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The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children.

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Colin Stokes divides his time between parenting and building the brand of Citizen Schools, a non-profit that reimagines the school day for middle school students in low-income communities in eight states. As Managing Director of Brand & Communications, Colin helps people within the organization find the ideas, words and stories that will connect with more and more people. He believes that understanding the human mind is a force that can be used for good and seeks to take advantage of our innate and learned tendencies to bring out the best in each other and our culture.

Before starting a family, Colin was an actor and graphic designer in New York City. He starred in the long-running off-Broadway musical I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change, as well is in several musicals and Shakespeare stagings. But he jokes that he seems to have achieved more renown (and considerably more revenue) for his brief appearances on two Law & Order episodes.

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Colin Stokes: How movies teach manhood

Colin Stokes: 電影是如何教導男子氣概?

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Colin Stokes 的三歲兒子看過「星際大戰」之後,馬上就愛上這部電影。但從這部科幻經典電影中,他到底得到什麼訊息? Stokes 呼籲,我們應該要有更多向男孩傳達正面訊息的電影: 互相合作也可以是英雄事蹟,同時尊重女性與打敗敵人也一樣重要。(拍攝於TEDxBeaconStreet)
- Proud dad
The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children. Full bio

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You know, my favorite喜愛 part部分 of being存在 a dad
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身為一個父親 我最喜歡的就是
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is the movies電影 I get to watch.
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看電影
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I love sharing分享 my favorite喜愛 movies電影 with my kids孩子,
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我喜歡與孩子一起看我最愛的電影
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and when my daughter女兒 was four,
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我女兒四歲時
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we got to watch "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲" together一起.
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我們一起看”綠野仙蹤”
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It totally完全 dominated佔主導地位 her imagination想像力 for months個月.
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讓她有好幾個月都沉浸在幻想裡
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Her favorite喜愛 character字符 was Glinda格林達, of course課程.
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當然 她最喜歡葛琳達
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It gave her a great excuse藉口 to wear穿 a sparkly閃閃發光的 dress連衣裙
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所以她也想學葛琳達 穿上閃亮的衣服
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and carry攜帶 a wand棍棒.
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拿著魔杖
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But you watch that movie電影 enough足夠 times,
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但是這部電影你看很多次之後
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and you start開始 to realize實現 how unusual異常 it is.
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你就會開始發現這部電影很特別
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Now we live生活 today今天, and are raising提高 our children孩子,
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今天我們生活 養育小孩
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in a kind of children's-fantasy-spectacular-industrialchildren's幻想壯觀工業 complex複雜.
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都是在一種夾雜著小孩幻想的工業複合世界之中
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But "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲" stood站在 alone單獨.
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但”綠野仙蹤”獨樹一格
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It did not start開始 that trend趨勢.
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並沒有那種傾向
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Forty四十 years年份 later後來 was when the trend趨勢 really caught抓住 on,
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這種趨勢四十年後才開始流行
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with, interestingly有趣, another另一個 movie電影
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有趣的是 另一部電影
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that featured精選 a metal金屬 guy
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有一個機器人
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and a furry毛茸茸 guy
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和一隻毛茸茸的動物
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rescuing營救 a girl女孩 by dressing敷料 up as the enemy's敵人的 guards衛士.
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打扮成敵營守衛 救出一位女孩
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Do you know what I'm talking about? (Laughter笑聲)
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你知道我在說什麼嗎?(笑聲)
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Yeah.
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沒錯
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Now, there's a big difference區別 between之間 these two movies電影,
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這兩部電影之間有一個很大的差異
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a couple一對 of really big differences分歧 between之間 "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲"
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跟”綠野仙蹤”有兩三個很大的差異
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and all the movies電影 we watch today今天.
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跟我們現在看的電影也是
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One is there's very little violence暴力 in "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲."
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其中一個差異就是”綠野仙蹤”有點暴力
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The monkeys猴子 are rather aggressive侵略性, as are the apple蘋果 trees樹木.
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猴子和蘋果樹都很兇
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But I think if "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲" were made製作 today今天,
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但是我想如果今天要拍”綠野仙蹤”
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the wizard巫師 would say, "Dorothy多蘿西, you are the savior救主 of Oz奧茲
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女巫會說:桃樂絲 你是奧茲王國的救星
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that the prophecy預言 foretold預言.
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就如預言所說
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Use your magic魔法 slippers拖鞋 to defeat打敗
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用你的魔法鞋打敗
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the computer-generated計算機生成的 armies軍隊 of the Wicked邪惡 Witch巫婆."
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壞女巫的動畫大軍
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But that's not how it happens發生.
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但事實上不是這樣
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Another另一個 thing that's really unique獨特 about "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲"
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“綠野仙蹤”真的很特別
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to me is that all of the most heroic英勇
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對我來說 所有非常英勇
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and wise明智的 and even villainous流氓 characters人物
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絕頂聰明 甚至是窮兇惡極的角色
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are female.
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都是女性
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Now I started開始 to notice注意 this
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現在我開始注意到這一點
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when I actually其實 showed顯示 "Star Wars戰爭" to my daughter女兒,
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我給我女兒看過“星際大戰”
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which哪一個 was years年份 later後來, and the situation情況 was different不同.
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在幾年過後 情況也不同了
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At that point I also had a son兒子.
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那時 我已經有一個兒子
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He was only three at the time.
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當時 他還只有三歲
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He was not invited邀請 to the screening篩查. He was too young年輕 for that.
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我不讓他一起看 年紀還太小 還不適合
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But he was the second第二 child兒童,
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但他是我第二個小孩
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and the level水平 of supervision監督 had plummeted暴跌. (Laughter笑聲)
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我已經沒有力氣管這麼多(笑聲)
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So he wandered逛到 in,
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所以他就在周圍徘徊
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and it imprinted on him
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這部電影讓他印象深刻
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like a mommy媽媽 duck does to its duckling小鴨,
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就跟著有樣學樣
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and I don't think he understands理解 what's going on,
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我認為他不知道發生什麼事了
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but he is sure soaking浸水 in it.
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但他就是很喜歡
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And I wonder奇蹟 what he's soaking浸水 in.
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我還不知道是什麼東西讓他這麼著迷
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Is he picking選擇 up on the themes主題 of courage勇氣
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他知道這部電影的主題是勇氣
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and perseverance毅力 and loyalty忠誠?
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堅韌和忠誠?
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Is he picking選擇 up on the fact事實 that Luke盧克
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還是他知道路克
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joins加入 an army軍隊 to overthrow推翻 the government政府?
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加入軍團 企圖推翻帝國政府?
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Is he picking選擇 up on the fact事實 that
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還是他知道
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there are only boys男孩 in the universe宇宙
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在”星際大戰”裡 只有男性角色
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except for Aunt姑媽 Beru貝魯, and of course課程 this princess公主,
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除了Aunt Beru和莉亞公主
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who's誰是 really cool, but who kind of waits等待 around through通過 most of the movie電影
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她真的很酷 但在電影裡她多半只是在一旁等待
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so that she can award the hero英雄 with a medal勳章 and a wink眨眼
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所以她才會用獎牌和媚眼獎勵英雄
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to thank him for saving保存 the universe宇宙, which哪一個 he does
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感謝他拯救宇宙
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by the magic魔法 that he was born天生 with?
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用他與生俱來的魔法?
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Compare比較 this to 1939 with "The Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲."
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相較1939年的”綠野仙蹤”
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How does Dorothy多蘿西 win贏得 her movie電影?
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在電影裡 桃樂絲最後是如何獲勝?
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By making製造 friends朋友 with everybody每個人
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當然是與人交好
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and being存在 a leader領導.
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成為一位領袖
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That's kind of the world世界 I'd rather raise提高 my kids孩子 in --
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我就是想讓我的小孩活在那種世界
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Oz奧茲, right? -- and not the world世界 of dudes帥哥 fighting戰鬥,
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就像奧茲王國 對吧?而不是吵吵鬧鬧的世界
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which哪一個 is where we kind of have to be.
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我們現在就有點像生活在那種世界
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Why is there so much Force -- capital首都 F, Force --
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為什麼有這麼多”壓力”(現實)
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in the movies電影 we have for our kids孩子,
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在現在我們為這些小孩準備的電影裡
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and so little yellow黃色 brick road?
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卻很少有寓意希望的黃磚路呢?
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There is a lot of great writing寫作 about the impact碰撞
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有很多相當好的研究
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that the boy-violent男孩暴力 movie電影 has on girls女孩,
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討論男性暴力的電影對女性造成的影響
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and you should do that reading. It's very good.
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大家應該去看看這些文章 很有幫助
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I haven't沒有 read as much on how boys男孩 are picking選擇 up on this vibe盛傳.
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我還不知道男生有沒有這種感覺
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I know from my own擁有 experience經驗 that
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根據我自己的經驗
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Princess公主 Leia累啊 did not provide提供 the adequate充足 context上下文
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我知道莉亞公主沒有適當的背景
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that I could have used in navigating導航 the adult成人 world世界
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能讓我導引小孩進入成人世界
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that is co-ed男女同校. (Laughter笑聲)
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成人世界是有男有女的(笑聲)
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I think there was a first-kiss初吻 moment時刻
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電影裡出現初吻的那一刻
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when I really expected預期 the credits學分 to start開始 rolling壓延
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我很希望開始播電影演員表
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because that's the end結束 of the movie電影, right?
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因為這樣就表示電影結束了 對吧?
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I finished my quest尋求, I got the girl女孩.
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電影結束了 我問我女兒
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Why are you still standing常設 there?
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你怎麼還站在那裡?
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I don't know what I'm supposed應該 to do.
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我不知道該怎麼辦
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The movies電影 are very, very focused重點 on defeating擊敗 the villain惡棍
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這幾部電影的重點在於打敗敵人
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and getting得到 your reward獎勵, and there's not a lot of room房間
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得到獎賞 沒有太多空間
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for other relationships關係 and other journeys旅程.
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留給其他角色的感情關係和旅程
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It's almost幾乎 as though雖然 if you're a boy男孩,
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就好像如果你是男孩
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you are a dopey呆笨的 animal動物,
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你就是很笨的動物
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and if you are a girl女孩, you should bring帶來 your warrior戰士 costume服裝.
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如果你是女孩 就應該披上戰袍
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There are plenty豐富 of exceptions例外,
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還有很多例外
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and I will defend保衛 the Disney迪士尼 princesses公主們 in front面前 of any you.
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我會在你們每一位面前保護迪士尼電影裡的公主
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But they do send發送 a message信息 to boys男孩,
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但這些電影也傳達一種訊息給男孩
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that they are not, the boys男孩 are not really the target目標 audience聽眾.
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他們並不是目標觀眾
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They are doing a phenomenal非凡的 job工作 of teaching教學 girls女孩
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這些電影非常有意義 教導女孩
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how to defend保衛 against反對 the patriarchy父權制,
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如何在父權社會保護自己
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but they are not necessarily一定 showing展示 boys男孩
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但不一定要讓男孩們知道
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how they're supposed應該 to defend保衛 against反對 the patriarchy父權制.
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在父權社會他們應該如何保護自己
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There's no models楷模 for them.
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他們沒有任何的榜樣
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And we also have some terrific了不起 women婦女
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我們也有幾位了不起的女性
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who are writing寫作 new stories故事 for our kids孩子,
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再寫一些新的故事給小孩看
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and as three-dimensional三維 and delightful愉快 as Hermione赫敏 and Katniss凱特尼斯 are,
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就像妙麗和凱妮絲 都是那些故事中的女主角
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these are still war戰爭 movies電影.
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這幾部仍是戰爭電影
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And, of course課程, the most successful成功 studio工作室 of all time
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當然 有史以來最成功的電影製片公司
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continues繼續 to crank曲柄 out classic經典 after classic經典,
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不斷有經典作品產出
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every一切 single one of them about
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每一部經典電影
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the journey旅程 of a boy男孩, or a man,
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不是一個男孩或是男人的旅程
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or two men男人 who are friends朋友, or a man and his son兒子,
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就是兩個男性友人或一對父子的旅程
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or two men男人 who are raising提高 a little girl女孩.
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再不然就是兩個男人撫養一個小女孩的故事
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Until直到, as many許多 of you are thinking思維, this year,
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跟你們想的一樣 直到今年
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when they finally最後 came來了 out with "Brave勇敢."
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他們終於出版“勇敢傳說”
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I recommend推薦 it to all of you. It's on demand需求 now.
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我建議大家可以去看看 現在租得到
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Do you remember記得 what the critics批評者 said when "Brave勇敢" came來了 out?
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你還記得“勇敢傳說”剛上映時 電影評論家說什麼嗎?
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"Aw, I can't believe Pixar皮克斯 made製作 a princess公主 movie電影."
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我不敢相信皮克斯動畫做了一部公主系列電影
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It's very good. Don't let that stop you.
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那部電影很好看 別因為那樣就退縮了
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Now, almost幾乎 none沒有 of these movies電影 pass通過 the BechdelBechdel Test測試.
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現在幾乎沒有電影通過”貝克德爾測驗”
(註:貝克德爾測驗是一種針對性別歧視傾向的測驗)
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I don't know if you've heard聽說 of this.
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我不知道你們有沒有聽過這項測驗
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It has not yet然而 caught抓住 on and caught抓住 fire,
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它還不是很普遍
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but maybe today今天 we will start開始 a movement運動.
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但也許今天我們就能跨出第一步
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Alison艾莉森 BechdelBechdel is a comic滑稽 book artist藝術家,
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艾利森.貝克德爾是一位漫畫家
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and back in the mid-'中-'80s, she recorded記錄 this conversation會話
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在八零年代中期 她錄下一段談話
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she'd had with a friend朋友 about assessing評估 the movies電影 that they saw.
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是關於她跟她的一位朋友在評比她們看過的電影
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And it's very simple簡單. There's just three questions問題 you should ask:
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非常簡單 只要問三個問題
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Is there more than one character字符 in the movie電影
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這部電影裡有任何一位角色
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that is female who has lines?
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是女性 而且有臺詞嗎?
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So try to meet遇到 that bar酒吧.
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大家可以試著想想看
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And do these women婦女 talk to each other at any point in the movie電影?
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在電影裡 這些女性有互相交談過嗎?
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And is their conversation會話 about something other than
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她們是在談事情
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the guy that they both like? (Laughter笑聲)
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還是在討論她們共同喜歡的對象?
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Right? Thank you. (Applause掌聲)
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對吧?謝謝(掌聲)
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Thank you very much.
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謝謝大家
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Two women婦女 who exist存在 and talk to each other about stuff東東.
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兩位女性一直在閒聊
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It does happen發生. I've seen看到 it,
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真的有這樣的情況 我有看過
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and yet然而 I very rarely很少 see it in the movies電影
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但是在這幾部電影裡 我很少看見
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that we know and love.
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那幾部是我們知道而且很喜歡的電影
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In fact事實, this week I went to see
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事實上 這星期我去看了
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a very high-quality高質量 movie電影, "Argo阿爾戈."
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一部優質電影”逃離德黑蘭”
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Right? Oscar奧斯卡 buzz蜂鳴器, doing great at the box office辦公室,
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對吧?有希望拿下奧斯卡獎 票房很好
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a consensus共識 idea理念 of what a quality質量 Hollywood好萊塢 film電影 is.
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大家都認為就這是好萊塢電影該有的品質
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It pretty漂亮 much flunksflunks the BechdelBechdel test測試.
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這部電影很可能無法通過”貝克德爾測驗”
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And I don't think it should, because a lot of the movie電影,
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而且我認為它也不會通過 因為有許多電影
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I don't know if you've seen看到 it, but a lot of the movie電影
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我不知道你們有沒有看過 但是有很多電影
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takes place地點 in this embassy大使館 where men男人 and women婦女
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都在這間大使館拍攝
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are hiding out during the hostage人質 crisis危機.
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在人質危機事件時 很多人都躲在裡面
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We've我們已經 got quite相當 a few少數 scenes場景 of the men男人
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我們看到有幾個鏡頭是
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having deep, angst-ridden焦慮纏身 conversations對話 in this hideout巢穴,
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幾個人躲在大使館 憂心忡忡地談著事情
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and the great moment時刻 for one of the actresses女演員 is
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其中一位女演員還很悠閒
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to peek窺視 through通過 the door and say, "Are you coming未來 to bed, honey蜜糖?"
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往房內看 問說”親愛的要睡了嗎?”
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That's Hollywood好萊塢 for you.
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那就是好萊塢電影的橋段了
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So let's look at the numbers數字.
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我們來看看這項數據
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2011, of the 100 most popular流行 movies電影,
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2011百大人氣電影
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how many許多 of them do you think actually其實 have female protagonists主角?
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你們認為可能有多少部電影是由女性主演?
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Eleven十一. It's not bad.
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十一部 還不錯
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It's not as many許多 percent百分 as the number of women婦女
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這個比率比
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we've我們已經 just elected當選 to Congress國會, so that's good.
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女性當選國會議員的比率還高 還不錯
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But there is a number that is greater更大 than this
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但是有一個數據比這個更高
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that's going to bring帶來 this room房間 down.
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可能會讓在座各位嚇一跳
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Last year, The New York紐約 Times published發表 a study研究
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去年 紐約時報發表一篇研究
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that the government政府 had doneDONE.
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這項研究是政府之前做的
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Here's這裡的 what it said.
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研究結果表示
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One out of five women婦女 in America美國
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在美國 每五位女性就有一位
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say that they have been sexually assaulted毆打 some time in their life.
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表示 在她們一生中 曾經遭受性侵害
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Now, I don't think that's the fault故障 of popular流行 entertainment娛樂.
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現在我認為這不是大眾娛樂的責任
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I don't think kids'孩子們 movies電影 have anything to do with that.
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也跟兒童電影沒有任何關係
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I don't even think that
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甚至 我認為
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music音樂 videos視頻 or pornography色情 are really directly related有關 to that,
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音樂影片或色情電影與這項研究結果沒有直接關係
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but something is going wrong錯誤,
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但事情開始漸漸不對勁了
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and when I hear that statistic統計,
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我聽到這項統計數字時
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one of the things I think of is
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我想到的其中一件事就是
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that's a lot of sexual有性 assailants襲擊者.
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會出現很多性侵犯
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Who are these guys? What are they learning學習?
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這些傢伙是誰? 他們學到什麼?
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What are they failing失敗 to learn學習?
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他們沒學到什麼?
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Are they absorbing吸收 the story故事 that
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難道他們聽到是故事是說
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a male hero's英雄的 job工作 is to defeat打敗 the villain惡棍 with violence暴力
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男英雄的工作就是用武力打敗壞人
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and then collect蒐集 the reward獎勵, which哪一個 is a woman女人
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然後獲得獎賞
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who has no friends朋友 and doesn't speak說話?
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獎賞還是一個沒有朋友、不會說話的女性?
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Are we soaking浸水 up that story故事?
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我們有因為這個故事記取教訓嗎?
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You know,
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你知道
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as a parent with the privilege特權
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身為一位父母
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of raising提高 a daughter女兒
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養育女兒
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like all of you who are doing the same相同 thing,
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就像在座各位所做的事一樣
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we find this world世界 and this statistic統計 very alarming驚人
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從這個世界和這筆統計數字 我們發現情況非常危急
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and we want to prepare準備 them.
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想為此做準備
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We have tools工具 at our disposal處置 like "girl女孩 power功率,"
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我們有辦法處理這種情況 就像“飛天小女警”一樣
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and we hope希望 that that will help,
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希望這麼做有用
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but I gotta總得 wonder奇蹟, is girl女孩 power功率 going to protect保護 them
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但是我懷疑女性的力量能夠保護她們嗎?
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if, at the same相同 time, actively積極地 or passively被動,
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如果同一時間 不論是有意無意
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we are training訓練 our sons兒子 to maintain保持 their boy男孩 power功率?
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我們也在訓練我們的兒子 保有男性力量
10:11
I mean, I think the NetflixNetflix公司 queue隊列
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我的意思是 我認為Netflix排序系統
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is one way that we can do something very important重要,
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是一種方法 讓我們能夠先處理重要的事
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and I'm talking mainly主要 to the dads爸爸 here.
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我主要是想告訴在場的父親
10:21
I think we have got to show顯示 our sons兒子
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我認為我們必須為我們的兒子
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a new definition定義 of manhood男子氣概.
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訂下一個全新男子氣概的定義
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The definition定義 of manhood男子氣概 is already已經 turning車削 upside上邊 down.
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男子氣概的定義已經與我們所想的完全不一樣
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You've read about how the new economy經濟
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你一定讀過新經濟理論是如何
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is changing改變 the roles角色 of caregiver護理人員 and wage工資 earner收入來源.
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改變看護和勞工的角色
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They're throwing投擲 it up in the air空氣.
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就只是放任不管
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So our sons兒子 are going to have to find some way
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所以我們的兒子必須去尋找其他方法
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of adapting適應 to this, some new relationship關係 with each other,
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來適應這個問題 或是彼此之間新的關係
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and I think we really have to show顯示 them, and model模型 for them,
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同時 我認為我們必須做給他們看 成為他們的榜樣
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how a real真實 man
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一個真男人
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is someone有人 who trusts信託 his sisters姐妹
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會信賴他的姊妹
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and respects尊重 them, and wants to be on their team球隊,
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會尊重她們 設身處地為她們著想
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and stands站立 up against反對 the real真實 bad guys,
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也會起身對抗真正的壞人
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who are the men男人 who want to abuse濫用 the women婦女.
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對抗會虐待女人的男人
11:05
And I think our job工作 in the NetflixNetflix公司 queue隊列
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我覺得我們的責任就是用Netflix排序系統
11:08
is to look out for those movies電影 that pass通過 the BechdelBechdel Test測試,
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留意通過”貝克德爾測驗”的電影
11:12
if we can find them, and to seek尋求 out the heroines女主角
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如果我們能將這些電影和女英雄找出來
11:16
who are there,
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誰有參與電影演出
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who show顯示 real真實 courage勇氣, who bring帶來 people together一起,
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誰很有勇氣 誰讓大家團結在一起
11:22
and to nudge微調 our sons兒子 to identify鑑定 with those heroines女主角
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也能讓我們的兒子能夠認識這些女英雄
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and to say, "I want to be on their team球隊,"
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說“我想跟她們站在同一陣線”
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because they're going to be on their team球隊.
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因為他們自然就會團結在一起
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When I asked my daughter女兒 who her favorite喜愛 character字符 was in "Star Wars戰爭,"
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我問我女兒 在“星際大戰”裡她最喜歡的哪一個角色?
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do you know what she said?
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你知道她說什麼嗎?
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Obi-Wan歐比旺.
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歐比王
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Obi-Wan歐比旺 Kenobi肯諾比 and Glinda格林達.
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歐比王‧肯諾比和葛琳達
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What do these two have in common共同?
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這兩個角色之間有什麼共通點?
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Maybe it's not just the sparkly閃閃發光的 dress連衣裙.
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可能不只是因為他們的穿著很搶眼
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I think these people are experts專家.
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我認為這些人都是專家
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I think these are the two people in the movie電影
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我認為電影裡的這兩個角色
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who know more than anybody任何人 else其他,
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比其他角色還要足智多謀
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and they love sharing分享 their knowledge知識 with other people
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而且喜歡與他人分享自己的知識
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to help them reach達到 their potential潛在.
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幫助啟發他人潛能
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Now, they are leaders領導者.
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現在 他們都是領袖了
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I like that kind of quest尋求 for my daughter女兒,
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我想讓我女兒自己去找答案
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and I like that kind of quest尋求 for my son兒子.
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讓我兒子自己探尋
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I want more quests任務 like that.
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我想他們自己去研究
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I want fewer quests任務 where my son兒子 is told,
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我不想告訴我兒子應該做什麼
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"Go out and fight鬥爭 it alone單獨,"
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“走開 自己想辦法”
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and more quests任務 where he sees看到 that it's his job工作 to join加入 a team球隊,
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他應該與他人一起 解決看見的問題
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maybe a team球隊 led by women婦女,
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也許是一個由女性領導的隊伍
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to help other people become成為 better
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幫助其他人變得更好
12:32
and be better people,
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也讓自己變得更好
12:34
like the Wizard巫師 of Oz奧茲.
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就跟“綠野仙蹤”一樣
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Thank you.
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謝謝大家
Translated by Bert Chen
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Colin Stokes - Proud dad
The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children.

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Colin Stokes divides his time between parenting and building the brand of Citizen Schools, a non-profit that reimagines the school day for middle school students in low-income communities in eight states. As Managing Director of Brand & Communications, Colin helps people within the organization find the ideas, words and stories that will connect with more and more people. He believes that understanding the human mind is a force that can be used for good and seeks to take advantage of our innate and learned tendencies to bring out the best in each other and our culture.

Before starting a family, Colin was an actor and graphic designer in New York City. He starred in the long-running off-Broadway musical I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change, as well is in several musicals and Shakespeare stagings. But he jokes that he seems to have achieved more renown (and considerably more revenue) for his brief appearances on two Law & Order episodes.

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