Darieth Chisolm: How revenge porn turns lives upside down
داریث چیسولم: چگونه انتقام پورن زندگیها را دگرگون میکند
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
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before I was set to deliver a talk
برای صحبت آماده بشم
the so-called expert there,
به اصطلاح حرفهای بودم،
and life and business coach.
سابقه و مربی زندگی و تجارت.
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
تا زمان دستم بیاید،
from my ex-husband.
همسر سابقم دارم.
who told me to go to this website,
که بهم گفت به این وبسایت برو،
all of these photos of you naked.
نگاه میکنم.
are all over this website.
هست.
نفس بکشم.
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
و بسیار شرمگین بودم.
رسیده.
months of pain and depression
stalker ex-boyfriend
موذی من
که گفته بود انجام میدهد:
راه اندازی کرده بود،
while I was asleep,
he had been sending me
این چنینی ارسال کرده بود.
some sleazy, low-life slut.
حقیر و سست عنصر معرفی کند.
in my head and stab me in my heart,
چاقو در قلبم فرو میکند.
the controlling relationship.
یک رابطهٔ کنترلشونده پایان دهم.
this was happening to me.
افتاده.
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
قلدری سایبری بشناسید.
مینامم.
a relationship gone bad,
can't handle rejection,
نمیتواند از پس طرد شدن بر بیاید،
put their hands on you,
با شما داشته باشند،
cell phones and laptops.
موبایل و لپتاپ.
content -- all posted online,
متنها -- همه آنلاین پست میشوند،
we all live our lives online.
همه ما آنلاین زندگی میکنیم.
we make new relationships,
رابطههای جدید میسازیم،
one Facebook like at a time.
بار لایک فیس بوک.
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
ضربه خورده است.
that number looks like one in 10.
از هر ۱۰ نفر یکی به نظر میرسد.
in this audience as potential victims.
قربانیهای بالقوه نشان میدهد.
what's even more alarming?
حتی هشداردهندهتر است؟
to adequately protect victims
حمایت از بزهدیدهها به میزان کافی
تصویب وجود دارد؛
by Senator Kamala Harris.
منصوب به سناتور کامالا هریس.
پذیرفته شود.
چیزی برای ما باقی میماند؟
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
قانونهای مناسب برای انتقام پورن دارند.
we're talking $500 fines.
از جریمههای ۵۰۰ دلاری حرف میزنیم.
from damaged relationships
و شهرت آسیبدیده
and depression.
who spent 11 months in court,
را در دادگاه گذرانده،
and cyberabuse,
سواستفادهٔ سایبری،
internet company
مجبور
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
قضایی
were on display for months.
ماهها روی اینترنت بود.
was exposed for the world to see,
در معرض دید جهان بود،
for the content to be removed?
a private company
خصوصی برخوردم
to shut the website down.
وبسایت صادر کند.
digital material and content.
را قاعدهمند میکند.
both copyright owners and consumers.
ازصاحبان کپی رایت و مشتریها است.
own the rights to those selfies,
میکنند صاحبان حقوق آن سلفیها هستند،
to have the content removed.
بخواهند که محتوای آنها را از بین ببرد.
third-party internet companies.
شرکتهای اینترنتی شخص- ثالث است.
a nude photo or a naked pic,
یا تصویر لخت گرفتید،
که آن را پخش کنید،
from another country,
به من از کشور دیگری بود،
to get help here.
تقریباً غیرممکن میکرد.
isn't the internet international?
آیا اینترنت بینالمللی نیست؟
some sort of policy in place
regardless to borders or restrictions?
بدون توجه به مرزها یا محدودیتها؟
I had to keep fighting.
باید به مبارزه ادامه میدادم.
of both my cell phone and my laptop
لپتاپم
and the Jamaican Embassy
و سفارت جاماییکا
all of the evidence.
کرده بودم.
with the all-male investigative team.
تمام مردهای تیم جستجو در میان گذاشنم
additional hoop to jump through.
برای پرتاب شدن در آن است.
actually arrested him.
under their malicious communications act,
مخرب آنها روبرو است،
thousands of dollars in fines
هزاران دلاری در انتظار اوست
is making history --
پرونده من تاریخساز میشود --
under this new crime.
برای این جرم جدید است.
all of these hoops.
شدن به تمام این محیطها.
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
اجرای قانون شفاف و جدی داریم.
and responsiveness from online companies;
پاسخگویی را از شرکتهای آنلاین بخواهیم؛
for posting, sharing and texting;
اشتراک گذاری و متنها ترویج دهیم؛
money or resources to wage war,
مصاف رفتن با آن را دارند.
mislabeled and broken?
باقی میمانند؟
that's holding you hostage.
شما را گروگان گرفته است.
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
I freed myself from shame.
خودم را از شرم رها کردم.
from the fear of judgment
would judge me the most --
بیشتر از همه من را قضاوت کند --
person that I know.
که من میشناسم.
the wrong woman to mess with."
را برای سر به سر گذاشتن انتخاب کرده.»
to use my platform
از برنامهام
this one simple question:
خودم پرسیدم:
that I was challenged with,
با آن چالش داشتم،
about all kinds of possibilities.
در مورد تمام توانمندیهایم کرد.
دربارهٔ حقیقتم صحبت کردم،
a new chapter in my life.
an upcoming documentary
someone who is, know this:
را میشناسید که هست، این را بدانید:
you have to take care of yourself,
باید از خودتان مراقبت کنید،
for what's next for your life.
کنید که در آینده به زندگیتان خواهد آمد.
of self-discovery
خود- اکتشافی است
confidence and conviction.
نیاز دارد.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activistDarieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach.
Why you should listen
Darieth Chisolm works with corporate professionals, coaches, authors, speakers and visionaries to develop visibility and multimedia strategies that build brand, influence and income. She leverages her life coaching skills to help victims and survivors of assault and abuse release the shame, live with confidence and find their everyday courage.
Chisolm is also a revenge porn victim turned activist, filmmaker and founder of 50 Shades of Silence, a global movement giving voice and dignity to victims of cyber harassment and abuse. The project aims to advocate for stricter laws and tougher enforcement for cyber sexual crimes; encourage the accountability and responsiveness among online companies; promote social responsibility for texting, posting and sharing online; and restore dignity and respect to victims and survivors. It includes an upcoming feature-length documentary, a website with resources and services, and motivational and empowerment training materials to help victims.
Chisolm is currently the host of CBS's Eye on Health and PBS's Emmy-winning iQ: smartparent. Her YouTube channel and online video podcast series, Hustle & Heart TV, was a top 10 finalist for the 2015 Podcast Awards for Best Video Podcast and was ranked number one on iTunes for more than two months with subscribers and viewers in multiple countries.
Chisolm is also the author of Hustle! Why Now is the Time to Unleash your Passions, a collection of powerful and motivating stories to help readers unlock and unleash their passions and learn how to hustle in business while loving life in the process. She is also a contributing writer for Inspiring Lives and Woman of More magazines.
Chisolm received the 2018 Woman of Influence Award from the Pittsburgh Business Times and has been named Top 10 Trailblazers in Communications by Walker’s Legacy and nominated as Entrepreneur of the Year with Style Week in Pittsburgh. She has received two proclamations from the City of Pittsburgh, two proclamations from Allegheny County and a special recognition from the Senate of Pennsylvania for making an outstanding difference and profound impact in Pittsburgh.
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