Darieth Chisolm: How revenge porn turns lives upside down
داريث تشيسلوم: كيف يقلب الإنتقام الإباحي الحياة رأسا على عقب
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
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before I was set to deliver a talk
the so-called expert there,
and life and business coach.
ومدربة أعمال وتنمية بشرية
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
from my ex-husband.
who told me to go to this website,
والذى طلب منى ان أزور هذا الموقع
all of these photos of you naked.
are all over this website.
منشورة فى هذا الموقع
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
months of pain and depression
أشهر من الألم و الإحباط
stalker ex-boyfriend
while I was asleep,
he had been sending me
some sleazy, low-life slut.
in my head and stab me in my heart,
على راسى و يطعنى في قلبي
the controlling relationship.
this was happening to me.
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
أو التنمر الإلكترونى
a relationship gone bad,
can't handle rejection,
متسلطا لا يستطيع تقبل الانفصال
put their hands on you,
وضع أيديهم على جسدك
cell phones and laptops.
الهواتف الخلوية والحاسوب النقال
content -- all posted online,
ومحتوى، كلها تنشر على الإنترنت
we all live our lives online.
كلنا نعيش حياتنا على الإنترنت
we make new relationships,
one Facebook like at a time.
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
تعرضت للإنتقام الإباحي
that number looks like one in 10.
فهذا الرقم يتحول إلى واحدة من كل عشرة نساء
in this audience as potential victims.
what's even more alarming?
to adequately protect victims
توفر حماية كافية للضحايا
by Senator Kamala Harris.
مقدم بواسطة السيناتور كامالا هاريس
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
لديها بعض القوانين فيما يخص الإنتقام الإباحي
we're talking $500 fines.
from damaged relationships
and depression.
who spent 11 months in court,
قضت11 شهرا فى المحكمة
and cyberabuse,
PFA (حماية من التحرش الالكتروني)
internet company
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
ومسائل قضائية جعلت الأمر يطول
were on display for months.
مازالت معروضة لشهور
was exposed for the world to see,
جسدك العاري كان متاحا للعالم ليراه
for the content to be removed?
إلى ان يتم مسح المحتوى؟
a private company
to shut the website down.
الالكترونية الألفية لإغلاق الموقع
digital material and content.
both copyright owners and consumers.
حماية كلا من حقوق النشر للمالك والمستهلك
own the rights to those selfies,
صورا عارية لديهم حق التحكم فى هذه الصور
to have the content removed.
حقوق النشر الإلكترونية الألفية لإزالة المحتوى
third-party internet companies.
الإنترنت غير ملتزمة وغير متجاوبة
a nude photo or a naked pic,
from another country,
to get help here.
بأن أحصل على مساعدة هنا
isn't the internet international?
some sort of policy in place
regardless to borders or restrictions?
بغض النظر عن الحدود والقيود؟
I had to keep fighting.
of both my cell phone and my laptop
هاتفى الخلوى و حاسوبى النقال
and the Jamaican Embassy
all of the evidence.
with the all-male investigative team.
الخاصة مع كل ذكور فريق التحقيق
additional hoop to jump through.
محرجة و مهينة توجب على المرور بها
actually arrested him.
under their malicious communications act,
بموجب قانون الاتصالات الخبيثة بجامايكا
thousands of dollars in fines
is making history --
under this new crime.
هذا المسمى الجنائي الجديد
all of these hoops.
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
نحتاج الى قانون واضح و رادع
and responsiveness from online companies;
الإنترنت بالمسؤولية و سرعة الاستجابة
for posting, sharing and texting;
فيما يخص النشر والمشاركة والمراسلة
money or resources to wage war,
الأموال ولا الموارد ليشنوا حربا
mislabeled and broken?
وهم مساء إليهم و محطمين؟
that's holding you hostage.
عليك هو ما يبقيك رهينة
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
I freed myself from shame.
حررت نفسى من الخجل
from the fear of judgment
would judge me the most --
أتوقع انه أكثر من سيحكم على
person that I know.
the wrong woman to mess with."
إختار المرأة الخطأ ليعبث معها"
to use my platform
this one simple question:
that I was challenged with,
كل التحديات التي تواجهني في حياتي
about all kinds of possibilities.
أفكر فى كل الإحتمالات
وأحكى حقيقة ما مررت به
a new chapter in my life.
an upcoming documentary
someone who is, know this:
you have to take care of yourself,
for what's next for your life.
فيما هو قادم فى حياتك
of self-discovery
رحلة لاستكشاف نفسك
confidence and conviction.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activistDarieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach.
Why you should listen
Darieth Chisolm works with corporate professionals, coaches, authors, speakers and visionaries to develop visibility and multimedia strategies that build brand, influence and income. She leverages her life coaching skills to help victims and survivors of assault and abuse release the shame, live with confidence and find their everyday courage.
Chisolm is also a revenge porn victim turned activist, filmmaker and founder of 50 Shades of Silence, a global movement giving voice and dignity to victims of cyber harassment and abuse. The project aims to advocate for stricter laws and tougher enforcement for cyber sexual crimes; encourage the accountability and responsiveness among online companies; promote social responsibility for texting, posting and sharing online; and restore dignity and respect to victims and survivors. It includes an upcoming feature-length documentary, a website with resources and services, and motivational and empowerment training materials to help victims.
Chisolm is currently the host of CBS's Eye on Health and PBS's Emmy-winning iQ: smartparent. Her YouTube channel and online video podcast series, Hustle & Heart TV, was a top 10 finalist for the 2015 Podcast Awards for Best Video Podcast and was ranked number one on iTunes for more than two months with subscribers and viewers in multiple countries.
Chisolm is also the author of Hustle! Why Now is the Time to Unleash your Passions, a collection of powerful and motivating stories to help readers unlock and unleash their passions and learn how to hustle in business while loving life in the process. She is also a contributing writer for Inspiring Lives and Woman of More magazines.
Chisolm received the 2018 Woman of Influence Award from the Pittsburgh Business Times and has been named Top 10 Trailblazers in Communications by Walker’s Legacy and nominated as Entrepreneur of the Year with Style Week in Pittsburgh. She has received two proclamations from the City of Pittsburgh, two proclamations from Allegheny County and a special recognition from the Senate of Pennsylvania for making an outstanding difference and profound impact in Pittsburgh.
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