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JD Schramm: Break the silence for suicide attempt survivors
JD Schramm:Thyerja e qetesise per te mbijetuarit nga vetevrasja
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Edhe ateher kur jeta jone duket e mire nga jashte, jeta perbrenda mund te jete shume e dhimbshme, duke i lene disa te vendosin drejt fundit te jetes. Tek TEDYou, JD Schramm na kerkon neve ta thejme qetesin e cila e mbulon vetvrasjen, dhe krijon shume me teper burime per ti ndihmuar njerezit te cilet deshirojne ta marrin veten pas largimit nga vdekja: Artikulli: http://t.co/wsNrY9C
JD Schramm - Communicator
JD Schramm teaches future business leaders both the theoretical and practical aspects of communication. Full bio
JD Schramm teaches future business leaders both the theoretical and practical aspects of communication. Full bio
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From all outward appearances,
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Nga e gjithe prezenca e jashtme,
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John had everything going for him.
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John kishte cdo te mire ne favor te tij.
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He had just signed the contract
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Ai sapo kishte firmosur kontraten
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to sell his New York apartment
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per te shitur apartamentin e tij ne New York
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at a six-figure profit,
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me nje profit te gjasht figurave,
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and he'd only owned it for five years.
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dhe ai e kishte mbajtur ate vetem per pese vite.
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The school where he graduated from with his master's
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Shkolla ku ai u diplomua se bashku me masterin e tij
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had just offered him a teaching appointment,
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i kishte ofruar atij vetem nje takim per mesues,
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which meant not only a salary,
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e cila kishte kuptimin jo vetem te nje rroge,
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but benefits for the first time in ages.
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por perfitimeve per heren e pare ne jeten e tije.
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And yet, despite everything going really well for John,
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Dhe akoma, pamvaresisht te gjithave qe shkonin mire per John,
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he was struggling,
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ai ishte duke hasur veshtiresi,
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fighting addiction and a gripping depression.
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duke luftuar varesine dhe depresionin e flakte.
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On the night of June 11th, 2003,
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Ne naten e 11 qershorit te vitit 2003,
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he climbed up to the edge
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ai u ngjit siper lumit
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of the fence on the Manhattan Bridge
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ne uren e Manhatten-it
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and he leaped to the treacherous waters below.
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dhe kerceu ne uje.
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Remarkably --
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Mrekullisht --
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no, miraculously --
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jo fatmiresisht --
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he lived.
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ai shpetoi.
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The fall shattered his right arm,
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Hrdhja ia demtoi krahun e djathte te tij,
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broke every rib that he had,
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duke i thyer te gjitha brinjet qe kishte,
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punctured his lung,
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demtuar mushkerite,
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and he drifted in and out of consciousness
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dhe ishte here - here pa vetedije
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as he drifted down the East River,
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perderisa permbytej poshte lumit East,
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under the Brooklyn Bridge
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nen uren e Brooklyn-it
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and out into the pathway of the Staten Island Ferry,
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dhe jashte rrugices e cila del nga Staten Island Ferry,
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where passengers on the ferry
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ku pasagjeret ne anije
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heard his cries of pain,
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degjuan britmat e tij te dhimbjes,
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contacted the boat's captain
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kontaktuan kapitenin e anijes
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who contacted the Coast Guard
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i cili me pas kontaktoi gardat e lumit
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who fished him out of the East River
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te cilet e nxorren jasht Lumit East
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and took him to Bellevue Hospital.
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dhe e derguan ate tek spitali Bellevue.
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And that's actually where our story begins.
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Dhe kjo eshte pika ku tregimi jone fillon.
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Because once John committed himself
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Sepse kur John-i iu perkushtua vetes
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to putting his life back together --
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per ta kthyer jeten perseri prapsht --
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first physically, then emotionally,
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se pari fizikisht , dhe pastaj mentalisht,
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and then spiritually --
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dhe shpirtrisht --
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he found that there were very few resources available
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ai zbuloi se ishin shume pak burime te mundshme
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to someone who has attempted to end their life
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per dike i cili kish provuar ti jepte fund jetes se tij
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in the way that he did.
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ne menyren te cilen ai beri.
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Research shows
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Kerkimet shfaqin
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that 19 out of 20 people
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qe 19 prej 20 njerezve
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who attempt suicide
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te cilet kane tentuar vetvrasjen
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will fail.
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do te deshtojne.
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But the people who fail
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Por njerezit te cilet deshtojne
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are 37 times more likely to succeed
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jane 37 here me te suksesshem
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the second time.
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heren e dyte.
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This truly is
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Kjo e vertete eshte
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an at-risk population
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dhe tek rreziku i popullsis
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with very few resources to support them.
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me shum pak burime per ta perkahur ate.
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And what happens
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Dhe ajo cka ndodh
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when people try to assemble themselves back into life,
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kur njerezit vendosin ta kthejne veten prap ne jete,
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because of our taboos around suicide,
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sepse per tabut tona rreth vetvrasjes,
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we're not sure what to say,
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ne nuk jemi te sigurt se cfare te themi,
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and so quite often we say nothing.
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dhe keshtu qe shpesh ne nuk themi asgje.
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And that furthers the isolation
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Dhe me tej izolimet
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that people like John found themselves in.
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qe njerezit sikurse John gjejne veten e tyre.
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I know John's story very well
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E di historine e John-it shum mire
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because I'm John.
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sepse une jam John.
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And this is, today,
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Dhe kjo eshte e sotmja,
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the first time in any sort of public setting
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hera e pare perballe publikut
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I've ever acknowledged
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qe asnjeher nuk e kam menduar
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the journey that I have been on.
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udhetimi ne te cilin kam qene une.
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But after having lost a beloved teacher in 2006
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Por pasi ke humbur nje mesues ne 2006
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and a good friend last year to suicide,
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dhe nje shok te mire vitin e kaluar nga vetvrasja,
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and sitting last year at TEDActive,
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dhe i ulur vitin e kaluar tek TedActive,
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I knew that I needed to step out of my silence
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une e dija qe duhet te dilja jashte qetesise time
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and past my taboos
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dhe te kaloja tabut e mia
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to talk about an idea worth spreading --
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per te folur rreth nje ideje te cilen i'a vlen ta shprehesh --
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and that is that people
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dhe kjo eshte qe njerezit
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who have made the difficult choice
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qe kane bere zgjedhjen e veshtire
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to come back to life
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per tu rikthyer ne jete
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need more resources and need our help.
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kane nevoje per me shume burime dhe kane nevoje per ndihmen tuaj.
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As the Trevor Project says, it gets better.
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Ashtu sikunderse Projekti Trevor thote, behesh me mire.
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It gets way better.
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Eshte shume me mire.
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And I'm choosing to come out
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Dhe une kam zgjedhur te dal jasht
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of a totally different kind of closet today
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te jem totalisht i ndryshuar sot
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to encourage you, to urge you,
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per t'iu inkurajuar ju, per t'iu kerkuar ju,
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that if you are someone
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qe nese je dikushi
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who has contemplated or attempted suicide,
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qe ka provuar ose ka menduar te beje vetvrasje,
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or you know somebody who has,
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apo njihni dike qe ka menduar ta beje,
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talk about it; get help.
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fol rreth kesaj; merr ndihme.
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It's a conversation worth having
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Eshte nje bisede e cila i'a vlen
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and an idea worth spreading.
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dhe nje ide te cilen duhet ta shperndash.
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Thank you.
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Faliminderit
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(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
JD Schramm - CommunicatorJD Schramm teaches future business leaders both the theoretical and practical aspects of communication.
Why you should listen
A seasoned communicator and entrepreneur, JD Schramm teaches the theoretical and practical aspects of effective communication as a lecturer in management at Stanford's Graduate School of Business. At Stanford, he has led the development and launch of the Mastery in Communication Initiative to help GSB students improve their mastery of speaking and writing.
He says: "I cultivate dreams in myself and others by building bridges, inspiring greatness, encouraging growth, and living passionately."
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