestTest,
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da tražimo takve filmove
koji su položili Bekdel test,
11:12
if we can find them, and to seekтражити out the heroinesheroine
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ako ih možemo pronaći
i da pronađemo heroine,
11:16
who are there,
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koje postoje,
11:18
who showсхов realправи courageхраброст, who bringдовести people togetherзаједно,
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koje pokazuju hrabrost,
koje spajaju ljude
11:22
and to nudgeguranje our sonssinovi to identifyидентификовати with those heroinesheroine
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i teraju naše sinove
da se poistovete sa tim heroinama
11:25
and to say, "I want to be on theirњихова teamтим,"
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i kažu: "Želim da budem u njihovom timu,"
11:29
because they're going to be on theirњихова teamтим.
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jer će oni biti u njihovom timu.
11:33
When I askedпитао my daughterћерка who her favoriteомиљени characterкарактер was in "StarZvezda WarsRatovi,"
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Kad sam pitao svoju ćerku ko je njen
omiljeni karakter u "Ratovima zvezda",
11:37
do you know what she said?
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znate šta je rekla?
11:39
Obi-WanObi-Wan.
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Obi-Van.
11:41
Obi-WanObi-Wan KenobiKenobi and GlindaGlinda.
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Obi-Van Kenobi i Glinda.
11:45
What do these two have in commonзаједнички?
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Šta je kod njih slično?
11:49
Maybe it's not just the sparklysjajne dressхаљина.
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Možda nije samo
svetlucava haljina.
11:51
I think these people are expertsстручњаци.
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Mislim da su ovi ljudi stručnjaci.
11:54
I think these are the two people in the movieфилм
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Mislim da su upravo oni ti u filmu
11:56
who know more than anybodyбило ко elseдруго,
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koji znaju više od ostalih
11:57
and they love sharingдељење theirњихова knowledgeзнање with other people
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i vole da dele svoje znanje
sa drugim ljudima,
12:01
to help them reachдостигнути theirњихова potentialпотенцијал.
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da im pomognu da
dostignu svoj potencijal.
12:04
Now, they are leadersлидери.
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Oni su vođe.
12:06
I like that kindкинд of questpotraga for my daughterћерка,
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Volim takvu vrstu potrage
za svoju ćerku
12:08
and I like that kindкинд of questpotraga for my sonсин.
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i volim takvu vrstu potrage
za svog sina.
12:10
I want more questspotraga like that.
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Želim više takvih potraga.
12:12
I want fewerмање questspotraga where my sonсин is told,
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Želim manje potraga u kojima
je mom sinu rečeno
12:15
"Go out and fightборба it aloneсами,"
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"Izađi i bori se sam",
12:17
and more questspotraga where he seesвиди that it's his jobпосао to joinпридружити a teamтим,
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i više potraga u kojima on vidi da je
njegov posao da se pridruži timu,
12:22
maybe a teamтим led by womenЖене,
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možda timu koji vode žene,
12:26
to help other people becomeпостати better
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da pomogne ljudima
da postanu bolji
12:32
and be better people,
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i da budu bolji ljudi,
12:34
like the WizardČarobnjak of OzOz.
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kao što je
"Čarobnjak iz Oza".
12:37
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
Translated by Andrea Jovanovic
Reviewed by Bosko Erakovic

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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Colin Stokes - Proud dad
The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children.

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Colin Stokes divides his time between parenting and building the brand of Citizen Schools, a non-profit that reimagines the school day for middle school students in low-income communities in eight states. As Managing Director of Brand & Communications, Colin helps people within the organization find the ideas, words and stories that will connect with more and more people. He believes that understanding the human mind is a force that can be used for good and seeks to take advantage of our innate and learned tendencies to bring out the best in each other and our culture.

Before starting a family, Colin was an actor and graphic designer in New York City. He starred in the long-running off-Broadway musical I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change, as well is in several musicals and Shakespeare stagings. But he jokes that he seems to have achieved more renown (and considerably more revenue) for his brief appearances on two Law & Order episodes.

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