TEDxToronto 2010
Neil Pasricha: The 3 A's of awesome
尼尔·帕斯理查：美妙生活的三个秘诀
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尼尔·帕斯理查的博客“一千个美妙时刻”讲述了生活中许许多多细小的快乐时刻，这些时刻包括得到免费续杯和用上干净的床单。在TED多伦多站系列演讲中，他揭示了让生活变得美妙的三个秘诀（都以字母A打头）。
Neil Pasricha - Director, The Institute for Global Happiness
Neil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity. Full bio
Neil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity. Full bio
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So the Awesome story:
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这个美好的故事
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It begins about 40 years ago,
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开始于四十年前，
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when my mom and my dad came to Canada.
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我的父母来到加拿大。
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My mom left Nairobi, Kenya.
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我母亲离开了肯尼亚内罗毕。
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My dad left a small village outside of Amritsar, India.
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我父亲离开了印度阿姆利则市外的一个小村庄。
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And they got here in the late 1960s.
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他们二十世纪60年代来到这里。
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They settled in a shady suburb about an hour east of Toronto,
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他们在多伦多以东不远一个幽静的郊区住了下来。
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and they settled into a new life.
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他们开始了一段新生活。
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They saw their first dentist,
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他们第一次看了牙医，
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they ate their first hamburger,
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第一次吃到汉堡包，
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and they had their first kids.
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第一次有了自己的儿女。
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My sister and I
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我和我妹妹
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grew up here,
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在这里长大，
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and we had quiet, happy childhoods.
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我们的童年恬静而美满。
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We had close family,
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我们的家庭很融洽，
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good friends, a quiet street.
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有许多好友，生活的街区很安静。
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We grew up taking for granted
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我们在成长的过程中
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a lot of the things that my parents couldn't take for granted
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忽略了许多我们父母年轻时
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when they grew up --
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无法忽视的事情－
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things like power always on
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譬如，我们家的电
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in our houses,
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从来没断过，
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things like schools across the street
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学校就在街对面，
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and hospitals down the road
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街的尽头就是医院，
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and popsicles in the backyard.
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在家后院就能买到冰棒。
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We grew up, and we grew older.
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我们慢慢长大了，
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I went to high school.
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我上了高中，
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I graduated.
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毕了业，
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I moved out of the house, I got a job,
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离开了家，找到一份工作，
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I found a girl, I settled down --
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遇到了心仪的女孩，成家立业－
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and I realize it sounds like a bad sitcom or a Cat Stevens' song --
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我感觉这就像是一部拙劣的幽默剧或凯特·斯蒂文斯的歌（英国歌手，后皈依伊斯兰教）。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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but life was pretty good.
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但还是生活非常美满的。
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Life was pretty good.
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非常美满。
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2006 was a great year.
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2006年意义不同寻常。
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Under clear blue skies in July in the wine region of Ontario,
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在安大略葡萄酒产区的晴空之下，
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I got married,
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我结婚了，
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surrounded by 150 family and friends.
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150多位亲友到场庆贺。
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2007 was a great year.
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2007年也不平凡。
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I graduated from school,
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我从大学毕业了，
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and I went on a road trip with two of my closest friends.
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我和两位最亲密的朋友结伴旅行。
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Here's a picture of me and my friend, Chris,
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这是我和朋友克里斯，
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on the coast of the Pacific Ocean.
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我们站在太平洋海岸边上。
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We actually saw seals out of our car window,
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我们从车窗里看到了海豹，
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and we pulled over to take a quick picture of them
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于是停下车跟它们合影，
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and then blocked them with our giant heads.
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结果，我们俩的大头把它们都挡住了。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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So you can't actually see them,
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所以你们都看不到它们，
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but it was breathtaking,
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当时我们都激动万分，
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believe me.
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说实话。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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2008 and 2009 were a little tougher.
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2008年和2009年，生活开始不太如意了。
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I know that they were tougher for a lot of people,
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我知道，并不是只有我的生活不如意，
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not just me.
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有些人的境遇更糟。
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First of all, the news was so heavy.
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首先，新闻报道让人忧心忡忡。
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It's still heavy now, and it was heavy before that,
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现在的情况也是如此，
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but when you flipped open a newspaper, when you turned on the TV,
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每当你翻开报纸，打开电视，
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it was about ice caps melting,
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你会看到冰盖在消融，
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wars going on around the world,
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世界各地战争不断，
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earthquakes, hurricanes
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地震，飓风，
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and an economy that was wobbling on the brink of collapse,
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某国的经济正处在崩溃的边缘，
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and then eventually did collapse,
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后来真的崩溃了，
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and so many of us losing our homes,
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我们中许多人失去了家园，
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or our jobs,
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失去了工作，
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or our retirements,
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无法安享晚年，
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or our livelihoods.
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失去了生计。
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2008, 2009 were heavy years for me for another reason, too.
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2008，2009年我过得不顺利还有另一个原因。
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I was going through a lot of personal problems at the time.
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当时，我遇到了不少个人的问题。
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My marriage wasn't going well,
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我的婚姻出现了危机，
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and we just were growing further and further apart.
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我和妻子之间越来越疏远。
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One day my wife came home from work
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一天我妻子下班回到家，
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and summoned the courage, through a lot of tears,
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鼓起了勇气，泪流满面，
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to have a very honest conversation.
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和我开诚布公地进行了谈话。
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And she said, "I don't love you anymore,"
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她说：“我已经不爱你了。”
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and it was one of the most painful things I'd ever heard
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那是我经历过的最痛苦的事，
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and certainly the most heartbreaking thing I'd ever heard,
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也是我听到过的最令人心碎的话。
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until only a month later,
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在这之后，仅过了一个月，
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when I heard something even more heartbreaking.
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我又得知了一个更令我痛心的消息。
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My friend Chris, who I just showed you a picture of,
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我的至友克里斯，就是刚才照片上的那位，
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had been battling mental illness for some time.
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他患了精神上的疾病，苦苦挣扎了一段时间。
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And for those of you
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在场若有人
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whose lives have been touched by mental illness,
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曾经患过精神方面的疾病，
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you know how challenging it can be.
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你就能体会其中的痛苦。
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I spoke to him on the phone at 10:30 p.m.
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我在周日晚十点半
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on a Sunday night.
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跟他通了电话，
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We talked about the TV show we watched that evening.
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谈论了一下那天晚上看的电视节目，
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And Monday morning, I found out that he disappeared.
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而就在第二天早上，我发现他失踪了。
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Very sadly, he took his own life.
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非常不幸的是，他结束了自己的生命。
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And it was a really heavy time.
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那段时间是如此难熬。
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And as these dark clouds were circling me,
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我的头顶愁云密布，
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and I was finding it really, really difficult
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我竭尽全力
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to think of anything good,
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也无法振作起来。
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I said to myself that I really needed a way
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我告诉自己，我真的需要
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to focus on the positive somehow.
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让自己把注意力转移到积极面上。
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So I came home from work one night,
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一天晚上，我下班回到家，
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and I logged onto the computer,
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打开电脑，
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and I started up a tiny website
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我建立了一个小网站，
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called 1000awesomethings.com.
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将其命名为1000awesomethings.com (1000个美妙时刻)。
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I was trying to remind myself
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我想要提醒自己，
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of the simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love,
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生活中有许多人人都喜爱的，简单而随处可见的小快乐，
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but we just don't talk about enough --
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我们只是很少谈起这些快乐－
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things like waiters and waitresses
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譬如，那些主动为你免费续杯的
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who bring you free refills without asking,
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餐馆服务员们，
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being the first table to get called up
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在一个婚礼上，你坐的那一桌
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to the dinner buffet at a wedding,
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可以首先去选餐，
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wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer,
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穿上刚从烘干机里拿出来、还热乎的内衣，
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or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery store
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或者你在超市正好碰上刚上工的收银员开了一条新的付款通道，
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and you get to be first in line --
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你现在排第一了--
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even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there.
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本来你排在最后一个，现在马上冲过去。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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And slowly over time,
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慢慢地，
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I started putting myself in a better mood.
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我的心情开始好转。
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I mean, 50,000 blogs
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你看，每天新增的博客
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are started a day,
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有五万个。
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and so my blog was just one of those 50,000.
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我的博客就是这五万分之一。
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And nobody read it except for my mom.
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除了我母亲，没人读它。
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Although I should say that my traffic did skyrocket
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当然了，我母亲把博客地址转发给我父亲以后
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and go up by 100 percent
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我的点击量
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when she forwarded it to my dad.
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翻了一翻。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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And then I got excited
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当点击量到了几十次，
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when it started getting tens of hits,
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我开始兴奋了。
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and then I started getting excited when it started getting dozens
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当点击量超过了五十次
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and then hundreds and then thousands
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又到了几百次，接着到几千次，
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and then millions.
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一直到了几百万次。
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It started getting bigger and bigger and bigger.
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数字一直在增大。
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And then I got a phone call,
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最后我接到了一个电话，
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and the voice at the other end of the line said,
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电话那头的声音告诉我：
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"You've just won the Best Blog In the World award."
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“您刚刚获得了最佳博客奖。”
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I was like, that sounds totally fake.
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我当时觉得这听起来太假了。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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(Applause)
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（众人鼓掌）
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Which African country do you want me to wire all my money to?
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你想让我把所有存款转到哪个非洲国家的账户上啊？
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
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But it turns out, I jumped on a plane,
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结果，我跳上了飞机，
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and I ended up walking a red carpet
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走上了红地毯，
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between Sarah Silverman and Jimmy Fallon and Martha Stewart.
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莎拉·斯尔福曼，吉米·法伦和玛莎.·斯图尔特（美国名人）相伴左右。
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And I went onstage to accept a Webby award for Best Blog.
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我走上颁奖台，接受了Webby威比奖的最佳博客奖。
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And the surprise
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那份惊喜
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and just the amazement of that
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那种喜悦
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was only overshadowed by my return to Toronto,
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直到我回到多伦多
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when, in my inbox,
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查看邮件时才有所收敛，
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10 literary agents were waiting for me
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十位文稿代理人给我发邮件，
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to talk about putting this into a book.
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等着跟我商讨把博文整理成书的事情。
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Flash-forward to the next year
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一转眼到了下一年，
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and "The Book of Awesome" has now been
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《美妙之书》
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number one on the bestseller list for 20 straight weeks.
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现已连续二十周成为最畅销书了。
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(Applause)
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（众人鼓掌）
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But look, I said I wanted to do three things with you today.
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但是，今天我想告诉大家三件事。
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I said I wanted to tell you the Awesome story,
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我想给你们讲这个美妙的故事，
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I wanted to share with you the three As of Awesome,
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跟你们分享三个A打头的开心秘诀，
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and I wanted to leave you with a closing thought.
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最后给大家来个总结。
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So let's talk about those three As.
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先来谈谈这三个A吧。
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Over the last few years,
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过去的几年里，
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I haven't had that much time to really think.
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我没有太多时间实实在在地去思考。
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But lately I have had the opportunity to take a step back
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而最近，我有机会坐下来
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and ask myself: "What is it over the last few years
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问我自己：在过去几年里
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that helped me grow my website,
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究竟是什么帮助我经营我的网站，
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but also grow myself?"
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并让自己更成熟？
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And I've summarized those things, for me personally,
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我总结了其中的原因，对于我个人而言，
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as three As.
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那就是这三个A。
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They are Attitude, Awareness
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它们是态度（attitude），知觉（awareness），
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and Authenticity.
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和本真（authenticity）。
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I'd love to just talk about each one briefly.
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我想简短地逐个介绍一下。
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So Attitude:
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态度（attitude）：
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Look, we're all going to get lumps,
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我们每个人总有不顺利的时候，
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and we're all going to get bumps.
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也都栽过跟头，
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None of us can predict the future, but we do know one thing about it
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没有人能预测未来，但是有一件事是肯定的，
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and that's that it ain't gonna go according to plan.
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那就是“天有不测风云”。
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We will all have high highs
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我们都快乐过，
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and big days and proud moments
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精彩过，得意过，
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of smiles on graduation stages,
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在毕业典礼上灿烂一笑，
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father-daughter dances at weddings
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在婚礼上父女共舞的时刻，
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and healthy babies screeching in the delivery room,
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以及健康的宝贝婴儿在产房里大声啼哭，
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but between those high highs,
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然而，在这些快乐的时刻之间，
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we may also have some lumps and some bumps too.
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难免穿插着一些令人不快的插曲。
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It's sad, and it's not pleasant to talk about,
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这些事情很伤感，令人不愿启齿，
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but your husband might leave you,
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但是，你的丈夫可能会离你而去，
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your girlfriend could cheat,
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你的女友可能会背叛你，
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your headaches might be more serious than you thought,
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你的头疼可能比想象中严重，
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or your dog could get hit by a car on the street.
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你的狗可能会在大街上被车撞死。
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It's not a happy thought,
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这些想法很扫兴，
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but your kids could get mixed up in gangs
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你的孩子有可能会加入帮派，
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or bad scenes.
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或者做坏事。
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Your mom could get cancer,
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你的母亲肯能会患上癌症，
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your dad could get mean.
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你的父亲可能很暴力。
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在你的生活中总有那么几次，
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when you will be tossed in the well, too,
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你会觉得自己陷入了绝境，
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with twists in your stomach and with holes in your heart,
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万念俱灰，心如刀绞。
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and when that bad news washes over you,
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当让那噩耗给你当头一棒，
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and when that pain sponges and soaks in,
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那痛苦蔓延全身，
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I just really hope you feel
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我真心希望
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like you've always got two choices.
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你能意识到你有两种选择。
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One, you can swirl and twirl
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一是，你可以破罐破摔，
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and gloom and doom forever,
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自怨自艾，永远消沉下去，
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or two, you can grieve
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第二，你可以伤心，
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and then face the future
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然后重新振作，
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with newly sober eyes.
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直面未来。
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Having a great attitude is about choosing option number two,
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保持正确的态度就要选择第二项，
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and choosing, no matter how difficult it is,
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不管这个选择多么困难，
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no matter what pain hits you,
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不管你心里承受了多少痛苦，
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choosing to move forward and move on
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你都要选择向前看，继续生活，
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and take baby steps into the future.
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一小步一小步地向未来迈进。
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The second "A" is Awareness.
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第二个A是知觉(awareness)。
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I love hanging out with three year-olds.
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我喜欢和三岁的孩子玩。
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I love the way that they see the world,
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我很欣赏他们眼中的世界，
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because they're seeing the world for the first time.
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在他们眼中的是一片崭新的世界。
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I love the way that they can stare at a bug crossing the sidewalk.
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我喜欢他们看着一只小虫爬上人行道时专注的表情。
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I love the way that they'll stare slack-jawed
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喜欢他们第一次看棒球比赛时
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at their first baseball game
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如痴如醉盯着球场的神态，
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with wide eyes and a mitt on their hand,
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眼睛睁得大大的，手上还带着个棒球手套，
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soaking in the crack of the bat and the crunch of the peanuts
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在棒球的击打声，花生的嘎崩作响，
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and the smell of the hotdogs.
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以及热狗的香味中，自得其乐。
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I love the way that they'll spend hours picking dandelions in the backyard
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我喜欢看他们在后院里采蒲公英，一采就是几个小时，
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and putting them into a nice centerpiece
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然后把蒲公英做成感恩节晚餐餐桌上的
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for Thanksgiving dinner.
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中心装饰。
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I love the way that they see the world,
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我欣赏他们眼中的世界，
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because they're seeing the world
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因为在他们眼里，
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for the first time.
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世界是崭新的。
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Having a sense of awareness
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拥有知觉
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is just about embracing your inner three year-old.
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就是拥抱内心中三岁的你。
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Because you all used to be three years old.
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因为你们都曾是三岁的孩子，
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That three-year-old boy is still part of you.
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那个三岁的小男孩，依然在你心里。
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That three-year-old girl is still part of you.
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那个三岁的小女孩，依然在你心里。
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They're in there.
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他们在你的心里。
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And being aware is just about remembering
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去感知就是去记住
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that you saw everything you've seen
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你眼中的世界
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for the first time once, too.
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也曾是崭新的。
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So there was a time when it was your first time ever
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你也曾经第一次
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hitting a string of green lights on the way home from work.
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下班后，走运碰到一路绿灯。
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There was the first time you walked by the open door of a bakery
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你也曾经第一次经过敞开门的面包店，
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and smelt the bakery air,
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闻到里面飘出来的香味儿，
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or the first time you pulled a 20-dollar bill out of your old jacket pocket
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你也曾经从旧外套口袋里掏出一张20元纸币，
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and said, "Found money."
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说：“有钱啦。”
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The last "A" is Authenticity.
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最后一个A是本真（authenticity）。
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And for this one, I want to tell you a quick story.
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对于本真，我有一个小故事跟大家讲。
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Let's go all the way back to 1932
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故事要追溯到1932年，
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when, on a peanut farm in Georgia,
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在佐治亚州的一片花生田上，
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a little baby boy named Roosevelt Grier was born.
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一个名叫罗斯福·格里尔的男孩降生了。
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Roosevelt Grier, or Rosey Grier, as people used to call him,
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罗斯福·格里尔，人称罗西·格里尔，
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grew up and grew into
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长大成人后
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a 300-pound, six-foot-five linebacker in the NFL.
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成为了身高一米九六，体重一百三十六公斤的美国橄榄球联盟中后卫。
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He's number 76 in the picture.
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这张照片上的76号就是他。
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Here he is pictured with the "fearsome foursome."
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他们四人就是著名的“所向披靡的四猛将”。
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These were four guys on the L.A. Rams in the 1960s
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他们在二十世纪六十年代效力于洛杉矶公羊队，
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you did not want to go up against.
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这支球队令人闻风丧胆。
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They were tough football players doing what they love,
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这些彪悍的球员热衷于在球场上
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which was crushing skulls
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撞击对手的脑袋，
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and separating shoulders on the football field.
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让对手肩膀脱臼。
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But Rosey Grier also had
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然而这样的罗西·格里尔
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another passion.
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却有着另一个嗜好。
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In his deeply authentic self,
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在他的内心深处，
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he also loved needlepoint. (Laughter)
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他热爱刺绣。
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He loved knitting.
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热爱针织。
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He said that it calmed him down, it relaxed him,
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这刺绣能让他冷静，放松，
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it took away his fear of flying and helped him meet chicks.
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让他忘记坐飞机时的恐惧还能帮他泡妞。
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That's what he said.
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这可是他说的。
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I mean, he loved it so much that, after he retired from the NFL,
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他太喜欢刺绣了，从联盟退役以后，
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he started joining clubs.
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他开始参加针织俱乐部。
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And he even put out a book
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他还出了一本书，
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called "Rosey Grier's Needlepoint for Men."
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书名叫作《罗西·格里尔男式刺绣》
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
10:59
(Applause)
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（鼓掌）
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It's a great cover.
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这封面非常棒。
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If you notice, he's actually needlepointing his own face.
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仔细看你会发现，他绣的是自己的脸。
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(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
11:09
And so what I love about this story
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我很喜欢这个故事
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is that Rosey Grier
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是因为罗西·格里尔
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is just such an authentic person,
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是个敢于流露真性情的人。
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and that's what authenticity is all about.
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这就是本真的意义所在。
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It's just about being you and being cool with that.
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心安理得地做最真实的自己。
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And I think when you're authentic,
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我想，当你真实地做自己，
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you end up following your heart,
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你就会顺着自己的心意，
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and you put yourself in places
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不论在什么场合，
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and situations and in conversations
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与谁对话
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that you love and that you enjoy.
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你都会享受其中滋味。
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You meet people that you like talking to.
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你会遇见跟自己合得来的人。
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You go places you've dreamt about.
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你会去到自己做梦都想去的地方。
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And you end you end up following your heart
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你顺着自己的心意，
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and feeling very fulfilled.
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最后感觉非常满足。
11:40
So those are the three A's.
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这就是三个A。
11:43
For the closing thought, I want to take you all the way back
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最后的总结，我想带你们
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to my parents coming to Canada.
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回顾我父母来到加拿大的那段时光。
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I don't know what it would feel like
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我不知道那是种什么样的感觉，
11:50
coming to a new country when you're in your mid-20s.
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二十五六岁的光景，初来乍到一个陌生的国度。
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I don't know, because I never did it,
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我不知道，因为我从未经历过。
11:55
but I would imagine that it would take a great attitude.
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但我能想象，那肯定要求你有个很好的生活态度。
11:58
I would imagine that you'd have to be pretty aware of your surroundings
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我可以想象，在这个崭新的世界里，
12:01
and appreciating the small wonders
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你必须感知周围的事物，
12:03
that you're starting to see in your new world.
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欣赏那些给你惊喜的新鲜事物。
12:06
And I think you'd have to be really authentic,
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我想你必须展现自己的本色，
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you'd have to be really true to yourself
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做真实的自己，
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in order to get through what you're being exposed to.
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才能应对新的生活。
12:14
I'd like to pause my TEDTalk
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我想把我的TED演讲
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for about 10 seconds right now,
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暂停10秒钟，
12:18
because you don't get many opportunities in life to do something like this,
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因为人这一辈子没几次这样的机会了，
12:20
and my parents are sitting in the front row.
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我的父母就坐在第一排。
12:22
So I wanted to ask them to, if they don't mind, stand up.
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如果他们不介意，我想请他们起立。
12:24
And I just wanted to say thank you to you guys.
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我想向你们两位表示感谢。
12:26
(Applause)
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（众人鼓掌）
12:45
When I was growing up, my dad used to love telling the story
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我小时候，我父亲很喜欢跟我讲
12:48
of his first day in Canada.
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他第一天来到加拿大的故事。
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And it's a great story, because what happened was
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这个故事很有意思，因为
12:53
he got off the plane at the Toronto airport,
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他刚从多伦多机场下了飞机，
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and he was welcomed by a non-profit group,
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迎接他的是一个非营利性组织，
12:58
which I'm sure someone in this room runs.
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我敢肯定在座的某位就是这个组织的领导。
13:00
(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
13:02
And this non-profit group had a big welcoming lunch
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这个组织为所有加拿大新移民
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for all the new immigrants to Canada.
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备了欢迎午宴。
13:08
And my dad says he got off the plane and he went to this lunch
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我父亲说，他下了飞机，参加了这个午宴，
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and there was this huge spread.
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那里长长的餐桌上摆满了美食。
13:13
There was bread, there was those little, mini dill pickles,
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有面包，切碎的酱黄瓜，
13:16
there was olives, those little white onions.
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橄榄，白洋葱，
13:18
There was rolled up turkey cold cuts,
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冷切火鸡肉卷，
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rolled up ham cold cuts, rolled up roast beef cold cuts
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冷切火腿卷，冷切牛肉卷，
13:22
and little cubes of cheese.
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奶酪块，
13:24
There was tuna salad sandwiches and egg salad sandwiches
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金枪鱼沙拉三明治，鸡蛋沙拉三明治，
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and salmon salad sandwiches.
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三文鱼沙拉三明治，
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There was lasagna, there was casseroles,
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肉酱炖面，砂锅什锦，
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there was brownies, there was butter tarts,
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布朗尼蛋糕，奶油蛋挞，
13:34
and there was pies, lots and lots of pies.
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还有很多馅饼，各种口味都有。
13:37
And when my dad tells the story, he says,
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我父亲讲起这个故事的时候，他总说：
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"The craziest thing was, I'd never seen any of that before, except bread.
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“最有意思的是，那些食物我从来没有见过，除了面包。”
13:43
(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
13:45
I didn't know what was meat, what was vegetarian.
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“我不知道什么是肉，什么是素食主义者；
13:47
I was eating olives with pie.
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我就着橄榄吃馅饼。”
13:49
(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
13:52
I just couldn't believe how many things you can get here."
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“我真不敢相信在这里你能得到这么多东西。”
13:55
(Laughter)
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（众人笑）
13:57
When I was five years old,
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我五岁的时候，
13:59
my dad used to take me grocery shopping,
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我父亲带我去超市。
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and he would stare in wonder
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他会惊奇地盯着
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at the little stickers that are on the fruits and vegetables.
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各种水果和蔬菜的标签。
14:06
He would say, "Look, can you believe they have a mango here from Mexico?
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他会说：“瞧，你相信吗，这个芒果是墨西哥来的。
14:09
They've got an apple here from South Africa.
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这个苹果是从南非来的。
14:12
Can you believe they've got a date from Morocco?"
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你相信吗，他们居然还有摩洛哥来的椰枣！”
14:15
He's like, "Do you know where Morocco even is?"
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他会问：“你知道摩洛哥在哪里吗？”
14:18
And I'd say, "I'm five. I don't even know where I am.
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我会说： “我才五岁，我连我现在在哪儿都不知道。
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Is this A&P?"
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这里是A&P市场吗？”
14:24
And he'd say, "I don't know where Morocco is either, but let's find out."
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他会说：“我也不知道摩洛哥在哪里，我们回去查查。”
14:27
And so we'd buy the date, and we'd go home.
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于是，我们买下了椰枣，回到家里。
14:29
And we'd actually take an atlas off the shelf,
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我们打开书架上的地图册，
14:31
and we'd flip through until we found this mysterious country.
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翻遍整本书也要把这个神秘的国度找到。
14:34
And when we did, my dad would say,
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我们找到了，我父亲会说：
14:36
"Can you believe someone climbed a tree over there,
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“你相信吗，某个人在那里爬上一棵树，
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picked this thing off it, put it in a truck,
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摘下这个枣子，把它放到卡车上，
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drove it all the way to the docks
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一直送到码头，
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and then sailed it all the way
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把它装上船，
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across the Atlantic Ocean
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接着它横跨了大西洋，
14:47
and then put it in another truck
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被装到另一辆卡车上，
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and drove that all the way to a tiny grocery store just outside our house,
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人们把车一直开到我们家门外的这间小超市里。
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so they could sell it to us for 25 cents?"
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最后他们以25美分的价钱出售这个枣子。”
14:55
And I'd say, "I don't believe that."
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我会说：“我不信。”
14:57
And he's like, "I don't believe it either.
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他会说：“我也不相信。
14:59
Things are amazing. There's just so many things to be happy about."
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生活真是太奇妙了，充满了令人惊喜的事情。”
15:02
When I stop to think about it, he's absolutely right.
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我回过头想想，父亲是对的；
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There are so many things to be happy about.
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生活中充满了令人惊喜的事。
15:06
We are the only species
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我们所知的
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on the only life-giving rock
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全宇宙唯一一个
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in the entire universe that we've ever seen,
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拥有生命的大石头上，
15:15
capable of experiencing
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我们是唯一有能力
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so many of these things.
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体验这些事情的物种。
15:19
I mean, we're the only ones with architecture and agriculture.
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只有我们人类，拥有建筑业和农业，
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We're the only ones with jewelry and democracy.
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财富和民主，
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We've got airplanes, highway lanes,
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飞机和高速公路，
15:28
interior design and horoscope signs.
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室内设计和占星术，
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We've got fashion magazines, house party scenes.
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时尚杂志和狂欢会。
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You can watch a horror movie with monsters.
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你可以和怪兽一起看恐怖电影。
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You can go to a concert and hear guitars jamming.
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你可以去听演唱会，听吉他即兴演奏。
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We've got books, buffets and radio waves,
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我们还有书本，自助餐，广播，
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wedding brides and rollercoaster rides.
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新娘，还有过山车。
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You can sleep in clean sheets.
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你可以睡在干净的床单上，
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You can go to the movies and get good seats.
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可以去看电影并找到好位置，
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You can smell bakery air, walk around with rain hair,
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可以闻到烤面包的香味，可以冒雨散步，
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pop bubble wrap or take an illegal nap.
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吹泡泡糖，或者偷偷打个盹儿。
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We've got all that,
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我们都可以做到，
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but we've only got 100 years to enjoy it.
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但是，我们只有一百年的时间去享受生活。
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And that's the sad part.
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这挺令人伤感的。
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The cashiers at your grocery store,
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超市里的收银员，
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the foreman at your plant,
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工厂的领工，
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the guy tailgating you home on the highway,
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你回家时，高速公路上一直跟在你车后的人，
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the telemarketer calling you during dinner,
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晚饭时给你打电话的推销员，
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every teacher you've ever had,
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教过你的每一位老师，
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everyone that's ever woken up beside you,
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在你枕边醒来的每一个人，
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every politician in every country,
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每个国家的每一位政治家，
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every actor in every movie,
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每部电影里的每一位演员，
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every single person in your family, everyone you love,
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你家里的每一个成员，你所爱的每一个人，
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everyone in this room and you
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在座的每一个人，包括你自己，
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will be dead in a hundred years.
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都会在百年以后离开人世。
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Life is so great that we only get such a short time
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生命之所以伟大，是因为我们仅有如此短暂的时间
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to experience and enjoy
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去体味那些细小
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all those tiny little moments that make it so sweet.
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而又美妙无比的时刻。
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And that moment is right now,
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那美妙的瞬间就是现在，
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and those moments are counting down,
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那些时刻正在溜走，
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and those moments are always, always, always fleeting.
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它们一直一直一直在飞逝。
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You will never be as young as you are right now.
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你永远不会比现在的自己更年轻。
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And that's why I believe that if you live your life
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因此，我相信，如果你拥有
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with a great attitude,
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良好的生活态度，
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choosing to move forward and move on
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无论生活如何打击你
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whenever life deals you a blow,
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你都能抬起头继续前行，
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living with a sense of awareness of the world around you,
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感知你周遭的世界，
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embracing your inner three year-old
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承认内心中三岁的自己
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and seeing the tiny joys that make life so sweet
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意识到让生活美好的那些小小的快乐，
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and being authentic to yourself,
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做真实的自己，
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being you and being cool with that,
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心安理得地做你自己，
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letting your heart lead you and putting yourself in experiences that satisfy you,
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顺从自己的心意，让自己置身于能让你快乐的事情中，
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then I think you'll live a life
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最后，你的生活
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that is rich and is satisfying,
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将会变得充实而美满，
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and I think you'll live a life that is truly awesome.
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你的生活才真正变得美妙而精彩。
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Thank you.
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谢谢大家。
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Neil Pasricha - Director, The Institute for Global HappinessNeil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity.
Why you should listen
In 2008, Neil Pasricha's world fell apart after a sudden divorce and death of a close friend. He channeled his energies into his blog 1000 Awesome Things, which counted down one small pleasure -- like snow days, bakery air or finding money in your coat pocket -- every single day for 1000 straight days. While writing his blog, Neil was working as Director of Leadership Development inside Walmart, the world's largest company. He continued working there when his books The Book of Awesome, The Book of (Even More) Awesome and Awesome is Everywhere were published and started climbing bestseller lists and shipping millions of copies.
Years later, he fell in love again and got married. On the airplane home from his honeymoon, his wife told him she was pregnant, and Neil began writing again. The result was a 300-page letter written to his unborn son sharing the nine secrets to finding true happiness. That letter has evolved into The Happiness Equation.
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