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Ione Wells: How we talk about sexual assault online
艾奥·威尔斯: 如何在网上讨论性侵行为
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作家兼运动家艾奥·威尔斯说，在社交媒体上应对社会不公时，需要三思而后行。她在伦敦遭遇性侵后，在当地的学生报刊上向其施暴者发表了一封信，引起了广大的网络反响，并发起了“不羞愧”运动来抵抗性暴力和责怪受害者行为。在这场生动的演讲中，她向我们描述了她是如何通过分享自己的经历给与他人希望，并向我们传达了抵制网络羞耻文化这一信息。
Ione Wells - Writer, activist
University student Ione Wells is the founder of the international #NotGuilty campaign against sexual violence and misdirected victim blaming. Full bio
University student Ione Wells is the founder of the international #NotGuilty campaign against sexual violence and misdirected victim blaming. Full bio
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00:13
It was April, last year.
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去年四月的一天晚上，
00:15
I was on an evening out with friends
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我和朋友们出去聚会，
00:17
to celebrate one of their birthdays.
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庆祝其中一个朋友的生日。
00:19
We hadn't been all together
for a couple of weeks;
for a couple of weeks;
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我们有好几个礼拜没聚过了，
00:22
it was a perfect evening,
as we were all reunited.
as we were all reunited.
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重聚让那个晚上很完美。
00:25
At the end of the evening,
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接近尾声的时候，
00:26
I caught the last underground train
back to the other side of London.
back to the other side of London.
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我搭上最后一趟地铁，
赶回了伦敦的另一头。
赶回了伦敦的另一头。
00:30
The journey was smooth.
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一路上都挺顺利的。
00:32
I got back to my local station
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到站下车后
00:34
and I began the 10-minute walk home.
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还需要走十分钟才能到家。
00:37
As I turned the corner onto my street,
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转过这条街角，
00:39
my house in sight up ahead,
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就可以看到我家，
00:41
I heard footsteps behind me
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我听见身后有脚步声，
00:43
that seemed to have
approached out of nowhere
approached out of nowhere
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不知道从哪突然冒出来的，
00:45
and were picking up pace.
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脚步声越来越急促。
00:47
Before I had time to process
what was happening,
what was happening,
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还没等我反应过来是怎么回事，
00:50
a hand was clapped around my mouth
so that I could not breathe,
so that I could not breathe,
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一只手捂住了我的嘴，
使我无法呼吸，
使我无法呼吸，
00:53
and the young man behind me
dragged me to the ground,
dragged me to the ground,
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身后的年轻人把我拽倒在地，
00:56
beat my head repeatedly
against the pavement
against the pavement
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不停的将我的头部砸向地面
00:58
until my face began to bleed,
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直到我的脸开始流血，
01:00
kicking me in the back and neck
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用脚踢我的背部和颈部，
01:02
while he began to assault me,
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他开始对我性侵，
01:04
ripping off my clothes
and telling me to "shut up,"
and telling me to "shut up,"
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撕裂我的衣服并让我闭嘴，
01:06
as I struggled to cry for help.
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当时我挣扎着想要呼救。
01:09
With each smack of my head
to the concrete ground,
to the concrete ground,
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每次当我的头部被撞向地面时，
01:11
a question echoed through my mind
that still haunts me today:
that still haunts me today:
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我都在想一个至今仍然
笼罩着我的问题：
笼罩着我的问题：
01:15
"Is this going to be how it all ends?"
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“我将如此死去吗？”
01:18
Little could I have realized,
I'd been followed the whole way
I'd been followed the whole way
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我毫无察觉，那人竟从我下车之后
01:21
from the moment I left the station.
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一直跟踪我。
01:23
And hours later,
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过了几个小时，
01:24
I was standing topless and barelegged
in front of the police,
in front of the police,
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我赤身裸体的来到警察局，
01:28
having the cuts and bruises
on my naked body photographed
on my naked body photographed
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我身上的割伤和淤青被拍照，
01:31
for forensic evidence.
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当做法医证据。
01:33
Now, there are few words to describe
the all-consuming feelings
the all-consuming feelings
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几乎没有语言能够
描述出当时我绝望的感受，
描述出当时我绝望的感受，
01:37
of vulnerability, shame, upset
and injustice that I was ridden with
and injustice that I was ridden with
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脆弱、羞耻、苦恼和不公正，
01:40
in that moment and for the weeks to come.
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之后的几周也是如此。
01:43
But wanting to find a way
to condense these feelings
to condense these feelings
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但我想找到一种方法，
能把这些感觉集中转化为
能把这些感觉集中转化为
01:46
into something ordered
that I could work through,
that I could work through,
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我能理解并克服的东西，
01:48
I decided to do what
felt most natural to me:
felt most natural to me:
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于是，我决定用我最熟悉的事物，
01:51
I wrote about it.
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—— 写作
01:53
It started out as a cathartic exercise.
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开始我把它当成是种宣泄，
01:55
I wrote a letter to my assaulter,
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我给施暴者写了封信，
01:58
humanizing him as "you,"
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在信里我称他为“你”，
02:00
to identify him as part
of the very community
of the very community
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把他看作团体的一部分，
02:03
that he had so violently
abused that night.
abused that night.
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那个被他暴力虐待的团体。
02:06
Stressing the tidal-wave
effect of his actions,
effect of his actions,
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为了强调他的行为所带来的连锁反应，
02:09
I wrote:
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我写到：
02:10
"Did you ever think
of the people in your life?
of the people in your life?
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“你考虑过你身边的人吗？
02:13
I don't know who the people
in your life are.
in your life are.
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我不清楚那些人到底是谁，
02:16
I don't know anything about you.
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我对你毫无了解，
02:18
But I do know this:
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但有一点我知道：
02:19
you did not just attack me that night.
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那天晚上你不仅仅只是袭击了我
02:22
I'm a daughter, I'm a friend,
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我是一名女儿，是朋友，
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I'm a sister, I'm a pupil,
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是姐姐，学生，
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I'm a cousin, I'm a niece,
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表姐，侄女，
02:26
I'm a neighbor;
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是邻居；
02:28
I'm the employee
who served everyone coffee
who served everyone coffee
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我是在地铁站的咖啡馆里
02:30
in the café under the railway.
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为每个人端上咖啡的服务生，
02:32
And all the people who form
these relations to me
these relations to me
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所有和我有所关联的人
02:34
make up my community.
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形成了我所在的团体。
02:36
And you assaulted
every single one of them.
every single one of them.
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你袭击了这个团体里的每一个人，
02:39
You violated the truth that I
will never cease to fight for,
will never cease to fight for,
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你破坏了我誓死保卫的真理，
02:42
and which all of these people represent:
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所有人所代表的真理：
02:44
that there are infinitely more
good people in the world than bad."
good people in the world than bad."
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“世界上的好人比坏人多很多。”
02:48
But, determined not to let
this one incident make me lose faith
this one incident make me lose faith
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但是，
我决定不让这次意外使我失去
我决定不让这次意外使我失去
02:51
in the solidarity in my community
or humanity as a whole,
or humanity as a whole,
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对我的团体或是人类的信念，
02:54
I recalled the 7/7 terrorist bombings
in July 2005 on London transport,
in July 2005 on London transport,
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我想起2005年7月7号
的伦敦恐袭爆炸案，
的伦敦恐袭爆炸案，
02:59
and how the mayor of London at the time,
and indeed my own parents,
and indeed my own parents,
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那时的伦敦市长，甚至我的父母，
03:02
had insisted that we all get back
on the tubes the next day,
on the tubes the next day,
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都坚持我们第二天仍然乘坐地铁，
03:05
so we wouldn't be defined or changed
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我们不会被那些恐怖分子所威慑，
03:07
by those that had made us feel unsafe.
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而做出改变。
03:09
I told my attacker,
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我对施暴者说：
03:11
"You've carried out your attack,
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“你对我进行了袭击，
03:13
but now I'm getting back on my tube.
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但是现在，我会继续我的生活。
03:16
My community will not feel we are unsafe
walking home after dark.
walking home after dark.
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我所在的团体
不会觉得走夜路回家不安全,
不会觉得走夜路回家不安全,
03:19
We will get on the last tubes home,
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我们搭乘最后一班地铁回家，
03:21
and we will walk up our streets alone,
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独自一人走在街道上，
03:23
because we will not ingrain
or submit to the idea
or submit to the idea
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因为我们不会把一种想法深植脑中，
03:25
that we are putting ourselves
in danger in doing so.
in danger in doing so.
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那就是这不安全。
03:28
We will continue
to come together, like an army,
to come together, like an army,
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当团体内的成员受到威胁的时候，
03:30
when any member
of our community is threatened.
of our community is threatened.
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我们将像一支军队一样，团结一致，
03:33
And this is a fight you will not win."
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而且，这场仗你不会赢。”
03:37
At the time of writing this letter --
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在写这封信的时候---
03:39
(Applause)
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（掌声）
03:40
Thank you.
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谢谢。
03:42
(Applause)
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（掌声）
03:44
At the time of writing this letter,
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在写这封信的时候，
我正在剑桥大学备考，
03:46
I was studying for my exams in Oxford,
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并在当地的学生报社工作，
03:48
and I was working
on the local student paper there.
on the local student paper there.
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尽管我非常幸运
有亲朋好友的支持，
有亲朋好友的支持，
03:50
Despite being lucky enough to have
friends and family supporting me,
friends and family supporting me,
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那段时间我都是独处。
03:54
it was an isolating time.
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我不认识有类似的经历的人；
03:55
I didn't know anyone
who'd been through this before;
who'd been through this before;
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至少我觉得我不认识。
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at least I didn't think I did.
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我看过新闻报道和统计数据，
我知道性侵有多么常见，
我知道性侵有多么常见，
03:59
I'd read news reports, statistics,
and knew how common sexual assault was,
and knew how common sexual assault was,
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但我却指不出一个
04:02
yet I couldn't actually name
a single person
a single person
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谈论过类似经历的人
04:04
that I'd heard speak out
about an experience of this kind before.
about an experience of this kind before.
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于是，出于自发性的，
04:07
So in a somewhat spontaneous decision,
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04:09
I decided that I would publish
my letter in the student paper,
my letter in the student paper,
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我决定要把我的信发表到学生报纸上，
04:12
hoping to reach out to others in Oxford
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寄希望于在牛津找到有
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that might have had a similar experience
and be feeling the same way.
and be feeling the same way.
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相似经历和相同感受的人。
04:18
At the end of the letter,
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信末尾处，
04:19
I asked others to write in
with their experiences
with their experiences
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我呼吁其他人也写下她们的经历，
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under the hashtag, "#NotGuilty,"
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并用 “#不羞愧” 当做话题标签，
04:23
to emphasize that survivors of assault
could express themselves
could express themselves
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用来强调那些遭受性侵的幸存者能够
不感到羞耻和愧疚地
表达她们的看法，
表达她们的看法，
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without feeling shame or guilt
about what happened to them --
about what happened to them --
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04:29
to show that we could all
stand up to sexual assault.
stand up to sexual assault.
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用来证明我们能站起来直面性侵。
04:32
What I never anticipated
is that almost overnight,
is that almost overnight,
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让我意想不到的是，仅仅过了一晚，
04:35
this published letter would go viral.
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这篇发表信像病毒般扩散。
04:37
Soon, we were receiving
hundreds of stories
hundreds of stories
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不久，我就收到数百个故事，
04:40
from men and women across the world,
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分别来自世界各地的男士女士，
04:41
which we began to publish
on a website I set up.
on a website I set up.
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我开始将这些故事发表在
自己建立的网站上，
自己建立的网站上，
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And the hashtag became a campaign.
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而这个话题标签开始成为一项运动。
04:47
There was an Australian mother in her 40s
who described how on an evening out,
who described how on an evening out,
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有一位澳大利亚的40多岁的母亲，
向我描述她是如何在一天晚上，
向我描述她是如何在一天晚上，
04:51
she was followed to the bathroom
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被人跟踪到了洗手间，
04:52
by a man who went
to repeatedly grab her crotch.
to repeatedly grab her crotch.
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后来那人不断对抓住她的胯部
04:55
There was a man in the Netherlands
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还有一个来自荷兰的男士，
04:56
who described how he was date-raped
on a visit to London
on a visit to London
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讲述他如何在伦敦与人
约会时被对方强暴，
约会时被对方强暴，
而当他报警时，
没有一个人把他的话当真。
没有一个人把他的话当真。
04:59
and wasn't taken seriously
by anyone he reported his case to.
by anyone he reported his case to.
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05:02
I had personal Facebook messages
from people in India and South America,
from people in India and South America,
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来自印度和南非的人
在Facebook上私信我，
在Facebook上私信我，
05:06
saying, how can we bring
the message of the campaign there?
the message of the campaign there?
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询问如何将这场运动带
到那里？
到那里？
05:08
One the first contributions we had
was from a woman called [Nikki],
was from a woman called [Nikki],
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首位贡献者是一位叫Nikki的女士，
05:11
who described growing up,
being molested my her own father.
being molested my her own father.
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她讲述在青少年期
被自己的生父骚扰。
被自己的生父骚扰。
05:14
And I had friends open up to me
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我的一些朋友也向我敞开心扉，
05:16
about experiences ranging
from those that happened last week
from those that happened last week
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诉说她们的故事，
从发生在几周前，
从发生在几周前，
05:19
to those that happened years ago,
that I'd had no idea about.
that I'd had no idea about.
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到几年前的事情，
而我却对此一无所知。
而我却对此一无所知。
05:23
And the more we started
to receive these messages,
to receive these messages,
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随着收到越来越多这样的故事，
05:25
the more we also started
to receive messages of hope --
to receive messages of hope --
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我们也收到愈来愈多的希望，
05:28
people feeling empowered
by this community of voices
by this community of voices
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人们因为集体抵抗性侵和
保护受害者的声音，
保护受害者的声音，
05:30
standing up to sexual assault
and victim-blaming.
and victim-blaming.
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而感觉到有能力。
05:33
One woman called Olivia,
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一位名叫Olivia的女士，
05:34
after describing how she was attacked
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她讲述了自己是如何
05:36
by someone she had trusted
and cared about for a long time,
and cared about for a long time,
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被自己信赖并关心多年的人所侵犯，
05:39
said, "I've read many
of the stories posted here,
of the stories posted here,
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她说：“我在这里看到很多人的故事，
05:41
and I feel hopeful that if so many
women can move forward,
women can move forward,
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如果有这么多人都能向前看，
05:44
then I can, too.
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那我也能。
05:45
I've been inspired by many,
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许多人的故事都激励着我，
05:47
and I hope I can be as strong
as them someday.
as them someday.
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我希望有一天能我也和她们一样强大。
05:49
I'm sure I will."
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我坚信我会的。”
05:51
People around the world began
tweeting under this hashtag,
tweeting under this hashtag,
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世界各地的人开始发推特，
参与这个话题标签，
参与这个话题标签，
05:53
and the letter was republished
and covered by the national press,
and covered by the national press,
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我那封信也发表了，
全国的新闻界也有所报道
全国的新闻界也有所报道
它被翻译成多种语言。
05:56
as well as being translated into several
other languages worldwide.
other languages worldwide.
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06:00
But something struck me
about the media attention
about the media attention
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但这封信吸引的媒体关注
06:03
that this letter was attracting.
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使我感到惊讶。
06:04
For something to be front-page news,
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对于刊登在首页的新闻来说，
06:06
given the word "news" itself,
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既然是“新”闻，
06:09
we can assume it must be something new
or something surprising.
or something surprising.
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可以认为这是新的或令人惊讶的事情，
06:13
And yet sexual assault
is not something new.
is not something new.
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而性侵并不是什么新鲜事。
06:15
Sexual assault, along with other
kinds of injustices,
kinds of injustices,
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性侵，同其他的不公平一样，
06:18
is reported in the media all the time.
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是媒体报道的热点。
06:21
But through the campaign,
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但这次运动中，
06:22
these injustices were framed
as not just news stories,
as not just news stories,
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这些不公正并不仅仅被宣扬为新鲜事，
06:25
they were firsthand experiences
that had affected real people,
that had affected real people,
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是对人们有切实影响的真实经历，
06:28
who were creating,
with the solidarity of others,
with the solidarity of others,
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那些人同其他人一起，创造出
06:30
what they needed
and had previously lacked:
and had previously lacked:
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他们以前需要却缺乏的东西：
06:32
a platform to speak out,
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一个表达心声的平台，
06:34
the reassurance they weren't alone
or to blame for what happened to them
or to blame for what happened to them
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能够消除不安，
或是责怪这种行为，
或是责怪这种行为，
06:37
and open discussions that would help
to reduce stigma around the issue.
to reduce stigma around the issue.
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以及能够帮助减轻耻辱的公开探讨。
06:41
The voices of those directly affected
were at the forefront of the story --
were at the forefront of the story --
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这些故事的讲述者都是直接受害者，
06:45
not the voices of journalists
or commentators on social media.
or commentators on social media.
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不是社交媒体上的记者或评论员们
06:48
And that's why the story was news.
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这也是为何这些故事确实是新闻
06:52
We live in an incredibly
interconnected world
interconnected world
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我们生活在一个相互关联的世界，
06:54
with the proliferation of social media,
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有社交媒体作为传播工具，
06:56
which is of course a fantastic resource
for igniting social change.
for igniting social change.
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而它也为点燃社会变革
提供了宝贵资源，
提供了宝贵资源，
06:59
But it's also made us
increasingly reactive,
increasingly reactive,
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但这也使人们变得多愁善感，
07:02
from the smallest annoyances
of, "Oh, my train's been delayed,"
of, "Oh, my train's been delayed,"
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从细小的烦心事，“哎，火车又晚点了”
07:06
to the greatest injustices of war,
genocides, terrorist attacks.
genocides, terrorist attacks.
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严重到战争、种族屠杀、
恐怖袭击所带来的不公，
恐怖袭击所带来的不公，
07:10
Our default response has become
to leap to react to any kind of grievance
to leap to react to any kind of grievance
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人们默认的表达悲愤的方式是通过
07:14
by tweeting, Facebooking, hastagging --
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在推特、脸书上发文
07:16
anything to show others
that we, too, have reacted.
that we, too, have reacted.
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任何能够让他人知道我们
作出反应的方式。
作出反应的方式。
07:19
The problem with reacting
in this manner en masse
in this manner en masse
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大众都采用这种方式做出回应
的问题是，
的问题是，
07:22
is it can sometimes mean
that we don't actually react at all,
that we don't actually react at all,
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即人们并不是真正的在作为，
07:25
not in the sense of actually
doing anything, anyway.
doing anything, anyway.
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没有做任何实质性的行动。
07:27
It might make ourselves feel better,
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这样做可能会使人们自我感觉良好，
07:29
like we've contributed
to a group mourning or outrage,
to a group mourning or outrage,
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就好像我们是默哀或愤慨的
团队中的一份子，
团队中的一份子，
07:31
but it doesn't actually change anything.
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但这改变不了任何事情
07:33
And what's more,
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甚至，
07:35
it can sometimes drown out the voices
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这种反应会淹没那些，
07:36
of those directly
affected by the injustice,
affected by the injustice,
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遭遇不公的直接受害者的声音，
07:39
whose needs must be heard.
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而这些人才是真正需要被倾听的对象。
07:41
Worrying, too, is the tendency
for some reactions to injustice
for some reactions to injustice
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还有令人担忧的是，
有些应对不公的行为
有些应对不公的行为
07:45
to build even more walls,
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可能会创造出更多隔阂，
07:47
being quick to point fingers
with the hope of providing easy solutions
with the hope of providing easy solutions
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人们迅速问责，
希望这样就能为这些复杂的问题
希望这样就能为这些复杂的问题
07:50
to complex problems.
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提供简单的解决方案。
07:52
One British tabloid,
on the publication of my letter,
on the publication of my letter,
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一家刊登我的信的英国小报，
07:54
branded a headline stating,
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是这样标题的：
07:56
"Oxford Student Launches
Online Campaign to Shame Attacker."
Online Campaign to Shame Attacker."
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“牛津学生在网上发起羞辱施暴者运动”
08:01
But the campaign never
meant to shame anyone.
meant to shame anyone.
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但这场运动从未打算羞辱任何人。
08:04
It meant to let people speak
and to make others listen.
and to make others listen.
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它的初衷是让人们说出故事，
并让其他人倾听，
并让其他人倾听，
08:08
Divisive Twitter trolls were quick
to create even more injustice,
to create even more injustice,
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分裂性言论很快在推特上扩散，
创造出更多不公正，
创造出更多不公正，
08:11
commenting on
my attacker's ethnicity or class
my attacker's ethnicity or class
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评论我的施暴者的民族或社会阶级
08:14
to push their own prejudiced agendas.
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从而宣扬他们自身的偏见主义
08:17
And some even accused me
of feigning the whole thing
of feigning the whole thing
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有人甚至指责我捏造了这整个事件，
08:20
to push, and I quote,
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引用他的话，
08:22
my "feminist agenda of man-hating."
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“为了实现女权主义对男性的仇恨之心。”
08:26
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
08:27
I know, right?
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很无稽，对吧，
08:29
As if I'm going to be like,
"Hey guys! Sorry I can't make it,
"Hey guys! Sorry I can't make it,
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就好像说“抱歉，伙计们，
我去不了了，
我去不了了，
08:31
I'm busy trying to hate
the entire male population
the entire male population
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因为当我30岁的时候，
08:34
by the time I'm 30."
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我正忙着仇视所有男人呢‘’
08:35
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
08:36
Now, I'm almost sure
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我几乎可以肯定，
08:39
that these people wouldn't say
the things the say in person.
the things the say in person.
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这些人如果当着我的面
肯定不会这样说，
肯定不会这样说，
08:42
But it's as if because they might
be behind a screen,
be behind a screen,
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但这似乎是因为他们躲在电脑屏幕后面，
08:44
in the comfort in their own home
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舒适的待在自己家里，
08:46
when on social media,
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在社交媒体上，
08:47
people forget that what
they're doing is a public act --
they're doing is a public act --
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他们会忘记自己的行为其实是公众行为，
08:50
that other people will be reading it
and be affected by it.
and be affected by it.
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会有其他人阅读他们的言论，
并因此受到影响。
并因此受到影响。
08:53
Returning to my analogy
of getting back on our trains,
of getting back on our trains,
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回到我说的那个地铁的比喻，
08:56
another main concern I have
about this noise that escalates
about this noise that escalates
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关于网络上那些对不公的反应，
08:59
from our online responses to injustice
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还有一个关键的担忧，
09:01
is that it can very easily slip
into portraying us as the affected party,
into portraying us as the affected party,
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这样做的结果容易使受害方，
09:04
which can lead to a sense of defeatism,
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产生一种失败感，
09:06
a kind of mental barrier to seeing
any opportunity for positivity or change
any opportunity for positivity or change
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一道屏障，导致受害者在遇害后，
09:10
after a negative situation.
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无法正视积极的变化，
09:13
A couple of months
before the campaign started
before the campaign started
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这次运动开始前几个月，
09:15
or any of this happened to me,
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在我遭遇这些事情之前，
09:16
I went to a TEDx event in Oxford,
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我参加了在牛津举办的TEDx活动，
09:18
and I saw Zelda la Grange speak,
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观看了赛尔达·拉·格兰吉的演讲，
09:20
the former private secretary
to Nelson Mandela.
to Nelson Mandela.
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他是纳尔逊·曼德拉的前任私人秘书。
09:22
One of the stories
she told really struck me.
she told really struck me.
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有一个故事对我的影响很大
09:25
She spoke of when
Mandela was taken to court
Mandela was taken to court
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在曼德拉委任对体育事务
进行调查之后，
进行调查之后，
09:27
by the South African Rugby Union
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南非橄榄球联盟，
09:29
after he commissioned
an inquiry into sports affairs.
an inquiry into sports affairs.
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将其告上法庭。
09:32
In the courtroom,
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在法庭上，
09:33
he went up to the South African
Rugby Union's lawyers,
Rugby Union's lawyers,
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曼德拉走向南非橄榄球联盟的律师，
09:36
shook them by the hand
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同他们握手，
09:37
and conversed with them,
each in their own language.
each in their own language.
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并用他们的语言进行交谈。
09:39
And Zelda wanted to protest,
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当时塞尔达想抗议，
09:41
saying they had no right to his respect
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她认为那些人对曼德拉造成的不公正，
09:43
after this injustice they had caused him.
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不值得受到曼德拉的尊敬。
09:45
He turned to her and said,
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曼德拉则告诉她说：
09:48
"You must never allow the enemy
to determine the grounds for battle."
to determine the grounds for battle."
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“永远不要让敌人来决定战场。”
09:53
At the time of hearing these words,
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当我听到这些话时，
09:55
I didn't really know why
they were so important,
they were so important,
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我并没有真正知道到它的重要性，
09:57
but I felt they were, and I wrote them
down in a notebook I had on me.
down in a notebook I had on me.
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但我感觉到了，
所以把它们记到了本子上
所以把它们记到了本子上
10:01
But I've thought about this line
a lot ever since.
a lot ever since.
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后来，这句话我思考了很久。
10:04
Revenge, or the expression of hatred
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复仇，或者是向那些对你施加不公的人
10:06
towards those who have done us injustice
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表达恨意，
10:08
may feel like a human instinct
in the face of wrong,
in the face of wrong,
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或许是人类面对不公正行为
所产生的直觉，
所产生的直觉，
10:11
but we need to break out of these cycles
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但我们需要打破这些常规，
10:13
if we are to hope to transform
negative events of injustice
negative events of injustice
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如果我们希望将不公带来的负面影响
10:16
into positive social change.
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转变为正面的社会变革的话。
10:18
To do otherwise
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如果我们继续
10:20
continues to let the enemy
determine the grounds for battle,
determine the grounds for battle,
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让敌人来决定战斗，
10:23
creates a binary,
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制造出一种二进制的状态，
10:24
where we who have suffered
become the affected,
become the affected,
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那些受害者变成影响者，
10:27
pitted against them, the perpetrators.
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与施暴者针锋相对。
10:30
And just like we got back on our tubes,
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正如我们选择继续回到地铁上一样，
10:32
we can't let our platforms
for interconnectivity and community
for interconnectivity and community
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我们不能允许人类相互关联的平台和社区
10:35
be the places that we settle for defeat.
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成为决斗的战场。
10:39
But I don't want to discourage
a social media response,
a social media response,
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但我并不想打击社交媒体的反应，
10:42
because I owe the development
of the #NotGuilty campaign
of the #NotGuilty campaign
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因为“不羞愧”这次运动几乎全部
10:45
almost entirely to social media.
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得益于社交网络。
10:46
But I do want to encourage
a more considered approach
a more considered approach
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但我想鼓励用更加深思熟虑的方法--
10:49
to the way we use it
to respond to injustice.
to respond to injustice.
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来应对社会不公正。
10:51
The start, I think,
is to ask ourselves two things.
is to ask ourselves two things.
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我想，首先，
我们应该自问两个问题。
我们应该自问两个问题。
10:54
Firstly: Why do I feel this injustice?
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第一：“我为什么感受到不公正？”
10:56
In my case, there were
several answers to this.
several answers to this.
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在我自己身上，
这个问题的答案有好几个。
这个问题的答案有好几个。
10:58
Someone had hurt me and those who I loved,
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有人伤害了我，而有些我爱的人，
11:01
under the assumption they
wouldn't have to be held to account
wouldn't have to be held to account
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认为肇事者对此没有责任，
11:04
or recognize the damage they had caused.
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或不知道对我造成的伤害。
11:06
Not only that, but thousands
of men and women suffer every day
of men and women suffer every day
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不仅如此，
成千上万的男女都遭受着性侵，
成千上万的男女都遭受着性侵，
11:08
from sexual abuse, often in silence,
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他们大多保持沉默，
11:10
yet it's still a problem we don't give
the same airtime to as other issues.
the same airtime to as other issues.
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而问题是对此事的关注度
比其他事件少。
比其他事件少。
11:14
It's still an issue many people
blame victims for.
blame victims for.
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至今仍有许多人指责受害者。
11:16
Next, ask yourself: How,
in recognizing these reasons,
in recognizing these reasons,
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其次，问你自己：
“当你认识到这些原因了，
“当你认识到这些原因了，
11:20
could I go about reversing them?
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怎样才能改变它们呢？”
11:22
With us, this was holding my attacker
to account -- and many others.
to account -- and many others.
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对于我来说，
是让我的施暴者承担起责任。
是让我的施暴者承担起责任。
11:25
It was calling them out
on the effect they had caused.
on the effect they had caused.
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让他们知道我们受到的伤害。
11:28
It was giving airtime
to the issue of sexual assault,
to the issue of sexual assault,
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是让媒体更多的关注性侵事件，
11:31
opening up discussions amongst friends,
amongst families, in the media
amongst families, in the media
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是打开亲朋好友之间的交流，
重建封闭太久的媒体通道，
11:34
that had been closed for too long,
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11:36
and stressing that victims
shouldn't feel to blame
shouldn't feel to blame
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是强调受害者不应为其所
遭受的伤害而受到责备。
11:38
for what happened to them.
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11:39
We might still have a long way to go
in solving this problem entirely.
in solving this problem entirely.
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完全解决这些问题或许还需要很长一段路
11:43
But in this way,
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但是，通过这种方式，
11:44
we can begin to use social media
as an active tool for social justice,
as an active tool for social justice,
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我们便能够开始把社交媒体
当成有效的工具，
当成有效的工具，
11:47
as a tool to educate,
to stimulate dialogues,
to stimulate dialogues,
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来应对社会不公正，教育大众，
鼓励对话，
鼓励对话，
11:49
to make those in positions
of authority aware of an issue
of authority aware of an issue
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让当权人士意识到这些问题，
11:52
by listening to those
directly affected by it.
directly affected by it.
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让他们倾听这些直接受害者的声音。
11:56
Because sometimes these questions
don't have easy answers.
don't have easy answers.
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因为有时这些问题并没有简单的回答。
12:00
In fact, they rarely do.
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实际上，几乎是没有。
12:02
But this doesn't mean we still
can't give them a considered response.
can't give them a considered response.
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但这并不意味着我们不能／做出考究的回应。
12:06
In situations where
you can't go about thinking
you can't go about thinking
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当你不知道该怎样做
12:08
how you'd reverse
this feeling of injustice,
this feeling of injustice,
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才能转变这种遭遇不公的境地时，
12:10
you can still think,
maybe not what you can do,
maybe not what you can do,
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与其纠结该做何事，
12:13
but what you can not do.
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不如想想不做哪些事情。
12:15
You can not build further walls
by fighting injustice with more prejudice,
by fighting injustice with more prejudice,
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你不能以偏见来对抗不公平，
12:19
more hatred.
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更多的仇恨。
12:20
You can not speak over those
directly affected by an injustice.
directly affected by an injustice.
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你可以不对那些直接受害者闲言碎语，
你可以不对不公平做回应，
第二天忘掉这件事，
第二天忘掉这件事，
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And you can not react to injustice,
only to forget about it the next day,
only to forget about it the next day,
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just because the rest
of Twitter has moved on.
of Twitter has moved on.
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因为推特已经把这件事忘掉。
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Sometimes not reacting
instantly is, ironically,
instantly is, ironically,
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讽刺的是，有时不立刻作出反应，
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the best immediate course
of action we can take.
of action we can take.
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反而是我们能够做到的最快的行动。
12:39
Because we might be angry, upset
and energized by injustice,
and energized by injustice,
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因为这些不公可能会让你愤怒、苦恼，
12:44
but let's consider our responses.
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但想想我们该怎么回应。
12:47
Let us hold people to account,
without descending into a culture
without descending into a culture
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让肇事者负起责任，
但同时不让我们的社会
但同时不让我们的社会
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that thrives off shaming
and injustice ourselves.
and injustice ourselves.
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堕落于羞耻施暴者，引起更多不公。
12:54
Let us remember that distinction,
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让我们谨记常被互联网用户遗忘的一点，
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so often forgotten by internet users,
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那就是批判和羞辱
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between criticism and insult.
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之间的区别。
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Let us not forget
to think before we speak,
to think before we speak,
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让我们别忘了三思而言，
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just because we might
have a screen in front of us.
have a screen in front of us.
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尽管我们有面前的屏幕保护着自己。
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And when we create noise on social media,
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当我们在社交网络上发声时，
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let it not drown out the needs
of those affected,
of those affected,
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不要淹没受害者的需求，
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but instead let it amplify their voices,
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而要扩散他们的声音，
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so the internet becomes a place
where you're not the exception
where you're not the exception
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从而让互联网成为一个就算说出自己的遭遇
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if you speak out about something
that has actually happened to you.
that has actually happened to you.
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也不会当成另类看待的地方。
13:18
All these considered
approaches to injustice
approaches to injustice
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所有这些对抗不公的方法，
13:20
evoke the very keystones
on which the internet was built:
on which the internet was built:
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唤起了互联网建立时的初衷，
13:24
to network, to have signal, to connect --
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那就是网络，标榜和连接--
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all these terms that imply
bringing people together,
bringing people together,
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这寓意着使人们团结，
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not pushing people apart.
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而不是疏远。
13:31
Because if you look up the word
"justice" in the dictionary,
"justice" in the dictionary,
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因为当你在字典里查“公正”一词时，
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before punishment,
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在惩罚，
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before administration of law
or judicial authority,
or judicial authority,
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法规或司法权威之前，
13:41
you get:
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你会看到：
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"The maintenance of what is right."
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“维护正义”
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And I think there are a few things
more "right" in this world
more "right" in this world
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我想地球上还是有几样“正义的”事物
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than bringing people together,
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超越联盟
13:51
than unions.
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使人们团结一致，
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And if we allow social media
to deliver that,
to deliver that,
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如果我们让社交媒体传播这一点，
13:55
then it can deliver a very powerful
form of justice, indeed.
form of justice, indeed.
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那它便能带来强大的公正体系。
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Thank you very much.
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谢谢！
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(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Ione Wells - Writer, activistUniversity student Ione Wells is the founder of the international #NotGuilty campaign against sexual violence and misdirected victim blaming.
Why you should listen
Ione Wells is a student at the University of Oxford in the UK, where she just started her third year reading for a degree in English Language and Literature, and a keen writer and journalist.
After being the victim of an assault in London in early 2015, she published a letter to her assaulter in a student newspaper, which went viral, attracting enormous attention and prompting the sharing of countless experiences by others around the world on social media.
That reaction prompted her to set up the international #NotGuilty campaign against sexual violence and misdirected victim-blaming, which has a website providing a platform for people to speak out. Since then, she has written about these issues for multiple publications, commented on radio and television, spoken at several festivals, hosted support groups and workshops for survivors of assault, and led workshops in schools.
She is the former editor of Oxford University’s student magazine, The Isis, and has an active interest in human rights, international relations, theatre, and wild swimming.
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