Sarah Barmak: The uncomplicated truth about women's sexuality
새라 버마크(Sarah Barmak): 복잡할 것 없는 여성의 성에 관한 진실
Sarah Barmak teaches journalism and writes about women's health and sexuality, gender and sexual consent. Full bio
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to men than it is to women.
여겨지는 경향이 있는데요.
more shame in talking about it.
그 얘기를 꺼려할 뿐인데요.
from some kind of sexual dysfunction.
남몰래 고민한다고 해요.
more about the orgasm gap.
더 많이 나오고 있죠.
but stickier ...
좀 더 끈적끈적한 ...
of the time they have sex.
보통 60%가 안되는데
of the time they have sex.
women have been sold flawed medication,
여성들은 결함이 있는 약도 먹어 보고
생식기 주사도 맞아 봤죠.
can't be fixed with a pill.
어떻게 할 수 없다는 겁니다.
and medically incorrect picture
의학적으로 정확하지 않게 묘사된 건
have some kind of sexual problem,
성적 문제로 고민한다면
doesn't work for women.
여성들에겐 맞지 않을 수도 있죠.
of how women actually work.
보다 정확한 이해가 필요합니다.
of female sexuality is evolving.
이해의 추이에 관한 거예요.
back when men dominated science.
대부분이었던 시절에 내려졌죠.
tended to see the female body
about their experience.
그냥 물어볼 수도 있었는데 말이죠.
like it was a foreign landscape.
무슨 외국의 풍경을 보듯 살펴 봤어요.
of female ejaculation and the G-spot
G-스팟에 대한 말들이 많은데,
women's sexuality,
여성의 성에 대해선 배가 되는데
and erased in specific ways.
증오의 대상이 돼 왔어요.
goes back centuries.
현대 의학의 초기로
of modern medicine.
오래된 교리에 도전하고 있었어요.
to gaze up at the stars.
만들고 있었잖아요.
let's face it, they were all dudes --
"아버지"라고 할게요.
what to do with the clitoris.
알 수가 없었어요.
anything to do with making babies.
없는 듯 했죠.
some kind of abnormal growth --
was probably a hermaphrodite.
발표해 버렸어요.
have their daughter's clitoris cut off
잘라 버릴 정도로 상황이 나빠졌죠.
as female genital mutilation
as late as the 20th century.
about women's bodies,
for a little help?
도와 달라고 안했을까요?
"All that was history.
"다 옛날 얘기지.
and Tinder and vajazzling."
그리고 거기에 장식도 하잖아."
of the female body continues.
의학적 무지는 계속되고 있습니다.
as this little pea-sized nub,
deep into the body.
erectile tissue as the penis.
발기성 조직을 가지고 있습니다.
named Sophia Wallace
작업의 일환이죠.
that this structure
만들어진 걸 고려해볼 때
by researchers in 2009.
그녀의 생각은 맞습니다.
the entire human genome.
훨씬 전에 완성됐잖아요.
기본적인 학술지에서도
was still nowhere to be found
찾아 볼 수 없다고
consequences for surgery.
심각한 영향을 줄 수 있어요.
of losing your penis
처해 있다고 상상해 보세요.
달려 있고 어떻게 생겼는지
totally sure where it was
생식기 구조에 대해 잘 모릅니다.
on their own genital anatomy either.
제대로 다뤄지지 않거든요.
from many sex-ed diagrams, too.
views their bodies with confusion at best,
최악의 경우 노골적인 무시나 혐오까지 하는 문화를
as dirty or inadequate.
더럽거나 부적절한 것으로 여깁니다.
comparing their vulvas
그들의 음문을 비교해요.
작고 깔끔한 것과 말이죠.
they see in pornography.
is becoming a skyrocketing business
그리고 10대들 사이에
하나의 이유입니다.
that all this is a trivial issue.
하찮게 여기기도 해요.
저녁 식사 자리에서 누군가 물었죠,
when I was at a dinner party
a first-world problem?
성 문제를 다루지 않나요?"
important issues all over the world?"
더 중요한 문제들이 많잖아요?"
큰 문제 중 하나입니다.
is part of our problem.
우리는 살고 있어요.
that seems obsessed with sex.
가장 중요한 것들 중 하나라고
things you can do.
결과를 낳고 맙니다.
of what it truly is.
sexual issues in women,
심리학자 로리 브로토 박사와
all tend to repeat the same thing.
같은 말을 반복한다고 했죠.
with their partners and themselves.
상실했다고 느낍니다.
don't experience it this way.
해당되지 않는다는 겁니다.
and more circular.
of women's arousal and desire
여성의 성적 흥분과 욕구를 보여주는
an encounter for many different reasons
나타난다는 것을 포함해서요.
or multiple climaxes,
a richer definition of sexuality.
내리려고 애쓰는 이들도 있어요.
female or neither gender,
또 이 둘 중에 하나가 아니든
to the senses.
and well-being.
are redefining their sexuality today.
재정의하고 있는 이유 중 하나죠.
that are less about the happy ending --
온전함을 느끼는데 집중하며
spiritual sex classes,
찬미하는 의미로
of real bodies.
this is a trivial issue, consider this:
이걸 생각해 보세요.
성교육과 합의라는
is crucial to the huge issue
what kind of touch feels right,
속도, 그리고 어떤 감촉이
what kind of touch feels wrong
더 잘 알게 되고
having more or better sex.
해야 한다는 건 아니에요.
느껴야 한다는 것도 아니고요.
women have as many orgasms as men.
and your own unique experience.
받아들이라는 겁니다.
전문가가 되라는 거죠.
the expert on your body.
and satisfaction on your terms.
만족을 정의하는 거예요.
having no sex at all,
of our whole health and well-being,
행복의 일부로서 정의하고
소유할 수 있도록 자율권을 준다면
and girls to fully own it
중요한 발걸음이 됩니다.
a better world not just for women
모두에게 더 좋은 세상이
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sarah Barmak - JournalistSarah Barmak teaches journalism and writes about women's health and sexuality, gender and sexual consent.
Why you should listen
Sarah Barmak's book Closer: Notes From the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality, published by Coach House, was named one of the Best Books of 2016 by four major Canadian media organizations. The Globe and Mail called it "an incredibly insightful exploration of female pleasure," and legendary director Mary Harron called it "sharp and funny and well-researched and elegantly written."
Barmak writes for The Walrus magazine, including a 2018 cover story on consent and #MeToo that was shortlisted for the Allan Slaight Prize, and she has contributed to New York Magazine's "The Cut," The Hairpin, Maclean's, The Toronto Star and many others. She teaches at The Fellowship in Global Journalism at The University of Toronto's Munk School of Global Affairs and Public Policy in Toronto, Canada. She also teaches a sexuality workshop called "The Sex Myth Detox." She is currently researching a new book on sexual consent.
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