Beth Malone: How my dad's dementia changed my idea of death (and life)
Beth Malone: Como é que a demência do meu pai mudou a minha ideia sobre a morte (e sobre a vida)
TED Resident Beth Malone brings bold art to public spaces across the US, encouraging artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks. Full bio
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Demência do Lobo Frontotemporal
that hits people in their 50s or 60s.
que ataca pessoas nos seus 50 ou 60 anos.
someone's personality,
a personalidade da pessoa,
ou até mesmo violenta.
com as próprias mãos.
with his own hands.
with the falsetto singing voice
que cantava em falsete como ninguém,
de cuidados permanentes
for round-the-clock care
and I made the mistake
cometemos o erro
and afternoon art classes
havia aulas de arte à tarde
tivemos de prender o seu pai."
everybody with cutlery.
com talheres.
the curtains off the wall,
to throw plants out the window.
pela janela fora.
the old ladies out of their wheelchairs."
das suas cadeiras de rodas".
a bunch of state-run facilities
geridos pelo Estado,
específico para pessoas com demência.
specifically for people with dementia.
on the ground wearing a onesie --
curvado para a frente e a usar um "onesie"
that zip in the back.
com um fecho atrás.
porque ele estava sempre a puxar a roupa,
as he yanked at it,
parecia um colete de forças.
na carrinha velha dele,
que vinha do fundo da minha barriga.
coming out of the pit of my belly.
was worth living anymore.
valeria a pena.
to prioritize productivity.
para priorizar a produtividade.
an Adonis in this case --
-- neste caso, um Adónis --
in the way we expect him to be,
da maneira que é esperada,
era que o meu pai estava a ser torturado
was that my dad was being tortured
dessa tortura.
the vessel of that torture.
I'm going to kill Dad.
"Vou matar o pai."
to live the rest of your life
nem sequer sabes comprar heroína!"
how to buy heroin."
sobre a sua morte.
about his death a lot.
Como é que será?
about death when we were all healthy.
enquanto havia saúde.
a melhor maneira de morrer?
qual é a melhor maneira de morrer?
Depois, um grupo de apoio.
and then a support group,
when they're worried about loved ones.
com quem amam.
and it's OK to go when you're ready.
e que não faz mal se quiserem partir."
curvado e com um "onesie".
on the ground in the onesie.
and just kind of looking at the ground.
mas parecia fixar o chão.
about nothing in particular,
sobre nada em particular,
he sneezed from the ginger ale.
ele espirrou por causa da "ginger ale".
o seu corpo para cima,
it jerked his body upright,
durante um bocadinho.
and sparking, over and over and over again
e a despertar vezes sem conta,
and he was looking at me,
e ele estava a olhar para mim,
-- para lhe dizer, certo? --
"Eu também tenho saudades tuas."
porque estava um farrapo.
because I'm just a mess.
he seemed kind of OK.
ele pareceu-me bem.
was still attached to his body.
ainda estar preso ao seu corpo.
por aquela pessoa.
de o ajudar a ele e a mim,
as father and daughter.
de pai e filha.
como fizemos tantas vezes.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Beth Malone - Social entrepreneur, artistTED Resident Beth Malone brings bold art to public spaces across the US, encouraging artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks.
Why you should listen
Beth Malone is executive director and partner at Dashboard US, an award-winning, experimental creative agency. Dashboard has presented exhibitions and special artist projects in cities around the country including New York, New Orleans, Atlanta, and Detroit. Dashboard has commissioned new, nontraditional works from over 200 artists.
Malone encourages artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks, a practice she employed for herself when processing illness, caretaking and death. In 2014, she and her dad were sitting on a couch in a psychiatric hospital in Atlanta, GA. He looked at her and said, "I’m gonna be lost after this. After this, I’m gonna be gone." In August 2017, her dad passed away from frontotemporal lobe dementia -- just two months after she gave her TED Talk. It was a good death.
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