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Faith Jegede Cole - Writer
Writer Faith Jegede Cole draws on her experiences growing up with two autistic brothers in order to spread awareness and understanding about this increasingly common diagnosis.

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Faith Jegede Cole is a British writer, speaker and researcher. She is passionate about the power of storytelling and its ability to shift mindsets. Her TED Talk titled "What I’ve learned from my autistic brothers" has been viewed over a million times and has warmed the hearts of families impacted by autism.

Faith is currently pursuing her PhD in Communication at American University. She has spent the last three years studying identity, reputation and privacy in the world of online communication. Her research specifically explores the tensions between online visibility and online vulnerability that are experienced when seeking to create positive changes in society.

Prior to her PhD, Faith worked within the radio broadcasting industry for seven years. Before moving to America she hosted and produced her own lifestyle show on a national UK station.

Faith is a proud Londoner, but now lives in Washington DC, with her husband Nathaniel Cole and happily calls it home.

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Faith Jegede Cole: What I've learned from my autistic brothers

费斯.贾格德:我从孤独症弟弟们身上学到的

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费斯.贾格德讲述了她成长经历中与两个弟弟发生的那些感人又有趣的故事。两个弟弟都是孤独症患者,但都非凡无比。在这个TED Talent Search的演讲中,她提醒我们人生的意义比成为“正常人”要深远得多。
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Writer Faith Jegede Cole draws on her experiences growing up with two autistic brothers in order to spread awareness and understanding about this increasingly common diagnosis. Full bio

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Today今天 I have just one request请求.
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今天我只要求一件事
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Please don't tell me I'm normal正常.
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不要说我是正常人
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Now I'd like to introduce介绍 you to my brothers兄弟.
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我想介绍给你们认识我的两个兄弟
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Remi雷米 is 22,
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Remi今年22岁
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tall and very handsome英俊.
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又高又帅
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He's speechless说不出话来, but he communicates相通 joy喜悦
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他不讲话,但能传达欢乐
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in a way that some of the best最好 orators演说家 cannot不能.
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用他特有的方式,最好的演讲家也望尘莫及
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Remi雷米 knows知道 what love is.
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Remi知道什么是爱
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He shares分享 it unconditionally无条件 and he shares分享 it regardless而不管.
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他无条件无保留地分享他的那份爱
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He's not greedy贪婪. He doesn't see skin皮肤 color颜色.
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他不贪心,也不在乎别人是什么肤色
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He doesn't care关心 about religious宗教 differences分歧, and get this:
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他无所谓宗教信仰的差异,还有:
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He has never told a lie谎言.
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他从来没说过谎
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When he sings songs歌曲 from our childhood童年,
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当他唱起我们儿时的歌谣
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attempting尝试 words that not even I could remember记得,
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唱出就连我都忘记了的歌词
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he reminds提醒 me of one thing:
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他提醒了我
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how little we know about the mind心神, and how wonderful精彩
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我们对精神知之甚少
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the unknown未知 must必须 be.
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而未知的事物是如此迷人
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Samuel塞缪尔 is 16. He's tall. He's very handsome英俊.
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Samuel今年16岁,也是又高又帅
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He has the most impeccable无可挑剔 memory记忆.
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他有着超凡的记忆力
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He has a selective可选择的 one, though虽然.
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但这记忆力是有选择性的
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He doesn't remember记得 if he stole偷了 my chocolate巧克力 bar酒吧,
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他不记得偷了我的巧克力棒
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but he remembers记得 the year of release发布 for every一切 song歌曲 on my iPodiPod的,
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但记得我iPod里面每首歌的发行年份
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conversations对话 we had when he was four,
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他四岁时我们的谈话
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weeingweeing on my arm on the first ever episode插曲 of Teletubbies天线宝宝,
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看天线宝宝第一集时尿在我手臂上的囧事
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and Lady淑女 Gaga'sGaga的 birthday生日.
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还有Lady Gaga的生日
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Don't they sound声音 incredible难以置信?
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听起来很神奇吧?
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But most people don't agree同意.
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但很多人不这么认为
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And in fact事实, because their minds头脑 don't fit适合
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事实是,就因为他们的思维不符合
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into society's社会 version of normal正常,
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社会对正常人的定义
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they're often经常 bypassed绕过 and misunderstood误解.
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他们经常被孤立、被误解
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But what lifted取消 my heart and strengthened加强 my soul灵魂
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但让我坚定信念的是
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was that even though虽然 this was the case案件,
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即使现实如此
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although虽然 they were not seen看到 as ordinary普通,
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就算他们不被当作正常人看
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this could only mean one thing:
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这也只说明了一件事
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that they were extraordinary非凡 --
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他们是非凡的
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autistic自闭症 and extraordinary非凡.
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虽然患有自闭症,但非凡无比
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Now, for you who may可能 be less familiar with the term术语 "autism自闭症,"
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你们中的一些人可能还不太了解“孤独症”这个术语
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it's a complex复杂 brain disorder紊乱 that affects影响 social社会 communication通讯,
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它是由复杂的大脑功能紊乱而导致的社交障碍
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learning学习 and sometimes有时 physical物理 skills技能.
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学习障碍,有时伴有运动功能障碍
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It manifests舱单 in each individual个人 differently不同,
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每一个病例的情况都是特殊的
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hence于是 why Remi雷米 is so different不同 from Sam山姆.
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所以Remi与Sam的情况也是不同的
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And across横过 the world世界, every一切 20 minutes分钟, one new person
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在全世界,每20分钟,就有一个
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is diagnosed确诊 with autism自闭症, and although虽然 it's one of
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新的孤独症确诊病例
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the fastest-growing增长最快 developmental发展的 disorders障碍 in the world世界,
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虽然这是全球增长最快的疾病之一
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there is no known已知 cause原因 or cure治愈.
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但是我们尚不清楚它的致病原因和治疗方法
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And I cannot不能 remember记得 the first moment时刻 I encountered遇到 autism自闭症,
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我记不起第一次知道“孤独症”这个词的情形
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but I cannot不能 recall召回 a day without it.
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我也记不起有哪一天我是对“孤独症”一无所知的
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I was just three years年份 old when my brother哥哥 came来了 along沿,
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我三岁的时候,弟弟出生了
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and I was so excited兴奋 that
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我非常兴奋
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I had a new being存在 in my life.
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我有了新的家人
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And after a few少数 months个月 went by,
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而就在几个月之后
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I realized实现 that he was different不同.
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我意识到他与众不同
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He screamed尖叫 a lot.
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他经常尖叫
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He didn't want to play like the other babies婴儿 did,
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他不愿意像其他婴儿那样玩儿
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and in fact事实, he didn't seem似乎
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实际上,他好像
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very interested有兴趣 in me whatsoever任何.
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对我一点儿也不感兴趣
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Remi雷米 lived生活 and reigned在位 in his own拥有 world世界, with his own拥有 rules规则,
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Remi沉浸在他自己的世界里,应用他自己制定的法则
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and he found发现 pleasure乐趣 in the smallest最少 things,
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他从细微的事物中寻找乐趣
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like lining up cars汽车 around the room房间
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比如绕着屋子排列他的玩具车
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and staring凝视 at the washing洗涤 machine
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盯着洗衣机
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and eating anything that came来了 in between之间.
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把他和洗衣机之间的所有东西都吃下去
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And as he grew成长 older旧的, he grew成长 more different不同,
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当他长大了,他变得更加独特
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and the differences分歧 became成为 more obvious明显.
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这些特别的地方更加明显
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Yet然而 beyond the tantrums发脾气 and the frustration挫折
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除了经常性的发脾气、沮丧
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and the never-ending没完没了 hyperactivity多动症
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和永无休止的多动
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was something really unique独特:
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还有一点特别之处
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a pure and innocent无辜 nature性质, a boy男孩 who saw the world世界
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就是他纯真无邪的天性,不带偏见地看世界
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without prejudice偏见, a human人的 who had never lied说谎.
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他是个从不撒谎的人
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Extraordinary非凡.
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太不简单了
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Now, I cannot不能 deny拒绝 that there have been
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我无法否认
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some challenging具有挑战性的 moments瞬间 in my family家庭,
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家里的确有过艰难的时候
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moments瞬间 where I've wished希望 that they were just like me.
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我多想他们跟我一样
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But I cast my mind心神 back to the things that they've他们已经 taught me
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但我转而又想到他们教我的那些事
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about individuality个性 and communication通讯 and love,
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关于个性、交流和爱
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and I realize实现 that these are things that
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我意识到这些东西
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I wouldn't不会 want to change更改 with normality常态.
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我可不愿意用“正常”去换
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Normality常态 overlooks眺望 the beauty美女 that differences分歧 give us,
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“正常”忽视了差异带来的美
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and the fact事实 that we are different不同 doesn't mean that one of us is wrong错误.
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人与人的差异不代表其中一方是错的
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It just means手段 that there's a different不同 kind of right.
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只是说明“对”有不同种类
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And if I could communicate通信 just one thing to Remi雷米
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我只想说一句话,对Remi
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and to Sam山姆
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对Sam
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and to you,
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对你们
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it would be that you don't have to be normal正常.
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你们不必一定是“正常”的
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You can be extraordinary非凡.
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你可以是非凡的
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Because autistic自闭症 or not,
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无论是否是孤独症
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the differences分歧 that we have --
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我们之间的差异——
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We've我们已经 got a gift礼品! Everyone's每个人的 got a gift礼品 inside of us,
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我们每个人都有各自的天赋
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and in all honesty诚实, the pursuit追求 of normality常态
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老实说,追求“正常”
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is the ultimate最终 sacrifice牺牲 of potential潜在.
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也就是完全抹杀了潜能
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The chance机会 for greatness伟大, for progress进展 and for change更改
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卓越、进步和改变的可能性
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dies the moment时刻 we try to be like someone有人 else其他.
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在我们想与他人变得一样的努力中消亡
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Please -- don't tell me I'm normal正常.
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请不要说我“正常”
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Thank you. (Applause掌声)
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谢谢。(掌声)
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(Applause掌声)
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(掌声)
Translated by Karen SONG
Reviewed by James Yu

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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Faith Jegede Cole - Writer
Writer Faith Jegede Cole draws on her experiences growing up with two autistic brothers in order to spread awareness and understanding about this increasingly common diagnosis.

Why you should listen

Faith Jegede Cole is a British writer, speaker and researcher. She is passionate about the power of storytelling and its ability to shift mindsets. Her TED Talk titled "What I’ve learned from my autistic brothers" has been viewed over a million times and has warmed the hearts of families impacted by autism.

Faith is currently pursuing her PhD in Communication at American University. She has spent the last three years studying identity, reputation and privacy in the world of online communication. Her research specifically explores the tensions between online visibility and online vulnerability that are experienced when seeking to create positive changes in society.

Prior to her PhD, Faith worked within the radio broadcasting industry for seven years. Before moving to America she hosted and produced her own lifestyle show on a national UK station.

Faith is a proud Londoner, but now lives in Washington DC, with her husband Nathaniel Cole and happily calls it home.

More profile about the speaker
Faith Jegede Cole | Speaker | TED.com