Veerle Provoost: Do kids think of sperm donors as family?
فيرل بروفوست: هل يعتبر الأطفال أن المتبرعين بالحيوانات المنوية أفرادًا من أسرتهم؟
Veerle Provoost studies genetic and social parenthood in the context of donor conception. Full bio
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about the sperm donation?
بالحيوانات المنوية؟
to as "biological fathers,"
"بالآباء البيولوجيين"
be using the word "father?"
about the concept of parenthood.
about what I learned
what matters most in a family,
ما هو الشيء الأكثر أهمية في الأسرة؟
looks a little different.
of dealing with tough questions.
التعامل مع الأسئلة الصعبة.
the parents' uncertainties.
at Ghent University Hospital,
في مستشفى جامعة غنت،
at which we conducted interviews.
did not have good-quality sperm,
من الحيوانات المنوية،
needed to find sperm elsewhere.
للعثور على الحيوانات المنوية من مكان آخر.
like parenthood and family.
مفاهيم مثل الأبوة والأسرة.
philosophical questions
صار بإمكاني أن أطرح أسئلة فلسفية مختصرة،
as possible to the interview,
من المعنى والمضمون للمقابلة،
if it were an apple tree?
for everyone who, in their view,
من وجهة نظرهم،
and hang it wherever they wanted.
with a parent or a sibling.
started mentioning the donor.
أحد من الأطفال مانح الحيوان المنوي.
into the family?"
إلى هذه العائلة؟ "
who have spare seeds.
mentioning the donor,
using their own words.
باستخدام كلماتهم،
for the friendly man with the seeds,
صاحب الحبوانات المنوية،
up there with the others.
because my family would not be here,
لأن عائلتي لن تكون موجودة.
constructed family tales --
with family narratives.
who made books --
throughout the treatment.
طوال فترة العلاج.
parking tickets in there.
and how deeply loved their child was.
that these children are doing fine.
أن هؤلاء الأطفال على ما يرام.
more problems than other kids.
to justify their decisions
تبرير قراراتهم
would understand their reasons
that their children might disapprove
of one mom, one dad
من أم واحدة وأب واحد
but not part of our study.
لكنه ليس جزءاً من دراستنا
with his father,
the parents in our study feared.
الآباء والأمهات في دراستنا.
and they made up.
،وتصالحا بعد ذلك
that is most interesting.
with the lack of a genetic link.
بانعدام الصلة الوراثية.
is a little different.
what's best for their child.
ما هو أفضل لأطفالهم.
long before they even were parents.
to the counselor,
the advice they were given.
not unless he asks,
to children's questions.
and she's made in the same way.
ومرت بنفس التجربة.
I just go and ask her."
أذهب إليها على الفور."
what they had in mind,
it is to be an open-communication family.
أن يكونوا في عائلة متفاهمة ومتناقشة.
we gather evidence first.
نبدأ أولاً بملاحظة الأعراض
what this pill is doing
ما الذي تفعله الأدوية
that is theoretically sound,
النصائح الصحيحة نظريا
that there is evidence for --
improves patients' lives.
would now like to offer you a paradox:
يمكنه الآن أن يقدم تناقض
to the warmth we found in those families.
الذي أحسسناه في هذه الأسر
and the trip to the farmer?
as members of families,
are warm relationships.
هو العلاقات الدافئة.
professionals to create those.
we can do with some advice.
يمكننا أن نفعله ببعض النصائح
that works for your family.
because you live your family life.
لكنك أيضاً جزء من حياة أسرتك
and your creativity,
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Veerle Provoost - BioethicistVeerle Provoost studies genetic and social parenthood in the context of donor conception.
Why you should listen
Veerle Provoost is a professor at the Bioethics Institute Ghent of Ghent University and a member of the Network on Ethics of Families. For her current research she coordinates a team of researchers who work on a study about genetic and social parenthood in the context of donor conception.
Using empirical research methods and Socratic conversation techniques, Provoost studies how professionals and ordinary people reason about health and how they make decisions in health-related contexts. In her courses on empirical research methods for ethics and bioethics, she teaches students how to look beyond mere experiences or general attitudes and to explore the principles and values that guide people's reasoning and decision-making. Her research shows that patients may bring their own sets of principles when making medical decisions, principles that may be very different from what medical staff anticipated and may feature around moral elements that may completely escape the attention of ethicists. For one, the moral reasoning of everyday people is centered more around relationships than around the principles that are at the core of scholarly bioethics.
In her talk TEDxGhent talk, she explains how we can gain valuable insights from families of children conceived with donor sperm and their views about what a family really is. These alternative families teach us what matters most in the decisions we all make for our children, whether or not they are genetically related to us. The parents and children she studied created their own family stories (about how their families were made) in highly diverse but very creative ways. However, some parents thought that they should strictly follow the advice of experts in their communication with their children. Because of that, they discounted their own competence. Based on her research experience, Provoost warns us for the negative effects of problematizing these families. Because no matter what a family looks like, or how it is made, parents should believe in their abilities and their creativity. As they know their families best, they are the real experts in how to find the best way to tell their own family story to their own child.
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