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Ric Elias: 3 things I learned while my plane crashed
रिक एलियास: मेरो हवाइजहाज दुर्घटनाग्रस्त हुदा मैले सिकेका ३ वटा कुराहरू
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रिक एलिआस उडान १५४९ को पहिलो लहरको सिटमा बस्नुभएको थियो, जुन दुर्घटनाग्रस्त हवाइजहाज न्युयोर्क स्थित हड्सन नदीमा जनवरी २००९ मा अवतरण गरिएको थियो | त्यो अभागी जहाज तल झरिरहदा उहाको दिमागमा के भइरहेको थियो | आज TED मा प्रथमपटक उहाँ आफ्नो कथा सार्वजनिक गर्दैहुनुहुन्छ |
Ric Elias - Entrepreneur
Ric Elias is the CEO of Red Ventures, a marketing services company that grew out of Elias' long experience in business. Full bio
Ric Elias is the CEO of Red Ventures, a marketing services company that grew out of Elias' long experience in business. Full bio
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Imagine a big explosion
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एउटा ठूलो विस्फोटनको कल्पना गर्नुहोस
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as you climb through 3,000 ft.
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जब तपाई ३००० फिट उचाईंमा हुनुहुन्छ |
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Imagine a plane full of smoke.
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एउटा धुवाँको मुस्लोले ढाकिएको हवाइजहाजको कल्पना गर्नुस |
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Imagine an engine going clack, clack, clack,
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एउटा इन्जिनको कल्पना गर्नुहोस् जुन कराउँदैछ – क्लाक, क्लाक, क्लाक
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clack, clack, clack, clack.
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क्लाक, क्लाक, क्लाक, क्लाक
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It sounds scary.
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यो एकदम डरलाग्दो हुन्छ ।
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Well I had a unique seat that day. I was sitting in 1D.
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म एउटा गजबको सिटमा थिएँ । म १घ (1D) मा बसेको थिएँ ।
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I was the only one who could talk to the flight attendants.
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म नै एउटै मानिस थिएँ जो जहाजको परिचारिकासँग कुरा गर्न सक्थ्यो ।
00:37
So I looked at them right away,
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मैले उत्तिनै खेर उनीहरूलाई हेरे ।
00:39
and they said, "No problem. We probably hit some birds."
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र उनीहरूले भने, “कुनै समस्या होइन । हामीले कुनै चरासँग ठक्कर खाएको हुनुपर्छ ।”
00:42
The pilot had already turned the plane around,
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चालकले जहाज घुमाइसकेका थिए,
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and we weren't that far.
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र हामी धेरै टाढा पनि थिएनौ ।
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You could see Manhattan.
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म्यानहटन देख्न सकिन्थ्यो ।
00:48
Two minutes later,
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दुई मिनेट पछि,
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three things happened at the same time.
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तीन वटा कुराहरु एकैसाथ भए ।
00:53
The pilot lines up the plane with the Hudson River.
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विमान चालकले जहाजलाई हड्सन नदी तिर सोझ्याए ।
00:57
That's usually not the route.
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त्यो नियमित बाटो थिएन ।
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(Laughter)
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(हाँसो)
01:01
He turns off the engines.
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उनले इन्जिनहरु बन्द गरे ।
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Now imagine being in a plane with no sound.
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अब कल्पना गर्नुहोस् कि तपाईं यस्तो जहाज भित्र हुनुहुन्छ जुन बाट आवाज आइ राखेको छैन।
01:07
And then he says three words --
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र उनले तीन वटा शब्द भन्छन – –
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the most unemotional three words I've ever heard.
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मैले अहिलेसम्म सुनेका मध्य कठोर शब्दहरु
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He says, "Brace for impact."
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र उनी भन्छन, “नराम्रो परिणामको लागि तयारी गर ।”
01:16
I didn't have to talk to the flight attendant anymore.
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मैले जहाज–परिचारिकाहरूसँग अब कुरा गरिराख्नु परेन ।
01:18
(Laughter)
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(हाँसो)
01:21
I could see in her eyes,
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मैले उनको आँखा पढ्न सक्थे ।
01:23
it was terror. Life was over.
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त्यो भयानक थियो । जीवनको समाप्ति ।
01:26
Now I want to share with you three things I learned about myself that day.
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अब मैले त्यो दिन सिकेका ३ वटा महत्वपूर्ण कुरा तपाईंहरूलाई सुनाउँदैछु ।
01:31
I learned that it all changes in an instant.
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मैले सिके कि सबैकुरा निमेषभरमा परिवर्तन हुन सक्छन् ।
01:34
We have this bucket list,
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हामीसँग एउटा लामो सुची छ,
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we have these things we want to do in life,
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हामी यी कुराहरु आफ्नो जीवनकालमा गर्न चाहन्छौं,
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and I thought about all the people I wanted to reach out to that I didn't,
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मैले जीवनमा भेट्न चाहेका तर नभेटेका मानिसलाई सम्झे ।
01:41
all the fences I wanted to mend,
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ती सारा बिग्रेका कामहरु जसलाई म सच्याउन चाहन्थे,
01:44
all the experiences I wanted to have and I never did.
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मैले लिन चाहेर पनि लिन नसकेका सबै अनुभवहरु ।
01:47
As I thought about that later on,
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जब मैले यी सबैको बारेमा पछि सोचें,
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I came up with a saying,
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म यो निर्णयमा पुगे
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which is, "I collect bad wines."
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कि, "मैले गलत रक्सी जम्मा पारिरहेको छु ।"
01:55
Because if the wine is ready and the person is there, I'm opening it.
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किनकि जब रक्सी तयार छ र कोही त्यही छ – म रक्सी खोल्दै छु ।
01:58
I no longer want to postpone anything in life.
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अब म कुनै पनि कुरालाई थाँती राख्न चाहन्न ।
02:01
And that urgency, that purpose,
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र त्यो आकस्मिकता, त्यो कारणले
02:03
has really changed my life.
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मेरो जीवनलाई साँच्चै नै परिवर्तन गरिदिएको छ ।
02:06
The second thing I learned that day --
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मैले त्यो दिन सिकेको दोस्रो कुरा ––
02:08
and this is as we clear the George Washington Bridge,
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र यो हामीले जर्ज वासिङ्टन पुललाई खाली गर्नु जस्तै हो,
02:11
which was by not a lot --
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जुन त्यति ठुलो कुरा पनि होइन---
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I thought about, wow,
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म प्रफुल्ल भए ।
02:16
I really feel one real regret.
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मलाई साँच्चै नै एउटा पश्चाताप महसुस हुन्छ ।
02:18
I've lived a good life.
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मैले एउटा राम्रो जीन्दगी बाँचेको छु ।
02:20
In my own humanity and mistakes,
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मेरो आफ्नै मानवता तथा गल्तीहरूको सँगै
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I've tried to get better at everything I tried.
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मैले प्रयास गरेका हरेक चीजमा राम्रो हुन प्रयास गरेको छु ।
02:24
But in my humanity,
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तर मेरो मानवतामा,
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I also allow my ego to get in.
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म मेरो अहमलाई पनि स्वागत गर्छु ।
02:28
And I regretted the time I wasted
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र मैले व्यर्थै खेर फालेको समय सोचेर पश्चाताप गरे
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on things that did not matter
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जुन काम ती आवश्यक थिएन
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with people that matter.
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ती मानिससँग जुन महत्वपूर्ण थिए ।
02:35
And I thought about my relationship with my wife,
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र मैले सम्बन्धहरूको बारेमा सोचें मेरी पत्निसँगको,
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with my friends, with people.
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मेरा साथीसँगको, मानिसहरूसँगको ।
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And after, as I reflected on that,
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र त्यसपछि, जब मैले त्यस विषयलाई लिएर आफैलाई ऐनामा हेरे,
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I decided to eliminate negative energy from my life.
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मैले मेरो जीवनबाट नकरात्मक उर्जालाई उत्सर्जन गर्ने निर्णय गरे ।
02:45
It's not perfect, but it's a lot better.
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यो सबै हिसाबबाट उपयुक्त त छैन, तर धेरै राम्रो चाही छ ।
02:47
I've not had a fight with my wife in two years.
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मैले यो २ वर्षमा आफ्नी पत्निसँगै कहिल्यै झगडा गरेको छैन ।
02:49
It feels great.
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बडो आनन्दको महसुस हुन्छ ।
02:51
I no longer try to be right;
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म अबदेखि सही हुन चाहन्न,
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I choose to be happy.
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बस! खुसी रहन चाहन्छु ।
02:56
The third thing I learned --
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मैले सिकेको तेस्रो कुरा– –
02:58
and this is as your mental clock
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यो तपाईंको दिमागी घडी जस्तै हो
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starts going, "15, 14, 13."
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चलिरहन्छ, “१५”, “१४”, “१३”
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You can see the water coming.
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तपाई पानी आइरहेको देख्नु हुन्छ ।
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I'm saying, "Please blow up."
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म भन्छु, “कृपया मलाई बगाएर लैजाउ” ।
03:06
I don't want this thing to break in 20 pieces
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म यसलाई २० टुक्रामा विभाजन गर्न चाहन्न
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like you've seen in those documentaries.
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तपाईहरूले त्यो वृत्तचित्रमा देखे जस्तो ।
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And as we're coming down,
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जब हामी तल आउँदैछौं,
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I had a sense of, wow,
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मलाई रमाइलो अनुभव भयो ।
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dying is not scary.
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मर्नु डरलाग्दो छैन ।
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It's almost like we've been preparing for it our whole lives.
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यो त हामीले जीन्दगी भरि गरिरहेको तयारी जस्तै छ ।
03:21
But it was very sad.
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तर यो धेरै दुःखदायी चाही थियो|
03:23
I didn't want to go; I love my life.
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म जान (मर्न) चाहन्न थिए, म मेरी पत्निलाई प्रेम गर्छु ।
03:26
And that sadness
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अनि त्यो दुःख
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really framed in one thought,
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एउटा सोचमा परिणत भयो
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which is, I only wish for one thing.
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जुन कुरा, मैले एउटै मात्रै चाहना गरे|
03:33
I only wish I could see my kids grow up.
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मैले चाहे की म मेरा छोराछोरीहरू बढेको देखुँ ।
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About a month later, I was at a performance by my daughter --
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त्यसको लगभग एक महिना पछि, म मेरी छोरीको (कला) प्रस्तुतिमा थिए ।
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first-grader, not much artistic talent ...
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एक कक्षाकी छात्रा, त्यस्तो धेरै प्रतिभावान कलाकार त होइन ...
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... yet.
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... तरपनि ।
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(Laughter)
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(हाँसो)
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And I'm bawling, I'm crying,
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म कराउदैछु, रूदैछु,
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like a little kid.
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सानो बच्चा जस्तै
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And it made all the sense in the world to me.
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र यी सबै कुरा गर्नु मलाई निकै सान्दर्भिक नै लाग्दै थियो
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I realized at that point,
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त्यस क्षण मैले यो कुरा महसुस गरे कि
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by connecting those two dots,
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ति दुई वटा आयामहरू लाइ जोडेर
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that the only thing that matters in my life
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एउटै कुरा जुन मेरो जीवनमा महत्वपूर्ण छ--
04:01
is being a great dad.
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त्यो भनेको एउटा राम्रो पिता हुनु हो ।
04:03
Above all, above all,
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त्यो भन्दा पनि महत्वपूर्ण कुरा, महत्वपूर्ण कुरा,
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the only goal I have in life
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मेरो जीवनको एउटै मात्र उद्देश्य भनेको
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is to be a good dad.
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एउटा राम्रो पिता बन्नु हो ।
04:10
I was given the gift of a miracle,
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मलाई एउटा चामत्कारिक उपहार प्राप्त भएको छ
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of not dying that day.
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त्यो दिन नमर्नु
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I was given another gift,
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मलाई अर्को पनि उपहार प्राप्त भएको छ,
04:16
which was to be able to see into the future
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जुन चाही भविष्य देख्न सक्ने हुनु हो
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and come back
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अनि त्यहाँबाट फर्केर आउने
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and live differently.
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तथा फरक जीवन जिउने हुन सक्नु हो ।
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I challenge you guys that are flying today,
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म तपाई आज उडिरहनु भएका साथीहरूलाई चुनौति दिन्छु,
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imagine the same thing happens on your plane --
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सम्झनुहोस कि तपाईहरूको जहाजमा पनि त्यहि कुरा भयो ।
04:28
and please don't --
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तर कृपया नसम्झनुस्
04:30
but imagine, and how would you change?
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अनुमान गर्नुहोस, तपाईमा कस्तो परिवर्तन आउने थियो ?
04:32
What would you get done that you're waiting to get done
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तपाईले के काम सम्पन्न गर्नुहुन्थ्यो, जुन तपाईंले थाती राख्नु भएको थियो
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because you think you'll be here forever?
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किनकि तपाईंलाई लाग्छ तपाईं सधै यही रहिरहनु हुनेछ ?
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How would you change your relationships
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तपाईं कसरी सुधार गर्नुहुन्थ्यो आफ्नो सम्बन्धहरूलाई
04:39
and the negative energy in them?
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तथा सम्बन्धमा भएका खराब तत्वहरूलाई ?
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And more than anything, are you being the best parent you can?
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र सबै भन्दा ठूलो कुरा, तपाईं सकेसम्म उत्तम अभिभावक बनिरहनुभएको छ ?
04:44
Thank you.
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धन्यबाद
04:46
(Applause)
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(ताली)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Ric Elias - EntrepreneurRic Elias is the CEO of Red Ventures, a marketing services company that grew out of Elias' long experience in business.
Why you should listen
Born in Puerto Rico, Ric Elias came to the United States for college knowing little English, as he writes in his online bio . So what did he do? "I adjusted my schedule and took only classes that dealt with numbers my entire first year," he says. "I'd always been decent at math, and things like calculus and accounting were non-lingual. I was able to buy some time to improve my English skills." His facility with numbers has led to a wide-ranging career in business and finance.
Elias is the CEO and co-founder of Red Ventures, a firm that helps large service companies acquire new customers online. He began his career in General Electric Co.'s Aerospace Division, then worked at the marketing services company CUC International (later known as Cendant). Prior to founding Red Ventures, Ric served as president of Spark Network Services, a promotion and data company held by Cendant.
"I'm a frustrated athlete," says Elias. "To me, business is the Olympics for non-athletes. It comes down to loving competition; figuring out whom we should compete against and how to beat them."
Ric Elias | Speaker | TED.com