Thomas Curran: Our dangerous obsession with perfectionism is getting worse
Thomas Curran: Obsesi berbahaya kita akan kesempurnaan bertambah semakin parah
Thomas Curran studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops and its impact on mental health. Full bio
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berbicara seperti itu?
have you heard that one?
or perhaps with family at Thanksgiving.
atau saat acara selamatan keluarga
tersulit di akhir wawancara kerja
at job interviews:
that supposedly holds us back,
harusnya menghalangi kita,
bisa angkat tangan
are quite happy to hold our hands up
and serious point
kesempurnaan ada di mana-mana
for perfection is so pervasive
mempertanyakan konsep itu sendiri.
that concept in its own terms.
dan masyarakat kita
terhadap kesempurnaan?
of celebration in perfection?
perfeksionis sebagai simbol harga diri.
as an insignia of worth.
tentang perfeksionisme,
that perfectionists are more successful.
orang perfeksionis itu sedikit
dan tidak puas
mereka tidak cukup sempurna.
that they're never quite perfect enough.
banyak masalah kejiwaan,
a host of psychological difficulties,
anoreksia, bulimia
anxiety, anorexia, bulimia
dalam 25 tahun terakhir ini,
is that over the last 25 years,
secara mengkhawatirkan.
at an alarming rate.
yang mengalami masalah kejiwaan
among young people than ever before.
dua puluh tahun terakhir.
across the last two decades.
bermunculan di sekitar Kanada,
emerge across Canada,
the United Kingdom.
seiring dengan berubahnya masyarakat.
as society is changing.
mengubah identitas pribadi kita
a changed sense of personal identity
in which young people interact
dan dunia di sekitar mereka.
kita yang berbasis pasar
about our preeminent, market-based society
like unrestricted choice
that we feel are contributing
sumbangkan
menyebar ke semua orang.
with the attainment of the perfect life
fokus memperoleh kehidupan
dan kekayaan mereka.
status and wealth.
kaum muda
menyatakan kekayaan materiil
to report being materially rich
dalam hidup mereka,
and their grandparents.
than did older generations,
kaum muda sering meminjam uang
of their income on image goods
pendapatan mereka untuk barang-barang
dan gaya kehidupan mereka
their lives and their lifestyles
on the ubiquitous social media platforms
media sosial populer
lebih penting daripada realita hidup.
is far more important than the reality.
furnished for young people
untuk kaum muda
a perfectible life
yang bisa kita sempurnakan
for those who want it badly enough.
mereka yang berkeinginan besar.
of the American dream.
mimpi orang Amerika.
usaha sendiri, kerja keras.
the self-made person, hard work.
selalu membuahkan hasil.
kitalah yang mengendalikan takdir sendiri.
that we're captains of our own destiny.
mengaitkan kekayaan, status,
our wealth, our status
harga dalam diri kita sendiri.
personal value.
untuk semua orang memang ada,
equality of opportunity,
of our own destiny
dari takdir kita sendiri
reality for young people
lebih kelam untuk kaum muda
ongoing economic tribunal.
ekonomi yang hampir selalu berputar.
dari kemampuan kita
for which merit can be quantified
ke dalam sekolah, kelas, dan kampus.
into schools, classes and colleges.
is so publicly played out
dilakukan
pencapaian dan performa.
and performance.
di SMA kota besar di Amerika
big city high schools
standarisasi wajib
di akhir kelas 12.
and the end of 12th grade.
mereka harus berusaha keras,
a strong need to strive,
pencapaian di tengah kehidupan modern.
at the center of modern life.
to define themselves
menciptakan diri mereka sendiri
of grades, percentiles and lead tables.
seperti nilai, persentil, dan peringkat.
tidak percaya diri dalam kaum muda.
on their insecurities.
how they are performing
to other people.
their imperfections.
ketidaksempurnaan mereka.
tidak terduga
menjadi lebih sempurna lain kali,
more perfectly next time, or else,
is especially pervasive --
cukup bagus itu ada sepanjang waktu --
as that Instagram influencer,
banyak orang muda,
of perfectionism firsthand.
perfeksionisme pada mereka
in my mind very vividly.
he was exceptionally high-achieving,
sangat berprestasi,
grades for his work.
pencapaian John,
sebagai kegagalan besar,
his successes as abject failures,
mengecewakan diri sendiri dan orang lain.
how he'd let himself and others down.
than other people
yang tidak mengenal kata menyerah,
his unrelenting work ethic,
what he saw as his inner weakness
kelemahan terbesarnya
to the harmfulness of perfectionism
bahaya dari sifat perfeksionis
perfecting things or perfecting tasks.
suatu benda atau tugas Anda.
menyempurnakan diri sendiri.
is about perfecting the self.
diri sendiri yang tidak sempurna.
perfecting an imperfect self.
sebuah gunung pencapaian
like a mountain of achievement
karena suruhan perfeksionisme.
to imagine ourselves scaling.
"Kalau aku sudah mencapai puncak gunung,
"Once I've reached that summit,
and I'll be worth something."
dan aku akan jadi lebih bernilai."
penuh rasa malu dan tidak percaya diri.
lowlands of insecurity and shame,
seorang perfeksionis tidak bisa mundur.
a perfectionist just cannot step off.
to a host of psychological problems,
masalah gangguan jiwa,
a good way to measure it.
tidak pernah ada.
Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett,
Paul Hewitt dan Gordon Flett,
untuk perfeksionisme.
a self-report measure of perfectionism.
you can measure this,
three core elements of perfectionism.
elemen utama dari perfeksionisme.
pada diri sendiri,
yang aku bisa."
prescribed perfectionism,
menuntut Anda berlebihan:
is excessively demanding:
banyak meminta dariku."
are too demanding of me."
berorientasi pada orang lain,
other-oriented perfectionism,
standards on other people:
memenuhi standar berlebihan Anda:
I expect it to be done perfectly."
aku mau hasilnya sempurna."
unsur perfeksionisme
three elements of perfectionism
like heightened depression,
keinginan untuk bunuh diri.
element of perfectionism
yang paling bermasalah adalah
mengharap kesempurnaan dari kita.
expects me to be perfect.
gangguan mental serius.
with serious mental illness.
kesempurnaan daripada kesehatan jiwa,
at the forefront of my mind,
perfeksionisme ini berubah
elements of perfectionism were changing.
hanya berfokus pada hubungan keluarga,
is focused on immediate family relations,
ruang lingkup lebih luas,
at a broader level.
that had ever been collected
yang sudah pernah dikumpulkan
developed that perfectionism measure,
mengembangkan tolak ukur perfeksionisme,
in college students.
more than 40,000 young people
and British colleges,
we looked to see if there was a trend.
kami mengamati apakah ada pola tertentu.
lebih dari 3 tahun
more than three years
crunch the numbers,
menghitung semua data angka,
uncovered something alarming.
analisis kami menemukan suatu bahaya.
malah terus meningkat dari waktu ke waktu.
have increased over time.
sosial justru paling besar sejauh ini.
saw the largest increase, and by far.
gejala klinis
report clinically relevant levels
kita lihat dari pasien tertentu.
typically see in clinical populations.
naik 2x lipat hingga 18%.
had doubled to 18 percent.
model yang telah kami uji coba
based on the models that we tested
anak muda
in three young people
perfeksionisme sosial
of socially prescribed perfectionism.
of perfectionism
gangguan mental serius,
with serious mental illness,
keharusan kuat
feel a unrelenting need
yesterday's expectation of perfection,
kesempurnaan yang lalu,
mereka hingga jauh lebih tinggi
to an even higher degree
performa mereka,
that the better they do,
parah lagi, keputusasaan mendalam lahir
of helplessness and, worse, hopelessness.
percaya hal-hal tertentu --
hold on to certain things --
ambisius, tekun, dan rajin.
conscientious and hardworking.
diri Anda sendiri,
ketika semua tidak berjalan baik,
when things don't go well,
menjadi kedamaian dan kesuksesan pribadi.
into greater personal peace and success.
we can do as caregivers.
sebagai pengasuh.
pertumbuhan,
in our formative years,
when they've tried but failed.
mereka gagal meski sudah berusaha.
yang bisa dipahami
their understandable urge
to helicopter-parent,
masyarakat sekarang yang amat kompetitif,
successes and failures as their own.
dan kegagalan anak sebagai milik pribadi.
sejumlah pertanyaan penting
raises important questions
on competition, evaluation and testing
menekankan kompetisi dan evaluasi
for public figures to say
yang mengatakan
sedikit lebih tangguh
a little bit more resilience
baru yang tak terduga.
and unprecedented pressures.
menghindari inti masalah ini
washing our hands of the core issue
yang tidak terlalu menekankan kesempurnaan
in which young people need less perfection
tantangan yang sangat besar,
is an enormous challenge,
penuh standar nilai, peringkat,
in the 24/7 spotlight
to other people.
di hadapan orang lain.
from that mountaintop,
puncak gunung kesempurnaan,
but to try scaling that peak again.
selain mencapai puncak itu lagi.
naik turun gunung yang sama
up and down the same mountain
was a man called Sisyphus,
adalah pria bernama Sisyphus,
the same boulder up a hill,
batu besar yang sama ke atas bukit,
and have to start again.
batunya selalu menggelinding turun.
or meaningful in their lives
dalam hidup mereka hanyalah
future generations
berikutnya
kesia-siaan yang sama.
fundamentally inhuman
kita kabur dari jebakan perfeksionisme,
escape the trap of perfectionism,
dunia yang tidak teratur ini,
that in a chaotic world,
tapi itu bukan masalah.
kita lepas dari jeratan setan
outgrow this self-defeating snare
lingkungan tanpa delusi kesempurnaan.
that has outgrown that very same delusion.
menikmati kesehatan
to enjoy mental, emotional
to celebrate the joys
kebahagiaan
hari kita hidup dan mengasihi sesama.
of everyday living and loving.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Thomas Curran - Social and personality psychologistThomas Curran studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops and its impact on mental health.
Why you should listen
Social and personality psychologist Thomas Curran is a member of the Centre for Motivation and Health Behavior Change in Bath, UK; the Motivation, Personality, and Well-being research group in York, UK; and is currently an assistant professor in the Department for Health at the University of Bath. His research rose to prominence following a 2017 publication of the first systems-level cohort study to show that perfectionism is on the rise in American, Canadian and British college students. Since then, he has written and spoken extensively on how we have created societies perfectly calibrated to promote perfectionism, which is contributing to almost epidemic levels of serious mental illness among young people. Curran is the author of over 30 published papers and has received numerous awards for his scholarship and research.
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