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Leila Hoteit: 3 lessons on success from an Arab businesswoman
Leila Hoteit: 一位阿拉伯女商人嘅三個成功秘訣
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阿拉伯女性喺職場上比男性要肩負起更多嘅責任，同時比西方女性面對更加死板嘅文化。佢哋嘅成功令我哋點睇韌性、競爭、緩急先後同進步呢四樣嘢？佢以阿布達比嘅工程師、倡導人同母親身份，分享三個立足於當今世界嘅三點經驗。
Leila Hoteit - Women's advocate
BCG's Leila Hoteit specializes in human capital and education throughout the Middle East. Full bio
BCG's Leila Hoteit specializes in human capital and education throughout the Middle East. Full bio
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00:12
"Mom, who are these people?"
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「媽咪，呢啲係咩人啊？」
00:15
It was an innocent question
from my young daughter Alia
from my young daughter Alia
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呢個天真嘅問題喺我細女 Alia
00:18
around the time when she was three.
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喺大概三歲個時提出嚟嘅
00:20
We were walking along with my husband
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當時我哋同我先生一齊
00:22
in one of Abu Dhabi's big fancy malls.
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喺 Abu Dhabi 嘅一間大型商場行街
00:25
Alia was peering at a huge poster
standing tall in the middle of the mall.
standing tall in the middle of the mall.
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Alia 望住掛喺
商場正中央高處嘅巨幅海報
商場正中央高處嘅巨幅海報
上面有阿拉伯聯合酋長國嘅三位酋長
00:29
It featured the three rulers
of the United Arab Emirates.
of the United Arab Emirates.
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00:33
As she tucked in my side,
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佢匿埋我嘅身後
00:35
I bent down and explained
that these were the rulers of the UAE
that these were the rulers of the UAE
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我彎低腰，同佢講
佢哋係阿聯酋嘅酋長
佢哋係阿聯酋嘅酋長
00:38
who had worked hard
to develop their nation
to develop their nation
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佢哋努力發展佢哋嘅國家
維護國家嘅統一
00:40
and preserve its unity.
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00:43
She asked, "Mom, why is it
that here where we live,
that here where we live,
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佢問 ︰「媽咪，點解喺度
同埋喺公公婆婆住嘅黎巴嫩，
00:46
and back in Lebanon,
where grandma and grandpa live,
where grandma and grandpa live,
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00:49
we never see the pictures
of powerful women on the walls?
of powerful women on the walls?
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我哋都冇見到有女強人嘅相掛喺牆上，
00:52
Is it because women are not important?"
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係唔係因為女性唔重要？」
00:56
This is probably the hardest question
I've had to answer in my years as a parent
I've had to answer in my years as a parent
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呢個大概係我為人母以來
00:59
and in my 16-plus years
of professional life, for that matter.
of professional life, for that matter.
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同埋我 16 年職業生涯中最難答嘅問題
01:04
I had grown up in my hometown in Lebanon,
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我喺黎巴嫩嘅家鄉長大
我係屋企嘅細妹
01:07
the younger of two daughters
to a very hard-working pilot
to a very hard-working pilot
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長大之後做咗一位飛行員
01:10
and director of operations
for the Lebanese Airlines
for the Lebanese Airlines
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到後嚟黎巴嫩航空運行總監
01:14
and a super-supportive
stay-at-home mom and grandma.
stay-at-home mom and grandma.
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再之後成為全職媽媽同抱孫
01:17
My father had encouraged
my sister and I to pursue our education
my sister and I to pursue our education
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我爸爸鼓勵我哋兩姊妹去追求學業
雖然當時我哋嘅文化認為
01:22
even though our culture
emphasized at the time
emphasized at the time
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只有男仔而非女仔
先可獲得深造嘅機會
先可獲得深造嘅機會
01:25
that it was sons and not daughters
who should be professionally motivated.
who should be professionally motivated.
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01:30
I was one of very few girls
of my generation
of my generation
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我係我嗰代人其中一個為數不多嘅
女仔喺 18 歲出國留學
女仔喺 18 歲出國留學
01:33
who left home at 18 to study abroad.
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01:36
My father didn't have a son,
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我爸爸膝下無子
01:38
and so I, in a sense, became his.
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所以喺某種程度上，我就係佢嘅仔
01:42
Fast-forward a couple of decades,
and I hope I didn't do too badly
and I hope I didn't do too badly
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如果時光可以倒流幾十年
01:46
in making my father proud
of his would-be son.
of his would-be son.
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我希望自己成為爸爸自豪嘅「仔」
01:50
As I got my Bachelor's and PhD
in electrical engineering,
in electrical engineering,
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當我取得電氣工程嘅學士、博士學位
喺英國做研發，喺中東做技術顧問
01:53
did R&D in the UK,
then consulting in the Middle East,
then consulting in the Middle East,
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01:57
I have always been
in male-dominated environments.
in male-dominated environments.
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我一直都處於由男人掌控嘅環境
02:00
Truth be told, I have never found
a role model I could truly identify with.
a role model I could truly identify with.
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老實講，我從未搵到我真心認同嘅榜樣
02:06
My mother's generation
wasn't into professional leadership.
wasn't into professional leadership.
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我媽媽嗰代人，冇女人擠身到領導層
02:09
There were some
encouraging men along the way,
encouraging men along the way,
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我一直都遇到一啲好好人嘅男上司
但係冇一個人知道我嘅需要同壓力
02:12
but none knew the demands
and pressures I was facing,
and pressures I was facing,
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02:16
pressures that got particularly acute
when I had my own two beautiful children.
when I had my own two beautiful children.
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特別係有咗兩個細路之後雪上加霜
02:21
And although Western women love to give us
poor, oppressed Arab women advice,
poor, oppressed Arab women advice,
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雖然西方女人樂意畀建議我
呢啲貧窮、受壓迫嘅阿拉伯女人
呢啲貧窮、受壓迫嘅阿拉伯女人
02:27
they live different lives
with different constraints.
with different constraints.
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但係佢哋嘅生活同制肘同我哋截然不同
02:31
So Arab women of my generation
have had to become our own role models.
have had to become our own role models.
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所以我呢一代嘅阿拉伯女性
必須要成為自己嘅榜樣
必須要成為自己嘅榜樣
02:35
We have had to juggle more than Arab men,
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我哋需要比阿拉伯男性能加能幹
02:37
and we have had to face
more cultural rigidity than Western women.
more cultural rigidity than Western women.
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必須要承受比西方女性更嚴重嘅偏見
02:41
As a result, I would like to think
that we poor, oppressed women
that we poor, oppressed women
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因此，我認為我哋
呢啲貧窮、受壓迫嘅女人
呢啲貧窮、受壓迫嘅女人
02:45
actually have some useful,
certainly hard-earned lessons to share,
certainly hard-earned lessons to share,
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有一啲有用、來之不易嘅經驗要分享
02:50
lessons that might turn out useful
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呢啲經驗可能會
對渴望立足於當今世界嘅人有用
02:52
for anyone wishing to thrive
in the modern world.
in the modern world.
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02:55
Here are three of mine.
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以下喺我嘅三個經驗
02:56
["Convert their sh*t into your fuel."]
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[ 將佢哋嘅垃圾（負能量）
變成你嘅燃料（動力） ]
變成你嘅燃料（動力） ]
（笑聲）
02:58
(Laughter)
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（掌聲）
02:59
(Applause)
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03:06
There is this word that everybody
is touting as the key to success:
is touting as the key to success:
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以下詞語受每個人
奉為成功嘅不二法門：
奉為成功嘅不二法門：
堅忍
03:10
resilience.
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03:12
Well, what exactly is resilience,
and how do you develop it?
and how do you develop it?
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但「堅忍」實際係乜嘢，又要點培養？
我堅信堅忍就係將
負能量轉化為動力嘅能力
負能量轉化為動力嘅能力
03:16
I believe resilience is simply
the ability to transform shit into fuel.
the ability to transform shit into fuel.
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03:23
In my previous job,
well before my current firm,
well before my current firm,
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好耐之前我喺前東家工作
我同一個男同事，我哋叫佢 John
03:26
I was working with a man
we will call John.
we will call John.
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03:29
I had teamed up with John
and was working hard,
and was working hard,
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我同 John 搭檔，我好努力工作
希望佢可以意識到我有幾咁出色
03:31
hoping he would notice how great I was
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03:33
and that he would come to support
my case to make partner at the firm.
my case to make partner at the firm.
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咁佢就會支持我喺公司裏面同人搭檔
03:38
I was, in addition to delivering
on my consulting projects,
on my consulting projects,
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當時，除咗交我嘅顧問報告
我仲好有熱情研究女性嘅經濟權力
03:41
writing passionately on the topic
of women economic empowerment.
of women economic empowerment.
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03:45
One day, I got to present my research
to a roomful of MBA students.
to a roomful of MBA students.
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有一日，我要向成間房嘅
工管碩士生報告研究
工管碩士生報告研究
03:50
John was part of the audience
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John 係其中一位聽眾
03:52
listening for the first time
to the details of my study.
to the details of my study.
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佢第一次聽我研究嘅內容
03:56
As I proceeded with my presentation,
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當我繼續我嘅報告時
我睇到 John
03:58
I could see John in the corner of my eye.
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04:01
He had turned a dark shade of pink
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佢面色漲紅
好似羞愧咁癱坐喺張椅度
04:03
and had slid under his chair
in apparent shame.
in apparent shame.
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04:07
I finished my presentation
to an applauding audience
to an applauding audience
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當報告完畢，聽眾拍手
我哋飛奔出去，坐上車
04:10
and we rushed out and jumped into the car.
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04:13
There he exploded.
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佢突然之間情緒爆發咁
04:16
"What you did up there was unacceptable!
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「你啱啱講嘅嘢令人難以接受！
你係顧問，唔係搞社運！」
04:18
You are a consultant, not an activist!"
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04:21
I said, "John, I don't understand.
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我講︰「John，我唔明，
我舉出咗幾個性別平等指數
04:24
I presented a couple of
gender parity indices,
gender parity indices,
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同埋一啲關於阿拉伯世界嘅結論。
04:27
and some conclusions about the Arab world.
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04:29
Yes, we do happen to be today
at the bottom of the index,
at the bottom of the index,
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冇錯，喺指數上
我哋依家確實處於劣勢，
我哋依家確實處於劣勢，
但點可以否認我嘅報告呢？」
04:32
but what is it that I said or presented
that was not factual?"
that was not factual?"
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04:37
To which he replied,
"The whole premise of your study is wrong.
"The whole premise of your study is wrong.
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佢反駁︰
「你成個研究嘅前提都係錯嘅，
「你成個研究嘅前提都係錯嘅，
無異於玩火自焚，
破壞我哋社會結構。」
破壞我哋社會結構。」
04:41
What you are doing is dangerous and will
break the social fabric of our society."
break the social fabric of our society."
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04:45
He paused, then added,
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佢停咗一下，又繼續講
「女人有咗細路之後，
家庭就係歸宿。」
家庭就係歸宿。」
04:48
"When women have children,
their place is in the home."
their place is in the home."
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04:53
Time stood still for a long while,
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時間繼續流逝
混亂中我唯一諗到、重複嘅係：
04:55
and all I could think and repeat
in the chaos of my brain was:
in the chaos of my brain was:
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「Leila，你可以忘記呢段搭檔關係，
04:59
"You can forget about
that partnership, Leila.
that partnership, Leila.
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佢已經成為過去。」
05:01
It's just never going to happen."
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05:04
It took me a couple of days to fully
absorb this incident and its implications,
absorb this incident and its implications,
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我用咗幾日去完全消化呢件事
後來，我得出咗三個結論
05:08
but once I did,
I reached three conclusions.
I reached three conclusions.
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05:12
One, that these were his issues,
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第一，呢啲係佢嘅問題
係佢糾纏
05:14
his complexes.
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可能呢個社會中有好多人同佢一樣嘅人
05:16
There may be many like him in our society,
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但係我冇必要令到佢成為我嘅問題
05:18
but I would never let
their issues become mine.
their issues become mine.
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05:21
Two, that I needed
another sponsor, and fast.
another sponsor, and fast.
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第二，我需要快啲搵到另一個贊助人
（笑聲）
05:24
(Laughter)
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順帶一提，我搵到咗一個
仲係個好男仔
仲係個好男仔
05:25
I got one, by the way,
and boy, was he great.
and boy, was he great.
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第三，我想畀 John 睇到
人母都可以事業有成
人母都可以事業有成
05:27
And three, that I would get to show John
what women with children can do.
what women with children can do.
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我將呢個經驗好好咁實踐喺個人生活
05:32
I apply this lesson equally well
to my personal life.
to my personal life.
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當我事業有成
05:35
As I have progressed in my career,
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我聽到好多鼓勵之詞
05:37
I have received many words
of encouragement,
of encouragement,
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但係都有好多男人、女人、夫妻
05:40
but I have also often been met
by women, men and couples
by women, men and couples
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對我哋夫妻都外出工作嘅選擇
05:44
who have clearly had an issue
with my husband and I
with my husband and I
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05:47
having chosen the path
of a dual-career couple.
of a dual-career couple.
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感到不解
05:50
So you get this well-meaning couple
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呢啲人會喺家庭聚會、朋友聚會上面
05:52
who tells you straight out
at a family gathering
at a family gathering
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05:55
or at a friends gathering,
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05:56
that, come on, you must know
you're not a great mom,
you're not a great mom,
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話你唔係個好媽媽
05:58
given how much you're investing
in your career, right?
in your career, right?
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因為你將好多心機擺喺工作裏邊
06:02
I would lie if I said
these words didn't hurt.
these words didn't hurt.
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如果我話呢啲話唔傷人，係呃人
仔女對我嚟講係最珍貴嘅
06:05
My children are the most
precious thing to me,
precious thing to me,
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任何覺得我會辜負仔女嘅諗法
都難以忍受
都難以忍受
06:07
and the thought that I could be
failing them in any way is intolerable.
failing them in any way is intolerable.
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06:12
But just like I did with John,
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但係就好似我對 John 咁
我好快就提醒自己呢啲係佢哋嘅問題
06:14
I quickly reminded myself
that these were their issues,
that these were their issues,
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係佢哋糾結
06:17
their complexes.
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06:19
So instead of replying,
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所以與其回答
我只係笑臉相迎
06:20
I gave back one of my largest smiles
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06:23
as I saw, in flashing light,
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因為有一樣嘢浮現喺我腦海裏面
06:25
the following sign in my mind's eye.
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[ 做人最緊要開心。]
06:27
[Be happy, it drives people crazy.]
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（掌聲）
06:29
(Applause)
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06:34
You see, as a young woman
in these situations, you have two options.
in these situations, you have two options.
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身陷呢啲情況嘅年輕女人
有兩個選擇
有兩個選擇
06:38
You can either decide
to internalize these negative messages
to internalize these negative messages
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一係選擇接收負能量
06:41
that are being thrown at you,
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06:42
to let them make you feel like a failure,
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令你覺得自己係失敗者
就好似成功永遠都遙不可及
06:44
like success is way too hard
to ever achieve,
to ever achieve,
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抑或係你視人哋嘅消極與你無關
06:47
or you can choose to see that others'
negativity is their own issue,
negativity is their own issue,
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並且將佢嘅消極轉化成你嘅積極
06:50
and instead transform it
into your own personal fuel.
into your own personal fuel.
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06:54
I have learned
to always go for option two,
to always go for option two,
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我往往會選擇第二個
我意識到咁會令到我內心更加強大
06:58
and I have found that it has taken me
from strength to strength.
from strength to strength.
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07:01
And it's true what they say:
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至理名言：
成功係最好嘅復仇
07:03
success is the best revenge.
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07:06
Some women in the Middle East
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一啲中東嘅女性可以嫁畀
一個支持佢哋事業嘅人
一個支持佢哋事業嘅人
07:08
are lucky enough to be married
to someone supportive of their career.
to someone supportive of their career.
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實在係三生有幸
糾正：應該係「有智慧」至真
07:11
Correction: I should say "smart enough,"
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因為你同邊個結婚，係你自己嘅選擇
07:14
because who you marry is your own choice,
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如果想有事業有長遠發展
你最好搵返個支持你嘅人
你最好搵返個支持你嘅人
07:16
and you'd better marry someone supportive
if you plan to have a long career.
if you plan to have a long career.
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07:21
Still today, the Arab man
is not an equal contributor in the home.
is not an equal contributor in the home.
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時至今日，阿拉伯男性依然
冇對家庭承擔起同等應負嘅責任
冇對家庭承擔起同等應負嘅責任
當然我哋嘅社會都冇期待過
07:25
It's simply not expected by our society,
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甚至認為係一種冇男子氣概嘅行為
07:27
and even frowned upon as not very manly.
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07:31
As for the Arab woman,
our society still assumes
our society still assumes
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至於阿拉伯女性，我哋嘅社會依然認為
一個女人嘅幸福應該嚟自於仔女同丈夫
07:34
that her primary source of happiness
should be the happiness and prosperity
should be the happiness and prosperity
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of her children and husband.
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女性為佢嘅家庭而生
07:39
She mostly exists for her family.
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07:43
Things are changing,
but it will take time.
but it will take time.
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但一切都會改變，只係需要時間啫
咁意味著，依家阿拉伯嘅職業女性
07:45
For now, it means
that the professional Arab woman
that the professional Arab woman
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既要想辦法維繫完美家庭
07:48
has to somehow maintain the perfect home,
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又要保證佢嘅細路仔嘅所有需求
得到滿足
得到滿足
07:51
make sure that her children's every need
is being taken care of
is being taken care of
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同時又要為高要求嘅工作拼搏
07:54
and manage her demanding career.
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07:57
To achieve this, I have found the hard way
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為咗做到曬以上三樣嘢
我搵到一個方法
我搵到一個方法
使你應用來之不易嘅職業技能
到個人生活上
到個人生活上
08:01
that you need to apply your hard-earned
professional skills to your personal life.
professional skills to your personal life.
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你需要活出你嘅生活
08:05
You need to work your life.
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08:08
Here is how I do this in my personal life.
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呢個就係我生活中嘅做法
08:12
One thing to know about the Middle East
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有一件關於中東嘅事係你要知道嘅
08:14
is that nearly every family
has access to affordable domestic help.
has access to affordable domestic help.
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就係幾乎每個家庭都請得起家庭工
08:19
The challenge therefore becomes
how to recruit effectively.
how to recruit effectively.
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因此難題就變成咗點樣有效招聘
08:23
Just like I would in my business life,
I have based the selection
I have based the selection
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就好似作為商人，我會傾向於選擇
既喺我工作嗰時
可以幫我照顧細路仔嘅人
可以幫我照顧細路仔嘅人
08:26
of who would support me
with my children while I'm at work
with my children while I'm at work
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08:29
on a strong referral.
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又係受人強烈推薦嘅
08:31
Cristina had worked
for four years with my sister
for four years with my sister
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Cristina 同我姐姐做咗四年工
佢嘅表現無可挑剔
08:34
and the quality of her work
was well-established.
was well-established.
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08:37
She is now an integral
member of our family,
member of our family,
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依家佢係我哋家庭不可缺少嘅一份子
從 Alia 6 個月大個時就同我們一齊生活
08:40
having been with us
since Alia was six months old.
since Alia was six months old.
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08:43
She makes sure that the house
is running smoothly while I'm at work,
is running smoothly while I'm at work,
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佢確保我工作嗰時屋企得到適切打理
而我會為佢提供一個
08:46
and I make sure to empower her
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對佢同我細路仔都最為適合嘅環境
08:49
in the most optimal conditions
for her and my children,
for her and my children,
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就好似我會喺工作中做到最好一樣
08:52
just like I would my best talent at work.
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呢個經驗對兒童都啱用
08:55
This lesson applies
whatever your childcare situation,
whatever your childcare situation,
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無論你用緊嘅係互惠生、托兒所
抑或兼職保姆
抑或兼職保姆
08:59
whether an au pair, nursery,
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09:01
part-time nanny
that you share with someone else.
that you share with someone else.
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看護人當然要非常謹慎咁揀
但亦都要放手畀看護人
但亦都要放手畀看護人
09:03
Choose very carefully, and empower.
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09:08
If you look at my calendar,
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如果你嚟睇睇我嘅日曆
你就會發現每個工作日嘅
09:09
you will see every working day
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09:11
one and a half hours
from 7pm to 8:30pm UAE time
from 7pm to 8:30pm UAE time
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晚上 7 點到 8 點半
呢一個半鐘
呢一個半鐘
09:15
blocked and called "family time."
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都劃做「家庭時間」
09:17
This is sacred time.
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呢個係「神聖」嘅時間
09:19
I have done this
ever since Alia was a baby.
ever since Alia was a baby.
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從 Alia 係嬰兒嗰時我就開始咁做
09:23
I do everything in my power
to protect this time
to protect this time
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我盡我一切所能去分配呢段時間
咁我就可以喺屋企
好好同我嘅細路仔共處
好好同我嘅細路仔共處
09:25
so that I can be home by then
to spend quality time with my children,
to spend quality time with my children,
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譬如問下佢哋今日過得點樣
09:28
asking them about their day,
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09:31
checking up on homework,
reading them a bedtime story
reading them a bedtime story
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檢查佢哋嘅功課
同佢哋講一個睡前故事
同佢哋講一個睡前故事
錫下佢哋、攬下佢哋
09:34
and giving them
lots of kisses and cuddles.
lots of kisses and cuddles.
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如果我去咗旅遊，無論喺邊個時區
09:36
If I'm traveling,
in whatever the time zone,
in whatever the time zone,
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儘管相隔千里
我都會用 Skype 同細路仔聯絡
我都會用 Skype 同細路仔聯絡
09:39
I use Skype to connect with my children
even if I am miles away.
even if I am miles away.
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09:44
Our son Burhan is five years old,
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我哋嘅仔仔 Burhan 依家五歲大
佢喺度學緊做簡單嘅數學題
09:46
and he's learning to read
and do basic maths.
and do basic maths.
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09:49
Here's another confession:
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我又要坦白另一件事：
我發現我哋個女比我更有效教仔仔數學
09:51
I have found that our daughter
is actually more successful
is actually more successful
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09:54
at teaching him these skills than I am.
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09:56
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
09:58
It started as a game, but Alia loves
playing teacher to her little brother,
playing teacher to her little brother,
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一開始只係一個遊戲
但 Alia 鍾意扮成老師教弟弟
但 Alia 鍾意扮成老師教弟弟
10:02
and I have found that these sessions
actually improve Burhan's literacy,
actually improve Burhan's literacy,
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而我發現呢個過程提高咗
Burhan 識字能力
Burhan 識字能力
增加咗 Alia 嘅責任感
10:08
increase Alia's sense of responsibility,
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同時令佢哋嘅感情更加深厚
10:10
and strengthen the bonding between them,
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咁係一件雙贏嘅事
10:12
a win-win all around.
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10:15
The successful Arab women I know
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我所知道嘅成功阿拉伯女性
都搵到獨特嘅方法去過佢哋嘅生活
10:17
have each found their unique approach
to working their life
to working their life
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同時仲要承受家庭重擔
10:20
as they continue to shoulder
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10:22
the lion's share
of responsibility in the home.
of responsibility in the home.
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但係呢個唔單只關乎同時勝任
職業女性同母親呢兩種角色
職業女性同母親呢兩種角色
10:25
But this is not just
about surviving in your dual role
about surviving in your dual role
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10:27
as a career woman and mother.
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10:29
This is also about being in the present.
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仲關乎活在當下
10:33
When I am with my children,
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當我同我嘅細路仔一齊嗰時
我盡力唔掂工作
10:34
I try to leave work out of our lives.
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與其擔心每日有幾多時間
可以同佢哋一齊
可以同佢哋一齊
10:37
Instead of worrying about how many minutes
I can spend with them every day,
I can spend with them every day,
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10:41
I focus on turning these minutes
into memorable moments,
into memorable moments,
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我會將天倫之樂轉化為美好嘅回憶
10:45
moments where I'm seeing my kids,
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所謂天倫之樂，就係我望住細路仔
聆聽佢哋心聲，同佢哋喺埋一齊
10:47
hearing them, connecting with them.
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[ 合作好過競爭。]
10:49
["Join forces, don't compete."]
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我呢一代嘅阿拉伯女性
10:51
Arab women of my generation
have not been very visible
have not been very visible
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冇好好得到公眾關注
10:53
in the public eye as they grew up.
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咁就可以解釋
10:55
This explains, I think, to some extent,
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點解阿拉伯世界咁少女性從政
10:57
why you find so few women
in politics in the Arab world.
in politics in the Arab world.
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11:01
The upside of this, however,
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但係，咁有一個好處
通過花費大量時間喺幕後
11:02
is that we have spent a lot of time
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11:04
developing a social skill
behind the scenes,
behind the scenes,
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包括咖啡店、客廳
11:09
in coffee shops, in living rooms,
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同電話裏面
11:10
on the phone,
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我哋發展出
一種對成功至關重要嘅社會技能：
一種對成功至關重要嘅社會技能：
11:12
a social skill that is
very important to success:
very important to success:
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網絡
11:14
networking.
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我可以講一般嘅阿拉伯女性
11:16
I would say the average Arab woman
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都有龐大嘅社交網絡
11:18
has a large network
of friends and acquaintances.
of friends and acquaintances.
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呢個網絡當中主要都係女性
11:20
The majority of those are also women.
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11:24
In the West, it seems like ambitious women
often compare themselves to other women
often compare themselves to other women
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喺西方，有野心嘅女人
似乎經常會將自己同人哋比較
似乎經常會將自己同人哋比較
希望被認受為最為出類拔萃嘅女人
11:28
hoping to be noticed as the most
successful woman in the room.
successful woman in the room.
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11:32
This leads to the much-spoken-about
competitive behavior
competitive behavior
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呢個就引伸出老生常談嘅
職業女性之間嘅競爭行為
11:35
between professional women.
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11:37
If there's only room
for one woman at the top,
for one woman at the top,
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如果最高職位只能夠畀一位女性坐
11:39
then you can't make room for others,
much less lift them up.
much less lift them up.
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其他人就冇機會上，更加唔好提拔
11:43
Arab women, generally speaking,
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一般嚟講，阿拉伯女性
冇踩入呢個心理陷阱
冇踩入呢個心理陷阱
11:45
have not fallen
for this psychological trap.
for this psychological trap.
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11:48
Faced with a patriarchal society,
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反而生活喺一個男尊女卑嘅社會
11:50
they have found
that by helping each other out,
that by helping each other out,
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佢哋發現互相幫助
會令所有人受惠
11:52
all benefit.
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11:55
In my previous job, I was the most
senior woman in the Middle East,
senior woman in the Middle East,
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我之前份工嘅職級
係中東國家婦女之中最高
係中東國家婦女之中最高
11:58
so one could think that investing
in my network of female colleagues
in my network of female colleagues
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所以有人會認為
我投資喺在職婦女身上毫無好處
我投資喺在職婦女身上毫無好處
12:02
couldn't bring many benefits
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反而認為我應該將自己嘅時間
12:03
and that I should instead invest my time
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發展同男性前輩、同輩嘅關係
12:06
developing my relationships
with male seniors and peers.
with male seniors and peers.
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12:09
Yet two of my biggest breaks
came through the support of other women.
came through the support of other women.
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但我兩個最大嘅突破
都源自其他女性嘅支持
都源自其他女性嘅支持
12:14
It was the head of marketing
who initially suggested
who initially suggested
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一位市場推廣巨頭最初建議
我以年輕全球領袖嘅身分
出席世界經濟論壇
出席世界經濟論壇
12:16
I be considered as a young global leader
to the World Economic Forum.
to the World Economic Forum.
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12:20
She was familiar with my media engagements
and my publications,
and my publications,
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佢熟悉我嘅媒體活動同出版物
12:23
and when she was asked
to voice her opinion,
to voice her opinion,
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當佢被邀請發表意見個時
佢提到我︰
12:25
she highlighted my name.
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12:27
It was a young consultant,
a Saudi lady and friend,
a Saudi lady and friend,
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「一位任職顧問嘅年輕沙特女性朋友
幫我推銷沙特第一個項目。
12:29
who helped me sell
my first project in Saudi Arabia,
my first project in Saudi Arabia,
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嗰時我因為女性身份屢屢碰壁，
12:32
a market I was finding hard
to gain traction in as a woman.
to gain traction in as a woman.
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12:36
She introduced me to a client,
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佢將我介紹畀一位顧客，
12:38
and that introduction led to the first
of very many projects for me in Saudi.
of very many projects for me in Saudi.
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到我後來接手做好多沙特嘅項目。
12:42
Today, I have two senior women on my team,
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依家，我嘅團隊裏面有兩位資深女性，
12:45
and I see making them successful
as key to my own success.
as key to my own success.
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我將佢哋嘅成功視為
自己成功嘅關鍵。」
自己成功嘅關鍵。」
12:50
Women continue to advance in the world,
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女性繼續進步
12:52
not fast enough, but we're moving.
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雖然唔夠快，但係我哋一直都進步緊
同樣，阿拉伯世界
雖然困難重重，都有進步
雖然困難重重，都有進步
12:54
The Arab world, too, is making progress,
despite many recent setbacks.
despite many recent setbacks.
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12:58
Just this year, the UAE appointed
five new female ministers to its cabinet,
five new female ministers to its cabinet,
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就喺今年，阿聯酋內閣
任命五位女性大臣
任命五位女性大臣
令女性大臣總共有八位
13:03
for a total of eight female ministers.
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13:06
That's nearly 28 percent of the cabinet,
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所占比例大概係內閣人數嘅 28％
13:09
and more than many
developed countries can claim.
developed countries can claim.
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遠多於好多發達國家政府內閣嘅比例
13:11
This is today my daughter
Alia's favorite picture.
Alia's favorite picture.
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呢張係我嘅女 Alia 最鍾意嘅相
13:15
This is the result,
no doubt, of great leadership,
no doubt, of great leadership,
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毫無疑問，呢個係
優秀領導之下嘅豐碩成果
優秀領導之下嘅豐碩成果
13:17
but it is also the result
of strong Arab women
of strong Arab women
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亦都係堅強嘅阿拉伯女性嘅奮鬥成果
13:20
not giving up and continuously
pushing the boundaries.
pushing the boundaries.
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佢哋從未放棄，為打破藩籬而孜孜不倦
13:23
It is the result of Arab women
deciding every day like me
deciding every day like me
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呢個結果反映阿拉伯女性好似我咁
每日將負能量轉換成動力
13:27
to convert shit into fuel,
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13:29
to work their life
to keep work out of their life,
to keep work out of their life,
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活出佢哋嘅生活，而平時唔講工作
13:32
and to join forces and not compete.
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唔鬥個你死我活，反之一齊合作
13:34
As I look to the future,
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當我展望未來
13:36
my hopes for my daughter
when she stands on this stage
when she stands on this stage
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我希望佢我嘅女
二三十年之後企喺呢個舞臺上
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some 20, 30 years from now
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因為自己係佢父母嘅女而自豪
13:40
are that she be as proud
to call herself her mother's daughter
to call herself her mother's daughter
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as her father's daughter.
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我希望我嘅仔長大之後
13:46
My hopes for my son
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are that by then, the expression
"her mother's son" or "mama's boy"
"her mother's son" or "mama's boy"
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「佢媽媽嘅仔」或者「媽咪嘅乖仔」
兩種嘅表述會有截然不同嘅意義
13:51
would have taken on
a completely different meaning.
a completely different meaning.
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Thank you.
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多謝
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(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Leila Hoteit - Women's advocateBCG's Leila Hoteit specializes in human capital and education throughout the Middle East.
Why you should listen
Dr. Leila Hoteit is a partner and managing director at BCG, based in Dubai. She leads the education and human capital development work in the Middle East.
Dr. Hoteit's career spans over 13 years in the management consulting industry. As part of her assignments, Dr. Hoteit has covered a slew of in-depth societal issues that punctuate the MENA region; these include education, women's empowerment, human capital development, employment and culture. Dr. Hoteit was named Young Global Leader for the World Economic Forum in 2014 -- a multi-stakeholder community of exceptional young leaders who share a commitment to shaping the global future. Dr. Hoteit holds a Bachelor's degree and PhD in Electrical Engineering from Imperial College London, as well as an MBA from France's INSEAD. She is the author of multiple patents.
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