Darieth Chisolm: How revenge porn turns lives upside down
Darieth Chisolm: Cómo el porno vengativo puede trastornar tu vida
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
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before I was set to deliver a talk
antes de comenzar una charla
estar ante la cámara.
the so-called expert there,
yo era la llamada experta,
and life and business coach.
coach de vida y negocios durante 20 años.
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
solo para saber la hora
from my ex-husband.
una llamada perdida de mi exesposo.
who told me to go to this website,
que me dijo que fuera a este sitio web
all of these photos of you naked.
are all over this website.
en todo este sitio web.
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
avergonzada y abochornada
months of pain and depression
meses de dolor, depresión
stalker ex-boyfriend
while I was asleep,
he had been sending me
me había estado enviando.
some sleazy, low-life slut.
de que yo era una zorra y una puta.
in my head and stab me in my heart,
y me apuñalaría en el corazón
the controlling relationship.
con la relación controladora.
this was happening to me.
me estuviera pasando.
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
cibernético o intimidación cibernética.
"violencia doméstica digital".
a relationship gone bad,
de una relación que salió mal,
can't handle rejection,
no puede manejar el rechazo,
put their hands on you,
poner sus manos sobre ti,
cell phones and laptops.
celulares y computadoras.
content -- all posted online,
contenido... todo publicado en línea,
we all live our lives online.
todos vivimos nuestras vidas en línea.
we make new relationships,
nuestros negocios, nuevas relaciones,
one Facebook like at a time.
un Facebook cada vez.
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
atacada por venganza porno.
that number looks like one in 10.
ese número es de 1 de cada 10.
in this audience as potential victims.
esta audiencia como posibles víctimas.
what's even more alarming?
to adequately protect victims
proteger adecuadamente a las víctimas
de ley federal pendiente;
by Senator Kamala Harris.
de la senadora Kamala Harris.
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
DC tienen leyes vigentes
we're talking $500 fines.
estamos hablando de multas de USD 500.
from damaged relationships
and depression.
who spent 11 months in court,
que pasó 11 meses en la corte,
en gastos judiciales
and cyberabuse,
internet company
de internet de terceros
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
problemas jurisdiccionales
were on display for months.
seguían siendo exhibidas por meses.
was exposed for the world to see,
estuviera expuesto al mundo
for the content to be removed?
a que se eliminara el contenido?
a private company
me topé con una empresa privada
to shut the website down.
para cerrar el sitio web.
digital material and content.
el contenido y material digital.
both copyright owners and consumers.
de derechos de autor y a los consumidores.
own the rights to those selfies,
y comparten fotos desnudas
derechos de esas selfis,
to have the content removed.
legal DMCA para eliminar el contenido.
con la que hay que bregar
third-party internet companies.
a las empresas de Internet.
a nude photo or a naked pic,
from another country,
y acosaba desde otro país,
to get help here.
obtener ayuda legal aquí.
isn't the internet international?
¿no es internet internacional?
some sort of policy in place
que nos proteja ampliamente,
regardless to borders or restrictions?
las fronteras o restricciones?
I had to keep fighting.
tuve que seguir luchando.
en tres ocasiones,
of both my cell phone and my laptop
y mi computadora portátil
and the Jamaican Embassy
y la Embajada de Jamaica
una minuciosa investigación forense,
all of the evidence.
todas las pruebas.
with the all-male investigative team.
con el equipo de investigación de hombres.
additional hoop to jump through.
vergonzosa y humillante que saltar.
actually arrested him.
en realidad lo arrestaron.
under their malicious communications act,
su ley de comunicaciones maliciosas,
thousands of dollars in fines
enfrentarse a miles de dólares en multas
is making history --
mi caso está haciendo historia.
under this new crime.
bajo este nuevo delito.
all of these hoops.
todos estos obstáculos.
están en juego.
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
una ley clara y estricta;
and responsiveness from online companies;
y respuesta de las empresas en línea;
la responsabilidad social
for posting, sharing and texting;
y enviar mensajes de texto;
la dignidad a las víctimas.
money or resources to wage war,
ni recursos para hacer la guerra,
mislabeled and broken?
difamadas y afectadas?
y terminar con el silencio.
en el centro de todo esto.
prisionera de la vergüenza,
that's holding you hostage.
la mantiene como rehén.
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
la eliminación de su autoestima.
I freed myself from shame.
me liberé de la vergüenza.
from the fear of judgment
would judge me the most --
que más me juzgaría...
person that I know.
más fuerte que conozco.
the wrong woman to mess with."
equivocada para meterse con ella".
to use my platform
this one simple question:
me hice esta simple pregunta:
that I was challenged with,
lo que había desafiado,
about all kinds of possibilities.
en todo tipo de posibilidades.
a new chapter in my life.
un nuevo capítulo en mi vida.
un próximo documental.
an upcoming documentary
someone who is, know this:
a alguien que lo sea, conoce esto:
you have to take care of yourself,
tienes que cuidar de ti misma,
for what's next for your life.
para lo que sigue en tu vida.
of self-discovery
y es un viaje de autodescubrimiento
confidence and conviction.
confianza y convicción.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activistDarieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach.
Why you should listen
Darieth Chisolm works with corporate professionals, coaches, authors, speakers and visionaries to develop visibility and multimedia strategies that build brand, influence and income. She leverages her life coaching skills to help victims and survivors of assault and abuse release the shame, live with confidence and find their everyday courage.
Chisolm is also a revenge porn victim turned activist, filmmaker and founder of 50 Shades of Silence, a global movement giving voice and dignity to victims of cyber harassment and abuse. The project aims to advocate for stricter laws and tougher enforcement for cyber sexual crimes; encourage the accountability and responsiveness among online companies; promote social responsibility for texting, posting and sharing online; and restore dignity and respect to victims and survivors. It includes an upcoming feature-length documentary, a website with resources and services, and motivational and empowerment training materials to help victims.
Chisolm is currently the host of CBS's Eye on Health and PBS's Emmy-winning iQ: smartparent. Her YouTube channel and online video podcast series, Hustle & Heart TV, was a top 10 finalist for the 2015 Podcast Awards for Best Video Podcast and was ranked number one on iTunes for more than two months with subscribers and viewers in multiple countries.
Chisolm is also the author of Hustle! Why Now is the Time to Unleash your Passions, a collection of powerful and motivating stories to help readers unlock and unleash their passions and learn how to hustle in business while loving life in the process. She is also a contributing writer for Inspiring Lives and Woman of More magazines.
Chisolm received the 2018 Woman of Influence Award from the Pittsburgh Business Times and has been named Top 10 Trailblazers in Communications by Walker’s Legacy and nominated as Entrepreneur of the Year with Style Week in Pittsburgh. She has received two proclamations from the City of Pittsburgh, two proclamations from Allegheny County and a special recognition from the Senate of Pennsylvania for making an outstanding difference and profound impact in Pittsburgh.
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