Sarah Barmak: The uncomplicated truth about women's sexuality
Sara Barmek (Sarah Barmak): Jednostavna istina o ženskoj seksualnosti
Sarah Barmak teaches journalism and writes about women's health and sexuality, gender and sexual consent. Full bio
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to men than it is to women.
što je važnije muškarcima nego ženama.
more shame in talking about it.
često više sramota da pričaju o tome.
from some kind of sexual dysfunction.
od neke vrste seksualne disfunkcije.
more about the orgasm gap.
but stickier ...
samo malo lepljivije...
obično dostižu vrhunac
of the time they have sex.
of the time they have sex.
slučajeva prilikom seksa.
women have been sold flawed medication,
ženama se prodaju pogrešni lekovi,
can't be fixed with a pill.
ne može da se popravi pilulama.
and medically incorrect picture
i medicinski neispravnu sliku
have some kind of sexual problem,
ima neki seksualni problem,
doesn't work for women.
nije primenljivo kod žena.
of how women actually work.
kako žene u stvari funcionišu.
of female sexuality is evolving.
ženske seksualnosti evoluira.
back when men dominated science.
u vreme kada su muškarci vladali naukom.
tended to see the female body
da vide žensko telo
about their experience.
o njihovom iskustvu.
like it was a foreign landscape.
kao da je to neka strana teritorija.
of female ejaculation and the G-spot
o postojanju ženske ejakulacije i G-tačke
o vanzemaljcima ili NLO-ima.
women's sexuality,
zajednici i ženskoj seksualnosti,
and erased in specific ways.
i izbrisana na određeni način.
goes back centuries.
se proteže vekovima.
of modern medicine.
to gaze up at the stars.
kako bi gledali ka zvezdama.
let's face it, they were all dudes --
budimo iskreni, sve su bili tipovi -
what to do with the clitoris.
šta da rade sa klitorisom.
anything to do with making babies.
sa pravljenjem beba.
some kind of abnormal growth --
neka vrsta anomalije u vidu izrasline -
was probably a hermaphrodite.
verovatno hermafrodit.
have their daughter's clitoris cut off
ponekad odsecali klitoris svojim ćerkama
as female genital mutilation
sakaćenjem ženskih genitalija,
as late as the 20th century.
na Zapadu sve do 20. veka,
about women's bodies,
zbunjeni ženskim telom,
for a little help?
nisu pitali žene za malo pomoći?
"All that was history.
and Tinder and vajazzling."
i kristale za intimne delove tela”.
of the female body continues.
ženskog tela se nastavlja.
as this little pea-sized nub,
deep into the body.
koji je duboko u telu.
erectile tissue as the penis.
erekcijskog tkiva kao i penis.
named Sophia Wallace
da nam treba više „kliterature”,
that this structure
s obzirom da su ova struktura
by researchers in 2009.
tek 2009. godine.
the entire human genome.
mapiranje celokupnog ljudskog genoma.
stvarne životne posledice.
was still nowhere to be found
da ova struktura ne može da se nađe
kao što je „Grejova Anatomija”.
consequences for surgery.
ozbiljne posledice za hirurgiju.
of losing your penis
da izgubite svoj penis
totally sure where it was
gde se on nalazi
on their own genital anatomy either.
sa anatomijom svojih genitalija.
from many sex-ed diagrams, too.
dijagramima iz seksualnog obrazovanja.
views their bodies with confusion at best,
rečeno gleda zbunjeno na njihova tela,
sa prezirom i gađenjem.
as dirty or inadequate.
genitalije prljavim ili neadekvatnim.
comparing their vulvas
they see in pornography.
is becoming a skyrocketing business
labioplastika postala toliko popularna
that all this is a trivial issue.
da je ovo nebitan problem.
when I was at a dinner party
bila sam na nekoj zabavi
a first-world problem?
nebitan problem?
important issues all over the world?"
ne bave mnogo važnijim problemima?”
is part of our problem.
učini nebitnim, takođe deo problema.
that seems obsessed with sex.
koja je očigledno opsednuta seksom.
things you can do.
je omalovažavanje seksa.
of what it truly is.
onoga što seks u stvari jeste.
sexual issues in women,
seksualne poremećaje kod žena.
su preživele neku traumu.
all tend to repeat the same thing.
ponavljaju jednu te istu stvar.
with their partners and themselves.
sa svojim partnerom i samom sobom.
orjentisan postizanju cilja.
don't experience it this way.
ne doživljavaju tako.
and more circular.
nego linearan proces.
of women's arousal and desire
uzbuđenja i želja kod žena,
an encounter for many different reasons
započeti čin iz brojnih razloga
or multiple climaxes,
a richer definition of sexuality.
šire definicije seksualnosti.
female or neither gender,
žena ili nijedno od polova,
to the senses.
and well-being.
celokupnom zdravlju i dobrobiti.
are redefining their sexuality today.
danas redefinišu svoju seksualnost.
that are less about the happy ending --
okrenute srećnom završetku -
spiritual sex classes,
of real bodies.
this is a trivial issue, consider this:
ovo nevažnim problemom, razmislite:
is crucial to the huge issue
je od presudnog značaja
seksualnog obrazovanja i pristanka.
what kind of touch feels right,
kakav dodir vam prija,
what kind of touch feels wrong
koji dodir je pogrešan
having more or better sex.
imaju više seksa ili bolji seks.
women have as many orgasms as men.
isti broj orgazama kao muškarci.
and your own unique experience.
i svog jedinstvenog iskustva.
the expert on your body.
and satisfaction on your terms.
pod vašim uslovima.
having no sex at all,
of our whole health and well-being,
opšteg zdravlja i dobrobiti,
and girls to fully own it
da ga u potpunosti poseduju
a better world not just for women
ne samo za žene,
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sarah Barmak - JournalistSarah Barmak teaches journalism and writes about women's health and sexuality, gender and sexual consent.
Why you should listen
Sarah Barmak's book Closer: Notes From the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality, published by Coach House, was named one of the Best Books of 2016 by four major Canadian media organizations. The Globe and Mail called it "an incredibly insightful exploration of female pleasure," and legendary director Mary Harron called it "sharp and funny and well-researched and elegantly written."
Barmak writes for The Walrus magazine, including a 2018 cover story on consent and #MeToo that was shortlisted for the Allan Slaight Prize, and she has contributed to New York Magazine's "The Cut," The Hairpin, Maclean's, The Toronto Star and many others. She teaches at The Fellowship in Global Journalism at The University of Toronto's Munk School of Global Affairs and Public Policy in Toronto, Canada. She also teaches a sexuality workshop called "The Sex Myth Detox." She is currently researching a new book on sexual consent.
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