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Alec Soth and Stacey Baker: This is what enduring love looks like
Alek Sot (Alec Soth) i Stejsi Bejker (Stacey Baker): Kako trajna ljubav izgleda?
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Stejsi Bejker je oduvek bila opsednuta time kako se parovi upoznaju. Kada je pitala fotografa Aleka Sota da zajedno istraže ovo pitanje, otišli su na najveće brzo upoznavanje na svetu, koje se održavalo u Las Vegasu na Dan zaljubljenih, i u najveću zajednicu penzionera u Nevadi, a Sot je fotografisao parove na oba mesta. Između ova dva ekstrema, oni su otkrivali zaplet priča o tome kako parovi prelaze put od upoznavanja do stvaranja zajedničkog života. (Ovaj govor je bio deo sesije TED2015 koju je organizovao „Pop-ap časopis”: popupmagazine.com ili @popupmag na Tviteru.)
Stacey Baker - Photo editor
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
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00:13
Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
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Alek Sot: I tako, pre deset godina,
pozvala me je žena is Teksasa,
pozvala me je žena is Teksasa,
00:16
Stacey Baker,
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Stejsi Bejker,
00:18
and she'd seen some of my photographs
in an art exhibition
in an art exhibition
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ona je videla neke od mojih fotografija
na izložbi
na izložbi
00:22
and was wondering if she could commission
me to take a portrait of her parents.
me to take a portrait of her parents.
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i pitala je da li bi mogla da me unajmi
da uradim portet njenih roditelja.
da uradim portet njenih roditelja.
00:27
Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey,
and I thought this was some sort of
and I thought this was some sort of
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Sad, u to vreme nisam bio sreo Stejsi
i mislio sam da je
i mislio sam da je
00:31
wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich,
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bogati naftaški tajkun
i da ću se obogatiti preko noći,
i da ću se obogatiti preko noći,
00:35
but it was only later that I found out
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ali tek sam kasnije saznao
00:37
she'd actually taken out a loan
to make this happen.
to make this happen.
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da je ona zapravo uzela kredit
da bi ovo ostvarila.
da bi ovo ostvarila.
00:41
I took the picture of her parents,
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Fotografisao sam njene roditelje,
00:43
but I was actually more excited
about photographing Stacey.
about photographing Stacey.
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ali sam zapravo bio više uzbuđen
oko fotografisanja Stejsi.
oko fotografisanja Stejsi.
Slika koju sam napravio tog dana
00:47
The picture I made that day
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postala je jedan od mojih
najpoznatijih portreta.
najpoznatijih portreta.
00:48
ended up becoming
one of my best-known portraits.
one of my best-known portraits.
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00:53
At the time I made this picture,
Stacey was working as an attorney
Stacey was working as an attorney
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U vreme kada sam napravio ovu sliku,
Stejsi je radila kao advokat
Stejsi je radila kao advokat
00:57
for the State of Texas.
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za državu Teksas.
00:58
Not long after, she left her job
to study photography in Maine,
to study photography in Maine,
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Ubrzo potom, napustila je svoj posao
da bi studirala fotografiju u Mejnu
da bi studirala fotografiju u Mejnu
01:03
and while she was there,
she ended up meeting
she ended up meeting
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i dok je bila tamo, upoznala je
01:05
the director of photography
at the New York Times Magazine
at the New York Times Magazine
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direktora fotografije
časopisa „Njujork Tajms”
časopisa „Njujork Tajms”
01:08
and was actually offered a job.
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i bio joj je ponuđen posao.
01:12
Stacey Baker: In the years since,
Alec and I have done
Alec and I have done
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Stejsi Bejker: Tokom narednih godina,
Alek i ja smo uradili
Alek i ja smo uradili
01:14
a number of magazine projects together,
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nekoliko projekata za časopise zajedno
01:17
and we've become friends.
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i postali smo prijatelji.
01:19
A few months ago, I started talking
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
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Pre nekoliko meseci, počela sam
da pričam Aleku o jednoj svojoj opsesiji.
da pričam Aleku o jednoj svojoj opsesiji.
01:23
I've always been obsessed
with how couples meet.
with how couples meet.
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Uvek sam bila opsednuta time
kako se parovi upoznaju.
kako se parovi upoznaju.
01:27
I asked Alec how he
and his wife Rachel met,
and his wife Rachel met,
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Pitala sam Aleka kako su se
on i njegova žena Rejčel upoznali
on i njegova žena Rejčel upoznali
01:30
and he told me the story
of a high school football game
of a high school football game
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i on mi je ispričao priču
o fudbalskoj utakmici u srednjoj školi
o fudbalskoj utakmici u srednjoj školi
01:33
where she was 16 and he was 15,
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kada je ona imala 16, a on 15 godina
01:36
and he asked her out.
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i on ju je pitao da izađu.
01:38
He liked her purple hair.
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Svidela mu se njena ljubičasta kosa.
01:40
She said yes, and that was it.
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Ona je rekla „da„” i to je bilo to.
01:43
I then asked Alec if he'd be interested
in doing a photography project
in doing a photography project
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Potom sam pitala Aleka da li bi radio
fotografski projekat sa mnom
fotografski projekat sa mnom
01:47
exploring this question.
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koji bi istraživao ovo pitanje.
01:49
AS: And I was interested in the question,
but I was actually much more interested
but I was actually much more interested
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AS: I mene je zanimalo ovo pitanje,
ali me je mnogo više zanimalo
ali me je mnogo više zanimalo
01:53
in Stacey's motivation for asking it,
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zašto Stejsi to traži,
01:56
particularly since I'd never known
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
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posebno zato što nikad pre toga
nisam čuo da Stejsi ima dečka.
nisam čuo da Stejsi ima dečka.
02:00
So as part of this project,
I thought it'd be interesting
I thought it'd be interesting
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Tako, kao deo ovog projekta,
pomislio sam da će da bude zanimljivo
pomislio sam da će da bude zanimljivo
02:03
if she tried to meet someone.
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ako ona pokuša da upozna nekoga.
02:05
So my idea was to have Stacey here
go speed dating
go speed dating
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Moja ideja bila je da Stejsi
ide na brzo upoznavanje
ide na brzo upoznavanje
02:10
in Las Vegas on Valentine's Day.
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u Las Vegasu na Dan zaljubljenih.
02:14
(Laughter) (Applause) (Music)
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(Smeh) (Aplauz) (Muzika)
SB: Završili smo na događaju
koji je reklamiran
koji je reklamiran
02:20
SB: We ended up at what was advertised
as the world's largest speed dating event.
as the world's largest speed dating event.
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kao najveće brzo upoznavanje na svetu.
02:25
I had 19 dates
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Imala sam 19 sastanaka
02:27
and each date lasted three minutes.
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i svaki sastanak je trajao tri minuta.
02:30
Participants were given a list of ice-
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
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Učesnicima je data lista pitanja
za probijanje leda kako bi stvari krenule,
za probijanje leda kako bi stvari krenule,
02:34
things like, "If you could be any kind
of animal, what would you be?"
of animal, what would you be?"
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tipa: „Kada biste mogli da budete
bilo koja životinja, koja biste bili?”
bilo koja životinja, koja biste bili?”
02:38
That sort of thing.
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Takve stvari.
02:40
My first date was Colin.
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Moj prvi sastanak je bio sa Kolinom.
02:42
He's from England,
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On je iz Engleske
02:44
and he once married a woman he met
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
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i bio je oženjen ženom koju je upoznao
nakon što je dao oglas za jarca.
nakon što je dao oglas za jarca.
02:49
Alec and I saw him
at the end of the evening,
at the end of the evening,
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Alek i ja smo ga videli na kraju večeri
02:52
and he said he'd kissed a woman in line
at one of the concession stands.
at one of the concession stands.
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i ispričao je da je poljubio jednu ženu
u redu ispred kioska za brzu hranu.
u redu ispred kioska za brzu hranu.
02:57
Zack and Chris came
to the date-a-thon together.
to the date-a-thon together.
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Zek i Kris su došli na sastanke zajedno.
03:02
This is Carl.
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Ovo je Karl.
03:05
I asked Carl, "What's the first thing
you notice about a woman?"
you notice about a woman?"
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Pitala sam Karla:
„Šta je prvo što primetiš na ženi?”
„Šta je prvo što primetiš na ženi?”
03:10
He said, "Tits."
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Rekao je: „Sise.”
03:12
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:17
Matthew is attracted to women
with muscular calves.
with muscular calves.
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Metjua privlače žene
sa mišićavim listovima.
sa mišićavim listovima.
Pričali smo o trčanju.
03:20
We talked about running. He does
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
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On je triatlonac, ja trčim polumaraton.
03:24
Alec actually liked his eyes and asked
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
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Aleku su se zapravo svidele njegove oči
i pitao je da li mi se sviđa, ali nije,
i pitao je da li mi se sviđa, ali nije,
03:29
and I don't think he was
attracted to me either.
attracted to me either.
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a mislim da ni ja njemu
nisam bila privlačna.
nisam bila privlačna.
03:33
Austin and Mike came together.
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Ostin i Majk su došli zajedno.
03:36
Mike asked me a hypothetical question.
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Majk mi je postavio hipotetičko pitanje.
03:39
He said, "You're in an elevator
running late for a meeting.
running late for a meeting.
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Rekao je: „U liftu si, kasniš na sastanak.
03:43
Someone makes a dash for the elevator.
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Neko trči ka liftu.
03:46
Do you hold it open for them?"
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Da li zadržavaš lift za njega?”,
03:49
And I said I would not.
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a ja sam rekla da ne bih to učinila.
03:51
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:55
Cliff said the first thing he notices
about a woman is her teeth,
about a woman is her teeth,
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Klif je rekao da je prva stvar
koju primeti na ženi - njeni zubi
koju primeti na ženi - njeni zubi
03:59
and we complimented each other's teeth.
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i pohvalio je moje zube, a ja njegove.
04:02
Because he's an open mouth sleeper,
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Zato što spava otvorenih usta,
04:05
he says he has to floss more
to help prevent gum disease,
to help prevent gum disease,
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kaže da čisti zube koncem češće
da bi sprečio bolest desni,
da bi sprečio bolest desni,
04:09
and so I asked him how often he flosses,
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te sam ga pitala
koliko često čisti zube koncem
koliko često čisti zube koncem
04:11
and he said, "Every other day."
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i rekao je: „Svaki drugi dan.”
04:14
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:17
Now, as someone who flosses twice a day,
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Sad, kao neko ko koristi konac
dva puta dnevno,
dva puta dnevno,
04:19
I wasn't really sure that
that was flossing more
that was flossing more
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nisam bila sigurna
da je to često korišćenje konca,
da je to često korišćenje konca,
04:22
but I don't think I said that out loud.
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ali mislim da to nisam rekla naglas.
04:24
Bill is an auditor,
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Bil je revizor
04:27
and we talked the entire three minutes
about auditing. (Laughter)
about auditing. (Laughter)
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i pričali smo čitavih tri minuta
o revizorstvu.
o revizorstvu.
(Smeh)
04:34
The first thing Spencer notices
about a woman is her complexion.
about a woman is her complexion.
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Prva stvar koju Spenser primeti
na ženi je njen ten.
na ženi je njen ten.
04:38
He feels a lot of women
wear too much makeup,
wear too much makeup,
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On smatra da dosta žena
nosi i suviše šminke
nosi i suviše šminke
04:41
and that they should only wear enough
to accentuate the features that they have.
to accentuate the features that they have.
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i da bi trebalo da nose samo toliko
da istaknu kvalitete koje imaju.
da istaknu kvalitete koje imaju.
04:45
I told him I didn't wear any makeup at all
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Rekla sam mu da ja uopšte ne nosim šminku
04:47
and he seemed to think
that that was a good thing.
that that was a good thing.
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i izgleda da je mislio da je to dobro.
04:51
Craig told me he didn't think
I was willing to be vulnerable.
I was willing to be vulnerable.
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Kreg mi je rekao da misli
da nisam bila spremna da budem ranjiva.
da nisam bila spremna da budem ranjiva.
04:55
He was also frustrated when I couldn't
remember my most embarrassing moment.
remember my most embarrassing moment.
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Takođe je bio iznerviran
kada nisam mogla
kada nisam mogla
da se setim
kada sam se najviše izblamirala.
kada sam se najviše izblamirala.
05:00
He thought I was lying, but I wasn't.
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Mislio je da lažem, ali nisam.
05:02
I didn't think he liked me at all,
but at the end of the night,
but at the end of the night,
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Mislila sam da mu se uopšte
nisam svidela, ali na kraju večeri,
nisam svidela, ali na kraju večeri,
05:05
he came back to me and he gave me
a box of chocolates.
a box of chocolates.
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vratio se kod mene
i dao mi kutiju čokolade.
i dao mi kutiju čokolade.
05:09
William was really difficult to talk to.
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Sa Vilijamom je stvarno bilo
teško razgovarati.
teško razgovarati.
05:12
I think he was drunk.
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Mislim da je bio pijan.
05:14
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
05:17
Actor Chris McKenna
was the MC of the event.
was the MC of the event.
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Glumac Kris Mekena je bio
domaćin događaja.
domaćin događaja.
05:20
He used to be on
"The Young and the Restless."
"The Young and the Restless."
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Glumio je u „Mladi i nestašni”.
05:23
I didn't actually go on a date with him.
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Nisam zapravo otišla na sastanak sa njim.
05:26
Alec said he saw several women
give their phone numbers to him.
give their phone numbers to him.
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Alek kaže da je video nekoliko žena
kako mu daju svoj broj telefona.
kako mu daju svoj broj telefona.
05:30
Needless to say, I didn't fall in love.
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Suvišno je reći, nisam se zaljubila.
05:35
I didn't feel a particular connection with
any of the men that I went on dates with,
any of the men that I went on dates with,
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Nisam osetila posebnu povezanost
ni sa jednim od muškaraca
ni sa jednim od muškaraca
sa kojima sam bila na sastanku,
05:39
and I didn't feel like they felt
a particular connection with me either.
a particular connection with me either.
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niti sam osetila da su oni osetili
posebnu povezanost sa mnom.
posebnu povezanost sa mnom.
05:45
AS: Now, the most beautiful thing to me --
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AS: Sad, najlepša stvar za mene -
05:48
(Laughter) -- as a photographer
is the quality of vulnerability.
is the quality of vulnerability.
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(Smeh) - kao fotografa je ranjivost.
05:53
The physical exterior reveals a crack
in which you can get a glimpse
in which you can get a glimpse
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Fizički spoljašnji prostor otkriva
pukotinu kroz koju možete zaviriti
pukotinu kroz koju možete zaviriti
05:57
at a more fragile interior.
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u osetljiviju unutrašnjost.
06:00
At this date-a-thon event,
I saw so many examples of that,
I saw so many examples of that,
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Na ovom događaju,
video sam mnogo primera toga,
video sam mnogo primera toga,
06:03
but as I watched Stacey's dates
and talked to her about them,
and talked to her about them,
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ali dok sam posmatrao Stejsine sastanke
i razgovarao sa njom o njima,
i razgovarao sa njom o njima,
06:08
I realized how different
photographic love is from real love.
photographic love is from real love.
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shvatio sam koliko je različita
ljubav na fotografiji od stvarne ljubavi.
ljubav na fotografiji od stvarne ljubavi.
06:14
What is real love? How does it work?
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Šta je prava ljubav? Kako funkcioniše?
06:18
In order to work on this question
and to figure out how someone goes
and to figure out how someone goes
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Kako bih odgovorio na ovo pitanje
i shvatio kako neko pređe put
i shvatio kako neko pređe put
06:22
from meeting on a date
to having a life together,
to having a life together,
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od sastanka do zajedničkog života,
06:27
Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin,
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Stejsi i ja smo otišli u San Siti Samerlin
06:29
which is the largest
retirement community in Las Vegas.
retirement community in Las Vegas.
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koji je najveća zajednica penzionera
u Las Vegasu.
u Las Vegasu.
06:35
Our contact there was George,
who runs the community's photography club.
who runs the community's photography club.
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Naš posrednik tamo je bio Džordž,
koji vodi fotografski klub u zajednici.
koji vodi fotografski klub u zajednici.
06:39
He arranged for us to meet other couples
in their makeshift photo studio.
in their makeshift photo studio.
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On je organizovao da upoznamo ostale
parove u svom improvizovanom fotostudiju.
parove u svom improvizovanom fotostudiju.
06:44
SB: After 45 years of marriage,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
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SB: Nakon 45 godina braka,
Anastasijin muž je umro pre dve godine,
Anastasijin muž je umro pre dve godine,
06:49
so we asked if she had
an old wedding picture.
an old wedding picture.
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pa smo je pitali da li ima
staru sliku sa venčanja.
staru sliku sa venčanja.
06:52
She met her husband
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
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Upoznala je svog muža kad je imala
15 godina i radila kao konobarica
15 godina i radila kao konobarica
06:56
at a small barbecue place in Michigan.
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u maloj roštiljnici u Mičingenu.
06:58
He was 30.
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On je imao 30 godina.
07:00
She'd lied about her age.
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Ona je lagala koliko ima godina.
07:02
He was the first person she'd dated.
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On je bio prva osoba
sa kojom se zabavljala.
sa kojom se zabavljala.
07:05
Dean had been named photographer of
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
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Din je bio fotograf godine
dve godine zaredom u Las Vegasu,
dve godine zaredom u Las Vegasu,
07:09
and this caught Alec's attention,
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što je privuklo pažnju Aleku,
07:11
as did the fact
that he met his wife, Judy,
that he met his wife, Judy,
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kao i činjenica
da je upoznao svoju ženu Džudi
da je upoznao svoju ženu Džudi
07:14
at the same age when Alec met Rachel.
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kada je imao isto godina koliko i Alek
kada je upoznao Rejčel.
kada je upoznao Rejčel.
07:17
Dean admitted that he likes
to look at beautiful women,
to look at beautiful women,
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Din je priznao da voli da gleda lepe žene,
07:20
but he's never questioned
his decision to marry Judy.
his decision to marry Judy.
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ali nikada nije preispitivao
svoju odluku da oženi Džudi.
svoju odluku da oženi Džudi.
07:24
AS: George met Josephine
at a parish dance.
at a parish dance.
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AS: Džordž je upoznao Džozefin
na igranci koju je organizovala parohija.
na igranci koju je organizovala parohija.
07:27
He was 18, she was 15.
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On je imao 18, a ona 15 godina.
07:29
Like a lot of the couples we met,
they weren't especially philosophical
they weren't especially philosophical
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Kao i dosta drugih parova
koje smo upoznali,
koje smo upoznali,
oni nisu posebno filozofirali
o svojim ranim izborima.
o svojim ranim izborima.
07:33
about their early choices.
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07:35
George said something
that really stuck with me.
that really stuck with me.
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Džordž je rekao nešto
što mi se urezalo u pamćenje.
što mi se urezalo u pamćenje.
07:38
He said, "When you get that feeling,
you just go with it."
you just go with it."
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Rekao je: „Kada te strefi taj osećaj,
samo ga pratiš.”
samo ga pratiš.”
Bob i Trudi u se upoznali
na sastanku na slepo
na sastanku na slepo
07:46
Bob and Trudy met on a blind date
when she was still in high school.
when she was still in high school.
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dok je ona još bila srednjoškolka.
07:49
They said they weren't particularly
attracted to each other
attracted to each other
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Ispričali su da nisu osetili
posebnu privlačnost između sebe
posebnu privlačnost između sebe
07:52
when the first met.
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kada su se prvi put upoznali.
07:53
Nevertheless, they were
married soon after.
married soon after.
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Ipak, venčali su se ubrzo potom.
07:57
SB: The story that stayed with me the most
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SB: Priča koja mi je bila najupečatljivija
07:59
was that of George, the photography club
president, and his wife, Mary.
president, and his wife, Mary.
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bila je priča o Džordžu,
predsedniku fotokluba,
predsedniku fotokluba,
i njegovoj ženi Meri.
08:04
This was George and Mary's
second marriage.
second marriage.
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Ovo je bio drugi brak za oboje.
08:07
They met at a country-western club
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
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Upoznali su se u klubu u Luivilu,
u Kentakiju, koji se zvao Sahara.
u Kentakiju, koji se zvao Sahara.
08:12
He was there alone drinking
and she was with friends.
and she was with friends.
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On je bio tamo sam i pio,
a ona je bila sa prijateljima.
a ona je bila sa prijateljima.
08:16
When they started dating,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
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Kada su počeli da se zabavljaju,
on je dugovao 9 000 dolara poreza
on je dugovao 9 000 dolara poreza
08:21
and she offered to help him
get out of debt,
get out of debt,
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i ona se ponudila da mu pomogne
da izađe iz dugova.
da izađe iz dugova.
08:24
so for the next year, he turned
his paychecks over to Mary,
his paychecks over to Mary,
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pa je tokom sledeće godine
svoja primanja davao Meri,
svoja primanja davao Meri,
08:28
and she got him out of debt.
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a ona ga je izvukla iz dugova.
08:30
George was actually an alcoholic
when they married, and Mary knew it.
when they married, and Mary knew it.
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Džordž je zapravo bio alkoholičar
kada su se venčali i Meri je to znala.
kada su se venčali i Meri je to znala.
08:35
At some point in their marriage,
he says he consumed
he says he consumed
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U jednom trenutku tokom braka,
on kaže da je pio
on kaže da je pio
08:38
54 beers in one day.
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54 piva dnevno.
08:41
Another time, when he was drunk,
he threatened to kill Mary
he threatened to kill Mary
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Jednom, kada je bio pijan,
pretio je Meri da će ubiti nju
pretio je Meri da će ubiti nju
08:44
and her two kids,
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i njeno dvoje dece,
08:45
but they escaped and a SWAT team
was called to the house.
was called to the house.
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ali oni su pobegli,
a žandarmerija je pozvana u kuću.
a žandarmerija je pozvana u kuću.
08:50
Amazingly, Mary took him back,
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Začuđujuće, Meri ga je primila nazad
08:52
and eventually things got better.
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i na kraju su se stvari popravile.
08:54
George has been involved
in Alcoholics Anonymous
in Alcoholics Anonymous
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Džordž je išao
na sastanke Anonimnih alkoholičara
na sastanke Anonimnih alkoholičara
08:57
and hasn't had a drink in 36 years.
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i ne pije 36 godina.
09:00
(Music)
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(Muzika)
09:01
At the end of the day,
after we left Sun City,
after we left Sun City,
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Na kraju dana,
kada smo napustili „Grad Sunca”,
kada smo napustili „Grad Sunca”,
09:04
I told Alec that I didn't actually think
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rekla sam Aleku da zapravo ne mislim
09:06
that the stories of how these couples met
were all that interesting.
were all that interesting.
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da su priče ovih parova o tome
kako su se upoznali zanimljive.
kako su se upoznali zanimljive.
09:10
What was more interesting
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Ono što je bilo zanimljivije
09:12
was how they managed to stay together.
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je kako su uspeli da ostanu zajedno.
09:16
AS: They all had this beautiful
quality of endurance,
quality of endurance,
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AS: Svi su posedovali
divnu sposobnost izdržljivosti,
divnu sposobnost izdržljivosti,
09:20
but that was true of the singles, too.
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ali poseduju je i samci, takođe.
09:23
The world is hard,
and the singles were out there
and the singles were out there
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Svet je surov,
i samci odlaze u svet
i samci odlaze u svet
09:26
trying to connect with other people,
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pokušavajući da se povežu
sa drugim ljudima,
sa drugim ljudima,
09:29
and the couples
were holding onto each other
were holding onto each other
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a parovi se oslanjaju jedni na druge
09:31
after all these decades.
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nakon svih ovih decenija.
09:35
My favorite pictures on this trip
were of Joe and Roseanne.
were of Joe and Roseanne.
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Moja omiljena slika na ovom putovanju
bila je slika Džoa i Rozane.
bila je slika Džoa i Rozane.
09:39
Now, by the time we met Joe and Roseanne,
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Sad, u vreme
kada smo upoznali Džoa i Rozanu
kada smo upoznali Džoa i Rozanu
09:41
we'd gotten in the habit of asking couples
if they had an old wedding photograph.
if they had an old wedding photograph.
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izgradili smo naviku da pitamo parove
da li imaju staru sliku sa venčanja.
da li imaju staru sliku sa venčanja.
09:46
In their case, they simultaneously
pulled out of their wallets
pulled out of their wallets
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U njihovom slučaju, oboje su
istovremeno izvadili iz novčanika
istovremeno izvadili iz novčanika
09:51
the exact same photograph.
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potpuno istu fotografiju.
09:56
What's more beautiful,
I thought to myself,
I thought to myself,
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„Šta je lepše”, pomislio sam u sebi,
09:59
this image of a young couple
who has just fallen in love
who has just fallen in love
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„ova slika mladog para
koji se upravo zaljubio
koji se upravo zaljubio
10:03
or the idea of these two people
holding onto this image for decades?
holding onto this image for decades?
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ili ideja da ovo dvoje ljudi
nalazi oslonac u ovoj slici decenijama?”
nalazi oslonac u ovoj slici decenijama?”
10:10
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
10:12
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKERS
Stacey Baker - Photo editorStacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine.
Why you should listen
Stacey Baker is a photo editor at The New York Times Magazine. She assigns and produces photography for the weekly publication on topics as varied as sports, politics, religion and pop culture. She works with an array of photographers from all over the world, including photojournalists and portrait, fine-art and conceptual photographers. These include Alec Soth, Damon Winter, Lars Tunbjork, Stephanie Sinclair, Nadav Kander and Katy Grannan. She is a former director of photography at More Magazine.
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Alec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America.
Why you should listen
Alec Soth is a photographer born and based in Minnesota. He has published several books, including Sleeping by the Mississippi, Niagara and Broken Manual. The New York Times once wrote that Soth has made a "photographic career out of finding chemistry with strangers." His editorial work routinely appears in The New York Times Magazine, he is a member of the Magnum photo agency, and his work was featured in the Whitney Biennial in 2004.
In 2008, Soth started his own experimental publishing company, Little Brown Mushroom, that explores the possibilities of combining images and text. After publishing seven issues of his own newspaper, Soth compiled this work into his latest monograph, Songbook.
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