TEDxToronto 2010
Neil Pasricha: The 3 A's of awesome
Neil Pasricha: Tri tajne fenomenalnog
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Blog Neila Pasricha "1000 fenomenalnih stvari" posvećen je jednostavnim životnim užicima, od besplatne kave pa do čistih plahti. U ovom srdačnom govoru s TEDxToronta, on otkriva tri tajne vođenja istinski fenomenalnog života.
Neil Pasricha - Director, The Institute for Global Happiness
Neil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity. Full bio
Neil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity. Full bio
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So the Awesome story:
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Fenomenalna priča:
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It begins about 40 years ago,
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ona počinje prije oko 40 godina
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when my mom and my dad came to Canada.
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kada su moji mama i tata došli u Kanadu.
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My mom left Nairobi, Kenya.
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Moja mama je napustila Nairobi u Keniji.
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My dad left a small village outside of Amritsar, India.
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Moj je tata napustio malo selo izvan Amritsara u Indiji.
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And they got here in the late 1960s.
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Stigli su ovamo u kasnim 1960ima.
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They settled in a shady suburb about an hour east of Toronto,
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Smjestili su se u sjenovitom predgrađu oko sat vremena istočno od Toronta.
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and they settled into a new life.
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I započeli su novi život.
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They saw their first dentist,
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Vidjeli su svog prvog zubara,
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they ate their first hamburger,
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pojeli svoj prvi hamburger
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and they had their first kids.
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i imali svoju prvu djecu.
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My sister and I
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Moja sestra i ja
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grew up here,
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smo ovdje odrasli
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and we had quiet, happy childhoods.
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i imali smo tiho, sretno djetinjstvo.
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We had close family,
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Imali smo blisku obitelj,
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good friends, a quiet street.
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dobre prijatelje, mirnu ulicu.
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We grew up taking for granted
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Odrasli smo uzimajući zdravo za gotovo
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a lot of the things that my parents couldn't take for granted
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mnoge stvari koje moji roditelji nisu mogli uzeti zdravo za gotovo
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when they grew up --
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kad su odrastali --
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things like power always on
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stvari poput toga da uvijek ima struje
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in our houses,
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u našim kućama,
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things like schools across the street
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stvari kao što su škole preko puta,
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and hospitals down the road
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bolnice uz cestu
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and popsicles in the backyard.
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i sladoled na štapiću u dvorištu.
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We grew up, and we grew older.
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Rasli smo i odrasli smo.
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I went to high school.
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Išao sam u srednju školu.
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I graduated.
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Diplomirao sam.
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I moved out of the house, I got a job,
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Iselio sam se iz kuće, našao posao,
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I found a girl, I settled down --
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našao djevojku, smirio se --
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and I realize it sounds like a bad sitcom or a Cat Stevens' song --
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shvaćam da to zvuči kao loša humoristička serija ili pjesma Cata Stevensa.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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but life was pretty good.
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Ali život je bio prilično dobar.
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Life was pretty good.
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Život je bio prilično dobar.
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2006 was a great year.
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2006. je bila izvrsna godina.
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Under clear blue skies in July in the wine region of Ontario,
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U srpnju, pod čistim plavim nebom vinogradarskog područja Ontarija,
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I got married,
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oženio sam se
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surrounded by 150 family and friends.
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okružen sa 150 članova obitelji i prijatelja.
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2007 was a great year.
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2007. je bila izvrsna godina.
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I graduated from school,
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Diplomirao sam
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and I went on a road trip with two of my closest friends.
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i otišao na putovanje sa svoja dva najbliža prijatelja.
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Here's a picture of me and my friend, Chris,
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Ovdje je slika mene i mog prijatelja Chrisa
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on the coast of the Pacific Ocean.
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na obali Tihog oceana.
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We actually saw seals out of our car window,
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Zapravo smo vidjeli tuljane kroz prozor našeg automobila
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and we pulled over to take a quick picture of them
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i parkirali se kako bismo ih na brzinu uslikali,
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and then blocked them with our giant heads.
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ali smo ih tada zaklonili svojim ogromnim glavama.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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So you can't actually see them,
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Tako da ih zapravo ne možete vidjeti,
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but it was breathtaking,
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ali pogled je oduzimao dah,
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believe me.
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vjerujte mi.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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2008 and 2009 were a little tougher.
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2008. i 2009. su bile malo teže.
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I know that they were tougher for a lot of people,
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Znam da su bile teže mnogim ljudima,
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not just me.
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a ne samo meni.
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First of all, the news was so heavy.
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Kao prvo, vijesti su bile tako teške.
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It's still heavy now, and it was heavy before that,
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Još uvijek su teške, i bile su teške prije toga,
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but when you flipped open a newspaper, when you turned on the TV,
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ali kada bi rastvorili novine, kada bi upalili televizor,
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it was about ice caps melting,
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bilo je o otapanju ledenih kapa,
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wars going on around the world,
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ratovima koji se vode širom svijeta,
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earthquakes, hurricanes
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zemljotresima, olujama
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and an economy that was wobbling on the brink of collapse,
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i ekonomiji koja je teturala na rubu propasti,
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and then eventually did collapse,
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a zatim konačno i propala,
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and so many of us losing our homes,
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i toliko nas je izgubilo svoje domove,
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or our jobs,
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ili svoja radna mjesta,
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or our retirements,
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ili svoje mirovine,
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or our livelihoods.
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ili svoja sredstva za život.
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2008, 2009 were heavy years for me for another reason, too.
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2008. i 2009. bile su za mene teške iz još jednog razloga.
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I was going through a lot of personal problems at the time.
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Prolazio sam kroz mnoge osobne probleme u to vrijeme.
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My marriage wasn't going well,
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Mom braku nije išlo dobro
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and we just were growing further and further apart.
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i samo smo se sve više i više udaljavali.
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One day my wife came home from work
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Jednog dana moja supruga je došla kući s posla
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and summoned the courage, through a lot of tears,
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i skupila hrabrosti, kroz mnogo suza,
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to have a very honest conversation.
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za vrlo iskren razgovor.
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And she said, "I don't love you anymore,"
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Rekla je: "Više te ne volim."
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and it was one of the most painful things I'd ever heard
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To je bila jedna od najbolnijih stvari koju sam ikada čuo
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and certainly the most heartbreaking thing I'd ever heard,
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i zasigurno stvar koja mi je dotad najviše slomila srce,
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until only a month later,
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sve dok mjesec dana kasnije
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when I heard something even more heartbreaking.
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nisam čuo nešto što mi je još više slamalo srce.
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My friend Chris, who I just showed you a picture of,
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Moj prijatelj Chris, čiju sam vam sliku maloprije pokazao,
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had been battling mental illness for some time.
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borio se neko vrijeme s mentalnom bolešću.
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And for those of you
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Oni među vama
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whose lives have been touched by mental illness,
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čiji su životi bili dirnuti mentalnom bolešću,
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you know how challenging it can be.
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znaju kako to može biti izazovno.
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I spoke to him on the phone at 10:30 p.m.
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Razgovarao sam s njim preko telefona u 22:30
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on a Sunday night.
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u nedjelju navečer.
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We talked about the TV show we watched that evening.
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Pričali smo o TV programu koji smo gledali tu večer.
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And Monday morning, I found out that he disappeared.
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A u ponedjeljak ujutro sam saznao kako je nestao.
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Very sadly, he took his own life.
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Vrlo tužno, oduzeo si je život.
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And it was a really heavy time.
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To je bilo stvarno teško vrijeme.
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And as these dark clouds were circling me,
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Dok su me okruživali ti tamni oblaci
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and I was finding it really, really difficult
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i dok mi je bilo stvarno, stvarno teško
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to think of anything good,
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misliti na bilo što dobro,
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I said to myself that I really needed a way
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rekao sam si da stvarno trebam način
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to focus on the positive somehow.
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da se nekako usredotočim na pozitivno.
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So I came home from work one night,
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Tako sam jedne noći došao kući s posla,
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and I logged onto the computer,
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logirao se na računalo
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and I started up a tiny website
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i započeo sičušnu web stranicu
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called 1000awesomethings.com.
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nazvanu "1000 fenomenalnih stvari" (1000awesomethings.com).
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I was trying to remind myself
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Pokušavao sam se podsjetiti
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of the simple, universal, little pleasures that we all love,
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na jednostavna, univerzalna, mala zadovoljstva koja svi mi volimo,
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but we just don't talk about enough --
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samo o njima dovoljno ne pričamo --
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things like waiters and waitresses
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stvari poput konobara i konobarica
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who bring you free refills without asking,
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koji vam donosu besplatnu kavu bez da to tražite,
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being the first table to get called up
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sjedenja za prvim stolom
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to the dinner buffet at a wedding,
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na večeri na vjenčanju,
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wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer,
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nošenja toplog donjeg rublja tek izvađenog iz sušilice,
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or when cashiers open up a new check-out lane at the grocery store
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ili kad blagajnici otvaraju novi red u trgovini
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and you get to be first in line --
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i uspijete biti prvi na redu --
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even if you were last at the other line, swoop right in there.
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čak i ako ste bili zadnji u onom drugom redu, ubacite se upravo ovdje.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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And slowly over time,
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I polako tijekom vremena,
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I started putting myself in a better mood.
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počeo sam biti sve boljeg raspoloženja.
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I mean, 50,000 blogs
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Mislim, 50.000 blogova
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are started a day,
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svakodnevno započinje.
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and so my blog was just one of those 50,000.
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Tako da je moj blog bio samo jedan od tih 50.000.
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And nobody read it except for my mom.
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Nitko ga nije čitao osim moje mame.
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Although I should say that my traffic did skyrocket
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Iako bih trebao reći da je moj promet dosegao vrhunce
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and go up by 100 percent
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i narastao 100%
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when she forwarded it to my dad.
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kada ga je proslijedila mome tati.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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And then I got excited
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Tada sam se uzbudio
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when it started getting tens of hits,
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kada je počeo dobivati na desetke posjeta.
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and then I started getting excited when it started getting dozens
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A zatim sam se počeo uzbuđivati kada je počeo dobivati tucete,
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and then hundreds and then thousands
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pa zatim stotine i onda tisuće
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and then millions.
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i zatim milijune posjeta.
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It started getting bigger and bigger and bigger.
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Počeo je biti sve veći i veći i veći.
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And then I got a phone call,
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Zatim samo primio telefonski poziv,
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and the voice at the other end of the line said,
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a glas s druge strane linije je rekao:
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"You've just won the Best Blog In the World award."
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"Upravo ste dobili nagradu za najbolji blog na svijetu."
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I was like, that sounds totally fake.
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To mi je zvučalo kao skroz lažno.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
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Which African country do you want me to wire all my money to?
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Kojoj afričkoj zemlji želite da preusmjerim sav svoj novac?
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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But it turns out, I jumped on a plane,
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Ali ispostavilo se da sam uskočio na avion
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and I ended up walking a red carpet
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i završio hodajući po crvenom tepihu
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between Sarah Silverman and Jimmy Fallon and Martha Stewart.
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između Sarah Silverman, Jimmya Fallona i Marthe Stewart.
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And I went onstage to accept a Webby award for Best Blog.
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Išao sam na pozornicu primiti Webby nagradu za "Najbolji blog".
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And the surprise
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Iznenađenje
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and just the amazement of that
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i zapanjenost svim tim
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was only overshadowed by my return to Toronto,
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zasjenio je samo moj povratak u Toronto
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when, in my inbox,
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gdje me u pristigloj pošti
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10 literary agents were waiting for me
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čekalo 10 književnih zastupnika
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to talk about putting this into a book.
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da popričaju sa mnom oko stavljanja toga u knjigu.
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Flash-forward to the next year
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Ubrzavanje u sljedeću godinu
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and "The Book of Awesome" has now been
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i "Knjiga fenomenalnog" sada je bila
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number one on the bestseller list for 20 straight weeks.
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broj jedan na listi najbolje prodavanijih knjiga punih 20 tjedana.
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(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
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But look, I said I wanted to do three things with you today.
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Ali gledajte, rekao sam da želim danas s vama učiniti tri stvari.
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I said I wanted to tell you the Awesome story,
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Rekao sam da vam želim ispričati fenomenalnu priču,
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I wanted to share with you the three As of Awesome,
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da želim s vama podijeliti tri tajne "Fenomenalnog"
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and I wanted to leave you with a closing thought.
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i da vas želim napustiti sa završnom misli.
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So let's talk about those three As.
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Hajdemo razgovarati o te tri tajne.
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Over the last few years,
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Tijekom zadnjih nekoliko godina
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I haven't had that much time to really think.
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nisam imao tako puno vremena stvarno razmišljati.
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But lately I have had the opportunity to take a step back
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Ali u zadnje vrijeme sam imao priliku odstupiti
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and ask myself: "What is it over the last few years
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i zapitati se: "Što mi je to tijekom zadnjih nekoliko godina
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that helped me grow my website,
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pomoglo da moja web stranica naraste,
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but also grow myself?"
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ali također da uvećam sebe?"
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And I've summarized those things, for me personally,
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Sažeo sam te stvari, za mene osobno,
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as three As.
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kao tri tajne.
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They are Attitude, Awareness
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One su: stav, svjesnost
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and Authenticity.
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i autentičnost.
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I'd love to just talk about each one briefly.
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Volio bih o svakoj od njih ukratko pričati.
06:58
So Attitude:
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Dakle, stav:
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Look, we're all going to get lumps,
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Gledajte, svi ćemo dobiti čvoruge
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and we're all going to get bumps.
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i svi ćemo dobiti šljive.
07:04
None of us can predict the future, but we do know one thing about it
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Nitko od nas ne može predvidjeti budućnost, ali znamo jednu stvar o njoj,
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and that's that it ain't gonna go according to plan.
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a to je da neće ići prema planu.
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We will all have high highs
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Svi ćemo imati vrhunce
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and big days and proud moments
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i velike dane i ponosne trenutke
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of smiles on graduation stages,
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osmijeha na promocijama,
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father-daughter dances at weddings
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plesova očeva i kćeri na vjenčanjima
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and healthy babies screeching in the delivery room,
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i zdravih beba koje vrište u rodilištu,
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but between those high highs,
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ali između tih vrhunaca
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we may also have some lumps and some bumps too.
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možemo imati i neke padove.
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It's sad, and it's not pleasant to talk about,
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Tužno je i nije ugodno o tome pričati,
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but your husband might leave you,
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ali vaš suprug bi vas mogao napustiti,
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your girlfriend could cheat,
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vaša djevojka bi vas mogla varati,
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your headaches might be more serious than you thought,
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vaše glavobolje mogle bi biti ozbiljnije nego što mislite,
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or your dog could get hit by a car on the street.
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ili bi vašeg psa mogao pregaziti auto na ulici.
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It's not a happy thought,
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To nije vesela pomisao,
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but your kids could get mixed up in gangs
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ali vaša bi se djeca mogla uplesti u bande
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or bad scenes.
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ili loše događaje.
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Your mom could get cancer,
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Vaša mama bi mogla dobiti rak,
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your dad could get mean.
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vaš tata bi mogao postati zloban.
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And there are times in life
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Bit će trenutaka u životu
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when you will be tossed in the well, too,
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kad ćete i vi biti bačeni na dno,
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with twists in your stomach and with holes in your heart,
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s grčevima u želucu i rupama u srcu.
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and when that bad news washes over you,
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A kada vas te loše vijesti preplave
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and when that pain sponges and soaks in,
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i kada se ta bol upije,
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I just really hope you feel
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stvarno se samo nadam da osjećate
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like you've always got two choices.
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kao da uvijek imate dva izbora.
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One, you can swirl and twirl
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Jedan, da se kovitlate
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and gloom and doom forever,
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i budete tmurni i osuđeni na propast zauvijek,
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or two, you can grieve
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ili drugi, da možete tugovati,
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and then face the future
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a zatim se okrenuti prema budućnosti
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with newly sober eyes.
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s novim trezvenim očima.
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Having a great attitude is about choosing option number two,
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Imati izvrstan stav znači izabrati mogućnost broj dva
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and choosing, no matter how difficult it is,
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i birati, bez obzira na to koliko je teško,
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no matter what pain hits you,
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bez obzira na to koliko vas bol pogađa,
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choosing to move forward and move on
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birati krenuti naprijed i nastaviti
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and take baby steps into the future.
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i poduzimati male korake prema budućnosti.
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The second "A" is Awareness.
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Druga tajna fenomenalnog je svjesnost.
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I love hanging out with three year-olds.
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Volim se družiti s trogodišnjacima.
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I love the way that they see the world,
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Volim način na koji oni vide svijet,
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because they're seeing the world for the first time.
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jer oni vide svijet po prvi puta.
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I love the way that they can stare at a bug crossing the sidewalk.
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Volim način na koji oni bulje u kukca koji prelazi pločnik.
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I love the way that they'll stare slack-jawed
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Volim način na koji će razrogačeno buljiti
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at their first baseball game
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na svojoj prvoj bejzbol utakmici
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with wide eyes and a mitt on their hand,
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široko otvorenih očiju i stisnute šake,
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soaking in the crack of the bat and the crunch of the peanuts
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upijajući zvukove i hrskanje kikirikija
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and the smell of the hotdogs.
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i miris hot-doga.
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I love the way that they'll spend hours picking dandelions in the backyard
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Volim način na koji će oni provesti sate berući maslačke u dvorištu
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and putting them into a nice centerpiece
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i staviti ih kao aranžman na sredinu stola
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for Thanksgiving dinner.
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za večeru na Dan zahvalnosti.
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I love the way that they see the world,
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Volim način na koji oni vide svijet,
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because they're seeing the world
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zato što vide svijet
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for the first time.
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po prvi puta.
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Having a sense of awareness
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Imati osjećaj svjesnosti
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is just about embracing your inner three year-old.
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jednostavno znači prihvaćati svog unutarnjeg trogodišnjaka.
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Because you all used to be three years old.
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Jer svi ste vi nekad bili trogodišnjaci.
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That three-year-old boy is still part of you.
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Taj trogodišnji dječak je još uvijek dio vas.
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That three-year-old girl is still part of you.
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Ta trogodišnja djevojčica je još uvijek dio vas.
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They're in there.
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Oni su tu unutra.
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And being aware is just about remembering
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Biti svjestan jednostavno znači sjetiti se
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that you saw everything you've seen
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da si sve što si vidio, vidio
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for the first time once, too.
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jednom po prvi puta.
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So there was a time when it was your first time ever
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Znači, postojao je trenutak koji je bio tvoj prvi put ikad
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hitting a string of green lights on the way home from work.
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da si pogodio niz zelenih svjetala na semaforu na putu kući s posla.
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There was the first time you walked by the open door of a bakery
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Postojao je prvi put kad si prošao kraj otvorenih vrata pekarnice
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and smelt the bakery air,
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i osjetio miris peciva
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or the first time you pulled a 20-dollar bill out of your old jacket pocket
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ili prvi puta kad si izvukao novčanicu od 20 dolara iz džepa svoje stare jakne
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and said, "Found money."
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i rekao: "Našao sam novac."
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The last "A" is Authenticity.
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Zadnja fenomenalna stvar je autentičnost.
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And for this one, I want to tell you a quick story.
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A u vezi toga želim vam ispričati kratku priču.
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Let's go all the way back to 1932
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Vratimo se svi u 1932. godinu
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when, on a peanut farm in Georgia,
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kada se, na farmi kikirikija u Georgiji,
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a little baby boy named Roosevelt Grier was born.
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rodio mali dječak po imenu Roosevelt Grier.
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Roosevelt Grier, or Rosey Grier, as people used to call him,
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Roosevelt Grier, ili Rosey Grier, kako su ga obično zvali,
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grew up and grew into
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rastao je i odrastao u
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a 300-pound, six-foot-five linebacker in the NFL.
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130 kg teškog i 2 m visokog igrača Nacionalne lige američkog nogometa.
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He's number 76 in the picture.
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On je broj 76 na slici.
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Here he is pictured with the "fearsome foursome."
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Ovdje je uslikan s "Fantastičnom četvorkom".
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These were four guys on the L.A. Rams in the 1960s
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To su četvorica momaka iz momčadi L.A. Ramsa 1960ih
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you did not want to go up against.
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kojima se ne želite suprostaviti.
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They were tough football players doing what they love,
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Oni su bili žilavi nogometaši koji su radili ono što vole,
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which was crushing skulls
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a to je bilo drobljenje lubanja
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and separating shoulders on the football field.
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i odvajanje ramenima na nogometnom terenu.
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But Rosey Grier also had
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Ali Rosey Grier imao je
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another passion.
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još jednu strast.
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In his deeply authentic self,
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Duboko u svom autentičnom Ja
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he also loved needlepoint. (Laughter)
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volio je i ručni rad.
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He loved knitting.
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Volio je kukičati.
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He said that it calmed him down, it relaxed him,
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Rekao je da ga je to smirivalo, opuštalo,
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it took away his fear of flying and helped him meet chicks.
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uklanjalo strah od letenja i pomagalo mu da upozna komade.
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That's what he said.
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Tako je rekao.
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I mean, he loved it so much that, after he retired from the NFL,
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Mislim, toliko je to volio da se nakon umirovljenja
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he started joining clubs.
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počeo uključivati u klubove.
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And he even put out a book
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Čak je izdao knjigu
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called "Rosey Grier's Needlepoint for Men."
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nazvanu "Gobleni za muškarce Roseya Griera".
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
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It's a great cover.
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Izvrstan naslov.
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If you notice, he's actually needlepointing his own face.
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Ako primjećujete, on zapravo plete vlastito lice.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
11:09
And so what I love about this story
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Ono što volim u vezi te priče
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is that Rosey Grier
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je to da je Rosey Grier
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is just such an authentic person,
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tako autentična osoba.
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and that's what authenticity is all about.
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A to je ono o čemu se radi kod autentičnosti.
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It's just about being you and being cool with that.
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To znači biti svoj i biti ok s time.
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And I think when you're authentic,
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Mislim da, kada si autentičan,
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you end up following your heart,
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završiš tako da slijediš svoje srce
11:25
and you put yourself in places
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i stavljaš se na mjesta,
11:27
and situations and in conversations
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u situacije i razgovore
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that you love and that you enjoy.
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koje voliš i u kojima uživaš.
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You meet people that you like talking to.
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Srećeš ljude s kojima voliš razgovarati.
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You go places you've dreamt about.
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Ideš na mjesta o kojima si sanjao.
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And you end you end up following your heart
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I završiš slijedeći svoje srce
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and feeling very fulfilled.
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i osjećaš se vrlo ispunjeno.
11:40
So those are the three A's.
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To su tri tajne fenomenalnog.
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For the closing thought, I want to take you all the way back
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Za završnu misao, želim vas odvesti u vrijeme
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to my parents coming to Canada.
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kad su moji roditelji došli u Kanadu.
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I don't know what it would feel like
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Ne znam kakav bi to bio osjećaj
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coming to a new country when you're in your mid-20s.
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doći u novu zemlju kad si u svojim dvadesetima.
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I don't know, because I never did it,
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Ne znam, jer nisam to nikada napravio.
11:55
but I would imagine that it would take a great attitude.
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Ali mogu misliti da je za to potreban izvrstan stav.
11:58
I would imagine that you'd have to be pretty aware of your surroundings
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Mogu zamisliti da biste trebali biti prilično svjesni svojeg okruženja
12:01
and appreciating the small wonders
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i cijeniti mala čuda
12:03
that you're starting to see in your new world.
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kada započinjete gledati svoj novi svijet.
12:06
And I think you'd have to be really authentic,
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Mislim da biste trebali biti stvarno autentični,
12:08
you'd have to be really true to yourself
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da biste trebali biti stvarno iskreni prema sebi
12:10
in order to get through what you're being exposed to.
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kako biste prošli ono čemu biste bili izloženi.
12:14
I'd like to pause my TEDTalk
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Sada bih želio zastati sa svojim TED govorom
12:16
for about 10 seconds right now,
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na oko 10 sekundi,
12:18
because you don't get many opportunities in life to do something like this,
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jer u životu ne dobijete puno prilika da učinite nešto poput ovog,
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and my parents are sitting in the front row.
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a moji roditelji sjede u prvom redu.
12:22
So I wanted to ask them to, if they don't mind, stand up.
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Želio sam ih zamoliti da, ako im to ne smeta, ustanu.
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And I just wanted to say thank you to you guys.
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I samo vam želim reći "Hvala!"
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(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
12:45
When I was growing up, my dad used to love telling the story
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Dok sam odrastao, moj tata je volio pričati priču
12:48
of his first day in Canada.
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o svom prvom danu u Kanadi.
12:50
And it's a great story, because what happened was
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To je izvrsna priča, jer se dogodilo to
12:53
he got off the plane at the Toronto airport,
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da je sišao s aviona na aerodromu u Torontu
12:56
and he was welcomed by a non-profit group,
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i dočekala ga je neprofitna grupa
12:58
which I'm sure someone in this room runs.
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za koju sam siguran da je vodi netko u ovoj prostoriji.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
13:02
And this non-profit group had a big welcoming lunch
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Ta neprofitna udruga organizirala je veliki ručak dobrodošlice
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for all the new immigrants to Canada.
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za sve nove useljenike u Kanadu.
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And my dad says he got off the plane and he went to this lunch
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Moj tata kaže da je sišao s aviona i otišao na taj ručak
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and there was this huge spread.
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i tamo je bio taj ogromni stol s hranom.
13:13
There was bread, there was those little, mini dill pickles,
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Bilo je kruha, bilo je onih malih, mini krastavaca,
13:16
there was olives, those little white onions.
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bilo je maslina, onog malog bijelog luka.
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There was rolled up turkey cold cuts,
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Bilo je narezaka od puretine,
13:20
rolled up ham cold cuts, rolled up roast beef cold cuts
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narezaka od šunke, narezaka od pečene govedine
13:22
and little cubes of cheese.
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i malih kockica sira.
13:24
There was tuna salad sandwiches and egg salad sandwiches
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Bili su sendviči sa salatom od tune, salatom od jaja
13:27
and salmon salad sandwiches.
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i salatom od lososa.
13:29
There was lasagna, there was casseroles,
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Bilo je lazanja, složenaca,
13:31
there was brownies, there was butter tarts,
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bilo je čokoladnih kolača, bilo je kolača s putrom
13:34
and there was pies, lots and lots of pies.
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i bilo je pita, mnogo pita.
13:37
And when my dad tells the story, he says,
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Kad moj tata priča ovu priču, on kaže:
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"The craziest thing was, I'd never seen any of that before, except bread.
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"Najluđa stvar je bila ta da ništa od toga nikad prije nisam vidio, osim kruha."
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
13:45
I didn't know what was meat, what was vegetarian.
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Nisam znao što je bilo meso, a što vegetarijansko;
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I was eating olives with pie.
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jeo sam masline s pitom."
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
13:52
I just couldn't believe how many things you can get here."
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"Jednostavno nisam mogao vjerovati koliko stvari možeš tu dobiti."
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
13:57
When I was five years old,
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Kad sam imao pet godina
13:59
my dad used to take me grocery shopping,
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tata me često vodio u kupnju namjernica.
14:01
and he would stare in wonder
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I u čudu bi buljio
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at the little stickers that are on the fruits and vegetables.
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u male naljepnice na voću i povrću.
14:06
He would say, "Look, can you believe they have a mango here from Mexico?
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Rekao bi: "Vidi, možeš li vjerovati da ovdje imaju mango iz Meksika?
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They've got an apple here from South Africa.
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Imaju jabuke iz Južne Afrike.
14:12
Can you believe they've got a date from Morocco?"
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Možeš li vjerovati da imaju datulje iz Maroka?"
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He's like, "Do you know where Morocco even is?"
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"Znaš li uopće gdje je Maroko?"
14:18
And I'd say, "I'm five. I don't even know where I am.
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A ja bih rekao: "Imam pet godina. Ne znam čak ni gdje sam ja.
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Is this A&P?"
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Je li ovo supermarket?"
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And he'd say, "I don't know where Morocco is either, but let's find out."
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On bi rekao: "Niti ja ne znam gdje je Maroko, ali idemo saznati."
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And so we'd buy the date, and we'd go home.
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Tako bismo kupili datulje i otišli kući.
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And we'd actually take an atlas off the shelf,
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Zaista bismo uzeli atlas s police
14:31
and we'd flip through until we found this mysterious country.
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i listali ga sve dok nismo pronašli tu tajnovitu zemlju.
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And when we did, my dad would say,
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Kad bismo je našli, moja tata bi rekao:
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"Can you believe someone climbed a tree over there,
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"Možeš li vjerovati da se netko tamo popeo na drvo,
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picked this thing off it, put it in a truck,
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ubrao tu stvar, stavio ju u kamion,
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drove it all the way to the docks
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odvezao ju skroz do dokova,
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and then sailed it all the way
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a zatim plovio cijelim putem
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across the Atlantic Ocean
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preko Atlantskog oceana,
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and then put it in another truck
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zatim to stavio u drugi kamion
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and drove that all the way to a tiny grocery store just outside our house,
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i odvezao skroz do male trgovine upravo pred našom kućom,
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so they could sell it to us for 25 cents?"
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da bi nam to prodao za 25 centa?"
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And I'd say, "I don't believe that."
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Ja bih rekao: "Ne vjerujem u to."
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And he's like, "I don't believe it either.
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A on: "Ni ja ne vjerujem.
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Things are amazing. There's just so many things to be happy about."
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Stvari su nevjerojatne. Ima toliko puno stvari za veseliti se."
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When I stop to think about it, he's absolutely right.
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Kada zastanem i razmislim o tome, u potpunosti je u pravu;
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There are so many things to be happy about.
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postoji toliko puno stvari za veseliti se.
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We are the only species
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Mi smo jedina vrsta
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on the only life-giving rock
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na jedinoj stijeni koja daje život
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in the entire universe that we've ever seen,
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u cijelom svemiru kojeg smo ikad vidjeli,
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capable of experiencing
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sposobna iskusiti
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so many of these things.
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toliko tih stvari.
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I mean, we're the only ones with architecture and agriculture.
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Mislim, mi smo jedini s arhitekturom i poljoprivredom.
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We're the only ones with jewelry and democracy.
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Mi smo jedini s nakitom i demokracijom.
15:25
We've got airplanes, highway lanes,
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Imamo avione, auto-ceste,
15:28
interior design and horoscope signs.
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dizajn interijera i horoskopske znakove.
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We've got fashion magazines, house party scenes.
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Imamo modne časopise, kućne zabave.
15:33
You can watch a horror movie with monsters.
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Možete gledati horror film sa čudovištima.
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You can go to a concert and hear guitars jamming.
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Možete otići na koncert i čuti nabijanje gitara.
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We've got books, buffets and radio waves,
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Imamo knjige, postavljene stolove za goste i radio valove,
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wedding brides and rollercoaster rides.
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mlade na vjenčanju i vožnje na vrtuljku.
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You can sleep in clean sheets.
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Možete spavati na čistim plahtama.
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You can go to the movies and get good seats.
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Možete ići u kino i dobiti dobra sjedala.
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You can smell bakery air, walk around with rain hair,
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Možete osjetiti miris peciva u zraku, šetati po kiši mokre kose,
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pop bubble wrap or take an illegal nap.
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pucketati omot sa mjehurićima ili ilegalno zadrijemati.
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We've got all that,
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Imamo sve to,
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but we've only got 100 years to enjoy it.
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ali imamo samo 100 godina da u tome uživamo.
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And that's the sad part.
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To je tužan dio.
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The cashiers at your grocery store,
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Blagajnici u vašoj trgovini,
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the foreman at your plant,
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šef u vašoj tvornici,
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the guy tailgating you home on the highway,
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tip koji se vozi preblizu iza vas na autocesti na putu kući,
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the telemarketer calling you during dinner,
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telefonski prodavač koji vas nazove za vrijeme večere,
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every teacher you've ever had,
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svaki učitelj kog ste ikada imali,
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everyone that's ever woken up beside you,
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svatko kraj koga ste se ikada probudili,
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every politician in every country,
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svaki političar u svakoj zemlji,
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every actor in every movie,
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svaki glumac u svakom filmu,
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every single person in your family, everyone you love,
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svaka pojedina osoba u vašoj obitelji, svatko koga volite,
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everyone in this room and you
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svatko u ovoj sobi i vi
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will be dead in a hundred years.
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bit ćete mrtvi za manje od stotinu godina.
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Life is so great that we only get such a short time
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Život je tako sjajan, a mi imamo tako malo vremena
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to experience and enjoy
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da iskusimo i uživamo
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all those tiny little moments that make it so sweet.
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u svim tim malim trenucima koji ga čine tako slatkim.
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And that moment is right now,
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A taj trenutak je upravo sada,
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and those moments are counting down,
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i ti se trenuci odbrojavaju,
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and those moments are always, always, always fleeting.
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i ti trenuci uvijek, uvijek brzo prolaze.
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You will never be as young as you are right now.
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Nikad nećete biti tako mladi kao što ste upravo sada.
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And that's why I believe that if you live your life
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I zato vjerujem da, ako živite svoj život
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with a great attitude,
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s izvrsnim stavom,
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choosing to move forward and move on
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ako birate ići naprijed i nastaviti
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whenever life deals you a blow,
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kad god vas život obori,
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living with a sense of awareness of the world around you,
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ako živite s osjećajem svjesnosti o svijetu oko sebe,
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embracing your inner three year-old
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ako prihvaćate svog unutarnjeg trogodišnjaka
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and seeing the tiny joys that make life so sweet
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i vidite sitne radosti koje život čine tako slatkim
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and being authentic to yourself,
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i autentični ste sami sebi,
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being you and being cool with that,
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tako što ste svoji i s tim ste u redu,
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letting your heart lead you and putting yourself in experiences that satisfy you,
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ako puštate da vas vodi srce i stavljate se u situacije koje vas zadovoljavaju,
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then I think you'll live a life
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tada mislim da ćete živjeti život
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that is rich and is satisfying,
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koji je bogat i koji vas zadovoljava,
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and I think you'll live a life that is truly awesome.
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i mislim da živite život koji je istinski fenomenalan,
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Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Neil Pasricha - Director, The Institute for Global HappinessNeil Pasricha is the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Equation and serves as the Director of the Institute for Global Happiness after a decade running leadership development inside Walmart. He is one the world's leading authorities on happiness and positivity.
Why you should listen
In 2008, Neil Pasricha's world fell apart after a sudden divorce and death of a close friend. He channeled his energies into his blog 1000 Awesome Things, which counted down one small pleasure -- like snow days, bakery air or finding money in your coat pocket -- every single day for 1000 straight days. While writing his blog, Neil was working as Director of Leadership Development inside Walmart, the world's largest company. He continued working there when his books The Book of Awesome, The Book of (Even More) Awesome and Awesome is Everywhere were published and started climbing bestseller lists and shipping millions of copies.
Years later, he fell in love again and got married. On the airplane home from his honeymoon, his wife told him she was pregnant, and Neil began writing again. The result was a 300-page letter written to his unborn son sharing the nine secrets to finding true happiness. That letter has evolved into The Happiness Equation.
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