Darieth Chisolm: How revenge porn turns lives upside down
Darieth Chisolm: Pourquoi la pornodivulgation détruit des vies
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
Double-click the English transcript below to play the video.
before I was set to deliver a talk
avant de livrer une présentation
the so-called expert there,
j'étais la soi-disante experte,
and life and business coach.
et présentatrice télé depuis 20 ans.
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
de mon ex-mari.
from my ex-husband.
who told me to go to this website,
qui m'a dit d'aller sur un site
all of these photos of you naked.
des photos de toi nue.
are all over this website.
sont partout sur le site.
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
gênée et honteuse.
months of pain and depression
et de dépression, de rage,
stalker ex-boyfriend
jaloux et harceleur
while I was asleep,
he had been sending me
il m'avait envoyé
some sleazy, low-life slut.
pour une pute glauque et vulgaire.
in my head and stab me in my heart,
et me poignarder dans le cœur
the controlling relationship.
avec cette relation de contrôle.
this was happening to me.
que ça m'arrivait à moi.
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
de cyberharcèlement ou cyberintimidation.
« pornodivulgation ».
« violence domestique numérique ».
a relationship gone bad,
d'une relation qui a mal tourné.
can't handle rejection,
ne supporte pas d'être rejeté.
put their hands on you,
vous attaquer physiquement,
cell phones and laptops.
des téléphones et des ordinateurs.
content -- all posted online,
et du contenu explicites mis en ligne
we all live our lives online.
on vit tous nos vies en ligne.
we make new relationships,
on fait des rencontres,
one Facebook like at a time.
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
par la pornodivulgation.
that number looks like one in 10.
c'est une sur 10.
in this audience as potential victims.
ici présentes des victimes potentielles.
what's even more alarming?
to adequately protect victims
les victimes adéquatement
by Senator Kamala Harris.
de la sénatrice Kamala Harris.
en vigueur avant des années.
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
40 États et à Washington.
we're talking $500 fines.
500 dollars d'amende.
from damaged relationships
and depression.
font des dépressions.
who spent 11 months in court,
en frais juridiques.
and cyberabuse,
internet company
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
et problèmes judiciaires font perdre
were on display for months.
étaient exposées tout ce temps.
was exposed for the world to see,
était montré à tout le monde
for the content to be removed?
que le contenu soit supprimé ?
a private company
sur une société privée
to shut the website down.
pour fermer le site.
digital material and content.
le matériel et le contenu numériques.
both copyright owners and consumers.
et des consommateurs.
own the rights to those selfies,
et partagent ces photos de nu
to have the content removed.
ce DMCA pour retirer le contenu.
contre laquelle on se bat,
third-party internet companies.
non conformes et non réactives.
a nude photo or a naked pic,
from another country,
depuis un autre pays
to get help here.
isn't the internet international?
n'est-il pas international ?
some sort of policy in place
la même politique en place
regardless to borders or restrictions?
indépendamment des frontières ?
I had to keep fighting.
J'ai continué à me battre.
of both my cell phone and my laptop
de la sécurité intérieure
and the Jamaican Embassy
dans mon téléphone et mon ordinateur,
all of the evidence.
with the all-male investigative team.
intimes avec toute l'équipe de recherche.
additional hoop to jump through.
gênante, humiliante à passer.
actually arrested him.
under their malicious communications act,
des communications malveillantes
thousands of dollars in fines
à une amende de milliers de dollars
is making history --
avait marqué les esprits.
under this new crime.
international de ce genre.
ce niveau d'humiliation,
all of these hoops.
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
d'une mise en application sévère.
and responsiveness from online companies;
et la réactivité des sociétés Internet.
for posting, sharing and texting;
sociale de poster et partager
leur dignité aux victimes.
money or resources to wage war,
pour mener cette guerre,
mislabeled and broken?
pour compte et détruites ?
et brisez le silence.
silencieux de la honte,
that's holding you hostage.
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
la perte de l'estime de soi.
I freed myself from shame.
je me suis libérée de cette honte.
from the fear of judgment
de cette peur du jugement
would judge me the most --
je croyais, aller le plus me juger :
person that I know.
la plus forte que je connaisse.
the wrong woman to mess with."
la mauvaise personne. »
to use my platform
d'utiliser ma plateforme,
this one simple question:
je me suis posée cette question :
that I was challenged with,
les difficultés que j'ai dû surmonter,
about all kinds of possibilities.
à toutes sortes de possibilités.
je dis la vérité
a new chapter in my life.
un nouveau chapitre de ma vie.
à l'échelle mondiale,
an upcoming documentary
et leur rendre leur dignité.
someone who is, know this:
ou en connaissez une, comprenez ceci :
you have to take care of yourself,
vous devez prendre soin de vous,
for what's next for your life.
vers la prochaine étape de votre vie.
of self-discovery
c'est un voyage d'auto-découverte
confidence and conviction.
et de la conviction.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activistDarieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach.
Why you should listen
Darieth Chisolm works with corporate professionals, coaches, authors, speakers and visionaries to develop visibility and multimedia strategies that build brand, influence and income. She leverages her life coaching skills to help victims and survivors of assault and abuse release the shame, live with confidence and find their everyday courage.
Chisolm is also a revenge porn victim turned activist, filmmaker and founder of 50 Shades of Silence, a global movement giving voice and dignity to victims of cyber harassment and abuse. The project aims to advocate for stricter laws and tougher enforcement for cyber sexual crimes; encourage the accountability and responsiveness among online companies; promote social responsibility for texting, posting and sharing online; and restore dignity and respect to victims and survivors. It includes an upcoming feature-length documentary, a website with resources and services, and motivational and empowerment training materials to help victims.
Chisolm is currently the host of CBS's Eye on Health and PBS's Emmy-winning iQ: smartparent. Her YouTube channel and online video podcast series, Hustle & Heart TV, was a top 10 finalist for the 2015 Podcast Awards for Best Video Podcast and was ranked number one on iTunes for more than two months with subscribers and viewers in multiple countries.
Chisolm is also the author of Hustle! Why Now is the Time to Unleash your Passions, a collection of powerful and motivating stories to help readers unlock and unleash their passions and learn how to hustle in business while loving life in the process. She is also a contributing writer for Inspiring Lives and Woman of More magazines.
Chisolm received the 2018 Woman of Influence Award from the Pittsburgh Business Times and has been named Top 10 Trailblazers in Communications by Walker’s Legacy and nominated as Entrepreneur of the Year with Style Week in Pittsburgh. She has received two proclamations from the City of Pittsburgh, two proclamations from Allegheny County and a special recognition from the Senate of Pennsylvania for making an outstanding difference and profound impact in Pittsburgh.
Darieth Chisolm | Speaker | TED.com