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Thandie Newton: Embracing otherness, embracing myself
Thandie Newton. Te perqafosh diiversitetin, te perqafosh veten.
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Aktorja Thandie Newton tregon historine e gjetjes se "diversitetit" te saj - se pari si nje femije i rritur midis dy kulturave, dhe me pas si aktore e perfshire ne role te shumta. Nje fjalim i ngrohte, i mencur, drejtperdrejte nga skena e TEDGlobal 2011.
Thandie Newton - Actor
Swinging from Hollywood blockbusters to sensitive indie films, Thandie Newton brings thoughtfulness and delicate beauty to her work. Full bio
Swinging from Hollywood blockbusters to sensitive indie films, Thandie Newton brings thoughtfulness and delicate beauty to her work. Full bio
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Embracing otherness.
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Te perqafosh diversitetin.
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When I first heard this theme,
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Kur e degjova per here te pare kete teme,
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I thought, well, embracing otherness
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mendova, qe te perqafosh diversitetin
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is embracing myself.
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do te thote te perqafosh veten
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And the journey to that place
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Dhe udhetimi drejt rruges
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of understanding and acceptance
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se te kuptuarit dhe te pranuarit
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has been an interesting one for me,
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ka qene interesante per mua,
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and it's given me an insight
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dhe me ka dhene pasqyrimin
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into the whole notion of self,
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e plote te nocionit te vetes.
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which I think is worth sharing with you today.
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per te cilen mendoj qe ja vlen ta ndaj me ju sot.
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We each have a self,
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Secili prej nesh ka individualitetin e tij,
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but I don't think that we're born with one.
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por une nuk mendoj qe jemi lindur vetem me nje.
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You know how newborn babies
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Ju e dini sesi bebet e sapolindura
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believe they're part of everything;
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mendojne se jane pjese e cdogjeje;
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they're not separate?
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qe ato nuk jane te ndara,
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Well that fundamental sense of oneness
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Pikerisht ky kuptim themelor i njeshmerise
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is lost on us very quickly.
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humbet tek ne shume shpejt.
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It's like that initial stage is over --
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Eshte njelloj sikur faza fillestare ka kaluar
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oneness: infancy,
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njeshmeria; foshnjëri,
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unformed, primitive.
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i paformuar, primitiv.
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It's no longer valid or real.
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Nuk eshte me i vlefshem apo real.
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What is real is separateness,
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Cfare eshte e vertete eshte e ndashme.
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and at some point in early babyhood,
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Dhe arrin nje pike ku ne femijerine e hershme
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the idea of self
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ideja e vetes
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starts to form.
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fillon te formohet.
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Our little portion of oneness is given a name,
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Pjeses sone te vogel te njeshmerise i vihet nje emer,
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is told all kinds of things about itself,
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i thuhet cfaredolloj gjeje rreth vetes se vet.
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and these details,
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Dhe keto detaje,
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opinions and ideas
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opinione dhe ide
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become facts,
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kthehen ne fakte,
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which go towards building ourselves,
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qe shkojne drejt ndertimit te vetes tone,
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our identity.
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identitetit tone
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And that self becomes the vehicle
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Dhe vetja behet automjeti kryesor
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for navigating our social world.
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qe te drejton rreth jetes sociale.
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But the self is a projection
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Por, individualiteti eshte nje projektim
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based on other people's projections.
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bazuar ne projeksionet e njerezve te tjere.
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Is it who we really are?
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Eshte pikerisht kjo ajo qe jemi ne te vertete?
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Or who we really want to be, or should be?
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Apo ajo qe ne deshirojme te behemi, apo qe duhet te behemi?
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So this whole interaction
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Pra, i gjithe ky bashkeveprim
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with self and identity
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me veten dhe identitetin
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was a very difficult one for me growing up.
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ishte shume i veshtire per mua gjate rritjes time.
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The self that I attempted to take out into the world
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Individualiteti qe kam tentuar te paraqes ne boten e jashtme
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was rejected over and over again.
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eshte refuzuar pa pushim.
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And my panic
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Dhe frika ime
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at not having a self that fit,
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per te mos qene e pershtatshme
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and the confusion that came
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dhe konfuzioni qe erdhi
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from my self being rejected,
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nga vetja duke qene i refuzuar
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created anxiety, shame
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krijoi ankth, turp
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and hopelessness,
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dhe pa shprese,
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which kind of defined me for a long time.
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qe ne nje fare menyre me kane identifikuar per nje kohe te gjate.
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But in retrospect,
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Por ne retrospektive,
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the destruction of my self was so repetitive
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shkaterrimi i vetes ishte aq i perseritur
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that I started to see a pattern.
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sa fillova te shihja nje lloj motivi
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The self changed,
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Vetja ndryshoi,
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got affected, broken, destroyed,
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u prek, ashtu e thyer e shkaterruar,
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but another one would evolve --
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por dikush tjeter do te zhvillohej
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sometimes stronger,
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ndonjehere me e forte,
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sometimes hateful,
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ndonjehere me urryese,
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sometimes not wanting to be there at all.
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ndonjehere duke mos dashur per te qene atje.
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The self was not constant.
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Vetja nuk ishte konstante.
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And how many times
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Dhe sa here
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would my self have to die
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duhej te vdiste indivdualiteti im
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before I realized
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perpara se te kuptoja
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that it was never alive in the first place?
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qe nuk kishte qene kurre gjalle fillimisht?
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I grew up on the coast of England
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Une u rrita ne brigjet e Anglise
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in the '70s.
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ne vitet 70.
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My dad is white from Cornwall,
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Babai im eshte i bardhe nga Cornwall,
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and my mom is black from Zimbabwe.
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dhe mamaja ime eshte e zeze nga Zimbabwe.
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Even the idea of us as a family
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Edhe ideja per ne si familje
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was challenging to most people.
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ishte sfiduese per shumicen e njerezve.
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But nature had its wicked way,
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Po natyra u tregua mistrece,
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and brown babies were born.
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dhe femije me ngjyre linden.
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But from about the age of five,
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Por rreth moshes 5 vjec
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I was aware that I didn't fit.
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une isha e vetedijshme qe nuk isha e pershtatshme.
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I was the black atheist kid
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Une isha femija ateist me ngjyre
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in the all-white Catholic school run by nuns.
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ne te gjithe shkollen katolike per te bardhet, qe drejtohej nga murgeshat.
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I was an anomaly,
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Une isha nje anomali.
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and my self was rooting around for definition
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Dhe vetja po kerkonte rrenje per tu percaktuar
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and trying to plug in.
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dhe duke u perpjekur per tu pershtatur.
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Because the self likes to fit,
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Sepse vetes i pelqente te pershtatej,
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to see itself replicated,
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per te pare vetveten te riperseritej,
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to belong.
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e ti perkiste.
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That confirms its existence
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Kjo konfirmon ekzistencen
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and its importance.
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dhe rendesine e saj.
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And it is important.
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Dhe kjo eshte e rendesishme.
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It has an extremely important function.
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Ka nje funksion jashtezakonisht te rendesishem.
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Without it, we literally can't interface with others.
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Pa ate, ne nuk mund te perballemi me te tjeret.
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We can't hatch plans
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Ne nuk mund te nxjerrim plane
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and climb that stairway of popularity,
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dhe te ngjisim shkallen e fames,
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of success.
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te suksesit.
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But my skin color wasn't right.
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Por ngjyra ime e lekures nuk ishte e pershtatshme.
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My hair wasn't right.
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Floket e mi nuk ishin te pershtatshem.
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My history wasn't right.
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Historia ime nuk ishte e pershtatshme.
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My self became defined
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Individualiteti im filloi te percaktohej
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by otherness,
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nga diversiteti,
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which meant that, in that social world,
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qe nenkuptonte qe, ne ate bote sociale
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I didn't really exist.
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une ne te vertete nuk ekzistoja.
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And I was "other" before being anything else --
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Dhe une isha dicka tjeter perpara cdogjeje
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even before being a girl.
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edhe perpara se te isha nje vajze.
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I was a noticeable nobody.
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Une isha nje askush e dukshme.
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Another world was opening up
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Nje bote tjeter po hapej
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around this time:
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perreth ne ate kohe:
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performance and dancing.
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performanca dhe kercimi.
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That nagging dread of self-hood
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Ajo frike e bezdisur e vetes
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didn't exist when I was dancing.
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nuk ekzistonte kur une isha duke kercyer.
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I'd literally lose myself.
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Une e humbja teresisht veten.
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And I was a really good dancer.
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Dhe isha me te vertete nje kercimtare e mire.
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I would put
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Une do te vendosja
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all my emotional expression
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te gjitha shprehjet e mia emocionale
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into my dancing.
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ne kercimin tim.
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I could be in the movement
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Une mund te isha ne levizje
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in a way that I wasn't able to be
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ne nje menyre qe nuk ishte e mundur
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in my real life, in myself.
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ne jeten time reale, ne unin tim.
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And at 16,
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Dhe ne moshen 16 vjecare,
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I stumbled across another opportunity,
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Une e drejtova veten drejt nje mundesie tjeter,
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and I earned my first acting role in a film.
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dhe fitova rolin tim te pare ne film.
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I can hardly find the words
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E kam te veshtire te gjej fjalet
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to describe the peace I felt
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per te pershkruar qetesine qe ndjeva
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when I was acting.
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kur isha duke aktruar.
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My dysfunctional self
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Mosfunksionimi im
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could actually plug in
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tjetersohej ne nje
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to another self, not my own,
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person te dyte qe nuk ngjante me me mua.
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and it felt so good.
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Dhe ndihesha shume mire.
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It was the first time that I existed
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Ishte hera e pare qe une ekzistoja
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inside a fully-functioning self --
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brenda nje veteje plotesisht funksionale
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one that I controlled,
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qe une kontrolloja,
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that I steered,
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qe une drejtoja
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that I gave life to.
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e qe dhashe jeten per te.
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But the shooting day would end,
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Por dita e aktrimit do te perfundonte,
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and I'd return
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dhe une do te kthehesha perseri
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to my gnarly, awkward self.
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perseri ne individualitetin tim te paforme, te veshtire.
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By 19,
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Rreth moshes 19,
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I was a fully-fledged movie actor,
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une isha nje aktore ne kuptimin e plote,
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but still searching for definition.
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por perseri ne kerkim te identifikimit.
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I applied to read anthropology
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Une aplikova per te lexuar antroplogji
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at university.
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ne universitet.
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Dr. Phyllis Lee gave me my interview,
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Dr. Phyllis Lee me beri intervisten,
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and she asked me, "How would you define race?"
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dhe me pyeti, "Si mund ta perkufizoni racen?"
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Well, I thought I had the answer to that one,
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E pra, une mendova se kisha nje pergjigje per te.
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and I said, "Skin color."
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Dhe i thashe, "Ngjyra e lekures".
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"So biology, genetics?" she said.
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"Pra, biologjia, gjenetika"? tha ajo.
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"Because, Thandie, that's not accurate.
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"Sepse, Thandie ajo nuk eshte e sakte.
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Because there's actually more genetic difference
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Sepse ne te vertete ka me shume ndryshime gjenetike
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between a black Kenyan
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ndermjet nje personi me ngjyre nga Kenia
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and a black Ugandan
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dhe nje personi me ngjyre nga Uganda
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than there is between a black Kenyan
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sesa ka ndermjet nje personi me ngjyre nga Kenia
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and, say, a white Norwegian.
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dhe ndermjet nje te bardhi nga Norvegjia.
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Because we all stem from Africa.
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Sepse ne te gjithe rrjedhim nga Afrika.
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So in Africa,
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Keshtu qe ne Afrike,
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there's been more time
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i eshte kushtuar me shume kohe
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to create genetic diversity."
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krijimit te diversitetit gjenetik."
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In other words,
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Me fjale te tjera,
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race has no basis
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raca nuk ka nje baze
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in biological or scientific fact.
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ne faktet biologjike apo shkencore.
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On the one hand, result.
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Nga ana tjeter, rezultton qe ka.
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Right?
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E drejte?
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On the other hand, my definition of self
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Nga ana tjeter, perkufizimi im per veten
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just lost a huge chunk of its credibility.
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sapo humbi nje copez te madhe te kredibilitetit te saj.
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But what was credible,
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Por cfare eshte e besueshme,
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what is biological and scientific fact,
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cfare eshte fakt biologjik dhe shkencor,
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is that we all stem from Africa --
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eshte qe ne te gjithe rrjedhim nga Afrika
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in fact, from a woman called Mitochondrial Eve
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ne te vertete nga nje grua e quajtur Mitochondrial Eve
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who lived 160,000 years ago.
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qe ka jetuar 160, 000 vite me pare.
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And race is an illegitimate concept
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Dhe raca eshte nje koncept i paligjshem
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which our selves have created
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qe pikerisht ne kemi krijuar
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based on fear and ignorance.
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bazuar ne frike dhe injorance.
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Strangely, these revelations
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Cuditerisht keto zbulime
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didn't cure my low self-esteem,
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nuk kuruan respektin e ulet qe kisha per veten,
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that feeling of otherness.
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ate ndjenje diversiteti.
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My desire to disappear
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Deshira ime per tu zhdukur
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was still very powerful.
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ishte akoma shume e fuqishme.
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I had a degree from Cambridge;
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Une kisha nje diplome nga Kambrixh;
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I had a thriving career,
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Une kisha nje karriere ne rritje;
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but my self was a car crash,
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por une ndihesha si nje makine e perplasur
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and I wound up with bulimia
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dhe isha e prekur nga bulimia
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and on a therapist's couch.
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e ndodhesha ne kolltukun e terapistit.
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And of course I did.
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Dhe normalisht qe ja dola.
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I still believed
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Une akoma besoja
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my self was all I was.
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qe une isha ashtu sic isha.
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I still valued self-worth
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Une akoma i vleresoj vete - vlerat
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above all other worth,
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mbi te gjtha vlerat e tjera.
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and what was there to suggest otherwise?
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Dhe cfare ishte aty per tu sugjeruar ndryshe?
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We've created entire value systems
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Ne kemi krijuar sisteme te tera vlerash
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and a physical reality
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dhe nje realitet fizik
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to support the worth of self.
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per te suportuar vlerat e vetes.
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Look at the industry for self-image
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Shikoni ne industrine e imazhit te vetvetes
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and the jobs it creates,
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dhe punet qe ato krijojne,
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the revenue it turns over.
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te ardhurat qe prodhon.
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We'd be right in assuming
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Do te ishte e drejte per te nenkuptuar
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that the self is an actual living thing.
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se individualiteti eshte nje menyre aktuale jetese.
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But it's not. It's a projection
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Por nuk eshte, eshte nje projeksion,
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which our clever brains create
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qe mendjet tona te zgjuara krijojne
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in order to cheat ourselves
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ne menyre qe te mashtrojne veten e tyre
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from the reality of death.
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nga realiteti i vdekjes.
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But there is something
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Por aty ka dicka
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that can give the self
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qe mund ti jape vetes
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ultimate and infinite connection --
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lidhjen perfundimtare dhe te pafund
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and that thing is oneness,
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dhe pikerisht ky eshte uniteti,
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our essence.
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thelbi jone.
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The self's struggle
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Lufta e vetes
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for authenticity and definition
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per origjinalitet dhe identifikim
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will never end
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nuk do te mbaroje kurre
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unless it's connected to its creator --
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pervec nese eshte e lidhur me krijuesin
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to you and to me.
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ndermjet meje dhe teje.
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And that can happen with awareness --
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Dhe kjo mund te ndodhe me vetedije --
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awareness of the reality of oneness
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me ane te ndergjegjesimit real te unitetit
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and the projection of self-hood.
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dhe projektimit te vete - individualitetit.
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For a start, we can think about
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Si fillim, ne mund te mendojme rreth
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all the times when we do lose ourselves.
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gjithe periudhes kur ne e humbim veten tone.
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It happens when I dance,
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Kjo ndodh kur une kercej,
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when I'm acting.
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kur une jam duke aktruar.
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I'm earthed in my essence,
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Une jam e perqendruar ne thelbin tim
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and my self is suspended.
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dhe uni im eshte ne gjendje te pezulluar.
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In those moments,
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Ne keto momente,
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I'm connected to everything --
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une jam e lidhur me cdo gje --
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the ground, the air,
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token, ajrin
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the sounds, the energy from the audience.
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tingujt, energjine qe vjen nga degjuesit.
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All my senses are alert and alive
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Te gjitha shqisat e mia jane vigjilent dhe te gjalle
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in much the same way as an infant might feel --
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ne te njejten menyre sesi nje i mitur mund te ndjeje
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that feeling of oneness.
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ate ndjenje uniteti.
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And when I'm acting a role,
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Dhe kur une jam duke aktruar
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I inhabit another self,
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une jetoj ne nje person tjeter
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and I give it life for awhile,
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dhe i jap jete per pak caste.
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because when the self is suspended
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Sepse kur uni im eshte i pezulluar
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so is divisiveness
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ashtu eshte dhe percarja
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and judgment.
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dhe gjykimi.
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And I've played everything
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Dhe une kam luajtur gjithcka
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from a vengeful ghost in the time of slavery
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nga nje fantazme hakmarrese ne kohen e skllaverise
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to Secretary of State in 2004.
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deri te Sekretarja e Shtetit ne 2004.
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And no matter how other
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Dhe pa marre parasysh sa individualitete
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these selves might be,
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te tjera mund te jene,
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they're all related in me.
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ato jane te gjitha te lidhura me mua.
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And I honestly believe
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Dhe une sinqerisht besoj
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the key to my success as an actor
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qe celesi i sukesit tim si aktore
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and my progress as a person
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dhe rritja ime si person
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has been the very lack of self
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kane qene nje mungese veteje
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that used to make me feel
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qe me kane bere te ndihem
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so anxious and insecure.
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kaq te shqetesuar dhe te pasigurt.
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I always wondered
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Une gjithmone pyes veten
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why I could feel others' pain so deeply,
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sesi mund te ndjeja dhimbjen e te tjereve aq thelle,
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why I could recognize
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pse une mund te njihja
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the somebody in the nobody.
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dike ne askend.
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It's because I didn't have a self to get in the way.
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Kjo po me ndodhte sepse une nuk kisha veten per ti dhene nje drejtim.
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I thought I lacked substance,
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Une mendova se me mungonte nje substance,
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and the fact that I could feel others'
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dhe fakti qe une mund te ndjeja te tjeret'
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meant that I had nothing of myself to feel.
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nenkuptonte qe une skisha asgje nga vetja per te ndjere.
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The thing that was a source of shame
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Ky fakt qe ishte burimi i turpit
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was actually a source of enlightenment.
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ishte ne te vertete burim i drites.
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And when I realized
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Dhe kur une zbulova
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and really understood
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dhe me te vertete kuptova
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that my self is a projection and that it has a function,
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qe vetja ime ishte nje projeksion dhe qe ka nje funksion,
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a funny thing happened.
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dicka qesharake ndodhi.
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I stopped giving it so much authority.
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Une ndalova se dheni asaj aq shume autoritet.
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I give it its due.
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I dhashe kohen qe meritonte.
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I take it to therapy.
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E paraqita ate ne terapi.
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I've become very familiar
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E familjarizova veten
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with its dysfunctional behavior.
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me sjelljen e saj jofunksionale.
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But I'm not ashamed of my self.
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Por une nuk kam turp per veten time.
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In fact, I respect my self
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Ne te vertete, une e respektoj veten time
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and its function.
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dhe funksionin e saj.
10:54
And over time and with practice,
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Dhe me kalimin e kohes e duke u praktikuar,
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I've tried to live
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une kam provuar te jetoje
10:59
more and more from my essence.
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gjithnje e me shume ne baze te thelbit tim.
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And if you can do that,
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Dhe nese edhe ju mund ta beni,
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incredible things happen.
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gjera te pabesueshme do te ndodhin.
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I was in Congo in February,
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Une isha ne shkurt ne Kongo
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dancing and celebrating
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duke kercyer e festuar
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with women who've survived
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me grate qe i kishin mbijetuar
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the destruction of their selves
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shkaterrimit te vetes se tyre
11:15
in literally unthinkable ways --
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ne menyra literale te paimagjinueshme
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destroyed because other brutalized, psychopathic selves
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shkaterruar per shkak te njerezve te brutalizuar dhe psikopate
11:21
all over that beautiful land
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perreth gjithe asaj toke te bukur
11:24
are fueling our selves' addiction
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te cilit po nxitin varesite tona
11:27
to iPods, Pads, and bling,
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drejt iPod-eve, Pad-eve dhe bizhuve "te ndritshme",
11:30
which further disconnect ourselves
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e qe me tutje shkepusin veten tone
11:32
from ever feeling their pain,
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nga cdo menyre te te ndjerit te dhembjes se tyre,
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their suffering,
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vuajtjes se tyre,
11:36
their death.
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vdekjes se tyre.
11:38
Because, hey,
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Sepse, hej
11:40
if we're all living in ourselves
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nese te gjithe ne jetojme ne veten tone
11:42
and mistaking it for life,
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dhe e keqkuptojme ate me jeten
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then we're devaluing
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atehere ne jemi duke zhvleftesuar
11:46
and desensitizing life.
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dhe duke mos e ndjere jeten.
11:48
And in that disconnected state,
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Dhe ne ate gjendje te shkeputur,
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yeah, we can build factory farms with no windows,
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ne mund te ndertojme fabrika pa dritare,
11:54
destroy marine life
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te shkaterrojme jeten detare
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and use rape as a weapon of war.
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dhe te perdorim dhunimin si arme lufte.
12:00
So here's a note to self:
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Keshtu qe ketu eshte nje shenim per veten:
12:03
The cracks have started to show
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Percarjet kane filluar te shfaqen
12:05
in our constructed world,
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ne boten tone te ndertuar,
12:08
and oceans will continue
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dhe oqeanet do te vazhdojne
12:10
to surge through the cracks,
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te rriten tej te carave,
12:12
and oil and blood,
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dhe nafta dhe gjaku,
12:15
rivers of it.
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do te rrjedhin prej tij.
12:18
Crucially, we haven't been figuring out
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Ceshte me e rendesishmja ne nuk kemi kuptuar
12:20
how to live in oneness
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sesi te jetojme ne unitet
12:22
with the Earth and every other living thing.
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me token dhe me cdo krijese tjeter.
12:25
We've just been insanely trying to figure out
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Ne vetem kemi qene vazhdimisht ne perpjekje per te kuptuar
12:28
how to live with each other -- billions of each other.
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sesi te jetojme me njeri tjetrin -- me miliarda te tjere.
12:31
Only we're not living with each other;
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Vetem ne nuk jemi duke jetuar me njeri tjetrin;
12:33
our crazy selves are living with each other
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vetet tona te cmendura jane duke jetuar me njeri tjetrin
12:36
and perpetuating an epidemic
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dhe duke perjetesuar nje epidemi
12:38
of disconnection.
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te shkeputjes.
12:41
Let's live with each other
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Le te jetojme me njeri tjetrin
12:44
and take it a breath at a time.
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dhe te marrim fryme ne nje kohe.
12:47
If we can get under that heavy self,
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Do te mjaftonte te superonim veshtiresite personale
12:51
light a torch of awareness,
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te ndeznim pishtarin e vetedijes
12:53
and find our essence,
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dhe te gjenim thelbin tone.
12:55
our connection to the infinite
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lidhjen tone me te pafundmen
12:57
and every other living thing.
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dhe cdo gjeje tjeter te gjalle.
13:00
We knew it from the day we were born.
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Ne e dinimi qe nga dita qe kemi lindur.
13:02
Let's not be freaked out
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Le te mos trembemi
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by our bountiful nothingness.
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nga mosqenia jone e ndershme.
13:07
It's more a reality
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Kjo eshte me shume nje realitet
13:09
than the ones our selves have created.
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qe unet tona kane krijuar.
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Imagine what kind of existence we can have
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Imagjinoni cfare menyre jetese mund te kemi
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if we honor inevitable death of self,
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ne qofte se nderojme pavdekshmerine e vetes tone,
13:19
appreciate the privilege of life
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vleresojme privilegjin e jetes
13:23
and marvel at what comes next.
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dhe mahnitemi me ate qe vjen me pas.
13:27
Simple awareness is where it begins.
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Vetedija e thjeshte, eshte ajo ne te cilen fillojme.
13:30
Thank you for listening.
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Ju faleminderit qe me degjuat.
13:32
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Thandie Newton - ActorSwinging from Hollywood blockbusters to sensitive indie films, Thandie Newton brings thoughtfulness and delicate beauty to her work.
Why you should listen
Filmgoers first encountered Thandie Newton in the 1991 film Flirting, a tender and skin-crawlingly honest film about young love and budding identity. In her career since then, she’s brought that same intimate touch even to big Hollywood films (she was the moral center of Mission: Impossible II, for instance, and the quiet heart of the head-banging 2012), while maintaining a strong sideline in art films, like the acclaimed Crash and last year’s adaptation of Ntozake Shange’s For colored girls ...
Born in England, her mother is Zimbabwean, and Newton is active in nonprofit work across the African continent. In 2008, she visited Mali for a campaign to bring clean water to six African nations, and as a V Day board member, Newton visited the Congo earlier this year to raise awareness of the chronic issue of sexual violence toward women and girls.
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