TEDxToronto 2010
Neil Pasricha: The 3 A's of awesome
Neil Pasricha：絕妙3A
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從"無限暢飲"到"潔淨床單"，Neil Pasricha 的部落格「1000 件超棒玩意」品嘗生活中的簡單快意。在這段感人的 TEDxToronto 演說中，他提出那活出絕妙生活的三重秘密（這三個詞都以 A 作為開頭）。
Neil Pasricha - Director, The Institute for Global Happiness
Neil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity. Full bio
Neil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity. Full bio
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So the Awesome story:
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這是個美好的故事：
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It begins about 40 years ago,
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故事開始於四十年前，
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when my mom and my dad came to Canada.
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我的父母來到加拿大。
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My mom left Nairobi, Kenya.
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我母親離開了肯亞奈洛比，
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My dad left a small village outside of Amritsar, India.
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我父親離開了印度 Amritsar 城外的一個小村莊。
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And they got here in the late 1960s.
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他們在1960年代來到這裡。
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They settled in a shady suburb about an hour east of Toronto,
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他們在多倫多以東不遠的一個僻靜郊區住了下來，
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and they settled into a new life.
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他們展開了新生活。
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They saw their first dentist,
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他們第一次看牙醫，
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they ate their first hamburger,
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第一次吃到漢堡，
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and they had their first kids.
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第一次有了自己的兒女。
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My sister and I
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我和我妹妹
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grew up here,
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在這裡長大，
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and we had quiet, happy childhoods.
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我們的童年恬靜、美滿。
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We had close family,
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我們的家庭融洽，
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good friends, a quiet street.
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有許多好友，街區很安靜。
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We grew up taking for granted
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在我們成長的過程中
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a lot of the things that my parents couldn't take for granted
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忽略了許多我們父母年輕時
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when they grew up --
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無法忽視的事情－
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things like power always on
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比如，我們家的電
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in our houses,
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從來沒斷過，
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things like schools across the street
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學校就在街對面，
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and hospitals down the road
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街道的一端就是醫院，
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and popsicles in the backyard.
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在家後院就能買到冰棒。
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We grew up, and we grew older.
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我們慢慢長大，
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I went to high school.
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我上了高中，
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I graduated.
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畢了業，
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I moved out of the house, I got a job,
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離開了家，找到一份工作，
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I found a girl, I settled down --
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遇見一個女孩，成家立業－
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and I realize it sounds like a bad sitcom or a Cat Stevens' song --
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我形容的好像是一部拙劣的肥皂劇或 Cat Stevens 的歌。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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but life was pretty good.
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但生活依然美滿。
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Life was pretty good.
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非常美滿。
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2006 was a great year.
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2006年是個非比尋常的一年。
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Under clear blue skies in July in the wine region of Ontario,
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在安大略葡萄酒產區的晴空之下，
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I got married,
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我結婚了，
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surrounded by 150 family and friends.
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150多位親友到場慶賀。
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2007 was a great year.
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2007年也不平凡。
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I graduated from school,
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我從大學畢業了，
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and I went on a road trip with two of my closest friends.
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我和兩位最親密的朋友結伴旅行。
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Here's a picture of me and my friend, Chris,
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這是我和朋友 Chris，
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on the coast of the Pacific Ocean.
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我們站在太平洋海岸邊上。
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We actually saw seals out of our car window,
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我們透過車窗見到海豹，
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and we pulled over to take a quick picture of them
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於是停下車和牠們合影，
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and then blocked them with our giant heads.
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結果，我們的大頭卻把牠們擋住了。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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So you can't actually see them,
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所以你們看不到牠們，
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but it was breathtaking,
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那真是令人屏息的一刻
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believe me.
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真的啦
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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2008 and 2009 were a little tougher.
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2008、2009 年，生活開始感到不適切了。
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I know that they were tougher for a lot of people,
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我知道，並不是只有我的生活不如意，
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not just me.
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有些人的境遇更糟。
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First of all, the news was so heavy.
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首先，新聞報導讓人憂心忡忡。
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It's still heavy now, and it was heavy before that,
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現在的情況也是如此，
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but when you flipped open a newspaper, when you turned on the TV,
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每當你翻開報紙，打開電視，
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it was about ice caps melting,
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你會看到冰冠正在消融、
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wars going on around the world,
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全球戰事不斷、
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earthquakes, hurricanes
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地震、颶風、
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and an economy that was wobbling on the brink of collapse,
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某國的經濟正處於崩潰邊緣，
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and then eventually did collapse,
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後來就真的垮了，
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and so many of us losing our homes,
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許多人失去房子，
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or our jobs,
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丟掉了工作，
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or our retirements,
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無法安然退休，
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or our livelihoods.
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失去生計
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2008, 2009 were heavy years for me for another reason, too.
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2008、2009年我過得不順利還有另一個原因，
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I was going through a lot of personal problems at the time.
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當時，我遇到不少個人問題。
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My marriage wasn't going well,
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我的婚姻出現了危機，
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and we just were growing further and further apart.
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我和妻子越來越疏遠。
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One day my wife came home from work
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一天，我妻子下班回家，
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and summoned the courage, through a lot of tears,
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她鼓起勇氣，淚流滿面，
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to have a very honest conversation.
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和我展開誠實的對話
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And she said, "I don't love you anymore,"
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她說：「我已經不愛你了。」
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and it was one of the most painful things I'd ever heard
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那是我經歷過的最痛苦的事，
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and certainly the most heartbreaking thing I'd ever heard,
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也是我所聽到過最讓人心碎的話。
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until only a month later,
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之後，僅僅過了一個月，
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when I heard something even more heartbreaking.
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我又得到另一個更讓我痛心的消息，
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My friend Chris, who I just showed you a picture of,
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我的好友 Chris，就是剛才照片上的那位，
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had been battling mental illness for some time.
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他患了精神疾病，苦苦掙扎了一段時間。
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And for those of you
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在場如果有人
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whose lives have been touched by mental illness,
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曾經患過精神方面的疾病，
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you know how challenging it can be.
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你就能體會其中的痛苦。
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I spoke to him on the phone at 10:30 p.m.
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我在星期天晚上十點半
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on a Sunday night.
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跟他講過電話，
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We talked about the TV show we watched that evening.
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聊了一下那天晚上看的電視節目，
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And Monday morning, I found out that he disappeared.
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就在第二天早上，我發現他失蹤了。
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Very sadly, he took his own life.
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很不幸地，他結束自己的生命。
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And it was a really heavy time.
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那段時間非常難熬。
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And as these dark clouds were circling me,
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我頭頂黑雲密佈，
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and I was finding it really, really difficult
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我就算使勁全力
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to think of anything good,
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也無以振作。
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I said to myself that I really needed a way
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我告訴自己，我真的需要
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to focus on the positive somehow.
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讓自己把注意力轉移到積極面上。
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So I came home from work one night,
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於是，有一天晚上，我下班回到家，
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and I logged onto the computer,
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打開電腦，
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and I started up a tiny website
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我成立了一個小網站 ---
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called 1000awesomethings.com.
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1000awesomethings.com (1000 件超棒玩意)。
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I was trying to remind myself
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我想提醒自己，
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of the simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love,
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生活中有許多人人都愛的，簡單而隨處可見的小快樂，
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but we just don't talk about enough --
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我們只是很少談起這些快樂－
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things like waiters and waitresses
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譬如，那些主動為你免費續杯的
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who bring you free refills without asking,
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餐館服務員，
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being the first table to get called up
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在一個婚禮上，你坐的那一桌
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to the dinner buffet at a wedding,
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可以首先去選餐，
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wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer,
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穿上剛從烘乾機裡拿出來仍然熱乎乎的內衣，
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or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery store
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或在超市，正巧碰上收銀員多開了條新的結帳通道，
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and you get to be first in line --
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你現在排第一了--
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even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there.
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本來你排在最後一個，現在立刻衝過去。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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And slowly over time,
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於是，慢慢地，
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I started putting myself in a better mood.
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我的心情開始好轉。
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I mean, 50,000 blogs
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你看，每天新增的部落格
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are started a day,
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有五萬個。
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and so my blog was just one of those 50,000.
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我的部落格就是這五萬中的一個。
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And nobody read it except for my mom.
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除了我母親，沒人讀它。
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Although I should say that my traffic did skyrocket
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當然，我媽把部落格網址轉發給我爸以後
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and go up by 100 percent
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我的流量
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when she forwarded it to my dad.
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翻了一倍。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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And then I got excited
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當流量到了幾十次，
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when it started getting tens of hits,
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我開始感到開心了。
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and then I started getting excited when it started getting dozens
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當流量超過了五十次
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and then hundreds and then thousands
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又到了幾百次，接著到幾千次，
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and then millions.
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一直到了幾百萬次。
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It started getting bigger and bigger and bigger.
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數字一直持續成長。
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And then I got a phone call,
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最後，我接到一通電話，
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and the voice at the other end of the line said,
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電話那頭的聲音告訴我：
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"You've just won the Best Blog In the World award."
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「您剛剛獲得了全球最佳部落格大獎。」
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I was like, that sounds totally fake.
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我當時覺得這聽起來實在太假了。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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(Applause)
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（掌聲）
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Which African country do you want me to wire all my money to?
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你想要我把所有存款轉到哪個非洲國家的帳戶啊?
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
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But it turns out, I jumped on a plane,
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然而，我卻跳上飛機，
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and I ended up walking a red carpet
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走上紅地毯，
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between Sarah Silverman and Jimmy Fallon and Martha Stewart.
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在 Sarah Silverman、Jimmy Fallon、和 Martha Stewart 站在一起，
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And I went onstage to accept a Webby award for Best Blog.
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我走上頒獎台，接受了威比獎(Webby Awards)的最佳部落格獎項。
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And the surprise
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那份驚喜
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and just the amazement of that
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那種喜悅
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was only overshadowed by my return to Toronto,
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直到我回到多倫多
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when, in my inbox,
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查看郵件時才有所收斂，
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10 literary agents were waiting for me
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十位文稿代理商發了 email 給我，
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to talk about putting this into a book.
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等著跟我討論把部落格文章整理成書的事情。
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Flash-forward to the next year
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一轉眼到了下一年，
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and "The Book of Awesome" has now been
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《絕妙之書》
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number one on the bestseller list for 20 straight weeks.
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至今已連續二十週登上最暢銷書了。
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(Applause)
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（掌聲）
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But look, I said I wanted to do three things with you today.
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但是，今天我想告訴大家三件事。
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I said I wanted to tell you the Awesome story,
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我想給你們講個絕妙的故事，
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I wanted to share with you the three As of Awesome,
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和你們分享三個A開頭的快樂秘訣，
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and I wanted to leave you with a closing thought.
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然後給大家來個總結。
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So let's talk about those three As.
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先來談談這三個 A 吧。
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Over the last few years,
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過去的幾年裡，
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I haven't had that much time to really think.
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我沒花太多時間確實地去思考。
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But lately I have had the opportunity to take a step back
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而最近，我有機會坐下來
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and ask myself: "What is it over the last few years
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問我自己：在過去幾年裡
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that helped me grow my website,
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究竟是什麼幫助我的網站成長，
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but also grow myself?"
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並讓自己更成熟?
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And I've summarized those things, for me personally,
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我總結了其中的原因，對我個人而言，
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as three As.
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那就是這三個A。
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They are Attitude, Awareness
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它們是態度 (attitude)、知覺 (awareness)、
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and Authenticity.
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和本真 (authenticity)。
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I'd love to just talk about each one briefly.
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我想簡短逐一介紹一下。
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So Attitude:
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態度 (attitude)：
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Look, we're all going to get lumps,
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我們每個人總有不順遂的時候，
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and we're all going to get bumps.
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也都跌倒過，
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None of us can predict the future, but we do know one thing about it
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沒有人能預測未來，但是有一件事是肯定的，
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and that's that it ain't gonna go according to plan.
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那就是「天有不測風雲」。
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We will all have high highs
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我們都快樂過、
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and big days and proud moments
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得意過、驕傲過、
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of smiles on graduation stages,
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在畢業典禮上燦然一笑，
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father-daughter dances at weddings
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在婚禮一刻父女共舞，
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and healthy babies screeching in the delivery room,
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健康的嬰孩在產房裡大聲啼哭，
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but between those high highs,
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然而，在這些快樂的時刻之間，
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we may also have some lumps and some bumps too.
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難免穿插著一些令人不快的插曲。
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It's sad, and it's not pleasant to talk about,
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這些事情令人悲傷，令人不願啟齒，
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but your husband might leave you,
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但，你的丈夫可能會離你而去，
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your girlfriend could cheat,
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你的女友可能會背叛你，
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your headaches might be more serious than you thought,
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你的頭痛可能比你想像的還嚴重，
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or your dog could get hit by a car on the street.
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你的狗可能在大街上會被車撞死。
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It's not a happy thought,
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這些想法很掃興，
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but your kids could get mixed up in gangs
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你的孩子可能會混黑道，
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or bad scenes.
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或者做壞事。
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Your mom could get cancer,
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你的母親可能會罹患癌症，
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your dad could get mean.
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你的父親可能很暴力；
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And there are times in life
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在你的生活中總有那麼幾次，
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when you will be tossed in the well, too,
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你會覺得自己陷入絕境，
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with twists in your stomach and with holes in your heart,
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萬念俱灰，心如刀割
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and when that bad news washes over you,
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當遭遇噩耗時，
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and when that pain sponges and soaks in,
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那痛苦蔓延全身，
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I just really hope you feel
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我真心希望
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like you've always got two choices.
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你能意識到你有兩種選擇：
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One, you can swirl and twirl
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一是，你可以自暴自棄
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and gloom and doom forever,
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自怨自艾，永遠消沉下去，
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or two, you can grieve
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或者第二，你可以傷心，
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and then face the future
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然後重新振作，
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with newly sober eyes.
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面向未來。
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Having a great attitude is about choosing option number two,
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保持正確的態度就要選擇第二項，
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and choosing, no matter how difficult it is,
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不管這個選擇多麼困難，
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no matter what pain hits you,
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不管你心裡承受多少痛苦，
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choosing to move forward and move on
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你都要選擇向前看，繼續生活，
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and take baby steps into the future.
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一小步一小步地向未來前進。
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The second "A" is Awareness.
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第二個 A 是知覺 (awareness)。
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I love hanging out with three year-olds.
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我喜歡和三歲的孩子玩。
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I love the way that they see the world,
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我很欣賞他們眼中的世界，
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because they're seeing the world for the first time.
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在他們眼中的是一片嶄新的世界。
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I love the way that they can stare at a bug crossing the sidewalk.
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我喜歡他們看著一隻小蟲爬上人行道時專注的表情。
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I love the way that they'll stare slack-jawed
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喜歡他們第一次看棒球比賽時
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at their first baseball game
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如癡如醉盯著球場的神態，
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with wide eyes and a mitt on their hand,
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眼睛睜得大大的，手上還帶著個棒球手套，
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soaking in the crack of the bat and the crunch of the peanuts
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在棒球的擊打聲，花生的嘎嘎作響，
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and the smell of the hotdogs.
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以及在熱狗的香味中自得其樂。
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I love the way that they'll spend hours picking dandelions in the backyard
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我喜歡看他們在後院裡摘蒲公英，一採就是幾個小時，
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and putting them into a nice centerpiece
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然後把蒲公英做成感恩節晚餐桌上的
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for Thanksgiving dinner.
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中心裝飾。
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I love the way that they see the world,
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我欣賞他們眼中的世界，
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because they're seeing the world
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因為在他們眼裡，
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for the first time.
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世界是全新的。
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Having a sense of awareness
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擁有一種知覺意識，
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is just about embracing your inner three year-old.
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就是擁抱內心中三歲的你。
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Because you all used to be three years old.
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因為你們都曾經是三歲的孩子，
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That three-year-old boy is still part of you.
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那個三歲的小男孩仍然是你的一部份
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That three-year-old girl is still part of you.
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那個三歲的小女孩仍然是妳的一部份
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They're in there.
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他們在這裡。
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And being aware is just about remembering
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去感知就是去記住
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that you saw everything you've seen
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你眼中的世界
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for the first time once, too.
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也曾是嶄新的。
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So there was a time when it was your first time ever
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你也曾經第一次
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hitting a string of green lights on the way home from work.
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下班後，走運碰到一路綠燈。
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There was the first time you walked by the open door of a bakery
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你也曾經第一次經過敞開門的麵包店，
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and smelt the bakery air,
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聞到四散撲鼻的香味，
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or the first time you pulled a 20-dollar bill out of your old jacket pocket
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你也曾經從就外套口袋裡掏出一張20元紙幣，
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and said, "Found money."
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說：「有錢啦。」
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The last "A" is Authenticity.
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最後一個 A 是本真。
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And for this one, I want to tell you a quick story.
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對於本真，我有一個小故事要和大家說
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Let's go all the way back to 1932
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故事要追溯到1932年，
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when, on a peanut farm in Georgia,
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在喬治亞州的一片花生田上，
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a little baby boy named Roosevelt Grier was born.
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一個名叫 Roosevelt Grier 的男孩出生了。
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Roosevelt Grier, or Rosey Grier, as people used to call him,
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Roosevelt Grier，人們叫他 Rosey Grier，
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grew up and grew into
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長大後成為了
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a 300-pound, six-foot-five linebacker in the NFL.
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高 196 公分、重 136 公斤的美式足球聯盟中後衛。
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He's number 76 in the picture.
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這張照片上的76號就是他。
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Here he is pictured with the "fearsome foursome."
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他們四人就是著名的「戰慄四猛將」。
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These were four guys on the L.A. Rams in the 1960s
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他們在1960年代效力於洛杉磯公羊隊，
10:19
you did not want to go up against.
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這支球隊令人聞風喪膽。
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They were tough football players doing what they love,
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這些彪悍的球員熱衷於在球場上
10:24
which was crushing skulls
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衝撞對手的腦袋，
10:26
and separating shoulders on the football field.
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讓對手肩膀脫臼。
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But Rosey Grier also had
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然而這樣的 Rosey Grier
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another passion.
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卻有著另一個嗜好。
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In his deeply authentic self,
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在他的內心深處，
10:35
he also loved needlepoint. (Laughter)
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他熱愛刺繡。
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He loved knitting.
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熱愛針織。
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He said that it calmed him down, it relaxed him,
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他說這能讓他冷靜、放鬆，
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it took away his fear of flying and helped him meet chicks.
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讓他忘記坐飛機時的恐懼，還能幫他泡妞。
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That's what he said.
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這可是他說的。
10:49
I mean, he loved it so much that, after he retired from the NFL,
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他太喜歡刺繡了，從聯盟退休以後，
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he started joining clubs.
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他開始參加針織俱樂部。
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And he even put out a book
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他還出了一本書，
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called "Rosey Grier's Needlepoint for Men."
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書名叫作《 Rosey Grier 男式刺繡》
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
10:59
(Applause)
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（掌聲）
11:02
It's a great cover.
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封面非常棒。
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If you notice, he's actually needlepointing his own face.
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仔細看你會發現，他繡的是自己的臉。
11:07
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
11:09
And so what I love about this story
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我很喜歡這個故事
11:12
is that Rosey Grier
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是因為 Rosey Grier
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is just such an authentic person,
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是個敢於流露真性情的人。
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and that's what authenticity is all about.
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這就是本真的意義所在。
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It's just about being you and being cool with that.
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心安理得地做最真實的自己。
11:21
And I think when you're authentic,
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我想，當你真實地做自己，
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you end up following your heart,
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你就會順著自己的心意，
11:25
and you put yourself in places
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不論做什麼場合，
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and situations and in conversations
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與誰對話
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that you love and that you enjoy.
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你都會享受其中滋味。
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You meet people that you like talking to.
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你會遇見跟自己合得來的人。
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You go places you've dreamt about.
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你會去到自己做夢都想去的地方。
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And you end you end up following your heart
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你順著自己的心意，
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and feeling very fulfilled.
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最後感覺非常滿足。
11:40
So those are the three A's.
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這就是三個 A。
11:43
For the closing thought, I want to take you all the way back
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最後的總結，我想帶你們
11:45
to my parents coming to Canada.
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回顧我父母來到加拿大的那段時光。
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I don't know what it would feel like
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我不知道那是種什麼樣的感覺，
11:50
coming to a new country when you're in your mid-20s.
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25、26歲的光景，初來乍到一個陌生的國度。
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I don't know, because I never did it,
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我不知道，因為我從未經歷過。
11:55
but I would imagine that it would take a great attitude.
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但我能想像，那肯定要求你有個很好的生活態度。
11:58
I would imagine that you'd have to be pretty aware of your surroundings
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我可以想像，在這個嶄新的世界裡，
12:01
and appreciating the small wonders
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你必須感知周圍的事物，
12:03
that you're starting to see in your new world.
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欣賞那些給你驚喜的新鮮事物。
12:06
And I think you'd have to be really authentic,
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我想你必須展現自己的本我，
12:08
you'd have to be really true to yourself
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做真實的自己，
12:10
in order to get through what you're being exposed to.
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才能應對新的生活。
12:14
I'd like to pause my TEDTalk
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我想把我的演講
12:16
for about 10 seconds right now,
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暫停 10 秒鐘，
12:18
because you don't get many opportunities in life to do something like this,
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因為人一輩子沒幾次這樣的機會了，
12:20
and my parents are sitting in the front row.
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我的父母就坐在第一排。
12:22
So I wanted to ask them to, if they don't mind, stand up.
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如果他們不介意，我想請他們起立。
12:24
And I just wanted to say thank you to you guys.
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我想謝謝你們。
12:26
(Applause)
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（掌聲）
12:45
When I was growing up, my dad used to love telling the story
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我小時候，我父親很喜歡跟我說
12:48
of his first day in Canada.
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他第一天來到加拿大的故事。
12:50
And it's a great story, because what happened was
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這個故事很有意思，因為
12:53
he got off the plane at the Toronto airport,
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他剛從多倫多機場下了飛機，
12:56
and he was welcomed by a non-profit group,
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迎接他的是一個非營利性組織，
12:58
which I'm sure someone in this room runs.
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我敢肯定在座位的某位就是這個組織的領導人。
13:00
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
13:02
And this non-profit group had a big welcoming lunch
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這個組織為所有加拿大新移民
13:05
for all the new immigrants to Canada.
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備了歡迎午餐會。
13:08
And my dad says he got off the plane and he went to this lunch
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我父親說，他下了飛機，參加了這個午餐會，
13:11
and there was this huge spread.
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那裡長長的餐桌上擺滿了美食。
13:13
There was bread, there was those little, mini dill pickles,
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有麵包，切碎的醬黃瓜，
13:16
there was olives, those little white onions.
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橄欖，白洋蔥，
13:18
There was rolled up turkey cold cuts,
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冷切火雞肉卷，
13:20
rolled up ham cold cuts, rolled up roast beef cold cuts
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冷切火腿卷，冷切牛肉卷，
13:22
and little cubes of cheese.
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乳酪塊，
13:24
There was tuna salad sandwiches and egg salad sandwiches
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鮪魚沙拉三明治，雞蛋沙拉三明治，
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and salmon salad sandwiches.
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鮭魚沙拉三明治，
13:29
There was lasagna, there was casseroles,
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肉醬千層麵，砂鍋什錦，
13:31
there was brownies, there was butter tarts,
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布朗尼蛋糕，奶油蛋撻，
13:34
and there was pies, lots and lots of pies.
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還有很多餡餅，各種口味都有。
13:37
And when my dad tells the story, he says,
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我父親講起這個故事的時候，他總說：
13:39
"The craziest thing was, I'd never seen any of that before, except bread.
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「最有意思的是，那些食物我從來沒有見過，除了麵包。」
13:43
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
13:45
I didn't know what was meat, what was vegetarian.
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「我不知道什麼是肉，什麼是素食主義者；
13:47
I was eating olives with pie.
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我就著橄欖吃餡餅。」
13:49
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
13:52
I just couldn't believe how many things you can get here."
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「我真不敢相信在這裡你能得到這麼多東西。」
13:55
(Laughter)
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（笑）
13:57
When I was five years old,
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我五歲的時候，
13:59
my dad used to take me grocery shopping,
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我父親帶我去超市。
14:01
and he would stare in wonder
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他會驚奇地盯著
14:03
at the little stickers that are on the fruits and vegetables.
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各種水果和蔬菜的標籤。
14:06
He would say, "Look, can you believe they have a mango here from Mexico?
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他會說：「看，你相信嗎，這個芒果是墨西哥來的。
14:09
They've got an apple here from South Africa.
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這個蘋果是從南非來的。
14:12
Can you believe they've got a date from Morocco?"
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你相信嗎，他們居然還有摩洛哥來的椰棗!」
14:15
He's like, "Do you know where Morocco even is?"
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他會問：「你知道摩洛哥在哪裡嗎?」
14:18
And I'd say, "I'm five. I don't even know where I am.
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我會說：「我才五歲，我連我現在在哪兒都不知道。
14:21
Is this A&P?"
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這裡是 A&P 市場嗎?」
14:24
And he'd say, "I don't know where Morocco is either, but let's find out."
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他會說：「我也不知道摩洛哥在哪裡，我們回去查查。」
14:27
And so we'd buy the date, and we'd go home.
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於是，我們買下了椰棗，回到家裡。
14:29
And we'd actually take an atlas off the shelf,
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我們打開書架上的地圖冊，
14:31
and we'd flip through until we found this mysterious country.
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翻遍正本書也要把這個神秘的國度找到。
14:34
And when we did, my dad would say,
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我們找到了，我父親會說：
14:36
"Can you believe someone climbed a tree over there,
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「你相信嗎，某個人在這裡爬上一棵樹，
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picked this thing off it, put it in a truck,
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摘下這個棗子，把它放到卡車上，
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drove it all the way to the docks
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一直送到碼頭，
14:43
and then sailed it all the way
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把它裝上船，
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across the Atlantic Ocean
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接著它橫跨了大西洋，
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and then put it in another truck
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被裝到另一輛卡車上，
14:49
and drove that all the way to a tiny grocery store just outside our house,
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人們把車一直開到我們家附近的小超市裡。
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so they could sell it to us for 25 cents?"
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最後他們以25美分的價錢出售這個棗子。」
14:55
And I'd say, "I don't believe that."
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我會說：「我不信。」
14:57
And he's like, "I don't believe it either.
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他會說：「我也不相信。
14:59
Things are amazing. There's just so many things to be happy about."
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生活真是太奇妙了，充滿了令人驚喜的事情。」
15:02
When I stop to think about it, he's absolutely right.
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我回過頭想想，父親是對的；
15:04
There are so many things to be happy about.
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生活中充滿了令人驚喜的事。
15:06
We are the only species
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我們所知的
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on the only life-giving rock
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全宇宙唯一一個
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in the entire universe that we've ever seen,
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擁有生命的大石頭上，
15:15
capable of experiencing
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我們是唯一有能力
15:17
so many of these things.
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體驗這些事情的物種。
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I mean, we're the only ones with architecture and agriculture.
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只有我們人類，擁有建築和農業，
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We're the only ones with jewelry and democracy.
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財富和民主，
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We've got airplanes, highway lanes,
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飛機和高速公路，
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interior design and horoscope signs.
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室內設計和占星術，
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We've got fashion magazines, house party scenes.
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時尚雜誌和狂歡會。
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You can watch a horror movie with monsters.
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你可以和怪獸一起看恐怖電影。
15:35
You can go to a concert and hear guitars jamming.
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你可以去聽演唱會，聽吉他即興。
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We've got books, buffets and radio waves,
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我們還有書本，自助餐，廣播，
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wedding brides and rollercoaster rides.
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新娘，還有過山車。
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You can sleep in clean sheets.
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你可以睡在乾淨的床單上，
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You can go to the movies and get good seats.
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可以去看電影並找到好位置，
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You can smell bakery air, walk around with rain hair,
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可以聞到烤麵包的香味，可以冒雨散步，
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pop bubble wrap or take an illegal nap.
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吹泡泡糖，或者偷偷睡個午覺。
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We've got all that,
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我們都可以做到，
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but we've only got 100 years to enjoy it.
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但是，我們只有一百年的時間去享受生活。
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And that's the sad part.
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這挺令人傷感的。
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The cashiers at your grocery store,
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超市裡的收銀員，
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the foreman at your plant,
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工廠的領班，
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the guy tailgating you home on the highway,
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你回家時，高速公路上一直跟在你車後的人，
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the telemarketer calling you during dinner,
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晚飯時給你打電話的推銷員，
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every teacher you've ever had,
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教過你的每一位老師，
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everyone that's ever woken up beside you,
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在你枕邊醒來的每一個人，
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every politician in every country,
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每個國家的每一位政治家，
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every actor in every movie,
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每部電影裡的每一位演員，
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every single person in your family, everyone you love,
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你家裡的每一個成員，你所愛的每一個人，
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everyone in this room and you
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在做的每一個人，包括你自己，
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will be dead in a hundred years.
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都會在百年以後離開人世。
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Life is so great that we only get such a short time
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生命之所以偉大，是因為我們僅有如此短暫的時間
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to experience and enjoy
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去體會那些細小
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all those tiny little moments that make it so sweet.
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而又奇妙無比的時刻。
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And that moment is right now,
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那絕妙的瞬間就是現在，
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and those moments are counting down,
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那些時刻正在溜走，
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and those moments are always, always, always fleeting.
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它們一直、一直、一直在飛逝。
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You will never be as young as you are right now.
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你永遠不會比現在的自己更年輕。
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And that's why I believe that if you live your life
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因此，我相信，如果你擁有
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with a great attitude,
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良好的生活態度，
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choosing to move forward and move on
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無論生活如何打擊你
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whenever life deals you a blow,
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你都能抬起頭繼續前行，
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living with a sense of awareness of the world around you,
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感知你周遭的世界，
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embracing your inner three year-old
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接納內心中三歲的自己
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and seeing the tiny joys that make life so sweet
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意識到讓生活美好的那些小小的快樂，
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and being authentic to yourself,
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做真實的自己，
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being you and being cool with that,
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心安理得地做自己，
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letting your heart lead you and putting yourself in experiences that satisfy you,
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順從自己的心意，讓自己置身於讓你快樂的事物中，
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then I think you'll live a life
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最後，你的生活
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that is rich and is satisfying,
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會變得充實而美滿，
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and I think you'll live a life that is truly awesome.
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你的生活才會真正變得絕妙精彩。
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Thank you.
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謝謝。
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Neil Pasricha - Director, The Institute for Global HappinessNeil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity.
Why you should listen
In 2008, Neil Pasricha's world fell apart after a sudden divorce and death of a close friend. He channeled his energies into his blog 1000 Awesome Things, which counted down one small pleasure -- like snow days, bakery air or finding money in your coat pocket -- every single day for 1000 straight days. While writing his blog, Neil was working as Director of Leadership Development inside Walmart, the world's largest company. He continued working there when his books The Book of Awesome, The Book of (Even More) Awesome and Awesome is Everywhere were published and started climbing bestseller lists and shipping millions of copies.
Years later, he fell in love again and got married. On the airplane home from his honeymoon, his wife told him she was pregnant, and Neil began writing again. The result was a 300-page letter written to his unborn son sharing the nine secrets to finding true happiness. That letter has evolved into The Happiness Equation.
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