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Alec Soth and Stacey Baker: This is what enduring love looks like
Alec Soth + Stacey Baker: Beginilah gambaran cinta yang bertahan
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Stacey Baker terobsesi dengan cara pasangan bertemu. Ketika ia mengajak seorang fotografer bernama Alec Soth untuk membantunya menjelajahi topik ini, mereka mengunjungi acara kencan kilat terbesar sedunia, yang diselenggarakan di Las Vegas pada Hari Kasih Sayang, dan komunitas pensiunan terbesar di Nevada -- Soth memotret setiap pasangan di lokasi. Antara dua keadaan ini, mereka mengungkap benang merah bagaimana pasangan bertemu sampai menciptakan hidup bersama. (Ceramah ini adalah bagian dari pertemuan TED2015 yang diselenggarakan oleh Majalah Pop-Up: popupmagazine.com atau @popupmag di Twitter)
Stacey Baker - Photo editor
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
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00:13
Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
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Alec Soth: Sekitar 10 tahun lalu, saya
mendapat telepon dari seorang wanita,
mendapat telepon dari seorang wanita,
di Texas, Stacey Baker,
00:16
Stacey Baker,
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00:18
and she'd seen some of my photographs
in an art exhibition
in an art exhibition
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dan ia melihat beberapa foto saya
di pameran kesenian
di pameran kesenian
00:22
and was wondering if she could commission
me to take a portrait of her parents.
me to take a portrait of her parents.
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dan bertanya-tanya jika ia dapat
menyewa saya untuk memotret orang tuanya.
menyewa saya untuk memotret orang tuanya.
00:27
Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey,
and I thought this was some sort of
and I thought this was some sort of
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Saat itu saya belum bertemu Stacey,
dan saya kira ini semacam
dan saya kira ini semacam
00:31
wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich,
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hartawan minyak kaya raya
dan saya akan kaya mendadak,
dan saya akan kaya mendadak,
00:35
but it was only later that I found out
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tapi baru kemudian saya mengetahui
00:37
she'd actually taken out a loan
to make this happen.
to make this happen.
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ia ternyata meminjam uang
untuk mewujudkannya.
untuk mewujudkannya.
00:41
I took the picture of her parents,
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Saya memotret orang tuanya,
00:43
but I was actually more excited
about photographing Stacey.
about photographing Stacey.
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tapi saya sebenarnya lebih senang
memotret Stacey.
memotret Stacey.
00:47
The picture I made that day
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Foto yang saya ambil hari itu
00:48
ended up becoming
one of my best-known portraits.
one of my best-known portraits.
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menjadi salah satu jepretan saya
yang paling terkenal.
yang paling terkenal.
00:53
At the time I made this picture,
Stacey was working as an attorney
Stacey was working as an attorney
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Saat saya memotret foto itu,
Stacey bekerja sebagai pengacara
Stacey bekerja sebagai pengacara
00:57
for the State of Texas.
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untuk negara bagian Texas.
00:58
Not long after, she left her job
to study photography in Maine,
to study photography in Maine,
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Tak lama setelahnya, ia berhenti bekerja
untuk belajar fotografi di Maine,
untuk belajar fotografi di Maine,
01:03
and while she was there,
she ended up meeting
she ended up meeting
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dan saat ia di sana, dia bertemu dengan
01:05
the director of photography
at the New York Times Magazine
at the New York Times Magazine
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direktur fotografi Majalah New York Times
01:08
and was actually offered a job.
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dan benar-benar ditawari pekerjaan.
Stacey Baker: Sejak tahun itu
Alec dan saya telah mengerjakan
Alec dan saya telah mengerjakan
01:12
Stacey Baker: In the years since,
Alec and I have done
Alec and I have done
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01:14
a number of magazine projects together,
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sejumlah proyek majalah bersama-sama,
01:17
and we've become friends.
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dan kami menjadi teman.
01:19
A few months ago, I started talking
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
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Beberapa bulan lalu, saya mulai bicara
dengan Alec mengenai ketertarikan saya.
dengan Alec mengenai ketertarikan saya.
01:23
I've always been obsessed
with how couples meet.
with how couples meet.
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Saya selalu terobsesi
bagaimana pasangan bertemu.
bagaimana pasangan bertemu.
Saya bertanya pada Alec bagaimana
ia dan istrinya, Rachel, bertemu,
ia dan istrinya, Rachel, bertemu,
01:27
I asked Alec how he
and his wife Rachel met,
and his wife Rachel met,
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01:30
and he told me the story
of a high school football game
of a high school football game
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dan ia menceritakan saya tentang
pertandingan sepak bola SMU
pertandingan sepak bola SMU
01:33
where she was 16 and he was 15,
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sewaktu Rachel 16 tahun dan Alec 15 tahun,
01:36
and he asked her out.
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dan ia mengajaknya kencan.
01:38
He liked her purple hair.
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Ia menyukai rambut ungu Rachel.
01:40
She said yes, and that was it.
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Ia menyanggupinya, dan begitu saja.
01:43
I then asked Alec if he'd be interested
in doing a photography project
in doing a photography project
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Saya kemudian bertanya pada Alec apakah
ia tertarik melakukan proyek fotografi
ia tertarik melakukan proyek fotografi
01:47
exploring this question.
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untuk menjelajahi pertanyaan ini.
01:49
AS: And I was interested in the question,
but I was actually much more interested
but I was actually much more interested
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AS: Dan saya tertarik dengan ajakannya,
tapi saya sebenarnya lebih tertarik
tapi saya sebenarnya lebih tertarik
01:53
in Stacey's motivation for asking it,
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dengan motivasi Stacey mengajak saya,
01:56
particularly since I'd never known
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
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terutama karena saya tak pernah mendengar
Stacey punya pacar.
Stacey punya pacar.
Jadi sebagai bagian dari proyek ini,
saya pikir akan menarik
saya pikir akan menarik
02:00
So as part of this project,
I thought it'd be interesting
I thought it'd be interesting
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02:03
if she tried to meet someone.
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jika ia mencoba bertemu seseorang.
02:05
So my idea was to have Stacey here
go speed dating
go speed dating
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Jadi ide saya adalah membawa Stacey
melakukan kencan kilat
melakukan kencan kilat
02:10
in Las Vegas on Valentine's Day.
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di Las Vegas pada Hari Kasih Sayang.
02:14
(Laughter) (Applause) (Music)
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(Tertawa) (Tepuk Tangan) (Musik)
SB: Kami akhirnya mendatangi
02:20
SB: We ended up at what was advertised
as the world's largest speed dating event.
as the world's largest speed dating event.
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acara yang menurut iklannya adalah
acara kencan kilat terbesar dunia.
acara kencan kilat terbesar dunia.
Saya dapat 19 kencan
02:25
I had 19 dates
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02:27
and each date lasted three minutes.
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dan setiap kencan berlangsung
selama tiga menit.
selama tiga menit.
02:30
Participants were given a list of ice-
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
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Peserta diberikan daftar pertanyaan
pencair suasana sebagai obrolan,
pencair suasana sebagai obrolan,
02:34
things like, "If you could be any kind
of animal, what would you be?"
of animal, what would you be?"
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seperti, "Jika kau bisa menjadi
binatang apapun, kau mau jadi apa?"
binatang apapun, kau mau jadi apa?"
02:38
That sort of thing.
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Semacam itu.
02:40
My first date was Colin.
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Kencan pertama saya adalah Colin.
02:42
He's from England,
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Dia dari Inggris,
dan ia pernah menikahi wanita yang
02:44
and he once married a woman he met
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
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ia temukan setelah memasang iklan
cari jodoh seorang berbintang Capricorn.
cari jodoh seorang berbintang Capricorn.
02:49
Alec and I saw him
at the end of the evening,
at the end of the evening,
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Alec dan saya menemuinya
di penghujung acara itu,
di penghujung acara itu,
02:52
and he said he'd kissed a woman in line
at one of the concession stands.
at one of the concession stands.
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dan dia bilang dia bersedia mencium
wanita di antrian salah satu stan konsesi.
wanita di antrian salah satu stan konsesi.
02:57
Zack and Chris came
to the date-a-thon together.
to the date-a-thon together.
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Zack dan Chris datang bersama
ke Date-A-Thon.
ke Date-A-Thon.
03:02
This is Carl.
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Ini Carl.
03:05
I asked Carl, "What's the first thing
you notice about a woman?"
you notice about a woman?"
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Saya bertanya pada Carl, "Apa hal pertama
yang kau perhatikan dari wanita?"
yang kau perhatikan dari wanita?"
03:10
He said, "Tits."
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Dia bilang, "Payudara."
03:12
(Laughter)
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(Tertawa)
03:17
Matthew is attracted to women
with muscular calves.
with muscular calves.
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Matthew tertarik pada wanita
dengan betis berotot.
dengan betis berotot.
03:20
We talked about running. He does
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
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Kami membahas olahraga lari. Ia berlari
triatlon, saya berlari separuh maraton.
triatlon, saya berlari separuh maraton.
03:24
Alec actually liked his eyes and asked
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
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Alec menyukai matanya dan bertanya
apakah saya tertarik padanya, tapi tidak,
apakah saya tertarik padanya, tapi tidak,
03:29
and I don't think he was
attracted to me either.
attracted to me either.
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dan saya pun tidak merasa
ia tertarik pada saya.
ia tertarik pada saya.
03:33
Austin and Mike came together.
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Austin dan Mike datang bersama.
03:36
Mike asked me a hypothetical question.
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Mike menanyakan saya pertanyaan hipotesis.
03:39
He said, "You're in an elevator
running late for a meeting.
running late for a meeting.
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Dia bilang, "Kau berada dalam lift
terlambat datang ke sebuah rapat.
terlambat datang ke sebuah rapat.
03:43
Someone makes a dash for the elevator.
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Seseorang mengejar lift tersebut.
03:46
Do you hold it open for them?"
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Apa kau akan menahan liftnya
untuk orang itu?"
untuk orang itu?"
03:49
And I said I would not.
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Dan saya bilang, tidak.
03:51
(Laughter)
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(Tertawa)
03:55
Cliff said the first thing he notices
about a woman is her teeth,
about a woman is her teeth,
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Cliff mengatakan hal pertama yang ia
perhatikan dari wanita adalah giginya,
perhatikan dari wanita adalah giginya,
03:59
and we complimented each other's teeth.
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dan kami saling memuji gigi.
Karena ia adalah orang yang tidur
dengan mulut terbuka,
dengan mulut terbuka,
04:02
Because he's an open mouth sleeper,
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04:05
he says he has to floss more
to help prevent gum disease,
to help prevent gum disease,
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ia bilang ia harus membersihkan gigi
lebih sering untuk mencegah penyakit gusi,
lebih sering untuk mencegah penyakit gusi,
dan saya tanya seberapa sering
ia membersihkan gigi,
ia membersihkan gigi,
04:09
and so I asked him how often he flosses,
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04:11
and he said, "Every other day."
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dan dia bilang, "Dua hari sekali."
04:14
(Laughter)
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(Tertawa)
Sebagai orang yang
membersihkan gigi dua kali sehari,
membersihkan gigi dua kali sehari,
04:17
Now, as someone who flosses twice a day,
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04:19
I wasn't really sure that
that was flossing more
that was flossing more
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saya tak yakin itu
yang namanya lebih sering
yang namanya lebih sering
tapi saya tidak merasa mengatakannya
dengan suara keras.
dengan suara keras.
04:22
but I don't think I said that out loud.
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04:24
Bill is an auditor,
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Bill adalah seorang auditor,
04:27
and we talked the entire three minutes
about auditing. (Laughter)
about auditing. (Laughter)
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dan kami berbincang tiga menit penuh
tentang mengaudit. (Tertawa)
tentang mengaudit. (Tertawa)
04:34
The first thing Spencer notices
about a woman is her complexion.
about a woman is her complexion.
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Hal pertama yang diperhatikan Spencer
dari wanita adalah warna kulitnya.
dari wanita adalah warna kulitnya.
Ia merasa banyak wanita menggunakan
riasan yang berlebihan,
riasan yang berlebihan,
04:38
He feels a lot of women
wear too much makeup,
wear too much makeup,
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yang seharusnya hanya dipakai cukup untuk
menegaskan keistimewaan yang sudah ada.
menegaskan keistimewaan yang sudah ada.
04:41
and that they should only wear enough
to accentuate the features that they have.
to accentuate the features that they have.
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Saya bilang saya tak memakai
riasan sama sekali
riasan sama sekali
04:45
I told him I didn't wear any makeup at all
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04:47
and he seemed to think
that that was a good thing.
that that was a good thing.
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dan ia merasa itu adalah baik.
04:51
Craig told me he didn't think
I was willing to be vulnerable.
I was willing to be vulnerable.
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Craig bilang pada saya ia tak merasa saya
mau berada di posisi rentan (oleh cinta).
mau berada di posisi rentan (oleh cinta).
04:55
He was also frustrated when I couldn't
remember my most embarrassing moment.
remember my most embarrassing moment.
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Dia juga frustrasi ketika saya tak dapat
mengingat masa paling memalukan saya.
mengingat masa paling memalukan saya.
05:00
He thought I was lying, but I wasn't.
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Dia kira saya bohong, padahal tidak.
Saya rasa ia tak menyukai saya
sama sekali, tapi di penghujung malam itu,
sama sekali, tapi di penghujung malam itu,
05:02
I didn't think he liked me at all,
but at the end of the night,
but at the end of the night,
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05:05
he came back to me and he gave me
a box of chocolates.
a box of chocolates.
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dia datang pada saya
dan memberikan sekotak cokelat.
dan memberikan sekotak cokelat.
05:09
William was really difficult to talk to.
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William sangat sulit diajak berbicara.
05:12
I think he was drunk.
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Saya rasa ia mabuk.
05:14
(Laughter)
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(Tertawa)
05:17
Actor Chris McKenna
was the MC of the event.
was the MC of the event.
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Aktor Chris McKenna
adalah pembawa acaranya.
adalah pembawa acaranya.
05:20
He used to be on
"The Young and the Restless."
"The Young and the Restless."
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Dia dulu ada di acara
"The Young and the Restless."
"The Young and the Restless."
05:23
I didn't actually go on a date with him.
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Saya sebetulnya tidak kencan dengannya.
05:26
Alec said he saw several women
give their phone numbers to him.
give their phone numbers to him.
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Alec bilang ia melihat beberapa wanita
memberikan nomor telepon kepadanya.
memberikan nomor telepon kepadanya.
05:30
Needless to say, I didn't fall in love.
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Tak perlu dikata, saya tak jatuh cinta.
05:35
I didn't feel a particular connection with
any of the men that I went on dates with,
any of the men that I went on dates with,
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Saya tidak merasakan perasaan khusus
dengan satu pun yang saya kencani,
dengan satu pun yang saya kencani,
05:39
and I didn't feel like they felt
a particular connection with me either.
a particular connection with me either.
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dan saya juga tak merasa mereka merasakan
perasaan khusus dengan saya.
perasaan khusus dengan saya.
05:45
AS: Now, the most beautiful thing to me --
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AS: Nah, hal terindah bagi saya --
05:48
(Laughter) -- as a photographer
is the quality of vulnerability.
is the quality of vulnerability.
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(Tertawa) -- sebagai fotografer
adalah kualitas kerentanannya.
adalah kualitas kerentanannya.
Penampilan luar mengungkap keretakan
yang dapat memberikan gambaran bagi Anda
yang dapat memberikan gambaran bagi Anda
05:53
The physical exterior reveals a crack
in which you can get a glimpse
in which you can get a glimpse
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05:57
at a more fragile interior.
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pada bagian dalam yang lebih rapuh.
06:00
At this date-a-thon event,
I saw so many examples of that,
I saw so many examples of that,
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Pada acara Date-A-Thon ini,
saya melihat banyak contohnya,
saya melihat banyak contohnya,
06:03
but as I watched Stacey's dates
and talked to her about them,
and talked to her about them,
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tapi saat saya melihat teman kencan Stacey
dan membicarakan mereka dengannya,
dan membicarakan mereka dengannya,
06:08
I realized how different
photographic love is from real love.
photographic love is from real love.
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saya sadar betapa berbedanya
cinta fotografi dengan yang nyata.
cinta fotografi dengan yang nyata.
06:14
What is real love? How does it work?
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Seperti apa cinta yang nyata itu?
Bagaimana bisa terjadi?
Bagaimana bisa terjadi?
06:18
In order to work on this question
and to figure out how someone goes
and to figure out how someone goes
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Untuk menjawab pertanyaan ini
dan mencari tahu bagaimana seseorang bisa
dan mencari tahu bagaimana seseorang bisa
06:22
from meeting on a date
to having a life together,
to having a life together,
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bertemu saat kencan
sampai hidup bersama,
sampai hidup bersama,
06:27
Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin,
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Stacey dan saya pergi
ke Sun City Summerlin,
ke Sun City Summerlin,
06:29
which is the largest
retirement community in Las Vegas.
retirement community in Las Vegas.
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yang merupakan komunitas pensiunan
terbesar di Las Vegas.
terbesar di Las Vegas.
06:35
Our contact there was George,
who runs the community's photography club.
who runs the community's photography club.
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Kontak kami di sana adalah George,
yang mengelola klub fotografi komunitas.
yang mengelola klub fotografi komunitas.
06:39
He arranged for us to meet other couples
in their makeshift photo studio.
in their makeshift photo studio.
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Dia mengatur agar kami bertemu dengan
pasangan lain di studio foto daruratnya.
pasangan lain di studio foto daruratnya.
06:44
SB: After 45 years of marriage,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
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SB: Setelah 45 tahun menikah,
suami Anastasia meninggal dua tahun lalu,
suami Anastasia meninggal dua tahun lalu,
06:49
so we asked if she had
an old wedding picture.
an old wedding picture.
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jadi kami bertanya apakah dia punya
foto pernikahan lama.
foto pernikahan lama.
Ia bertemu dengan suaminya ketika
ia adalah seorang pelayan berusia 15 tahun
ia adalah seorang pelayan berusia 15 tahun
06:52
She met her husband
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
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06:56
at a small barbecue place in Michigan.
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pada sebuah restoran
barbekyu kecil di Michigan.
barbekyu kecil di Michigan.
06:58
He was 30.
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Dia (suaminya) berusia 30 tahun.
07:00
She'd lied about her age.
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Ia berbohong tentang usianya.
07:02
He was the first person she'd dated.
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Suaminya adalah
orang pertama yang ia kencani.
orang pertama yang ia kencani.
07:05
Dean had been named photographer of
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
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Dean pernah dinobatkan sebagai
Fotografer Tahun Ini di Las Vegas
Fotografer Tahun Ini di Las Vegas
selama dua tahun berturut-turut,
07:09
and this caught Alec's attention,
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dan ini mencuri perhatian Alec,
07:11
as did the fact
that he met his wife, Judy,
that he met his wife, Judy,
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begitu juga kenyataan bahwa
ia bertemu dengan istrinya, Judy.
ia bertemu dengan istrinya, Judy.
07:14
at the same age when Alec met Rachel.
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pada usia yang sama ketika
Alec bertemu dengan Rachel.
Alec bertemu dengan Rachel.
07:17
Dean admitted that he likes
to look at beautiful women,
to look at beautiful women,
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Dean mengakui bahwa ia suka
memperhatikan wanita cantik,
memperhatikan wanita cantik,
07:20
but he's never questioned
his decision to marry Judy.
his decision to marry Judy.
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tapi ia tidak pernah meragukan
keputusannya untuk menikahi Judy.
keputusannya untuk menikahi Judy.
AS: George bertemu dengan
Josephine pada acara menari.
Josephine pada acara menari.
07:24
AS: George met Josephine
at a parish dance.
at a parish dance.
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07:27
He was 18, she was 15.
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Dia 18 tahun, dan Josephine 15 tahun.
07:29
Like a lot of the couples we met,
they weren't especially philosophical
they weren't especially philosophical
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Seperti banyak pasangan yang kami temui,
mereka tidak terlalu filosofis
mereka tidak terlalu filosofis
07:33
about their early choices.
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tentang keputusan mereka yang dini.
George mengatakan sesuatu
yang sangat menancap bagi saya.
yang sangat menancap bagi saya.
07:35
George said something
that really stuck with me.
that really stuck with me.
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07:38
He said, "When you get that feeling,
you just go with it."
you just go with it."
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Dia bilang, "Ketika kau merasakannya,
kau maju saja."
kau maju saja."
07:46
Bob and Trudy met on a blind date
when she was still in high school.
when she was still in high school.
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Bob dan Trudy bertemu pada kencan buta
ketika Trudy masih di SMU.
ketika Trudy masih di SMU.
07:49
They said they weren't particularly
attracted to each other
attracted to each other
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Mereka bilang mereka
tidak saling tertarik secara khusus
tidak saling tertarik secara khusus
07:52
when the first met.
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ketika pertama kali bertemu.
07:53
Nevertheless, they were
married soon after.
married soon after.
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Walau demikian,
mereka menikah tak lama kemudian.
mereka menikah tak lama kemudian.
07:57
SB: The story that stayed with me the most
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SB: Kisah yang paling berkesan bagi saya
07:59
was that of George, the photography club
president, and his wife, Mary.
president, and his wife, Mary.
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adalah kisah George, presiden
klub fotografi, dan istrinya, Mary.
klub fotografi, dan istrinya, Mary.
08:04
This was George and Mary's
second marriage.
second marriage.
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Ini pernikahan kedua George dan Mary.
08:07
They met at a country-western club
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
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Mereka bertemu di klub country-western
di Louisville, Kentucky bernama Sahara.
di Louisville, Kentucky bernama Sahara.
08:12
He was there alone drinking
and she was with friends.
and she was with friends.
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Dia sedang minum sendirian
dan Mary bersama teman-temannya.
dan Mary bersama teman-temannya.
08:16
When they started dating,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
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Ketika mulai pacaran, ia menunggak pajak
kepada IRS sebesar USD 9,000,
kepada IRS sebesar USD 9,000,
dan Mary menawarkan bantuan
untuk melunasi tunggakan,
untuk melunasi tunggakan,
08:21
and she offered to help him
get out of debt,
get out of debt,
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08:24
so for the next year, he turned
his paychecks over to Mary,
his paychecks over to Mary,
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jadi untuk tahun berikutnya,
ia memberikan gajinya kepada Mary,
ia memberikan gajinya kepada Mary,
08:28
and she got him out of debt.
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dan Mary melunasi tunggakan pajaknya.
08:30
George was actually an alcoholic
when they married, and Mary knew it.
when they married, and Mary knew it.
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George sebenarnya adalah pecandu alkohol
sewaktu mereka menikah, dan Mary tahu itu.
sewaktu mereka menikah, dan Mary tahu itu.
Di suatu saat di perkawinan mereka,
ia bilang ia mengkonsumsi
ia bilang ia mengkonsumsi
08:35
At some point in their marriage,
he says he consumed
he says he consumed
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08:38
54 beers in one day.
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54 bir dalam sehari.
Di lain waktu, ketika ia mabuk,
ia mengancam untuk membunuh Mary
ia mengancam untuk membunuh Mary
08:41
Another time, when he was drunk,
he threatened to kill Mary
he threatened to kill Mary
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08:44
and her two kids,
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dan dua anaknya,
08:45
but they escaped and a SWAT team
was called to the house.
was called to the house.
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tapi mereka berhasil kabur
dan tim SWAT dipanggil ke rumahnya.
dan tim SWAT dipanggil ke rumahnya.
08:50
Amazingly, Mary took him back,
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Luar biasanya, Mary menerimanya kembali,
08:52
and eventually things got better.
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dan akhirnya semua menjadi lebih baik.
08:54
George has been involved
in Alcoholics Anonymous
in Alcoholics Anonymous
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George bergabung dalam AA
(pertemuan pecandu alkohol anonim)
(pertemuan pecandu alkohol anonim)
08:57
and hasn't had a drink in 36 years.
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dan sudah berhenti minum selama 36 tahun.
09:00
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Di penghujung hari,
setelah kami meninggalkan Sun City,
setelah kami meninggalkan Sun City,
09:01
At the end of the day,
after we left Sun City,
after we left Sun City,
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09:04
I told Alec that I didn't actually think
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saya bilang pada Alec
bahwa saya tidak merasa
bahwa saya tidak merasa
09:06
that the stories of how these couples met
were all that interesting.
were all that interesting.
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bahwa kisah pertemuan
pasangan ini semenarik itu.
pasangan ini semenarik itu.
09:10
What was more interesting
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Yang lebih menarik
09:12
was how they managed to stay together.
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adalah bagaimana
mereka bisa tetap bersama.
mereka bisa tetap bersama.
09:16
AS: They all had this beautiful
quality of endurance,
quality of endurance,
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AS: Mereka semua punya
kualitas ketahanan yang indah,
kualitas ketahanan yang indah,
09:20
but that was true of the singles, too.
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tapi itu juga berlaku bagi para lajang.
09:23
The world is hard,
and the singles were out there
and the singles were out there
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Dunia itu keras,
dan para lajang di luar sana
dan para lajang di luar sana
09:26
trying to connect with other people,
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berusaha untuk terhubung
dengan masyarakat,
dengan masyarakat,
09:29
and the couples
were holding onto each other
were holding onto each other
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dan para pasangan saling bertahan
09:31
after all these decades.
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selama puluhan tahun.
09:35
My favorite pictures on this trip
were of Joe and Roseanne.
were of Joe and Roseanne.
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Foto kesukaan saya pada perjalanan ini
adalah Joe dan Roseanne.
adalah Joe dan Roseanne.
09:39
Now, by the time we met Joe and Roseanne,
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Nah, saat kami bertemu
dengan Joe dan Roseanne,
dengan Joe dan Roseanne,
09:41
we'd gotten in the habit of asking couples
if they had an old wedding photograph.
if they had an old wedding photograph.
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kami menjadi terbiasa menanyakan pasangan
jika mereka punya foto pernikahan lama,
jika mereka punya foto pernikahan lama,
09:46
In their case, they simultaneously
pulled out of their wallets
pulled out of their wallets
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Joe dan Roseanne, mereka mengeluarkan
secara serempak dari dompet mereka
secara serempak dari dompet mereka
09:51
the exact same photograph.
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foto yang sama.
09:56
What's more beautiful,
I thought to myself,
I thought to myself,
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Apa yang membuatnya lebih indah,
saya bergumam dalam hati,
saya bergumam dalam hati,
09:59
this image of a young couple
who has just fallen in love
who has just fallen in love
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foto pasangan muda ini
yang baru saja jatuh cinta
yang baru saja jatuh cinta
10:03
or the idea of these two people
holding onto this image for decades?
holding onto this image for decades?
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atau pemikiran bahwa kedua orang ini terus
menggenggam foto ini selama puluhan tahun?
menggenggam foto ini selama puluhan tahun?
10:10
Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
10:12
(Applause)
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(Tepuk tangan)
ABOUT THE SPEAKERS
Stacey Baker - Photo editorStacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine.
Why you should listen
Stacey Baker is a photo editor at The New York Times Magazine. She assigns and produces photography for the weekly publication on topics as varied as sports, politics, religion and pop culture. She works with an array of photographers from all over the world, including photojournalists and portrait, fine-art and conceptual photographers. These include Alec Soth, Damon Winter, Lars Tunbjork, Stephanie Sinclair, Nadav Kander and Katy Grannan. She is a former director of photography at More Magazine.
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Alec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America.
Why you should listen
Alec Soth is a photographer born and based in Minnesota. He has published several books, including Sleeping by the Mississippi, Niagara and Broken Manual. The New York Times once wrote that Soth has made a "photographic career out of finding chemistry with strangers." His editorial work routinely appears in The New York Times Magazine, he is a member of the Magnum photo agency, and his work was featured in the Whitney Biennial in 2004.
In 2008, Soth started his own experimental publishing company, Little Brown Mushroom, that explores the possibilities of combining images and text. After publishing seven issues of his own newspaper, Soth compiled this work into his latest monograph, Songbook.
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