TEDxWomen 2012
Angela Patton: A father-daughter dance ... in prison
Angela Paton (Angela Patton): Igranka očeva i ćerki... u zatvoru
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U "Camp Diva", Angela Paton radi da bi pomogla devojčicama i njihovim očevima da ostanu u kontaktu i životima jedno drugog. Međutim, šta je sa devojkama čiji otac ne može biti uz njih - jer je u zatvoru? Paton priča priču o jednoj veoma posebnoj igranci očeva i ćerki. (Snimljeno na TEDxWomen)
Angela Patton - Activist
Angela Patton is an ambassador for who she calls "at-promise" (as opposed to "at-risk") girls and a serial innovator. Full bio
Angela Patton is an ambassador for who she calls "at-promise" (as opposed to "at-risk") girls and a serial innovator. Full bio
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00:17
I was sitting with my girls,
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Sedela sam sa svojim devojčicama
00:20
and Joy said,
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i Džoj je rekla:
00:22
"Dang, I wish he'd get off my back.
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"Dođavola, volela bih da me ostavi na miru.
00:26
My daddy, he calls me all the time."
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Moj tata, stalno me zove."
00:30
"Lucky for you he calls at all," said Jasmine.
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"Srećna si što te uopšte zove,"
rekla je Jasmin.
rekla je Jasmin.
00:33
"I haven't heard from my dad in years."
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"Nisam čula svog oca već godinama."
00:36
At this moment, I knew the girls needed a way
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U tom trenutku, znala sam da je
devojkama potreban način
devojkama potreban način
00:41
to connect with their fathers.
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da se spoje sa svojim očevima.
00:43
At Camp Diva, my non-profit organization,
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U "Camp Diva",
mojoj neprofitnoj organizaciji,
mojoj neprofitnoj organizaciji,
00:47
we have these types of conversations all the time
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imamo ovakve
ragovore stalno,
ragovore stalno,
00:51
as a way to help girls of African descent
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kao način da pomognemo
devojkama afričkog porekla
devojkama afričkog porekla
00:54
prepare for their passage into womanhood.
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da se pripreme
za put ka sazrevanju.
za put ka sazrevanju.
00:57
These girls just needed
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Ovim devojkama
je samo bio potreban
je samo bio potreban
01:01
a way to invite their fathers into their lives
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način da pozovu
svoje očeve u živote
svoje očeve u živote
01:05
on their own terms.
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po njihovim uslovima.
01:07
So I asked the girls,
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I tako sam pitala devojke:
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"How can we help other girls
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"Kako možemo da pomognemo
ostalim devojkama
ostalim devojkama
01:12
develop healthy relationships with their fathers?"
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da razviju jednu zdravu
vezu sa svojim očevima?"
vezu sa svojim očevima?"
01:16
"Let's have a dance," one girl shouted,
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"Da organizujemo igranku,"
viknula je jedna devojka
viknula je jedna devojka
01:21
and all the girls quickly backed her up.
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i ostale devojke su je brzo podržale.
01:25
They started dreaming about the decorations,
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Počele su da sanjaju
o dekoracijama,
o dekoracijama,
01:28
invitations, the dresses they were going to wear,
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pozivnicama,
haljinama koje će nositi,
haljinama koje će nositi,
01:31
and what their fathers could and could not wear. (Laughter)
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i šta bi mogli njihovi očevi mogli
da nose, a šta ne. (Smeh)
da nose, a šta ne. (Smeh)
01:36
It was off and running before I could even blink my eyes,
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Priča je pokrenuta pre
nego što sam i trepnula,
nego što sam i trepnula,
01:40
but even if I could have slowed down those girls,
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a i da sam mogla te devojke
da zaustavim,
da zaustavim,
01:44
I wouldn't have,
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ne bih to učinila,
01:46
because one thing that I have learned
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jer jedna stvar koju sam naučila
01:48
from over a decade of working with girls
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za više od deset godina
rada sa devojkama
rada sa devojkama
01:51
is that they already know what they need.
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je da one već znaju
šta im je potrebno.
šta im je potrebno.
01:54
The wisdom lives inside of them.
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Mudrost živi u njima.
01:59
As long as they have infrastructure,
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Sve dok imaju infrastrukturu,
02:02
mentorship and resources,
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mentorstvo i resurse,
02:04
they can build what they need,
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mogu sagraditi šta im je potrebno,
02:07
not only to survive, but to thrive.
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ne samo da prežive,
već i da uspeju.
već i da uspeju.
02:13
So we had a dance,
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Znači imali smo igranku
02:17
and girls and their fathers came in multitudes.
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i devojke i njihovi očevi
došli su u velikom broju.
došli su u velikom broju.
02:22
They were dressed to the nines.
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Bili su prikladno odeveni.
02:25
They acted sweet.
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Bili su slatki.
02:27
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
02:31
They acted silly.
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Bili su luckasti.
02:32
They really enjoyed each other's company.
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Zaista su uživali
u međusobnom druženju.
u međusobnom druženju.
02:36
It was a huge success.
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Bio je to veliki uspeh.
02:38
And the girls decided to make it an annual event.
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I devojke su odlučile da
organizuju događaj svake godine.
organizuju događaj svake godine.
02:44
So as the seasons changed,
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Kako su se doba menjala
02:46
and it was time to plan the dance again,
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i bližilo se vreme da
se opet planira igranka
se opet planira igranka
02:49
one girl named Brianna spoke up,
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jedna devojka po imenu Briana
je uzela je reč,
je uzela je reč,
02:52
and she said,
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i rekla pritom:
02:54
"My dad can't come to the dance,
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"Moj tata ne može da dođe na igranku
02:57
and this whole thing is making me sad."
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i sve ovo me čini tužnom."
03:01
"Why not?" the girls asked.
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"Zašto ne može?",
pitale su devojke.
pitale su devojke.
03:04
"Because he's in jail," she bravely admitted.
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"Jer je u zatvoru,"
priznala je hrabro.
priznala je hrabro.
03:09
"Well, can he just get out for a day?" one of the girls asked. (Laughter)
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"Pa,može li izaći samo na jedan dan?",
jedna od devojaka je pitala. (Smeh)
jedna od devojaka je pitala. (Smeh)
03:14
"And come in shackles?
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"I da dođe u okovima?
03:17
That's worse than not having him here at all."
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To je gore nego da uopšte ne dođe."
03:21
At this moment, I saw an opportunity
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U tom trenutku,
videla sam šansu
videla sam šansu
03:26
for the girls to rise to the occasion
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za devojke da dorastu prilici
03:29
and to become their own heroes.
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i da postanu svoji heroji.
03:31
So I asked, "What do you think we should do about this?
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Pitala sam:
"Šta mislite da treba da uradimo po tom pitanju?
"Šta mislite da treba da uradimo po tom pitanju?
03:36
We want every girl to experience the dance, right?"
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Želimo da svaka devojka
uživa u igranci, zar ne?"
uživa u igranci, zar ne?"
03:41
So the girls thought for a moment,
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Devojke su razmislile na trenutak
03:43
and one girl suggested,
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i jedna devojčica je predložila:
03:45
"Why don't we just take the dance in the jail?"
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"Zašto ne organizujemo igranku u zatvoru?"
03:50
Most of the girls doubted the possibility of that,
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Većina devojaka je
sumnjala da je to moguće,
sumnjala da je to moguće,
03:54
and said, "Are you crazy?
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i rekle su: "Jesi ti poludela?"
03:56
Who is going to allow a bunch of little girls,
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Ko će dozvoliti gomili
malih devojčica,
malih devojčica,
03:59
dressed up — " (Laughter)
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skockanih - " (Smeh)
04:02
" — to come inside a jail and dance with their daddies in Spongebob suits?"
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" - da uđu u zatvor i plešu sa
svojim očevima u Sunđer Bob odelima?"
svojim očevima u Sunđer Bob odelima?"
04:07
Because that's what they called them.
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Jer tako su ih zvali.
04:11
I said, "Girls, well, well,
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Rekla sam: "Devojke,
04:15
you never know unless you ask."
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nikad nećete saznati ako ne pitate."
04:19
So a letter was written to the Richmond City Sheriff,
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Napisali smo pismo
šerifu grada Ričmonda,
šerifu grada Ričmonda,
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signed collectively by each girl,
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sve devojke su se potpisale
04:27
and I would have to say, he is a very special sheriff.
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i moram reći, to je jedan veoma poseban šerif.
04:33
He contacted me immediately and said,
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Odmah me je kontaktirao i rekao,
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whenever there is an opportunity to bring families inside,
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kad god postoji mogućnost da
pustimo porodice unutra,
pustimo porodice unutra,
04:43
his doors are always open.
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njihova vrata su uvek otvorena.
04:47
Because one thing he did know,
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Jer jednu stvar je sigurno znao,
04:49
that when fathers are connected to their children,
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kad su očevi povezani
sa svojom decom,
sa svojom decom,
04:52
it is less likely that they will return.
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manje su šanse da će se vratiti.
04:57
So,
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Dakle,
04:59
16 inmates and 18 girls were invited.
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16 zatvorenika i 18 devojčica
je bilo pozvano.
je bilo pozvano.
05:05
The girls were dressed in their Sunday best,
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Devojke su obukle
svoje najbolje haljine,
svoje najbolje haljine,
05:09
and the fathers traded in their yellow and blue jumpsuits
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a očevi su zamenili svoje
žuto-plave uniforme
žuto-plave uniforme
05:14
for shirts and ties.
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za košulje i kravate.
05:18
They hugged.
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Zagrlili su se.
05:21
They shared a full catered meal of chicken and fish.
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Podelili su ceo dostavljeni
obrok piletine i ribe.
obrok piletine i ribe.
05:25
They laughed together.
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Smejali su se zajedno.
05:29
It was beautiful.
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Bilo je prelepo.
05:34
The fathers and daughters even experienced
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Očevi i ćerke su čak iskusili
05:38
an opportunity to have a physical connection,
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mogućnost da imaju fizičku povezanost,
05:42
something that a lot of them didn't even have
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nešto što mnogi
od njih nisu imali
od njih nisu imali
05:45
for a while.
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duže vreme.
05:46
Fathers were in a space where they were able to
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Očevi su bili u prostoru
gde su mogli
gde su mogli
05:50
make their daughters play,
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da se igraju sa svojim ćerkama
05:53
and pull out her chair and extend his hand for a dance.
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i izvuku im stolicu
i pruže im ruku za ples.
i pruže im ruku za ples.
05:59
Even the guards cried.
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Čak su i stražari plakali.
06:03
But after the dance,
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Ali posle igranke,
06:06
we all realized that Dad still would be in jail.
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svi smo shvatili da će
tata ostati u zatvoru.
tata ostati u zatvoru.
06:11
So we needed to create something
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Trebalo je da stvorimo nešto
06:14
that they could take with them.
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što mogu poneti kući.
06:16
So we brought in Flip cams,
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Uneli smo Flip kamere
06:19
and we had them look at the Flip cams
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i oni su stali pred njih
06:21
and just interview each other --
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i intervjuisali jedni druge -
06:23
their messages, their thoughts.
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njihove poruke, njihove misli.
06:27
This was going to be used as a touchstone
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Ovo će biti upotrebljeno
kao uspomena
kao uspomena
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so when they started to miss each other
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kad budu nedostajali
jedni drugima
jedni drugima
06:32
and feel disconnected,
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i osećali se razdvojeno,
06:35
they could reconnect through this image.
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putem ove slike
moći će opet da budu spojeni.
moći će opet da budu spojeni.
06:38
I'll never forget that one girl looked in her father's eyes
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Nikad neću zaboraviti devojčicu
koja je pogledala u oči svoga oca
koja je pogledala u oči svoga oca
06:43
with that camera and said,
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kamerom i rekla:
06:45
"Daddy, when you look at me, what do you see?"
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"Tata, kad me pogledaš, šta vidiš?"
06:52
Because our daddies are our mirrors
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Jer očevi su naša ogledala
06:56
that we reflect back on
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kojih se prisećamo
06:58
when we decide about what type of man we deserve,
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kada odlučujemo o tome
kakav tip muškaraca zaslužujemo
kakav tip muškaraca zaslužujemo
07:03
and how they see us for the rest of our lives.
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i kako će nas oni
videti do kraja života.
videti do kraja života.
07:06
I know that very well,
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Znam to vrlo dobro,
07:10
because I was one of the lucky girls.
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jer ja sam bila jedna
od onih srećnih devojčica.
od onih srećnih devojčica.
07:12
I have had
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Imala sam
07:18
my father in my life always.
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svog oca uvek u svom životu.
07:24
He's even here today.
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On je čak i danas tu.
07:26
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
07:35
And that is why it is extremely special
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I zato je toliko posebno
07:39
for me to make sure that these girls
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za mene da znam
da su ove devojke
da su ove devojke
07:42
are connected to their fathers,
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povezane sa svojim očevima,
07:45
especially those who are separated
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naročito one koje su razdvojene
07:48
because of barbed wires and metal doors.
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zbog bodljikavih žica
i metalnih vrata.
i metalnih vrata.
07:53
We have just created a form
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Mi smo samo stvorili način
07:56
for girls who have heavy questions on their heart
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za devojke koje nose
teška pitanja u srcu
teška pitanja u srcu
07:59
to be in a position to ask their fathers those questions
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da budu u poziciji da
im postave ta pitanja
im postave ta pitanja
08:04
and given the fathers the freedom to answer.
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i daju očevima slobodu
da odgovore na njih.
da odgovore na njih.
08:08
Because we know that the fathers
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Jer znamo da očevi
08:12
are even leaving with this one thought:
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čak odlaze sa ovom mišlju:
08:15
What type of woman am I preparing to put in the world?
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Kakvu ženu ću da pripremim za svet?
08:20
Because a father is locked in
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Jer otac koji je zatvoren
08:24
does not mean he should be locked out
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ne znači da mora biti isključen
08:27
of his daughter's life.
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iz života svoje ćerke.
08:29
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Angela Patton - ActivistAngela Patton is an ambassador for who she calls "at-promise" (as opposed to "at-risk") girls and a serial innovator.
Why you should listen
As the leader and CEO of Girls For A Change (GFAC), Angela Patton is committed to "preparing black girls for the world ... and the world for black Girls. Patton founded Camp Diva in Richmond, Virginia in 2004, to honor Diva Mstadi Smith-Roan, a five-year-old who died in a firearm accident earlier that year. That summer, Patton planned a two-week experience that gave Diva's mother an opportunity to share her motherly love with girls in need of a support system. The program grew and went national in October 2013, when Camp Diva merged with California-based Girls For A Change, a nonprofit through which 100 girls' groups throughout nation work together to envision and execute lasting change in their neighborhoods, cities or schools. In the summer of 2016, Patton lead her board and staff to retool the organization's focus and build a program structure to more accurately reflect GFAC's goal to work with black girls and to disseminate our programs using a specific, replicable approach.
Following the release of Patton's TED Talk describing a father-daughter dance for incarcerated dads and their "at-promise" girls, her work was featured on ABC World News, Inside Edition, NPR and This is Life Lisa Ling. She has spoken for corporations, at conferences on girls as well as colleges and universities throughout the country. When she isn't inspiring change, advocating gender equality and empowering girls, she enjoys festivals and concerts with her husband and motivator, Raymond Patton, and their loving children, Imhotep and Asani.
Angela Patton | Speaker | TED.com